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Does personality make you attractive?

You know how people always refer to a person’s personality when they are trying to set you up on a blind date?  It’s almost like the personality of someone can literally make them appear more attractive.  We talked about attraction yesterday and I thought about how much a person’s charm can add to their appeal.

The same way a person’s personality can instantly make them more appealing, a really awful personality can make a good looking person look horrendous.  Funny,’ how that works!  Have you ever met someone who became more unattractive as you got to see their personality?

Have you ever met someone and thought you had zero chemistry in the beginning then got to know them and they slowly became irresistible?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lee

August 6th, 2013
7:05 am

Good looks will get you in the door your personality will keep you there. I have several girl friends that can get any guy, but the guys never stay or anything else, one friend of mine the– guys she dated ( i say dated, i don;t know what else to call it) didn’t even take her out for a hamburger then they would go ghost on her–even i questioned why she seemed so nice –come to find out she has major issues .
Then theres me i am not pretty but i get taken out and not ugly looking guys i gather since some will say, ” how did she get him!” I say, whatever, don’t hate it gives you wrinkles. haha

Happy Birthday MsAtl. My B-day is friday… Leo’s rule lol

One more day of hell until i hit the beach

Single and Happy

August 6th, 2013
7:33 am

Hello all,

What a wonderful day. Lee, can I go?? what beach are you going too?

personality is relative to the person you’re trying to date. there is no magic formula to this.

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
8:07 am

GOOD Tuesday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Have you ever met someone and thought you had zero chemistry in the beginning then got to know them and they slowly became irresistible? Nope, I haven’t experienced this.

“Good looks will get you in the door your personality will keep you there.” BINGO!!! :-D

Dave68

August 6th, 2013
8:16 am

I agree. You base your initial judgement on their looks…period. After that, the personality comes into play. You can take a smoking hot woman and she will get dates due to her face/body. But when she opens her mouth or you spend some time with her, the personality is the deciding factor….unless she is napalm between the sheets. By the same course, a not so attractive woman won’t get the same attention initially as the hottie. But bu spending time with her, she may become “friend” material. If she is ugly, she will remain “friend” material. Neither hotness or great personality will ve the deciding factor alone, but hotness will get your foot in the door MUCH faster than the “not so hot”.

The “napalm between the sheets” can make up for a LOT of things, but it won’t stand the test over an extended period (over 3 months). But I’ll take the three months over the “not so hot”. I still remember fondly the napalm, but don’t have a second thought about the “not so hot”.

Button

August 6th, 2013
8:55 am

Good morning!
Having a good/sweet/pleasant personality does make one more attractive. I’m always told that I have a strong personality, my SO has a strong personality. We butt heads a lot! My looks got me thru the door but my personality got me booted a few times. “sigh”

LeeH1

August 6th, 2013
9:02 am

Looks are the bait. Personality is the hook. All women are fishers of men.

Exiled

August 6th, 2013
9:06 am

really awful personality can make a good looking person look horrendous.

there u have it..and to really say what u didnt wanna say Diva,
” a really good and wonderful personality will get an ugly chic married!”….

if shes beautiful but awful..a man jes wanna smash, wipe and go ghost because she stinks the moment he done nutting! :lol: …..

;;hope u listening u pretty ms precious(es)!

Good morning MIA! (hump day tmrw!)

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
9:13 am

morning……

ummm, NO, personality does not make you attractive; like a mathematical proof, it either substantiates, or refutes the perceived attraction that you thought was there…..

but then again…….how many of y’all out there “crushing” on a fellow blogger??? Perhaps an attraction arose from his/her blog persona……i.e., the root word of personality??…..I’on know, I’m just thinking out loud….

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
9:14 am

-Button Two strong personalitites is like the clash of the titans, LOL! I think people should balance each other out to a certain degree. Where one person is weak in a specific area, the other person should be strong. At least it sounds good in theory. :-)

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
9:17 am

-2C In reference to blog crushes, it’s all fun and games until you actually SEE what they look like. Finding a person physically unattractive can cease any crush in a heartbeat.

Button

August 6th, 2013
9:22 am

Miss Moni – we do balance each other out, at times. We’ve both learned when to raise the white flag. It works for the both of us bc at least we know what we’re dealing with.

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
9:26 am

-Button That’s great to hear. You two seem to be on the same page, which is a very good thing! :-)

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:29 am

Personality definitely makes one more attractive. It enhances what you already find attractive in that person. It’s an added ingredient that can elevate a person to become more attractive.

I’ve heard many MLBs state they didn’t care for a particular woman, but hung with them and even sexed them up because her personality was on point and it made her more appealing.

2C wasn’t one of them (lololol).

Good, good morning!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2013
9:32 am

Morning, all!

:oops: I’ve had a blog crush…..

Button

August 6th, 2013
9:33 am

Miss Moni – :wink:

Leggs- spill the tea!

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
9:34 am

In reference to blog crushes, it’s all fun and games until you actually SEE what they look like. Finding a person physically unattractive can cease any crush in a heartbeat.

you callin me ugly, Moni…….I noticed your attitude has changed ever since I sent you a pic…… :mrgreen:

Button

August 6th, 2013
9:35 am

ITL – you too, spill the tea.. :lol:

Single and Happy

August 6th, 2013
9:37 am

Leggs what a MLB?

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:37 am

All women are fishers of men.

All men are fishers of women, they simply throw there catch back more often.

Celisea

August 6th, 2013
9:38 am

Then theres me i am not pretty but i get taken out and not ugly looking guys

Look at Lee!! I can just see you now, sitting over wings and beer, having a blast when all those pretty girls that can’t even get one foot in the door! :) Dey ain’t got nuthing on you, huh?

Have you ever met someone who became more unattractive as you got to see their personality?

Heck yeah! Was never my type any dern way, but I thought we were cool. Rotten to the dern core, just rotten. The more I saw it, the less I even wanted to be cool…not to mention attraction. I just ponder (well not now) how you thought you was gonna pull off shenanigans on me???

Have you ever met someone and thought you had zero chemistry in the beginning then got to know them and they slowly became irresistible?

Most definitely, most most definitely. Silky Of all my dudes, even my boo, he was my “Cinderfella.” He was that one dude that I really had no interest in AT ALL! Talk about persistence though. I kept thinking “meh, he’s not really my type.” He was not only persistant, but smoother than a mug.

Some ole buggaboo shouldn’t try that though…lol It just makes my “like-o-meter” plummet…lol

Single and Happy

August 6th, 2013
9:39 am

.I noticed your attitude has changed ever since I sent you a pic…… :mrgreen: Has anybody ever been told they don’t take good pictures?

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:41 am

Single ~ You’re poart of the MLBs and I’m part of the WLBs. Dontcha know that (lol).

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
9:42 am

Single…..maybe that’s what she’s trying to tell me, on the sly…. :)

Single and Happy

August 6th, 2013
9:43 am

Leggs, now you from Canada? (LOL poart okay so what’s it mean??

Celisea

August 6th, 2013
9:44 am

Ohhh, who’s got the juicy? Any pics? Smashing? Web cams?

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:46 am

:lol:

Man’s Law Book. Women’s Law Book. We basically use it to refer to men. Sometimes an MLB will actually talk about a law one of you’ve sidestepped in the MLB. It’s interchangeable. You understand??

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:49 am

“Any pics? Smashing? Web cams?”

I’m cracking up. Celisea, that’s porn. You don’t want to see none of that. :lol: :lol:

Single and Happy

August 6th, 2013
9:50 am

okay, I got it leggs . I never studied law (LOL) off to work, catch you guys later.

Celisea

August 6th, 2013
9:52 am

Leggs – I don’t, but the way folks carry on here, about “ohhhh, I got a secret”, I’m hoping we got something for real for real….IJS…lolol

And the good good thing about being grown, you can do whatever the heck you want, sans judgement and explanations :) Who gon check you??

Celisea

August 6th, 2013
9:53 am

Alright kiddies…y’all be good.

BBL, maybe!

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
9:55 am

-2C I never said you were ugly. However, there are different strokes for different folks. :-)

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
9:55 am

RIP George Duke. I love his music. His wife passed last year and he many have died from a broken heart. His new album was just released.

disco

August 6th, 2013
10:00 am

good morning.

single – you are correct that there is no magic formula however if we didn’t ponder the thing that would be the final comment of the day. lol.

Exiled

August 6th, 2013
10:01 am

Celisea…smashings etc used to be circulated in the blog underworld…this blog has become so tame….
The blog definitely needs younger,fresh members because these single(chics) 10th round draftees don’t cut it! :lol:

Into the Light

August 6th, 2013
10:03 am

The blog definitely needs younger,fresh members because these single(chics) 10th round draftees don’t cut it!

Some of those dusty, musty-behind ole married MLBs ain’t nothing to write home about, either. :wink:

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
10:05 am

-ITL LOL at your comment, now that’s the TRUTH!!!

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
10:07 am

However, there are different strokes for different folks.

damn….now I’m feeling like the Lion in one of Katt Williams’ skits….thinkin to myself:

maybe I have fell off…..have I lost it? Am I really smooth as silk?

disco

August 6th, 2013
10:08 am

moni – re that 9:17 – that’s exactly why I don’t think folks should spend too much time in phone friend or pen pal or online buddy mode. you better see what you working with before you put time in.

single – I take awful pictures. been dodging cameras my whole life. hate, hate, hate taking pictures. if you look at my mom’s old photo albums I was like Wilson on tool time, always trying to hide. lol.

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
10:13 am

disco, I bet you take beautiful pictures….

on the flip side, I’ve seen some women who are very photogenic, but not so much in “real life”..

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
10:17 am

“The blog definitely needs younger,fresh members because these single(chics) 10th round draftees don’t cut it!

Some of those dusty, musty-behind ole married MLBs ain’t nothing to write home about, either.”

Thank you so much for twisting that, ITL…You know I would have!!!!

disco

August 6th, 2013
10:20 am

2C – my grandfather is one of those people who love to take pictures. last time I went to visit I swear we took a zillion pictures. anyone else and I could have been like I don’t want to take a picture but I dare not tell gramps I don’t want to. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

August 6th, 2013
10:20 am

Morning
Personality is the X-factor. It can put you in the game when you weren’t in it initially, or it can get you cut from the team that thought you would be a franchise player.

2CPTG©

August 6th, 2013
10:20 am

Leggs, have you seen me lately…….I need to know do I still have “it”?

my self-esteem just took a hit…

Into the Light

August 6th, 2013
10:22 am

Awwww, look at Tewie feeling all vulnerable and stuff….. :)

SlimNu

August 6th, 2013
10:24 am

how many of y’all out there “crushing” on a fellow blogger??? Perhaps an attraction arose from his/her blog persona……i.e., the root word of personality??…..I’on know, I’m just thinking out loud

2C – I think that’s why many folks choose not to go to the meet & greets because it kills the fantasy of it all.

Miss Moni

August 6th, 2013
10:24 am

“you better see what you working with before you put time in.”

-Disco THAT right there is the KEY!!!

Exiled

August 6th, 2013
10:24 am

2C..u know I been laughing because MsMoni did not respond…what’s that bout? Lol

My ego wld also take a hit if it were me. :lol:

Into the Light

August 6th, 2013
10:25 am

LOL@Leggs. You know I couldn’t resist. :lol: :lol:

disco

August 6th, 2013
10:25 am

2C – I don’t know you but I’ll go out on a limb and say this. very few people have it as long as they would like to have it. most people have a relatively short “it” window. if you had it 20 – 30 years ago, you probably don’t still have it (although you might find pictures of it in a shoebox in the attic if you take the time to search). there are some exceptions but they are few. this is why folks reflect on their prime and their glory years. they know “it” is behind them. lol.

Leggs

August 6th, 2013
10:29 am

2C ~ I am cracking up, man! Walking wounded. I haven’t seen you lately. Have you put on any weight? You’re cool, don’t fret….you know you can pull, but I’m still cracking up.