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Dating karma

My friend Carl is convinced all his bad karma is coming back to haunt him now that his daughter is a teenager. He feels that he is about to pay for all those romantic crimes he committed and never apologized. I know many of us can relate to this because we have all done some hurtful things to people in your dating past.

Do you ever think about all those hearts you broke or the people you rejected? Do you think that you made a lasting, negative impact on their lives?

I remember talking to an ex recently and he reminded me of how hurt he was when I ended things and he never truly got over it. Even after he married somebody else and started a family, he has not completely let go. I felt awful and really guilty! I wonder if it is worthwhile to go back and apologize for causing heartache?

Do you think reaching out and trying to make amends is ever a good idea? Do you ever feel bad for some of the things you did?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

153 comments Add your comment

Lee

October 21st, 2013
7:21 am

Carl must of been some kind of SOB that he is fearful that his daughter is going to get his karma. WoW
Not making amends If i let you go you know why and it wasn’t good. Been cursed several times “oh he will be worse than me”, ‘hope the next one beats you” smh So no i will not go apologize for you being a BEEP BEEP.

I never did something that bad to feel bad about.

It mighty cool this AM , hagd everyone

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
8:48 am

I don’t think it makes sense to reach out and apologize. It’s certainly not going to lessen the blow of payback. IMO, doing better and treating people the way you know you should have would seem the best road to take….doing better. However, I do believe you can’t mistreat folks and it’s over with cause you “outgrew” it. It don’t just go away like that…especially when you knew better. We all reap what we sow when we knew to do better and simply chose not to.

I can’t say payback will come by way of a ho-ish man’s daughter, but I believe so…call me a blockhead…lol Most men don’t even come to know the severity of their actions and how they treated women, if ever, until they’re well beyond the game. I believe it happens (to the daughter), because only then can they or will come to know just how their victims felt.

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
9:13 am

Goood Mornnning! :)

Carl is probably having control issues with his daughter in regards to dating young boys and because he knows how men act (based on his past) he nows worries about how can he control this situation…You cannot!

For those I did wrong I did apologize for my regretable actions. Therefore, I am free do some some wrong to Celisea…hehehehehe! j/k

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
9:14 am

Chilly willy this morning, brrrrrrr….

Some folks may take a long awaited apology as you’re reaching out to want to get back with them. Now if you did some really grimy sh !t, then an apology maybe in order but otherwise, just go forward doing better than you USED to do.

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
9:15 am

SlimNu have patience I don’t want you to settle for dating a dude who physic is substantially less then what you previous had for 3 yrs. Once the holidays are over we can start dating and you will like this physic… :wink: earmuffintomy export here! hehehehehe!

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
9:22 am

morning….

yes, I agree you should apologize (if you’ve done some shady stuff) and make amends, but all that “sins of the father..” stuff, nah….cause karma gon’ bite the culprit, not the offspring.

Hazel

October 21st, 2013
9:33 am

I do belive in Karma but it would not be wise to go back and apologize. I know I hurt a guy’s feelings and I often think about how ugly I was and wish I wasn’t. If I was to go back and apologize, him or his spouse may not appreciate me connecting with them. Safe to keep it moving.

YesSheIsCute

October 21st, 2013
9:35 am

Good morning. I say let bygones be bygones. Forgive yourself and move on. I had an ex reach out to me by adding me on facebook and saying that he had a guilty conscience all these years for the way he treated me and the way things worked out, basically saying he still loved me. Honestly, I could have done without the apology. I told him I was over it and that I’ve moved on from that. Luckily, he’s across the ocean so I don’t have to worry about running into him.

disco

October 21st, 2013
9:41 am

good morning. I don’t necessarily think carl had to have been all that bad to worry about karma. I think it’s more that father’s have a hard time accepting what their daughters are going to be out there doing. lol.

diva – re your ex not getting over you. sounds like game to me. get you feeling some kind of way so he can try to go for one last score. ijs.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
9:47 am

Durty – Getting started early this morning I see.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
9:47 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA! :-)

Ok Diva, I’m LOL at your ex who is now married with a family of his own and STILL holding on to his “hurt” that you caused!

Seriously, as a mature adult you have to forgive and move on. Some people are NEVER going to apologize, but you still have to move forward with your life!

Do you think reaching out and trying to make amends is ever a good idea? Depends on your purpose and motive. . . If you just want to clear your mind then just write a letter & burn it OR pray about it. If you’re trying to rekindle something then just LEAVE IT ALONE!!!

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
10:07 am

he reminded me of how hurt he was when I ended things and he never truly got over it. Even after he married somebody else and started a family, he has not completely let go. I felt awfu

@Diva…u felt awaful..and he got the response he wanted because he wanted sum…doont be;live the bull!

Dating Karma….as if breaking up with a girl is a sin or crime!..another bull…

Only God dispenses punishment and ,sorry to dissappoint some…at his Wisdom…

not because some thirsty,angling but spurned girl wishes it :lol:

Howdee MIA!…

..o/t..kinda chilly this morn…remindes uall to ramp up ur winter partner plans because u may fail to land somebody to rub those legs and twirly feet in the cool,cold of winter…..
I am wishing u luck Slim.. :lol:
u too Disco!..

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
10:10 am

Morning All!

I believe that the karma would be on the dad, not the daughter. However, the young men dating his daughter may have been (half) raised by men just like him. Hence, his worry.
I think that an apology may be in order if you behaved badly recently. After years have passed, what good does it do? It would look like you are trying to get back with the person or you need something from them.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
10:11 am

Ex – Thanks but no luck needed. I think i’m taken care of lol

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
10:15 am

Ex – Oh yeah, you may want to go ahead and get a head start on those gremlins…i mean feet of yours. I’m sure Queen is not looking forward to having your crusty black ashy toe nails scarring up her legs as you try to soak up her heat this winter. ;-) Be sure to ask for sea salt when you go. No need to thank me. :lol:

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:19 am

Sometimes I think folks like to make themselves feel better about the dirt they did by saying “only God can do this that or the other.” Well, tis true, I agree. However ain’t nothing gonna be re-written. The good book says whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap….period. What you dished is what’s coming back. THAT IS God dispensing. :) Watchoutnow

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
10:24 am

Celisea- Simple fix: DON’T DO DIRT! Sounds easy enough to say if you wouldn’t like it done to you, don’t do it to someone else. But, the reality is, of course, that is not the way folks live. In my view, if you don’t want to be with me or if you do want to be with me but you want to have your Kate and Edith too, just go! Don’t unwittingly make me a part of a threesome, just go! Be real about your ish.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:26 am

I can honestly say, in good conscious, outside of the older dude, I didn’t mistreat anybody. No leading folks on, no playing games, etc etc etc. I tried to make amends with him cause I didn’t want stuff coming back to haunt me. That experience was haunting enough…lol Whew buddy.

And I’m also glad I didn’t allow folks to treat or mistreat me. Wasn’t gonna be no waiting for stuff to get them back for if I felt I was wronged. I was doing the payback…lololol Glad I learned better in that regard as well.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:26 am

MsAtl – Kate and Edith?? LOL Never heard it phrased that way….funny

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:27 am

mistreat or misuse…I meant

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
10:29 am

Cel…when womeg get the pipe and they luv it…but the guy withdraws becauuse he doont like it no mo..All women cry…they want more…

and they will say,he did me derty!

How can it be derty if it was consensual?…u want Karma…God’s power to come down heavy on dude?

Now thats wishful thinking…

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
10:31 am

I think i’m taken care of lol

@Slim…thank u for the breaking News! :lol:

Single & Happy

October 21st, 2013
10:32 am

Hello All

Don’t believe in karma or luck, life is what it is, the good and the bad. e As far as divas ex, sounds like he needs to get over and move on with his life. If I didn’t apologize when I did I sure aint going back to apologize years later cause they haven’t gotten over it. And I’m not looking for an apology from anyone, life goes on!

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
10:34 am

Celisea- I’ve never understood the whole cake and eat it thing. What’s the point of getting cake if you can’t eat it? I would be mad as heck if you gave me a slice of chocolate cake and said don’t touch it, lol.

Exiled- What are you talking about? I guess I need more coffee this morning.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:35 am

Exiled, folks know when they’ve wronged someone. You can get into semantics and split hairs and stuff and take it to technicalities, but the intents behind the actions is where payback comes into play. You can tell a woman (or man for that matter) all you want, but if you set out to do the bait and switch, game a person, blah blah blah, the good thing about payback, it’s still coming for you. It ain’t listening to your mouth, it’s measuring the intents behind the deed done.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
10:36 am

“I would be mad as heck if you gave me a slice of chocolate cake and said don’t touch it, lol.”

-MsAtl Ditto!!! :-)

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
10:36 am

MsAtl – Folks that play games falls back on dissecting having cake and eating it too….just like gaming, folks already know what’s meant.

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
10:36 am

Exiled- What are you talking about?

@MsAtl… :lol: …..were u taken last nite,..u slept good?

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
10:40 am

Exiled- “were u taken last nite,..u slept good?” Not sure where you’re going with this, but I am tired because I went to an event yesterday and got in last night, so I went to bed late. Tail isn’t the only thing that leave you tired. -_-

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
10:41 am

“…Carl is convinced all his bad karma is coming back to haunt him now that his daughter is a teenager.” – How is that even possible? What Carl is remembering is how he played with women and hope no young punk plays with his daughter. It’s his guilt, has nothing to do with his daughter. Because of it, perhaps he can hip her to “game” when it comes her way or he can sniff out wolf in sheep clothing right out the gate.

Do you ever think about all those hearts you broke or the people you rejected? – I do. Every time I see a J.B. Hunt truck I think of the only person I’ve ever used. He was a sweet man, too goody goody for me, but he treated me nice and I liked him a little. We dated shy of 8 months before I came to my senses. He needed a straight laced woman at that time, and my walk was somewhat crooked.

Do you think that you made a lasting, negative impact on their lives? – I know I hurt him, but not sure of any lasting, negative impact. We all get up and brush ourselves off.

Good morning!

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
10:55 am

MsAtl ~ I was talking to a friend over the weekend saying “you want your cake and eat it too” was one of the dumbest phrases known to mankind. What am I supposed to do with my cake, stare at it???

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
10:56 am

disco ~ I have my party dress on and balloons in my hand…let’s get this party started!!!!

daddy swiss

October 21st, 2013
10:56 am

There’s no such thing as karma. It’s just a function of the human propensity to assign meaning to otherwise completely arbitrary events. Sometimes people do bad things and then have bad things happen to them. Sometimes people do bad things and live it up until the day they die. Sometimes people who’ve never hurt a fly have all kinds of bad things befall them. It happens. If Carl’s daughter is mistreated by some dude(s), it is only because she encountered bad dudes. It has nothing to do with anything Carl did or didn’t do in his dating life. It could have something to do with an inability to model for his daughter what a good dude looks like, but we don’t know Carl, so who knows if he should be concerned?

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
11:01 am

O/T: I’m looking at a video of a dude turning the crank on a machine. He does it for about eight hours a day. Mayne that’s gotta be tiring…being the only one left to keep that big ole machine going. I imagine he needs a rub down or some sort of physical therapy.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:04 am

slim – that description of ex’s feet was nothing nice. ewww. lol.

atl – ditto on the cake. heck yeah I want to eat my cake. i won’t front either. don’t leave your cake unattended around me. lol.

leggs – party dress? where’s the party?

leggs – did you finish the book? lol.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
11:06 am

I’m soooooo sleepy today. I’ve been up since about 4 a.m.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:07 am

swiss – all the good dude modeling in the world won’t help if carl’s daughter just has a hankering for the bad boys. lol.

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
11:10 am

Morning All!!

I like your post Swiss. While I do believe what generally goes around comes around, Carl and his past shenanigans have nothing to do with his daughter’s future. What matters is the example he is or isn’t setting for her now and what he is teaching her. Maybe he’s thinking back to the stuff he did and how it would break his heart if anyone did his daughter the same way. Try as he may, he can’t shield his daughter from the world.

As for apologizing, if you didn’t do it back when the transgressions happened, best to keep it stepping. I would not open old wounds that the other person no doubt has moved on from.

Diva, I agree with some of the others. Dude is trying to get one last hurrah on the side. Don’t fall for the okey doke.

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
11:10 am

Leggs- I know. Who came up with that?

Disco- ” i won’t front either. don’t leave your cake unattended around me. lol.” Well damn, lol. Thanks for the warning.

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
11:13 am

all the good dude modeling in the world won’t help if carl’s daughter just has a hankering for the bad boys. lol.

Hey Disco!! I totally agree!!

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:16 am

atl – I really like cake. lol. you should see the dent I put in a lemon pound cake this weekend. it ain’t nothing nice. lol. speaking of cake, some folks and I were discussing the best thing we ate on a cruise. my pick hands down was some coconut cake I had on a royal caribbean cruise once. it was all that.

daddy swiss

October 21st, 2013
11:17 am

disco — True. But I’d say her chances are better with a positive example from her father than without. Plus, that’s pretty much all he can do.

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
11:20 am

“party dress? where’s the party?

did you finish the book? lol.”

How quickly we forget. You said you will throw me a party when I finish the book.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:22 am

leggs – lol. hey, the dress threw me off. the kind of parties I throw don’t require party dresses. lol. anyway, glad you FINALLY finished. shoot if I took that long to finish a book I’d be done forgot what I was reading.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
11:30 am

Leggs – What book did you just finish up? I’m on an ‘off’ period with books right now. Get’s like that sometimes

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
11:34 am

In all seriousness, I don’t think the wheels are set in motion in aiming for our kids, for our sins committed, however I do believe a person come to terms when their own actions when they see “life” and growing pains awakening with their kids. Me personally? I came to terms a long time ago, before teenage years that my kid might not prescribe to my walk. I’m good with that because it’s her life and hers to make whatever choices she makes, and those choices to live or deal with…..if they’re bad decisions. It’s my job to teach and steer and be the best example I can be. But I don’t feel no kinda way about her growing pains, cause again, I haven’t spent my life abusing and mistreating folks.

Now for all those daddies that were/is hoes, I still believe and stand on, you’ll come to see how those wounded women felt once your daughter have some dude to shatter her heart in a gazillion pieces. Label it how you want, at that point though if you haven’t gotten it, you’ll “get” it then.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:35 am

slim – she just finished wench. she’s been reading it for 2 years, 4 months 3 weeks and 1 day.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
11:40 am

disco – Awww dayum! lol

Anybody seen “12 Years a Slave?

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
11:43 am

-Slim Haven’t seen it yet, but it is on my must watch movie list, right behind Best Man Holiday!!! ;-)

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
11:44 am

I always wear dresses to parties. Anyway, like I told 2C last week these slaves mingled with their massas a lot differently but at that dinner they remembered they were still slaves and at the whim of whatever their massas say. I knew Lizzie would lose her status (somewhat special as head wench). I still marvel at their interaction, the wife’s tolerance (not that she had a say in anything much), all that transpired on that plantation. All the characters were interesting and a lot of lessons in that book are still learned today, especially the last thing Lizzie wanted to tell her daughter. “Learn a craft so you’ll have something to barter other than your body!” How she went from head wench, fancy dresses (fancy to a slave) and vacationing with her massa as both slave and mistress to being chained to hindpost lapping up water from a dirty bowl trying to maintain a shred of dignity is the strenght of any slave. Quite a compelling story.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
11:44 am

-Leggs Please tell me Disco is just joking as to how long it took you to finish that book??? I definitley would’ve forgotten what was going on with the characters, LOL!!!

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
11:49 am

“A” called Baggage Claim a chick flick…lol I like Paula Patton, but it seems most of her roles, she whiiiines. The movie was cute. I especially liked Jill Scott. She was pretty funny, she and the gay white dude they were friends with. Mmm hmmm, I beend digging Dijimon since Blood Diamond.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:49 am

moni – yes. I was (mostly) joking. lol.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
11:50 am

-Celisea I saw Baggage Claim opening weekend and it is a cute movie. It was very predictable, but still cute.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
11:50 am

Moni – Oh yes, I do want to see Best Man Holiday too…I just hope it isnt disappointing as sequels tend to be.

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:50 am

C – you late then because I’ve been digging him since “give us us free” in Amistad. lol.

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
11:51 am

Moni- We already have a group going to see Best Man Holiday. Yep- waiting for it.
Haven’t seen Baggage Claim, but I plan to. Might as well wait for Redbox at this point…

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
11:52 am

-Disco/Celisea Ya’ll better get up off of Kimora’s husband, LOL!!!

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
11:52 am

” I’m on an ‘off’ period with books right now. Get’s like that sometimes” – Same here, but I think disco thinks I need to be on the short bus for slow readers (lololol).

I just finished reading Wench. I may start reading “Someone Knows My Name” after meeting tonight once I go up to my room. I bought it along, but may not even crack the spine. All depends how I feel after dinner with a bunch of fuddy duddies discussing water, fish and property lines. Blah, blah, blah….

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
11:52 am

Reports of shooting near Nevado middle school….crazy

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
11:52 am

Disco- Mmmm hmmm! (Give us Free & Gladiator)

disco

October 21st, 2013
11:55 am

moni – later for kimora

leggs – not the short bus. lol.

leggs – someone knows my name is pretty good too. that one covered a lot of territory. don’t take 6 months to finish it please. lol.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
11:55 am

I thought Kimora and hubby were no longer together? Maybe I got her mixed up with Seal and Heidi Klum???

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
12:00 pm

I watched Extreme Couponing some this weekend. They always try to add drama at the checkout, and it’s so predictable. Just once, I would like to see them get to the end and not have enough coupons to get the total down like they want!! I know I’m bad, but hey, it’ tv!LOL!!

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
12:01 pm

Slim- Nope, no mix-up; Kimora & Djimon split up and announced that they were never married to begin with.

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
12:02 pm

Slim – You didn’t mix them up, Kimora & Djimon broke up. They had a “ceremonial” service in his native Africa, but were not legally married in the US.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
12:02 pm

MissMonie – Definitely a cute movie. I was happy for the next door neighbor :)

MM/disco – I didn’t really “see” him til Blood Diamond. He’s a little dark for my taste, but buddy is fine as heck.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
12:03 pm

I heard Dijimon and Kimora parted way, post baby.

disco

October 21st, 2013
12:04 pm

kimmie – I am a couponer. not so much extreme but I’ve been couponing since way back. my friends were always telling me I should watch that show. I was always telling them they should know by now I don’t watch that stuff. I often have people behind me in line talking about they have got to start cutting coupons. i keep my coupon organizer in my car at all times.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
12:04 pm

I laughed hard when Jill Scott said (sounding like sista girl), “gettin da garbage can!!”

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
12:05 pm

disco ~ I’m cracking up. I just saw where you said how long it took me to read the book so my short bus comment was on point.

MissMoni ~ yes, she’s kidding. She’s acting up this morning!

MsAtl ~ saw Gravity IMAX 3D yesterday because I knew my child wouldn’t want to see 12 Years A Slave which is what I wanted to see. So, it was a toss up between Baggage Claim and Gravity. The fact that she was interested in seeing Gravity I jumped on that. Baggage Claim is the type of movie I’d wait unti it comes out on DVD. I enjoyed the 3D movie experience of Gravity.

kimora is no longer with Djimon (whatever his name is). I don’t think they ever married.

disco ~ ok, no 6 mos.

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
12:08 pm

Ok, I see I’m late re: kimora and djimon

MsAtl

October 21st, 2013
12:08 pm

Kimmie/Disco- Those extreme couponers messed it up for everyone. Kroger did away with double coupons recently. You can still stack coupons at Publix- double for manufacturer’s coupons plus use a store coupon. Target stacks as well.

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
12:19 pm

Nevado middle school?

where is dat at?

@SlimNu

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
12:20 pm

i keep my coupon organizer in my car at all times.

@Disco..now thats stretching a dalla….

good for u…

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
12:24 pm

-Kimmie In reference to Extreme Couponing: Did you see the episode with the 2 sisters who spent up to 12 hours on grocery trips & their husbands were complaining that they weren’t spending enough quality time together??? So their solution was to bring the husbands along. . . Needless to say they still spent 8 hours in the store BUT they got $680 worth of groceries for $47.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
12:27 pm

-Leggs Shut your mouth and keep on talking!!! Apparently I was late too on Kimora getting another divorce. The rumor is that he wasn’t making enough money for her. . .

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
12:33 pm

Hmmm never married…well I never really saw them together to begin with. Definitely looked like an odd couple.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
12:45 pm

Leggs – I saw Gravity and it kept my attention surprisingly.

Ex – At a middle school in Nevada :lol:

Moni – I haven’t seen him in anything recently…what is he doing??? (Dijimon)

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
12:50 pm

-Slim He’s in the movie Baggage Claim. :-)

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
12:53 pm

Moni – Oh okay, I haven’t seen it yet. Probably wait for its Red Box debut lol

Sassy Me ;-)

October 21st, 2013
12:59 pm

Anybody seen “12 Years a Slave?

No,not yet. Is it good?…looks like it.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
1:00 pm

I haven’t yet either but it looked like it would be good. I had too much going on this weekend. I tried some good ole lasagna for the first time. I must say it wasn’t bad for my first rodeo. ;-)

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
1:03 pm

Definitely looked like an odd couple.

..I think Kimora was intrugued by a mandingo package.

I heard she got a big box

Sassy Me ;-)

October 21st, 2013
1:06 pm

The rumor is that he wasn’t making enough money for her. . .

:shock:

She’s sstill getting alot of Russel’s moneny and her money(Baby Phat,tv,etc)so I really hope that wasn’t the cause…but you never know. Djimon was in Gladiator end I saw snippets of it last night and all I could think was “I wonder what it must be like to be with that much man”…I think he is so foine.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
1:13 pm

Ex – Who in the world could you have possibly heard that Kimora has a “big box” from? Sheesh

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
1:20 pm

-Sassy Me To date, Kimora is still receiving the largest sum of child support payments on record. She got the deal of all deals with Russell’s money!!!

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
1:20 pm

SlimNu….Exiled is a box examiner,he knows how big a box is by the way she walks…

SlimmNu…Lets see attending Movies, going to watch dude play bb..Ummm note to seldf…SlimNu is very close Durty needs to step in very soon…

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
1:28 pm

Kimora caught a lick with that child support payment, that was like winning the lottery…

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
1:29 pm

Durty – You may want to reconfigure your blog files…I went to a dude’s bb game YEARS ago…lolol I am not talking to that same dude now. Even though he did text me Friday, “WYD?” lol (What you doing?) I didn’t grace that with a response.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
1:33 pm

-Durty You are EXACTLY right about that, Kimora hit the JACKPOT!!!

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
1:38 pm

I can tell you one thing, they surely made the bar super high for their daughters when they get older. Poor fellas will probably have to bring their families W2 form to the house before going out on their 1st date.

Sassy Me ;-)

October 21st, 2013
1:39 pm

Kimora is still receiving the largest sum of child support payments on record.

IKR?!…that’s why I said she’s still getting alot of Russel’s money. She got PAID…what I’ve liked about their relationship is that they used to do things together as a family.(Kimora,Russel,Djimon and the chirren).

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
1:46 pm

Who in the world could you have possibly heard that Kimora has a “big box” from? Sheesh

@SlimNu..not jes Kimora..i got the box stats on Gabriell Union,Ember,Beyonce and Kim Kad…too..
Big Boxes..these ladies…

Not so goood news on Tyra…her Big forehead apparently is a head killer!
..gets in the way of good head.
:lol: :lol:

ima defintaely hustling the paparazzi track now…

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
1:47 pm

-Sassy Me YES, the family outings were definitely a plus!

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
1:48 pm

Ex :lol: :lol: You so stooooopid lol

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
1:57 pm

“Who in the world could you have possibly heard that Kimora has a “big box” from? Sheesh”

SlimNu ~ I’m catching up and I get to that part. Yeah right, nobody told him that mess!!!!

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
1:58 pm

Must be honest, I am so surprised we are still on page 2.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
2:00 pm

Leggs – Yeah we are creeping in here which is not good for me. I’m supposed to be working late tonight and i’m already feeling a case of the church nods coming on. Going to be a looooong day :???:

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:01 pm

Not so goood news on Tyra…her Big forehead apparently is a head killer!..gets in the way of good head.

OOOOMMMGosh

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:02 pm

I’m on our monthly forum with mgrs and we can’t all speak at the same dern time

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:03 pm

Whoo hoo…PAGE 3!!!

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
2:03 pm

“…they used to do things together as a family.(Kimora,Russel,Djimon and the chirren).”

Version of Demi Moore, Bruce Willis, Ashton Kurstner and the girls.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:04 pm

Look at me, I ain’t even been here the whole time :)

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
2:19 pm

Thank goodness you have not been here the whole time…Yoohoo! lol

SlimNu…My bad,I just trying to size up the competition…

Note to self…. Do not leave cake around Disco it will disappear…

Exiled…So your 2nd job is to find out how big the boxes of the female celebrities?

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:21 pm

Durty – Ha…nooo lie, I was just wondering where Mr. Potty Mouth was. You good for blowing smoke turning pages :)

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
2:22 pm

Turning pages.

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
2:22 pm

SlimNu so what days are you going to fit me in? Since the Falcons, Hawks and BullDawgs are not going to be good this year, I have plenty of dating time… :)

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
2:29 pm

Miss Moni – Yep I saw that episode. They had a marathon on Saturday so I had it on while I did my hair and organized closet. Can’t knock them, a legal hustle. While I would never go to that extreme, I did watch it thinking I really need to do better about saving coupons.

I have been flat broke the last 2 weeks, so I’ve been scrimping and saving, bringing lunch every day and spending just on absolute essentials like gas. Now that I see I can really do it and stick to it, I’m going to try it going forward, really see how cheap I can be! I’m concentrating on wearing the stuff I already have instead of buying more.

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
2:32 pm

Durty…paparazzi news pays good if u diligent.

I met Kenny the Jet Smith last sunday at my son’s bball practice,got a pic with him….but he aint got no dert…
I jes keep my undercover tape recorder and camera…jes in case.
Sitting behind him in the bleachers,if it was another..like Dwight Howard…I coulda made money..

pray for me Durty! :lol: ..thats my new gig.

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
2:40 pm

Durty..one of des days,maybe Howard is gon roll in with one of his new hos..I jes snap a pic..and run with the breaking news to Slimmy magazine..

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
2:45 pm

Why is it a slimmy magazine, Ex. Did you relieve yourself?

Sorry, it was right there.

disco

October 21st, 2013
2:57 pm

kimmie – I’ve kept my spending to a serious minimum this year. so much so that my credit card companies are taking notices. lol. they’re sending me letters and emails trying to encourage me to buy stuff. lol. I read that most people wear 20% of their clothes 80% of the time. with some commitment you can get by wearing stuff that’s just hanging in the closet getting no play. go for it.

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
2:59 pm

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
2:59 pm

Durty You can still take me to a game ;-)

disco

October 21st, 2013
3:03 pm

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
3:05 pm

Disco…u playing hard to get…it aint even nice nor lady like..

u think 2C is broke…u wrong for that! :lol:

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
3:05 pm

“I’m concentrating on wearing the stuff I already have instead of buying more.”

-Kimmie Honestly, I need to do that as well. I’m blessed to have a walk-in closet full of clothes and shoes and sometimes I forget what I already have. . . Definitely need to re-organize and donate the clothes I know I’m not wearing again and go from there.

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
3:09 pm

-Disco Those credit card companies definitely keep a very watchful eye on your spending. As soon as you’re not spending, they magically increase your credit limit to entice you to spend more. Oh, the games they play, LOL!!!

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
3:12 pm

It’s getting chilly outside…..lemme cuddle up against that size 8….

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
3:12 pm

Disco/Moni – At this point, really anything I get in the line of clothes & shoes is a WANT, not a NEED.

Imma do some thinning out too. Half that mess, if I never wear it, I’m just bored with it. Somebody else can get some good use out of it.

disco

October 21st, 2013
3:16 pm

2C – before I respond, who is that directed to?

kimmie / moni – I may have over-thinned. I’m the purge queen. I’ve got a shopping bag full of stuff in my trunk now I need to drop off with a friend. i’ve also got a pile of coats/jackets to get rid of. don’t know how I amassed them because I hardly even wear coats. I’m the chick that keeps a coat in the trunk of my car all winter but hardly ever put it on. lol.

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
3:17 pm

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
3:18 pm

Miss Moni – DSW was really tripping with me the start of the year. I’m a shoe freak, but the last 2 years I’ve not been buying as many. Plus I’ve been finding deals other places besides DSW. Well, they usually send me a $10 off coupon in my birthday month, January. How about this time they sent a $5 and said if I wanted a bigger one I needed to spend more money there?! I’m like you really have lost your dang mind!!

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
3:22 pm

kimmie – I can say i’m in desperate NEED of some new threads. :cry:

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
3:24 pm

Slim….I got it all taken care of for you…..

Durty…ummm, if you wanna date my estranged ‘ol girl, you need to spring for some new threads….you got some big shoes to fill, bruh…

disco

October 21st, 2013
3:24 pm

slim – definitely. just the fact that you said “threads” indicates you may need some updating. lol.

kimmie

October 21st, 2013
3:26 pm

I’m just tired of being broke. I’m really taking notice of how old money rich folks do it, folks that are used to it. Buying all these clothes & junk, it’s the poor get poorer. I’m really going to be making some moves to make some major changes so I can do more of what I really want, like travel.

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
3:29 pm

I have clothes I need to donate too. I also have a tall kitchen garbage bag of boys shoes size 9-11 that I must give away. Nice shoes and sneaks. I’m leery when it comes to the donate kiosks on corners. I need to go into the store and donate.

Leggs

October 21st, 2013
3:29 pm

kimmie, if I could use a different size font, I would say “I’m tired of being broke too!”

abc

October 21st, 2013
3:31 pm

Sure, you’ll break hearts that won’t mend. Don’t try to make amends, you can’t, unless you go back to them. Probably only to break their hearts all over again. And, there is no such thing as Karma. It’s a bit of an anti-Christian notion, isn’t it?

Miss Moni

October 21st, 2013
3:33 pm

-Kimmie OMGoodness, DSW really took it there! They really have some nerve!!!

-Disco That may be what I’m afraid of, giving away clothes that I may want to wear later. I’ve been putting it off for a few months, but my goal is to purge before the end of the year, LOL!

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
3:37 pm

disco – Now it all makes sense why the old heads keep trying to holla LOL

2C ;-)

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
3:39 pm

abc..where u been player? :lol:

Reio

October 21st, 2013
3:42 pm

Bet yall been talkin bout me, behind my back. But that’s ok, I’ll get you all when I get a chance. Been kinda busy lately.

Just move on from relationships. Don’t look back. Hell.

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
3:43 pm

2C…Well it’s a wrap, Slimnu…Baby when do you need to go shopping? Since I am older I will be your sugar daddy…lol

Celisea why I got to be a potty mouth? Now becareful how you response we don’t want you to kill the vibe..hehehehehe! j/k…

Exiled the paparrazi do pay really good for some good photos.

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
3:44 pm

SLimNu..I have a plan, date the old school for clothes and date me for fun… :)

Durty Burd

October 21st, 2013
3:51 pm

Celisea aren’t you going to make a guest appearance to get us to 4 pages? You know the blog does not work without you….

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
3:53 pm

Durty – Chile what do you want?!?!? Why are you so concerned about me? You just work on your blog boos…that should keep you occupied…lol

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
3:53 pm

Durty – How you gonna offer to take me on a shopping spree, then renig and tell me to date you just for fun. I don’t even know who you are anymore lol

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
4:04 pm

Durty – Celisea didn’t mean to yell at you…lol I should have placed a :mrgreen: on my 3:53. You need a forehead kiss, to make it better?

Now, be about your other blog boos…k? :)

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
4:08 pm

do I detect a bit of envy amongst one of the blog gals?

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
4:10 pm

Not from me. :) I just wanna be left OUT of the blog boos…that’s all I ask. Now, if Durty wanna spring for lunch on the for realla (is that corny…lol), name the location :)

I’m bout to cut out…I’z sooo tired.

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
4:11 pm

Ooooh, you was talking to Slim??? My bad…lolololol

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
4:15 pm

arrrrrf…..arrrffff…..

the sound of the hit dog hollerin’…..

Celisea

October 21st, 2013
4:17 pm

Not at all, my dear…not at all :) All this blog booing don’t work on me. IJS

Night!!

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
4:21 pm

Durty..take Celisea’s lernch offer..if u smoove with it…,boy u gon hit it!

thats a real lucky break there maiaaine…u talk bout luck

Trust yaself! :lol: take it…she say time and place..boy bring it…respresent the blog dudes for a change.

I know somebody was invited by Bluz and he chickened out! :lol:
loser!

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
4:38 pm

Ex, I agree…..Durty, represent for the fellas!!!

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
4:40 pm

Celisea – Not it…

2CPTG©

October 21st, 2013
4:43 pm

Slim ain’t got no reason to be envious….she got me! (sometimes)……

disco

October 21st, 2013
4:44 pm

durty – re your 3:44 to slim. I had to laugh because I had a guy tell me once years ago (on my birthday no less) to go out and let that other somebody wine me and dine me and to give him a call when I got back. lol. the nerve. dude wasn’t even hitting on nothing to think he had it like that.

Exiled

October 21st, 2013
4:56 pm

disco…broke dude was playing his hustle card.(give him A for hustle and originality)….he was hoping u wld not give the wining@dining dude no sympathy pudy.

SlimNu

October 21st, 2013
5:34 pm

Here all by my lonesome :-(