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Stupid dating tricks: Video Texts?

Guy spots girl in Starbucks. He gives her a some pick up line and manages to get the digits. He later texts her a video..something. Not sure what to call it but it got posted online and it went viral. Is it a promo? A trailer? A sex tape invitation?

Since he used Drake’s Hold On, We’re Going Home song while trying to do some weird sexy hand peek-a-boo maneuver, people started an internet meme #DrakeHands. This is what dating has come to now? Not only do we NOT call and have a conversation, we moved beyond texting and now we are at video texts.

What would you do if someone sent you something like this? Would you be impressed? Creeped out?

What is the dumbest pick up line or gesture you have done to get someone’s attention? I once nearly hit a guy on his bike …intentionally. I don’t know WHAT I was thinking but he was going by fast and I couldn’t think of words, so I almost had an accident with him. So awful. Clearly he saw right through that!

Do you think stupid dating tricks like this ever pay off?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

337 comments Add your comment

Lee

October 10th, 2013
7:16 am

Do you think stupid dating tricks like this ever pay off? only if you are under 20 years old. At this time in my life you just come off stupid — in my opinion

Never used a pick up line, but there was this time hehe this 100% total hot damn fine body builder was talking to me, I could not talk at first — think i was 18 or 19 at the time. We went out a few times– all he had going for him was his body, 100% jerk!

Single and Happy

October 10th, 2013
7:19 am

Hello all

I guess things will always evolve in life. Not something I would do.

What would you do if someone sent you something like this? I’m not sure, would have to cross that road when I got to it.

Hazel

October 10th, 2013
7:53 am

When I was in my early 20’s, I would have been creeped out. But with some age and experience, I would find it creative and would give him a chance. I once went over a parking lot cement divider as I was too caught up in trying to get attention of this guy. He did end up taking me on a date, but it go nowhere.

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
8:31 am

They are only ’stupid’ if they don’t work and juvenile if they are used by the younger folks.

But sometimes,folks get creative in order to get what they desire. It does not have to be a video text.

Even frown folks go ‘overboard’ too,with dating or marriage desires.

It is what it is!

Good morning MIA!
(word of caution:Diva,this topic is for your junior league blog tho) :lol:

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
8:32 am

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
8:37 am

Actually this happened to me this week. This guy said he was going to send me a video (of only God knows what), because he apparently wanted me to share in his emotion of arousal. While I like the guy, I was not impressed by that and promptly invited him not to send it to me.

This is the second time that’s happened. Well the first time was years ago, this guy from DC didn’t even warn me he just sent it [the video] to me. I think I’m still traumatized……

Isn’t sexting against the law or something?

What is the dumbest pick up line or gesture you have done to get someone’s attention? I don’t think I’ve ever tried to pick someone up with a line or tried to hit on anyone. Maybe since I’m 30 now I will live a little and try it.

Button

October 10th, 2013
8:41 am

I won’t go as far as saying what this guy did was stupid. I saw the video and there’s really nothing to it except a guy smiling and wiping his eyes. I give him a B+ for creativity. I read he did get a date with the model girl from Starbucks. I am a huge fan of calling first but this gets a pass bc he kept it clean and short oh and it was too cute.

Do you think stupid dating tricks like this ever pay off? sometimes they do, it gives you both something to laugh about.

Good morning!

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
8:45 am

Depending on what the video text or whatever was PLUS whether or not I was attracted to him, I just may think it was cute and creative. Now if I’m SOOOOO not attracted to the guy, i’d think he was creepy. I’d probably also think he does a lot of random wang shucking videos, texts etc…

Morning gang!

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
8:52 am

What would you do if someone sent you something like this? Would you be impressed? Creeped out?

Be irked to no end….lol

Stupid Dating Tricks is our title so I’ll just sum it up with….

Stupid is as stupid does

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
8:54 am

BTW Good morning everyone. Weekend is almost near :D

Reio

October 10th, 2013
9:05 am

Morning All!

Never used a pickup line.
During my dating years there was no cells, texts, or video. So, I wouldn’t know anything about that. I suppose that if I were to meet someone and she sent me a video, the only way I would see it as a cute gesture, is if she had taken the time to call to talk, at least once, before the video.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:06 am

Quick question: What’s the biggest age gap of anyone you’ve ever dated?

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
9:08 am

Ding, ding

If s/he’s cute (or more bluntly, if you want to bang) then it’s “cute”. If the person is not attractive, then s/he’s crazy.

It’s always been funny how that works

DuShawn

October 10th, 2013
9:08 am

Old School Players and New School Fools

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
9:11 am

@Slim

22 years

2CPTG©

October 10th, 2013
9:15 am

morning….

gotta agree with Ex….this topic is for the younger folks……..

Leggs…..gal, I lost an hour of my life last nght with that nonsense….Preachers of LA…

DuShawn

October 10th, 2013
9:16 am

The last time I sent a video it was on Betamax.

MsAtl

October 10th, 2013
9:17 am

Morning All!

I wouldn’t want to receive random video texts as the first “conversation” after meeting someone.

Slim- 10 1/2 years

Reio

October 10th, 2013
9:19 am

SlimNu – “What’s the biggest age gap of anyone you’ve ever dated?”

For me, probably about ten years older; She was older. Don’t know if one would call it dating in the classic sense. We were both attending the same college(UAB), and had a chemistry class together. Got paired up with her in chemistry lab. One thing led to another, and we made plans to meet at the cafeteria for lunch and discuss the upcoming exam.
We did. It went on from there, but, in answer to your question, she was ten years my senior. Don’t remember anybody else being older than ten years. The vast majority of them were younger(Just a bit). A few around the same age.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:22 am

Dan – Are you serious??? WOW!!! Was she older or younger than you and how did that work out? Any major issues as a result of the large age gap?

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:23 am

It was 10 years older, eons ago. Everyone has been younger :mrgreen:

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:24 am

Dushawn – I was in a thrift shop the other day and saw a display of 8 tracks and cassette tapes. lolol

Reio – Why did that courtship end?

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:26 am

Preachers of LA was a hot mess. I can’t believe they’d open up on tv clowning like that…just uggggh That felt like playas and pimps

Reio

October 10th, 2013
9:28 am

“If s/he’s cute (or more bluntly, if you want to bang) then it’s “cute”. If the person is not attractive, then s/he’s crazy.”

While I can certainly understand how that works, especially with younger folks, even when I was younger; I never really thought much about a woman’s looks. Don’t know why. I’m not blind. I see what all other men see. I was just never taken aback, if you will, by a cute face or beautiful figure. That’s just me though.

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
9:34 am

@SlimNu 15 years. I was 18 at the time and he was 33. I didn’t KNOW he was 33, I thought he was in his 20s until he said something that insinuated that he was much older. When I pressed him for his age he didn’t want to say. I found out by looking at his wallet when I went into the bathroom. Didn’t work out. I was innocent when I met him and innocent when I left (as I planned) which wasn’t in his plans.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:34 am

Celisea – You like those young whipper snappers huh lol

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:36 am

First the Betamax tapes (in which I burst out laughing)

and now……

Slim – Whipper snappers….lololol ha ha ha No more than four years younger :mrgreen:

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:40 am

Yes – When I was in my 20’s I met a guy on the hwy (lol) and he lied about his age…told me he was way younger than he was.

Celisea – I forgot about that show and have been waiting to see it. Sounds like it was everything I expected it to be. BUt why would you jeopardize your rep as a preacher by some drama-filled reality show. I wouldn’t be able to take them serious after that.

Button

October 10th, 2013
9:40 am

SlimNu- Quick question: What’s the biggest age gap of anyone you’ve ever dated? 12 years younger, 7 years younger and my fiance is 6 years younger.

Reio

October 10th, 2013
9:42 am

” Why did that courtship end?”

Well, I’m sorry, maybe I misrepresented this relationship. That’s why I said earlier “Don’t know if one would call it dating in the classic sense.”
We would meet to study together. We both lived off campus, but I don’t remember either of us visiting the other’s home. Had several phone conversations. Attended a basketball game or two, UAB didn’t have a football team yet. I saw her as a very intelligent, opinionated, somewhat provocative, person. Interesting. Kind. But not a person that I wanted to spend a lot of time with. She was the instigator. Everything we did together, was at her suggestion, not mine. I either agreed to it(most of the time), or not. After that class ended, we just kinda faded into the abyss.

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:45 am

Slim – Exactly. For the sake of those watching and the effect it might have, I’d much rather be more circumspect and not give anyone an out or opportunity to place or lay blame. Even if they say they have a message or if they say it’s under the right intents, I wouldn’t expose myself in such a way, being men of the cloth. You gotta give folks something to reach for that’s not what they see or already familiar with. Many won’t take them seriously after that show.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

October 10th, 2013
9:48 am

She was older, I was 18 she was 40. It didn’t work out because it was never going to, we were both in it for the sex (and me for the other perks that an 18yo with a 40yo “girlfriend would get – money, housing, experiences). The minute she – more appropriately, her friends -got to feeling somekindaway about the relationship and me, it was over.

I think it she could have been honest with her self or happy with what we had, it would have lasted longer. But it was never going to be much beyond the sex.

SlimNu

October 10th, 2013
9:52 am

Reio – I’d classify that as “Something to Do”…lol

Dan – Gotcha…I remember this 18yo dude was so smitten with me when I was in my late 20’s. I just couldn’t bring myself to go down that road though.

YesSheIsCute

October 10th, 2013
9:53 am

@SlimNu he never explicitly lied to me about his age. But he gave me the impression that he wasn’t much older than me. When he asked me my age and I said 18 he said oh you’re not that much younger than me. So I assumed he was in his 20’s. What did he tell you when you asked?

disco

October 10th, 2013
9:54 am

good morning.

dang diva. running folks over. that’s deep. lol.

first things first, I’m not a fan of text messages. any grown man who sends me a text message before he even calls me for the first time is immediately eliminated from the roster.

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
9:56 am

I can’t open the link, but I sense I would be creeped out over it. I think it’s a shame that so many rely on texting instead of talking. Texting is fine, but in the beginning, please pick up phone and give me a call. I like to hear your voice.

“Clearly he saw right through that!” – But, did you get the digits is the question (lol).

2C ~ I figured that show would be a lot of nothing. Preachers on TV airing their drama while they run a church and their lavish living does not appeal to me.

Good morning.

disco

October 10th, 2013
9:57 am

reio – there are some that consider “hi” to be the greatest pick up line ever. surely you’ve said “hi” to some unsuspecting woman. lol.

slim – 20 years.

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:57 am

I’ve gone out with much younger, but I just don’t have an appetite for that. The age brings too much of a variance for me. IMO and for me, no matter how many “grown” women you got with, it still won’t give you what every year of your life will bring. So, when I’ve sat down with folks much younger, there’s just something missing. Don’t get me wrong, bright, eager (ha ha ha), intelligent, but still something is not there. And I’ve never been able to explain. Even when you say you can’t do the age different, there’s a plethora of reasons given and explanations of how mature they are. Still, the gap is not so much the age but the inability to “catch up.”

Desires and everything else changes or shifts. What you thought was life and living at 20 changes over the years. Some things you get better with. some things are eliminated and some things you just weren’t aware of are not in full effect. For that reason, I can’t wait for someone much younger to get to “that” place.

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
9:59 am

any grown man who sends me a text message before he even calls me for the first time is immediately eliminated from the roster

Definitely. I had some dude texting me so much that I asked if was with someone. All that texting and never talking just casts a shadow for me.

Celisea

October 10th, 2013
10:00 am

noW in full effect not “not in full effect”

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
10:00 am

What’s the biggest age gap of anyone you’ve ever dated?

@Slim….let him hunch…!! what age got to do with it?

2C..How old are u by the way…..what age u tell her? :lol:

Durty Burd

October 10th, 2013
10:03 am

Good Morning!

I see the cougars of the blog (Celisea, Button) likem young..hehehehehe!

Celisea quit playing with me! I have been in your thoughts for 4 years it’s gonna happen…I’m gonna get that mind to go my way…

I don’t use pick-up lines, I just say hello and start a conversation. I can’t recall doing crazy stuff unless I was on the bb court.

Slim I think 15yrs younger than me and 7 yrs older than me…

Why do you ask? Are you going to give one of those old dudes a try? :)

kimmie

October 10th, 2013
10:04 am

Morning Gang!

I’m too lazy to watch the video so I’ll take Button’s word for it. I guess it’s cute & creative for the younger set. Like some have said, it would only be cute to me if I was attracted to the guy, if he were cute. He would definitely have to still follow up the traditional way with a phone call and invite for a date. Otherwise, like any approach from someone you don’t find attractive, it would be annoying. Total zero, even if he was cute, if he sent me something nasty.

Slim – Biggest gap about 6 years old, 5 younger. I generally have always preferred men near my age.

kimmie

October 10th, 2013
10:05 am

Correction – 6 years OLDER!

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
10:07 am

“dang diva. running folks over. that’s deep” – I thought so too and laughed.

I remember when I was trying to get this guy’s attention while I was on my bike. I took my hands off the wheel and rode over a rock and next thing I know I’m on the pavement with my elbow cut to the white meat. I was so embarrassed. He came over and helped me up, but I couldn’t muster anything more than a thank you and wobbled my butt down the road.

Reio

October 10th, 2013
10:08 am

disco – Sure, I’ve said “Hi” to a woman. said “Hi” to plenty women. But never with an eye towards getting her number or, eventually, going out with her. Asking for digits….came only after a conversation(Admittedly, some, quite brief) that peaked my interest and caused me to want to talk to her more. Never approached a woman with “Hi” just because I felt that she was physically attractive. Hell, If that were the case, I would have been trying to get numbers and ‘pullin’ chicks left and right. Lots of attractive women around. I bet you’re one of’em too. Hehehe…..

Exiled

October 10th, 2013
10:10 am

I went to that massage place i was talking bout yesterday…in buckhead,over there by Chops…

I didnt like it……it was my wife’s idea for her birthday….

man..these massage places are undercover brothels….no lie about that….

I have had a massage,a couple of years ago but it was somebody running a mobile one and i went to her parents home…and then she came to my house to do Queen…
This one in buckhead..so called upscale and all…but..

i wasnt feeling the aroma….felt more like a red light brothel….or a visit to ur blackpage girl in her apartment(2C..knw whatimtalkbout? :lol: )
and they have these gowns that are used by other patrons..just looked shady and slimy to me……almost like u are in a hsopital but for the brothel aromas….

and the massage…..she did the back and shoulders…then later asked me to turn around….did the belly a lil bit…then the legs and foots…..

when she reached for the inside of the thighs, thats when i said to maself….”HERE WE GO!”…thinking bout 2C….. :lol:

To be honest,if one is a dedicated Christian…massage parlous should be a NO NO….

….sorry for Reiorising u this morning… :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2013
10:10 am

I’ve dated 8 years older and never younger than my age at any given time.

disco

October 10th, 2013
10:11 am

leggs – so you were wobbling way before it was popular. that’s funny.

hey kimmie!!!

Durty Burd

October 10th, 2013
10:11 am

Disco….Was Diva desperate for some action? Almost running a dude over, c’mon Diva you should have enough pick-up lines to last a life time…

Lee…How long were you married?

YSIC…The art of verbal communication is going down the tube with the younger generation unfortunately you are in that age range where the boys use texts and videos are a form of communication.

If we exchange phone numbers and you send me a text, you will not receive anything from me! Next!