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Swing my way

If you didn’t already know that Atlanta was Reality TV Capital of the South, you should know now:  TV producers LOVE filming here.  The latest foray in Atlanta “reality” on television is about the secret sex lives of swingers.

As I read about the upcoming series, I remembered the guy I met a long time ago through online dating.   I was so excited about him until he explained exactly what he was looking for: a wife. A wife who would also be his swinging partner. Without getting too graphic, he basically wanted his wife to pick someone out to bring home and enjoy. Um, yeah NO.

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian.  At least that is the image that he projected to me.  I had a preconceived idea about what a swinger was – and he was not it at all.

What would you do if your date asked how open you were to swinging?

My apologies for yesterday! I did not set the blog correctly.  Bad blogger, I know!

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

244 comments Add your comment

Lee

September 6th, 2013
6:37 am

Swinging is for swings in the park only in my world. I can’t image it ever being a good outcome for those involved, in my opinion… I am sure there are those who will claim our relationship is stronger (i don’t believe you) until the other falls for someone else everyone is smiling roses and daisies..

On a personal note a guy that i was dating (we departed out ways in Jan) called me last night late ( i think he thought i would pick up the phone in my sleep, no not going to happen) I told him to delete my number in Jan.. He needs to stay where he is at. smh

Lee

September 6th, 2013
6:38 am

I accept your apology, no one can be 100% all the time.

Have a wonderful weekend everyone!!

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
7:06 am

Hello all.

While it’s not my thing, everyone has to find something they’re happy with. So do you.

Without getting too graphic, he basically wanted his wife to pick someone out to bring home and enjoy. Now what if she brought home a guy!! Would he have been okay with that?

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian. At least that is the image that he projected to me. I had a preconceived idea about what a swinger was – and he was not it at all. so just what did you expect them to be like??

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
7:30 am

Ummm, naw I can’t do it. I like my man all to myself. :) Nuff said!

We were watching a piece one evening on swingers and apparently some sort of convention, and really I was about grossed out. These were middled aged to outright old folks! I wouldn’t want to grow old with a bunch of quirks and fetishes still going on….IJS and yep, that’s just me and how I feel. I’m entitled. :) To see folks 50, 60, 70, sagging and wrinkled, big guts, drooping butts, hanging and falling out of their lingerie pieces was just nasty. They had belts and whips,chains and toys. And frankly, walking around half naked was so NOT sexy…lol Bodies turned to mush and you still tryna switch and swap?? Ewww and ugggh. IDK, it all seemed nasty at that point. I say all that to say again, for me, I wouldn’t want to grow old with these kinds of hang-ups, meaning…can’t get enough WITH JUST MY MAN, one person. Headed to a retirement home, while still looking over in your backyard? Nuh uh!

Now, I get swingers start out young, hawt, vibrant,insatiable appetites, but again I wouldn’t want to be doing this sort of thing because for me, IMO if you don’t put it to rest,likely it’s what you’ll be doing while turning old. I wouldn’t want to be that old person in a home, still reaching and grabbing at the staff (cause I’m horny) but can’t get it up or can’t thrust without tearing or breaking something…lololol Just let me and my boo do the dang thing together. Just us, growing old, on the front porch, enjoying life. :mrgreen:

I might seem narrow minded to some, but hey it’s my mind!!! lolol Swinging??? Got no time fa dat!!

Alright, let me get up and at em. Headed towards the Tennessee state line for a client meeting and luncheon!!

Toodles

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
7:35 am

Thank God for miracles! GMA just played a story where two teens were checking a chick in the next car only to realize she was being kidnapped. They followed the kidnapper and called the cops and she was rescued! Angels watching over her! Fantastic!

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
8:12 am

Enter your comments here

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
8:13 am

Ooops, was unplugging the laptop

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
8:21 am

When I was single, I played that game; but never really understood how a man could share his wife. But hey, to each his own.

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
8:29 am

Ooops, was unplugging the laptop.

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
8:40 am

If my date asked me if I were open to swinging I would tell him no. Plain and simple that is not my thing. I don’t judge others that choose that type of lifestyle or have that type of fetish. I, however, enjoy monogamous relationships. Polygamy, polyamory, etc. all those things are NOT for me.

Robert

September 6th, 2013
8:56 am

Back in the day (1990’s) my best friend talked me into going to a swingers club in Miami, FL. This is what I saw;

The Women
- To me it looked like most of the women were bi-sexual
- Most of the women were middle age (35-45) – Cougars
- Younger women (20-30) were hired help to attract men – Prostitutes
- I saw very few married couples

The Men
- Like most of the women, they were bi-sexual – Down/Low Brothers
- Most of the men were middle age, acting young(35-55) – Players
- Younger men (20-30) were hired help to attract women – Prostitutes
- Most of the men were aliens (hispanics, africans, etc.) – Green cards

So if you are a gay, bi-sexual, down/low, illegal alien man or woman the swinging lifestyle might be the right place for you.

Swinging is not for me.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
9:09 am

morning…..

I like a lotta stuff, but swinging ain’t one. hell naw!

Reio

September 6th, 2013
9:12 am

Morning all!

“My apologies for yesterday! I did not set the blog correctly. Bad blogger, I know!”

Apologies excepted. Wondered what was goin on. Thought my computer was on the fritz.

Anyway, I’ve never done this. Never thought about it seriously. Always a one woman man. If a girlfriend would ask me if I were interested in this, with an eye on convincing to try it, obviously I would say “no”, and then proceed to prepare to let her go(I used to dump them fairly quickly). One slip up from my “No Slip Up” list, and they were gone. This would be a slip up from that list.

As I understand it, you have to have a partner. But I was watching a documentary on A&E(I think), where they said that some swingers were letting some single black men(who didn’t have a partner) in cause they tended to pack quite a bit extra stuff. They specifically mentioned black men as the ones most likely to be let into their swing club without a partner. So, I don’t know, I guess rules will be broken, if enough people want it. Not for me though. Most of the people seemed to be between, say,30-50 though. No elderly. They aired this documentary about 3 years ago, I think.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
9:13 am

@Robert,

If there were prostitues there, I never knew.

Most of the parties I went to had more single males than unicorns and couples. There were more than a few young couples that were “experimenting”. The older couples were “having fun”. Most everyone was straight, unless they were getting it in behind closed doors.

And your “alien” comments disturb me. So I’ll not be commenting on your posts further.

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
9:15 am

Morning!

No thank you on the swinger stuff. I’m too jealous to see my man with another woman! LOL! I won’t judge anyone who does choose this lifestyle, though, even until they are old and wrinkly. I guess elderly people are supposed to just have vanilla sex if they are even supposed to have sex at all…

Miss Moni

September 6th, 2013
9:17 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Nope, swinging is absolutely NOT for me.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
9:17 am

Good morning and regarding the topic, I was never brought up to be stingy….However, when it comes to my man and intimate goings-on, that is not something I’d be willing to share. I’m just not wired or equipped to deal with all the things that come along with that type of situation….lesson learned. TGIF!

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
9:22 am

@Slim

A “lesson learned” comment requires explanation…..

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
9:25 am

I had a married friend who decided to try the swinger stuff and brought another man into the bedroom. She ended up falling for this man and started seeing him on the side. Her marriage was messed up after that. I think they stayed together for a while because of their daughter…I haven’t been in touch with her in years…

Miss Moni

September 6th, 2013
9:28 am

-SlimNu When I say I feel you on the “lesson learned”, LOL!!! Oh YES, TGIF!!! :-D

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
9:32 am

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
9:34 am

Dan – Let’s just say an experiment in theory might sometimes seems like “fun”…however, when you actually conduct the experiment, a formula is off, something isn’t mixed right and BOOM, experiment failed. Let’s just say I ended up leaving the lab during said trial run. ;-) I have filed that away in the “Young, fun, and dumb” cabinet.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
9:39 am

see, and there’s the rub. I the hands of a competent scientist, experiment variables are planned for and responded to in the moment.

But I gotcha

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
9:40 am

Dan – I guess I wasn’t much of a scientist…at least not that kind. lol

Reio

September 6th, 2013
9:42 am

I can’t even remember anyone in my past that was even rumored to be into this. I knew guys and gals that would pretty much sleep with anybody, anytime, anywhere, but no swingers in a swing club.

Just wondering, if anybody knows, or has heard; Does this activity take place in one big room? Do they go to separate rooms? Is anal a prerequisite? Does ANYTHING go? What kind of air freshener is best? Cause I would imagine a ‘Professional Strength’ air freshener would be what’s needed, during this and afterwards. Just wondering.

Miss Moni

September 6th, 2013
9:43 am

-Reio I’m cracking up at the “Professional Strength” air freshener!!!

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
9:44 am

This swinging thing and the other marriage blog post makes me thing: out of curiosity how many of you guys on the blog (married or single) are perfectly happy with the thought of having one partner and one partner only?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
9:48 am

“What would you do if your date asked how open you were to swinging?” – I would tell him I wasn’t open to swining. If he doesn’t immediately ask for the check, I’d enjoy the rest of the evening until date was over. If that’s his thing, more power to him. Who am I to judge what turns another on.

Good morning.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
9:49 am

Cutie….I’d be perfectly happy to find the ONE…..

disco

September 6th, 2013
9:54 am

good morning. what fun we are having up in here this morning. my very first thought was that song from back in the day “shorty swing my way, shole look good to me”. anyway, folks want to swing? I say swing on. I, for one, can see how things can get boring. I know couples claim they do this that and the other to keep things spicy but let’s face it, some folks get caught up in their routine. same moves, same way, same order, over and over and over. for that reason I can see the appeal of swinging. might be the same trick but a new dog puts a new spin on it. lol.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
9:59 am

YesSheIsCute – “…perfectly happy with the thought of having one partner and one partner only.”

Well, I am. Always have been. As a younger man, with the same hormones as others, sure, I wanted to jump on pretty much everything I saw. It was biology. Nothing I could do about that. But, even as a much younger man and teenager, I knew that the girl/woman I was with, was also a human being, with feelings and emotions, whom deserved respect. I could have played around, hell, I can do it now, but I believe in respecting women, above all else. So to go out and cheat on them would/will be to disrespectful for even me to have to contend with, even if she never found out.

Miss Moni – Yea. Glade, AirWick, Lysol, Fabreez…or any of that other sh!t they sell at the grocery stores or COSTCO or WALMART……..won’t cut it. Probably gonna need some powerful stuff. Perhaps even a hydrogen bomb to wipe out all of the germs and bacteria. Just sayin.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:00 am

Reio ~ when you see that the topic is the same as the previous day’s topic, go see if submit box is still open. If it is, we still blog. It’s called “back dooring” or “hijacking the blog!”

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
10:01 am

@Reio

There are house parties, hotel parties, and various clubs throughout Metro Atlanta…so depending on where you go, the action takes place in different places.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:02 am

Leggs – Thanks. I’ll make a note of that.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:04 am

Celisea ~ I saw the segment of the two boys helping the kidnapped woman on the news the other day. Warmed my heart. Bet more people will be looking into cars now.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:07 am

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:09 am

how many of you guys on the blog (married or single) are perfectly happy with the thought of having one partner and one partner only?

Me, me, me, meeeeeeeeeee (said waving and jumping up and down)

Reio – funny guy ;-)

Reio ~ when you see that the topic is the same as the previous day’s topic, go see if submit box is still open. If it is, we still blog. It’s called “back dooring” or “hijacking the blog!”

Leggs/Reio – No industrial strength air freshner needed :lol:

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
10:09 am

Morning All!

I will say it again- I do not share; keep your toys out of my sand box. If swinging is for you, then that’s fine, but no I will not participate. Also, if you are into swinging, then you are not for me. Other than that, consenting adults can do whatever. If I were asked, I would say no, plain and simple. I consider myself almost much open-minded and will try a lot of things (once) but that is not something I am interested in trying.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:16 am

Oops, didn’t notice WD posted a link.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:17 am

Also, just wondering. Do they designate one or two individuals to go around spraying air freshner? If so, do they spray at regular intervals?, say, every thirty minutes or so? Who buys the air freshner? Do all of the participants have to chip in on the cost? What if the one designated to spray, leaves? How do they decide who the next sprayer will be? What if he/she refuses to spray? What if they can’t find the can, cause the guy that left, put it down somewhere? What if he took it with him in anger? What if he stole it? What if the spray is the wrong scent for some participants? What if they run out of spray? What if the spray gets in somebody’s eyes by mistake? What if th……….Too many questions…………..too many questions. Not worth it. Just wondering.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:20 am

Reio – WIth all the unanswered air freshner questions, I’d say just say No to swinging. It’s obviously too complicated. lol

disco

September 6th, 2013
10:21 am

seems like there is a lot of emphasis on swingers clubs. also seems like more than a couple of folks have been to swingers clubs. why? curious? intrigued? lol. actually the few folks that I know that are into the lifestyle don’t frequent the clubs. they swing/swap/share in the privacy of their own homes.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:23 am

Reio ~ I’m here eating a banana when I spit some out laughing at your post re: who sprays…very funny.

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
10:24 am

I had another friend who was going to start a business of throwing swinger parties in Atlanta. She wanted my ex’s band to perform at the parties. I wasn’t too sure about that, but was going to go with him to keep an eye on him!

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
10:24 am

Good Morning!

Did you see the pictures of the 4 young ladies who are swinging 3 are not bad, I think I need to find me a swinging lady…j/k

I know a few folks who either are swinging are have swung before…These folks are not old, their are some real lookers who participate. I mean some real fine women who likes to get the strange dizzle…

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:28 am

Durty ~ I’m a woman and I thought same, 3 aren’t bad.

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
10:28 am

disco – I would be curious to go to a swingers club…not to participate, but to observe. I don’t think I’d make it too long. I’d rather watch p0rn at home!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:28 am

That’s what I don’t understand, getting strange dizzle increases chance of strange diseases.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
10:29 am

Reio- “Perhaps even a hydrogen bomb to wipe out all of the germs and bacteria. Just sayin.” Lol. See, I don’t even like using the gym equipment or taking my shoes off at the airport. I would not do well with germs and fluids all over the place.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:30 am

Bluz – I must say i’ve never heard of having a live band perform while others are getting it in. I’m sure it would take a lot of talent and concentration to keep a beat with a stiffy. :shock:

Seriously fellas, do you really think you could handle watching your woman get pumped by some other dude?…then come back to you?

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:32 am

disco – “they swing/swap/share in the privacy of their own homes.”

Even so, I would think that there would be some kind of rules, written or unwritten that would regulate activity. I mean, suppose, during the course of the party, somebody has a snack or meal, then goes back at. And this person decides to suck somebody’s d!ck, and leaves bits oy turnip greens or Ritz cracker crumbs on the d!ck? Does a fight break out? Can the sponsor be sued? What if there is an infection later, that can be traced back to the swing party? What then? I think these are legitimate questions that need to be asked. IMO.

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
10:34 am

“I’m sure it would take a lot of talent and concentration to keep a beat with a stiffy.”

Slim — Indeed. A good woman is hard to find.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Reio – Maybe you should come up with some by-laws…a manual of sorts.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Reio ~ you are sick! :lol: :lol: Keep them coming.

disco

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

leggs – in theory but let’s remember a good number of chicks with diseases didn’t get them from strange dizzle. they got it from familiar dizzle that was dipping out. lol. (and before the men pipe in – single – same can be said for the fellas. it’s not always the nu nu that does you in. it’s the oldie but goodie.)

as for someone watching their mate with someone else I think the possession factor would be a bigger issue with men. they be swearing they own some stuff. I think the insecurity issues would catch the women quicker. is she prettier, is her stomach flatter, is her butt rounder. that type stuff. of course, this is just me speculating.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Good Morning All. I am cracking up reading these comments.
@Slim/Moni I’m in the “lesson learned” club, live, learn, do better!
@Reio – you are funny…but there is no spraying, I think they clean/disinfect/whatever at the end of the night and towels are provided to lay on, and I guess, should be used as a “catch all”. It’s true that most true swingers don’t do clubs, they host in their homes. It could be quite lucrative because they charge just like the clubs do, without the membership fee.
@YSIC – At this point in my existence, I’ve learned that one good-thing is worth 50 not-so-good-things.

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:39 am

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian.

Imagine that…just last week I saw a story about a couple who wanted to start an official CHRISTIAN swingers club…just to see those words together let alone the concept itself, seems like an oxymoron of sorts. Christians have schex…that’s where all these lil Christians come from…should they swing? Isn’t that adultery?

Does this activity take place in one big room?

Yes if that’s what you want…certain places do it differently depending on the desires of the participants.

Do they go to separate rooms?

They do at Trapeze.

Is anal a prerequisite? Does ANYTHING go?

Once again it depends on the participants. One of my gfs is on a website and OMG at some of the pics I’ve seen. There are couples(married/dating) that do it together and other single ladies like my gf that like to “play” sometimes.

What kind of air freshener is best?

:lol: I’m going to ask her that…

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
10:40 am

Daddy Swiss- “Slim — Indeed. A good woman is hard to find.”
And a hard man is good to find, lol.

disco

September 6th, 2013
10:41 am

reio – you got jokes. I guess I don’t feel them because germaphobic people get on my daggone nerves. the ones that are always spraying and sanitizing. just the other night I snapped just a tad when the guy I was having dinner with asked if I had – wait for it – “finger stuff”. really? dude. you grown as heck and you saying “finger stuff”? do I look like I’m 5? okay. sorry. I went down a different path.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:43 am

Sassy – I wonder what putting ‘Christian” before swingers club is supposed to do? That just sounds wrong as heyal if you ask me. I mean, are they going to have bible study before the festivities or what…now I feel like Reio with all these questions

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:44 am

I would think that there would be some kind of rules, written or unwritten that would regulate activity.

I’d think so,too…like only being physically attracted to a person and NOT emotional. Another I’ve heard is that a couple can ONLY play as a couple and BOTH have to agree.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:49 am

MsAtl – :lol: :lol: On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:50 am

disco ~ of course more often from familiar dizzle.

SassyMe ~ I thought the same when I read “Christian” then thought “many wolves in sheep clothing!”

Trapeze…I’ve been sitting here trying to think of its name…thanks!

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:51 am

I mean, are they going to have bible study before the festivities or what…

:lol:

EXACTLY…I wondered about this,too.

I’ve observed that when a person professes their religion, they’re held up to expectations(societal/moral/religous) of behavior based on what a Christian should(pray/tithe/etc.) and shouldn’t do(swear/drink/etc). Swinging is obviously one thing that would definitely fall into the latter, so putting the word Christian in front of it makes those participating feel better(and less judged) about it.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:52 am

Well, I ask these questions somewhat in jest, but surely there has to be some etiquette or rules, or things could get out of hand quite quickly. Can I, as a participant, get more than one towel? Can I demand a certain color towel? Do you get to take a shower before leaving? If so, after a shower, can I go back at it?, Can I get a second shower? How much does a shower cost at these parties? Do they provide antibacterial soap? Shampoo?……….Huh?

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:53 am

I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

:lol:

—————flatline—————–

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:54 am

I’ve been sitting here trying to think of its name…thanks!

You’re welcome :mrgreen:

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:57 am

SlimNU -

“On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?”

Women may be an even better judge of this than men. Just sayin.

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
10:59 am

Dang it…I’m getting swamped at work. I guess I need to log off for now. Hope to check in later…If not, then ya’ll have a great weekend!

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:06 am

I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

Well, I don’t know for sure. Surely there has to be some deminishing of capacity over time. Father Time & Mother Nature will make sure of that. But I’ll tell you what; Let Beyonce show her super fine azz up, out of the clear blue, butt nekkid, and see how hard ‘I’ get!! Heheheheh…….

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:14 am

“On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?” – Not sure, but what I do know is the purchase of penal pumps have soared in the medical insurance field. I personally know of two guys who uses pumps. One even had the audacity to show it to me….uuugggh. That definitely put me in the mood….NOT!!!!

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:16 am

@2C ok you are happy to find the one, but are you happy to have her as your one and only as well?
So basically SlimNu, Reio and hrh are the only guys in here that are happy to have one and only one partner?

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:20 am

“So basically SlimNu, Reio and hrh are the only guys in here that are happy to have one and only one partner?”

I’m happy to have 1 and only 1 now. Then again my 1 and only is way hotter than any other available options, so there’s that. :) Plus, I’ve already had my share of man-ho’ing. It’s kind of like the Grand Canyon. Everybody should experience it, but once you’ve seen it… meh. lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:22 am

don’t forget to add daddyswiss to that list.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:23 am

Nevamind, he added himself (lol).

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:24 am

YesSheIsCute – I don’t know about other fellas on here, but my main motivation would be to not hurt her, or cause her to cry. I’d feel really bad and ashamed if she found out. Plus, if you’re runnin around, sooner or later, you’re gonna run up on one that STANKS much too bad. Some of ya’ll’s thangs are SO NUFF FUNKY!! And that’s no lie. I’d rather stay where it’s pleasant and pleasing. Just sayin.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
11:24 am

/I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard? and this is why older men like younger women, need something tight, not the grand canyon (LOL) And older women like younger men, they need a steel stiffie, not a wet noodle!!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:26 am

Guess that sums it up, Single!

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:27 am

@daddy swiss interesting. I’m asking because with the last post it seemed like men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship but then they don’t like to share partners either….

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:30 am

“it seemed like men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship but then they don’t like to share partners either…”

Cutie — Actually, this ↑ is correct. And it makes perfect sense. Men aren’t hard pressed to be married or monogamous. That’s not our goal. We get married only when we meet a woman we don’t want to live without. So, it stands to reason that we wouldn’t want to share her. :)

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:31 am

But I’ll tell you what; Let Beyonce show her super fine azz up, out of the clear blue, butt nekkid, and see how hard ‘I’ get!! Heheheheh…….

Reio – :lol: I guess there will always be ‘that one”…I’d surely hate for you to catch Beyonce at a low moment and you STILL cannot perform. Nervous much? lol

Leggs – Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:32 am

@swiss ok well if that’s the case there’s no point in thinking about it any further. Forget diamonds, cobwebs are a girls best friend :lol:

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:35 am

Slimhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WCvULMRUq8

This sort of thing ain’t my bag, baby!”

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
11:36 am

Cutie, are you auditioning for wife aspirant????

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:38 am

Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol

I would think so. Can you imagine? It went like this, I stopped over after work and had a glass of wine with him. He says he wants to show me something. He goes upstairs and comes back with a pump telling me how it works. I sat there dumbfounded thinking of stewardesses demonstrating how to use that yellow mask. Good grief, do you not have any shame!

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:46 am

and this is why older men like younger women, need something tight

Single – But if an older dude has a noodle, how in the world is he going to stuff it into a tight youngin’? Limp is limp no matter where you’re trying to put it.

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
11:47 am

He goes upstairs and comes back with a pump telling me how it works

Eeeeewwwww….he acted like he was an 8yr old with a new toy(no pum intended) and wanted to show somebody. What would make him think that was sexy and what woman would want to sleep with him knowing he had to literally get “pumped up” before hand..

do you not have any shame!

He had n’aan ounce…

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:49 am

“men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship”

Perhaps it’s biology. Nature. I don’t know. I think the instinct to fool around is still in most/all men, because of biology. Nothing we can do about that. Kinda like being born with two eyes, or two ears, or two hands, or two nostrils, or two kidneys, or two legs, or one heart, or…….it’s the way nature planned it. The difference in guys like me and others, is that, I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what? Surely there has to be more to life(We say this to ourselves, consciously or subconsciously). We have to consciously make the effort to not indulge in what biology is constantly telling us to indulge in. It’s a struggle. Some handle it better than others, but, I believe, all men experience this. Fortunately, most of us tend to get it at some point. Although Father Time & Mother Nature forces some men into this way of thinking before they are ready for it. Many men, however, never arrive at this conclusion, and spend the rest of their lives trying to be playas. Chasing skirts till the day they die, or simply can’t do anything anymore.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
11:50 am

@swiss – I agree with your 11:30; but I think that sentiment can go both ways. Some men I meet find it strange when I say I do not want to get married. Ladies don’t you think we have the same options about whether to get married or not that men do?

@YSIC – lol – cobwebs? we have options to prevent those too – lol

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:51 am

Leggs – HAHAHAH, you know next time I fly somewhere I’m going to think about that :lol: “Firmly place the pump over your wang, ensure the base is air tight….”

hrh

September 6th, 2013
11:55 am

@Leggs “Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol”

I’ve never even seen a pump – though I knew a dude who I think popped the blue pills cause when it was hard, it was hard for days – he never fessed up though! lol

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
11:56 am

Ladies don’t you think we have the same options about whether to get married or not that men do?

Yes we do. NOT ALL women want to get married…I don’t….never felt the urge/want/desire to. It’s the same with having children…I might date a man with children but I ain’t birthin’ no babies…

SlinNu…you wrong for that. Now you’ll be the only person laughing through that part of the pre-flight spiel… :lol:

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:00 pm

“I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what?”

Reio ~ I love you simply for stating the obvious. I always say why cheat. It’s a moment of pleasure, but what happens when you’re finished. Is it really worth it to cheat on your SO/wife/hubby, not be with your children if divorce results, etc. Wish more would look at the end product and not the start up cost.

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
12:08 pm

YSIC….I prefer too have 2 ladies at a the same time, options are a man’s best friend… j/k

See Leggs, HRH has experience the blue pill, you should allow your guy to pop and you will get it in like never before….hhehehehehehe

I would say this there is something about a tight young athletic shapely woman that always make you stand to attention.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:11 pm

Durty ~he has the pill, the penis pump, diabeties, high blood pressure and I think gout. Last thing I need is this man croaking on top of me. The mere thought dries me up. It’s all such a turnoff.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:15 pm

I heard those male porn stars use those pumps…..

speaking of porn stars….has Roxy Reynolds made any new movies lately?

hrh

September 6th, 2013
12:17 pm

Leggs/Reio – “I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what?”

Statement may be obvious, but how many men think that proactively in the moment when stuff is all up in their face? Not many – lol

Durty – Oh yea! lol

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:17 pm

speaking of porn stars….again…..lawd I used to love me some Janet Jacme….she looked like she enjoyed coming to work!!!!!

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:19 pm

anyone ever make a video with their mate??? you talkin bout a turn on…..

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
12:20 pm

Leggs that is why u need to go with the younger men like me….I may use the blue pill just to give you the all week experience,….hehehehehe

You are right dude is a heart attack waiting to happen…

Hypothetical..Since we all know/believe the orgasm moment is shortlive then why not accept it as long as the man/woman does not disrupt the household…

Free your mind Friday…This will be a Friday free of reading about Celisea job….lol

hrh

September 6th, 2013
12:21 pm

Leggs – funny you should say that. I found out dude’s brother had a heart condition, was taking blue pills from the street pharmacist and croaked while with a woman – that scared him a little so he stopped taking them. Oh Well! I miss that marathon – lol

Reio

September 6th, 2013
12:23 pm

Leggs – I can remember when I was much younger, not married, or attached. just kinda runnin around. Seemed like iIwould finish ‘the act’ and feel wonderful and satisfied. Quite pleased indeed.
But then, I soon start to feel unfulfilled and empty. Tired, weary, emotionless, confused, and even a little sad. And she is still lying next to me while I’m experiencing all of these things. And it hit me all of a sudden one night, when I finally realized that, although what I had just experienced, was truly wonderful and exhilarating, “This heffa’s stuff ain’t no better than any other stuff I’ve had”, eventhough I was expecting it to be. Nothing stood out. Some were better than others. But even with the better one’s, there would always seem to be something missing. Couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was, till I met the one that I married. I didn’t just love her, I actually cared for her, and wanted to please her. The feeling that I got when I knew that something I said or did, made her feel good or made her laugh, was more pleasing to me than any sexual experience that I had had before. Making her happy and knowing that she WAS happy, was more than enough to cause me to stay with her and only her. That’s how I see it. Hell, even the great Beyonce couldn’t change that! Although I’d probably have to pause momentarily to comtemplate what it would be like with her, before dismissing it altogether. Heheheheh….

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:28 pm

I WON, I WON. Was caller #1, #12 and finally the winning caller #17. Uncle Charlie tix at Chastain….I was trying to hold out for Diana Ross tix, but it didn’t happen. I won 2 months ago to see Cedric the Entertainer at The Fox on 12/31, but gave those back because I was hoping for Ms Ross tix. I can’t play or 90 days so I have to pick and chose (lolol).

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
12:31 pm

@2C I’m not auditioning. But I do hold auditions every once in awhile when I feel like it.
@Reio that’s so nice and sweet.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
12:32 pm

Yes we do. NOT ALL women want to get married…I don’t….never felt the urge/want/desire to. It’s the same with having children…I might date a man with children but I ain’t birthin’ no babies… Well hello sassy, how you doing :-)

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
12:41 pm

Leggs- Jealous right now! I wanted those tix. I had won to see Aretha Franklin this month but she canceled. They do not substitute tix, so tough luck to me…

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
12:48 pm

@hrh I don’t even know how I feel about marriage anymore….. At this point I’d be surprised if I met someone who wanted to have a monogamous relationship. The only thing that I find as a disadvantage to not being married, is that if either of us end up hospitalized the other has no rights no matter how long we have been together. I experienced that with my former live-in boyfriend. Even though I was in possession of his insurance information and all that I wasn’t even allowed to see him. :(

But I feel like if children is what he (my partner) wants to do then we should get married point blank.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
12:49 pm

I would say this there is something about a tight young athletic shapely woman that always make you stand to attention

Durty – Exactly why my arse is about to get back in the gym…i’m scoping ads to find me an affordable & gently used treadmill. Ever since I hurt myself running from a dog, jogging before work, i’ve been a bit nervous. lol Plus it’s about to be dark in the mornings soon.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:02 pm

Reio ~ many women are looking for a man like you. I appreciate that you recognized early in your life how to value women and not take advantage of them when you knew you could. Gotta respect that. Some go with the flow cuz the flow is there. A real man walks away from such an easy target.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:13 pm

Guess everyone ventured off to lunch….thumb twirling will now begin. :???:

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:22 pm

Hey Slim- Atl here…

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:29 pm

MsAtl – You want to play thumb war? lol It always seems like the shortest weeks feel the longest…only been to work yesterday and today. Whew! lol

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
1:29 pm

@Leggs I agree! I wish there were more men out there who were like minded, straight and available.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:33 pm

Slim- I was working at home on Monday. I had a trial which began on Tuesday and ended yesterday. This goose is cooked!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:35 pm

YSIC ~ there is so much mess in the dating world. Makes you want to curl up with a good book and drink and block all that crap out! BUT, do that only if you want to grow old by yourself (lol). So, navigating through the mess takes skill, patience and sometimes a “go f…. yourself attitude.” Not self-pleasure go f…. yourself, but put one in their place when they think they’re the master puppeteer!

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
1:37 pm

whowantstomakeavideo?

SlimNu—I feel you regarding the excercising, we have to keep the blood flowing to all body parts especially the knee. Arther will come a knocking before you know it!

MsAtl—From New York…Now is Ms Atlanta go ahead wit yo bad self! :)

Leggs…Reio fell to mentioned how many he nailed before married became the goal….

Hrh….Welcome back! Where have you been?

YSIC…You have to use sale skills to get past I am not a relative..I have visited several friends in the hospital…I just become a relative… hehehehehehe!

Leggs…When you had your daughter did you have your dates over? Or did you have them over when your daughter was away with the father?

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:41 pm

Yes – Did you happen to cross through downtown over the weekend? It was Pride weekend…and when you mentioned STRAIGHT and available men, it made me wonder how many Non-straight dudes were hanging out down there. :shock:

MsAtl – The best way to cook a goose is to drink some lol

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:43 pm

Hmmm, I don’t have any Grey Goose at home. But I do have some Van Gough caramel (that stuff is sooo good).

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:43 pm

whowantstomakeavideo?

Durty – Now I have that Twister and Chris Brown song stuck in my head

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:44 pm

Leggs/Slim- Is straight, decent, honest and completely adores me too much to ask??

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:45 pm

Durty ~ no he didn’t fail to mention that. He has always stated how he dated to marry trying to find the one he could care for and would care for him. How many he dated is irrevelevant because he realized none of them were the one he was looking for. The fact that he didnt’ walk on his dates or mistreated them or used them because he could is what I’m commending.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:50 pm

Durty ~ I haven’t really “dated” in a long time so no dates have been over. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve gone out, but nothing has clicked.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:52 pm

MsAtl ~ not at all. I’m looking for the same thing.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:56 pm

I really want a swirl ice cream cone.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:57 pm

hmmm, seems like I’m talking to myself. Even the thumb twirler seemed to have left the bldg.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
1:58 pm

@Reio

I hope you’re joking about the need to spray…

Because typically, if someone call smell you before they see you (in the bad way) you’re alone, regardless of the situation/environment.

But threre was something about the ‘freeness’ of the atmosphere. There was no judgment, no wide open mouths (in shock, at least), those were the most chill times I’ve had being out anywhere.

Everyone was there for the same thing. And there was (never used this word about anything else) a “chemistry” in the air in those places that defies description. Wanton lust, sex of all kinds/positions/number of people everywhere, It was….great…for me.

Once I got introduced to it, I got into it. I had too much fun exploring that aspect of my personality.

Yes, my wife knows all about it. No, I don’t miss the sex. I do miss the openness of a shared goal and shared experiences.

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
2:01 pm

@SlimNu I had a friend come up for the dragoncon. So between dragoncon and pride weekend I stayed on the southside lol

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:03 pm

Is straight, decent, honest and completely adores me too much to ask??

MsAtl – You wouldn’t think it is but I guess it depends on who you ask. I surely hope not though, for all of our sakes.

Leggs – I’m still here…had to run to the rehroom (restroom lol)

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

Slim- I hope not because I am not willing to settle…

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

MsAtl…I am straight, decent, partly honest and I adore you so can we break open Van Gough caramel?

Leggs …Reio just mentioned he nailed a woman and while she was feeling good about the situation, he was not…I’m stating he was nailing the ladies then he realized he wanted to be married…

You ladies think you have it tough, men have it tough as well…we have dudes who want to dress like women, dudes who want to be women and dudes who get changes to become a woman……YUKKKKKKKIIIIIIIIII

Now since there are only a few men who are straight honest and we will adore you….We need to go to the verizon shared plan…I need to be shared so the other women who wanta straight honest man does not miss-out… So who wants to sign-up?

It can be a seasonal plan…. 6 months with you and 6 months with the other ladies.

It can be an unlimited plan where you get year round, but it will cost more..hehehehehehee let me stop some!

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

And I am joking (kinda) about the completely adores me part.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:08 pm

Durty- Partly honest? Lol

Leggs- I was in my office howling about that video earlier this morning! That tape would have been erased!!!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:09 pm

MsAtl ~ neither am I hence not dating (lol).

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:10 pm

Yes – Oh yeah I forgot about Dragoncon. My coworker went to the Sun Dial for her bday and ended up taking a pic with Iron Man. lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:11 pm

Durty ~ I took it he was nailing the ladies and realized he wasn’t feeling anything afterwards and that’s not what he was looking for. He always wanted to marry.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:15 pm

Durty – THat sounds like the new T-moble JUMP plan…Jump off that is. lol

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:16 pm

Ms.Atl…..ummm, you weren’t on that teacher cheating case, were you?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:18 pm

SlimNu ~ naw, that’s the new B.U.D.D.Y Plan.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:21 pm

Leggs – Enjoy! the concert and the ice cream cone

YSCI – There are things to be considered – sorry you experienced that

Durty – was across the pond for a funeral, quite sad! No…no video, maybe a headless camera shot…lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:24 pm

Who is YSCI (lol).

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:24 pm

only 3 pages???

guess we need to stir the pot a lil bit…..

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

@Slim “Durty – THat sounds like the new T-moble JUMP plan…Jump off that is. lol” –
LOL

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

where’s disco?

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:27 pm

2C- Nope- that one was not mine.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:27 pm

In her skin…lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:31 pm

O/T: Just heard Reuben Studdard (Am. Idol) now weighs 462 lbs and will be on Biggest Loser. Damn, how does a person let themself get that big.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

Slim……c’mere, and let me spank you for that snide comment!

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

@Leggs – sorry, I am tired, I meant YSIC!

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

Ms.Atl, so Paul Howard is your boss?

Adam

September 6th, 2013
2:36 pm

Swingers = Whores = diseased ridden, enough said. But if that’s your cup of tea, more power to you, just stay away from me I really don’t need a gift that keeps on giving.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:38 pm

2C- I am not in the DA’s Office. Why, do they pay more???

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:39 pm

Reio

September 6th, 2013
2:39 pm

Durty – ”Leggs…Reio fell to mentioned how many he nailed before married became the goal….”

Actually, I’ve always wanted to be married. Very early in my life(teens/20s), I tried the same sh!t that other fellas tried. But I realized that I would be standing/sitting with them in a social setting, see the same things they were seeing, but not feel as excited and horny as they seemed to. I would imagine myself with these women, but almost immediately, imagine the “What now?” or “What’s next?” aspect of it all. That’s the part that bothered me. In addition to having a burning desire to be married, coupled with the fact that I would very much not want to hurt any of them, or cause them to cry, I, for the most part, abstained from that kind of behavior and would laugh and marvel at the guys that did.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:43 pm

hrh ~ I know..just messing with you.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:44 pm

2C – Only if you use a bag of cotton or silk. lol

Leggs – Did you see that guy that was dayum near 600lbs on tv a few weeks ago? He could not even stand to stand up without pain, long enough for them to try to weigh him. I didn’t get to see the whole thing but that’s crazy. So i’m certain he has to just be pooping and peeing on himself. His wife has to do errrrythang!

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:47 pm

Ms. Atl…..I’m sure the DA’s office don’t pay as much as private practice…..

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:48 pm

Reio ~ I’ve explained all that to him…lolol. Seriously, was waiting for you to further clarify what I already said.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:50 pm

SlimNu ~ I didn’t see it but I hear biggum stories all the time. It blows my mind, especially with there isn’t a medical issue, just pure liking food. But then again, is it ever just about the food. Some underlying issue somewhere.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
2:52 pm

Leggs – “Just heard Reuben Studdard (Am. Idol) now weighs 462 lbs and will be on Biggest Loser.”

Well,you know he’s from here(Birmingham), and I know one of his uncles. So, I’ll talk to him and see what he says. I hope not. Good gracious! 462 lbs.? Dayum!

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
2:53 pm

hmm you think had they not took the money CC and iphone this would have been okay (LOL)

http://chicago.cbslocal.com/2013/09/05/woman-charged-with-raping-man-bond-set-at-75k/

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
2:54 pm

His wife has to do errrrythang!

First and foremost I’d like to know how/why he got that damn big and didn’t to ANYthing about it? Iff’n he can’t get up and cook who’s enabling him?!..his wife..the same person that has to wash/dry/wipe your a$$. I have NO sympathy for either of them.

Unless you’ve got some type of glandular/medical problem that causes you to balloon that big…why do it?

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:57 pm

Single- Well that was weird…

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
2:57 pm

Damn, how does a person let themself get that big. that’s easy, no exercise except those arm curls with that drumstick. Find every excuse in the world not to do it.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:01 pm

Sassy –
“First and foremost I’d like to know how/why he got that damn big and didn’t to ANYthing about it?”

Too much Krispy Kreme and Black Walnut ice cream will do it to ya every time.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
3:01 pm

Single – that’s diferent , maybe not because he may be thinking of catching an std or getting the chick pregnant

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
3:04 pm

Too much Krispy Kreme and Black Walnut ice cream will do it to ya every time. you can have those things, just eat them while running around the block.

HRH, now that would be interesting, and he still would probably have to pay child support.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
3:09 pm

I read the entire article smdh…just weird and strange. He ran to a cab, had enough time to get a pic of license plate, why didn’t they speed off when his foot first hit concrete?

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:09 pm

Single – The article didn’t say what they made him do. Wonder did he stick his thang in her? His tongue in her? Did he have to kiss her? Did she make him go anal? How did he pay the cab driver, if all of his cards and cash were taken? While driving him, did the cabbie take a quick look at his thang? If so, did he catch the cabbie looking at his thang? Did he gi……….Too many unanswered questions.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
3:09 pm

Wait, they were stuck in traffic. They also left the door unlock for him to run….whatever!

hrh

September 6th, 2013
3:12 pm

Single – exactly, but I can’t imagine a woman doing all that some stuff…even on a slow day…it still sounds a little fishy to me!

Starbucks run…..anyone up for a latte?

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
3:14 pm

reio, are you working today (LOL)

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
3:14 pm

Reio ~ a stalled career can do it too.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
3:17 pm

sounds like ole boy just didn’t want to pay (LOL)

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
3:17 pm

sounds like ole boy just didn’t want to pay (LOL)

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
3:17 pm

Reio ~ thanks for the questions. I forgot to comment on him running to cab nekkid..

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:18 pm

Single – Yes. But it’s payday Friday. Nobody gives a sh!t. Not much happening. Half of’em are about to ease out the door anyway.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
3:23 pm

Reio, with all those thoughts that be going threw your head (hmmmm) LOL

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
3:25 pm

@hrh I love latte macchiatos! Get me one with a cookie please :D

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
3:26 pm

Sassy – from the little bit I saw, they did admit to their co-dependency….the wife actually was beginning to get annoyed with the folks that came to help her husband. I think part of her liked feeling like he had to depend on her. It’s one thing to clean a dirty baby butt, but a grown arse man’s azz???? Um… :shock:

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:30 pm

While driving, Did the cab stank?, Was the air conditioning running?, Was there a towel or Kleenex to wipe his thang off?, DID he wipe his thang off?, If so, where did he put the towel or Kleenex afterwards? Did anybody see him exit the cab nekkid? Where were his house keys? Did someone let him in? If so, the person that let him in, are they now suffering from post traumatic stress disorder?, Is HE suffering from post traumatic stress disorder?, Is the cabbie suffering from post traumatic stress disorder? Just wondering

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
3:36 pm

No way I’m going back to read all of four pages…lol

Umm, how does a man get raped? I mean I’m a grown woman that lived with a man, have had bfs over the years, currently booed and have an 18 yo, but don’t you have to be aroused??? How you “take” something from a dude that’s limp? How do you get aroused under duress/???

Maybe I’ve been wrong all these years

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:40 pm

Put a loaded gun to my head, even I might be able to get it up eventually. Better that, than my brains splattered all over the windows. Jus sayin.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
3:47 pm

Reio – you’re just determined to ask all your questions today – lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
3:49 pm

Reio ~ I’m thinking the same thing re: gun, but thought it best for a man to say it.

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
3:50 pm

It’s one thing to clean a dirty baby butt, but a grown arse man’s azz???? Um…

Okkk?! Unless he’s handicapped somehow I AIN’T doing it!! Then it’s a great big old, funky, creased up, I know I can’t/won’t get everything outta here type of a$$,too…umm hellz nawl..

I think part of her liked feeling like he had to depend on her.

Get a puppy/cat/rabbit/gerbil/hamster/gold fish…

Reio

September 6th, 2013
3:57 pm

hrh – Got a lot of questions about a full range of issues. But, people that know me, will tell you, that I have, what I believe to be, solutions to those questions/problems as well. Thank you very much. Hehehehe……

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:03 pm

By the way; DAWGS ain’t sh!t!! Gonna git clipped tomorrow too. South Carolina ain’t no joke.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:05 pm

SassyMe ~ you’ve been hawking those experiment lab animals for quite some time now…nobody wants them after you’ve poked and probed (rofl).

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
4:10 pm

Sassy – My idea of getting his butt cleaned would be to spray it on high with the garden hose. lolol

I don’t feel like doing anything when I get off work….straight bum mode

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:16 pm

So would any of you ladies stay with your man if he gained that kind of weight? Is that a limit to how much he can gain?

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:20 pm

Someone sent me a link with TP laying hands and donating 1MM to TD Jakes… :shock: I didn’t know he was called to preach/lay hands.

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:21 pm

He’s speaking in tongues and “preaching!!!” Like speaking in tongues!!!

hrh

September 6th, 2013
4:23 pm

SIngle – unless it’s a medical problem, I probably would – especially if I’m trying to keep myself appealing! physical attraction is important in a relationship so when it gets to that point where the attraction is gone, not good!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:24 pm

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:24 pm

Hrh, so would you have certain spots marked on the scale. (LOL)

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:25 pm

Celisea ~ they played a clip of him speaking in tongues on the radio yesterday saying God told him to donate $1M. He didn’t know what for and when he got on stage he found out they were trying to raise $1M.

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
4:26 pm

@SH I would stay…but I feel like as someone who cares, you need to know when to tell them “HEY push away from the table”. I mean there’s no nice way to say to your s/o that you’re gaining weight but at the same time it’s something that needs to be said. There is no reason why someone is letting you gain a lot of weight. I would appreciate it my s/o said something if I were gaining a lot of weight all of a sudden and I definitely would do it as well. Obviously there’s a a problem (be it medical or otherwise) and we need to resolve it.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:26 pm

Okay, why do women get with women that look and act like dudes, why not get a man?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:27 pm

hrh, I’m like you, if I’m trying to keep myself appealing I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t. If it’s medical, then we would have to work through it, but I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure your a$$ doesn’t get as big as the house!

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:27 pm

Celisea – who is ‘TP’?

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:27 pm

awww yes that’s so sweet (LOL)

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:29 pm

Probably because at the end of the day, she’s still a woman, soft, cuddly, emotional, understanding. Can identify with Venus vs Venus and Not Mars v. Venus.

Hell, I don’t know.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:29 pm

Who is TP (rofl).

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:30 pm

One of the reasons I’m laughing is because every time I see TP, I think of toilet paper.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:31 pm

Leggs, hmm seems you do know, is there something you want to tell us (LOL)

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:32 pm

Leggs – The crowd was going berzerk. IA friend sent to me. I’m going through emails and was like whoa. Wonder why they needed 1MM when it’s such a huge church with huge membership? Just wondering

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
4:32 pm

@SH I guess it’s sweet. I only say it because I live far from my family (they are all in NYC) who have no problem telling you hey you getting too juicy stop. I’ve been there and I’ve been with a guy who had weight fluctuations. Ultimately you responsible for your own weight gain/loss but if someone really cares how could they sit by and say nothing. That’s like your s/o seeing a growth on your arm getting blacker and hairier and more unsightly and not saying anything or suggesting you see a doctor. Really? I’ma say something…

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:33 pm

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:34 pm

Single ~ while typing all that, I said someone is going to ask if I’ve moved to the other side (lol).

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:35 pm

Oh, ok. Cause I thought Teddy Pendergrass dropped dead a while back.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:35 pm

I can see the medical reason, (which usually come after the weight gain) but I’m talking someone that just gains from eating. I know we all gain weight, but what is the limit?

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:37 pm

Reio – Quit playing! You knew the answer…lol

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:39 pm

Things that make you say hmmmmm

Did Michael (from Good Times) go on to become a lawyer?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:39 pm

Ex would be proud of me for not answering since the question wasn’t directed to me!

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:39 pm

in t.v. land?

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:39 pm

Leggs – No, but your explaination sure sounds a bit too informed. A bit too plausible to be chalked up to mere speculation.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:40 pm

Not sure, but he did go on to get very sick.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:41 pm

Reio ~ who cares…it’s pure speculation. I’ve always thought that’s some of the reasons a woman goes to a woman. And, I think my answer sounds quite plausible not speculative.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
4:41 pm

Leggs – I was kinda trying to guess who TP was too – lol

Single – I’ve observed that people who are big just from eating are usually with similar partners, so if both of them are getting juicy together, they probably don’t notice.

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:41 pm

Why was JJ always “beedy bee?” Why didn’t they ever come or blow out his fro? Why did it always look “tight” and napped up?

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:42 pm

Leggs answer kind of sounds like slim swinger answer (LOL) done did a lil sperimiting (LOL)

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:43 pm

Most woman on woman deals are defined as such….the reasoning that a woman can understand a woman better than a man (can understand a woman), that a woman is “in tune” and sensitive to another woman’s feelings…so forth and so on….

I’ve always heard that

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
4:44 pm

comb not come

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:45 pm

Leggs, but some of those “women” are more manly than any man will ever be. Don’t want to be looked at as a woman in anyway.

HRH whenever I see to overly obese people together with kids, makes you wonder how?? (LOL)

Let me stop that’s not nice.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:45 pm

hrh ~ that’s even funnier.

Thanks Celisea ~ I’ve heard it too.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:46 pm

Single ~ they may act more manly, but they’re still a woman.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:47 pm

Leggs – “And, I think my answer sounds quite plausible not speculative.”

Exactly. That’s why I said “A bit too plausible to be chalked up to mere speculation.” I hear ya though. Never thought about it in that way. Wonderful observation. Quite insightful.

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
4:49 pm

@SH if that’s the case (not medical) sounds like we need to go on that vegetarian/juicing fast and la fitness TOGETHER :)

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:52 pm

yes vegeterian/juicing, naw that aint happening (LOL) I needs my greesy fried foods (LOL)

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:53 pm

Reio ~ I’m laughing because I didn’t even see notice you used the word “plausible.” If I had I wouldn’t have said what I said (lol).

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
4:54 pm

Here’s a fabulous E.O.D.

A ship is desiged to take you places….so if your “friendSHIP, your companionSHIP, partnerSHIP or relationSHIP isn’t taking you anywhere…abandonSHIP”

hrh

September 6th, 2013
4:56 pm

My two cents on the woman/woman thing – some of the ones who look and act like men….sometimes really think they are men..lol…..ijs!

Fabulous weekend to all!

Reio

September 6th, 2013
4:56 pm

Leggs – Here, here!

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
4:59 pm

Leggs, so shape up or ship out (LOL)

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
5:00 pm

HRH you see my point. (LOL)

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
5:02 pm

Someone is asking if there’s still a WillieB at the zoo? Y’all remember him, big black silverback? Is that still an attraction? I know there’s was “WillieB” years ago, not sure if the silverback is still named as such…

Oh well, so much for what I know. Imma tell them to look the zoo up online :mrgreen:

Have a fantab weekend, I know I will…night!!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
5:02 pm

Single ~ YEP!! I like that.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
5:04 pm

WillieB died.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
5:05 pm

Hey All!

Out on vacay for a few. Have a good time.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
5:07 pm

Have fun MsATL

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
5:08 pm

Thanks Single.

Celisea

September 6th, 2013
5:09 pm

Awwww, such a shame the name “Willie” was so fitting for that Silverback….hmpfh. We talked about that beast for years, when I lived near the park. Oh well, I’m sure they’ll enjoy the zoo just as well.

Toodles

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
5:10 pm

Have fun, get some rest!