Many of my guy friends complain that women have a bad habit of changing things up once they get comfortable. Some “changes” are easier to tolerate than others but in those extreme cases, things can get dicey.
Take for instance, drinking or sex. How do you feel about dating someone who did/did not drink or have sex when you started dating but stopped/started after you were a couple?
I have two friends dealing with this bait and switch dilemma. Liz says she met her guy at church and he supposedly did not smoke or drink. After they got serious, he “suddenly” has a cigar hobby and drinks when he watches the game. Is she wrong to dump him if she believes he did the bait and switch?
My friend Keith told me that he really decided to date his girlfriend exclusively after he realized their sexual chemistry was “out of this world” great. She recently told him that she wants to abstain because of her spiritual journey and he is having a hard time dealing with this kind of change. Is he wrong to dump her now that the thing that made him like her so much is missing?
How common is this bait and switch problem in dating? Has it happened to you before? How did you handle it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta