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Date someone with potential?

When you meet someone who you think is really great, would you be willing for them to get their life more stable? Perhaps they are in between jobs or recovering from a setback so they are not where you are exactly. Is dating someone potential naive or wise?

I ask because women can sometimes be accused of being too focused on someone’s success. Then if women date someone who is struggling, their judgment is question for dating “losers” or slackers. What is wrong with dating someone who has potential? If they seem to have ambition and plans to achieve their goals, can’t you be supportive?

What do you consider potential?

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

213 comments Add your comment

Hazel

October 31st, 2013
8:13 am

yes, of course. A potential person is doing something to get somewhere. Working at Target, getting a college degree and wanting to further the education is potential. This is an example. But yes, you have to ride to arrive as my husband would say

Button

October 31st, 2013
8:36 am

At this age, I wouldn’t be looking for potential, I’ll leave that for the youngins. He has to already ARRIVED!

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
8:54 am

Good morning folks,

Seven more days until my mountains trip. Whooop whoooop! :-)

Hazel

October 31st, 2013
8:56 am

lol @ Button . i got you..

Button

October 31st, 2013
9:07 am

SlimNu – mountain trip? where?

Hazel – ya heard meh! :lol:

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
9:08 am

Morning All!

I am on the fence on this one, but falling over on Button’s side. I have done the potential thing. I have stayed at home while my ex went to school, with the promise that when he got his degree, he would support me going back to school. I have refrained from taking classes when we didn’t have enough money for both of us to go, so he could continue. When I realized that it would never be my turn (because he wanted to keep me dependent), I went back to school and didn’t stop until I had my graduate degree. I have played secretary, lawyer, drill sergeant, helped him create and build his business, etc., etc. With the last man I dated, I helped him with his business as well.

And you know what? I am tired! I am at a stage in my life where I do not want to date a Build-A-Bear. You don’t have to be a millionaire, but I want you to have something legit going on where you can support yourself and me too if it comes down to that. That is what I offer and I expect the same in return.
Now, if y’all will excuse me, I am going to drink my coffee because obviously I need it, lol.

Button

October 31st, 2013
9:09 am

Hazel – it really irks me when I heard older ppl say so and so has great potenial. I get it that that person maybe in between jobs or what have you but to sit and wait on some 40ish person to get his/her stuff together is just exhusting. jmo

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
9:11 am

Button – Pigeon Forge…and we’re having a 70’s party while we’re there and my disco shoes got delivered yesterday. Only thing left to get is my afro wig, some gnarly stockings and some big arse earrings. ;-)

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
9:12 am

Mountains trip?

SlimNu?…if u go missing how are we gon act when u give us such short notice?

Who u going with anyway…New guy?

On topic:

Only females that catch my eye would be rich cougars…55+,fit,nice body,medium built,no kids in the house and that are ready to spoil their catch!

Can’t cheat with poor and thirsty folks living from pay check to pay check but they got inflated and over valued stuff. :lol:

Good morning MIA!

O/T..tried to watch the American series(so called world series..blech!) game and couldn’t last five pitches..too boring.

But Congrats to John Henry & Boston Red Sox!

Button

October 31st, 2013
9:12 am

MsAtl – in paragraph 1 was he your husband? if so, then I don’t look at it as the same as someone you’re dating.

Button

October 31st, 2013
9:15 am

SlimNu- I’ve heard that PF is a nice place to visit. Have fun!

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
9:16 am

MsAtl..u may need post marriage counseling!

…do u realize u are stuck on ur ex hubby?

Mentally…

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
9:17 am

Ex – Believe me, there are enough folks going that I do not need you as an emergency contact. We have a group of about 50 of us going. ;-)

Button – That’s the plan, thanks!

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
9:18 am

MsAtl?..but u also know that good D on the regular can quickly banish those ex thoughts! :lol:

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
9:19 am

Ok Slim.

just making sure u crossed all ts

Reio

October 31st, 2013
9:22 am

Morning all!

I guess I’ll have a different take on this than others, but then, maybe not. I don’t know. We’ll see.

Anyway, my first question to myself would be “Why would she want a date or boyfriend anyway?”
Given the fact that she is between jobs or struggling or in school….if I am where I want to be, or close to it, or already establishd, but she is not. My mentality would be to leave her alone and let her finish what she has started. Assuming she has started something already.
I know it’s true that this kind of relationship can be potentially long lasting(hell, they all are, potentially), but my gut instinct would be to leave her alone. Let her be. Perhaps, down the road, our paths will cross again, when she is more established and has achieved more of her goals. If so, then I would be more inclined to ask her out or talk to her to see where her head is at. But that’s just me.

And let’s just say that I do pursue her, and at some point, she starts to lose focus on her future, and stops striving to get ahead. Then what? What happens now? After we’ve been together for a while. What should I do? Encourage her? Yes. Support her? Yes. But for how long? And why should I have to encourage her anyway? That would be a red flag to me, to hit the road. After wasting her time and mine waiting, hoping, praying, that she will continue striving and be successful. Too many unanswered questions for my taste.
Ultimately, I would want to know what her goals were, but, more importantly, what are her concrete plans for reaching those goals? If she seems to have these things in order, I see no reason to not give her a chance.

The older they are, the less likely that I would give them a chance. At my age, one would have to have already achieved. You need to be set. Independent. Established. If not? Sorry. Bye.

The puzzy has to be good too! For me to wait. Fo Sho!!

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
9:23 am

Exiled- No I am not stuck on ex-hubby. The questions and scenarios lend themselves to you pulling from your history and experiences. Your history and experiences shape what you will and will not do in the future. That is not being stuck on him.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
9:34 am

Potential…..all of us had it I would imagine, at some point….eons ago. If you’re still “walking in your potential” past 30, it ain’t potential no mo! Potential moves to developing and development on to becoming a success or something like it…lol I say something like it because IMO, “success” is not necessarily or fully tied to money or some grand position. IMO, successfull is all incompassing.

Naw, I can’t do “potential” nothing at this age. Don’t misunderstand me, I understand sometimes things happen, well into living. Heck I can deal with that over and above you still tryna get your rap career off the ground at 40….IJS And for adversity, that same “potential” you had years ago should have developed into something that now teaches or taught you how to deal. If you formed a good foundation while in your potential, you’ll no doubt come out more than a conqueror. But yeah, and again, miss me with that “got potential” or walking in your potential, and you now have grandkids. That ship done sailed. LOLOLOL Heck, my kid, my nieces and nephews, great nieces and nephews all have potential.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
9:37 am

I’m echoing Diva’s sentiments though on women being danged if they do or danged if they don’t Won’t stand by a bum she thinks she’s better, hangs in there with a bum and she’s a dummy.

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
9:38 am

GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Dating someone with potential is dependent on what type of potential they have and what they are currently doing to actually achieve that potential. If you are 35 and have had the potential to be a rapper since you were 18 and still haven’t had a demo or a mixed tape released or played on the radio, then it’s time to MOVE ON!!!

Some people use having potential as an excuse for currently doing absolutely NOTHING with their life. Honestly I believe that having potential at 20 is different than having potential at 30 and 40. When you start climbing the age ladder a person should be more established or at least grounded into a worthwhile career.

We are all a work in progress, however some of us progress a little better than others due to our determination and motivation to just do and be better in life. I’m absolutely NOT interested in dating a BUM (yes they have potential too), heck everyone has potential if the truth be told. I prefer someone who has already realized their potential and are working hard to accomplish another success in their lives. :-)

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
9:39 am

“At my age, one would have to have already achieved. You need to be set. Independent. Established. If not? Sorry. Bye.”

-Reio We are seeing eye to eye today!!! :-D

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
9:42 am

I do agree though, that we’re ever evolving and getting better. Still, that’s past “potential.”

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
9:45 am

“What is wrong with dating someone who has potential?” – I see nothing wrong with it. However, what’s important is long it will be before they reach their full potential and what their lofty goals might be. I’m in no position to be with someone completely starting over and struggling. I would hope he had some merit to his worth when I come into the picture.

Like Button said, leave build-a-bear project to the youngins.

Good morning. Uggh, woke up thinking it was Friday.

Reio

October 31st, 2013
9:45 am

Miss Moni – “-Reio We are seeing eye to eye today!!! ”

Don’t we see eye to eye everyday?

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
9:48 am

Leggs- No, it’s Thursday Eve. Disappointing, isn’t it?

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
9:49 am

Duh! Friday Eve

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
9:49 am

-Reio Actually, for the most part I suppose we do. . .

“Leave Build-A-Bear projects to the youngins.”

-Button/Leggs That is FUNNY to me, LOL & very TRUE!!!

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
9:59 am

Cel..u setting ur bar too low…

example:

he had a business,and it went bust and now he is working on his next project…the dude is a serial entrepeaneaur.
Probably dude is shacking with a friend because he lost his house that he had put up as collateral to borrow and fund his last move…

sharp dude but his current business has gone under.

would ya..or ould ya not?

see all u ladies focused on where he stay at and his job etc….errthing is just so shallow and vane for u folks.

u just need a ready man with a good j o b and nice car and got his own crib blah blah blah…every fool would want that.

But uall the same folks that say we should care bout a woman’s insides not the outside…

?????????

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
9:59 am

Good morning everyone! I’m over dating potential. If you have 3 out of 5 things together, or you got things established for the most part, then I can rock with you until you reach your goals.

But if you are still in your mom’s house, on your first year of a four year degree, never had a real job….I really don’t see how you are even in a position to date.

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
9:59 am

“Leave Build-A-Bear projects to the youngins”

But didn’t even Pinnochio turn into a real boy at some point? :lol:

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:03 am

Celisea/SlimNu ~ I watched LHH and although I have a lot to say about those characters, I will say that I have a huge amount of disgust for Peter Gunn (?). I disgusted more with him than I was with rat-face StevieJ. To do what he’s doing on national television is despicable! Oh, and Amina Butterfly is a straight stupid trick! For her to think that tattoo means she’s “Mrs” is beyond my comprehension. Does being stupid ever stop?

Reio ~ that man needs prayer!

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:06 am

Happy Halloween Gang!!!

Looks like we are all on the same page with this “potential” thing. If you’re just starting out, cool. Once you get older, all I see is WASTED potential. And yeah Diva, us women are damed if we do & damned if we don’t so may as well do what we damn well please!!LOL!!!

On most topics such as this I think we should put a disclaimer out from the start that we are not talking about folks that have gotten laid off or caught up in the economic crisis. Those are exceptions even though they are happening to more and more people. But to me it just derails the discussion somewhat.

Getting outta here early today! It’s been a horrible week traffic-wise and I am not getting caught up in it this afternoon!!

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
10:08 am

I’ve been with lawyers, doctors, politicians, leaders of industry, and hood rats. They were all treated equally. My dating philosophy is very simplistic. I’ve always dated women that made me happy. I never gave a dayum about their potential, goals, what they had or didn’t have. Never put that much thought into it. If I enjoyed their company, we hung out.

Reio

October 31st, 2013
10:09 am

“But if you are still in your mom’s house, on your first year of a four year degree, never had a real job….I really don’t see how you are even in a position to date.”

This is how I felt years ago. While in college, I was reluctant to ask women out, for fear that they would look down on me for not having much, or not having done much. It wasn’t a big concern or fear on my part, cause I did date a bit while in school. But I always felt that I was doing her a disservice, because my funds were limited and I had not established myself yet. Even if she were likewise, in college and struggling as well.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:10 am

kimmie ~ and it will be nasty going home this evening. Last year was a nightmare.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:10 am

Exiled take note:

Us women are damed if we do & damned if we don’t so may as well do what we damn well please!!LOL!!!

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:11 am

‘But I always felt that I was doing her a disservice, because my funds were limited and I had not established myself yet. Even if she were likewise, in college and struggling as well.”

That’s a crazy statement, but because you are the man that you are I understand. You have to be able to provide for your woman/gf/possible wife.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:11 am

MMeello – I said life happens and sometimes we encounter adversity. I said nothing about a dude that’s not resilient, don’t have a back up plan, or can’t get his hustle on. I expect that if his business is a bust, he’s already on to his next hustle. I

don’t mean any harm, but it’s beyond me how you always get the negative or take a posts totally left. I didn’t say or imply any of what you wrote. You think we’re dummies don’t you? That’s the motherland rearing? You think we carry dudes and lay under el lamos, can’t recognize when to move or better yet forego? I told you, you think soooo low of us women. But, it’s all good.

I say that with blog love :mrgreen: Lub you still….muah!

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
10:13 am

Leggs – Stupid was here before the dinosaurs and will remain after we are all gone. lol That Amina chick is the reason things of that nature continue to carry on…the whole mental competition of trying to take someone’s man.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:13 am

Leggs – Imma take a pass on L&HH, NY….too much foolishness

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
10:14 am

morning….

dang, for the most part, I kinda agree with y’all ladies……as far as dealing with potentials; however, if depends what my motives are; if I’m seriously looking to settle down, then yes, I would want her to bring more than just utensils to the table; but If I’m seeking to smash, then I’on care what she got going on…..

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:14 am

I think we should put a disclaimer out from the start that we are not talking about folks that have gotten laid off or caught up in the economic crisis. Those are exceptions even though they are happening to more and more people

Cosign…..Exactly…..and Thanks!! That’s why I said I can deal with unforeseen events that might sidetrack a person….it happens to us all

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
10:14 am

-Slim EXACTLY!!! :-)

-Ex “All you ladies” are NOT focused on the same thing. Looks can be very deceiving, which is why if people just take some time to actually get to know a person they’ll be able to see for themselves.

Real adults plan for the long haul and not just stunt for the here and now:
-Own your car flat out, versus financing a car for 7 years and paying way more interest than you should. OR trading in your almost paid off car for a new car that you can’t afford.
-Invest into a 401K versus getting the NEW pair of Jordans EVERY time they come out.
-Invest into buying your own house/condo versus RENTING somebody else’s house forever.
-Make sure your kids have a college fund.
-Have life insurance so your family isn’t running around, stressed out, taking up collections to bury you when you kick the bucket.

Real mature grown adults, make sure that keeping their life in order is priority #1!

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:18 am

Celisea ~ I might have to do the same. Peter Gunn is disgusting. He’s a foolish man, a greedy man, a selfish man, an imbecile!

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
10:22 am

damned if and damned if?

Kimmie..I think that saying is more of a comfortable fall back on for some women.
I dont think there are guarantees as to how it will turn out ofr two wmen who chose two different paths..a project and an established person.

Its just a choice.

Uall women judge each other more harshly than men judge u.

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
10:23 am

2C- “I would want her to bring more than just utensils to the table;” Lol. that is a very good way to put it!

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
10:26 am

Us women are damed if we do & damned if we don’t so may as well do what we damn well please!!LOL!!!

:lol: :lol:

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:28 am

Cel – You’re welcome, that card seems to get played every time we have a topic like this and somehow that’s suppose to trump and excuse everything!

Moni – Girl, you post said it all – being a mature adult includes planning for a rainy day!

They had a discussion that kinda relates to this on the Bert Show the other day. They were talking about stepping out and taking a chance on a dream even though it might be impractical. They were basically encouraging younger folks to step out on faith and go on and go hiking in India for 3 months or pursue that music career before life’s responsibilities set in and you regret you didn’t at least try. They had folks that called in that went the practical route and are now accountants or teachers or whatever but had a small window when they were younger to pursue a passion and regret now that they didn’t. Cause once you get older and have kids and responsibilities, folks don’t really want to hear about your potential rap career or dream to be a dancer. Bills gotta get paid and kids gotta eat!

Hazel

October 31st, 2013
10:31 am

@Button – Yes, the potential applies to only a certain age group. after that.. I don’t know. The pickings get slimmer and slimmer. For a guy, 40 something…u better have arrived a while back, like u said

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
10:33 am

Cel…damn to ur posts!!

so i ask u a question,u see it as an accusation i laid on u?

I cannot comprehend the thinking…and conclusions u make..but any hoo..its ur brain.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:37 am

Uall women judge each other more harshly than men judge u.

Exiled – That may be true, and even more than that, alot of us ladies judge ourselves harshly, I know I do. Bottom line, all that potential mess goes out the window when bills gotta get paid and you hungry.

I put away childish things when I grew up. I’m just at a point where I am done with the struggling. I’m ready to enjoy the fruits of my hardworking labor. I think alot of ladies here feel that way. And that serial entrepreneur you exampled will be just fine, someone will want him. All some men need is a pulse, they will always be in demand. If prison and homeless dudes get play, he certainly will.

Button

October 31st, 2013
10:37 am

damn to you for lumping uall women together!

Button

October 31st, 2013
10:41 am

btw who are you to lump all women together? do know all women? to lump all women together is foolish on all fronts!

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:42 am

MMeello – You didn’t as a question, you said Cel..u setting ur bar too low…

And your opinion be damned….if it’s like this Cel…damn to ur posts!!

You NEVER really comment and engage on the topic, you sort of critique and hang on others…esp the women. Like you told MsAtl she’s hung up on her ex. Well, in order for folks to get into the meat of a topic, they have to be open, if you will, to a certain degree on past or even current experiences. But if you gonna come on and say you’re aiming too low, too easy, blah blah blah, well, I for one won’t be speaking…not too much on the topic anyway. And we can’t do like you and keep it to the the mumbo jumbo stuff of always smashing or getting laid stuff. Shoot, we gon get ragged. LOLOL

No blog fight….me lubs you….even if you did just cut me.

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
10:43 am

Right like Celisea said if they are a victim of the current economy (recent lay off, etc.) that is completely different and I can understand that. That’s an extenuating circumstance that is worthy of consideration. We can talk (be platonic friends) until you get your situation right.

Long term, I am looking for a man who can protect and provide. If you can’t protect and provide (have a job, pay your own bills, support yourself, etc), I really feel like you are just looking to smash because you have nothing really to offer me but that.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:44 am

Shoot, we can keep it to gummie bears and shopping…lolol

Reio

October 31st, 2013
10:47 am

While it’s true that love/interest has no limits. If one is in love with someone, attracted to someone, or merely interested in someone, you can’t help it. I understand that. But be advised, that if this individual is not striving for better, only trouble awaits.

I told my daughter’s, that they should only date guys that were, at or above, their level in life. Doing this will automatically eliminate certain problems down the road. The older girl didn’t always take daddy’s advice and was burned a time or two as a result.

If he doesn’t care enough about himself to strive to make his life better, how can he truly give a damn about you? This is the question I told them to ask themselves in deciding whom to date or not.

yall leave Ex alone. We are the only two that’s always right round here anyway. So hush. Hehehehehe…

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
10:47 am

ok..if u in defensive mode, i get it.

@Cel…

ok Kimmie..i respect ur choice…

there are a lot of hurting women in here….damn! :lol:

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:47 am

Button – He always says “uall women” but later will try to say “some”. He never says “some”!!

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:50 am

Reio ~ I told my daughter the same thing. At or above whatever level she may be…At or above, no underlings.

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
10:50 am

When you meet someone who you think is really great, would you be willing for them to get their life more stable?

Maybe when I was younger and was trying to be m ore stable myself. At this stage in my life I don’t think so. I’ve been in several relationships like this and it NEVER worked….they seemed to be in an everlasting, perpetual cycle of “trying to get it together”. It gets old after a while.

Perhaps they are in between jobs or recovering from a setback so they are not where you are exactly. Is dating someone potential naive or wise

I understand that but I’m trying to carry anyone…hell my own load is enough. When your ci.rcumstances have changed then, maybe..who knows. I guess it depends on the person and the situation but for ME…no can do.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:51 am

Who in here is hurting? Anyone needs a doctor, medicine, a glass of wine…what?

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:52 am

MMeello – And then you laid out a scenario out of a book cause no way I’m slumming nor do the “low hanging fruit.” The seriel entrepreneur, now shaking with a dude friend cause he lost his home and that all we (us women) need or aim for is a dude with a job and a care….and I believe you said any fool wants this???

You don’t get me? I don’t get how came up with that scenario/example. ‘Splain that to me. Maybe I’m misunderstanding your brain.

And after all that, only you get to smooch/church hug….c’mere and give me a hug and cut it out

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
10:53 am

Exiled – I don’t think alot of us women are hurting, just not willing to take on any problems or projects at the moment.

Like I said before though, don’t worry about your “potential at 40+” brothers out here. Somebody will dust them off and take them in. Just won’t be none of the ladies in here! :lol:

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
10:53 am

I am looking for a man who can protect and provide. If you can’t protect and provide (have a job, pay your own bills, support yourself, etc), I really feel like you are just looking to smash because you have nothing really to offer me but that.

Church!!

SassaFrass putting some $$ in the collection plate..

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:53 am

shacking and car….not shaking and care

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
10:55 am

Celisea- Thanks. That is exactly my point. I’m sorry, I do not have a lot of dating experience. If I cannot draw on my past experiences, then I do not have much to contribute. Thus, I will be discussing shopping and gummi bears with you. But can a sista at least have some Sour Patch Kids?

Exiled- “there are a lot of hurting women in here….damn!” GRRRR! Why is it always about hurting? I felt some kind of way when a man said I seemed like a good woman and asked me why I was single, I must be wounded. Well no I am not wounded; I am waiting. Waiting for the right man for me; waiting for a man who knows what he wants and values it when he gets it; waiting for a man who is worthy of me because I am not thrift store material. I come correct and I expect the same. I am not out to have a string of exes or a string of sex partners. Men need to understand that being single is not a reason to pathologize women. And ummm, the man asking was obviously single too, so what was wrong with him???

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:55 am

I don’t think alot of us women are hurting, just not willing to take on any problems or projects at the moment.

Nor willing to allow anyone to project that we don’t know up from down, right from left, blah blah blah

:mrgreen:

daddy swiss

October 31st, 2013
10:56 am

“Who in here is hurting? Anyone needs a doctor, medicine, a glass of wine…what?”

Leggs — I could use some whiskey and a chiropractor, please & thank you. :)

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
10:56 am

“I put away childish things when I grew up. I’m just at a point where I am done with the struggling. I’m ready to enjoy the fruits of my hardworking labor.”

-Kimmie Amen and amen again!!!

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
10:57 am

Leggs- Btw, I will take that glass of wine because this case is kicking my butt!

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
10:57 am

MsAtl – You got it….Sour Patch Kids

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
10:57 am

Thanks, kimmie. Many feel that if a woman isn’t dating on the regular, she’s hurting and hardup! Not sure why people think it’s hard or unrealistic that a woman can enjoy her time alone and still enjoy life. Sure, companionship is great, but it’s not the end of all things if you don’t have it. AND, not all women who spend their time alone turn into cat ladies.

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
10:57 am

:lol: @ daddy swiss.

Sorry about your back :-(

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
10:59 am

-SassyMe I too am putting some $$ in the collection on that one. :-)

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
10:59 am

Cel.. i read a lot business stuff…and the seal entrep i put as an example is typical of folks in business,especially those in the 30-45 age range. Some even lodge in mum and dad basement after things get bust but they soon come up with a plan..stuff like that.

I could cite many individual examples…i was presenting low hanging stuff…these are upstanding dudes….and i presented it hoping to hear grown folks take and discsussion….

and it went left……

smdh

Button

October 31st, 2013
11:00 am

Kimmie – I know, he grates my nerve with that “uall women” mess.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:03 am

MsAtl – This is a dating and relationships blog. Unless the topic is related to what you are going thru at the moment, we all are drawing on past experiences. Heck, since I’m married pretty much everything I talk about I draw on past experiences. I have not forgotten what it’s like being single, just been married for 2 years. So continue to share, everyone’s experiences are interesting and valuable in their own ways!

daddy swiss

October 31st, 2013
11:05 am

Just saw a headline on the front page of ajc.com that read: “Allen Iverson retires from basketball.”

Um… Didn’t that happen about 5 years ago?

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:05 am

MMeello – I hear ya. But again, you said I’m aiming too low. Well, if you think I am, what are your suggestions for doing better. BTW, I do have a dude that does pretty well. Still, I’d like to hear what you have to offer, not so much of how you interpret what’s written on the screen. Cause I didn’t say nothing close to what you wrote.

Okay….go….whatcha got? And we all know the blog only have upstanding, faithful, never cheat, never stray, banked up men :mrgreen:

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
11:06 am

iwas not presenting low hanging stuff..

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:07 am

To piggy back Kimmie’s 11:03, I think given we are all past ahem, a certain age, most anyway that as it relates to “misadventures”, mistakes, woulda coulda shouldas, that’s gonna be past experience. I wouldn’t think most on here are still tripping over misadventures type mistakes.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:08 am

So, that leaves us reminiscing a lot on the past.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:09 am

MMeello – We guud….

We guud, right?

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:09 am

Exiled – And for every one of those upstanding dudes living in the basement temporarily, there are about 3 scrubs living in the basement cause they can’t do any better. And are those upstanding dudes taking on a wife and kids while they are living in that basement? Probably not. I’ve been around upstanding folks like that, working thru a temporary setback, and the last thing on their minds is dating. They are driven and focused.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
11:10 am

daddy swiss ~ I’m going to give you WD’s favorite drink – Marker’s Mark. Chiropractor. Umm, go next door and borrow a pint-sized kid. If you have to drive to your nearest neighbor, ask your wife to retrieve the kid. :wink:

Ms.Atl ~ breathe baby, breathe. Here’s a glass of Reisling.

Miss Moni

October 31st, 2013
11:11 am

-Swiss LOL, he officially retired again last night!!!

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
11:11 am

Cel..see that was rethorical..not necessarily saying U are looking for this kinda man NOW..

u took it personal….

most do…no wonder the hate…..

whatcha i got? what i got, my boo likes it
I am sure same with u right? :lol:

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
11:14 am

Now I want some gummi bears. Thanks MsAtl and Celisea.

OAN: I’m hurt, that the first person who saw me walk in the building thought I was Jem the cartoon. I’m also a little pensive because today is the 3rd anniversary of my best friend’s death. I was crying a little last night. I’ve gotten used to not speaking to her but the concept that she is just not in this world every once in awhile is just overwhelming to me….

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
11:14 am

No blog fight….me lubs you….even if you did just cut me.

I see the lessons are paying off; keep it up……..

btw….when um gon get paid?

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:14 am

Okay MMeello. I gotcha. Yup, it’s all good :)

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
11:16 am

~Miss Moni, YSIC got down with that one.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:19 am

2Can – I thought you volunteered your services. If I’m mistaken, please by all mean, state your price :)

Also, only MMelloo get “lubs” from me….and a church hug :)

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
11:21 am

@Kimmie..u thinking tooo too hard! @ ur 11:09..

I presented Cel a scenario,which any of u could have taken up to agree or not agree….if as dude like this wanted u,wld u want him back? Thats all..

I dont think any lady here wld start looking at ur scenario to compare this or that yada yada…

Its was simple..is he attrative to u or is he not..very simple….

I dint need a lecture on social science on a very simple issue.

I dont like fat women….there are fat women with husbands out there but thats not me…

:lol:

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
11:22 am

Voluteer? hunh? gal, all the work I’ve got invested in you……shiiid, you oughta be willing to shoot me some’n…..

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:24 am

2Can – Boy stop….lol You took me on as a project. Name your price (within reason)

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
11:30 am

Celie….know what, I’mma take this one for the team; if the end result makes you a better person, then hey, I’m good……I’mma get my just reward… “in as much as [I] have done unto the least one of these…..”

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:31 am

Exiled – No I’m not thinking too hard, I’m speaking from experience. We are just assuming those type of guys are open to a serious relationship, but it was my experience that they were not. In my younger days, I was willing to work with just that type of guy because I was able to distinguish him from your everyday lowlife. But dudes like that that are truly driven are focused on one thing – their business or whatever it is they are working on. To go into a situation like that you have to be willing to ALWAYS come second. While I respect that focus, that’s not what most are looking for in a relationship with a man. If you are just looking to smash every now and then, fine. Anything else, it’s not gonna happen till he gets on his feet and that could take awhile.

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
11:31 am

O/T If anyone is interested in the symphony and Cirque du soleil, they have a joint performance at the end of November. I’ve been before when they were at the Verizon Amphitheater…is a good date idea for those that like that sort of thing.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:33 am

Exiled – Or to make it simple, if I were single, no I would not be attracted. I would stay single first. Hope never to be that desperate.

Robert

October 31st, 2013
11:34 am

“What do you consider potential”

I am looking to date someone who is honest, sincere, trustworthy and reliable. If she can meet those requirements we have the “potential” to have a great relationship. It does not matter where she lives, how much money she makes or what kind of job she has. The only thing that matters is we share the same goals to have a successful relationship.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:38 am

know what, I’mma take this one for the team

Look atchu working your brown majic on every side. All humble and stuff. Alright now

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:38 am

I’m at home today…and tomorrow :)

SlimNu

October 31st, 2013
11:40 am

Leggs – I bought a big arse bottle of wine last night :oops:

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
11:40 am

YSIC ~ your friend is right there in your heart. Sorry for your pain.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
11:42 am

Enter your comments here

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
11:43 am

SlimNu ~ I bought 3 bottles. Drank half of one and the other 2 will be for Scandal guests this evening. Friends with all my neighbors and we house hop every Thursday taking turns watching Scandal in our PJs at each other homes.

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
11:52 am

abc

October 31st, 2013
11:52 am

It’s a chick topic… men don’t consider a woman’s ability to provide all that much.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:53 am

Leggs that sounds like fun! I was telling a friend I while some of the Scandal watch parties at different venues around the city sound like fun, I would have to forgo the drinking for the drive home.

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
11:54 am

damn blog! 3 posts eaten!

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
11:55 am

By the time I met M, I’d been through enough bllsht in relationships and with guys that had potential that I was over that. I consciously got off that ride.

With that being said, I know that there were several women that passed up on M because although he had a stable job, with a solid portfolio, had no kids, he lived with his parents. And h#ll, I’m glad they did pass on him.

At any rate, when I met M, the potential that I was looking for was not in his earning power or the station he would reach in life, it was about his potential to be the man that I needed him to be. Fortunately, we were both in a place that we could focus on the relationship because the finance/potential peace was in an okay place.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
11:56 am

abc – Yeah until some of you men come on complaining about the money they are putting out for dates or when she’s asking them for money to cover her bills……….

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
11:58 am

Men look for potential – just not as a provider UNLESS they have financial issues themselves.

But men who are financial stable look for women with the potential to be good partners, good wives, good mothers, good household managers…that are not crazy, insecure, hostile, nagging and so on.

abc

October 31st, 2013
11:59 am

If a man can’t pay for a date, he shouldn’t be on a date. If a woman can’t pay her bills, it shows (to me) a lack of personal responsibility, and I wouldn’t date her based on that. Why did you buy something you can’t pay for?

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
12:01 pm

kimmie ~ I thought about going out to one of the watch parties, but it’s too loud and too late. Going door to door wrapped in our blankets feels good. There are 5 of us, then we sit back for another 30 mins talking about stuff. Last week one guy opened his door and was startled by our loud laughter. He said “what, all of you are out here this time of night in PJ’s?” We started laughing again…we all likkered up!

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
12:05 pm

SCool – Many know how to scope out and distinguish the scrubs still living at home cause they have to versus men like M. Heck, I knew a guy that before he married, graduated Ivy League and was making major bank for a consulting firm that lived with his dad & lil sister. They lost their mom many years before. His dad was some top executive himself and lil sis was in grad school. When my friend did marry, he was able to give his wife a nice rock and put a huge down payment on a gorgeous house in a gated community.

Gotta know how to tell the difference…….

Reio

October 31st, 2013
12:05 pm

“It’s a chick topic… men don’t consider a woman’s ability to provide all that much.”

I agree with this. If a man has only the “in between sheets mentality”, he wouldn’t consider anything else. Long as she is fine and sexy.

I also agree with Kimmie. The only problem is most guys tend to get weary of “…….putting out for dates or when she’s asking them for money to cover her bills……….” after the puzzy gets old.
Or, he has tapped it a few times, and is ready to move on. It’s true, sadly. Not meaning to cause a problem with this observation. Just telling it like it is.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
12:06 pm

abc – I rest my case! :)

abc

October 31st, 2013
12:07 pm

It’s all about being discerning, vs. being judgemental based on superficial things, isn’t it?

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
12:09 pm

kimmie your 12:05 and 11:56 are on point!

Reio

October 31st, 2013
12:10 pm

“……this time of night in PJ’s?” We started laughing again…we all likkered up!”

Leggs, you was drunk?

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
12:10 pm

Reio – I don’t think your observation is a problem at all. Ability to provide – for one’s self and for others – is a consideration if either gender wants something serious. If you are not serious, just looking to smash, who cares?

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
12:11 pm

I have to admit that I had to come to a place of maturity in managing finances. I had to realize that shopping as an extracurricular or for entertainment purposes is some bllsht. Going out and spending money just because I have it (or think I do)?!? Just to keep up with other folks?!? What?!? #WhereDayDoDatAt?!?!? (Answer – all over and especially in The A.)

Although I never was one to not pay a bill to do something frivolous, I did make some bad money decisions that I had to pay dearly for. #ToughLessonLearned

abc

October 31st, 2013
12:12 pm

While physical compatibility is important, I’d say that when I was looking, what appealed to me the most is a woman that was smart, engaging, happy, relaxed, unencumbered, responsible. Nobody wants the opposite of those things.

Not so much WHAT she was, but rather WHO she was.

kimmie

October 31st, 2013
12:16 pm

Yes – Thanks! :)

And with that, gang, I’m out.

Please be safe tonight!

And be easy & have fun!

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
12:16 pm

I still spend money frivolously…….

oh well……just go make some mo’

Reio

October 31st, 2013
12:17 pm

abc – For me the overriding factor was intelligence. I figured that if she was smart, I could deal with many other things. I was wrong, of course. But being smart seemed to help when trying to reason with most of them (women) though.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
12:17 pm

Reio ~ not drunk, just a little “lifted.” No stumbling back our respective homes.

Reio

October 31st, 2013
12:19 pm

Leggs – Oh, ok.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
12:20 pm

Well…for sure, I do some have some funds set aside for discretionary spending. But I’m not a person to always be in the malls buying clothes, purses, shoes.

I prefer to spend money on experiences over things. However, I do buy things…just not as often.

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
12:21 pm

“… men don’t consider a woman’s ability to provide all that much.” That was my initial point. I don’t care what she got, because I got both of us. If I’m getting serious with her, I’m more concerned with her morality and character than financial wherewithal. Ironically, more often than not, one begets the other.

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
12:25 pm

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
12:27 pm

MrsSC- Your M was living at home, but as you note, had himself together. Some men are living at home to be living at home so mommy can take care of them. You took the time to find out why he was living at home. I wonder how many of those women that passed up a man because he was living with his parents would go out with a man who is living with his wife. As your situation shows, it is not a one-size-fits-all; you have to look at the circumstances.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
12:29 pm

“I wonder how many of those women that passed up a man because he was living with his parents would go out with a man who is living with his wife.”

You just said a mouthFULL right there.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
12:37 pm

“I wonder how many of those women that passed up a man because he was living with his parents would go out with a man who is living with his wife.” – DING, DING, DING!

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
12:44 pm

You said that, MsAtl.

Exiled

October 31st, 2013
12:51 pm

MsAtl.. :lol: 12:27…the ex comes up again.

Let’s pile on:

to use Reio’s words,ur ex was a rabid infested dog,gutter pig of a man who smelt like dog poop,heartless man with a heart inscribed ‘corruption’ on it,worthless piece of a human being! :lol:

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
12:54 pm

Exiled- This has nothing to do with the ex; it is a statement regarding the way some women look at men. Seriously??? I am starting to think that YOU are stuck on my ex!

Anywho! FB Halloween joke- What’s the big deal about ghosts? I see right through people all year long.

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
12:56 pm

So basically, If I mention a doctor, I’m bringing up the ex
If I mention a patient, I’m bringing up the ex

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
12:56 pm

Yeah…Meelo…that was a stretch. #BoyStop

MsAtl

October 31st, 2013
12:58 pm

If I talk about marriage, I’m bringing up the ex?
If I have a general conversation, I am bringing up the ex?

(Person whose name can’t be mentioned) ILED, how about I talk about gummi bears for the rest of the day and we start fresh tomorrow?

Durty Burd

October 31st, 2013
1:07 pm

Good Afternoon!

Potential in dating hmmmmm… I like what Du stated If I’m getting serious with her, I’m more concerned with her morality and character than financial wherewithal.

Early on in the dating process it is a wee bit to early to asking for someone to pay your bills. No after we have been dating for a while and I have gotten to know the type of person you are, then I will assist if I have it…

Good comments from the ladies on todays topic.

Durty Burd

October 31st, 2013
1:12 pm

MsAtl…Very grown and mature comments…

YSIC..Can you tell us the difference in your dating American men and European men?

Donell

October 31st, 2013
1:17 pm

Dating w/ potential…First off, the words potential or potentially automatically mean to me, could or could not develop. There’s no surety in potential.

I could potentially be jumped by the two midgets that work in the suite below mine this evening after work… That probably won’t happen, but it could take place.

I could potentially meet my next date in L.A Fitness tonight…. That very well could happen, but also could not.

If I choose to exclusively date a woman that’s labeled a slacker or loser, she could potentially.. reach her potential while we’re together… Or could not. Who knows…. Once again, there’s no surety.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, dating with potential is too much like gambling for me. I’m results driven. I don’t want to hear what could potentially be… Handle ya business and then show folks what it IS and not what it could be. That’s my opinion.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
1:53 pm

Is this thing working?

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
2:12 pm

I wonder how many of those women that passed up a man because he was living with his parents would go out with a man who is living with his wife.

:shock:

I have a neighbor like that. He’s almost 30 and lives at home with his mom,sister,Granny and his dog..yes the dog(blue/grey pitbull) lives in the house,too. He used to live on his own but(from what his mom told me) he still needed financial help. Huh? He wasn’t in school but still couldn’t make it on his own…and his mom said she missed him being there. Plus, taking care of her home and helping him became too much of a financial burden so he moved back home. He’s been “moving out” for the last couple of years but ummm…he’s still home with mommie. He barely works but him and his best friend are ALWAYS together hanging out at each other’s homes.

Wonder what happened to his potential?

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:17 pm

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Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:19 pm

Wonder what happened to his potential? – His mother snuffed it out and he didn’t fight for his own independence.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
2:20 pm

His potential as his mother’s stand-in husband/caretaker is being fully realized. He is exactly who she raised him to be.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:20 pm

It’s like those men who say “the woman emasculated him.” I’d always turn it around and say “no, you handed your manhood to me on a silver platter.”

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:22 pm

Why don’t we say “caretaker” since she’s probably isn’t having sex with him (lol).

Durty Burd

October 31st, 2013
2:22 pm

Leggs what are we playing today?

Heck I am thinking about stealing my mother away from the dependents for a year… Oh the home cooked meals….Yes…

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
2:23 pm

I don’t think he wants it…sometimes when I tease him and call him “Mama’s baby” he’s like, “YEP sure I am”….he’s not leaving and she doesn’t want him to.

Anyhoo I’m out…dentist appt.

Read y’all tomorrow.

For those who are tricking tonight…be safe and have fun.
For those who are treating tonight…be generous and have fun. :mrgreen:

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
2:23 pm

One would hope not. (lol)

Sassy Me ;-)

October 31st, 2013
2:29 pm

I’d always turn it around and say “no, you handed your manhood to me on a silver platter.”

OKAY?!

*tosses hair and walks away*

Later….

Durty Burd

October 31st, 2013
2:31 pm

I must not know how to pick-em I have lived with 2 women who had limited cooking skills…I evalute better…Um the puddy has been to overwhelming and has clouded my decision making. hehehehehe!

O/T With the terrible season the Falcaints and the Wimpy Dawgs the discounts are going to be very good on their merchandise this year…

Who wants A Falcon jersey?

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:34 pm

329. You can’t play a number just for one day.

SassyMe ~ some men relish their role as Mama’s Baby!

Durty Burd

October 31st, 2013
2:35 pm

2C has all the ladies e-mailing him and he is shutting down the blog…Ingenious I should have thought of that! lol

Leggs are we playing 329 or 521?

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:40 pm

Where did 521 come from? I’m playing 329 and 904.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:48 pm

Since you spoke on 521, play both.

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
2:49 pm

“lived with 2 women who had limited cooking skills…….the puddy has been to overwhelming”
That’s an easy fix. Whenever you get hungry……..eat the puddy.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
2:56 pm

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
3:01 pm

@DB I’d rather email you about my European experiences. What’s your email?

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
3:09 pm

–”2C has all the ladies e-mailing him………” “…..DB I’d rather email you”– Oh……so that’s the business! Chicks are choosing and taking their conversations off line. That’s why its so slow.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:13 pm

Possibly….

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:15 pm

Oh, and Durty, can’t say “all the ladies.” I know quite a few who aren’t emailing him.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:19 pm

I’m not. I’m outta the emailing/communicating (unless a solid reason) offline. ;)

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:20 pm

“business”, email/communicating business….oh and unless I’m replying. That won’t too likely though.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:23 pm

Let me rephrase: Not everyone is emailing him.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:23 pm

My bad…wuldn’t nobody asking me entyway….carry on

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
3:27 pm

Coming through like hustle man

Hey shawty, got them email addresses 2 for $10.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:31 pm

O/T: Thangs shole have changed. We used to do a big shingdig for Christmas. Not sure what to think about the invite to one of our big big folks’ home for a bash….hmmmm

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
3:36 pm

that “hatin’ thing we were talkin bout yesterday…..

I know quite a few who aren’t emailing him.…….<~~~~~~kinda, sorta

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:41 pm

Another O/T: I really the the talk show, Family Feud Steve Harvey. Waaaay better than the radio/book Harvey

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:43 pm

2C ~ you know what’s sad 2C, you call that hating and I simply see it as commenting on a post. It’s just a comment. Not throwing any shade your way. He said “all ladies” and I commented. Your definition of “hate is skewed…

So if I say anything negative toward a post, I’m hating. Got it…..done!

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
3:44 pm

wait wait wait. I didn’t mean I’d rather email him over 2C. I meant I’d rather email it to him than to post it on the blog. He’s the only one who asked, so he’s the one who should know.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:44 pm

And, what is there to hate on?

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:45 pm

YSIC ~ I took that you wanted to email off the blog like we all do with certain topics/questions.

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
3:46 pm

Leggs, sweetie, it’s cool….don’t wanna get into it over semantics…..

Cutie…..that’s my girl!!!! :wink:

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:46 pm

I lied. I reached out to someone via email, but that really wasn’t for personal reasons. For reason, but not on a personal level…not like that. So, I’on really count that.

I see nothing wrong though with folks making friendships, emailing as a means to make it happen. I’m certainly not against that.

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
3:49 pm

I see nothing wrong though with folks making friendships, emailing as a means to make it happen. I’m certainly not against that.

and therapy, too, right?

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
3:51 pm

Yep, if that’s what you wanna call it…lol

Reio

October 31st, 2013
3:53 pm

I can remember way back when, in grade school, there was a girl, Jamella, who was very smart. Bright. Articulate. Everybody just knew she would go on to college and do well for herself.

Years later, after I finished my undergrad, I bumped into her. Said she “was helping her brother do people’s taxes during tax season”. Nothing wrong with that. Then I asked her what she did the rest of the year, and she said “Well, I babysit for people a lot” (as she put her hands in her pockets and looked at the ground). Nothing wrong with that either. But I got the impression that she was not doing what she knew we all expected her to be doing. I was, for some reason, disappointed and saddened. Wonder what happened to her since that encounter? Guess I’ll never know.

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
3:56 pm

2can- you doing a great job with Cel. Keep up the good work, but look like Leggs bucking the training program.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
3:58 pm

2C ~ no sweat. Semantics or not, you’re looking at it wrong IMO.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:00 pm

WillieD ~ don’t start none, won’t be none my brother.

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
4:04 pm

WillieD – You know dern well, I’ve earned the right to throw a virtual brick…..or two..lolol I just humbly sumbitted so he could work his magic :)

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
4:05 pm

OAN this parenting thing is really rearing its ugly head right about now. I’m about to make my mind up and say no chirrens!!!!!!!!!! Ugh. I need a massage with a happy ending this weekend.

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
4:06 pm

Dang I miss the kinder gentler Leggs. Now she mean mugging shoving folks round.

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
4:08 pm

Cel- put the bricks away, Haven’t you learned anything.

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
4:10 pm

Leggs – Why so sensitive? The tone of your previous writings had a fun loving, mellow, down to earth, cool home girl vibe. As of late, your comments reek of pent up frustration and backed up fluids. Baby, we gotta get back to the way we were. Do we need to meet?

Celisea

October 31st, 2013
4:12 pm

WillieD – Correction….In the past, I earned the right to THROW BACK, those bricks thrown at me. Wouldn’t you agree??

I’m a changed woman, thanks to 2Can!!!

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
4:15 pm

Well I’ll be…..

2can I’m nominating you for Playa of the Year. Easy submission under the humanitarian clause. Good work.

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
4:16 pm

I just humbly sumbitted

first step to any healing…..but thanks for the kudos….and being receptive is also a key component..

Du….she (Leggs) thinks I’m just picking on her; but baby-girl trust, it’s showing….

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:24 pm

WillieD ~ I was messing with you. Just didn’t want you to get 2C riled up.

Ok, it’s obvious I can’t win this one. I’m not hating on anyone on this blog. I’m good over here…as long as I’m good with folk (most of you).

2C ~ let me ask you this. “but baby-gir trust, it’s showing” please give me an example because I am clueless.

DuShawn ~ I can’t tell you why, didn’t realize I was coming across as pent up backed up fluids since I still joke and say the same things I’ve always said. I will see what needs re-evaluating if anything. Thank you.

YesSheIsCute

October 31st, 2013
4:25 pm

@Reio I could only imagine. Well everyone has their paths and roads they choose and land on. I hope she’s doing much better than when you saw her last.

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
4:31 pm

Leggs – You know I’m here if you need me.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:34 pm

Thank you, darling. I’ll keep that in mind!

2CPTG©

October 31st, 2013
4:34 pm

Leggs, just that lately you’ve been taking things personally, when they aren’t meant to be…..that’s all, no biggie……your therapeautic sessions are an easy fix…..bust two nuts and call me tomorrow. :)

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
4:38 pm

Du/ WillieD / Swiss – question for you guys – did you date your wife differently than the other chicks that you’d dealt with in the past?

spooky

October 31st, 2013
4:41 pm

the ghost of w8

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:43 pm

ummm, things directed to me, but shouldn’t take them personally (lol). I remember someone saying the same thing to me while they talked about me but not to take it personally. I never learned how to do that, but I kinda sorta get your drift.

spookey

October 31st, 2013
4:45 pm

the ghost of weight

DuShawn

October 31st, 2013
4:46 pm

I didn’t…..My intentions were to hit it a few times and keep it moving, but I ended up diggin her……… a lot. I don’t even remember us dating. We enjoyed the same things, so we always just hung out together. After I fell for her is when I started doing the out of the ordinary stuff.

Willie Dynamite

October 31st, 2013
4:46 pm

SC- yes kinda. Just the fact that we actually dated. Prior to that I was more just hanging and smashing and moving on. She made me want more than what I was getting. Thankfully she decided to keep me.

Ghost

October 31st, 2013
4:47 pm

Warning the old ghost of weight is trick or treating

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
4:51 pm

Interesting. I asked this because this weekend, I ran into a dude that I used to “deal with” in a very casual way. At the time, I knew that I wasn’t the only one he was dealing with in that way and I was cool with that. He used to invite me to parties that he would have at this building he owned downtown. There would be a shtload of chicks there and an adequate number of guys. I would always wonder how many of the other chicks there were chicks he was “cool” with.

Fast forward to this weekend, he was with his wife. When he introduced me, I felt her giving me the once over – not that she said anything. It was a vibe that she gave off. It made me wonder if this was a chick that he was once “cool” with who had gotten promoted or…if he started his relationship with her in a different way.

And if she is a chick that got promoted to wifey, does she find herself in situations where she meets women who are “friends” of his and if she wonders?

Does that make any sense?

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
4:52 pm

BTW – he introduced me as a former real estate client of his. He was my agent on my first house.

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:53 pm

Mrs.SexyC ~ I thought you were going to say the vibe you felt might be because she remembered you from one of the parties. I think it makes sense, and I’d bet she wonders.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
4:56 pm

In hindsight, I wish I would have made different choices in that situation. #CestLaVie

Leggs

October 31st, 2013
4:57 pm

I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination ~ Anonymous

PEACE!

Mrs. SexyCool

October 31st, 2013
4:57 pm

Or more to the point, I wish I had been experienced enough, wise enough and valued myself more to make better choices in that situation.