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Dating rewind: Dating representative?

Have you ever reached the 90 day mark in a new romance and start to notice a new personality emerging?  Don’t be alarmed! That’s just the representative leaving and the real person showing up. Occasionally you get lucky and the representative closely resembles the real person.

Sadly, there are other times when that “dating representative” may as well have been a paid actor hired to lure you into a false sense of security and relationship bliss.  You then have to make a choice: Do you decide to give the real person a shot or do you bail on the potentially good/bad ride you are about to take?

How do you know when the “real person” is worth the same amount of time and investment you gave their representative?

Do you think that it’s hard to show all your true sides when you first meet someone? Is it possible to date without having that “representative” show up at all?

How real do you get when it comes to letting someone new in your life get to know your authentic self?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Leggs

September 24th, 2013
12:08 pm

Durty ~ if I remember correctly, Bluz finally did answer but 2C her answer didn’t matter and that it would need to be critiqued by a WLB to make it officially a donk. Something like that.

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
12:10 pm

Wow that was a struggle getting to page 2.

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:12 pm

ummmm, Bluz, just curious…..who told you my name?

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:13 pm

Yes…I did answer on Friday. I may have been the only one. LOL!

Where the heck is everyone today?

Kanye seriously has narcissistic personality disorder…

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
12:14 pm

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/video-couple-caught-sex-driving-article-1.1465656

Now, I understand being risque, adventurous, and wanting to get it in, but in broad daylight, driving on the highway is a bit much. They should be cited for reckless sex while driving and endangering other drivers (if this video is real).

Durty Burd

September 24th, 2013
12:14 pm

2C…So what you sayin about BluzGirl?

Good Point Mrs. SexyCool…You really do not see the real person until a crisis, challenge or adversity comes into their life.

This best foot forward need to be accompanied by put your best booty forward! hehehehehe!

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:15 pm

Durty, I think she’s a spy….

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:15 pm

2C – not hard to figure out when you have an email address. Google baby! Also, you mentioned you were FB friends with Leggs and she and I are friends. Once I got your name, I looked for the one who had a mutual friend. That totally sounds stalkerish, but yesterday, you put it out there for folks to add you on FB…

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:17 pm

ok, Bluz, just checking……you’re good……I think…the jury is still out…

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:20 pm

and Celie when are you gonna send a request from your fake-ass name….

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:20 pm

2C – LOL!

Leggs – Wow…I wonder if the couple can be identified and charged. That is so dangerous…

Durty Burd

September 24th, 2013
12:22 pm

Dang it 2C…BluzGirl has detective skills! Alright BluzGirl my name is Marco Polo now send me a pic…hehehehehe!

YSIC..U are moving too slow,BluzGirl is way ahead of you in the 2C sweep stakes and she is still horny for last week…lol :)

The Denver Bronco’s look devastating on Offense this year, this team will be hard to stop….

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:23 pm

Bwahahahahaha Durty!!!

YesSheIsCute

September 24th, 2013
12:24 pm

@DB I can see what you mean…but then people are less forgiving upfront than they are after getting to know people how they are, what makes them tick, etc. For instance you may do something on the first or second day of me knowing you and I’m like DONE. Whereas after I’ve gotten to know you and realize the why behind your action I may be more understanding and unmoved by it.

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
12:26 pm

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
12:28 pm

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2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:29 pm

I’on know Durty….Bluz is kinda tall….never been mountain climbing before….

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:31 pm

You know…when I think about it…I do sound very stalkerish. I apologize 2C if I went to far by friending you on FB. I ONLY looked you up because of yesterday and you asking the ladies to friend request you…

Exiled

September 24th, 2013
12:35 pm

@Leggs..i did not read the story but were they having s e x or she was just giving his joystick a real licking!!…

…the things ladies Lollipop on… :lol:

Exiled

September 24th, 2013
12:37 pm

2C…Bluz is tall?..u proly like her neck then! :lol:

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:37 pm

you what would be hot…..banging a blog gal, and while you beatin it up, she doesn’t call you by your name, but your moniker…..

I can hear it now……..”damn, 2C…..”

Celisea

September 24th, 2013
12:37 pm

2Can – Imma have to take a pass. I don’t really “deal” in any kind of way with folks from here…anymore :) Outside of the two folks that have my cell and I have theirs (and their email addys), I have no desire to connect….in any way…with anyone! Nothing personal. Just gonna take a pass :)

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:39 pm

I’m really not tall…does it look like I am in the pictures?

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:40 pm

it’s cool Celie…….didn’t take it personal…..

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:41 pm

Ex – They are really having sex. She’s on top of him, bouncing away, while he’s driving. Totally unsafe!

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:42 pm

2C – Don’t you know that fake people can’t have real relationships/friendships?

Celisea

September 24th, 2013
12:42 pm

2Can – Didn’t think you would :)

Mrs. SexyCool

September 24th, 2013
12:43 pm

Toucan – you are so incorrigible. Go have a seat, sir. (lol)

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:43 pm

Don’t you know that fake people can’t have real relationships/friendships?

not so fast, my friend….ask Manti Te’o……

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:45 pm

btw, Sexy, I was in your neck of the woods 2 weeks ago….started to call you (again)……went to some function they were having at Kipp….

Durty Burd

September 24th, 2013
12:46 pm

BluzGirl….How tall are you? Quit playing u know u want some of the Durty Burd! lol :wink:

YSIC….I disagree this will give a person who is not committed a reason to bolt because now you have shown a characteristic that he does not like or cannot deal with. Either way you are taking a chance better to be gone before the emotions run to deep…

YSIC…Think about your past relationships and see if it would have been better had you known this person had a characteristic that you did not like and it started the downfall of the relationship. You mentioned the Irish dude who wanted to get start working on married right away, are you not glad you found out that behavior upfront?

Celisea…Who on the blog has your information?

Celisea

September 24th, 2013
12:46 pm

I’m excited for tomorrow…hope it doesn’t rain. We’re entertaining a client at the Braves game, in the company suite

Alrighty kiddies, hope y’all get this thing going. I have a doctor’s appointment/medical test today. Imma peek in later….

Toodles

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:48 pm

Durty – I’m only 5′3″…

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:49 pm

Bluz, you do look like you like to have a good time, tho….you just got that look….

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:49 pm

I ain’t skeered for people here to know who I am because I have nothing to hide. I’m always up for making new friends/acquaintances!

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:51 pm

2C – Thanks, I think. LOL! I really do try to have the best time because life is too short!

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2013
12:52 pm

yes, life is very short, that’s why I need to get on with my bucket list…..

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
12:55 pm

What’s on your bucket list?

I need to win the lottery or find me a sugar daddy so that I can do things on my list. Mainly, I want to travel Europe for a few months…just going from city to city…

Exiled

September 24th, 2013
12:57 pm

I wanna go back to africa and retire….now,i need a decent crib over there…a car and some basics..

wld u blog folks be kind enough if i blog pan handle from uall? :lol:

will u miss me..

Durty Burd

September 24th, 2013
12:58 pm

2C….The ladies who are 5ft3 and under all I can say is they were my best relationships by far…. BluzGirl you are on my radar…hehehehehe!

Where is MissMoni? Are you running a background check on Dreams and 2C?

YesSheIsCute

September 24th, 2013
1:01 pm

@DB I see your point.

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
1:04 pm

“Celisea…Who on the blog has your information?” – You know that’s funny and you do know she’s not going to tell you…I’m cracking up.!

Durty Burd

September 24th, 2013
1:16 pm

Leggs….I know I like to throw something at Celisea because you know she is mental…hehehehehehe in a good way!

YSIC…Quit holding out and let me take you to school, once you graduate you will know how to get what you want…. :)

I agree on the getting to your Bucket List, if I can secure this work from your laptop gig, I will be on my way to Brazil, Belize, and Venezuelas…YESSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!

Bluzgirl

September 24th, 2013
1:24 pm

Durty – Just out of curiosity…why would you want to go to Venezuela?

Celisea

September 24th, 2013
1:26 pm

Celisea…Who on the blog has your information?

Leggs – I’m laughing too. Let’s say it like this, it ain’t Bluzgirl (for one….ha ha ha) and if your messages or calls ain’t getting through, it’s not you either :)

Not gone yet, huh? In a few :)

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
1:32 pm

“…and if your messages or calls ain’t getting through, it’s not you either” – Even funnier. Picturing people dialing numbers thinking they’re contacting Celisea and recording comes on, they leave msg, but never hear from her, leave other msgs only to finally be contacted that they’ve been leaving msgs on the answering machine of a 65 year old woman (lol).

Celisea

September 24th, 2013
1:36 pm

Hopefully they know….at some point….if you’re only getting voicemail EACH AND EVERY TIME, time to get a clue. I say that wtih blog love :mrgreen: That’s the thing Imma miss about this phone. You can block individual contact.

Take that, iPhone!! Or, can the iPhone do that….hmmmmm I’ll find out in a few weeks!!

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
1:36 pm

and she’s threatening to track them down and beat them up for bugging her!

Mrs. SexyCool

September 24th, 2013
1:38 pm

Dern near everyone knows me off blog. And if you don’t, I’m sure you know someone who knows how to get to me if there were ever a need.

Leggs

September 24th, 2013
1:39 pm

Anybody see the new show Black List? I recorded it, but heard it’s good.