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Swing my way

If you didn’t already know that Atlanta was Reality TV Capital of the South, you should know now:  TV producers LOVE filming here.  The latest foray in Atlanta “reality” on television is about the secret sex lives of swingers.

As I read about the upcoming series, I remembered the guy I met a long time ago through online dating.   I was so excited about him until he explained exactly what he was looking for: a wife. A wife who would also be his swinging partner. Without getting too graphic, he basically wanted his wife to pick someone out to bring home and enjoy. Um, yeah NO.

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian.  At least that is the image that he projected to me.  I had a preconceived idea about what a swinger was – and he was not it at all.

What would you do if your date asked how open you were to swinging?

My apologies for yesterday! I did not set the blog correctly.  Bad blogger, I know!

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

244 comments Add your comment

hrh

September 6th, 2013
12:21 pm

Leggs – funny you should say that. I found out dude’s brother had a heart condition, was taking blue pills from the street pharmacist and croaked while with a woman – that scared him a little so he stopped taking them. Oh Well! I miss that marathon – lol

Reio

September 6th, 2013
12:23 pm

Leggs – I can remember when I was much younger, not married, or attached. just kinda runnin around. Seemed like iIwould finish ‘the act’ and feel wonderful and satisfied. Quite pleased indeed.
But then, I soon start to feel unfulfilled and empty. Tired, weary, emotionless, confused, and even a little sad. And she is still lying next to me while I’m experiencing all of these things. And it hit me all of a sudden one night, when I finally realized that, although what I had just experienced, was truly wonderful and exhilarating, “This heffa’s stuff ain’t no better than any other stuff I’ve had”, eventhough I was expecting it to be. Nothing stood out. Some were better than others. But even with the better one’s, there would always seem to be something missing. Couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was, till I met the one that I married. I didn’t just love her, I actually cared for her, and wanted to please her. The feeling that I got when I knew that something I said or did, made her feel good or made her laugh, was more pleasing to me than any sexual experience that I had had before. Making her happy and knowing that she WAS happy, was more than enough to cause me to stay with her and only her. That’s how I see it. Hell, even the great Beyonce couldn’t change that! Although I’d probably have to pause momentarily to comtemplate what it would be like with her, before dismissing it altogether. Heheheheh….

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:28 pm

I WON, I WON. Was caller #1, #12 and finally the winning caller #17. Uncle Charlie tix at Chastain….I was trying to hold out for Diana Ross tix, but it didn’t happen. I won 2 months ago to see Cedric the Entertainer at The Fox on 12/31, but gave those back because I was hoping for Ms Ross tix. I can’t play or 90 days so I have to pick and chose (lolol).

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
12:31 pm

@2C I’m not auditioning. But I do hold auditions every once in awhile when I feel like it.
@Reio that’s so nice and sweet.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
12:32 pm

Yes we do. NOT ALL women want to get married…I don’t….never felt the urge/want/desire to. It’s the same with having children…I might date a man with children but I ain’t birthin’ no babies… Well hello sassy, how you doing :-)

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
12:41 pm

Leggs- Jealous right now! I wanted those tix. I had won to see Aretha Franklin this month but she canceled. They do not substitute tix, so tough luck to me…

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
12:48 pm

@hrh I don’t even know how I feel about marriage anymore….. At this point I’d be surprised if I met someone who wanted to have a monogamous relationship. The only thing that I find as a disadvantage to not being married, is that if either of us end up hospitalized the other has no rights no matter how long we have been together. I experienced that with my former live-in boyfriend. Even though I was in possession of his insurance information and all that I wasn’t even allowed to see him. :(

But I feel like if children is what he (my partner) wants to do then we should get married point blank.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
12:49 pm

I would say this there is something about a tight young athletic shapely woman that always make you stand to attention

Durty – Exactly why my arse is about to get back in the gym…i’m scoping ads to find me an affordable & gently used treadmill. Ever since I hurt myself running from a dog, jogging before work, i’ve been a bit nervous. lol Plus it’s about to be dark in the mornings soon.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:02 pm

Reio ~ many women are looking for a man like you. I appreciate that you recognized early in your life how to value women and not take advantage of them when you knew you could. Gotta respect that. Some go with the flow cuz the flow is there. A real man walks away from such an easy target.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:13 pm

Guess everyone ventured off to lunch….thumb twirling will now begin. :???:

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:22 pm

Hey Slim- Atl here…

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:29 pm

MsAtl – You want to play thumb war? lol It always seems like the shortest weeks feel the longest…only been to work yesterday and today. Whew! lol

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
1:29 pm

@Leggs I agree! I wish there were more men out there who were like minded, straight and available.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:33 pm

Slim- I was working at home on Monday. I had a trial which began on Tuesday and ended yesterday. This goose is cooked!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:35 pm

YSIC ~ there is so much mess in the dating world. Makes you want to curl up with a good book and drink and block all that crap out! BUT, do that only if you want to grow old by yourself (lol). So, navigating through the mess takes skill, patience and sometimes a “go f…. yourself attitude.” Not self-pleasure go f…. yourself, but put one in their place when they think they’re the master puppeteer!

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
1:37 pm

whowantstomakeavideo?

SlimNu—I feel you regarding the excercising, we have to keep the blood flowing to all body parts especially the knee. Arther will come a knocking before you know it!

MsAtl—From New York…Now is Ms Atlanta go ahead wit yo bad self! :)

Leggs…Reio fell to mentioned how many he nailed before married became the goal….

Hrh….Welcome back! Where have you been?

YSIC…You have to use sale skills to get past I am not a relative..I have visited several friends in the hospital…I just become a relative… hehehehehehe!

Leggs…When you had your daughter did you have your dates over? Or did you have them over when your daughter was away with the father?

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:41 pm

Yes – Did you happen to cross through downtown over the weekend? It was Pride weekend…and when you mentioned STRAIGHT and available men, it made me wonder how many Non-straight dudes were hanging out down there. :shock:

MsAtl – The best way to cook a goose is to drink some lol

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:43 pm

Hmmm, I don’t have any Grey Goose at home. But I do have some Van Gough caramel (that stuff is sooo good).

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
1:43 pm

whowantstomakeavideo?

Durty – Now I have that Twister and Chris Brown song stuck in my head

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
1:44 pm

Leggs/Slim- Is straight, decent, honest and completely adores me too much to ask??

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:45 pm

Durty ~ no he didn’t fail to mention that. He has always stated how he dated to marry trying to find the one he could care for and would care for him. How many he dated is irrevelevant because he realized none of them were the one he was looking for. The fact that he didnt’ walk on his dates or mistreated them or used them because he could is what I’m commending.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:50 pm

Durty ~ I haven’t really “dated” in a long time so no dates have been over. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve gone out, but nothing has clicked.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:52 pm

MsAtl ~ not at all. I’m looking for the same thing.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:56 pm

I really want a swirl ice cream cone.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
1:57 pm

hmmm, seems like I’m talking to myself. Even the thumb twirler seemed to have left the bldg.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

September 6th, 2013
1:58 pm

@Reio

I hope you’re joking about the need to spray…

Because typically, if someone call smell you before they see you (in the bad way) you’re alone, regardless of the situation/environment.

But threre was something about the ‘freeness’ of the atmosphere. There was no judgment, no wide open mouths (in shock, at least), those were the most chill times I’ve had being out anywhere.

Everyone was there for the same thing. And there was (never used this word about anything else) a “chemistry” in the air in those places that defies description. Wanton lust, sex of all kinds/positions/number of people everywhere, It was….great…for me.

Once I got introduced to it, I got into it. I had too much fun exploring that aspect of my personality.

Yes, my wife knows all about it. No, I don’t miss the sex. I do miss the openness of a shared goal and shared experiences.

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
2:01 pm

@SlimNu I had a friend come up for the dragoncon. So between dragoncon and pride weekend I stayed on the southside lol

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:03 pm

Is straight, decent, honest and completely adores me too much to ask??

MsAtl – You wouldn’t think it is but I guess it depends on who you ask. I surely hope not though, for all of our sakes.

Leggs – I’m still here…had to run to the rehroom (restroom lol)

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

Slim- I hope not because I am not willing to settle…

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

MsAtl…I am straight, decent, partly honest and I adore you so can we break open Van Gough caramel?

Leggs …Reio just mentioned he nailed a woman and while she was feeling good about the situation, he was not…I’m stating he was nailing the ladies then he realized he wanted to be married…

You ladies think you have it tough, men have it tough as well…we have dudes who want to dress like women, dudes who want to be women and dudes who get changes to become a woman……YUKKKKKKKIIIIIIIIII

Now since there are only a few men who are straight honest and we will adore you….We need to go to the verizon shared plan…I need to be shared so the other women who wanta straight honest man does not miss-out… So who wants to sign-up?

It can be a seasonal plan…. 6 months with you and 6 months with the other ladies.

It can be an unlimited plan where you get year round, but it will cost more..hehehehehehee let me stop some!

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:06 pm

And I am joking (kinda) about the completely adores me part.

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:08 pm

Durty- Partly honest? Lol

Leggs- I was in my office howling about that video earlier this morning! That tape would have been erased!!!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:09 pm

MsAtl ~ neither am I hence not dating (lol).

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:10 pm

Yes – Oh yeah I forgot about Dragoncon. My coworker went to the Sun Dial for her bday and ended up taking a pic with Iron Man. lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:11 pm

Durty ~ I took it he was nailing the ladies and realized he wasn’t feeling anything afterwards and that’s not what he was looking for. He always wanted to marry.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:15 pm

Durty – THat sounds like the new T-moble JUMP plan…Jump off that is. lol

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:16 pm

Ms.Atl…..ummm, you weren’t on that teacher cheating case, were you?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:18 pm

SlimNu ~ naw, that’s the new B.U.D.D.Y Plan.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:21 pm

Leggs – Enjoy! the concert and the ice cream cone

YSCI – There are things to be considered – sorry you experienced that

Durty – was across the pond for a funeral, quite sad! No…no video, maybe a headless camera shot…lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:24 pm

Who is YSCI (lol).

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:24 pm

only 3 pages???

guess we need to stir the pot a lil bit…..

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

@Slim “Durty – THat sounds like the new T-moble JUMP plan…Jump off that is. lol” –
LOL

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

where’s disco?

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
2:27 pm

2C- Nope- that one was not mine.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
2:27 pm

In her skin…lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
2:31 pm

O/T: Just heard Reuben Studdard (Am. Idol) now weighs 462 lbs and will be on Biggest Loser. Damn, how does a person let themself get that big.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

Slim……c’mere, and let me spank you for that snide comment!

hrh

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

@Leggs – sorry, I am tired, I meant YSIC!

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

Ms.Atl, so Paul Howard is your boss?