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Best cuisine for dates?

I found out that a guy purposely selected a rib joint for our first date to test my girly quotient.  That’s right, if I couldn’t handle getting my fingers dirty on a date, then I wasn’t his kind of girl (I had to fight the urge to insert a dirty joke here!).  In fact, I suspect that a lot of guys want to see how women handle awkward situations when it comes to food.

Seriously, guys? What is that about?  Picking a restaurant that has messy foods make it hard for women to be all sexy.  Unless watching a woman rip meat off a buffalo wing gets you going, why would you pick a wing place for a romantic date? Am I missing something?

What are the best foods, cuisines and restaurants that would be ideal for a romantic date?  Is there some place or some food that can be messy and sexy at the same time?

Have you ever picked a really bad place to eat for a date?  Do men really pay attention to how a woman eats her food on a date? Ladies, do you judge a guy by the restaurant he picks for the two of you to dine?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

331 comments Add your comment

Lee

July 12th, 2013
7:03 am

Huh?

I do not care — i eat the food how i like to — if he doesn’t like it then its OH WELL!!! I am natural funny about my food, and have been asked why do you eat this or that like that, ITS BECAUSE I CAN AND THAT IS HOW I WANT TO EAT.

I never thought of eating sexy– what is that? It sounds fake and belongs in some bad porn movie(let me lick my corn out of my spoon)LOL

I never judge a guy on where we went out to eat.
TGIF another wet weekend ugh

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
7:27 am

Hello All

In all my years of dating, I’ve never even thought about this. Heck I’m not even thinking romantic on the first date. I wouldn’t know enough about the person to try to be romantic.

Big Al

July 12th, 2013
7:51 am

Waffle House

Hazel

July 12th, 2013
8:00 am

HAPPY FRIDAY!
It was always hard for me to eat when on a first date as I was always nervous. I picked cafes or just drinks so it wouldn’t be so awkward. Eating pasta’s like spaghetti would be hard on a first date.

Button

July 12th, 2013
8:11 am

Enter your comments here

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
8:11 am

TGIF another wet weekend?
@Lee..ur guy is coming thru again? Lucky gal! :lol:

@Single…ur not even thinking romantic on a first date?
Wow..what.who do u date…
Hmmm,really interesting

On topic:

I guess it makes sense to take her out to the ice cream joint in summer and get her a cone so as to scope her lick game.

Dinner date? It just depends on her preferences as well. A romantic date requires a romantic setting.

Good morning MIA! .

Button

July 12th, 2013
8:12 am

Sexy and messy food — ice cream on a cone, licking it round and round up and down! teee heee me and my dirty mind!

Button

July 12th, 2013
8:21 am

Exiled – dang we were right here with the ice cream thing…lol

As for a romantic restaurant, I see those lil cozy mom and pop italian restaurant as romantic, no matter what time of day you go in there, the lights are dimmed.

I also like the bed and breakfast, I think that is an uber romantic date getaway.

McCormicks and Schmicks have the snug, you can close the restaurant off and it’s just you and your date tucked away from the world. I think that is a romantic place to take a date.

Hazel

July 12th, 2013
8:31 am

@Button – Yes Mc & Sch is very romantic place with some great food.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
8:34 am

why would you pick a wing place for a romantic date?
Why would you not? If you both like wings, then it seems like the perfect place to go on a date. Dating just isn’t this difficult. Now, if I want to get cozy on a date, Apres Diem or the rooftop at the Glenn Hotel will do the trick.

LeeH1

July 12th, 2013
8:35 am

A high protein entree, like a good steak, shows the woman you are a provider. A good wine shows her you are sophisticated. A fluffy desert reminds her that she can relax her inhibitions around you, and simply enjoy herself for once, without bothering about calories.

If the woman can’t get around a salad and water because she’s watching her weight, then that also tells the guy something about her priorities, and how up-tight she is.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
8:45 am

Heck I’m not even thinking romantic on the first date. I wouldn’t know enough about the person to try to be romantic.

Single – I’m with you there! lol

Lee – How exactly do you eat your food. I have to admit you have me curious.

Button

July 12th, 2013
8:52 am

LeeH1- I’ve ordered salad, sometimes it’s bc there’s nothing on the menu I like or can eat and I’m not up-tight. More than not, it’s about making healthy choices. I’m conscience about what I eat, too much salt too much calories and cholesterol so sometimes salad is the best way to go.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
9:04 am

I love salad but I usually like it as an appetizer to my meal…I rarely just order a salad unless i’m just not that hungry or too nervous. Now that I think about it, I really don’t even recall how it feels to go out on a first date. It’s been soooo long.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
9:09 am

Ex, I don’t plan a romantic date until I’m in relationship mood, and I know what she likes, on the first date I’m just starting to get to know her. It needs to be somewhere that we both can relax.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
9:11 am

“get her a cone so as to scope her lick game.”

first laugh of the day…

Romantic Date? date#1? I’on know…….’depends on what she likes……some of y’all comments make it seem like y’all goin’ on blind dates….surely you’ve spoken to the person a few times to guage their like/dislikes, so you oughta know what kinda spot you wanna hit, before you even go….if she ain’t that fancy, then a a casual spot; but if he think she fancy, then inspect ya wallet, and your chances for a night cap…..

Button

July 12th, 2013
9:12 am

Single – do you have talks that leads up to the first date?

disco

July 12th, 2013
9:15 am

good morning y’all. whatever. take me to the rib joint. let’s get it on. I might put effort into looking cute but I’m not going to put much effort into acting cute. that ain’t me.

ex – just like chicks be going at their ice cream cones and corn on the cob, you fellas be going at y’all’s too. remember that. lol.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
9:29 am

Button, yes we talk, but you really don’t know a person from just talking on the phone.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
9:29 am

surely you’ve spoken to the person a few times to guage their like/dislikes

@2Can..thats what i thought…but hey,with blind internet datiing,anything is possible.

I see Slim seems to be on that slippery slope as well… LOL..Dont do it Slim..u too young to do Internet route…Internet dating is ur dating Hail Marry! lol

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
9:30 am

Best cuisine for dates? – Is it just me, but I thought honey and whip cream?

Good, good morning!

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
9:30 am

Morning All!

I do not judge a man by the restaurant he picks for us to dine (unless its McDonald’s, lol). If he picked a rib joint, I would just order something else from the menu. I have ordered salad on a date before, but that is because I like salad, not because I am trying to be cute.

disco

July 12th, 2013
9:34 am

leggs – you trying to shake things up this early. lol. I guess honey and whip cream is better than old boy in don’t be a menace putting hot sauce on that girl’s toes. lol.

Button

July 12th, 2013
9:40 am

Single – hmmm I can pick up on general personalities just from talking. Ask questions, you know talk! Maybe you date a different way, I’on know.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
9:48 am

Happy Friday!!!

For a first date, you should both agree on food that you like. If that’s wings or ribs…so be it! I’ve heard of men taking women out for ribs to see if they get down and dirty. I can tell you that I get it on when I eat some ribs! My BFF and I went to Fat Matt’s Tuesday night and he had to laugh at how well I cleaned the bones! I dig right in and don’t care if I get rib sauce on my face or hands and I’ve been told that is sexy! LOL!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
9:50 am

disco ~ wasn’t my conscious intent (lol).

O/T (sorry) – BTW, listened to Strawberry Letter this morning and when dude introduced the other woman as his cousin, you popped in my head and I said outloud what I thought you might have said. Laughing all the way to work.

abc

July 12th, 2013
9:50 am

I think that if something as stupid as that is important to someone such that they’d test you on it, they just flunked the test themselves.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
9:51 am

Exiled – Actually, I’m not into the internet dating thing either. For the most part, I’ve met anyone I’ve dated in person or knew them through someone some kind of way. There has only been one person I dated from only meeting online but it wasn’t a dating site….was a social network and we talked/texted a long time before ever meeting. When we did meet up, we went to Buffalo Wild Wings so I wouldnt call that romantic lol It was a nice neutral zone we were both comfy with. ;-)

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
9:54 am

Is it just me, but I thought honey and whip cream?

Leggs – I’m not a fan of honey but right about now, that shollllle sounds like a good idea. I wouldn’t even mind a nice picnic date :oops:

disco

July 12th, 2013
9:56 am

leggs – I missed the letter. got caught up listening to those fools on tom joyner. i had a guy introduce me as his cousin one time. I busted him out right when he said it. you use that lie when someone sees you with someone, not when you and both someones are standing there together. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
10:05 am

Now that I think about it, I really don’t even recall how it feels to go out on a first date. It’s been soooo long.

I wouldn’t even mind a nice picnic date
Slim Cut that out. What you wanna do? I got you. As long as you bring your half. lol

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
10:06 am

Leggs – I came in on the tail end of the letter but I heard Steve saying she’s been a booty call for 6yrs if he’s never given her any title during that time…then to be introduced as a cousin was a big ass slap in the face!

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
10:06 am

didn’t mean to bold all that…my bad.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:06 am

SlimNu ~ I’m not a fan of whip cream but it sounded good to me too (lol).

disco ~ he introduced her to his other woman as his cousin. I saw you turning to the other woman saying, “yes, we’re kissing and f….. cousins” then patting him on his a$$ then leaving

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
10:07 am

Dreams – If I bring my half, is it still a date? Sounds like two friends meeting up lol According to disco, going dutch does not equal a date. lol

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:10 am

slim – I’m the one who says it’s just two folks hanging out. someone else said dutch is not a date. I don’t recall who though I think that it was kimmie who said dutch just isn’t classy.

re political correctness. are dutch people offended by the term going dutch? lol.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
10:14 am

Umm button, yea we do date different. my way works for me and that’s all that really counts.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
10:16 am

disco – Oops my bad.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
10:16 am

RNS……a romantic first meal would be her cooking for you to show off her culinary skills….and you bringing a sexy bottle of that ghud!!!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
10:21 am

2C – I think it’s waaaaaaay more romantic when a guy cooks for the woman. ;-)

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
10:21 am

According to disco, going dutch does not equal a date. lol
Slim Nothing equals a date according to disco…unless you’re Ving Rhames or Michael Clark Duncan. lol Anway, forget disco, I’m talkin’ ’bout me and you. ;-) Sounds like you need to get out.

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:22 am

slim – no worries. I just don’t want to be stealing anyone else’s praises. lol.

2C – first date cooking dinner? umm. unless we’ve already known each other for years and are just getting around to dating that ain’t likely to happen.

i so need a card game tonight. a card game and a fish fry.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:23 am

I think a picnic date would be lovely.

SlimNu ~ yep, she’s been a booty call for six years. SHarvey said two things takes place with a booty call (1) the phone and (2) you answering the phone! She’s been answering it for six years never having a title of gf or fiance. Her lane was booty call, but she didn’t look at it that way since she’s met his mother, his children, etc. Prime mistake lots of women make. Just because he invites you to meet his relatives/children doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in like flint! Just a tactic to keep you dangling. Bite if you want. She kept nibbling at the carrot he dangled in front of her because she thought she was THE ONE, yet he has a fiance on the side. AND, once she found this out, she’s still sleeping with him! Just desserts, baby, just desserts!

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:28 am

dreams – hush. my criteria for a date is simply that both parties are entering into the engagement with a certain level of expectation/anticipation/excitement as to where things might go. take that component away on either person’s part and what you have left is just two folks hanging out.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:30 am

“and you bringing a sexy bottle of that ghud!!!” – My mind is even more warped today because I didn’t think of wine but wondered how you get it all in a bottle.

I digress back to honey and whip cream

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
10:30 am

What got me was that he introduced her as his cousin TWO YEARS AGO!!! You should have been gone then!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:31 am

“unless we’ve already known each other for years” – DAYUM, for YEARS! I would cook after a couple of months!

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
10:31 am

Slim, if you don’t take Dreams up on his offer, I got you!!!! and I can cook my ass off too……pastas, and Italian dishes are my favorites….

disco, I don’t know who, or what, has made you so hard, but Ms. Lady, trust, it happens all the time! but 9 times outta 10, those ladies that go that route, are trying to woo that guy…..but since you just wanna eat ‘em up and spit ‘em out, I can see that not happpening with you!

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
10:34 am

Disco, I’m with you, I wouldn’t cook for a first date either, and if we’ve known each other for years, chances are we’ve already eating at each others house, so cooking wouldn’t be that big of a deal.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:34 am

Exactly, MsAtl. Two years ago and she’s still whining! Obviously, she will never be the one for him. Why she doesn’t see that is crazy to me. If a woman needs to constantly second guess herself and where she stands with her man, she stands no where. In this case she knows, accepts it by her own volition and relinquished all power to him. He knows she’s dumb and whupped!

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:37 am

leggs – I’m sure you mean after dating for a few months. at that point it’s no longer a first date. I’m thinking to be cooking for a first date right from jump street, we have to already have history. cooking likely means someone is going to someone else’s house. on a first date? nah…

and that’s not to say that I don’t know folks who have house dates right out the gate but I’m real funny about coming up off of where I live. lol.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
10:38 am

guess I’m different, cause if I’m trynna impress a chic (or even smash), I don’t have a problem cooking for her on date 1…..what page in the manual does it say the first date can’t be in-house?

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
10:41 am

2C didn’t even know there was a manual, people do things differently.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:42 am

disco ~ yes, definitely not on the first date. Not only that, you’re not coming to my house nor me to yours on a first date.

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
10:43 am

Good Morning!

I have not given any thought to what type of restuarant I would take a date on to see if she can handle getting messy…

I am with Single even though I have spoken to the ladies I still don’t know enough about them to think romantically for a first date. I am not the hit in on the first date person anyway, I need to know more about you… Romantic first dates are from the fantasy island, t.v. type bull they have brainwash the ladies into thinking this is how it works! lol

Some of those Strawberry letters are too unbelievable…Although I have had 2 ladies at the same time, it has more to do with their schedules,then me running a game on them.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:44 am

2C ~ you know darn well there’s no manual. That’ why we MIA’s!

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:47 am

speaking of manuals – sort of. I was talking to a friend last night and she started in on what her therapist said. y’all know me and therapy. lol. anyway, I told her I’d go to therapy when a therapist actually gave literal “do this, this and this” advice and the advice actually worked. why am I going to pay you to help me solve my own problems? I’m paying you. you solve them. lol.

abc

July 12th, 2013
10:49 am

It’s a give them fish vs. teach them to fish kind of thing, I think, disco. Personally, I don’t find much value in such therapy, but for other folks, maybe.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
10:49 am

There is a manual……it’s called “Do You…….How to obtain your dating objectives”

by 2CPTG©

Button

July 12th, 2013
10:50 am

I’m with the masses, I can’t invite a date to my house off the bat. However if you want to cook then I’m pretty sure there are some cooking classes around town so you can show off your skills.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
10:50 am

guess I’m different, cause if I’m trynna impress a chic (or even smash), I don’t have a problem cooking for her on date 1…

@2Can..especially if u weant to impress top smash….women assume a lot! Their lil heads are in the business of assuming.

so if u take her to ur house on a fisrt date,trust….her mind is zzzzzzzzzzzzz..confused.

The downside of that is if u smash and then dump her and unfortunately,she is one of those crazy type who break glass,slash tyres and stalk…..

u got a Big problem….

but not to worry….Women like hotels as well! :lol:

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:50 am

Durty ~ he was running game. He invited both to the party because he was “smelling himself.” He thought he was slick enough to have both and neither one would be wary of the other. Not sure how he thought he would show affection to either w/o either seeing it. Whether she touched his shoulder lovingly or put her hand on his hand or even brought him a plate of food. He should have known the evening wasn’t going to end with both not knowing someone else was there.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
10:51 am

impress to smash

disco

July 12th, 2013
10:54 am

ex – their little heads are in the business of assuming. now that is just too funny.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:55 am

2C ~ if that’s the name of the manual and it’s customized to that person, how can you ask “what page in the manual does it say the first date can’t be in-house?” – Your manual has that page. :wink:

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
10:55 am

MLB number 5. If you cook dinner on during the first week of dating you will get to smash!

This segment is called where dey do that at?

Why I am seeing the mother wearing smaller booty shorts then their daughters? At the malls of Georgia no less!

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
10:56 am

see, Ex, I do my due diligence on these gals……I can spot crazy, gold digger, etc, and once I’ve ascertained her objectives, I govern myself accordingly….I can tell whether or not if I’mma smash, and how long it’s gon take….if I see I gotta put in work, then its up to me whether or not if I wanna put in that work….

“P.I.M.P…..learning these gals biology, and obviously…….”

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
10:57 am

Happy Friday Morning Gang!!!

It was I who said dutch did not equal a date and that it was not classy!

Leggs – I heard the tail end of that Strawberry Letter too. I’m like Disco on that one, if dude introduced me as a cousin he would have gotten busted out right then and there! No going to the car crying! But we all know he did that mess because he knew she would go along with it, like she had for 6 years. Folks know who they can get over on. I don’t care what we really were – FWB, jumpoff, whatever, don’t go making me your relative!

I never thought about “looking cute food” on a date. As long as good table manners are observed, good food is all I am interested in. There is a right way to eat even messy food. Finger food is just that – made to be eaten with the fingers and it is proper to eat it that way. “Romantic” is not what either should be aiming for on a first date though, I’m with the guys on that. But really, why would you want to deal with a dude that is that shallow, to try to put you thru some “test”? Miss me with that.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
10:59 am

O/T – Fruitvale Station has been given 5 Stars for a movie.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:01 am

kimmie ~ please believe, there would be no going to the car for a good cry. Where they do that at? She’s a fool, he knows she’s a fool and yes, I knew disco would bust him out right then and there!

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:01 am

leggs – I was reading reviews on that this morning. meant to check to see if it was playing anywhere near me.

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:04 am

leggs – and the guy who said I was his cousin had no cause to. we were cool. hanging out at a basketball park I needed to use the restroom. he (and his girl) lived by. he takes me there, she asks who I am and he goes into instant lie mode talking about I’m his cousin. lol. I told her “no I’m not. I asked if I could use your restroom. nice to meet you though. I’m going back to the park”. lol. don’t know how that went for him.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:05 am

This married guy comes up to me in the cafe saying “good morning, you look nice today.” I say thank you and keep walking. He comes up to me and says “Leggs, I really need your number.” I’m immediately taking note of “really.” I laugh and say you don’t need my number. He laughs and says I really do, I’m unhappy. I said good, then you won’t have to be miserable with me! Do guys really think single women care if they’re unhappy with their wives? Ok, don’t need to answer that. Please test the waters elsewhere.

And that’s from my personal manual.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
11:08 am

dreams – hush.
disco My bad. You know I gotta mess with you.

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:09 am

leggs – excellent point. lol. they do sing the unhappy song a lot. like we don’t all have our own problems.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:10 am

what page in the manual does it say the first date can’t be in-house?

2C – I don’t think it is in the secret manual but I think women do not want to come off as easy or fall for the okie dokie of the In house date. If a dude is cooking for a chick on date 1 at his house, it’s almost like walking into the lions den. Not level playing ground so to speak. Plus the kitchen is usually not too too far from a bedroom either LOL

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:11 am

“don’t know how that went for him.” – probably didn’t go very well. He bold-faced lied to her. No one likes that.

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
11:13 am

Let me see if this will work!

Blog ladies I am really unhappy, I need everything from you…Money for my bills, your cooking skills to feed me and your uninhibited love skills….Oh please send me a resume highlighting those skills..
lol

Married dudes are too funny,although I must say one of my married partners get more play then I do…

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:15 am

what page in the manual does it say the first date can’t be in-house?

2C – Thinking back, other than when I was still living at home with my parents, most first dates were met out somewhere in public. If it’s not someone you already know and feel comfortable around, not a good idea to go to a stranger’s place, safety issue.

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
11:16 am

SlimNu ladies tend to overthink the early sex thing to much…If you can read the dude you can tell if he going to go further in the dating process whether you give it up early or not…

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
11:18 am

Slim……as I just told Ex…its about due diligence…..know with whom you’re dealing! ain’t that hard….if both of y’all feelin each other, and wanna do what grown folks do, then that’s y’all prerogative!!! When I say “manual,” I’m proverbially speaking…..of course there’s no manual; conversely, there are no rules either!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:18 am

Durty – For me it’s really about comfort…I much rather somewhere more neutral unless I already have some sort of vibe going with you. Also don’t want to be in some crazy situation I can’t get out of…ya know, somewhere that a scream can be heard lol

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:19 am

Durty ~ yeah, married dudes seem to get a lot of play. Main reason, she can have fun with him, take his money and gifts, and send him back home!!!

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:19 am

no judgment but I hate to think that there are any grown azz folks out there who still consider it “giving it up”. just the verbiage makes it sound like you either getting played or playing someone. if you going for yours, get it. lol.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:21 am

Disco, at your 10:47 I went to therapy once, everything she told me I was already doing, that’s why it was only once. (LOL)

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:21 am

For sure, SlimNu, because some of these guys never hear the word “no,” or “stop.”

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
11:21 am

dude you can tell if he going to go further in the dating process whether you give it up early or not…

…I doubt that Durty!

Even junior CHURCH pastors nowadays are smashing the sexxy parishioner and skipping to join another church across town. :lol:

….u just trust ur gut..if she’s played…lick ur wounds and KIM.

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:23 am

leggs – that’s the part no man (married or single) really wants to talk about. how much that loving is costing him. lol.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
11:24 am

“she stands no where………she’s dumb and whupped!” Ironically, sometimes the side chick is in the position of dominance. She dictates when the dude can come thru and how long he could stay. It’s similar to the misconception of strippers being exploited by men, when in actuality they hold the power and the men are the suckers. Some side chicks embrace their role and have no desire to be number one.
They just want the man to give gifts, pay bills, provide occasional diznic and get the hell on. In some ways, it’s empowering not demeaning.
As far as Best Cuisine for Dates…………..Fur Burgers.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:26 am

Romantic first dates are from the fantasy island, t.v. type bull they have brainwash the ladies into thinking this is how it works!

Durty – I don’t expect anything romantic on a first date…if we get together and it seems to move into a romantic vibe then so be it. But romantic on level 1, nope! I need a little more interaction than that. My hopes for any dates is basically to just have fun and laugh a lot while getting to know each other.

I’ve only had one sort of romantic type date as a first date. It probably would’ve been better had we been further along in our courtship but either way I enjoyed it. Buddy had a rose for me, we went ice skating in the park, walked around with hot chocolate talking and even hit up the playground swings & all. Thinking about it sort of does sound like a scene out of a movie lolol Dude pushing girl on the swings, running & rolling in the grass during a music montage hehehehe

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
11:27 am

I hate to think that there are any grown azz folks out there who still consider it “giving it up”.
disco I think that’s the prevailing thought, that women are giving up something, and men are taking something.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
11:27 am

Speaking of unhappy men and being played…Mags texted me again last night!!! He said “Hope you can come play at the _______ Tavern tonight.” Again…I didn’t respond. WTF?!?!?! I had to laugh cause I was just talking about him to my BFF on Tues night telling him about the texts and how crazy Mags must be to think I’m gonna jump right back on that! He must be realizing the good thing he gave up! :-)

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:29 am

D – I didn’t hear the letter but from what I’ve read in the posts the letter chick isn’t empowered. if she was she wouldn’t have run to her car in tears. lol.

bluz – that or he’s got a sichy-ation. lol. either he’s hit a dry spell or he needs something and he knows how kind hearted you are. in his mind if he can just get back in he can get that need met. stay strong.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
11:30 am

I guess the reason my attitude is different on this topic is because I’mma spend some time in ya head before I even ask you out on a date! I’m not asking you out right out the gate! The first date ain’t my idea of a meet and greet! By date #1, I have an idea where I wanna go with you!

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:31 am

Durty – I’m inclined to agree with you and Disco on the “giving it up” topic. I think it really depends on the maturity level of the people involved though. If yall grown and the chemistry is there and you feel comfortable, I don’t see the issue. Neither is in a position to judge because you are both willing participants. There are too many still out there holding onto the old double standards and judging though. It can be very hard to read a guy. A lady has to be willing and able to deal with where the cards fall should she read dude wrong. Otherwise it’s best she hold off until she gets to know dude a little better and is comfortable. Better to overthink a situation like that than under, in my opinion.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:31 am

DuShawn ~ I for one have always felt the strippers held the power. And, in some cases the mistresses hold the power. However, in the case of this Strawberry Letter, it was the opposite.

“Some side chicks embrace their role and have no desire to be number one.” – Of course, but she wasn’t one of them. That’s the side I’m speaking on, dumb and whupped!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:33 am

disco ~ you got it. They want it come off as though they’re not paying to keep or get that girl. Yeah, they’re paying even if it means taking time away from his family. There’s always a payment and it doesn’t always equal $$.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:35 am

“He must be realizing the good thing he gave up!”

Bluz ~ listen to me. He’s not realizing isht! He’s only trying to come back in. His plate may be empty and he needs it filled by someone. He may still she you as easy pickings.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:36 am

Even junior CHURCH pastors nowadays are smashing the sexxy parishioner

Made me think of that show Ayanla did about a Pastor and his wife. The pastor had slept with at least 20 different women in the church and had a child with one of them….tried to save their marriage but the wife decided to join another church and maintain their separate lifestyles. I mean, after all that blantant disrespect, I don’t blame her for leaving. That’s just cray!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:36 am

disco ~ yep! Perhaps I should read all posts before jumping in with mine, then I can just “concur.”

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:37 am

Leggs – I don’t ever buy that “I’m unhappy” mess from married dudes!LOL! It’s hilarious!! I bet if you were a fly on the wall in his home, you would see things are just fine. Dude is just a sleaze.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:38 am

In actuality, men give the D and we receive it :-D :lol:

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:38 am

I saw that episode SlimNu. Disgust…

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
11:39 am

Leggs – At some point, he’s going to realize that I’m not easy pickings anymore!!! I’m just going to keep ignoring him. I think part of it is that he doesn’t seem to be doing anything musically and before anything ever happened between us, we talked about me being his manager and him paying me to manage the band and book gigs. I wonder if he’s trying to get that foot back in. Who knows what he’s thinking. I don’t really care. As much as I’d love to get laid, I’m not gonna crack with him!!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:40 am

kimmie ~ I look at “I’m unhappy” the same I look at a married guy telling me his wife is an invalid or home recovering from cancer. I don’t believe you and do not care to find out if you’re telling the truth. The truth is your lowdown a$$ is a married!

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:40 am

Speaking of married dudes paying. I was over this woman’s house about to smash and she got a phone call. when she got off she told me I had to go. I was like you just going to leave me hanging like that. she said unless you willing to pay some rent and some bills you got to go, cause you aint messing my thing up. Needless to say, I left (LOL)

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:41 am

kimmie/Leggs – A married dude that comes in here tries to flirt with someone constantly. So finally it was my turn. So last week, he finally asks me why i’m so mean to him and I basically told him, i’m not into other women’s men especially MARRIED me. So go take your wife to lunch, go buy her a drink, sweet tea or whatever. He goes on with his story of how they’ve grown apart, how he works so much blah blah blah…just waiting for his youngest son to get out of school blah blah blah…miss me with that sob story you’ve probably recited a hunned times! :roll:

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:42 am

Ladies, men aren’t the only ones that use that line, I’ve smashed 3 or 4 of “unhappy” married women!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:43 am

“I wonder” – two words that really bother me. Stop wondering and do something. Not saying you should Bluz, just folk who always wonder about this or wonder about that. Drives me crazy…I know someone who constantly says “I wonder if….. I wonder that, I wonder why…STFU!

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
11:43 am

If a man is so unhappy with his woman, then he needs to leave her and get “happy” before he comes to me!

Sassy Me ;-)

July 12th, 2013
11:43 am

I’m like Disco on that one, if dude introduced me as a cousin he would have gotten busted out right then and there! No going to the car crying!

Cosign…and going to the car to cry is a NO NO. I’d go to the car to leave but NOT cry….dude just played me and made us “cousins”?!..oh heyal nawl!!

Some side chicks embrace their role and have no desire to be number one.They just want the man to give gifts, pay bills, provide occasional diznic and get the hell on. In some ways, it’s empowering not demeaning.

True…everyone has to stay in his/her lane IF that’s the situation they CHOOSE to be in. One of my cousins has a situation like that. He married his first wife…cheated on her with his second wife,who he’s now divorced from as well. During BOTH marriages he was seeing a woman with whom he had two children…one child born during his first marriage and the other one born during his second one. TO TOP IT ALL OFF, we(the family) recently found out that this woman ATTENDED his second wedding with her cousin and was introduced to some family members at the time.

Fast forward to now, this same side piece and my cousin now live together in happy shackin-mony(nope NOT matrimony).

So he has children with both ex-wives and his woman AND some of the oldest children are around the same age :shock:

True story..

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:45 am

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SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:46 am

Single – Dayyyyum, talk about some honesty for your ass! :lol: Had to go home with a stiffy..hehehehehe

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
11:47 am

LOL Leggs! I just wonder cause I’m curious and nosey, but sure ain’t gonna find out with him!!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:47 am

“I basically told him, i’m not into other women’s men especially MARRIED men. – Love it!

“So go take your wife to lunch, go buy her a drink, sweet tea or whatever.” – Something I definitely would say (lol).

“He goes on with his story of how they’ve grown apart, how he works so much blah blah blah…just waiting for his youngest son to get out of school blah blah blah…miss me with that sob story you’ve probably recited a hunned times.” – Exactly, to just come out with all that he’s looking at you with sincerity all the while wrangling his hands in his mind thinking “is this the one, is this one that’s gonna bite.” Silly rabbit, tricks are for those who don’t know any better!”

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:47 am

single – you know I ain’t even mad at that chick. I like her style. a lesser chick would have tried to come up with a lie. lol.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:48 am

Single – You always chime in with the “women do it too” line!!LOL!! Thanks for letting us know, cause I’ve only dated men!!LOL!!

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:48 am

I WONDER what leggs meant by that (LOL)

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:50 am

leggs – did you not just tirade over “I wonder”? I wonder what that was really all about. lol.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:50 am

Kimmie just letting you know:-D I would tell them to save that, I know they just want to get some. (LOL)

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
11:51 am

Single those unhappy married ladies or ladies who are not getting enough will come at you very strong..I put on my running shoes and run extremely fast away from them!

Dang Sassy now that is a reality show in the making….Call real stupid azz folks… lol

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:51 am

“I’m curious and nosey” – yes and still naive. Stay away! Curiousity killed the cat. Wait, that’s what you want anyway, isn’t it (lolol)?

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:53 am

Single – Dang, all the way in TX though. Hmmmm

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:53 am

Single/Disco – I’m not mad at her either, it is what it is!!LOL!!

“You don’t have to go home, but ya gotta gets the h– outta here”!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
11:54 am

disco ~ :lol: :lol: :lol: I guess I did. My ex always wondered, probably still wondering why we’re divorced. I digress…

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
11:54 am

“willing to pay some rent and some bills you got to go……” -S/H- I have been there too. I done spent the night and she’s cooking breakfast the next morning when Sugar Daddy comes knocking on her door. I quickly moved my luggage from her room to the guest room, she let him in, we played the “we cousins” role, I shook his hand, finished eating and dipped. I called her later to see how it worked out and asked if we could vibe again that night. She said unless Imma pay the bills he pays, she has to spend some time with him. I told her I understood.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:54 am

And being introduced as cousin aint bad, I was at this road side diary bar, and one of the married woman and her husband pulls up. she sends him over to tell me to come over to her. :-?

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:55 am

single – what was your thought process as you were driving home that night old girl showed you the door?

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
11:55 am

Kimmie the women out here nowadays are as scandalous as the men…Some will tell you they are engage then mention I give pornstar treatment in the next conversation….It is hilarious out here with a lot of these women..

Sassy Me ;-)

July 12th, 2013
11:56 am

miss me with that sob story you’ve probably recited a hunned times.” –

For real right?!..try that ish somewhere else..

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:56 am

“Thanks for letting us know, cause I’ve only dated men”

kimmie – I was thinking the exact same thing to myself lololol Can only comment on experiences with men unless I just have a story to share from a guy I know

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:56 am

ladies – any of y’all ever have two guys sniffing around at the same time, trying to wait each other out?

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:56 am

Durty I’ve never had a problem with them. but I do know some people that have.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
11:58 am

Disco, where can I go to get me some (LOL)

disco

July 12th, 2013
11:58 am

ladies – any of y’all have situations similar to single’s where guy A is there but guy B calls or shows up or whatever and guy A gets the boot?

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
11:58 am

Hate to say it, but sometimes the old “now he see’s what he’s missing” line is just something we say to make ourselves feel better!

Truth is, unless he’s a stupid man, 9 times out of 10 if he really valued it, he would have kept it!

Once I started keeping it real with myself like that, I was much better off!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
11:59 am

Durty – You are right, anybody can be trifling…I believe there are probably more trifling folks than there are upstanding folks.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:01 pm

Why are uall worried about the lingo we(dudes) use?

When we smash we consider that u are giving it up!

Whether u were taken or not,it don’t matter.

Part of that derives from the fact that,Yes,u hold the power of whether it’s gon happen or it’s not. You make the call.

True,grown women have no problem even giving it up on first meet. More power to them!

Do guys judge based on when u give it up? Absolutely! Positively,Negatively,Correctly or Incorrectly!

But it’s All yours until dude compromises you!

But to be honest,if the chic seems phoine and she favors u with a smash on first meet,as a dude u can’t help pop ur collar somewhat! :lol:

Now ladies,grown or not,if u are in the business of giving it up early(imagine All the dudes u meet) how Valuable is ur cootie?

U be ur own judge for a minute!

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
12:05 pm

Durty – Oh I believe it!! Women have always been smarter in the cheating game anyway, so I believe a lot of their antics make some playa dudes look downright amatuerish!!LOL!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
12:05 pm

she sends him over to tell me to come over to her. – laughing. She has some power (lol).

“ladies – any of y’all ever have two guys sniffing around at the same time, trying to wait each other out?” – Hell yeah, quite comical. You can see them puffing out their chests, making comments to give off the sense of having authority of “something.” The one who tires first is the one who leaves.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
12:08 pm

Durty – You see Exiled’s 12:01? He’s not alone in his opinion on this either.

Overthinking?

I rest my case!! :cool:

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
12:13 pm

disco – “…..B calls or shows up or whatever and guy A gets the boot?” The sad part is one’s rank has a direct correlation to their financial contributions. If dude B is paying water and cable and dude C got the mortgage and car note. Brother B got to get the hell on when C is coming thru.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:14 pm

For those that are Not romantic on the first date,how long does it take for ur romantic side to kick in?

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:17 pm

11:58 true Kimmie!

…guys sniff at retired women jus to see if they still have license to roam there.

None more nothing less!
(think like men ladies) :lol:

disco

July 12th, 2013
12:18 pm

D – maybe, maybe not. sometimes it’s financial, sometimes the cooter has a preference. lol.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
12:21 pm

“sometimes the cooter has a preference. lol.” – So true! Of course, the men don’t think of that!

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
12:22 pm

Ex since I know blog ladies the first date would be romantic the 2nd date which is 2 days later would be a home cooked meal at my place….With Marvin Gaye playing in the back (Let’s get it on)…hehehehe

Kimmie I need you to stop dropping knowledge nuggets you are ruining the blog potentials…lol

If I ever pay a mortgage for side piece that puddy better be a mindblowing experience! lol

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:24 pm

Dushawn,I disagree!

Money is important but if his lingo is not there or the one with finance is downright lame,he gets used financially(buys dranks etc) and the broke dude with swag gets to escort her outa that place.

The one that’s smooth wins!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
12:27 pm

So yall don’t mind waiting it out for the other dude to leave??? I just hope ya’ll strapping up with all this ‘passing the cooter’ is going on.

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
12:27 pm

I might be dude B, I’ll come tighten up the yard, make sure all the mechanicals are in good working conditions…Bring over some breakfast before we do the do….I usually choose the ladies who are doing well financially and they have I don’t need a man to pay my bills…hehehehehe

Although lately I have seen some beautiful women working as cashiers who I think I might make a small financial contribution to their financial well being! lol

Ladies would you date a man who works at a grocery store as a cashier?

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
12:28 pm

“any of y’all ever have two guys sniffing around at the same time, trying to wait each other out?”
Dayum….seem like I done done it all, but I’ve been here too. I get to baby spot, she’s there with her girl and to my surprise this dude is there. I know buddy from different circles. We greet each other respectfully. Time passes and he shows no signs of leaving. My friends pull me in the back and say they want to vibe, but don’t know how to ask buddy to leave because he helps them out from time to time and they don’t want to mess that up. I informed them I have no problem asking dude to excuse himself. I immediately had a playa talk with him and let him know the business. He did what a gentleman should do and dipped. There was no ill will between me and my man afterwards. The chicks done chose.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:30 pm

Or sorry,I miread that 12:13!
I have never been in a situation like that.

disco

July 12th, 2013
12:31 pm

durty – I saw a sexy little checkout guy at a grocery recently. he was “something”. lol. by that I mean I’m not sure what his ethnic background was but he looked middle eastern maybe. whatever he was it was working. anyway, he was nice to look at though a little young.

a few years back a fellow hollered at me in the grocery store. dude was stocking shelves but I was feeling generous that day. gave him my number only to find out later that he lived in an apartment with a roommate. that was a dealbreaker for me. I don’t have time for that.

disco

July 12th, 2013
12:32 pm

D – they chose to let the money man go??? did they have another money man lined up? lol.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
12:36 pm

I saw a hottie working at CVS not too long ago. My mom tried to dog him because he works there, but it could have been his 2nd job. Also, it’s a step up from previous men because he’s employed! LOL

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
12:43 pm

Ladies would you date a man who works at a grocery store as a cashier?
Durty You want the Blog answer or the real answer? You have to specify. lol

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
12:45 pm

Durty – I can’t say that I would totally count it out but just my initial reaction…um….I’d probably say no. Guess it depends on the guy & circumstances. Just keeping it real

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:49 pm

Lived in an apartment with a roommate…I don’t have time for that!

@Disco :lol:

U too Loud? :lol:

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
12:55 pm

Ladies would you date a man who works at a grocery store as a cashier? – Here’s my answer. I might. A lot of grown folk doing jobs they don’t want to do or went to school to do. This recession kicked a lot of behinds. Now, if he wants to move up from cashier to stock boy to manager, that’s another story.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:56 pm

Leggs…why all the justification? Lol

Ur answer is Yes!

disco

July 12th, 2013
12:57 pm

ex – I’m all for saving money but a dude with a roommate is going to want to post up at my house. I ain’t having that. a dude with a roommate may or may not be able to afford the place on his own . if he can’t, I don’t have time for that either. nope. I’m too grown for a grown man with a roommate.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
12:57 pm

Figured I justify before someone asks why.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
12:59 pm

I wld date a chic who works at a grocery store ..cvs,kroger,hotel cashier,front desk etc

I wld not date a stripper..porn star etc…like Stevie… but maybe just smash maybe.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
1:01 pm

Disco..u not even going to hear his story..maybe it’s a grown guy with a legitimate temporary reason why he us doing it?

but I understand ur thinking

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
1:01 pm

Durty – That’s not a cut & dried question. First let me say somebody wants them, cause a few I’ve seen that are not teenagers are married. I get the feeling it’s their 2nd job.

Now I can’t judge, cause for a minute there I did the Publix thing as a 2nd job, and I had just finished my MBA.

I can’t fault nobody for getting out there and hustling, doing what they have to do. Being a professional woman, at this point in my life, if I were single, I would really have to know his situation. Is it a 2nd job or is he doing it to bring in something until better comes along because he was laid off?

If “this is it” and he has zero ambition and looking for a come-up from a woman – don’t see how that would work for me or any other woman at the same point in her life.

Keeping it real.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
1:05 pm

Disco..just this past week, I was talking to my wife bout saving money and opening a business and saying,if I was single and had ambitions to open a business,I would proly lively so cheaply with a roommate,buy a cheap cash car,have 2/3 jobs and soak away as much money as possible in savings.

…I guess dating wld be outta the window for a minute. :lol:

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
1:09 pm

Kimmie..u know there are some folks with ‘useless’ degrees due to bad choices

Kroger,cvs etc and then hoping to come up thru the ranks is not a bad option

It wld be premature to dismiss that dude

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
1:11 pm

Enjoy your weekend!

PEACE!

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
1:18 pm

Exiled – “Useless degree” is relative. I’ve seen folks get good jobs with so-called useless degrees. In fact, it ticked me off because they were able to get the accounting mgmt trainee position with that Art History degree over me with the Accounting degree. THere are other factors.

As for moving up the ranks at Kroger, that’s okay if we’re in our 20’s. Plus, rarely does it work that way in Corporate America anymore. Usually companies have a mgmt training program you start in. He may be “on the floor” getting a feel for the store operations at the cash register, but I’d have to talk to him further to see that.

20’s = maybe premature to dismiss. 30’s and up = dismiss unless he’s got a good reason like I stated above.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
1:28 pm

Also, it’s a step up from previous men because he’s employed! LOL lmao

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
1:37 pm

Kimmie we know u are boogie, looking only for doctors and lawyers! lol

BluzGirl I have a suggestion u ever thought about dong comedy you have some funny stories!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
1:37 pm

I wish it was time for me to get off. I need a nap.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
1:39 pm

Some opportunities are about who ya know and who ya blow or who you know that’s blown somebody.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
1:43 pm

Ex – Are you and wifey going to the Civic Ctr for the African Umoja show?

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
1:43 pm

Durty – LOL!! People kill me tripping because somebody good & grown and over 25 is not checking for somebody working a teenager’s after school/summer job, unless there are extenuating circumstances!

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
1:44 pm

I believe women put far more importance on a man’s station in life than vice versa…..and maybe rightfully so. I wouldn’t care if she’s a waitress at Waffle house or a six figure chic with the corner office, as long as I liked her, she was cute with a phat azz, she could get it. It really doesn’t matter for most guys. Hell, we will prolly be paying for everything anyway, regardless of how much bread she has…….or doesn’t have.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
1:51 pm

Du – You right, we ladies gotta have a different criteria. It don’t matter how cute you are if we gotta a couple kids that need feeding and mortgage paid in a decent neighborhood but money is coming up short. Suddenly, you not looking so cute and the D ain’t paying the bills!

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
1:53 pm

Um Kimmie that’s not the real world you talking about… There are not a lot high income jobs for everyone in this country. Also, some folks only receive a minimum amount of eduction which means they may only work low paying jobs. There are more low paying jobs in this country then high income paying jobs. After the recession pay was lowered for quite a few high paying jobs so I don’t believe you are living in the real world….

People at Walmart and other retailers are working full time jobs as cashiers and that is not their 2nd job..

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:01 pm

Durty – And everything you speak of are what I call extenuating circumstances – which I said would make me take a 2nd look at a guy when I might not have before. You know exactly what I’m talking about. I am very much living in the real world.

A lot of the higher income jobs that did not require a degree – like postal workers and car assembly and factory jobs – are gone and not coming back. It’s an entirely different world out there.

But folks love to throw out mess to single women like why won’t she get with the brother that’s working at McDonalds and is perfectly content with it and then make her justify why that would not be her first choice – miss me with that.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:04 pm

I can hang out with chick in the grocery store, but she can’t be my lady/wife. I need someone in the same tax bracket or better.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
2:07 pm

“Suddenly, you not looking so cute and the D ain’t paying the bills!……” That was my point earlier when I mentioned a dude’s rank is tied to his contribution. Some replied with the coochie got a preference or smoothness sometimes trumps financial assistance. There’s some truth to both positions, but most men I know have more money than time.
-@Durty-”I usually choose the ladies who are doing well financially…….don’t need a man to pay my bills…….” I know several very successful single women, but I know none that would turn down the offer if some sucker wanted to make a few mortgage payments for them.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:08 pm

Dreams – Thanks for keeping it real!

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
2:09 pm

When is it Slim? Umoja stuff?
we were actually tinkering on what to do this Friday..lemme know

..just coming from the dealer and got my whip serviced and told them jokers to wash it..

My truck looking real phoine right now!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:11 pm

The topic?

Um…wow…

Deal breakers are becoming more and more interesting. But hey…to each his own.

Hey…folks…

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:12 pm

For most folks I know that are out there busting their behind trying to make ends meet on minimum wage, dating is the last thing on their mind anyway. Trying to feed themselves, kids, aging parents – it’s not easy out here.

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:13 pm

D – re that 1:44. another double standard in our favor. a lot of guys feel that way. a lot of women prefer to date equal or up.

kimmie – a dude I the burger king drive thru tried to holler once. a friend told me I was wrong for not talking to him. whatever. I do know a guy who said he hollered at a girl who worked at mcdonalds but it ended up that her family owned/operated several stores.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
2:13 pm

Ex – I just came across it and I think it’s next week, The 17th – 21st. Just go to the civic center site or Ticket master…I would love to go but not thrilled about the ticket prices.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:14 pm

Okay SCool, this is getting to be a habit, you rolling up in blogsville!

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:15 pm

all I know is you can do bad all by yourself and you can do good all by yourself. being armed with that knowledge you can choose to be picky about who you let in your life and you don’t have to make any apologies for your choices. me? I’m good. I’m single but I’m good. lol.

Durty Burd

July 12th, 2013
2:18 pm

Dreams and Kimmie I am only talking about dating…I did not know every person you dated led to you getting married….

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:18 pm

Low paying jobs. High paying jobs.

What is most relative in all of that? Are you living within your means and managing your money properly?

Because really, there are six figure folks that are paycheck to paycheck with no savings for retirement, no emergency fund and bad credit.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:19 pm

Dreams – Thanks for keeping it real!
kimmie All day. I’m already a parent; not raising an adult. Bring something significant to the table!

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:19 pm

Disco – I’m not mad atcha. That was one thing I hated being single and not exactly a spring chicken – folks think you should be willing to accept absolutely whatever that comes along. If you’re okay being with a person that does not bring much to the table and you’re willing to carry things, have at it. It’s somebody for everybody. But I don’t think it’s much to ask to at least expect equal, at least by a certain point in your life. And not have to explain it either.

And really how often does that happen in real life – the person working the drive-thru owns the place!

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
2:21 pm

-Dreams- “…….chick in the grocery store, but she can’t be my lady/wife.” I think the older a man gets the more he gravitates to your position. It’s all hypothetical for me at this point, but if the grocery store chick had ambition, objectives, realistically obtainable goals, and most importantly I dug her…….I may give her shot. Tax brackets and credit scores can increase significantly in a few short years. I have watched many GED’s turn into MBA’s.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
2:21 pm

Durty – what is dong comedy? ;-)

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:22 pm

durty – that’s just it. there’s a point in your life that you date just for fun. whoever, wherever, whatever. there’s a point in your life when you know exactly what you want and you date for that. you eliminate all the folks that might have qualified when you are dating just for fun but don’t make the cut when you are looking for real contenders.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:23 pm

Dreams and Kimmie I am only talking about dating…I did not know every person you dated led to you getting married…
Durty I believe I accounted for that in my post:

“I can hang out with chick in the grocery store, but she can’t be my lady/wife. I need someone in the same tax bracket or better.”

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:23 pm

kimmie – ikr…

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:24 pm

since we are on it, I hate when folks say someone has potential. I generally respond that potential is for 25 not 45. 45 better be done realized some of that potential. lol.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:25 pm

Because really, there are six figure folks that are paycheck to paycheck with no savings for retirement, no emergency fund and bad credit.

SCool – Very true. There are also alot of unemployed folks that would trade places with them in a NY minute. At least they got a paycheck coming in…..

Durty – No point in looking crazy down the line after you done caught feelings……..

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
2:27 pm

I can do bad by myself, I don’t need no help to starve to death (LOL)

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:28 pm

potential is for 25 not 45. 45 better be done realized some of that potential.

Disco – Amen!!

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
2:28 pm

“45 better be done realized some of that potential. …”No doubt!! If you still strugglin at that point, you better have had it and lost it and working to get back again……that I could understand.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:28 pm

I have watched many GED’s turn into MBA’s.
Du Yeah I’ve run across a few too. Question is whether or not I think that’s feasible or a longshot for the person I’m considering. Of course, if I have to choose between someone with potential and someone who’s already there, then most times I’m rolling with the latter.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
2:28 pm

Thnx Slim will check it out

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
2:30 pm

Disco, I’m the same way about goals, When people say I don’t have any, I say hell I’m 50 years old, I’ve achieved mine, it’s time to relax now (LOL)

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:32 pm

Single – I feel ya, I’m really ready to relax now …. Boy I wish I could retire early! If I had to start all over, I would just cry…..

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:33 pm

single – I get that but by the same token I absolutely hate when folks don’t want to do anything claiming that they already did it all. I’m like that’s some bs. so now you just waiting to die? lol.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:35 pm

Another thing that I have learned is to be far more concerned about intelligence, integrity, common sense, money management skills, ambition and an understanding of the principles of success (among the top traits) are far more important than whether a person is degreed or not.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:38 pm

Disco – I take what Single says as now he’s ready to enjoy the fruits of his labor – at least that’s what I agree with. Not have to try to climb that corporate ladder and deal with the rat race. As for me, I got a few degrees & years of job experience – now it’s time to see some return on that investment – money in the bank & free time – to travel!

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
2:38 pm

Now disco, for me those are different things. If I got to where I can’t do things I’d rather be dead.

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
2:39 pm

Bingo Kimmie

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:41 pm

kimmie – yeah. that’s why I said I get it but I’m going through it right now where folks are just so complacent. not even with work but personal enrichment type stuff. don’t want to travel, don’t want to exercise, don’t want to take a class in anything. just chilling, day in and day out and the excuse is because I did such and such back when but back when was 20/30/40 years ago.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
2:42 pm

-Dreams- I feel ya…..fortunately in this town, the latter is the majority.

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:42 pm

i suggested my mother take swimming lessons since she’s afraid of the water. you know the whole conquer a fear thing. she literally cussed me out. lol.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:44 pm

Disco – I feel ya. And they make everyone around them that still has some life left in them miserable. I tell folks all the time – I’ll sleep when I’m dead. Even if you did do it/go there back in 1978, don’t you have other places/things you’d like to try?? Dang….

I totally feel ya!!

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:45 pm

Dreams- I feel ya…..fortunately in this town, the latter is the majority.
Du You know it.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:47 pm

kimmie – I forgot to tell you – I saw your brother and SIL at the Peachtree Expo the other week.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
2:48 pm

SCool – Cool! It’s a small world!!

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
2:49 pm

Even if you did do it/go there back in 1978, don’t you have other places/things you’d like to try?? Dang…
kimmie/disco Unless you’re Bill Gates status, I’m not buying that you’ve “done it all.” And there’s even sh!t they haven’t done. I’d rather you just say, “I’ve done what I wanted to do in life (however limited that is to you), and I don’t plan on doing anything new.”

Single and Happy

July 12th, 2013
2:52 pm

Disco, I get that all the time folks who don’t want to do anything that is, I just say okay and KIM

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:53 pm

kimmie – they don’t make me miserable. they just give me another reason to talk about them or clown them or call them scared. lol. on the one hand, they can do or not do what they want. it just irks me when they want to comment on what I’m doing like they can’t do something too. I know one chick who hasn’t left this city in more than 10 years. I’m like why – you have a car and a job. gas up and go. she has 1200 reasons why she can’t go anywhere but is always wishing she could go somewhere. I don’t get it.

disco

July 12th, 2013
2:55 pm

oh. and the only place she’s ever been is Atlanta. I’ve heard folks say Atlanta is all that but it’s not so much all that that once you’ve seen Atlanta you don’t have to see any place else. lol.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
2:57 pm

Oh…and yeah…I am humbly requested that you guys follow my Three Words Daily page on Facebook….

https://www.facebook.com/ThreeWordsDaily

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:03 pm

That is…if you’re on FB. Leggs – thanks for the follow on the first day I put it up. (Don’t know why I hadn’t done this long ago.)

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
3:04 pm

Disco – It’s no place on Earth that is “all that” that you don’t need to see any other place!!LOL!!

A lady I work with moved here from DC area over 15 years ago. She goes almost nowhere between here and home with her man. She’s always talking about how when she moved here she wore a size 12, now she’s literally double that size. She’s come along with us on a few outings, but otherwise knows nothing of what’s going on or what the city has to offer. She’s always talking about “what they have in DC that they don’t have down here” only to have me tell her yes there is one right down the street! There is a mall 2 miles down from the job and she’ll ask me where I got something and I tell her at the mall and have to explain to her where in the mall to go!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:05 pm

#RandomThoughts

Yeah…I know hashtags don’t work on the blog. I’m addicted to hashtags and I’m going to use them anyway.

Just wilted some kale for the first time ever. I had it with brown rice and sautéed chicken breast. Not bad, however, I prefer spinach.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
3:10 pm

I had it with brown rice and sautéed chicken breast. Not bad, however, I prefer spinach.
SexyC Yeah kale is in now. I prefer spinach too, although I did have a really good kale salad at a cookout on the 4th.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
3:10 pm

Miss me with that retirement talk. I got three college tuitions coming back to back, due in six years. I’m grinding like a mug trying to buy up real estate that I hope will gain equity as well as invest in several different business ventures. Shid, I just got in the hair business and its selling like dope. I got that Yaki and Brazilian virgin for the low low. I’m trying get it each and every way.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
3:10 pm

SCool – We had kale last week. I absolutely love it, spinach too. I cooked the kale like collard greens this time, in some chicken stock along with other seasonings. Sometimes I mix them with cabbage. Cheesecake Factory has this fresh kale salad I love that’s mixed with dried cranberries and toasted almonds.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:14 pm

Mrs SC – Done ;-)

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
3:14 pm

Du – I’m looking for some side ventures myself. Tuition coming up in 5 years here for 2!

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
3:14 pm

I have no savings other than 401k and that’s sad!
I Just cant save.

But I’m always white collar hustling

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:16 pm

Yes…kale seems to be the *in* vegetable these days. I may try juicing tomorrow…or in a smoothie.

Thanks, SlimGoody!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:19 pm

Back home after being stood up by hairdresser. I get there and her work station is pristine. I call and get vm. She calls back saying an emergency came up and apologizes for not calling sooner. Hell, why couldn’t you call me while you’re cleaning up your workstation? Now, she wants me to sit at a salon on a Saturday afternoon. My hair is falling out and she needs to see what she did wrong 3 weeks ago before I go to someone else. UUGGH!!! Probably have to cut it all off and look like a boy w/my peanut head.

SexyC ~ you are welcome.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:19 pm

#AnotherRandomThought

Now that adult multi-vitamins come in gummy bear form, I never miss a day.

I love gummy bears. (lol)

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:21 pm

I cannot get down with the cooked spinach…just too soft and eh for me. I wish I liked it because it’s looks good. Just not for me

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:23 pm

Leggs – I sooo sorrry to hear that. But I surely hope she doesn’t have you in there all day tomorrow. Did she switch up products on you?

cba

July 12th, 2013
3:25 pm

SC-Are you still running with your ladies group and if so, did you do the PT last week?

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:25 pm

Leggs – send her an invoice for wasting your time.

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
3:25 pm

SCool – Girl, we were talking about gummy vitamins in the mgr meeting the other day!!LOL! Yes mame, they are the bomb!!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:30 pm

cba – I don’t run with the group as often anymore. However, I still run two to three times per week.

And yes, M and I did the Peachtree. Finish time – 1:19:16 – Under my goal of 1:20:00 – next year, I will have a finish goal of 1:15:00. After that, I’m not trying to get any faster. A 10 minute mile for a chick in her 40’s is pretty dern good. (lol)

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:30 pm

Good point, SexyC re: invoice. Not only that, used 1/2 day of PTO.

SlimNu ~ been going to her for 18 years, first time she gave me a perm but she knows my hair is extremely soft and thin. I decided to get a professional perm much to my detriment. I am pissed!!

Ok, been thinking about those multi-vitamin gummy bears. I will try them out.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:30 pm

We were discussing vitamins here this week. I know I need to take some but they make me feel sick on my stomach. Someone suggested I take kids vitamins.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:31 pm

The biggest reason I don’t run with the group is that I have great sidewalks and a park with a running trail in my neighborhood. It’s really hard for me to get up early and drive to meet folks to run when I can just walk out of my front door and start from there.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:32 pm

Leggs – Who usually does your perms for you? Yeah, if you know your hair is already think she should’ve went with something less strong. You probably need something like a Just for me or something. That’s what my cousin has to use…

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:33 pm

I have a new laptop and can’t figure this thing out. Keys are weird. Control key does strange things, My F5 doesn’t refresh unless I use shift key with it. Just weird. Browser at bottom of screen. I don’t like it and my 30 days is up. Should have stuck with a Dell.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
3:33 pm

It’s a parking lot on 85/75, Downtown Atl..everywhere!

Maybe,hopefully u be good by 5 pm

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
3:35 pm

Random thought – The other night as I passed my girls room, I saw my 10 year old daughter on her laptop. I asked what she was doing; she replied, looking up a word. I asked what’s the word? She said……………Polygamy. I thought to myself oh shid, what the f*&k is up with my parenting!!!

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:35 pm

My gf has been giving me perms forever! I go to hairdresser for cut and style. I decided to get it professionally permed for the first time in decades. Trying to save time and do it all during one stop. I’m going to start from scratch. Cut my hair off and wait for it to grow back out. It’s the only solution and I’m sick over it. My hair is already short so now it will be cropped to my damn scalp.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:37 pm

:lol: DuShawn, but I know that’s not funny.

I heard a new word this morning I had to pull the dictionary out for. Gladhander. Never heard it before.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:38 pm

DuS – So how did you handle that situation or did you just keep on walking with a big ass question mark over your head?

Leggs – I can read the frustration in your words! You never know though, it might look fabulous.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:40 pm

Random: Is it just me, or do you guys have a favorite spoon you like to eat ice cream with and will look all over for it before settling for another (lol)? I know, I know, I have issues.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
3:41 pm

I had to let that marinate overnight and addressed it the following morning. I asked her what made her curious about that word. She said she was watching sister wives on TV, they used it often and she didn’t know the meaning. I then asked what it meant. She told me it’s like a religion, where the man has more than one wife. Needless to say, I blocked that program and hoped that it was only the TV show that sparked her interest.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:41 pm

It might, SlimNu. Whatever happens, I will have to rock it! I see big hoop earrings in my future (lol).

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:43 pm

The fact that a 10 yr old is watching that show is interesting in itself. I would have blocked it too. I mistakenly blocked Nightline and now have to put in a code each time I turn to it.

cba

July 12th, 2013
3:43 pm

The main thing is you are staying active SC. One of my cousin did a half marathon last year and was talking about her time. I told her, hell!, most people her age (55) can’t even walk 13 miles, let alone run.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
3:49 pm

There is no porn stuff on polygamy is there?

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
3:51 pm

Mrs. SC – I just “liked” your page…

kimmie

July 12th, 2013
3:52 pm

Leggs – I’m sorry about your hair. Like Slim said, it’ll probably look great on you though.

Du – Believe it or not, I had to forbid my daughter from watching Toddlers & Tieras when she was about 8. Didn’t like the change it sparked in her behavior and I can’t stand seeing those little spoiled girls being exploited, too many reminders of Jon Benet Ramsey too, for me.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:52 pm

DuS – You wouldn’t want her to be one of many wives?

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:53 pm

Exactly, cba. I applaud anyone who does half marathons and marathons. After two very bad experiences with half marathons (mostly due to training failures), I go back and forth between doing one more and staying committed to the training or just sticking with 10K’s as my preferred race distance.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:54 pm

Thanks, Blu….

cba

July 12th, 2013
3:54 pm

Leggs ~ I have always viewed ladies with a very short cut as being very confident. To me it says, the length of my hair doesn’t define me. Confident you are, so you should be good.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:55 pm

Thanks kimmie. There’s a psychological difference wearing your hair short because you want to as opposed to being forced to wear it shorter than you like. But, this too shall pass. Gotta roll with it.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
3:57 pm

cba ~ you know me, I will do my best. Heck, I may come on Monday saying I love the new look. Hope that to be the case. Thank you.

O/T: Haven’t figured out how to have two things opened at one time. I can’t read the newspaper and blog at the same time.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
3:58 pm

Leggs – I envy the chicks with the nice round bald heads and big earrings. My head is just not made for that.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
3:58 pm

#EvenMoreRandomness

Just made some homemade banana bread. Oh yeeeaaaahhhh…
Just wish it were no-calorie…(lol)

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
4:00 pm

Leggs – I bought M a new laptop for his birthday and I don’t use it for that very reason – I haven’t figured out to be in more than one screen at a time.

That – and it is his…

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
4:01 pm

……DuS – You wouldn’t want her to be one of many wives?
I would prefer a more traditional union, but ultimately her happiness is my only concern.

…….There is no porn stuff on polygamy is there?
There is no porn. My fear is that she’s become cognizant of how Daddy vibes late night and has begun to realize it’s not normal.

cba

July 12th, 2013
4:03 pm

Hmmm…..I wonder if there are bets going on in Vegas concerning how long the jury will deliberate ??
I feel the media wants another Rodney King reaction……sad

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:06 pm

SexyC ~ this is a cumbersome laptop. I need to take time and figure out how it works.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:07 pm

cba ~ no, not Rodney King. I hope not!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
4:09 pm

When it comes to the media – if it bleeds, it leads.

Today’s media is too focused on suffering, drama, destruction and so on…

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:14 pm

Ok, I’ve figured how to refresh. A zillion more other things to master.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
4:18 pm

So what’s everyone up to this weekend?

cba

July 12th, 2013
4:19 pm

Leggs~ when my daughter got her car, I had problems cranking it up…..press brakes, then press start button. Hell, I was pressing the park brakes and it wouldn’t start. Just give me a dam key :lol:

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
4:21 pm

Cba.Dude is going have a new social

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:21 pm

:lol: :lol: cba!

DreamsM ~ after I cut off my hair, I’m going to sit somewhere like a statue with a sign saying “If you like hairstyle, tap my right shoulder, if you don’t tap my left.”

cba

July 12th, 2013
4:24 pm

Ex, I think he’ll blend in well in the Dakotas or Montana.

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
4:26 pm

and be Patrick Cofee’s new neighbor!

….if acquited

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
4:26 pm

Dreams – M just texted me about Funk Jazz…so…that’s a maybe for us…

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
4:29 pm

Leggs – I think you’d look great with the really short hair! You are one woman who can pull it off

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
4:32 pm

Dreams – I am looking forward to a low key weekend since I had all the wedding stuff last week. The most i plan to do is wash my hair, eat and sleep. ;-)

Exiled

July 12th, 2013
4:33 pm

I missed most of the later part of closing arguments although I remember the Defense asking the jury to not use Common sense on this..some like that.

If dude had used Common sense after seeing what he thought was a burglar,he wld have called popo and left them to handle it.

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
4:33 pm

CBA- I was waiting for my nephew to come back with the food and found out he never left the driveway because he couldn’t start my push button car, lol.

Leggs- You will get used to it. You may get so many compliments you consider not letting it grow back out.

Mrs SC- When I read that law enforcement was taking precautions only in the event he was acquitted, I was done.

DuShawn

July 12th, 2013
4:34 pm

I think women with short hair are sexy. Like our HR director. Baby be rocking the low cut Caesar.
Her office always smells like the MAC counter at Neiman Marcus. That chick is fly.

2CPTG©

July 12th, 2013
4:35 pm

Slim, snap out of it, gal….

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
4:36 pm

I’m so looking forward to a night all to myself tonight, just laid out on the couch and watching movies! I haven’t had a night alone in 2 weeks!!! Anyone have any Netflix suggestions?

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
4:40 pm

MsAtl – I have to say that I was disturbed by the law enforcement preparing for an acquittal. It’s been so hyped up by the media and I can say that I’m a little scared of what could happen if he’s set free. I don’t think he should be set free. I haven’t been keeping up with all the details, but I’m very fascinated at what the verdict will be and how long it will take to reach it…No matter what, it was a very tragic situation…very sad.

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
4:45 pm

Bluz- If they are going to prepare, then prepare for whatever verdict comes in. To prepare only for an acquittal is an insult and is stereotypical, which is the reason we are having this trial in the first place; because a young Black male was stereotyped.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:45 pm

Bluz ~ if you haven’t seen it yet, rent The Call w/Halle Berry.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
4:46 pm

2C – I’m just tired and want to chill. That’s all. ;-) And I felt you slap me a little in that last post too.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2013
4:47 pm

Dreams – M just texted me about Funk Jazz…so…that’s a maybe for us…
SexyC I forgot that was going on. Might have to hit that one up.

The most i plan to do is wash my hair, eat and sleep.
Slim You can accomplish all that in like two hours. What you doing the rest of the weekend? lol My offer stands. You ain’t even got to bring half. ;-)

just laid out on the couch and watching movies! I haven’t had a night alone in 2 weeks!!!
Bluz Dang you too? What’s going on in The A?

cba

July 12th, 2013
4:47 pm

MsAtl ~ I thought learning to drive a stick was hard……not a push button :-)

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
4:50 pm

MsAtl – You have a GREAT point there. When I heard that, I thought “wow…they are hyping it up to sound like ALL black people will be rioting.” Maybe they are trying to scare us white folks! LOL!

Leggs – I haven’t seen that one…thanks!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
4:54 pm

Leggs – I heard that movie gives you nightmares. (I no need no nightmares….)

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
4:54 pm

Bluz- They expect folks to act a fool and will likely crack a head for little to no reason at all. I can’t even tell you the comments I have seen posted; one person wrote that Blacks are waiting for him to be acquitted so they can go shopping (as in looting). This trial has really brought out the ugly in the country. And I have to admit that I have seen some nasty comments aimed at Caucasians also.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
4:55 pm

I don’t think I’ve heard of that movie…I could go for a good creepy movie early, then a funny one later!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
4:55 pm

I will not be rioting IF the verdict is not to my liking.

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
4:55 pm

Leggs- I have wanted to see that movie, but never did. Great suggestion, thanks.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:56 pm

DreamsM/SlimNu ~ I certainly hope not to be lying the couch the entire weekend! Trouble…here I come!

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
4:57 pm

There’s a creepy movie out on Red Box…i forgot the name of it. The cover has a boy leaning back standing up.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
4:57 pm

I liked the movie. Ending was understandable, but I thought there would be more to the end.

SlimNu

July 12th, 2013
4:59 pm

Dark Skies, that’s the name of it..Peace out yall

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
5:00 pm

MsAtl – I definitely agree that this trial has brought out the ugly in people. It boggles my mind…it really does. I don’t understand it all. To me, it is one “racist” man who killed a “suspicious” man. Why is the whole country up in arms? Unjust murders (what murders aren’t unjust) are done every day. White against black, black against white, white on white, black on black.

If Zimmerman walks, why should I be to blame because I’m white? Not saying that will happen, but it’s a great possibility. Maybe I’m just naïve about it all.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
5:06 pm

Anyway…I’m glad I can feel comfortable talking about this a little in here…

I gotta head out. Have a great weekend everyone!

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
5:07 pm

Honestly Bluz, the outrage comes from the fact that he was not arrested until there was outrage, thus he had ample time to possibly manufacture evidence and concoct a story. Everyone has their own opinions about what really happened, but that does not make it fact; we may never know what really happened.

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
5:07 pm

Have a great weekend.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:09 pm

Bluz ~ you’re swarming around a hornet’s nest.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:11 pm

What was suspicious about a teenager going to the store buying some skittles and tea, walking back home in the neighborhood is father lived in?

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:14 pm

correction – the neighborhood *his* father lived in…

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
5:14 pm

Exactly Mrs SC!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:17 pm

Oh…and btw…nobody is blaming you.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:17 pm

Mrs. SexyC ~ Zimmerman was pumped and wanted to exert his imagined cop skills. The fact that the operator told him to not pursue and he decided to ignore was evident he was trigger happy. His premise that all black kids wearing hoodies were thugs is preposterous. He couldn’t fathom that his kind lived in the neighborhood.

MsAtl

July 12th, 2013
5:17 pm

I am out of here. You folks have a great weekend!

cba

July 12th, 2013
5:18 pm

…..and the fact they tried to make GZ just some meek, soft, obese, nonathletic and scared guy….. PLEEZE

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:21 pm

And last I checked, you didn’t need a gun to *watch* anything.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:22 pm

cba – I actually found the defense tactic of presenting an overweight George Zimmerman extremely shrewd on their part. Even in all of its despicableness, it is brilliant.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:27 pm

Leggs – I have a wanna be cop that works for me. One of these departments around here lets him do ride-alongs. Somehow, he even ends up testifying at trials. I have no idea how that works.

But..um..yeah…whatever…he’s a good enough kid.

And I actually think that his experience in my department will help him when it comes to matters of race. (At least I hope so…) But…that’s a whole other Oprah…

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:28 pm

Mrs. SexyC ~ exactly. Patrolling for the neighborhood watch program doesn’t require you to use a gun.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:31 pm

Mrs. SexyC ~ some wannabe cops actually are in training and are taking steps to become an officer. Some wannabe cops are trigger happy individuals who cannot pass the exam but believe they are cop material. They are the dangerous ones.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:40 pm

And last (hopefully), but not least, what about Trayvon’s right to stand his ground and defend himself?

Lee

July 12th, 2013
5:40 pm

slim you may not see this due to i am unable to chat at work. but like an orange i have to peal the skin off each slice its like film and i dont like the texture of certain things , so i pick stuff off. I can not recall what i was eating that the guy made a comment on , maybe i was picking onions out of my food (which i do all the time)
I am funny when it comes to food — i like nuts but not in my ice cream on cakes etc. i don’t like my creamy food mixed up with the crunchy food and so on..

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:44 pm

Stand his ground walk where he wants to walk when he wants to walk without being accosted!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
5:47 pm

We are confirmed for FunkJazz Kafe.

Leggs

July 12th, 2013
5:50 pm

What is this FunkJazz Kafe, when and where?

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2013
6:06 pm

Don’t know if anyone is still on here. I just wanted to reiterate that I put suspicious in quotes. I don’t think there is anything suspicious about a teen in a hoodie. Hell, I’ll wear a hoodie! That doesn’t make me suspicious.

I’m not at all defending GZ…he shouldn’t have killed TM. It’s a true tragedy. Only GZ knows what exactly happened and no matter what, he’ll be living with it for the rest of his life!!!

Have a good weekend everyone!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
6:20 pm

Good weekend to you as well, ma’am…

Mrs. SexyCool

July 12th, 2013
6:21 pm

Leggs – From the website: “The FunkJazz Kafé is a multi-faceted arts and music festival. A “special interest” mixture of style and substance linking fashion, virtual and visual arts, food, wellness, dance, spoken word, new media, bazaar vending and interactive suites with our favorite main ingredient: Music.”

http://funkjazzkafe.com/about/

Single

July 13th, 2013
2:00 pm

Cuisine is a great topic for dating!!