Relationships are hard enough sometimes without adding a layer of distrust to the mix. So what do you do when you are dating or in a relationship with someone who has proven to be untrustworthy? When we talked earlier this week about proceeding with caution, a male reader emailed me about his situation.
He is 32 and has been seeing a 28 year old graduate student. In the short time that they have been exclusive, he still doesn’t quite trust her fully. You’re probably asking the same question I did, “So why are you still with her?” and so I asked him! His response? Well he cares about her and thinks that over time he can learn to trust her more. It usually takes him a long time to get to that point.
I guess it is good to recognize an issue that you have and try to work on it. I just find it strange that a guy has dated someone for six months but he does not feel comfortable leaving her alone at his house. Maybe the issue is not with her, it is with him?
To be fair, he has caught her in a couple of lies, which he described as minor. I don’t want to analyze the poor guy too much but it made me wonder how many men have a hard time trusting women?
We hear so many crazy dating stories and even share our own misadventures here each day! Are we making it hard on ourselves when it comes to trusting someone enough to date them?
Do you think trust/distrust is a real issue in dating?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog