An engaged couple is undergoing premarital counseling. They are at the point where they start to see the reality of marriage, not just the idea of marriage. The topic of obeying your mate is a sensitive one. The idea of being a submissive wife isn’t sitting well with the bride-to-be.
I believe the word obey is left out of a lot of vows these days. I can’t even remember the last time I heard it at a friend’s wedding. A lot of people thing it is old-fashioned, unnecessary, and patriarchal.
Do we get hung up on obeying our partners? Do you think that single people struggle with this because we are not used to answering to someone else? I think the word obey gets a bad rap, though. Why do people think that it means you have no say at all?
Would you use obey in your wedding vows? What if you are a heterosexual couple and only the bride uses obey in her vows?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog