I think everyone desires to have a healthy sex life and consider it important in a relationship. I just wonder when so many claim that they don’t want a “boring” or vanilla partner, are they really sure about the amount of spice they can handle?
I ask because one of my guy friends used to say that a woman’s bedroom skills could make or break the relationship. Then just the other day, he told me that his new woman’s skills “scared” him a bit. Apparently, she did some things that caught him off guard. He refuses to go in to detail (Yes, I am that nosy and so I asked) but suffice it to say he is rethinking his old “woman in the street, freak in the sheets” mantra.
Clearly, as his friend, I ridiculed him relentlessly because this was a classic case of careful what you wish for! What would you do if you were in a relationship with someone who was “too spicy” for your particular taste?
Do you get on their level? Do you ask them to chill on the freaky stuff that make you uncomfortable?
I wonder if it is really about finding the right partner with the right amount of spice we can take? Should there be some kind of balance?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta