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Is offering to pay a big deal?

My old trainer, Travis, has been dating a young lady for over 6 weeks now.  He has paid for everything on their dates so far and he is noticing that she has yet to offer to pay.  He told me that it is bothering him that she doesn’t even reach for the bill.

Just the other day, some random guy on Twitter tweeted something about how women should not expect men to spend money just to spend time with them.  So, this has me wondering if it really means that much for a woman to offer to pay?

If a guy is pursuing a woman, he will put time, money, and effort in.  At what point does this become so problematic that men feel taken for granted?  I ask because, a lot of women have no problem whatsoever being courted without reciprocity.  They don’t feel compelled to show appreciation, offer to pay, or even think the man deserves praise because it is what a man is “supposed” to do.  These are the women that men chase after a lot, partly due in part to what we discussed yesterday, a woman’s looks and appearance has value.  Why do men get upset when they pick the woman they want to pursue?

Gentleman, help us out, here. How do we figure out if the guy we are dating wants us to offer to pay?  Is it insulting or impolite to offer to pay?  Do we have to be concerned with emasculating a man when we do this?   Is it best to start to pay or offer to pay after real interests are established?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

298 comments Add your comment

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
7:17 am

I would pay but if I recognize that there is absolutely no desire to pay on her part,I quickly get into ‘quick payback’ mode!

That means few dates and a quick turnaround. At this point I think the woman is just good for physical benefits.

If the woman is showing reciprocity,I detect some substance in her so I am inclined to want to hand around her more.

A woman’s ‘me me me me’ attitude must also prompt the man to default to his own ‘me me me me ‘game! :lol:

For me,that means a quick smash!

Good Morning MIA!!

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
7:19 am

Hang around more

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
7:50 am

GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!! *Today is MY Friday, heading to NY this evening!!!* :-D

I’m interested to hear what the guys have to say. The only times that I’ve offered to pay were AFTER we were in an established, committed relationship. Once again, make your intentions known upfront. I’m a bit old school when it comes to dating, so I’m still into the guy doing the courting and the woman being the prize, (the whole let the man take the lead deal).

Once an actual relationship has been established then that’s where I’m cool being 50/50 or “trading places”.

Gotta go, meeting at 8!

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
7:52 am

Hello all

If I’m asking her out on dates then yes I’ll pay, but if I’m taking her out because she “suggested” it, then I have no problem asking if she’s going to pay. Both are still my choice. I’m at a point in my life where I’m not going to put in a lot of time money and effort “pursuing” someone. we both know after a few dates where we want to go with this. No point in dragging it out. Sounds like Travis has reached that point. As the saying goes “A close mouth won’t get fed!”.

LeeH1

July 11th, 2013
8:32 am

Women are such sexists, they don’t even see that they are projecting their prejudices on men. Of course, in this age of equality of the sexes, men should not have to pay for everything. But women just expect it and don’t think about, just as white men didn’t think about not holding doors open for black women thirty years ago.

To be honest, I’m not interested in a woman that is that backward. If she can’t or wo’t pay her own way sometimes, then she will continue to be a leech and a clinger, wanting only a man to be her provider. Sorry, there are better women than that out there.

I’ll find them, you betcha!

Button

July 11th, 2013
8:33 am

Good morning, it’s only been 6 weeks and he’s already whinning! lol
man up and date the woman properly and remember you have to pay to play!
Travis must be a young guy. My S/O is younger, by a decade, it must be a generational thing. My S/O used to think the same way, that a woman is supposed to step in and pay for dates early in the dating process. I agree we should pay but not so early though, let me see where it’s going before I start investing my money paying for dates. After a few dates I can and have paid the tip.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
8:41 am

let me see where it’s going before I start investing my money paying for dates. oh the double standards (LOL)

Button

July 11th, 2013
8:46 am

Single -I’m at a point in my life where I’m not going to put in a lot of time money and effort “pursuing” someone.—waooow. so why even get out of bed! j/k
Seriously, do you even date?

Button

July 11th, 2013
8:47 am

Single – Why is it a double standard?

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
8:55 am

Morning
This is a no win argument for dudes. It’s just one of life’s double standards…one that happens to work in the favor of women. There are plenty that work in our favor, so it is what it is. With that said, I do like super smart, assertive, confident women. Most of the women I’ve dated had no problem paying. Some even insisted. It didn’t make them any less of a woman.

Hazel

July 11th, 2013
8:58 am

Good morning. I will def pay after the 2nd or 3rd date. I don’t mind. It’s only fair. I like what exiled said. It is a good thing to pay and impressive from a guy’s perspective.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:02 am

Button yes I do date, but I have other things going on in my life that dating is not a priority. I can be spending my money on my hobbies, things that I know I like, rather than pursing someone that I may or may not like. It doesn’t take that long to figure out if they are someone you want to spend your time with or not.

It’s a double standard because it’s okay for me to invest my money and not know, but it’s not okay for you to do it. Back in the day, “courting” didn’t cost a lot of money, you went to the woman’s house, met the parents, maybe went to a few church functions, where the woman packed a picnic lunch, (not no sammichs) LOL. So for all that want to be “courted” do it all the way, not half way! But times have changes so EVERYBODY needs to be willing to change with them. If I’ve got to “pay to play” then we better be smashing after every date. cause I have yet to meet the person that conversation and presence is worth paying for!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
9:12 am

I feel like we just discussed this but anyway….I do not have a problem paying sometimes. Or if the guy still wants to pay and I have cash on me, i’ll offer to put in the tip. I do not expect a guy to pull out his wallet every single time we do something. I would not want a person I was dating to expect that from me, so it’s only fair. If we go out to dinner and he pays, then what’s wrong for springing for the movie tickets afterwards?

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:13 am

Single – ok, and I agree dating shouldn’t broke the bank. It all depends on the guy and what he considers a date and how much he is willing to pay. I agree that men have the brunt of the responsibility on the financial part of the dating process, is it fair? heck if I know, I didn’t come up with the rules, but I do know that it takes some kind of effort on the man part to get it going. I ony know what worked for me and I stick by my beliefs.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
9:15 am

Morning, all.

Here we go again….this topic always creates a stir in Blogsville. I really don’t see what the big deal is, though. I expect to be treated as an equal, so I’m willing to put in equal work and effort. It’s nice to be courted, but he’s not taking me in to raise, which is why I have no problem offering to pay early on.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
9:19 am

G’morning…..

I pretty much concur with what most of the dudes have already stated….Dreams, you’re correct, we can’t win this one….and Ex…you got it too! Once you see where her head is, then you gotta govern yourself accordingly….i.e., kill mode…..

or, you can also be like disco’s new toy……..pay and never play!!!!

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:22 am

good morning. re the topic. lol followed lol some more.

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:24 am

single – that’s the thing about double standards. sometimes they are for you and sometimes they are against you. lol.

dreams – you beat me to the point on double standards.

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:26 am

hazel – re impressive from a guy’s perspective. be careful with that. the problem being that there are plenty of guys out there who are looking for just that. the woman who can pay and doesn’t mind paying. he’ll have you paying for dinner, his cell phone bill and helping him catch up his back child support.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
9:29 am

there are plenty of guys out there who are looking for just that. the woman who can pay and doesn’t mind paying. he’ll have you paying for dinner, his cell phone bill and helping him catch up his back child support.

Correction: those guys are looking for a sponsor or a woman with no backbone. Offering to throw in the tip or spring for the round of putt putt since he bought dinner doesn’t make her either.

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:31 am

Even Prince said he was making a coat of pink cashmere……

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:31 am

2C – speaking of my “toys” I thought I had a new one to put in the rotation. that fool said he’d like to see my house. this wasn’t even 3 phone calls in. after that convo I deleted his number. there’s no recourse for that. thinking you can post up at my house is a dealbreaker. lol.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
9:32 am

Morning MIA. I’m dragging this morning and the dark skies are not helping!!!

It does seem like this topic comes up a lot. I’m with you ITL. I have no problem pitching in. My brother was dating this girl who made 3 times as much money as he did and she expected him to pay for every single meal. They went out several times a week as she liked to go out. When he would say something about going to the store to buy food to cook, she would call him cheap and bring up that he didn’t make enough money. They dated for several months. I told him that was also his fault for not putting his foot down when things got serious. I thought it was extremely selfish of her to expect him to pay for everything when she knew he was trying to save his money to pay off items to get ready to move and she was well off.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:33 am

Disco those are today’s double standards, most women want to live in the past a be courted like the olden days, without realizing, guys weren’t spending a lot of money courting women. They were siting on the sofa, on the porch, doing the picnic lunch’s that the woman cooked, going the THEIR house for dinner. Now courting a woman means spending money, time, effort just to figure out if you really like her. Some chose to live by those double standards, while some don’t.

Double standards only work if you live by them.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
9:37 am

so disco, is it cool for a dude to do what you do?

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
9:37 am

@Bluz: He must have really liked her to put up with that mess.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with setting the bar high and expecting a lot from a man, but money doesn’t buy affection. It also doesn’t buy or indicate class, which is where some folks err in judgment. IJS….

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
9:38 am

Morning All!!

Here we go again with this. :roll: I understand it might be hard to come up with topics though.

Dreams & Disco, thanks for recognizing double standards can benefit either way! Some folks are greedy and want them to ALWAYS work in THEIR favor!LOL!!

I have good home-training. After a few dates, I always offered to pay for something. I just have never done “dutch” on a date. Either I pay all for something or nothing. If it’s dutch, it’s not a date. Dutch is not elegant. What I mean by paying for all of something is, I don’t like paying for “some” of a bill, not even a tip. I will take the entire dinner tab or both of the movie tickets and snacks. No “well here is a little something on the bill” at the table. Just not classy to me.

I’ve never seem to run into an issue with any of this from my dates. I say both should always be prepared though. I was raised to be ready to pay just in case a dude decided to trip on a date. Never go out with an empty wallet. At least be able to cover my portion. Same with a guy – even though she may offer, have it in your head (and your wallet) you may have to pay for it all. Neither gender should date if they can’t afford it alone, in my book. I never used a dude to “come up”.

MsAtl

July 11th, 2013
9:38 am

Morning All!

Slim- we did just discuss this topic.

I do not mind paying for a date, but that is after we have gone out a few times. If you ask me out, do not get there and say you thought I was going to pay. I was asked out to a movie and he already had his ticket and was waiting for me to buy mine. We will not be going again.

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:38 am

Single – guys weren’t spending a lot of money courting women. They were siting on the sofa, on the porch, doing the picnic lunch’s that the woman cooked, going the THEIR house for dinner.—says who?? you’ve been watching a bit too much andy griffth in mayberry……. Men have been wooing women with money for ages. Stop being a cheap stake.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
9:41 am

Offering to pay should be a big deal. It’s all about reciprocity, even after 6 weeks. But, if it’s bothering he should address it and see what her viewpoint is on paying while out on date. Some women feel they shouldn’t ever have to pay, other than offering to leave the tip. He needs to know which type he’s dating. It isn’t rocket sciene.

Good morning.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
9:42 am

ITL – We’ve talked about him being under her spell…he walked right into a trap with her. She ended up turning psycho on him. If he hadn’t spent so much time and money on her, he would be a lot further ahead. His fault, though, for letting it go so long.

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:44 am

2C – what you mean what I do (like I got something on lock)? lol. I know plenty of guys who have women paying for their meals, lodging, co-signing for cars, out and out paying car notes and all kinds of other stuff. I am not mad at them. I pity the foolish women who indulge them. one chick told me that buying her man things made him happy and his being happy made her happy. who am I to argue against that logic? lol.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
9:45 am

Bluz – Sure, you might call her selfish, but she was not doing anything your brother did not allow her to do. She did not lead him on all those dates with a gun to his head. No need complaining on his part. She must have been doing something he liked since he went along with it for several months and things got serious.

He liked all of that Bluz……..

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:45 am

Button, all men were not wooing women. only men with means, and it still wasn’t on the level as today. The women didn’t demand the wooing! an I’m called cheap all the time. I have no problem with it. I have to many other things that I enjoy doing with MY money to try and prove to someone who is not worthy of it that I’m not. The people that know me laugh when someone tells them that :-)

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:45 am

Leggs – I agree, it’s not rocket science. Men know who you are dating, not all women feel the same way when it comes to paying for dates. Some women are ok with paying while others aren’t and still others are somewhere in the middle. At the end of the day it all boils down to spending time with someone you enjoy being with.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
9:47 am

Hey Disco!!

Logic – what logic??? LOL!!!!

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
9:48 am

“Men have been wooing women with money for ages”…..

and it’s those chumps that have driven up the cost of coochie!!!

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:49 am

Gotta go, we’ll have to continue the passionate disagreement later (LOL)

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
9:49 am

Bluz ~ how did the interview, I mean seminar turn out?

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
9:49 am

guys weren’t spending a lot of money courting women
Single/Button Let’s also remember that women weren’t allowed to work or earn a living, so she didn’t have the means to pay for anything. If two people wanted to go out, then the man HAD to pay because he was the one earning money.

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:50 am

Single – I was joking with the cheap skate comment.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
9:50 am

Hey Bluz – how did your seminar go last night?

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:50 am

and it’s those chumps that have driven up the cost of coochie!!! Well said 2C (LOL)

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
9:51 am

ok, disco, just wanted to know your take on it…..cause naw, sugar, ye’en got that on lock…..you may be good at it, but not locked!

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
9:52 am

Button – I have a friend right now that when she & her hubs were dating NEVER paid for dates. She said it, she never paid for dinners and they went to Cheesecake Factory a few days every week. On top of that, he would pay for her to get her nails & hair done. He worshipped the ground she walked on and they are married now.

He could not have married a more generous person though. She is a hard worker and every time you turn around she is purchasing some elaborate gift for his bday or Christmas.

It works for them.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:52 am

Dreams but the women were willing to do what they could without the man having to pay all the time! Now alot of women aren’t willing to pay, and have to have a certain status before you better even think about them cooking, (that is if they can)

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:52 am

Dreams – women weren’t allowed to work?? where? in the US women have been working, I must admit that work we’re plentiful but women did work. You’re putting is as if women were trottened down and chained to the tv.

abc

July 11th, 2013
9:53 am

I’d always pay, even if we’re just friends. I make 2 and 3 times what they make, I don’t mind buying their lunch or whatever. And, typically, I’m cheap — if you’re cheaper than me, dude, you are a stingy bastid.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
9:55 am

Yea dreams, Black women have always worked in the good ole USA,

Peace

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:56 am

atl – I always say this but it always reminds of martin Lawrence. you so crazy. I said I was taking you to the movies. I didn’t say I was paying for you to get in the movie. lol. martin’s a nut.

kimmie – right. if they like it, I love it. that chick I just mentioned was in an abusive relationship to boot. dingbat. I don’t even encourage those types to break up. stay with him and keep that joker off the market. lol.

Button

July 11th, 2013
9:56 am

Kimmie – exactly! it worked for them! some ppl frown upon how others date, but what works for some will or may not work for others.

disco

July 11th, 2013
9:59 am

abc – now I have some female friends that don’t make a lot and I frequently pick up the tab when we hang out because i can and it doesn’t hurt me any. I’ll admit that I wouldn’t be as quick about it with a man. any man. my mom came to visit one year and brought my sorry azz brother with her. I was ticked. now every time I take my mom out I have to take my brother out too. broke joker just hopped in the car for the ride. wtf!!!! lol.

abc

July 11th, 2013
10:02 am

Oddly, the occasional female luncheon companion will get a case of the hips because I spring for it — I have to tell them sometimes, it ain’t a date, I’m married, just chill and enjoy the meal, chat me up. As in, talk about something interesting.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
10:06 am

“Dutch is not elegant.”

Any questions? (lol) Love this, kimmie…

And SC shows up two days in a row?!? What?!?!?

As to the topic, I remember the first time I invited M out. He was shocked and very much appreciative.

The long and short of it – your preferences and beliefs are just that – yours. Do what works for you. If what works for you is not what works for who you’re with (or trying to be with) and there is no compromise, there is someone else out there for you.

MsAtl

July 11th, 2013
10:06 am

Disco- And that’s exactly what it was, lol. He didn’t pay for so much as a soda.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
10:08 am

MsAtl?

So there are grown men out there(late 30+) who are going to invite a lady to a movie(dinner)and just pay for themselves and ask the women to pay her way by herself?

I think that reflects on u the woman!

How do u even get to know this man…to be so taken by that lack of class?

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
10:11 am

I’m back, whew long meeting!!!

“Even Prince said he was making a coat of pink cashmere……”

-Button Now you done said something right there!!!

MsAtl

July 11th, 2013
10:12 am

Exiled- as I said, there will not be another. There are certain things that I am not willing to condone; you just heard one of them. As for getting to know him further- he blew that.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
10:12 am

I know plenty of guys who have women paying for their meals, lodging, co-signing for cars, out and out paying car notes and all kinds of other stuff.

disco – A guy friend of mine, that moved up here from FL, told me before he came here, he was speaking a guy friend of his. The dude was like, Man ATL is where it’s at because these chicks take care of errrrrrythang. Said he had several chicks that he bounced around from, letting him drive their cars, give him money or whatever. All he had to do was slang some D.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:12 am

“… every time I take my mom out I have to take my brother out too. broke joker just hopped in the car for the ride. wtf!!!!”

disco ~ that reminds me of my 76 year old neighbor. I call her “my mom away from home.” I offered to take her and her daughter (who seem to live like hermits) out for dinner. Time arrived for me to pick them up and the daughter comes to the car with the mother slowly walking behind. She tells me she can’t go because if she leaves the house, her other children won’t do the cleanup they’re supposed to be doing. :shock: Lo and behold, the husband of her youngest daughter hops in the car saying he’s going to take her place. I turned around and said “like hell you are, I’m not paying for your dinner.” He quickly gets out. If anything, his wife (who was in the house helping clean) could have joined us, not him.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
10:12 am

SCool – LOL!! Girl, dutch is for coworkers & friends, not dates!

Button

July 11th, 2013
10:16 am

SlimNu- I’ve heard that several times around. smh

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
10:18 am

“All he had to do was slang some D.”

Dude was a pros-titute and didn’t even know it.
Damn…

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:19 am

“All he had to do was slang some D.” – that was because he consciously picked weak, thirsty, gullible woman who would fall for all of his BS. To give that advice to another man he needs to put a disclaimer that finding them will have him going into his wallet to weed out those who won’t before he gets to those who will.

disco

July 11th, 2013
10:20 am

leggs – I hear you and trust if it was just me and my brother it would have been way different. I justified it by telling myself I was doing it for my mother. whew. they worked my nerves. lol.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
10:21 am

Slim, that’s an all too common occurrence……and you wouldn’t believe how many of these uber-professional women do just that….

disco

July 11th, 2013
10:22 am

leggs – I don’t think dude would have to go in his wallet to weed them out. those type chicks generally pull out their wallets from the gate. not only that, you can usually pick it up in conversation. you get an ear for who’s willing to give/loan you money or pick up the tab or whatever. lol.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
10:23 am

-Disco/Leggs That reminds me of Ms. Badu:

“Everytime we go somewhere
I gotta reach down in my purse
To pay your way and your homeboys way
And sometimes your cousin’s way
They don’t never have to pay
Don’t have no cars. . .”

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
10:25 am

The seminar/interview had to be one of the weirdest things ever! There were about 10 of us going for the same job. They had us all sitting in a room together. A guy came in and spent about 30 minutes talking about the company and where they are headed. Then, they pulled us in one by one for about a 5 minute interview. They had mentioned before that they may ask a few people to stay back to chat further, but by the time they finished the last person, it was already after 9:00!!! They told us that if they are interested in us, we will receive a call within 24 hours. While waiting for the interview, the owner sat in the room with us and maybe that was part of the interview process because she got to see our personalities. They went about interviewing for a manager position the wrong way, I think!

If I do get a call back, should I just cut to the chase and ask what the starting pay is so that we don’t waste anymore time?

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
10:25 am

“To give that advice to another man he needs to put a disclaimer that finding them will have him going into his wallet to weed out those who won’t before he gets to those who will.”

they ain’t hard to find……just because y’all blog ladies can’t fathom the concept, oh trust, they’re out there…..and in abundance too!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
10:25 am

and it’s those chumps that have driven up the cost of coochie!!!
They’ve only driven up the cost for themselves though. What he paid millions for cost the next dude nothing. lol

You’re putting is as if women were trottened down and chained to the tv.
Button Ummmmm, yeah pretty much. And there absolutely were laws that restricted women from working, particularly married women. And when they could work, there were laws that prevented them from working 8 hour days. Most companies refused to hire a woman. Most professions that we now associate with women were once almost entirely male. Nursing, secretaries, librarian, retail…all worked by men. A woman in the workforce was extremely rare.

Single Yeah but for much of this country’s history, that was free labor.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:27 am

“those type chicks generally pull out their wallets from the gate.” – ummm, don’t know anyone who pulls out their wallet after a man asks them out right out the gate. Guess it happens, I just don’t know of anyone.

“not only that, you can usually pick it up in conversation” – Indeed!

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:29 am

The seminar/interview had to be one of the weirdest things ever! :lol: :lol: Who didn’t see that coming??

Bluz ~ sounds like they’re looking for suckers…sorry!

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:30 am

2C ~ I know they’re not hard to find. Suckers are born every minute and they come in male form too!

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
10:30 am

@Bluz: You interviewed and don’t know the salary range!?!?

Leading with your wallet is classless, as is looking for an S/O who leads with the wallet. I’ll say it again – money is not an indication of class.

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
10:32 am

Good Morning!

Where dey do that at?
Gem drops this morning!

Dude invited me out to the movies had already bought his ticket and was waiting for me to buy, then did not but popcorn or candy! Where dey do that at?

The husband tries to replace the wife and gets like the hell you are… CLASSIC leggs

Single gets called a CHEAP skate…That’s old school right there!

The women of the ATL will buy you everything as long as you sling them some D…So true…

My Mom’s brought my broke azz brother with her on the trip….hehehehehehe

Why, Why, Why….We know the topics are recycled why can’t you answer the questions and K.I.M without mentioned that this is a recycled topic…Possble annoying personality…. lol

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
10:37 am

“I’ll say it again – money is not an indication of class.”

-ITL EXACTLY, you can pay for school but you can’t buy class.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:38 am

Why, Why, Why….We know the topics are recycled why can’t you answer the questions and K.I.M without mentioned that this is a recycled topic…Possble annoying personality…. lol

I sit here thinking the same thing, Durty! And, the husband trying t bum rush me had him meet a brick wall.

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
10:39 am

#TopicHijack

Does anyone have any suggestions for any good concerts coming up?

Recently, we have seen Kings of the Mic (old skool up in here), New Kids on the Block (well, I went with some girlfriends from high school – he went to see Kendrick Lamar the same night instead), and Emeli Sande (she was incredible). We even went to see Mike Tyson’s show.

So, for the first time in months, I don’t have concert tickets under magnet on my refrigerator.

I want to go see Frankie Beverly again – but M is in a wedding that day.
Any suggestions? We like a little of everything.

Sassy Me ;-)

July 11th, 2013
10:39 am

“All he had to do was slang some D.” – that was because he consciously picked weak, thirsty, gullible woman who would fall for all of his BS.

OK-K-K?! Guys pick women like that so they can use them and then go on to on to another when said woman wants a relationship or tries to make him act accountable/responsible…then they get ghost cause siht just got real so they’re like “NEEEEEXT”. I’ve always wondered as a man what does that say about yoU? If the best you can pull are some sad dejected women then what kind of game do you really have…cause to them it’s just that…a game.

I’ve run into my share of men who thought they could get me on their bus cause they put down some good D…chile puhleaze….and then they have the nerve to look like :shock: when it doesn’t work. What they fail to realize is they ‘re not the first or last man to have that…it’s a dime a dozen and two for one on Fridays and Saturdays :lol:

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
10:40 am

how many of y’all ladies can be honest enough to admit you’ve been suckered before, and came outta ya pockets????

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
10:40 am

I’ve only dated a few ladies who expected me to pay for everything, which was no problem…That puddy was most excellent… hehehehehe

Single these days if you find one who can cook, jackpot…The ladies will call and ask me out to dinner because they cannot make a decent dinner….lol

I have dated quite a few ladies that when I looked into the fridge there was no food in it…

You can usually pick it up in conversation. you get an ear for who’s willing to give/loan you money or pick up the tab or whatever. BINGO…Ding,,Ding

Button

July 11th, 2013
10:41 am

Dreams — pretty much is not an absolute! I know the sufferage of women and once women gained the right to vote more doors were opened. But for you to say that women didn’t work is highly a misnomer!

Hazel

July 11th, 2013
10:41 am

@ Disco- Oh def.. never that. That’s when you should be picky on who you go on a date with. WIth impressive, I mean that he will respect the fact that you are pulling out money to pay. Its matching today’s thinking. Equality for everyone
@Into the light – on point.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
10:42 am

-2C I can admit that I have, once upon a time I was in my 20’s and a bit naive. . .

Sassy Me ;-)

July 11th, 2013
10:43 am

Suckers are born every minute and they come in male form too!

worth repeating….

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
10:43 am

1040a – Toucan – I have. #LifeLesson

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
10:44 am

And it wasn’t even in my 20’s. The last time was in 2009. Such is life.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
10:46 am

you wouldn’t believe how many of these uber-professional women do just that

2C – Yeah I’ve heard that about them too. I guess in their eyes, they don’t need a man for financial reasons or for stability but mainly for a good time & companionship. Lots of chicks that are up on the money scale have a hard time being submissive and like to call the shots, from what i’ve heard anyway. So for a dude looking to chill, those would be the perfect chicks to go for. But seems like that would get old after a while…her telling you what to wear & how to act at certain events etc.

Sassy Me ;-)

July 11th, 2013
10:47 am

I’ve only dated a few ladies who expected me to pay for everything, which was no problem…That puddy was most excellent… hehehehehe

Case n point…they might’ve been thinking, “Hell I ain’t paying for jack isht…I’ll just give him a lil bit and he’ll be alright”…especially if I do that thang he likes. :mrgreen:

one born every minute….

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:47 am

2C ~ I’ve been suckered in my early 20’s. Was dating a guy who I wanted to help. I helped him get some living room furniture on the premise he would pay me back the half I loaned him. That never happened. When you’re suckered, one of life greatest lessons if you pay attention.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
10:48 am

random: Today is free slurpie day at 7-11.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
10:49 am

ITL – Well…I also looked at it as interview practice…I’m kind of surprised with how many companies list open positions and say nothing about salary.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:49 am

Just like he can slang that D, she can slang her honey pot. It catches bees all day, everyday!

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
10:50 am

-Leggs/2C My situation was similar but it was to help him get his car repaired. Like Leggs said, lesson learned. I’d like to add, don’t allow someone to BORROW money that you can’t afford to GIVE.

disco

July 11th, 2013
10:50 am

2C – I’ll admit it. high school. bought an xmas gift for a guy who conveniently forgot to bring my gift to the exchange. I won’t say I haven’t bought a gift since but I will say that I make sure I get mine first and I try to always make sure dude spends more on me than I spend on him. lol.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:50 am

ITL ~ I love slurpies, but don’t think there are any 7-11’s around (lol).

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
10:51 am

‘preshate the honesty ladies…..

Slim, here’s how you separate the Men from the Boys; even though that female may be stacking more money than him, if he goes into the situation and let his nuts hang a bit, she wouldn’t be runnin’ nothin! But if he goes in “tucked”, of course she gon lay out his clothes, and make sure he has on matching socks!

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
10:53 am

2C – I admit I’ve been foolish about some things with dudes – thought we had something, thought he was being faithful, etc but I can honestly say I have NEVER been suckered by a dude for some MONEY – NEVA!!

I’m sorry, just don’t have respect for no man that will take money or live off a woman, I don’t care if he suckered her. Yall might think it’s cute & funny, but I don’t see anything to laugh at, period point blank. He’s a punk in my book, no pride at all.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
10:53 am

2C – I’ve been suckered but never out of money. I got suckered when the youngin I dated wrote a poem and gave it to me AND the other girl he was seeing. Buddy even bought us the SAME exact bracelet for Christmas. I let him use my apt when he came in town while I was out of town….and he ended up getting that chick pregnant and marrying her. They just recently divorced –yeah I got suckered. The way I found out was when I called his house and a chick answered. I thought I had the wrong number since I knew he was living alone (yeah right)…old girl called me back. Some time later she found out my email address and told me everything. :roll:

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
10:54 am

@Leggs: I don’t think so either. Too bad, because I love a slurpie. It’s even fun to say! Slurpie, slurpie, slurpie…..

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
10:59 am

2C ~ being suckered in finance or even in love is the main ingredient that hardens a woman.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:01 am

Leggs – There used to be 7-11’s here, when I was much younger. We used to love it too, because they had the absolute best selection of candy anywhere!!

disco

July 11th, 2013
11:01 am

kimmie / slim – I’m with y’all. gotta hold tight to your money. that little h.s. gift thing just let me know that the so called “good” ones (you know, married parents, suburban lifestyle, blah blah blah) were just as low down and dirty as the hood types. and by the way, I kept my gift. told him we’d swap when we both had something to swap at the same time. thing is that never came to pass. granted I’ll admit I was holding out hope that he actually did forget but hope be damned. he was running game. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
11:06 am

pretty much is not an absolute!
Button Name five things that are absolute.

But for you to say that women didn’t work is highly a misnomer!
Button Actually, your use of the word “misnomer” is a misnomer. lol Women generally did not work. There is no disputing that.

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:06 am

@Sassy I was getting more then a little bit, I was getting it 3 to 5 times per week..I must say though all the ladies I have dated have been must generous with everything including their money. I just got to quit running into those ladies who cannot cook…I like to eat out but that’s gets old, I need balance in that area.

Also, it did not take 6 weeks of dating for the ladies to invite me out and pay for something.

SlimNu so he was sleeping with both of you? What was your mindset going in with this young man? Did u want a relationship with him?

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
11:07 am

I have to admit that I’ve been a little too free with paying for things for my man and loaning a little money here and there. I had one boyfriend that I loaned $1000 to. He paid me every month, even after we broke up until it was all paid off. He said that he may be short on credit cards, but he always wanted to make sure he took care of his payment to me.

Now, The Ex…I wish I had never taken him into my home and taken care of all the finances. I got suckered, but I also allowed it and willingly offered to take care of things. NEVER AGAIN!!!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
11:08 am

disco – I had purchased a gift for that same dude and after it all went down, we decided to meet up in a parking lot and get our gifts back. I didn’t want some bracelet he bought the other chick and he was giving me my sheeit back too. So no love lost.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:11 am

disco – I think how I was raised had a lot to do with me not getting taken for money. Like any kid I didn’t listen to everything my parents said, but some stuff did sink in. First, my mom was real funny about me accepting any gifts from guys growing up. She said straight up she didn’t want some knucklehead thinking I “owed” him something. So other than little cheapy stuff for my birthday or Christmas, gifts were out. While she made sure I had money in my purse when I went to prom & such, she made it clear if a guy invited me out he was to pay. My daddy was real old school and a man was supposed to WORK and not take anything off a woman. He was a chauvanist but he could back it up.

When I got out on my own, I was po. Even after I started making a little money and got my own house & all, still po. Anyone that dated me could pick up on it as well, and I guess that’s why none ever even TRIED to sucker me. I might reciprocate and pay for a movie here & there or fix him a meal, but pay a bill or drop big money on a big gift – H to the NAW!!!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
11:13 am

Durty – Well initially I was feeling some kind of way about him being younger than me so we were hanging out. It progressed blah blah blah…and we were pursuing a relationship but he ended up getting a great job offer in another state. So on one of his trips back to ATL for a visit, he went out clubbing with his friends, apparently met this chick and within a few weeks got her pregnant. So yup, he raw dogged ole girl in a very short time frame. Matter of fact, the same weekend I let him use my place he met her. Him I had dated about a year and a half….met the folks and all that.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
11:13 am

ladies, I’m hearing a common theme here……y’all been suckered before, but never for money…..

so what’s more valuable, your money or your goodies?

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
11:15 am

2C ~ being suckered in finance or even in love is the main ingredient that hardens a woman.
Leggs Yeah, dudes learn this lesson in the kindergarten when you give her your dessert and she goes to sit next to someone else. hahaha

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
11:18 am

@Leggs?

Before u go to being ‘hardened’,why don’t u answer 2C..

Have U been suckered before?

We already know u hard but not as hard as Disco.. :lol:

Well I don’t think u are hard,more of cagey. :lol:

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:19 am

Strike MissMoni off the list she wants me to pay for everything, add BluzGirl she is willing to pay for everything? J/K

Button

July 11th, 2013
11:20 am

DReams- you said women did not work which is a FALSE statement! women did work, regardless of what kind of work, they did work. So again your assestment is wrong wrong all day wrong!

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:21 am

-Durty LOL, I see you’re cracking jokes this morning.

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:23 am

SlimuNu do you ever look back and say that was a blessing in disguise? Also, Why don’t you like to date younger men?

Ex- Leggs is as tough as Disco, she is just not in the pimping business like Disco…lol

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:24 am

2C – I’ve just always been real funny about my money, dude or not. When I would here folks talking about getting joint credit cards & cosigning with some dude that was not a boyfriend, I would look at them like they were crazy. I can be generous, but don’t play me.

Before marriage, could be very stingy with other goodies as well.

Guess that’s why it took me so long to get married!! :lol:

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:24 am

I’ve also learned that love does not cover finances. I don’t and won’t be all head over heels and the ONLY one paying the bills, absolutely NOT!!! This could be why I’m single, because I simply refuse to put up with the foolishness. I have my own and I’m not into a grown man coming to me half-stepping. “Ain’t no half stepping, give it all you got!” :-)

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:25 am

not a boyfriend

Oops, meant not a HUSBAND!!

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
11:26 am

Aw..hell…I’ve been suckered for both. I was young and dumb. Then, I was older and not as smart/experienced as I thought I was. Then, I was old enough to know better, but went against my own dern instincts.

But I didn’t let any of it make me bitter. I just counted as a part of my life’s path that I was supposed to walk….to make me better.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:26 am

“I can be generous, but don’t play me.”

-Kimmie BINGO, miss me with trying to get over on my cookies and/or my money!

disco

July 11th, 2013
11:26 am

kimmie – I can appreciate the “po” but I still see some chicks who don’t hardly have anything giving what little bit they do have to a man. I just don’t get it. smdh. lol.

2C – my money. you can screw all day every day, you might get tired and used up but you won’t never run out. money. that’s different. lol.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:26 am

This could be why I’m single,

Moni – LOL!! That’s the reason I think I stayed single so long, but so be it!

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
11:28 am

Money or pudy?

@2C?

U asking some hard questions! :lol:

…that’s a Hobson’s choice right there!

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
11:28 am

I was young and dumb. Then, I was older and not as smart/experienced as I thought I was. Then, I was old enough to know better, but went against my own dern instincts.
SexyCool That’s real right there.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
11:28 am

Durty…….that youngin’ got a look at Slim’s camel toe, and went berserk…..apparently you haven’t heard the stories about Slim’s CT…….bwoi, that thang got its own zip code!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
11:29 am

so what’s more valuable, your money or your goodies?

2C – My heart and trust

Durty – I don’t really think about it lol He hits me up every now or then or when he comes to ATL to see his son. And I can’t say I have a huge thing with not dating younger men but if women supposedly mature faster than men, I don’t need to date that much younger than me. I am not interested in men who are still running the streets and living the club life like they just turned 21. This guys was a good guy but still like to go out all the time. He really did a lot to change my mind and take him seriously. It was almost like he tried to prove a point to me that he could very well hang with someone older. We did have fun though, so I would never change that thinking back on it. I’m sure if you asked him the same question about thinking back on it, he’d wish he’d done it different, outside of having his son of course. He is a really great dad and fights for his son.

disco

July 11th, 2013
11:32 am

2C – isn’t there a quote about a fool and his money parting. lol

ex – now you have to make me break the question down deeper than face value. lol. in terms of monetary value, the money is only worth what it’s worth. a nickel, dime, quarter, dollar, whatever. in that regard I suppose the cooter is more valuable since it’s worth fluctuates and is negotiable. lol.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
11:32 am

apparently you haven’t heard the stories about Slim’s CT…….bwoi, that thang got its own zip code!

2C – ooooohhhhh you oughta quit! lol

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:33 am

O.K.MissMoni I will buy all the food, pay for the utilities and property up keep…How does that sound? lol

Mrs. Kimmie and Single both are cheap….hmmmmmmm… hehe

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:37 am

-Kimmie You give me inspiration, a woman can have realistic standards and still get married. ;-)

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:38 am

disco – I don’t get it either. I’d sooner blow what little extra money I had on some shoes or something for my neices/nephews before I blew it on some tired dude! Just was not gonna happen here!

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:39 am

-Durty You can have the property up keep. Food and utilities I got that. If you want to really impress me, take the mortgage. :-D

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:42 am

Mrs. Kimmie and Single both are cheap….hmmmmmmm

Durty – As a single woman, I shonuff was, not even gon lie!!

Moni – Trust it works!! :)

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:42 am

2CP I know about SlimNu CT, sometimes SlimNu CT has come on the blog and provided some vital informaton! j/k

Although, this one sista gave very generously to me mentally, physically and financially she did get a house out of the deal.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
11:43 am

whats ur story MsMoni?

U 40ish…u gotta a man, looking,cougaring,on the prowl, whaeeett?

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
11:43 am

“I suppose the cooter is more valuable since it’s worth fluctuates and is negotiable.”

Bishop Don Juan could not have said it any better!!! If youh ad nuts I’d let you borrow my crown!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
11:43 am

Not to be all Soggy Sally but i’m feeling quite discouraged at this point…that’s some honesty for yo arse.

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
11:45 am

Mrs. Kimmie you are corrupting MissMoni we are in the mist of negotiating our relationship…

So MissMoni…How about I throw in paying for you hair to get done and you pay for dinner when we eat out? Oh before we date I need to see that mortgage note… lol

Mrs. SexyCool

July 11th, 2013
11:47 am

Dreams – I try to stay real about it. At one point, especially with the last situation, I was kind of embarrassed about it…but…it is what it is.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
11:48 am

the cooter is more valuable since it’s worth fluctuates and is negotiable.

@Disco…in ur circles, I think ur cooter has gon off da charts in value because All these guys are eager to be close to u and u put them outta pocket so easily but they still Dont hit!…..and they keep coming and getting outa pocket…

Unless u conveniently hide the details about dudes who actually hit.. :lol:

U have perfected the game.

(u seeing someone Disco..right Now)….

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:49 am

-Ex My story is that I’m 34, a mother of 2 daughters, in a Ph.D program, employed full-time making very good money, homeowner & and active in my church choir and youth ministry. I’ve been single for over 2 years now but I really don’t have time for the foolishness and won’t put up with the shenanigans (been there, done that). Funny thing is, I keep getting approached by the 20 something’s (I look like I’m still in my 20’s) and honestly we’re mindsets apart.

So, in the meantime I’m ENJOYING life and living it to the fullest!!! :-D

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:49 am

Durty – I am representing Moni and I say you better come correct………

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
11:53 am

Moni, gal, you sound like a winner!!! that’s whats up!!!! kimmie you do too, but you’re taken……

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
11:54 am

Thanks 2C!!! “Get ready for it, I came to WIN!” ;-)

disco

July 11th, 2013
11:57 am

ex – truth is my stuff has value for the cats who been there, done that, and apparently haven’t been able to match it. lol. new cats might hang around for awhile and try to find a way in but they generally move on in due time. it’s those ones who know what they are missing that can’t get right. lol.

ex – as for seeing someone, I’m out here checking for the one that I want (haven’t run into him yet), not the ones that want me. this goes totally against my great grandma’s advice but I always was a little rebellious.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
11:59 am

hell, all y’all blog ladies are fabulous…..some could use a few coaching sessions, but for the most part, y’all ladies are awesome….and as stated yesterday, that’s one of the wonderful things about “knowing” some of these blog folks….when you know they’re genuine (yeah, I’m talkin bout you, Sexy!!!)

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
11:59 am

2C – :) Thanks!

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
12:01 pm

Disco – What’s the latest on the dude you were liking at work? :wink:

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:02 pm

-Disco In reference to your great grandma’s advice, my friend’s mom told us years ago that you always want the man to like you a little bit more than you like him. . . .

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
12:04 pm

kimmie, you mentioned being “po” early on in life….RNS, that’s how you find out whose got your best interest at heart…..the ones that don’t mind that y’all gotta sleep on an air mattress, or make a joke cause yo gas ain’t on yet, and y’all huddled around a space heater…..

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:05 pm

making very good money

@MsMoni….see, right there, is the attitude that trips u in the dating game.

Even though “very good money” is relative…dont say none about ur money if u want dudes to make a play…its not that even i wld be scared..its the attitude of ur money this, ur moeny that…..same way u dont want a dude who steps to u and says..’hey look,thats my Beema” :lol:

Now, u said u been married?…no wonder the 2 kids? Is that fair….

There are good older dudes in the church, iam sure who are already checking on u! :lol:
Sooner or later, some of the older deaconess ladies in ur church will let u in on that tip!

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:07 pm

2Can..coaching lessons?

i already did an unsolicited tutorial on 12.05.. :lol:

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:11 pm

-Ex I’ve never been married. I only made the “very good money” comment to rule out that I’m looking for a dude to be my meal ticket. Some guys think that just because they toss money in front of you that you’re suppose to jump up like a lil puppy and be putty in his hands. That approach doesn’t work for me. You asked what’s my story and that’s a part of it. Trust me, I don’t throw that info out on an actual date or in conversation. When you see me, it’s obvious that I’m holding down my own, LOL!!! ;-)

Oh yeah Ex, my church is FULL of MARRIED couples, which is a plus and a negative. Real talk the single men vs single women ratio at my church is wayyyyy off, LOL!!!

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
12:12 pm

Ex, yeah, bruh……some need schooling, as you did @12:05…..and the key to it, is doing so surreptiously, that they don’t realize that’s whats going on……

dammit man, I cain’t keep givin out this free game……one of my mentors gon charge me up, and try to revoke my membership card!

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
12:16 pm

2C – You got it, don’t come up in my place looking for a come-up cause I didn’t have it! My PARENTS had money, but I graduated college, got out on my own and had to find my own way.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:16 pm

@MsMoni..and marriage is absolutely on top of ur priority lists?

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:19 pm

-Ex As far as relationships, yes my ultimate goal is to get & stay married, however I understand there are steps before the actual I Do’s.

disco

July 11th, 2013
12:20 pm

kimmie – he was a contractor working on something for the building. the gig is up. he’s gone. woe is me because that man was my motivation for coming in many a day. lol.

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
12:22 pm

Disco – Dang! I know how that can be. It would be sad if I needed some eyecandy for motivation, cause there is absolutely NONE up in here where I work!LOL!!!

disco

July 11th, 2013
12:26 pm

kimmie – I was dressing special and everything. when the weather broke I’d throw my little skirts/dresses on. one day I wore a dress and didn’t see him. I told my mother I greased my legs up for nothing. she was too through.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:26 pm

u talking bout that white dude Disco?

thought u said he had a wife/girlfriend

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:29 pm

-Kimmie/Disco I have NO eye candy at work either, unless you’re into the over 50 group and I’m not, LOL!!!

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:29 pm

greased my legs up for nothing

@Dudes..see!

they always say they dress for themselves….now Disco outs the secret…

That hair do,nails did,butt enhance,tattas bouncy prompt etc…is to catch dude’s eyes! :lol:

womens and their lil lies!

kimmie

July 11th, 2013
12:30 pm

I told my mother I greased my legs up for nothing.

:lol:

And with that I’m out, Gang! Doing a half day.

Be easy!!

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
12:31 pm

There is no eye candy here either. They’ve hired a man for the job that I was going for and I hope he’s at least good to look at! Will find out on Monday…

disco

July 11th, 2013
12:32 pm

ex – yep. in his words he was “seeing someone”.

ex – in general I dress for myself. goodness knows my job ain’t no fashion show. I’ll admit though that when the women around me up their game, I tend to up mine. as for men, I don’t deny doing that little something that pimps my features when I have to. lol. gotta get in where you fit in.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:32 pm

Have a GOOD one Kimmie!!! :-)

disco

July 11th, 2013
12:32 pm

bluz – for your sake I hope he’s whatever the opposite of your type is. lol.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
12:33 pm

disco – I won’t dip into the work pool anyways…Even if this guy is good looking, I don’t think I could like him since he took my job! LOL

disco

July 11th, 2013
12:36 pm

ex – I’ll also say, I don’t know where you heard that but I ain’t the one. there’s been many a time I was ticked off, feeling like I wasted a perfectly good outfit because nobody worthwhile saw me in it. lol.

bluz – took your job. lol!!! now that’s funny. don’t be up in there mean mugging dude. lol.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
12:38 pm

2C – So what would you coach me on?

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
12:38 pm

-Disco Bluz probably gives him the side eye on a regular, LOL!!! Definitely NOT the ideal situation.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
12:46 pm

SlimNu……what would I coach you on?

#1 – identifying YOUR aspirations when meeting dudes….and how to quickly identify if the other party is a willing participant, or has ulterior motives..

and #2 – How to conduct yourself once you’ve met either of the above mentioned fellows.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
12:49 pm

disco/MissMoni – Well, I don’t plan to be here much longer, so I may give dude the side eye when he starts because I don’t care! LOL

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
12:49 pm

We’ve got some eye candy hear, but it’s all married eye candy. There’s one guy who looks like he just stepped out of a Ralph Lauren ad. His whole family is cream-cheese perfect. *sigh*

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
12:53 pm

@2C: You offering coaching sessions? Sign me up!

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:55 pm

2Can. wld u advise a chic seeking marriage to make the cootie less available?

..re Slim?

I think u gave good advise to Slim on that 12.46. I think when a woman wants marriage,she must carry herself wifely. Speak like a wife, talk like a wife etc..

wife: woman of substance.
If u dress slutty sometimes,for example..no matter what comes outta ur mouth, re marriage..dudes aint gon see that.
They will want to jump ur bones.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
12:56 pm

Light……can you take constructive criticism?

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
12:57 pm

ex – I’ll also say, I don’t know where you heard that but I ain’t the one

@Disco..on MsAdventures in Atlanta!

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
12:57 pm

@2C: If it’s genuinely constructive criticism. :)

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
12:59 pm

2C – Ok, hmmmm interesting. lol

Ex – I’m curious as to why you think I put cootie on tap? And I don’t dress slutty either.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
1:02 pm

Slim..i didnt say that referencing u…?

sorry for not making it clear..

I was referencing coaching lessons

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
1:02 pm

“2Can. wld u advise a chic seeking marriage to make the cootie less available?”

Ex, I wouldn’t necessarily say “less” available, but I would advise to “keep your passions in due bounds.” meaning, say she’s feeling a dude….and the chemistry is there….and both of y’all wanna hunch…..then hunch! But don’t have it set out on a silver platter; make sure dude is hittin on all the other cylinders; that’s what lesson 2 is….how to conduct yourself….

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
1:04 pm

Ex – Oh ok, my bad…Miscommunication

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
1:13 pm

2Can…i see, that makes sense.

I think u need to school them on the lesson#1….how to spot the dudes not good for them and the game playaz..ulterior motived dudes.

But I will let ITL and others ask.I think she has something burning inside her belly! :lol:

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
1:32 pm

@Ex: Nothing burning here. Maybe a little smolder, but definitely no flames. :)

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
1:40 pm

Everybody leave for a fire drill????? Marco????

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
1:41 pm

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
1:42 pm

-ITL I’m here for the moment, wrapping up some things before I leave work at 3. I’m so EXCITED about my trip to NY!!! :-D

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
1:44 pm

ITL – I think folks were scared 2C was going to start reading their rights around here lolol

MissMoni – Have fun on your trip…i’m long over due for a vacation.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
1:44 pm

Thanks Slim, I’m long overdue so it’s bound to be EPIC!!! ;-)

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
1:45 pm

I see class is in session. Ladies, I need you all to sign a few documents before 2C continues. The first is a non-disclosure agreement, the second is a non-compete agreement, and the last is method of payment (game is to be sold, not told).

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
1:48 pm

wrapping up some things before I leave work at 3. I’m so EXCITED about my trip to NY!!!
MoniLuv Just rub it in why don’t you. lol What part of NY are you going to? Can you bring me back a pastrami sandwich from Katz Deli and a slice of cheesecake from Junior’s?

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
1:48 pm

So slim you going to take that coaching offer (LOL)

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
1:54 pm

-Dreams I’ll be staying in Manhattan, but you know I’m going to Junior’s. I’ll have to Google Katz Deli. This is a long overdue reunion trip of my friends I graduated with from CAU. Can you say we bout to have a BLAST!!! ;-)

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:00 pm

Ooooh, MissMoni, you lucky girl! Have a great time!!!

I’m going to Chicago in a couple of weeks and can’t wait. :)

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:00 pm

MsMoni..closing arguments are on Now..

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:01 pm

@Dreams: for that number 3, do y’all offer 6 months same as cash financing? :wink:

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:03 pm

Ex ~ re: your 11:18. I did answer 2C. I agree on being cagey and not hardened.

2C ~ re: 11: 59 thank you!

Had to run home to a crying child saying her head is about to explode. Went to her doctor, but with her standing there crying and holding her head they wouldn’t see her until 2:15. We were there at 11:45. Bought some Excedrin Migraine and waited it out until 2:15. Her headache is gone and she’s now sleeping. However, now I’m tired….

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
2:03 pm

Single – I’m open to constructive criticism…i’m not beyond learning ;-)

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
2:03 pm

Thanks ITL!!! I wanna visit Chicago for the Taste of Chicago! :-)

-Ex Thanks, I’m on it, been watching all morning.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:04 pm

MsMoni..so far..prosecutor is romancing the jury good! lol

I think Zimmer is going down!

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
2:05 pm

-Ex I agree, he’s banging the nail on the head. . .

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:10 pm

MissMoni ~ please try to make it to Katz Deli. It is a treat.

Ex ~ yesterday you said you thought was was going to walk. Goes to show you the importance of closing arguments.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
2:11 pm

-Leggs I will try my best, I like treats. :-)

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
2:15 pm

I wonder how long it will be after closing arguments before the jury makes a decision…

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:16 pm

Leggs..true…he is focusing on Ziimmer’s mindset in following Trevon..some of the things i said yesterday…and that he had a gun that gave him confidence(the Kahuna) to follow Trevon…he is really focusoing the jury on that..and the alternatives Zimmer should have taken to avert what eventually happened.
Ziimmer caused the confrontation to happen…and he is arguing ,nobody except the two fighters, know what happened in the fight,who threw the fist punch.

All that wld have be avoided if Zimmer took comon sense and waited for the po po

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
2:19 pm

Another lesson ladies put forth the real you, example don’t go wearing no puch-up bra, fake eye lashes, and spanx to make your figure look better when you are going on a date.

Real men look for the real women.

Zimmerman might get off on the murder charge, but will probably get charged with manslaughter. Murder is usually pre-medicated situation and the prosecution had a difficult time proving that!

Note to self….MissMoni likes chocolate treats… :)

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:20 pm

4 hrs…kidding??

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
2:21 pm

SlimNu it seems you put a lot into your previous relationship, does this have you depression regarding future possibilites?

SlimNu you are a funny, smart beautiful woman your time will come, now get off that couch and get ready before you miss him!

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:21 pm

Let me throw something out for y’all’s opinion. Yesterday on FB, I saw a posting with pictures of Michael Vick and George Zimmerman with the caption (I’m paraphrasing here) that said something to the effect of if Zim is acquitted, then a black person’s life means less than a dog’s in America.

I felt that it was way out of line, but I’m curious what y’all think.

disco

July 11th, 2013
2:23 pm

durty – real men look for real women. sounds good on paper but they like their illusion too.

itl – mike vick and George Zimmerman aside there’s already a lot of truth in that statement (imo).

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
2:27 pm

ITL, may be some truth, but we tend to forget, M. Vick pleaded guilty! Just because the trial didn’t go the way some people want it to go, it’s still a fair trail.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
2:27 pm

-Durty I am a chocoholic!!! :-)

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
2:30 pm

Isn’t it funny how a lot of “slutty” women and sorry arse men seem to find spouses too! There is no right or wrong way to find a husband/wife, you just have to know what YOU ARE looking for.

disco

July 11th, 2013
2:30 pm

single – hence why I said michael vick and zimmerman aside. all you have to do is watch or read the news on a good day. it may not be spelled out but if you can read between the lines…

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:31 pm

but if you can read between the lines…

….you see what you want to see?????? Just one girl’s opinion…..

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
2:31 pm

CAU. Can you say we bout to have a BLAST!!!
MoniLuv Oh I already know how you CAU girls do. ;-) There’s a good Senegalese restaurant in Manhattan on Adam Clayton Powell.

ITL As long as you don’t miss a payment. ;-)

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:32 pm

ITL ~ the way things have transpired over the course of my lifetime and beyond, there’s truth in that statement. But, we’re not discussing race relations.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:33 pm

that said something to the effect of if Zim is acquitted, then a black person’s life means less than a dog’s in America.

@ITL..there are some people(african americans) who are Never gon see a white man in a positive light, PERIOD.

forget that!
and there is no basis for somebody even saying that….

jus because one person is dead from another’s gun does not make the other automatically guilty.

besides OJ did it and went scott free! :lol:

disco

July 11th, 2013
2:33 pm

ITL – yes you do see what you want to see but you also have to look to see what’s there. just my opinion but I think america’s racism issues are alive and well. the thing now is that folks are more prone to lean towards political correctness at least when they think someone can see or hear them. the underlying mess is still rampant though.

leggs – okay. i’m done. lol.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
2:34 pm

I agree with you disco.

MissMoni

July 11th, 2013
2:36 pm

-Dreams Thanks, I’m making a note in my phone of the restaurants.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:36 pm

either way,Zimmer is gon to lose on this,acquittal or guilty.

CNN featured somebody yestrday,ex-convict,saying he is going to be defending hinself from day one, in jail.

good for him…he be tossing the salad on day two fo sho! :lol:

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:40 pm

I think america’s racism issues are alive and well

I think they are, too. On all sides. And you are on the money about political correctness.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:40 pm

Racism is alive and well at the dinner tables, inside the households!(black or white or yellow)

In the real world, there is Political correctness.

but who cares, unless someone steps to u with that mess

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:40 pm

“…the underlying mess is still rampant though.”

and that’s what frightens me!

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
2:41 pm

“either way,Zimmer is gon to lose on this,acquittal or guilty.:” – That’s how we may see, but him walking free, he may not necessarily feel the same way even if he’s “shunned” by everyone. Couldn’t think of a better word.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:41 pm

I can’t believe I’m about to say this, but Ex, your 2:33 rang true with me. :shock: Next thing you know, the devil will be serving ice water and popsicles. :lol:

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:45 pm

(not so) comic relief: questioning my choice of black beans for lunch, when I have a meeting with my VP in 20 minutes. :oops:

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
2:49 pm

what I miss…..
good lookin’ out, Dreams…..(gotta have the legalities in place for these counseling sessions)

Zimmerman: the judge also allowed for a manslaughter charge to be added…..so he going down for somethin’……even if it’s just 20-25 years……so ummm yeah, he might as well be prepared to be “bussin bumps on a dude’s face!”

racism: where? not in 2013! surely, you jest!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
2:52 pm

it seems you put a lot into your previous relationship, does this have you depression regarding future possibilites?

Durty – Yeah I did but who doesn’t when they want it to work? I’m not a person who can love half-assed. I’m all in or I’m not. My feelings are all just a part of the ugly process and I’ll have to let it run it’s course I suppose.

Hey have any of ya’ll ever dated someone that always seemed so dayum moody?? You never knew what person you were going to get when you walked in the door…someone that seemed like they could never be happy???

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:54 pm

@Leggs..i meant ‘lose’ as in going “down” as in 6 feet!

umm,cough.

u feel me Leggs? :lol:

disco

July 11th, 2013
2:55 pm

slim – I was getting ready to own being the moody person until I read the can never be happy part. I can be moody and happy at the same time. lol.

Exiled

July 11th, 2013
2:55 pm

Next thing you know, the d will be serving ice water and popsicles.

@ITL…the d beats that!

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:55 pm

@Slim: Yup, and Donny Downers and Negative Neds drain the life out of a girl. At least they do me. I have to distance myself from that kind of negativity, because I find it so frustrating. Some days, it’s a struggle to be happy, but that’s the choice that we all have to make. Happiness is a choice.

Either that, or go around throwing bricks and throat punches. :lol: :lol:

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
2:56 pm

Slim – That’s pretty much how Psycho in Seattle was. From one minute to the next, you couldn’t tell what kind of mood he would be in. In one breath, he’s telling me he loves me and wants to marry me…then in the next breath, he would call me terrible names.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
2:56 pm

Off to a meeting. If I don’t make it back before y’all leave, have a good one. And MissMoni, have a safe trip and a wonderful time.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
2:58 pm

Hey have any of ya’ll ever dated someone that always seemed so dayum moody?? You never knew what person you were going to get when you walked in the door…someone that seemed like they could never be happy??? If you can’t make yourself happy, I know I can’t so I’m not going to even try.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
3:01 pm

Ex ~ yeah, I feel you, but with gloves on!

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:01 pm

Some days, it’s a struggle to be happy, but that’s the choice that we all have to make. Happiness is a choice. not hard at all!

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
3:02 pm

SlimNu ~ I don’t think I’ve been around people who have always been moody. I’ve been around envious people and negative folk but if you’re moody just because your feet his the ground in the morning, I have to bypass you.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
3:04 pm

disco – hahahahhahahaha

Bluz – I think I recall you mentioning that.

Single – How long (on average) do you think it takes folks to ‘find themselves”?

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:10 pm

Slim I can’t say, some people are just that way and we have to make a choice to have them in our lives

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
3:15 pm

<em? if you’re moody just because your feet his the ground in the morning, I have to bypass you.

Leggs – To those folks I ask, “who p!ssed in your grits this morning?” lol

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:17 pm

slim / leggs – in defense of everyone walking around moody early in the morning, sometimes it just be like that. lol.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
3:26 pm

Exactly, SlimNu. Being grouchy just because the word exists.

disco ~ not saying they’re moody because they’re not morning people. They moody as soon as they wake up to the time they go back to sleep!

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
3:31 pm

I don’t care if a person’s moody. Just keep that sh!t to yourself.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
3:32 pm

disco – I wouldn’t say i’m grouchy in the morning but more so just quiet and don’t really want to talk. lolol

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:32 pm

leggs – I repeat, sometimes it just be like that. lol. naw, I get what you are saying. lol.

I’m reminded of eve’s bayou when megan good told Samuel L that the women were mad at him. he peeked in the room and said “them? they always mad”. lol.

DuShawn

July 11th, 2013
3:33 pm

I see yall really skrugglin for content today.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
3:34 pm

I’m definitely moody first thing in the morning, but can snap out of that maybe 95% of the time! These days, it’s even harder since I hate coming to work! LOL

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:34 pm

dreams – re keeping your bad mood to yourself. I’m perfectly content doing just that. I have one guy who is always whining when I’m getting my Tasmanian devil on. talking about whatever it is don’t take it out on him. meanwhile, he’s the one all up in my face. I’m not the one all up in his face. you don’t like my stank azz attitude then get the eff away from me. lol.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:36 pm

I used be moody in the morning, co-workers knew not to talk to me until 9:00, haven’t been that way since I started working out in the morning.

DreamsMaterialize

July 11th, 2013
3:39 pm

I’m reminded of eve’s bayou when megan good told Samuel L that the women were mad at him
disco One of my favorite movies…way underrated.

As far as bad moods, that’s ol’ boy’s fault for still coming around. I’ll holla at you when you feeling more amicable. lol

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:40 pm

I have one friend. she’s all nice and sweet and soft spoken. never yells, always takes the path of least resistance and she’s always suffering from severe migraines and complaining about headaches. I tell her she’s holding too much crap in. lol.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
3:44 pm

I’m definitely an all day person. I jam coming into work, radio blasting, chair dancing and singing.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:44 pm

Dang disco, we even have friends alike (LOL) maybe we’re the same person (LOL)

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:46 pm

dreams – I like that movie too. when jurnee flew down those stairs hollering “cicely’s trying to kill me” I was too through. plus she know she wasn’t no good telling old girl’s husband that she guess mattie wasn’t the lonesome type. lol.

single – I have hair. lol. (in reference to our previous short, fat, bald discussions). lol.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
3:46 pm

disco – I get headaches often and migraines every now and then…so I need to just start cussing folks out from now on? lol

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:47 pm

I have hair to disco, I just chose to cut it off (LOL) so I see you owning short and fat also (LOL)

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
3:48 pm

Yes, you have to let that stuff out else it will eat at your innards, ulcers, migraines, stomach aches, pimples, etc.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:49 pm

Slim, are you a person who people say what they want to too, but you hold back because you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

disco

July 11th, 2013
3:52 pm

single – yep. I’m owning short. no denying that one. as for fat, I’m using your excuse/reason too. the BMI chart wasn’t designed for us/me. lol.

slim – a good cussing out is quite therapeutic. if that’s not your style at the very least you got to get out some good words. after you hang up with someone say “your momma” in the phone or something. lol.

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
3:52 pm

I’m feeling a little moody today because I’m just completely wiped out! I’ve had things to do after work every day this week. Having my BFF in town has kept me busy! I hope it rains so I can get out of walking my friend’s dog and go home and collapse!

DuShawn

July 11th, 2013
3:53 pm

“you don’t like my stank azz attitude ……” I typically tell women that behave like this that they have the attitude of a sphincter……….stank and shiddy……get the hell on, ole sour pus azz.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
3:57 pm

Disco, the BMI chart says 140 is my ideal weight, hell I’ll look like a booble head if I got down that far (LOL)

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
4:00 pm

disco, send me a picture……

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
4:00 pm

Single – No people don’t just say what they want to me, at least not in a negative way. So if you think i’m sitting here taking the brunt of everybodies tongue lashing, then that’s not the case. I am an outspoken person but I say what i need to say with a bit of tact. I can probably count only a few instances where I was all No holds barred with it lol But either way, i’m not out to intentionally hurt anyone’s feelings

get the hell on, ole sour pus azz.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
4:05 pm

Slim it’s not even to the extent of tongue lashings. sometimes it’s just people asking for things and won’t take no for an answer, and doing things you don’t want to do because they’re your family, or your friends, and the worst culprits of all, the church.

disco

July 11th, 2013
4:05 pm

2C – umm. I don’t now you like that. I gave a description once. the rest is up to your good old imagination. lol.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
4:07 pm

seriously, I missed the description….so…….short, go ‘head, finish!!!!!

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
4:18 pm

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
4:23 pm

Leggs, what you laughin at????

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
4:26 pm

Single – I tell folks no but there are times I shuck it up and do it, depending on what it is.

Leggs

July 11th, 2013
4:26 pm

What’s that saying….only a hit dog will holla. Seriously, I’m laughing because you sound like Ex!

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
4:30 pm

Single – I’m a giver and I like doing things for people. I just don’t like when folks turn my niceness into an EXPECTATION of something I SHOULD do for them. Does that make sense? lol

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
4:32 pm

Take that moody ish and kept it to yourself…Sometimes these moody ladies will wake you up in the morning and ride you real good. then get off and will not say anything about the good dizzle you gave her! lol

2CP…Disco is a cutie pie 5ft4 150lbs, works out and is thick with it! That is why all those senior citzens are trying to chase her down! lol

disco

July 11th, 2013
4:34 pm

2C – I’m short, fat and have hair. lol.

disco

July 11th, 2013
4:35 pm

DB – close. I’m shorter than that and a tad bit heavier than that but real, real close. lol.

2CPTG©

July 11th, 2013
4:36 pm

“2C – I’m short, fat and have hair. lol.”

…..long as you know how to work it…..

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
4:40 pm

Slim that’s what usually happens to givers, they get taken advantage of, thus the headaches and other things, feel bad when you say no, come up with rational reasons why you should do it, when it’s not your problem.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
4:41 pm

@DB: Moody, schmoody. Y’all don’t need us to validate you and tell you it was good. Either it was or it wasn’t.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
4:42 pm

@Single: The ex used to preach that to me all the time…..of course, he never complained when the stuff I was doing was for him, though……

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
4:43 pm

Single – I like to figure out what’s in folks minds, what makes them do what they do, why they behave the way they do. I have no idea what i’d do with the info if I ever figured it out lolol But I guess I just want to understand folks

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
4:43 pm

Looks like the rain is through for the evening, so I’ll be dog walking after work. Ugh! I shouldn’t complain…it’s the first time in two weeks that I’ve been able to do it. She was out of town last week and then we’ve had rain or I’ve had plans this week…

Durty Burd

July 11th, 2013
4:48 pm

@ITL how was your meeting with the VP, did u let one out! lol

@ITL I be the judge of that if its good or not! I think I need to meet you one on one for some personal training so I can make sure you are cherry in the morning (everyday) peepskins, hehehehehe!

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
4:52 pm

LOL@DB. I did not, thankfully. :)

Personal training? I guess a girl’s gotta get her cardio in…. But I hope you’re not gonna expect me to say mess like peepskins. That sounds like a condom.

MsAtl

July 11th, 2013
4:54 pm

ITL- Yes, it does. Like a condom with a peep toe or a window or something.

SlimNu

July 11th, 2013
4:59 pm

Ya’ll be easy….going to get these toes derrrrn..

Bluzgirl

July 11th, 2013
4:59 pm

Good evening everyone! “See” you tomorrow!

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
4:59 pm

I like to figure out what’s in folks minds, what makes them do what they do, why they behave the way they do. not that’s really a headache in the making (LOL)

ITL most want you to stop doing it so you can do more for them. I have a friend who you can say I’m her Steve Urkel ( I’m wearing her down (LOL)) she needs to stop because it stresses her out. She doesn’t have a problem telling me no (LOL) Just everybody else.

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
5:06 pm

LOL@MsAtl. Why did I picture one with a porthole style window? :lol: :lol:

@Stamps: Did YOU do that????? :lol: :lol:

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
5:07 pm

ITL, I’m trying to do that (LOL)

Into the Light

July 11th, 2013
5:10 pm

LOL@Stamps. Maybe you should let her chase you for awhile.

Single & Happy

July 11th, 2013
5:38 pm

ITL I wish (LOL)