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Should plastic surgery be disclosed?

When my friend Amber saw old pictures of her boyfriend of 3 years, she was rather surprised to see his nose looked dramatically different. When she asked him about it, he told her he had surgery when he was younger. For some reason, the fact that he never told her this information bothered her.

Do you think that our current partners have a right to know about plastic surgery we had before we met them?

There are so many things about our pasts that should be shared, but what do we keep to ourselves? What should we be able to keep to ourselves?

Would you want to know if your date had some type of cosmetic surgery that significantly changed their appearance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

333 comments Add your comment

Lee

October 24th, 2013
7:14 am

I would like to know if they change from a girl to a boy!

Some people you can tell they had plastic surgery they have that fake alien look. I know many who had that gastric surgery to loose weight- the difference is remarkable but the side affects are terrible can’t eat , if they eat too much they vomit — i do not care to be with someone who has to vomit because they ate two slices of cheese and that was too much. gezz

People need to learn to like themselves, and changing yourself over a fad is silly please seek some counseling– your self esteem is low.

This is my friday and i am loving it.

Single and Happy

October 24th, 2013
7:28 am

Hello all

Seriously, only on a need to know bases. MYB, or better yet, get some business of your own!!

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
8:46 am

Lee, Lee, Lee….I burst out laughing at your post. That was hi larious…lol

The folks I know, in my world, where I’m from……it’s just not that deep. This is what I was saying a week or so ago. Especially about the chick posting pics of herself after three babies. Annnnnd??? All of America is having babies and looking great afterwards? But to obsess about it and believe it’s the be all that ends all? Well you can have it witcho fine self…lol Nobody’s go time to sweat that kind of stuff. Beauty fades, and gravity pulls. All the snapbacking, yanking, pulling tugging won’t stop the aging process. Love the skin you’re in.

Whatever enhancements, if any, I deem necessary, it wouldn’t be as extreme as going under the knife and it would be self motivated. At this point it would be inner stuff first and then the outer.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
8:49 am

And if you decided to go under the knife, naw I don’t wanna know…especially being a dude. Imma probably think you’re vain, if anything. Unless there was something marred from say an accident or some physical impairment, and you’re doing cause you can’t get a date or want more dates, please spare me…lololol

SlimNu

October 24th, 2013
8:53 am

Hair -fake, nails – fake, body – fake, errrrrythang FAKE lol

Durty Burd

October 24th, 2013
9:01 am

Goood Morning!

Preach SlimNu….What’s the difference?
SlimNu so what type of sports do you like? Since we are going to attend a game together this year.. :wink:

I’ve have dated a few with the implants and I found out I like the real thing..hehehehehe!

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:09 am

I actually chuckled at this topic. I agree with Lee, if you’ve changed your gender, pls tell me before we get under the sheets. Please!

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Whenever I go out with you
I find out something new

You’re a fake, baby, you can’t conceal it
Know how I know ’cause I can feel it
You’re a fake, baby, no rhyme or reason
‘Cause in your mind it’s lyin’ season

You had brown eyes but now they’re blue
Those false eyelashes that you’re wearin’ too, yeah
You’re a fake baby……♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:10 am

Lee- lol I agree I would want to know if you were a girl and now a boy.

SlimNu – RIGHT!!! fake is fake is fake is fake!

Durty – ain’t nothing like the real thing bahbey!

Good morning!

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:13 am

i do not care to be with someone who has to vomit because they ate two slices of cheese and that was too much. gezz

LOLOLOLOL

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:14 am

Why is Amber bothered with his nose job? was he broad and wide and now a MJ pencil thin? I mean really, now she knows that if they do have a baby the kid might have his before nose. lol

If a man I dated in the past had implants it wouldn’t bother me so much since he did it before we met, now if he were to do this after we’ve met then I might feel a lil some kind of way about the whole situation.

Durty Burd

October 24th, 2013
9:15 am

Man that changing the sex thingy is a doosey..Dudes dressing like a women or having surgery to become a woman needs to have that information plastered on their forehead for identification.

2CPTG©

October 24th, 2013
9:16 am

Would you want to know if your date had some type of cosmetic surgery that significantly changed their appearance?

depends….should a dude reveal if he’s had a penile implant?

Durty Burd

October 24th, 2013
9:16 am

Button what type of implants?

SlimNu

October 24th, 2013
9:18 am

Durty – I like football, hockey games (so much for the Thrashers lol) and UFC ;-)

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
9:18 am

And this is why you should probably reveal a plastic surgery secret. That is if you plan to marry and have kids.

http://news.yahoo.com/man-sued-wife-birthing-ugly-baby-110500995.html

Surgeons can alter your self perceived flaws or “ugliness”, but can do nothing for your genes. LOL

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:22 am

Man married his wife several years ago. When she gave birth to their baby girl the problems with the relationship began. The baby was so ugly the husband was frightened by her. He also was suspect of his fatherhood in the girl because she looked nothing like either him or his wife.

When pressed for an explanation, the woman finally admitted that she had under gone more than $100,000 in plastic surgery that drastically altered her appearance – but that it had happened before the pair had met and she decided not to tell him. The man filed for divorce on the premise that she had gotten him to marry her “under false pretense” and was later not only grated the divorce but also won $120,000 he requested in restitution.

2CPTG©

October 24th, 2013
9:24 am

button, what happened to my email….was actually looking forward to chatting/emailing…….

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:25 am

Durty – calves maybe pecs. you know manly things…except well you know.

MsAtl

October 24th, 2013
9:26 am

Morning All!

I would want to know that the man I am seeing was actually born a man. Not holding anything against anyone who chooses to have a sex change, that’s just my preference. If you had a nose job, so what!

Raqi- I saw that story before. Hilarious! So, if your child is not beautiful, you are repulsed and can’t love it? Really dude?

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:27 am

Raqi – lol you beat me to it! LOL

Button

October 24th, 2013
9:28 am

2C – check your email.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:30 am

That’s why I’m not buy MJ’s kids being his, biologically. Those kids are white…one hundred percent. You can make all the alterations and changes you like, but your offspring will get your DNA, not what the doc did.

Janet and Michael used the same surgeon. I was looking at her WDIGM a couple of weeks ago and she’s got the same nose. That ain’t the nose she had on Good Times!!

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:34 am

I have not heard of that story, but it’s sad and funny at the same time. The father is shallow. Hope that baby grows up and do great things.

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
9:39 am

Celisea, I saw a preview of “Celebrity Crime Files” that will be talking about MicJac’s death. That was one sick individual. It’s sad someone with such great talent and actually pretty handsome as a young boy had such low self-esteem about his looks that he completely altered his outward appearance to what led to looking like an unattractive white woman. Then, as you said, paid only God knows what for a couple of white women to birth babies that are not even mixed but WHITE for him. So sad.

Self-loathing can be destructive as it destroyed him.

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:43 am

Celisea ~ I would be afraid to go to MJ’s nose doctor. He did a piss poor job on MJ.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:43 am

It seems that story was posted some time ago on the blog…I think…I could be wrong.

Raqi – I agree. Love the skin you’re in

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:44 am

Raqi ~ most of that self-loathing seemed to have come at the hands of his merciless father. Unfortunately, it pained MJ more than the other siblings, but they’re all messed up.

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
9:44 am

Leggs, that story is sad and funny. However it was deceptive on her part. We all know men are visual creatures and he chose her because he thought she was beautiful. That beauty she portrayed was a straight out lie.

While he is shallow, as most men are to a degree, he had the right to be angry. At her, not the kid.

He is a jerk though for disowning his own child. The child’s looks are half his.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:45 am

Leggs – I would be afraid to go under anybody’s knife

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:47 am

Yep, and most times, kids become the victims of grown folks and their issues

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
9:52 am

Celisea and Leggs, yes it is partly his father’s fault. However he did not start altering his looks until he was an adult. And then took it waaay too far.
There are other celebrities that have made “enhancements” but you can still see the former them in there. But that guy went from a handsome black young man to an unattractive skinny looking woman.

All of the brothers, except Randy, were actually easy on the eyes. Tito seems to be the only one that let nature age him gracefully. I haven’t seen a picture of him in a long time so I don’t know if he has had any work done lately.

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:53 am

And, if you can’t love the skin you’re in, love the skin under or on top of you! IJS…

MsAtl

October 24th, 2013
9:53 am

Raqi- Whenever I see Jermaine Jackson, I think of the California Raisins commercial. He looks like plastic, including his hair.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:57 am

Raqi – I might be in the minority here, but I don’t think his father is at fault. I believe his father was what we consider a strict disciplinarian, of which most of us grew up under the same. He got a whipping with a belt. Well, we got whipping with switches and anything else mama could get her hands on. Not once though have I said or implied as a result, I had an unnatural affection for children or I wanted to be something other than what God beautifully made. IMO, it was a cop out, an excuse.

For every person that claims victimized cause they were done the same way, there’s someone else that didn’t see it as being a victim (at someone else’s hand), was a victim, but turned that into something positive. How come the rest of the family didn’t do the irrational extreme things he did…if it was a result of abuse from the hands of his dad? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying everything is father did was right, most parents would all proabably say the same thing…in retrospect. I’m just saying all that crazy stuff he did, he did cause he chose to do.

Just my opinion, of course :)

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
9:58 am

MsAtl ~ I beg to differ, his hair looks like tar (lol).

YesSheIsCute

October 24th, 2013
9:59 am

The blog ate my comment so let’s try this again…

Good morning. And whoaaa @ Raqi’s link. That’s just plain wrong on so many levels….

I think the only things that should be disclosed upfront are:

a. sex changes/reassignments/enhancements, fixes, etc.
b. anything removable (deeply padded bras, butt pads, hair extensions, full coverage makeup that borders on metamorphosis, etc.)

Everything else should just be disclosed casually, as it comes up in conversation.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
9:59 am

I meant…not once have I implied unnatural affections as a result of mama raising us with a strong hand.

MsAtl

October 24th, 2013
10:01 am

Leggs- I can see tar, lol.

YSIC- “full coverage makeup that borders on metamorphosis.” – Bwahaha

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
10:01 am

Celisea ~ you’re right, most of us grew up with strict disciplinarians, but it seems like Joe took it to another level. No doubt he wanted his sons to be successful, but I feel he forgot that they were human and needed to be children before he tried to mold them into men with grownup responsibilities. Pretty sure main reason MJ suffered with the Peter Pan syndrome. If that scene in the movie is accurate where he made them move boulders from Point A to Point B as a way of keeping them off the streets and out of trouble, his was on another level.

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
10:03 am

Lastly, plastic surgery of any kind other than to repair something a tragedy may have caused is evidence of low self-esteem. I am a believer that there is someone for everyone. Look for the one that is looking for someone like you.

I think I told you all this before but my brother-in-law was burned in a fire some years back. At the time of the incident he was engaged to a woman that is very beautiful. He automatically assumed that she would no longer want to be with him because one side of his face is very noticeably scarred. She is still with him today. Married and have three beautiful kids. She didn’t let something he had no control of disrupt her love for him and the years that had shared building their relationship.

I know that is a little different because she was with him before the accident however I know more than a few individuals that would have gotten ghost had that happened to their S/O. More men than women, but still would be MIA.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
10:06 am

Leggs – They were in the business, which adds another component than just being raised strict. I just think that it’s easy for folks to call foul when they are in the hot seat. I can’t see how being raised strict would make you have affections for boys. I don’t get that. I can’t see how being raised strict makes you want to have a roaming zoo on your property. I can’t see how being raised strict makes you unhappy with yourself. I don’t get that.

I don’t really believe everything depicted in the movie.

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
10:06 am

Celisea, I said partly his fault because I remember reading somewhere where their father would make comments about their “bell pepper” noses. However like I said he was an adult when he started to alter his look. He was at a time in his life where his father’s negative opinion should not have mattered that much.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
10:07 am

We can agree to disagree :)

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 24th, 2013
10:08 am

Joe Jackson beat them kids into success!

We should all be so lucky

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
10:08 am

Raqi – Agreed. I never heard that. I’ll say a parent should NEVER belitle their children…cause they just shouldn’t for one, and also because they’re a product of both parents. But yeah, he did all that stuff when he became an adult.

Leggs

October 24th, 2013
10:08 am

UUGGGH, I was just caller #24 for B98.5 giving away $500. You had to be caller #25, now, that’s JANKY!!!

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
10:08 am

And Celisea, as for those whippings, girl I should have gotten more. My parents just didn’t know about the wrongs I had done. LOL

While I did a lot wrong those whippings help me not to complete lose my mind as a blooming young adult.

But don’t nobody want to talk about that. Let’s get back on topic. LOL

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
10:09 am

Raqi

October 24th, 2013
10:10 am

LOL MsAtl. California Raisin describes him perfectly.

Celisea

October 24th, 2013
10:11 am

Raqi – TOTALLY agree!!! Most definitely.

BTW, I just love how someone always comes one and negatively interjects….DAN! We’re having a discussion, in which we’re all entitled to our opinions. I’m not brow beating, I’m speaking from my stance.

Folks irk me sometimes.