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Need a pick up line for men?

I have had several women emailing me asking for advice on how they can increase their dating options. They are not used to approaching men or trying to pick a guy up. It’s definitely not for the faint at heart or timid! Some men don’t require a lot of words to get the hint that you are really feeling him. Then there are those guys that are annoyingly oblivious to flirting and damn near need a flashing green light sign.

So let’s ask the men: What is the best way to approach men? How can a woman turn your head and get your attention without coming across as desperate?

Ladies, when was the last time you picked a guy out, approached him, and gave him your best pick up line? What did you say?? How did it work?

Do you think single women should approach men more if they want to switch things up a bit?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

175 comments Add your comment

Lee

October 18th, 2013
7:18 am

Dang, well when i was younger never picked anyone up with any kind of lines, i didn’t need to they came to me. Now well i don’t go anywhere to meet or pick someone up. So i have no advice. But if i were to pick someone up I guess i would start with, Hello

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
7:22 am

Hey All

How can a woman turn your head and get your attention without coming across as desperate? smile, and just being friendly works for me.

And if this is someone that you likely want run into again, just pass him your number.

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
7:39 am

How can she turn my head without coming across as desperate….?

No way it is possible…desperate women will just go for the jaguar..
It is desperate.
It is what it is!

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
7:44 am

Miss Moni

October 18th, 2013
7:54 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Ladies, when was the last time you picked a guy out, approached him, and gave him your best pick up line? In undergrad.

What did you say? Hello with a big SMILE!

How did it work? It worked well and he was quite flattered, however he did in fact have a girlfriend.

Do you think single women should approach men more if they want to switch things up a bit? Nope, not an advocate for women chasing men! A woman can let a man know that she’s interested without chasing after him. A hello with a smile is all you need. Anything more than that, you start to appear to be a floozy. Remember ladies YOU are the PRIZE, know your worth!!! ;-)

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
8:29 am

Today I’d like to hear what the men will say….

For me, no I don’t approach men. Nothing wrong with being friendly if you’re catching vibes or even if want to be friendly and send vibes, but I agree, the woman IS ALWAYS the prize. Don’t sell yaself short.

Hazel

October 18th, 2013
8:34 am

I wish I had the courage to approach a man, back in the day. Hello with a smile works though, like MissMoni said. Its FRIDAY!!

YesSheIsCute

October 18th, 2013
8:35 am

Good morning everyone! I am hoping the men chime in and it’s not just the ladies talking today like it was when the topic was when a man falls in love…..

Anywho, I don’t approach men, I don’t make the first move, I don’t pick up men. I personally feel like if a man is into me, he will approach me and if he is too timid to do so then he is not the man for me. I don’t chase men, if anything I feel like a man should be pursuing me. Isn’t that what they do when they want something? Prey don’t just come to predators don’t they hunt for it?

Also, I read a study which shows that the person who does the approaching has a high percentage of falling the hardest in that relationship.

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
8:35 am

I’m not gon be right for a minute….went to get coffee and got back home and dropped as I was getting out of the car…uuuuuggggghhhh, for real!!

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 18th, 2013
8:43 am

My little cousin has been keeping me up on the game lately.

Before he broke up with his girl, there was a young lady that was into him. He, like me, like most men was completely oblivious to her attraction. I told him about it, he didn’t believe me.

After the breakup, he asked her and she was like “YES! How did you NOT know?”

It struck me as funny because he, like most men that are relationship focused doesn’t recognize the affectations of the random chicks.

Which – to the topic – is the key.

Approaching a relationship minded/focused dude doesn’t take much (esp. if he’s not currently attached). The ones that are hook-up focused don’t need to be approached…they can feel a female’s lack of a mate.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 18th, 2013
8:46 am

To be clear,

There’s nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. Nothing.

The idea of that being “desparate” is silly.

A man with confidence appreciates that trait in others, specifically in a mate.

A guy that preys on weakness will project that weakness onto the female and her intent.

Let’s cut the foo-foo

SlimNu

October 18th, 2013
9:03 am

Hi there, you have a really sexy look to you. My name is Peaches, would you like to come home and fugg me? How you durrin :lol:

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
9:10 am

Haven’t really picked up a guy, but I remember approaching this handsome tall drink of water. We were at a bar and I walked over to him, introduced myself and offered to buy him a drink. I complimented him on the suit he was wearing. We struck up a nice convo. We talked so long I forgot my car was parked in a parking lot that had a time limit. We walked back to get my car but it was locked behind that dang gate. He paid for a taxi for me to get home. We remained friends for many years. Lost contact.

It’s “jugular.”

Good morning.

MsAtl

October 18th, 2013
9:11 am

Morning All!

SlimNu- I see you are cutting up early this morning, lol.

I have never picked up a man, but I guess I would just smile and say hello.

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
9:16 am

@ SlimNu.
……the moment you say name is ‘Peaches’,bump the ‘Fugg me’ part..he already assumes and knows it!
You font need to say it.

:lol:

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
9:30 am

SlimNu ~ I see you’re starting early!

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
9:33 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪Happy, Happy Birthday, Mrs. SexyCool♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

SlimNu

October 18th, 2013
9:39 am

Hi my name is Slim and I was noticing from across the room that you look like a man that can perform bomb arse earmuffilectomies. Care to prove me wrong?

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
9:40 am

SlimNu ~ you’re going about this all wrong (lololol).

SlimNu

October 18th, 2013
9:40 am

:oops: It’s Friday!! Whoop Whoop!

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
9:40 am

MMeello? What are some of the lines you’ve used. Seems you’re pretty much the only man left that blogs regularly.

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
9:42 am

Slim that’s a good way also, get straight to the point, since you ladies say you know from the beginning whether or not he’s getting some. (LOL)

I’ll have to agree with Dan, If the man is confident in himself, it want come across as desperate. It show’s that you’re not the type to always sit and wait on the man to take the lead.

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
9:43 am

I said “used” seeing as “yous married now” :) :) Don’t want you to think I’m tryna get you to give away you side ho game…lol

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
9:45 am

Slim it’s my Monday :-D

SlimNu

October 18th, 2013
9:46 am

Leggs – Am i? lolol

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
9:48 am

what’s a earmuffilectomies

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
9:52 am

Celisea…I hope u didn’t insult anybody.

..good morning!

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
9:53 am

Celisea..but today is about the lines you would use not the other way round.

SlimNu

October 18th, 2013
9:55 am

Single – You know when your head is between two legs?….lol

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
9:55 am

MMeello – I hope not either…tee hee hee :) I’m hushing today, since I’m working from home. I’m just gone peek in here and there, while giving other folks an opportunity to speak.

I just addressed you, cause you’re here regularly. Just making convo, or attempting to :)

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
9:56 am

MMeello – Nuh uh, Diva asked the men for feedback on the best way to approach them.

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
9:58 am

ohhhhh I see slim

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
9:59 am

MMeello – Also, I knows you’re faith to Queen, so I said line you “used” to use. Heavens no, wouldn’t want to even project that I believe otherwise. I know you just on here kidding and horsing around….

hehehehehe

Don’t want to offend :mrgreen:

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
10:00 am

faithFUL and lineS

Durty Burd

October 18th, 2013
10:10 am

Gooooood Morrrrrrrrrrrrnnnnnnnnnnnning! :)

Happy Friday to everyone!

Celisea I want to thank you for giving me the opportunity to blog today… whew where did you come from? hehehehehehe!

Oh by the way The Wise one had 2 questions for the men and 4 questions for the ladies…The questions were not only directed to the men..

Exiled

October 18th, 2013
10:10 am

Celisea…me,I’m always good..I don’t read more than what’s said…if in doubt I aks.:lol:

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 18th, 2013
10:14 am

Back when it mattered…

I never used pickup lines…unless I was trying to be funny in the approach (and was inebriated) .

Main thing was having her meet me halfway. She needs to make a choice and put some actions behind it. Didn’t matter if she was 5 steps away, she needs to take them 2.5…

Other than that, “Aye shawty!” usually got it, cause…well…I look like this….

kimmie

October 18th, 2013
10:15 am

Morning All!!

The singer is at it again! Looks like she’s getting louder every day!! My coworker that sits on the other side of her gets irritated too, he told me yesterday. Glad it’s not just me!!!

On topic – I don’t know if you can call it me that did the approaching. Like Miss Moni, it’s probably been since undergrad. And even then, I smiled and said hello, struck up a convo. Still let the guy take the lead and ask for my number. If he didn’t, oh well.

I believe in making yourself approachable and letting a guy know you’re interested by mild flirting. Other than that, I’d prefer that the guy make the first move to exchange numbers and do the initial asking out. If he doesn’t I take it that he’s not interested. If he’s shy, that’s okay too, cause I don’t care for shy men, it’s not cute to me. Even the shyest guys I’ve seen muster up enough courage to throw their hat in the ring if they are really interested. So those that don’t, I have no use for.

It all worked out for me fine. But I don’t knock any woman that prefers a different approach.

Yay Friday!!!!

Celisea

October 18th, 2013
10:16 am

Durty – You’re welcome :mrgreen: Oh, and it ain’t that you don’t have an opportunity, just folks aiming. We have what, a high page count of 5 or 6? Yeah, okay then. Speak on :)

Durty – Well? We’re waiting

MMeello – Me too

Durty Burd

October 18th, 2013
10:17 am

A simple smile and hello does it for me all the time..

Ladies sometimes a man maybe preoccupied to notice you at the moment so if you are feeling dude step up and say hello.
Ladies and quit using the if a man wants me he will show it, men get tired of being turned down as well, if you see something you like step up and say hello.

Sometimes men think “well this beautiful woman” must already be taken there is no way should could be single. So they may pass on the opportunity to introduce themselves.

Even if a woman comes to me and state you can have this puddy anyway you want it, I will never considered her desperate. Now making a fool of yourself in public is a sign of desperation, don’t do that!

I know the ladies are looking for pick-up lines for the men,but on must attempts to get the ladies attention it is a spur of the moment thing for me…What she might have on, the perfume she is wearing, how she is looking that day,etc…

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
10:18 am

Dan ~ guess you missed blogging the other day when talked about “conceit” (lolol). Dude, you are funny!

Durty Burd

October 18th, 2013
10:21 am

SlimNu….You got me feeling some kinda way this morning with those comments… :wink:

I saw a slim brown skin young lady at the store yesterday and low and behold she had a gap, I starting thinking about Sexy SlimNu saying to myself I gotta take this lady out to lunch…soon and very soon! :)

Be approachable some woman out here today want some attention but look like they might shoot you if come over and say hello…

Leggs

October 18th, 2013
10:22 am

Durty ~ to be honest, I’m not sitting here waiting to see if you guys can give any advice on how to pick up a dude simply because I’m going to do what works for me, not some line a guy believes may work. I have to feel the words that are coming out of my mouth, and I can only do that by being me. No gimmicky quips, just an introduction and a sincere compliment.

kimmie

October 18th, 2013
10:35 am

Ladies and quit using the if a man wants me he will show it- Durty, when has this not been true though?

men get tired of being turned down as well – Durty, I’m sure they do but that’s life. Sometimes women get tired of not being approached too. Again, just part of the game.

Durty Burd

October 18th, 2013
10:40 am

Kimmie….I should have elaborate further on my comment, I simply meant waiting on the sidelines all the time will keep you on the bench! :wink:
My sports analogy! hehehehehe!

Now step aside Mrs.(keep it real) Kimmie…I am vibing on SlimNu this morning….hehehehehe

Single and Happy

October 18th, 2013
10:41 am

Kimmie, if it’s part of life, then shouldn’t it go both ways?

2CPTG©

October 18th, 2013
10:52 am

morning…..

I’m a master at reading subliminal messages….so a gal ain’t really gotta say anything to let me know she’s diggin me…..

DuShawn

October 18th, 2013
10:53 am

A man is always flattered when a woman finds him worthy of her attention. My advice for women would be; don’t put too much thought into it. Just say hello, make eye contact and smile. If you show most men the slightest inclination that you may be receptive to letting him get between them thighs at some point in the future, he will pursue.

kimmie

October 18th, 2013
10:54 am

Single – A lot of stuff “should” be but is not. Everything in life isn’t fair.

Nobody likes getting turned down, or passed over. It’s the chance you take, whether you do the approaching or are waiting to be approached.

Durty Burd

October 18th, 2013
10:55 am

Hi there, you have a really sexy look to you. My name is Peaches, would you like to come home and fugg me? How you durrin? Don’t mind if I do Peaches! I am doing really well! :wink:

Hi my name is Slim and I was noticing from across the room that you look like a man that can perform bomb arse earmuffilectomies. Care to prove me wrong?

You are 100 percent correct Slim, I can perform the bomb arse eamuffilectomies, I have a 2 yr associate degree in eamuffilectomies…hehehehehe!