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Bedroom seduction: Do you need a class?

One of the best part of blogging about dating, relationships, and sex is going to do field research! This week, yours truly attended a really interesting seduction class.  The instructor was a super fierce,  extremely knowledgeable woman named Harley.  She is Head Master in her School of Seduction (link warning: NSFW) so we were in for quite a night!

The instructions were to bring a paper, pen and a banana to class …and having an open mind helped too.  Harley proceeded to give demonstrations,  tips, and very helpful advice on pleasing your mate.  I was even asked to come up and show the class the art of dirty talk, which kind of surprised even me!

As I was learning all the new tricks, Harley advised the class of about 10 women that you never show guys you are dating all your tricks.  Some things should be saved for later and for the special someone who has earned your trust.  I believe this was the best take away dating advice!

Have you ever taken a class in seduction? Would you be opposed to taking a class or getting expert tips from a professional?  Would you ever ask your partner to go with you to take a class from a seduction expert?

Should single people try to improve their bedroom skills?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

238 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

August 9th, 2013
7:32 am

Hey everyone

Wow diva, they have a class for that!! I know I’m in the wrong field! I would never take one of those classes on my on, but I probably would take one if my s/o wanted too.

Should single people try to improve their bedroom skills? Now that’s a question they would need to ask their S/O everybody’s not the same.

Some things should be saved for later and for the special someone who has earned your trust. I believe this was the best take away dating advice! SERIOUSLY!!

Button

August 9th, 2013
8:08 am

Have you ever taken a class in seduction? Nope!

Would you be opposed to taking a class or getting expert tips from a professional? Yes I would oppose!

Would you ever ask your partner to go with you to take a class from a seduction expert? Nope!

My seduction level is, was and hopefully will always be an all time high! I’m alright in that department :lol:

tgif!!!!

Pete68

August 9th, 2013
8:18 am

The art of “intimate conversation” has many meanings for many folks. Some are pure napalm and others are Amish. I know some really great women, with great personalities, but they don’t have a “sexy” bone in their body. Other women just walk by and “sexy” drips from their every pore. To some, “sexy” is just trampy. To others, “sexy” is the way they carry themselves, the way they speak or even just they way they look at you. They know what to say and have no qualms about being demure or just being down right porno. These ladies can carry a dirty conversation or make a risque request and make it seem they are ordering a drink at a bar. As for me, there is nothing you can say or do that will offend me. All you will do is arouse me more. The shy, prudish and “I’m worried about what he’ll think about me” women are just about as exciting as card board. These women just like missionary and they aren’t really thrilled with that. Do and say what you feel at that moment and say it exactly they way it comes across in your mind. “Lady-like” and “reserved” will win you no attention in the bedroom (or on the office desk, or kitchen counter, etc…)

SlimNu

August 9th, 2013
8:49 am

Button – So what you’re saying is basically you should be teaching the class? lol

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
8:56 am

Morning All!

Have you ever taken a class in seduction? No.

Would you be opposed to taking a class or getting expert tips from a professional? No. I don’t believe I need any classes but you can always stand to add a few new tricks and/or more creativity to your bag.

Would you ever ask your partner to go with you to take a class from a seduction expert? Probably not.

Should single people try to improve their bedroom skills? If it is something they feel they need to improve on.

Button

August 9th, 2013
9:01 am

SlimNu- not at all — lol

I think the art of seduction is a natural thing, either you have it (the skills) or you don’t. Can it be learned? not sure since it comes from within.

Leggs

August 9th, 2013
9:02 am

Would I take a class – nope. If my partner deems a particular area needs work on, we will devise our on curriculum for improving my performance.

Would I be offened, kinda sorta, but not to the point of breaking down never wanting to do that particular act again. In my mind, I would be determined to practice and hopefully show improvement.

Good morning.

SlimNu

August 9th, 2013
9:07 am

I’ve never taken a “seduction class’ per se. But the gym I used to go to had a fun adult-like class on Friday’s where we would do chair dancing and floor excercises. That’s as close as I’ve gotten to a class like that. I’ve always wanted to try a pole dancing class. I here it’s hard work and builds strength

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:11 am

Morning all!

Well, I’ve never had a class on seduction. Never thought about it till now. Would never take one either. Seems, on the face of it, kind of silly. If I want you, and you want me, let nature take it’s course. At some point you’ll learn what your partner likes(I hope) and you go from there. This is silly, in my opinion. To each his/her own though. More power to ya.

Durty Burd

August 9th, 2013
9:17 am

Good Morning!

Have you ever taken a class in seduction? No.

Would you be opposed to taking a class or getting expert tips from a professional? No.I am always open to try something new if it can improve myself in a particular area.

Would you ever ask your partner to go with you to take a class from a seduction expert? Yes, If I feel the SO needs some assistance in this area.

Should single people try to improve their bedroom skills? Single and married folks should always try to improve their bedroom skills. Quite a few folks needs this very badly…

WiseDiva was this class conducted by Karrine Steffans a..k.a. superzead? If please send me the names of the attendees they will now have an awesome BJ skill set…hehehehehe!

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:18 am

SlimNu- I would like to try a pole fitness class also. I bought a Groupon once but the place closed down before I could use it.

Durty Burd

August 9th, 2013
9:19 am

It’s funny how so many women think they do not need assistance in the bedroom that is your ego talking, a lot of the ladies need pole dancing skills in order to rotate those hips properly….

SlimNu get those classes, I can see you need some assistance, oh and take button with you her ego is out control…j/k :wink:

SlimNu

August 9th, 2013
9:21 am

MsAtl – Dang! lolol Oh, I’ve also done a belly dancing class once…That was fun too

SlimNu

August 9th, 2013
9:22 am

Durty – I’m always open to learn things…even though folks can have a natural sexiness about them, doesn’t mean they cannot learn a few extra tricks ;-)

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:22 am

Lets face it, no matter what you learn in class or what you’re capable of naturally, the act itself, including foreplay, will, at some point, begin to fade and become less exciting. Inevitable and immenant. Now what? Sure would be nice if you cared about your partner and enjoyed pleasing them in that way. There have been times, more than a few, when I just wasn’t into it. And let me tell ya, for a man, it’s difficult to hide. But when I look into her eyes and remember how much she means to me, I perk up and do all I can to get her where she wants to be, even if I’m not satisfied, at least she will be, which, is always good. Maybe next time we’ll both become pleased to the ultimate.

Leggs

August 9th, 2013
9:25 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LEE.♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:27 am

Durty- What makes you think it’s ego? Why can’t we be basing it on reviews? We don’t need pole dancing to learn to rotate our hips, that’s what hula hoops are for.

SlimNu- I heard belly dancing is fun and good exercise.

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:27 am

Lee- Happy birthday! (whispering “Thanks Leggs”)

Leggs

August 9th, 2013
9:28 am

“It’s funny how so many women think they do not need assistance in the bedroom that is your ego talking”

Durty ~ I don’t think the women are saying they don’t need assistance. They’re saying they will not go to a stranger for instruction. They will improve their skills with their partner as their teacher. Well, that’s what I’m saying.

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:30 am

MsAtl – Yes, I agree. Hell, you don’t even need to rotate your hips at all, if you’re bent over the coffee table. Hehehehe

SlimNu

August 9th, 2013
9:33 am

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
9:36 am

This woman, accoring to DIVA is the HEAD MASTER! :lol:

Come on ladies,,its worth a try going to the class if she proclaims herself that she is the ‘HEAD MASTER’!!!!!

….knowing the “how tos” helps in keeping the one you found….no the be ALL but it enhances whatever ur mama gave u! Ur mama gave it to u..u gotta know how to use it…..

More so,if the lessons are coming from a HEAD MASTER! ……

I wld..

Good Friday morning MIA!

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:36 am

That must be a mighty high coffee table. :oops:

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
9:36 am

David

August 9th, 2013
9:37 am

Basically, it’s different for all people. Some people think that women that use the direct approach, suggestive dialog or being sexually aggressive are trampy or dirty. I think they are in touch with their sexuality, confident and scorchingly sexy. I’ve never been drawn to the inhibited or :I wouldn”t do that” type of seduction. If their were classes, IMO women should learn to be more aggressive and uninhibited, while the men should learn to be more romantic, spend time building the moment and more with touching and kissing. That would make both genders meet somewhere in the middle. As for me, my g/f’s attitude is just let ‘er rip. She can do submissive as well as “drag me to the bed by my hair and she’ll let me know when we’re done.” She’s well versed in both roles.

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
9:39 am

a lot of the ladies need pole dancing skills in order to rotate those hips properly…

@Durty..u right!

the ladies dont know that there is a difference in just rotating the hips and rotating them seductively…or even rotating them offensively! :lol: ….

Leggs

August 9th, 2013
9:40 am

Before you guys even consider a pole dancing class, let me guide you to taking an Exotic dance class first. It is liberating, refreshing and fun. Your hips will be forever changed. All women should take an exotic dance class. Find one, take it with a gf then go to lunch afterwards. Get lunch or get a brazilian waxing. It is worth it!!!! You will learn an entire dance routine to perform for mate. I remember my gf asking me to show her the dance routine. Show her and her mother. Oh my!!! I figured why not. Their eyes popped out. It was a good routine. She told our other friend and she asked me to perform it for her and husband. I had to decline that offer (lol). My favorite move is the stop and frisk. My worse move is that crawling cougar. Hated it….

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:40 am

MsAtl – No, I low coffe table is best. The lower, the better. Hehehehe….

Leggs

August 9th, 2013
9:41 am

(ssshhhh, you’re welcome, MsAtl)

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
9:42 am

That must be a mighty high coffee table.

MsAtl..u crouch on the table MsAtl.,then flip and rotate that azz at him… :lol:

see..u didnt even know that! :lol:

2CPTG©

August 9th, 2013
9:42 am

even though folks can have a natural sexiness about them

yes, you do!!!! I agree wholeheartedly…..you too, MsAtl…..

disco

August 9th, 2013
9:43 am

good morning. I think this was a lifetime movie. former escort gets busted and has to decide what to do with the rest of her life. she starts giving seminars to the wives of her johns teaching them how to do to their husbands what she was doing to their husbands. it worked for her. lol.

would I attend a class? for free maybe but I wouldn’t pay for it. I have too many freaky azz friends I can trade tips with plus I know a few bonafide tricks. lol.

Single and Happy

August 9th, 2013
9:43 am

What makes you think it’s ego? Why can’t we be basing it on reviews? Like men are going to give you bad reviews!! If we do, we get cut off, thus all reviews will be good reviews! (LOL)

disco

August 9th, 2013
9:46 am

atl – in the mens’ defense, you can’t base it on reviews for the same reason men can’t base it on reviews. tell me you don’t know a man who wasn’t hitting on nothing but when called out replied “I’ve never had any complaints”. everyone has to face the possibility that just because they never had any complaints doesn’t mean every customer was satisfied. lol.

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:46 am

Single- Not all reviews are conversational… :wink:

Single and Happy

August 9th, 2013
9:50 am

MsATL ALL REVIEWS WILL BE GOOD REVIEWS!!

disco

August 9th, 2013
9:50 am

random but kind of on topic (maybe?) on the doug banks show yesterday they were talking about a new trend involving steaming the girl parts. something to do with increasing moisture. dee dee on the show said she was going to host a steam part. now, please don’t ask me how they go about steaming the girl parts. lol.

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
9:50 am

…u will need some soft pillows for ur knees as well MsAtl… :lol:

..its best when the coffee table is rested against a bed or other heavy object to avoid the table shifting under u as he pummels that azz….and he can have 2 pillows also under his lower leggs for height and to give him and angle,coming down on that tilted,round and juicy azz….
..thats a sight to see! :lol:

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:51 am

Disco- Steaming??? I’m thinking ouch! The steam from the iron stings when it hits your hand.

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
9:52 am

:shock: Is today Freaky Friday? :shock:

Durty Burd

August 9th, 2013
9:53 am

Thank you S/H I did not want to say it because this could hurt the ladies fragile ego…
Men will only tell you your sex is weak or wack when they know for sure they never ever want to hit it again..
I’m not talking about you MsAtl since you are from NY, I know the NYladies bring it! :)

Disco please….quit reminiscing about that old thug luvin from back in the day….it was just an illusion u know u can’t remember how to do those tricks anymore….hehehehehehe!

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:54 am

I may get in trouble for sayin this, but I don’t care. You can take classes, read books, attend seminars…and learn a lot or a little, but over the years, I’ve realized that some of you women’s thangs down there, are about 17 times deeper than the Pacific Oceans deepest point(The Mariana Trench). Just sayin. Nothing you can do with it. Not really. At this point all of the natural nohow and/or training, becomes useless and futile.

disco

August 9th, 2013
9:58 am

durty – you misunderstood me. by bonafide tricks I meant I knew some real life “working girls”.

Reio

August 9th, 2013
9:58 am

Exiled – Yes, it’s truly wonderful!! Expecially if you can grip the opposite end of the coffee. Fantastic! Pillows and blankets are a must. Coffe4e table edges tend to be hard.

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
10:01 am

Reio- I thought you were married? Should you still be measuring?
Btw- the deepness doesn’t matter since most men won’t hit bottom regardless. You may be thinking of the width. Not to mention, some men are working with a Vienna sausage so anything would feel like a concert hall to them. Besides, I thought it was the motion in the ocean, not the size of the ship that mattered?

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
10:01 am

Reio..i think Durty was right and u brought the coffee table and hello! nobody(ladies) knew about that or laughed at u like they know something….

……and here we are..schooling them..

it might be good if they swallow that lump…..he he he ..i know some can swallow good! :lol:

Durty Burd

August 9th, 2013
10:02 am

MsATL…I don’t think they are talking about a steam iron….By all means stream the puddy, keep it moist for some additional work-out…

Also, some ladies think they give good BJs, NOTTTTTTTT!!!!!! Practice makes perfect…..lol

disco

August 9th, 2013
10:04 am

atl – lol. ah here we go. lol. motion in the ocean versus the size of the ship? I’ll take a big ship with a smooth, steady ocean over a rocking rolling ocean and a teeny tiny little rinky dink ship any day.

Exiled

August 9th, 2013
10:05 am

the motion in the ocean, not the size of the ship that mattered?

@MsAtl….it matters to the men if the woman is an ocean and its not tight…..it may not matter to the women,i dont know.

no man wants to be lost in an ocean of squirt juice without feeling the thickness and tightness of the labia!

Kergel anyone! :lol:

MsAtl

August 9th, 2013
10:07 am

Disco- Lol. True, no dinghys, lol.