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First date location: Choose wisely!

I know some people watch too much reality tv and expect those over the top, The Bachelor type dates. You know, the grand dates that set impossibly high dating expectations for anyone that thinks that is actual reality. Obviously, that kind of date activities are not typical. The location of the first date says a lot about you, though. You have to choose wisely!

I have had really sweet first dates at lovely places and I have also been subject to crazy places. When you go to pick a place, think of that person’s personality and yours. What is someplace you both can enjoy? What kind of activities allow you two to truly check each other out and get a glimpse of the real personality?

My friend’s first date last week was at a strip club. He figured she was down for whatever and could be open minded. She said he read her all the way wrong! Have you ever had a first date that was someplace outrageous or odd? What did you do?

If your date picked an awful place for your first date, would you be willing to give them a second chance to make it up to you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

286 comments Add your comment

Lee

October 23rd, 2013
7:25 am

Oh my the strip club on the first date, that is something he should of discussed with her before hand, her face must of been priceless. lol

I would pick a place we both never done if that is possible, to see how we both interact together doing something new, i have to admit going out to eat is boring every time you have a date. I would love to do that paint ball thingie whatever it is called, you have the paint ball gun and try to shoot others. hehehe

Bad first date: he picked me up ( we were to go cruising around in his hot rod car) he drove down the street and back, and the “car” was an old piece of junk that the door would not open. He made a big deal about this car how he worked on it for 7 years all the time he invested plus money, all i could say nice about the car was “nice dash board” the seats were ripped doors not opened, smh what a dweeb … No i didn’t go back out with him, he clearly lied about the car, if i had a bad date like i didn’t like the place i would go back out with the guy

Time to get to work,

Exiled

October 23rd, 2013
7:52 am

First date locations?

It depends on what type girl she is and whatchu dating her for…what u prospecting.

That strip club date for Diva’s friend was guuud if she seemed to be giving him some signs…from the strip to the crib!

If u want her to give up the goods early..real early.. and shes nice,u treat her real well…spoil her rotten and turn her head upside down! :lol:

:lol:

Happy hump day MIA!

Miss Moni

October 23rd, 2013
8:01 am

GOOD Wednesday Morning MIA!!! :-)

First date locations, sounds interesting enough, LOL!!! Well, if my date suggested an awful place for a first date I would have no problem speaking up and politely suggesting somewhere else. I’m not going to be knowingly put into an uncomfortable or unsafe situation.

Has anyone seen the movie 35 & Ticking? Well the guy took the lady out on a 1st date and while the restaurant was nice, he took her to a gang house party afterwards. Needless to say that did NOT work out well. The problem is that while she suggested that they go dancing at a club, he had other plans and she didn’t stand her ground. Lesson learned, she never went out with him again.

I mentioned that to say this, if you don’t feel comfortable then DON’T do it!!!

Single and Happy

October 23rd, 2013
8:51 am

Hey all

Just somethings I never put that much thought into.

Button

October 23rd, 2013
8:59 am

Strip club for a first date! LOL what vibe was she giving for her date to say strip club? smh

If your date picked an awful place for your first date, would you be willing to give them a second chance to make it up to you? If my date took me to a strip club then no, he will not get a second chance. I’ve had first dates at chained restaurant like applebee’s and the like and yes I gave them a second chance bc we had a good time. Sometimes that’s all a man know, some men are not opened to going to nice high end restaurant oh and throw in valet parking and the guy will probably have a cow lol. With blue collar guys you can forget going somewhere nice, with white collar guys or guys in the industry then chances are higher that he’s been to nice restaurants and know a thing or two about nice places to go for first dates.

I’ve never had a date to take me to an awful place for a first date but I have had awful first dates in nice places. Most of my first dates were at restuarants, one maybe two have been at an amuesment park and the other was at the race track. Another wanted to go cow tipping but I refuse to go flipping cows for fun. LOL

Leggs

October 23rd, 2013
9:17 am

“…watch too much reality tv and expect those over the top, The Bachelor type dates.” – Then they are fools. If they’re dating in a social circle that can date like that, then good for them. If not, take the rose-colored glasses off.

First date should never be a strip club, even if you’re dating a stripper. WTH was he thinking? You can be down for whatever, but let’s set a tone of decency first. If you hadn’t have a conversation re: strippers, strip club, tossing dollar bills, don’t assume it’s a cool first date place. That’s idiotic. Not only that, I sense he was testing her to see how open-minded she is. I hope she came in her own car. Like Strokers, if you didn’t know the place by its name, you wouldn’t know it was strip club until you walked through the doors. I would have been O.U.T!

I don’t recall any horrible first dates.

Good morning.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
9:36 am

Can’t really think of any horrible first date. Yes, a do-over might be in order, depending on how much I wanted to hang in there, to stick around and get to know him better. Also, I would think about a second opportunity because really, a person don’t “know” you date one.

Strip clubs? Naw! That’s just crass. Ass on the brain much? How do you even make it inside of a stripclub for a first date? Before we turn into parking lot, I’d tell buddy to take me home, lose my number, kick rocks, so forth and so on. I would then evaluate what I’m doing wrong to attract such a D bag…IJS

Button

October 23rd, 2013
9:39 am

The guy made a bold move taking his date to a strip club as a first date. I guess it’s been done before.

MsAtl

October 23rd, 2013
9:45 am

Morning All!

A strip club!? :shock: That would be the last date.

I have picked a bowling alley for a first date because we would at least be engaged in some sort of activity while we talked rather than just sitting across from each other. I recently went on a first date where I suggested Six Feet Under since I was meeting after work.

MsAtl

October 23rd, 2013
9:49 am

Button- Cow tipping??? That is hilarious!
I am all for giving a second chance in most cases.
A girlfriend told me she had a 3 minute dinner date, lol. The date showed up with another guy and said it was his business partner and he had to have a quick business meeting. She dipped!

GlammourGirl

October 23rd, 2013
9:49 am

Miss Moni – I’ve seen that movie. That guy totally misrepresented himself, and it started with him using an old picture of himself. He took her to a nice restaurant, but couldn’t pronounce anything, was trying to order malt liquor, and tried to control what she ordered.

I can’t think of any bad first dates. I recall a pretty good low budget first date. I happen to love orchids, and I have a love affair with sweet potatoes…pretty much cooked any way. We went to the Atlanta Botanical Gardens for this orchid exhibit and went to this ice cream place that sold sweet potato ice cream, and went to the park and walked and talked. I felt like he really took my interests in mind when he planned the date. It doesn’t have to be over the top and elaborate.

2CPTG©

October 23rd, 2013
9:55 am

morning….

here we go……apparently, ms. lady gave off some kinda vibe, or inclination that she was cool with strip clubs! She claims that he read her the wrong way; well, if your conversations with dude were about booty clappin’, and spreadin eagles, I can see how he would have interpreted as much; but I highly doubt if their conversations were on the up and up, dude just went out like that…..Methinks Diva’s girl is leaving out some pertinent details, and ain’t saying why/how dude would have thought she was cool with going to Teasers/Pleasers/Body Tap/Pink Pony/Blue Flame/Magic City or any of those other spots I heard about…….

Leggs

October 23rd, 2013
9:56 am

I do remember two awful first dates. Not horrible, just sad ones (both online).

(1) We scheduled to meet for lunch. I waited in my car until he arrived. He told me what he would be driving (a truck). When he came from around the truck I was in :shock: This guy was huge. I was immediately saddened, but went into restaurant with him. We both drove some distance. We had nice conversation, but I couldn’t help take note of his weight. I didn’t mention it because on his profile he did say he had gained a little weight. I have no idea what he started from so perhaps it was a little weight to him. Anyway, my mind was wandering because I swore I heard the bench squeak and the nuts and bolts scream out in pain. He was a nice enough person, but no love interest. I never want to seek a relationship where I instantly knew I could be squashed to death.

(2) I met him at Smoky Bones for lunch. He was there when I arrived. He talked way too much, way too much. He was an authority on pretty much everything, even given birth. He had pretty teeth, but he soon started to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher. It was quite unsettling because I found myself nodding and saying things like un huh, un huh, yeah I hear ya. When lunch was over I found a way to extricate myself by tell him I had to get back on my side of town to pick my daughter up. As I was getting up, I noticed he wasn’t. I asked if he was leaving or going to stay. He said he was staying, he had to wait for is mother to pick him up. She was across the street at the Mall. Oh my! Already knew there would be no second date, but now it was etched in stone!

Ok, you guys can stop laughing now!

MsML5

October 23rd, 2013
9:58 am

@ GlammourGirl….”I felt like he really took my interests in mind when he planned the date. It doesn’t have to be over the top and elaborate.”……well said!!! That’s all it takes sometimes.

Leggs

October 23rd, 2013
9:59 am

MsAtl ~ I thought bowling alley would be a good first date.

2C ~ I was thinking perhaps she gave off some vibe that she would like the hamburgers at the strip club. Whether she gave off vibe or not, have the discussion because sometimes your antenna needs adjusting.

Good to see you GlammourGirl.

Button

October 23rd, 2013
10:00 am

MsATl – yes cow tipping. He was a cutie too, I almost said yes until I found out exactly what it entailed. Thing about it, he was serious. I happily declined.

MsML5

October 23rd, 2013
10:01 am

First date at a strip club?! really?! when we pulled in parking lot, I would have told him to take me home. If not, I would’ve taken a cab home. Clearly he thought this was ok for a first date. I’m sure he has taken other first dates to a strip club and it was ok.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:02 am

He figured she was down for whatever and could be open minded.

This right here is why you have to be sooo careful not to send the wrong signs. Shoot, the wrong sign could be as simple as breaking bread…for some dudes…lol When folks don’t want nothing, they come in looking for that hairline crack, that give where you’re down for whatever. I wonder what their interactions and conversation was about for him to assume or just “figure” she’d be cool doing a strip club. I can’t imagine the convo going in such a way or why else would she Diva say her friend said he read her all wrong.

Sometimes folks will toss you a hook to see if you’ll bite. I’ve had it happen to me. You gotta be smart and know how to throw it back with, naw buddy don’t try that on me.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:02 am

SlimNu

October 23rd, 2013
10:04 am

Well it appears, even though homegirl is feeling some kind of way about going to a Strip Club on the first date, that she went through with it. So if she felt that weird about it, why not express her dislike for that type of outing. So far, I have not had any weird first date outings.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:06 am

When he came from around the truck I was in This guy was huge. I was immediately saddened

I just hollered. Shoot, I lauged (out loud) at both stories.

Durty Burd

October 23rd, 2013
10:12 am

GooooooooooooooooooDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD Morning to all the blog ladies! :wink:

Leggs that was a classic! I would have spit up my coffee if I was a coffee drinker.How was the dude who was being picked-up by his mom?

Tandom: I do not like coffee breath.

Dang it going to the skipper club is not a good first date option…I say dang it..I was going to take Celisea there…. lol :)

MsAtl…So you do the suggesting for the dates huh? Are you controlling the dating process/locations?

Only Button would sterotype the blue collar worker..they only know applebees, Bay Breeze, Logan’s RoadHouse, etc…Oh and I guess paying for valet means something….

2CPTG©

October 23rd, 2013
10:16 am

I’m sorry, I’m not buying this chic’s story…..she probably didn’t like the chosen club, but she wasn’t averse to going……maybe if he had taken her to Onyx, as opposed to the one on Cleveland Ave, she prolly wouldn’t have said a word…..

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:18 am

Durty – The “skipper club” I might can do. Is that a country club? Or, were you trying to say skrrrripper club? If so, you gotta pronouce it right first? I’on to skrimp, skrip, nor skreet :mrgreen:

MsAtl

October 23rd, 2013
10:18 am

Leggs- I didn’t laugh at your stories- I screamed!

Durty- I was asked to pick the location on those dates. I would love a guy to use some planning/creativity; I get tired of wherever you want to go or whatever you want to do. That’s when I feel like saying umm, nothing, home.

Miss Moni

October 23rd, 2013
10:20 am

-Leggs I’m hollering at he had to wait for his mother to pick him up!!! That right there is HILARIOUS!!!

Durty Burd

October 23rd, 2013
10:20 am

Dang-it

Leggs…How old was the dude being picked up by his mommy?

Random…I don’t like coffee breath…

Button

October 23rd, 2013
10:22 am

Durty – only you would peep that out and have aproblemwith it….@valet, maybe not to you, but to some, yes.

Durty Burd

October 23rd, 2013
10:23 am

Some men have it tough wanting to date and having mommy drop you off….

Yes Celisea I meant skripper club for you, Strokers has some good lemon pepper wings..u dig…hehehehehe!

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:23 am

I ain’t gon lie….TLC’s song, No Scrubs instantly came to mind from Leggs’ adventures….

Please stay off dating sites…nothing but cra craz frequent (mostly). Not everyone, but IJS

SlimNu

October 23rd, 2013
10:24 am

Leggs – I’ve been to Strokers and if I didn’t know it was a strip club, I still would’ve been like WTF once I pulled up to that strip mall it’s located in. LOL Heyal naw!

And how can you send the message that you want to go to a strip club to a person you just met? Even if you were a stripper, who would want to go to ‘work’ for a date? That’s like if I were a waitress at Applebee’s and buddy met me there, I would not want to go to Applebees for a date, if ever. Who does that? Folks are lazy thinkers these days. We just aren’t utililyzing our brains at all. sheesh.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:25 am

Durty – Yeah, your mom told me about Strokers…she the lead dancer there :)

Mrs. SexyCool

October 23rd, 2013
10:26 am

What’s wrong with a chained (sic) restaurant for a first date?

SlimNu

October 23rd, 2013
10:27 am

Leggs – When does your misadventures in dating book come out? LOL ;-)

Durty Burd

October 23rd, 2013
10:28 am

Button…Only you would mention it like it better, because you are paying out money for a service that does not have anything to do the taste of the food or the ambiance of the restaurant.

I have been to quite a few spots where the restaurant’s offers valet parking and sometimes the food is good and sometimes it is not good. Maybe with you if they take you to a restaurant with valet parking their chances of getting some greatly improves..

YesSheIsCute

October 23rd, 2013
10:29 am

Good morning! Actually I did end up with a first date a strip club before. Long story… :lo:

I think doing something like going bowling, dave & busters, something that allows you guys to play against each other and really interact is great date. Dinner and a movie is good but maybe we should do the movie first and then dinner to talk about the movie? I don’t know, I’m not good with dates and I hate the whole first date anxiety I always seem to get.

He’d have to really really really screw up the first date in order for me to be like I’m not doing this again.

The only way I would be willing to allow a date a second chance to make it up to me is if he did something/said something that would make me think that maybe I misjudged the whole thing.

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:29 am

I like O’Charley’s

Celisea

October 23rd, 2013
10:31 am

Diva’s friend ain’t told that dude she was down with a strip club the first date. He was a horn dog looking for an opening. I hope she shut buddy down and with the quickness.

SlimNu

October 23rd, 2013
10:32 am

Mrs. SC – I don’t see anything wrong with chains for a first date. Most of my 1st dates have been at some sort of chain restaurant….everything from Red Lobster to Buffalo Wild Wings lol

2CPTG©

October 23rd, 2013
10:34 am

ladies, on average, how many conversations have you had with a guy before you even go on a first date? There should be no bad first dates if you’ve done your homework on said guy/gal…..

lotta y’all sound like you meet a dude, and then you’re going out the very next evening…..

SlimNu

October 23rd, 2013
10:38 am

2C – You have a point for some…I guess folks rather talk in person. lol I know I would do the phone thing for a minute before warming up to going out. I think chatting first helps to alleviate the anxiety or nervousness of being out with a stranger. In that talking period, you can see if you even WANT to go out with them. Some haven’t made it past the phone stage.

MsAtl

October 23rd, 2013
10:39 am

2C- The last date, we had 3 or 4 conversations prior to the date.

Button

October 23rd, 2013
10:39 am

Durty – everybody date differently, what works for you may not work for someone else. You’re making something out of nothing, really. Some might consider flying their date to another city for a first date normal while some may consider going to a chained restaurant as a first date normal.

Leggs

October 23rd, 2013
10:42 am

“How was the dude who was being picked-up by his mom?” – Did you not get a sense from statements like:

(a) He talked way too much, way too much.
(b) He was an authority on pretty much everything, even given [sic] birth;
(c) he soon started to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher; and
(d) Already knew there would be no second date, but now it was etched in stone

SlimNu ~ I know, I know. Unreal! You’re right, I would have looked around that strip mall saying “what’s here, where we going? Like I said once he opened the door, I would have been O.U.T.

Durty ~ he was 43 (if I remember correctly). Also, Stroker’s patty melt aint bad!

Celisea ~ I was whistling dixie driving down 20….NEXT!

2CPTG©

October 23rd, 2013
10:42 am

or Slim, some don’t even do the phone stage……Leggs, said the one dude talked too much…..ummm, didn’t you figure that out on the phone? My point is, my time (and my money, cause more than likely I gotta pay for the date) is valuable….and I ain’t wasting it “trynna determine” if we’re cool…..some weeding out will be done beforehand…..

Exiled

October 23rd, 2013
10:43 am

If Diva’s friend even ventured to go inside the strip club….

She was down!

a worthy chic would decline once she realizes that this parking lot she getting into is for Strokkers.

Leggs

October 23rd, 2013
10:44 am

BTW, Celisea, I’ve given up online dating about 2 years ago….it’s not a good fit for me. I don’t have the temperment nor patience. I’ve been called mean for not accepting BS thrown my way. Way too many games, but you’re mean if you call them on it or question certain things they say. I ain’t your “go with the flow” chick. Most off all, I cannot stand profile pics of men with their cars or standing in front of their homes!

Button

October 23rd, 2013
10:45 am

2C- it depends on the circumstances, most of my past dates traveled a lot so going on the first date was usually around a month after talking on the phone/email/IM’ing.

Durty Burd

October 23rd, 2013
10:46 am

Wow playing the mommaa card, o.k. it is on now, no one talks about my momma.

2CPTG©

October 23rd, 2013
10:47 am

Ex…..that’s what I’m saying! don’t say he read her wrong, after the fact….if he was outta line she should have said as much fonm the jump……like I said, she prolly just didn’t like “that” particular strip club……or maybe he didn’t spring for enough table dances, who knows…