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Swing my way

If you didn’t already know that Atlanta was Reality TV Capital of the South, you should know now:  TV producers LOVE filming here.  The latest foray in Atlanta “reality” on television is about the secret sex lives of swingers.

As I read about the upcoming series, I remembered the guy I met a long time ago through online dating.   I was so excited about him until he explained exactly what he was looking for: a wife. A wife who would also be his swinging partner. Without getting too graphic, he basically wanted his wife to pick someone out to bring home and enjoy. Um, yeah NO.

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian.  At least that is the image that he projected to me.  I had a preconceived idea about what a swinger was – and he was not it at all.

What would you do if your date asked how open you were to swinging?

My apologies for yesterday! I did not set the blog correctly.  Bad blogger, I know!

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

244 comments Add your comment

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:32 am

disco – “they swing/swap/share in the privacy of their own homes.”

Even so, I would think that there would be some kind of rules, written or unwritten that would regulate activity. I mean, suppose, during the course of the party, somebody has a snack or meal, then goes back at. And this person decides to suck somebody’s d!ck, and leaves bits oy turnip greens or Ritz cracker crumbs on the d!ck? Does a fight break out? Can the sponsor be sued? What if there is an infection later, that can be traced back to the swing party? What then? I think these are legitimate questions that need to be asked. IMO.

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
10:34 am

“I’m sure it would take a lot of talent and concentration to keep a beat with a stiffy.”

Slim — Indeed. A good woman is hard to find.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Reio – Maybe you should come up with some by-laws…a manual of sorts.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Reio ~ you are sick! :lol: :lol: Keep them coming.

disco

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

leggs – in theory but let’s remember a good number of chicks with diseases didn’t get them from strange dizzle. they got it from familiar dizzle that was dipping out. lol. (and before the men pipe in – single – same can be said for the fellas. it’s not always the nu nu that does you in. it’s the oldie but goodie.)

as for someone watching their mate with someone else I think the possession factor would be a bigger issue with men. they be swearing they own some stuff. I think the insecurity issues would catch the women quicker. is she prettier, is her stomach flatter, is her butt rounder. that type stuff. of course, this is just me speculating.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
10:38 am

Good Morning All. I am cracking up reading these comments.
@Slim/Moni I’m in the “lesson learned” club, live, learn, do better!
@Reio – you are funny…but there is no spraying, I think they clean/disinfect/whatever at the end of the night and towels are provided to lay on, and I guess, should be used as a “catch all”. It’s true that most true swingers don’t do clubs, they host in their homes. It could be quite lucrative because they charge just like the clubs do, without the membership fee.
@YSIC – At this point in my existence, I’ve learned that one good-thing is worth 50 not-so-good-things.

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:39 am

This caught me off guard because up until that point, this guy was a home owner, entrepreneur, and a devout Christian.

Imagine that…just last week I saw a story about a couple who wanted to start an official CHRISTIAN swingers club…just to see those words together let alone the concept itself, seems like an oxymoron of sorts. Christians have schex…that’s where all these lil Christians come from…should they swing? Isn’t that adultery?

Does this activity take place in one big room?

Yes if that’s what you want…certain places do it differently depending on the desires of the participants.

Do they go to separate rooms?

They do at Trapeze.

Is anal a prerequisite? Does ANYTHING go?

Once again it depends on the participants. One of my gfs is on a website and OMG at some of the pics I’ve seen. There are couples(married/dating) that do it together and other single ladies like my gf that like to “play” sometimes.

What kind of air freshener is best?

:lol: I’m going to ask her that…

MsAtl

September 6th, 2013
10:40 am

Daddy Swiss- “Slim — Indeed. A good woman is hard to find.”
And a hard man is good to find, lol.

disco

September 6th, 2013
10:41 am

reio – you got jokes. I guess I don’t feel them because germaphobic people get on my daggone nerves. the ones that are always spraying and sanitizing. just the other night I snapped just a tad when the guy I was having dinner with asked if I had – wait for it – “finger stuff”. really? dude. you grown as heck and you saying “finger stuff”? do I look like I’m 5? okay. sorry. I went down a different path.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:43 am

Sassy – I wonder what putting ‘Christian” before swingers club is supposed to do? That just sounds wrong as heyal if you ask me. I mean, are they going to have bible study before the festivities or what…now I feel like Reio with all these questions

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:44 am

I would think that there would be some kind of rules, written or unwritten that would regulate activity.

I’d think so,too…like only being physically attracted to a person and NOT emotional. Another I’ve heard is that a couple can ONLY play as a couple and BOTH have to agree.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
10:49 am

MsAtl – :lol: :lol: On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
10:50 am

disco ~ of course more often from familiar dizzle.

SassyMe ~ I thought the same when I read “Christian” then thought “many wolves in sheep clothing!”

Trapeze…I’ve been sitting here trying to think of its name…thanks!

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:51 am

I mean, are they going to have bible study before the festivities or what…

:lol:

EXACTLY…I wondered about this,too.

I’ve observed that when a person professes their religion, they’re held up to expectations(societal/moral/religous) of behavior based on what a Christian should(pray/tithe/etc.) and shouldn’t do(swear/drink/etc). Swinging is obviously one thing that would definitely fall into the latter, so putting the word Christian in front of it makes those participating feel better(and less judged) about it.

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:52 am

Well, I ask these questions somewhat in jest, but surely there has to be some etiquette or rules, or things could get out of hand quite quickly. Can I, as a participant, get more than one towel? Can I demand a certain color towel? Do you get to take a shower before leaving? If so, after a shower, can I go back at it?, Can I get a second shower? How much does a shower cost at these parties? Do they provide antibacterial soap? Shampoo?……….Huh?

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:53 am

I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

:lol:

—————flatline—————–

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
10:54 am

I’ve been sitting here trying to think of its name…thanks!

You’re welcome :mrgreen:

Reio

September 6th, 2013
10:57 am

SlimNU -

“On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?”

Women may be an even better judge of this than men. Just sayin.

Bluzgirl

September 6th, 2013
10:59 am

Dang it…I’m getting swamped at work. I guess I need to log off for now. Hope to check in later…If not, then ya’ll have a great weekend!

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:06 am

I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?

Well, I don’t know for sure. Surely there has to be some deminishing of capacity over time. Father Time & Mother Nature will make sure of that. But I’ll tell you what; Let Beyonce show her super fine azz up, out of the clear blue, butt nekkid, and see how hard ‘I’ get!! Heheheheh…….

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:14 am

“On the real, I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard?” – Not sure, but what I do know is the purchase of penal pumps have soared in the medical insurance field. I personally know of two guys who uses pumps. One even had the audacity to show it to me….uuugggh. That definitely put me in the mood….NOT!!!!

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:16 am

@2C ok you are happy to find the one, but are you happy to have her as your one and only as well?
So basically SlimNu, Reio and hrh are the only guys in here that are happy to have one and only one partner?

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:20 am

“So basically SlimNu, Reio and hrh are the only guys in here that are happy to have one and only one partner?”

I’m happy to have 1 and only 1 now. Then again my 1 and only is way hotter than any other available options, so there’s that. :) Plus, I’ve already had my share of man-ho’ing. It’s kind of like the Grand Canyon. Everybody should experience it, but once you’ve seen it… meh. lol

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:22 am

don’t forget to add daddyswiss to that list.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:23 am

Nevamind, he added himself (lol).

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:24 am

YesSheIsCute – I don’t know about other fellas on here, but my main motivation would be to not hurt her, or cause her to cry. I’d feel really bad and ashamed if she found out. Plus, if you’re runnin around, sooner or later, you’re gonna run up on one that STANKS much too bad. Some of ya’ll’s thangs are SO NUFF FUNKY!! And that’s no lie. I’d rather stay where it’s pleasant and pleasing. Just sayin.

Single and Happy

September 6th, 2013
11:24 am

/I was wondering if it happens to all men that the older the get, the less ‘hard’ it gets whenever it does get hard? and this is why older men like younger women, need something tight, not the grand canyon (LOL) And older women like younger men, they need a steel stiffie, not a wet noodle!!

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:26 am

Guess that sums it up, Single!

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:27 am

@daddy swiss interesting. I’m asking because with the last post it seemed like men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship but then they don’t like to share partners either….

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:30 am

“it seemed like men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship but then they don’t like to share partners either…”

Cutie — Actually, this ↑ is correct. And it makes perfect sense. Men aren’t hard pressed to be married or monogamous. That’s not our goal. We get married only when we meet a woman we don’t want to live without. So, it stands to reason that we wouldn’t want to share her. :)

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:31 am

But I’ll tell you what; Let Beyonce show her super fine azz up, out of the clear blue, butt nekkid, and see how hard ‘I’ get!! Heheheheh…….

Reio – :lol: I guess there will always be ‘that one”…I’d surely hate for you to catch Beyonce at a low moment and you STILL cannot perform. Nervous much? lol

Leggs – Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol

YesSheIsCute

September 6th, 2013
11:32 am

@swiss ok well if that’s the case there’s no point in thinking about it any further. Forget diamonds, cobwebs are a girls best friend :lol:

daddy swiss

September 6th, 2013
11:35 am

Slimhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WCvULMRUq8

This sort of thing ain’t my bag, baby!”

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
11:36 am

Cutie, are you auditioning for wife aspirant????

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
11:38 am

Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol

I would think so. Can you imagine? It went like this, I stopped over after work and had a glass of wine with him. He says he wants to show me something. He goes upstairs and comes back with a pump telling me how it works. I sat there dumbfounded thinking of stewardesses demonstrating how to use that yellow mask. Good grief, do you not have any shame!

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:46 am

and this is why older men like younger women, need something tight

Single – But if an older dude has a noodle, how in the world is he going to stuff it into a tight youngin’? Limp is limp no matter where you’re trying to put it.

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
11:47 am

He goes upstairs and comes back with a pump telling me how it works

Eeeeewwwww….he acted like he was an 8yr old with a new toy(no pum intended) and wanted to show somebody. What would make him think that was sexy and what woman would want to sleep with him knowing he had to literally get “pumped up” before hand..

do you not have any shame!

He had n’aan ounce…

Reio

September 6th, 2013
11:49 am

“men aren’t hard pressed to be married or in a monogamous relationship”

Perhaps it’s biology. Nature. I don’t know. I think the instinct to fool around is still in most/all men, because of biology. Nothing we can do about that. Kinda like being born with two eyes, or two ears, or two hands, or two nostrils, or two kidneys, or two legs, or one heart, or…….it’s the way nature planned it. The difference in guys like me and others, is that, I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what? Surely there has to be more to life(We say this to ourselves, consciously or subconsciously). We have to consciously make the effort to not indulge in what biology is constantly telling us to indulge in. It’s a struggle. Some handle it better than others, but, I believe, all men experience this. Fortunately, most of us tend to get it at some point. Although Father Time & Mother Nature forces some men into this way of thinking before they are ready for it. Many men, however, never arrive at this conclusion, and spend the rest of their lives trying to be playas. Chasing skirts till the day they die, or simply can’t do anything anymore.

hrh

September 6th, 2013
11:50 am

@swiss – I agree with your 11:30; but I think that sentiment can go both ways. Some men I meet find it strange when I say I do not want to get married. Ladies don’t you think we have the same options about whether to get married or not that men do?

@YSIC – lol – cobwebs? we have options to prevent those too – lol

SlimNu

September 6th, 2013
11:51 am

Leggs – HAHAHAH, you know next time I fly somewhere I’m going to think about that :lol: “Firmly place the pump over your wang, ensure the base is air tight….”

hrh

September 6th, 2013
11:55 am

@Leggs “Fessing up to the use of Penis pumps has to be some sort of MLB violation lol”

I’ve never even seen a pump – though I knew a dude who I think popped the blue pills cause when it was hard, it was hard for days – he never fessed up though! lol

Sassy Me ;-)

September 6th, 2013
11:56 am

Ladies don’t you think we have the same options about whether to get married or not that men do?

Yes we do. NOT ALL women want to get married…I don’t….never felt the urge/want/desire to. It’s the same with having children…I might date a man with children but I ain’t birthin’ no babies…

SlinNu…you wrong for that. Now you’ll be the only person laughing through that part of the pre-flight spiel… :lol:

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:00 pm

“I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what?”

Reio ~ I love you simply for stating the obvious. I always say why cheat. It’s a moment of pleasure, but what happens when you’re finished. Is it really worth it to cheat on your SO/wife/hubby, not be with your children if divorce results, etc. Wish more would look at the end product and not the start up cost.

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
12:08 pm

YSIC….I prefer too have 2 ladies at a the same time, options are a man’s best friend… j/k

See Leggs, HRH has experience the blue pill, you should allow your guy to pop and you will get it in like never before….hhehehehehehe

I would say this there is something about a tight young athletic shapely woman that always make you stand to attention.

Leggs

September 6th, 2013
12:11 pm

Durty ~he has the pill, the penis pump, diabeties, high blood pressure and I think gout. Last thing I need is this man croaking on top of me. The mere thought dries me up. It’s all such a turnoff.

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:15 pm

I heard those male porn stars use those pumps…..

speaking of porn stars….has Roxy Reynolds made any new movies lately?

hrh

September 6th, 2013
12:17 pm

Leggs/Reio – “I realized long ago, that the experience, although almost always pleasing, especially during climax, lasts for a brief moment, and its gone. Then what? Now what?”

Statement may be obvious, but how many men think that proactively in the moment when stuff is all up in their face? Not many – lol

Durty – Oh yea! lol

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:17 pm

speaking of porn stars….again…..lawd I used to love me some Janet Jacme….she looked like she enjoyed coming to work!!!!!

2CPTG©

September 6th, 2013
12:19 pm

anyone ever make a video with their mate??? you talkin bout a turn on…..

Durty Burd

September 6th, 2013
12:20 pm

Leggs that is why u need to go with the younger men like me….I may use the blue pill just to give you the all week experience,….hehehehehe

You are right dude is a heart attack waiting to happen…

Hypothetical..Since we all know/believe the orgasm moment is shortlive then why not accept it as long as the man/woman does not disrupt the household…

Free your mind Friday…This will be a Friday free of reading about Celisea job….lol