My old trainer, Travis, has been dating a young lady for over 6 weeks now. He has paid for everything on their dates so far and he is noticing that she has yet to offer to pay. He told me that it is bothering him that she doesn’t even reach for the bill.
Just the other day, some random guy on Twitter tweeted something about how women should not expect men to spend money just to spend time with them. So, this has me wondering if it really means that much for a woman to offer to pay?
If a guy is pursuing a woman, he will put time, money, and effort in. At what point does this become so problematic that men feel taken for granted? I ask because, a lot of women have no problem whatsoever being courted without reciprocity. They don’t feel compelled to show appreciation, offer to pay, or even think the man deserves praise because it is what a man is “supposed” to do. These are the women that men chase after a lot, partly due in part to what we discussed yesterday, a woman’s looks and appearance has value. Why do men get upset when they pick the woman they want to pursue?
Gentleman, help us out, here. How do we figure out if the guy we are dating wants us to offer to pay? Is it insulting or impolite to offer to pay? Do we have to be concerned with emasculating a man when we do this? Is it best to start to pay or offer to pay after real interests are established?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog