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Stupid dating tricks: Video Texts?

Guy spots girl in Starbucks. He gives her a some pick up line and manages to get the digits. He later texts her a video..something. Not sure what to call it but it got posted online and it went viral. Is it a promo? A trailer? A sex tape invitation?

Since he used Drake’s Hold On, We’re Going Home song while trying to do some weird sexy hand peek-a-boo maneuver, people started an internet meme #DrakeHands. This is what dating has come to now? Not only do we NOT call and have a conversation, we moved beyond texting and now we are at video texts.

What would you do if someone sent you something like this? Would you be impressed? Creeped out?

What is the dumbest pick up line or gesture you have done to get someone’s attention? I once nearly hit a guy on his bike …intentionally. I don’t know WHAT I was thinking but he was going by fast and I couldn’t think of words, so I almost had an accident with him. So awful. Clearly he saw right through that!

Do you think stupid dating tricks like this ever pay off?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

337 comments Add your comment

Durty Burd

October 10th, 2013
12:36 pm

MsAtl…I was referencing something Celisea stated in a previous post…I’m going Celisea on the blog today….Tooodles, BBL…

Later I’m going to Robert on the blog and do Top Ten lists..lol

disco

October 10th, 2013
12:37 pm

durty – think young, feel young, act young, look young. none of that changes the truth. lol.

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
12:37 pm

Durty ~ you’re preaching to the choir. I sing those praises all day every day, except the blue pill part.

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
12:37 pm

point was the prospect of my private parts less interesting than a playful argument with his cousin?

YSIC?..so u were ready to be hunched and he was dilly dallying?

….am i right in that observation..and was that in ATL….?

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
12:38 pm

HUSH, disco. You’re like a wet blanket (lololol).

2CPTG©

October 10th, 2013
12:43 pm

yes, cutie…see me after lunch….and close the door behind you….. :evil:

DuShawn

October 10th, 2013
12:50 pm

“unfortunately all of my sponsors (or perhaps former sponsors) are acting all janky……”-disco- This relates to yesterdays topic ” Bait and Switch” . I don’t blame them! You bait um up like they gone get some, (even if you tell them the business before hand, trust… they still think they bout to hit) they fly you around the world, and then you get to the hotel and switch to friend mode. Fool me once…….(you know the rest)

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
12:52 pm

@DB Oohh let me do the list
Top ten reasons why I would not be impressed with a video text
1. It shows you have too much time on your hands.
2. It makes me wonder just extensive is your video repertoire.
3. I don’t have time to watch a video, just pick up the phone and call.
4. It comes off as desperate trying too hard.
5. It is just plain weird. I mean really who sends video texts.
6. Less is more. A video message is just doing too much.
7. A picture is worth 1000 words. Just send a pic.
8. No real reason, I still just don’t get it.
9. Unless it’s a long distance thing. Just don’t.
10. I would be much more impressed if you just showed up in person and said/did whatever it was you had to say/do.

2CPTG©

October 10th, 2013
12:53 pm

I would be much more impressed if you just showed up in person and said/did whatever it was you had to say/do

:shock:

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
12:56 pm

Sidenote: I met this guy and found out after the fact that I work with his sister. Now everytime I see her I’m reminded of him. One of those that had to go, because he had a full on 2T temper tantrum because he wasn’t getting it. If he would have just played it cool for a week or two…but no he had to act like an infant. And I really liked him! He could have been the one! :(

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
1:04 pm

YSIC ~ it might have been the same guy I briefly went out with. He threw a temper tantrum when I hadn’t given him any after knowing him 21 days! Tried to come back months later to explain, but I wasn’t trying to hear anything. Pure childish.

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
1:07 pm

“If he had only played it cool a week or two”…exactly, because I was going to go there!

MsAtl

October 10th, 2013
1:08 pm

Leggs/Yes- Really? Temper tantrums? Come on now! If you can’t go without for a few weeks then you need help. You two did the right thing.

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
1:14 pm

@Leggs and @MsAtl oh yeah. During his temper tantrum attitude he started saying I gave him blue balls. Really did we still use the term blue balls after high school? Anyway, I was like no you gave them to yourself I told you not to expect anything when you come over here. You were all like no I just know you are busy with your daughter a lot of the time and I just want to see you. Sucks because we both work for an airline. I would have had no problem christening every island both of our companies fly to. And english was his second language so you know he almost had me. But nooooo he just had to go and be an infant/toddler.

And blue balls? Really? Leggs did he speak Spanish? If so, it probably was the same guy.

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:14 pm

Leggs..so how did this go..u teased him and then stopped or he just said he wanted sum?

I mean..was there any ummm..

just give us the play by play then. :lol:

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:18 pm

If u can’t go without for a few weeks?

MsAtl..that works if I have been hitting it and u suddenly get busy and we can’t ..that’s understandable.

For the first time,a lot of dudes want to dust that and be done with it..then u can put him on a known schedule,they will be alright.

@YSIC..dude had blue balls because u never gave him none!

A first time is always worth More! :lol:

MsAtl

October 10th, 2013
1:22 pm

Exiled- “For the first time,a lot of dudes want to dust that and be done with it..then u can put him on a known schedule,they will be alright.” I stand by my original post! If you can’t wait for it, you are not worth it.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
1:26 pm

Yeah…

I once ruined a 3some by going outside to call my friend…I really couldn’t believe it was going to happen..

I went back in, found out they heard the whole convo….

And they made me wait a few hours…

Apparently, (according to them) they didn’t think of it until after they heard me talking about it; but they decided to punish me/see if I’d stick around and make the move to start it…

aaaaahhhhhh, the single days….

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:26 pm

I agree MsAtl..a worthy and smove dude will wait.

Because u wana hunch her when she ready to let her hair down and give u a 5 star porn action! :lol:

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
1:29 pm

@MsAtl

Riddle me this, if you’re waiting, but planning on “giving” him some at a later (arbitrary) time, why the wait?

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:31 pm

Dan..I can see balls turning blue,cold,dark black and fade to flat.

Damn thru punished u for the juvenile move..

Young days!! :lol:

I once hit this nurse in my car,outside her sister’s home that she lived with. It was pouring rain.

Then I bragged to my boys bout it.

One of those punks told her…

She called me angry and benched me.

A1 pudy!

….juvenile moves. :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
1:31 pm

Ms.Atl ~ I was very disappointed in him. Oh well, that was all he wanted and it backfired in his face. Umm….nevamind.

YSIC ~ mine asked me if I knew that sex was an important part of a relationship. I informed him that I knew this, but first one must be in a relationship dumbcluck.

Ex ~ I don’t tease and pull away. If I’m teasing you please belive we will have a home run at the end of the evening. He just came out and asked me that question then went into a tirade of wh am I taking so long. Immediately turned off.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
1:32 pm

Fellas – I was talking to a guy yesterday and he was going on about how chicks always begging. Says he’s met a chick and 48hrs later she was asking for help/money for her bills, rent etc. Have ya’ll experienced beggin arse women too?

DuShawn

October 10th, 2013
1:35 pm

I once ruined a 3some by going outside to call my friend…Dan I feel you on that one. A similar rookie mistake has been made by many. I’ve done worse.. I’ve gotten butt booty naked first…..like I just know it’s about to go down……………It didn’t.

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
1:36 pm

@Leggs I think it was the same guy!!! Does he live in Jonesboro :lol:
@Dan I thought I saw potential in him and didn’t want it to be a one night stand situation…. We went through the whole your body is saying something different. First of all, you wouldn’t know what my body was saying if you weren’t so agressive to having your way, and second of all, no means no. Just drop it and be smooth. I would have made up for it later when I was comfortable. Is all I’m saying.

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:40 pm

Yes Slim!

It happens…those are gamers and also hustlers(h wrd)

Some ladies hustle with their pudy to pay bills,make up,nails done hair did,rent paid and let dudes hit.

They just don’t call themselves prostitutes.

@Leggs…dude had no skill

Period

MsAtl

October 10th, 2013
1:41 pm

Dan- It’s not that I am planning or not planning on giving a man some. What I am saying is that I am not getting with a man from jump without getting to know him. If he wants to get to know me, fine. If all he wants is some tail, he can move on to the next one. It may work for some folks, but that is my personal choice. If I am looking for a partner, I am not spreading myself around, I am waiting to give myself to my potential partner. That is not a decision I make in a week. That is not to say that I have not been sexually attracted to men, but I am looking for more.

Single and Happy

October 10th, 2013
1:43 pm

Hey again all

Slim from your question this morning the biggest age gap was 23 years

And yes I’ve meet some beggin arse women too.

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:46 pm

Dushawn/2C..so if u dating a chic and u ain’t smashed yet,how u go bout it?

U tell her str8 up,’hey,I wanna smash’ or u wait untill she herself is feeling it then tells u?
Lemme know… I ain’t hunched one of your kind before so I dont know. :lol:

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
1:47 pm

@YSIC

Interesting…

So, you wanted to wait to you were “more comfortable” and have him start the car and idle…I get it. It happens.

Then another question, if you will; if that pulled off and got gas, washed, waxed, and vacuumed spotless, would you have held it against him?

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
1:48 pm

MsAtl..u going round and round…

After u establish that this is your ‘more’,then what?

How he know u ready to hunch him?

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
1:50 pm

“Says he’s met a chick and 48hrs later she was asking for help/money for her bills, rent etc” – better known as an opportunist. WOW! I could never do that. She probably sell him a sniff as well…ijs

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
1:50 pm

@Slim

Yeah, they came with it. But “while I respect your circumstance and your honesty, I can’t help you. We can’t get down like that.”

That’s when they start offering to barter….

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
1:54 pm

“dude had no skill” – Same thing I said to myself, Ex!

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
1:56 pm

Dan – That’s just crazy to not know a person and ask for money off the rip.

MsAtl

October 10th, 2013
1:57 pm

Exiled- I don’t think a man would have a problem knowing. Communication is key.

DuShawn

October 10th, 2013
2:00 pm

Ex – we all know the best game is no game. When it comes to the beautiful girls, that all the fellas sweat for the booty, a true vet takes the opposite approach. Don’t ever mention it. Pretend sex is the furthest thing from your mind. Emphasize the true value is friendship and just getting to know her as a person. There is some truth to that approach, but we as men know the effort it takes not to bum rush that big ole pretty azz. Now, if she’s a foot dragger, It doesn’t require that much thought. Just tell her the business. What you gone do? I ain’t got time to play.

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
2:00 pm

How he know u ready to hunch him? – Is this a trick question?

MsAtl ~ my exact sentiments. I not into jumping bones for the hell of jumping bones. Let me get to know you first. In my instance, I didn’t know much about him. I remember asking why he’s never invited me to his place. He told me his mother lived with him and he doesn’t have company over. Ummmm, ok, I’m so not the girl you’re looking for. His mother passed a few months later. I found this out when he reached out to me to take me out for a drink. Damage done, heart done turnedto stone where he’s concerned.

Single and Happy

October 10th, 2013
2:00 pm

Leggs, slim, when they start telling me about their bills I tell them about mine, and let them know I can’t support to homes, (LOL)

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
2:06 pm

kimmie

October 10th, 2013
2:12 pm

Slim – It’s begging women just like it’s begging men. It’s a certain type that do that and it goes with the territory. Your friend needs to upgrade his selection process. Where is he meeting these women? On the flip, dudes be complaining if a woman is TOO independant! I personally would be sleeping on the floor before I asked a dude for money. As long as I got family & friends, a dude would be the absolute last I would ask, especially one I just met. But then, I was not a lot of men’s cup of tea, with my proud behind!!LOL!!!

You damned if you do & damned if you don’t.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
2:15 pm

kimmie – The same dude did also mention him dating a very wealthy chick. Said she was too bossy and acted like she was the one with the 3rd leg. So there ya have it. lol

2CPTG©

October 10th, 2013
2:23 pm

Ex, Du beat me to it….”the game of no game!” Don’t sweat her……talk about everything but sex, and before you know it, she’ll be throwin the panties at ya…..or, one that’s helped me; while she’s over at your crib, have one of your fine ass female friends stop by; make tho, your female friend looks better than your potential, introduce ‘em and let ‘em chop it up a bit…..by the time the friend leaves, the potential will have all kinds of thoughts running thru her head……but the trick to that is, she’ll know that the other chic is only a friend….and again, she’ll be throwin the panties at ya…….

kimmie

October 10th, 2013
2:23 pm

Slim – See what I mean? Too bad he can’t find anybody “medium”. LOL!!

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
2:26 pm

@dan I don’t know what you mean with “start the car and idle”. I’m guessing you mean get him started and then go nowhere?

I mean honestly when he came in he sat on one couch and I sat on the other. I don’t think I led him on or anything like that. He was the one trying to get closer and closer while I was trying to actually have a conversation and keep some distance. He did it to himself. But I learned a lesson. A true “no” is not even letting anyone in the house. Because guys see sitting on the couch as an opportunity I guess in hindsight I can’t blame him. But DON’T tell me that you don’t want to do anything and that you just want to spend time with me when that’s not what you mean. And then get mad because all I wanted to do was spend time with you like you said.

“Then another question, if you will; if that pulled off and got gas, washed, waxed, and vacuumed spotless, would you have held it against him?” I don’t know what you mean by that analogy. Please explain.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
2:30 pm

kimmie – Um, he was trying to find me :lol: :shock:

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
2:33 pm

@SlimNu I had a guy ask me for money after the second date. He called me from Peachtree (mental hospital) asking me for money. Can you say dismissed! I was starting to like him….

I don’t know where these guys come from SMH

kimmie

October 10th, 2013
2:35 pm

Slim – LOL!!!

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
2:36 pm

Yes – Heyal naw lololol

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
2:42 pm

@SlimNu he said he was in the hospital and needed money but when I asked if he was hurt or had surgery or what he was vague. So I googled the number he called from. Sure enough peachford (not peachtree my bad) mental hospital comes up. The story gets loonier than that. I don’t know how many times I had to tell that boy to stop calling me.