My buddy Damon Young recently wrote about how he “stopped telling women to smile” because he realized how it can be perceived as street harassment. Ah yes, I wish I had a dollar for every time a random dude on the street decided my face wasn’t happy enough. I’d be a very rich and highly annoyed woman.
The thing about “Hey, why don’t you smile” approach to speaking to women, a lot of men think this is charming. Of course, if women walked around smiling like medicated mental patients, we wouldn’t have to worry about hearing this sort of a thing, right? I honestly don’t ever know how to respond when men say this to me. If I am not smiling, it is probably because I don’t freaking want to and so what’s it to you?? Then I become the rude and bitter female that can’t take a compliment, or something.
So I have to ask, why do men feel the need to see every woman they encounter smile? Why do you feel compelled to ask that she change her entire demeanor and mood so you feel better looking at her? And for debate purposes, why do so many women walk around mean mugging??
Ladies, do you ever get the feeling that you have to be “on” all the time to attract a man?
Guys, have you ever decided not to approach a woman because she had a really unpleasant look on her face? Do you automatically think she is an angry person?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog