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300 sandwiches away from a ring!

I have never in my life made a man a sandwich. Apparently, this could be why I am not married. Well, the interwebs buzzed about the sandwich lady yesterday and when I finally read about who she was, I could only smile and blog about it!

In a nutshell: A woman living in NY was anonymously (until now!) writing about her boyfriend Eric and his love of sandwiches. When she made him a sandwich one day, Eric commented that she was 300 more sandwiches away from a proposal. This motivated her because she obviously wanted a husband more than anything, so what is a few hundred sandwiches to get one right????

I have my opinions about this story but I am dying to hear yours first. I ask you dear readers, does the old adage about winning a man’s heart through his stomach still rings true? Is is really so simple as sandwich making that can lead men to drop on one knee and propose marriage?

To wit, Eric the sandwich lover told Ms. Sandwich: “You women read all these magazines to get advice on how to keep a man, and it’s so easy,” he says. “We’re not complex. Just do something nice for us. Like make a sandwich.”

Just do something nice ladies! Make a sandwich. My question is, can payment for the sandwich be made with orgasms?? Just sayin’

Guys, can women woo men with food? Ladies, would this sound too sexist for your taste? What would be your response to Eric?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

225 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

September 26th, 2013
7:21 am

Hello all

Hmmm speaking of sammichs (BLUZ) LOL

Hey whatever floats your boat. Since I’m simple meat and potatoes man, might be a little hard to get to my heart that way.

To wit, Eric the sandwich lover told Ms. Sandwich: “You women read all these magazines to get advice on how to keep a man, and it’s so easy,” he says. “We’re not complex. Just do something nice for us. Like make a sandwich.” yep, some of us are that easy!

Just do something nice ladies! Make a sandwich. My question is, can payment for the sandwich be made with orgasms?? Just sayin’ HUH?

Lee

September 26th, 2013
7:21 am

Some men food is important and treasure this talent in the kitchen but if she was bad in bed would he be there for just the food then run..would if she was the best cook in the world but her personality was nothing more than a dry rock.

Life ,marriage it is more than just food,sex–its being there for that person whether you have steak or ham sandwich. I have made plenty of sandwiches even grilled cheese with tomato inside very good–sometimes with grilled cheese to spice it up i put a slice of ham :)

I think as women we need to stop and asking “what if i did ___” would he like me then would he ask to marry me then.. stop you are just knocking yourself out.. relax- being relaxed will relax those around you
Wonderful day ev1

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
7:49 am

Diva, you sound fiesty today….lol

Well, here are my thoughts (without reading the story behind the link), I don’t think making a sandwich (i.e. cooking) is necessarly the way to a man’s heart, but I do believe no matter how new age, it impresses a man if you can and are willing to show your domesticated side. I do it. Not to front or “just” impress, but a warm inviting home IMO is much more appealing than how glammed up you can get/be for a weekend date.

Yes, while “dating” is fun and exciting and y’all are impressing one another, for getting serious and doing the dang thing, IMO the more of “what it will be like” should be displayed….from both parties. I expect to keep the home (can’t say kids cause ain’t gon be none of that for me anymore), and I expect to see how well he can manage the home. I mean if you expect to lock it in, you gotta show more than what you’re like on a date. And IMO that goes for both.

Now, I think the dude was borderline crass, cause “do this and you’ll get a ring” type dude or mentality ain’t impressive. Sort of have that hopping through hoops feeling. Either you like what I’m doing and feel it’s on the path to matrimony or we talk about it, like civil adults. Remember me talking about “talking over coffee?” Well, this is one of those times that if I or he am not doing what I or he need to see for marriage, then we talk about what we feel is essential for getting to that place…. I might would be slightly offended with make 300 more and you’re well on your way. I’d rather you ak me about cooking or to cook you something or my thoughts on being domesticated.

Y’all see I’ve been talking about leftovers lately? Because even thought the kitchen is closed or was, I really don’t mind putting something together for my boo. I don’t.

Again, I do believe men are more simple than they appear to be. I think sexy and looking good and smelling good is alllll good, trust me I do, but I also believe that there’s more to it than the physical outer appearance. IMO that’s good when it’s coupled with something more solid.

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
8:15 am

Diva,sometimes you are just so shallow(for a 40+ woman) that I wanna throw up.

You sound fiesty too, this morning…..lololol

Alright I gotta get out of here….

Button

September 26th, 2013
8:18 am

Wise – never eva eva made a sammich!? wow! @ orgazm huh now I see why you never made a sammich :wink:

I think Eric is milking his girlfriend for sandwiches. He’s getting sandwiches made while he’s sitting back laughing at her. She’s a fool to think that merely slapping a few meat and veggies between bread will get her a ring and a hand in marriage. How silly. Is she doing back flips between making the sandwich and presenting it to him? If anything he’s belittling her by making her work for his heart. If a man ever told me that making him a sandwich would get me a ring he def wouldn’t get another sandwich out of me.

Good morning!

Exiled

September 26th, 2013
8:31 am

Cel..never fiestty in the morning especially after a good nite of hunching and lickdorm.

we, coupled folks have natural,high blood pressure relievers. :lol:

YesSheIsCute

September 26th, 2013
8:54 am

Good morning everyone! :D

Nope, not true because I am a VERY good cook. Still single. Everyone loves my cooking but obviously it made it’s way to no man’s heart.

mark

September 26th, 2013
8:59 am

cooking is Important skill! If a woman cant or will not cook for her man she is worthless to a man.

Personally i will not date a woman that will not cook for me at least twice a week, My thinking being if you will not cook for me twice a week then if i marry you our family will Starve to death.

Exiled

September 26th, 2013
9:01 am

..I am a VERY good cook

@Cute..is that ur own opinion of ur cooking or this is the general concesus from the menfolk u cook for and ur family?

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
9:02 am

YSIC ~ same here (lol). Very good cook and still single, but there are other variables why I’m single (lol). However, I do feel when one is dating, they should cook for their mate (once exclusivity is on the plate). Everyone likes a home cooked meal every now and then. I recently had a discussion with a married woman here at work who was praising her husband and how he doesn’t complain much about anything. She then went on to say she hasn’t cooked a meal in a long time. They order food out, not necessarily fast food. I told her she should surprise him and cook dinner tonight. She came to me the next day and told me how appreciative her husband was and how the lovemaking that night was exceptional (lol).

I have made sandwiches before, but men that I know really wanted a nice juicy cheeseburger.

Feels so good sitting at my desk with jeans, polo shirt on and sneakers…going to play Bocce Ball this afternoon!

Good morning.

Button

September 26th, 2013
9:06 am

Each morning, he would ask, “Honey, how long you have been awake?”
“About 15 minutes,” I’d reply.
“You’ve been up for 15 minutes and you haven’t made me a sandwich?”<——-smh

YesSheIsCute

September 26th, 2013
9:16 am

@Exiled both. I had a guy tell me if I cooked him my “fried chicken” every day he would marry me. I didn’t cook him no fried chicken every day! But I’m pretty sure that’s not why he didn’t marry. Whenever I cook for coworker gatherings, family, or friends that is the general consensus. All my ex boyfriends never even left any of the food I cooked for me. Imagine, I cooked for US and you ate up all the food :lol: One of the reasons I’m liking the single life again.

2CPTG©

September 26th, 2013
9:19 am

Ex, bruh, you spoke a mouthful….it ain’t per se, about makin a sandwich, but as Ex stated, a more deeper profound meaning….the real issue is homemaking abilities….read between the lines….the sandwich is a metaphor…..

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2013
9:20 am

Morning!

I would think it’s a joke with them. I’m sure he loves her since he’s still with her. He was probably giving a time line of about a year before he proposes.

S/H – Boy…that rib sammich was good last night! The mac & cheese was on point too!!! And the music…WOW!!! These young men, The Georgia Flood, are going to be huge one day. It was a great night, but I sure am tired today! LOL!

Off topic – I’m gonna have to have a talk with my boss over a situation that is bothering me. She’s basically blaming me for not following up on something that I did and handled very well. I’m thinking about putting it in email so I have a written record of her response. She’s not easy to talk to because she starts bringing up things that are not relevant and will try her best to make you feel like isht or get you mad enough to say something…

Button

September 26th, 2013
9:22 am

SO have never expected or demaded me to make him anything least more say if I do something it will get me something. Too happy he’s not that small minded. We do things for each other like cooking meals for each other or together bc we love each other. I’ve never made a sandwich or cook a meal thinking it would get me a ring or any other gift. But I understand that when you want something you will do whatever it takes to get it even if it takes away from your self worth.

Reio

September 26th, 2013
9:24 am

Morning all!

They say that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Well, that may have been true years ago, but it ain’t now. Hell, the best apple pie I ever had is ‘Mrs. Paul’s Frozen Apple Pie’ There are a number of things a woman can do. One of them, and I know this will offend many, if not all, of you, is to just “shut up”. As simple and trivial as this may seem, the truth is, I have encountered many men over the years, some, I was friends with, others, I was merely an acquaintance of, who confided in me that ” She wouldn’t be half bad, if she wouldn’t talk so much”, or, “I just wish she would shut up sometimes”., or, “She’s ok, but she talks too damn much”. Women are more vocal, I understand that, most men understand that, but many women are in relationships, right now, that will go nowhere(And they don’t even know it; thinking everything is ok), because the guy has long since decided that he will never spend the rest of his life with her cause she “talks too damn much”. He sticks around cause of the puzzy and stuff. And he won’t tell her that he plans to dump her cause of the puzzy and stuff. I know some of you are saying, “Hell, he can go anywhere to get that”, which is true. But then, he’d have to start from scratch. Which is another reason(among many) that some men cheat. They get another girl, while still with you, if you find out about it, or he just decides to go ahead and dump you, he’s already got another one lined up. Simple, for some guys. They say “Always on the phone, keeps yappin at me, asking the same questions over and over, girlfriends calling left and right, can’t remember sh!t I tell her….” You all can laugh at my post all you want, but I’m telling you, peace, quiet, and tranquility will get a man to commit quicker than meatloaf and string beans. Fo Sho!

2CPTG©

September 26th, 2013
9:27 am

y’all new age gals somethin else…..Diva, I’m callin bullsh!t, about you never makin a dude a sandwich….but then again, you are still single, so……….

and Cutie, RNS, if all the food was gone, something inside of you should have been tickled to death……somma y’all gals need some “big Mammas” in ya life…

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
9:29 am

Ex/2C ~ I think most know it’s not necessarily about making a “sandwich.” It’s intertwined with one wanting to do, love doing it, can do it w/o being asked, all on the foundation of taking care of home and him.

“…when you want something you will do whatever it takes to get it even if it takes away from your self worth.” – that’s just sad!

Exiled

September 26th, 2013
9:33 am

Reio..that mad me laugh!
Hilarious

thanx 2Can!

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
9:41 am

One of them, and I know this will offend many, if not all, of you, is to just “shut up”.

Soooo, should the two of us just sit there and look at each other?? I don’t think this mentality. Part of connecting ain’t just when body parts come today, it’s beyond that….talking, jiving, getting along.
I guess it’s just the kitchen and the bedroom then, the kitchen and the bedroom

Button

September 26th, 2013
9:42 am

Reio – eye roll @ 9:24.

Exiled

September 26th, 2013
9:49 am

Cel…
He said “talking too much”…..there has to be a balance in the talking,even when u are a “too much” talker..

talking too much can be real nag….

Reio

September 26th, 2013
9:51 am

Here’s another thing, Cause I suspect Ill get attacked cause of my 9:24am post. I love women. Was raised by them. Taught by them. Hell, one of my sister’s taught me to tie my shoes. Another one taught me to drive. I have the utmost respect for women. Love all yall!. Not only that, but I understand and know that you are just as capable of anything a man can do. Men know this as well, we are much too egotistical to admit it. Even as far back as the 15th & 16th centuries men knew this, but didn’t want to face it cause their weak, dumbazz’s felt less of a man if they did. That’s one of the main reasons the Muslim world today is so messed up; their treatment of women and girls. But I’ll say it once more, you might want to cut back on talking so much, even though it’s your nature to be more verbal. Cause the truth is, and I’m sure most of you will agree, men have far more options, and can wait much longer than women, when it comes to settling down and starting families. My primary care doctor is a woman. Capable, competent, wonderful. Was recommended to me by another man He was right.

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
9:52 am

Exiled – As much as you may not believe, that’s just you and Reio…and y’alls extreme views. Some men delight in an upbeat, sunny disposition.

Exiled, can you explain or paint a picture of what you call balance? I mean when you come in, is it okay to speak and give you a peck? If so, is it okay to ask how your day went. Oooorrr, if I jump into my day first, would you be irritated. Talking okay during lovemaking? Help a sista out please…lol According to Reio, my dude is faking and just grinning at me, wishing I would just shut the heck up. Whatcha got?

MsAtl

September 26th, 2013
9:53 am

Morning All!

I think the old adage may still ring true with some men, but not just cooking- cleaning, laundry, etc. When I am in a relationship, I cook for the man. I used to get up at 5 to starch my ex’s military uniforms and have breakfast ready when he got home from PT, as well as take care of the kids, do his secretarial work, etc. It is just part of what I did as a wife. Would I do it just to get a ring? Nope!

If I have to make you 300 sandwiches to get a ring, I don’t want you. You can make your own darn sandwich. If, however, you want someone who will be there for you physically and emotionally, have your back when ish gets rough, help you build a future, and knows the meaning of commitment, then we can talk.

A ring should come with no conditions other than you love me and want me in your life. I am not a dolphin where I am going to jump through hoops to get it. I will be myself and do what I do and if that is not good enough for you then you are not the man for me and not worthy of me.

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
9:55 am

And a man talking too little can be a real nag as well.

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
9:56 am

I understand that, most men understand that, but many women are in relationships, right now, that will go nowhere(And they don’t even know it; thinking everything is ok), because the guy has long since decided that he will never spend the rest of his life with her cause she “talks too damn much”. He sticks around cause of the puzzy and stuff. And he won’t tell her that he plans to dump her cause of the puzzy and stuff

and

Here’s another thing, Cause I suspect Ill get attacked cause of my 9:24am post

I’m laughing sort of, cause I was JUST thinking, WOW had that been me, folks would have been on the attack for the rest of the day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m cool with you posting your thoughts and how you feel, just surprised no one rebutted.

MsAtl

September 26th, 2013
10:04 am

Celisea- I gave him the mental side-eye because when we don’t talk they are asking “what’s wrong with you?” Sometimes Reio can be a bit out there…

Single and Happy

September 26th, 2013
10:05 am

2c, it wasn’t a metaphor, back in the the day when mothers had DAUGHTERS in the kitchen teaching them how to cook and telling them this, it was exactly what was said!

Bluz I know I saw you enjoying it (LOL)

Button

September 26th, 2013
10:06 am

I’ve met my mixture of men with chatter delights from the one with little words to the ones that will talk your ear off. Not all men want a mouse as a SO some men value conversation.

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
10:07 am

Sometimes, you don’t have the energy to rebutt. If someone feels that way, let them have it. There is a degree of truth to what he said, but not all women talk a lot. No one wants someone yapping in their ear all day, but if a woman has something intelligent to say, can hold moot court, get philsophical, a great debater, she’s in like flint. If the woman is incessantly chatter about days events like going to the nail shop, or peggy ann did this, and thomasina said that, the men become tone deaf. It really depends on what darn mood the man is and for what type of woman he wants to deal with that day!!

kimmie

September 26th, 2013
10:12 am

Morning Guys!

I’m in agreeance with Leggs. “It’s intertwined with one wanting to do, love doing it, can do it w/o being asked, all on the foundation of taking care of home and him.” I’m sorta old school like this. It’s nurturing and kinda sexy as I’ve said before on this subject. And alot of men might not need you to be a gourmet chef, just be willing and able to whip up something sometimes – as simple as a sandwich. If the guy was good to me, it would not be a big deal. Don’t go making demands though.

It used to be somewhat of a requirement that a woman who wanted a husband must be able to cook or at least very willing to try. Things have changed. I know a lot of women that can’t boil water and brag about it too, but they are married and their husbands seem to worship them. There were things that were more important to both of them.

I can’t see not cooking and having children though. But, hey some folks make that work too.

I would not break my neck to do ANYTHING for a guy to GET him to propose. Either he loves me & what I have to offer and wants to marry me or not. Really that simple.

MsAtl

September 26th, 2013
10:13 am

Leggs- “Sometimes, you don’t have the energy to rebut. If someone feels that way, let them have it.” Exactly!!!

DuShawn

September 26th, 2013
10:15 am

sandwich making that can lead men to drop on one knee……..How Ironic, Wifey had a birthday recently and I decided to upgrade her wedding ring. No financing, I just took a chunk out of my savings. We went away for the weekend. Looking at the ocean from our hotel balcony, I gave her the box. She was ecstatic. She kissed me deeply. About an hour later, I’m like, baby could you go get me some ice and bring back a few sodas from the machine. She said “you go get it and make mine a sprite.”

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
10:16 am

MsAtl – You are sooooo right about that. Shoot, there are some men that will talk your ear off. I think my dude and I have a good mix :)

I don’t want a turd, neither am I gonna dim my light (:) ) cause some dude wants me to shut up. He needs to get ta steppin…..got no time fa dat!!! lololol

Mmello/Reio – That’s just how y’all feel about women. All men aren’t like that.

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
10:18 am

She said “you go get it and make mine a sprite.”

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2013
10:20 am

S/H – Yeah right! LOL!

YesSheIsCute

September 26th, 2013
10:20 am

@2C sure I was tickled to death…and also dismayed that I now had to figure out what I was eating for dinner after I just cooked! :lol:

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
10:21 am

MMeello – Your 10:08….I gotcha. I do agree, balance is key.

Sometimes, you don’t have the energy to rebutt

And depending on the person that’s talking/posting.

Okay folks, I’z outta here for our luncheon. Imma peek in when I come back. I hope there’s much chatter (hey MMeello) so I can read and catch up, if I’m not too lazy. :) :)

Yaaay, free food!! Game tonight!!

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
10:22 am

Oooopsy, I meant Reio in my 10:21. Get y’all mixed up sometimes :)

Reio

September 26th, 2013
10:23 am

Yeah, I knew it. Being attacked, laughed at, mocked…. That’s fine. I opened the door. Keep it coming. But I’ll say this, to give you an example. The tendency for some men is to prioritize and rank. in other words, in life, some things are more important than others. Some things ain’t sh!t. For instance; He comes home from work, you come home from work. Now, you’re both home, tired, maybe upset about something, maybe in a good mood, who knows? There may or may not be kids there but, one thing I know, the last thing he is gonna want to hear, is you going on and on about something. Anything. Unless his involvement is a solicitation by you, to come up with a solution to a problem. Otherwise, beyond the day to day necessities, he would much rather converse with you on a matter, any matter, that directly effects him in a way that requires his input. He’ll gladly talk with you on that, anything else, to him, is just silly and mundane. Useless. A waste of time. He won’t tell you that, cause of the puzzy and stuff, but I’m here to tell all yall, Salisbury steak and mashed potatoes are great, but what’s even better, beyond important things, is a woman that limits her verbal communications to small talk and chit chat. Fun loving banter back and forth. Just don’t go on and on about foolishness. “That damn Brenda at work…..My mother this…My mother that….I want this….I want that….How come you?….Why is this?… Gets old. Roll your eyes if you want to, put me down, make fun of my post. All quite alright. I can take it. I opened myself up to it. But I speak the truth, and I know it.

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
10:29 am

Just don’t go on and on about foolishness. “That damn Brenda at work…..My mother this…My mother that….I want this….I want that….How come you?….Why is this?… Gets old.

LOLOLOL…I laughed at this and really, I kinda agree. Going on and on and on, gossip and bringing the office home is a no no. Again, nothing wrong IMO with asking how they’re day went and vice versa and discussing something that may have come up. But everyday the same heaviness is a no go. See, this right here is why you have to be conditioned to let stuff roll and drop behind you. Carrying all that baggage makes life messy and hard for you and those around you.

Celisea

September 26th, 2013
10:30 am

Exiled

September 26th, 2013
10:31 am

Cel…its hard if not lame to divorce a woman because “she talks too much”. There are much bigger issues to worry about,especially if u are in a marriage. For me atleast.

Now if u are boyfriend and girlfriend,its also easy for a dude to ignore the “too much talking” because sometimes,men have short term interests that loom larger than her talking. He can ignore that temporarily as long as he taps the bootey till he no longer wants it.
That happens as well.

Sometimes men get outta the house,not because they want to be with other men necessarily but to be away from the chatter. :lol:

The key is to manage ur own situation!

If truf be told,there are men who have resorted to being just tame in their marriage and not say none because it is an easier thing than rebuking her and starting an argument. See how it turned out in here?
Or cheat! :lol:

..I second the 9.24 am :lol: :lol:

Leggs

September 26th, 2013
10:32 am

And depending on the person that’s talking/posting.

Indeed!

Single and Happy

September 26th, 2013
10:32 am

Bluz, you waved at me, or so I thought, but you were waving at the guy behind me (LOL)

MsAtl

September 26th, 2013
10:33 am

DuShawn- now that was funny! Okay, maybe Mrs. DuShawn should have gone ahead and gotten you that soda.

Button

September 26th, 2013
10:34 am

Reio – you should stop giving out bad advice about men and communication. Not all men share your thoughts.

Button

September 26th, 2013
10:36 am

Reio – judging from your long posts you have a give of gab yourself lol

kimmie

September 26th, 2013
10:37 am

If she was a chatty Cathy, you knew that before you married her. She was likely doing it while you were dating. Same with a dude. If you have to tune the other out because they are droning on and on about stuff that’s meaningless to you or stuff you’re not interested it, sounds like the 2 of you are not a good match! Don’t complain and put everyone in the same catagory just cause yo behind is miserable.

Each couple has to do what works for them. Some couples enjoy good conversation – an easy give and take about something that interests both. My hubs & I are like that. We also have our moments where we are fine with quiet, and the silence is not uncomfortable. I don’t try to talk to him when he’s in the middle of something he needs to concentrate on & he doesn’t do that to me. Sometimes you just don’t feel like being bothered, and we recognize those times with each other too and give each other space.

Personally, I could not take a guy that was silent all the time and wanted the same from me. That’s weird. :shock: