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Are you ok with PDA?

What is your opinion on Public Displays of Affection (PDA)? File this under relationship perks: Hand-holding, kissing in public, body part grabbing at a live concert. A lot of people believe that a highlight of being coupled up is letting everyone else know!  Are you cool with someone being touchy feely on a date?  Are you bothered when other people get lovey dovey around you?

One of our readers is dating a woman who has complained that he tends to ignore her cues for affection and public displays of affection.  It is something he has heard women complain about in the past.  He has a bad habit of being distant and standoffish whenever he is out on a date.  While he will do all the polite things gentleman do, showing affection is “not his thing” and it seems to be a problem.

I told him that some women like to know that sex is not the only motivation for a man touching her.  Women dig intimacy, which is not necessarily sex-related.  How important is PDA in your relationships?  Is it something you could live without if your partner was not into it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:50 pm

“…dude ain’t gone drag me standing up. I’m going to drop flat on the ground so he’ll either have to carry me or peel skin off.” – Same here!

disco

July 2nd, 2013
2:51 pm

leggs – I made the assumption because of how she went along with it. granted I was sitting in my car watching but other people were asking her if she needed help. she declined help and continued to be drug along. my line of thinking was that someone who doesn’t want to be drug along will let it be known.

cba – if she didn’t want help from bystanders I’m sure she didn’t want the popo all up in it.

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
2:52 pm

@Disco..if she too proud to holla and scream…..

LEAVE IT ALONE!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:52 pm

SlimNU ~ yes, the side car (lol). Could not think of the name. Old men have those old wheels (lol).

MissMoni

July 2nd, 2013
2:52 pm

She may have been geeked up as to why she didn’t scream . . . Just a thought.

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
2:53 pm

“if push ever comes to shove a dude ain’t gone drag me standing up. I’m going to drop flat on the ground so he’ll either have to carry me or peel skin off.”

Just envision Celie dropping flat on the ground of that red clay dirt on CP after Shug left for Memphis. I could not picture Mister carrying her. Dragging her? Probably.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:54 pm

if she too proud to holla and scream…..

LEAVE IT ALONE!

Kinda sorta. Probably not the case in this case, but depending on where the weapon is, she may be hoping beyond hope that although she said no to help, someone would still step up and help.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:56 pm

“if she too proud to…”

Ex, doubt “pride” would have anything to do with it. Scared perhaps, but not too proud.

cba

July 2nd, 2013
2:56 pm

How many times have you heard cops show up at a lady’s house and one of her eyes is hanging out and she said she fell off the sofa and don’t arrest tyrone?

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
2:56 pm

187. I’m told it’s da bomb

…must be….looks like a number drwan by a(flexible and nimble) worm…turning this way and that way and then str8 UP…IN!

I imagine DaBomb fo sho! :lol:

disco

July 2nd, 2013
2:57 pm

ex – I did leave it alone. now once many years back my neighbor across the hall (apt bldg) was getting beat up by her boyfriend. it wasn’t just a loud fight but I knew it was going down over there. that girl was hollering for heaven, hell and everything in between to help her. in that case I did call the police (other neighbors did too). dude had ripped her phone out and I even let her borrow my cordless for the night. her father came and moved her out the next day.

daddy swiss

July 2nd, 2013
2:57 pm

Jira — In that case, I’d rather have 207, actually (69×3). That’d cover me + both of EBadu’s big ol’ booty cheeks. lol

In nerd parlance, Jira is an issue tracking system — used to track dev tasks, bugs, etc.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:57 pm

cba ~ because she’s in love and firmly believes love hurts, that’s how she knows he loves her…tsk tsk tsk!

MissMoni

July 2nd, 2013
2:58 pm

In the words of Sofia: “I loves me some Hoppo, Lord knows I do, but I’ll KILL HIM DEAD before I let him beat on me!”

1 thing I DON’T play is domestic violence.

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
2:58 pm

@Disco..hopefully u wont hear anything on the tv news tonite or some other day that will make u regret it.

some of these dudes are crazy for real..

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
2:58 pm

It could have gone either way though. Sometimes those we go out of our way to save, just aren’t ready to be and end up going back to the aggressor.

(May be) Eventually she’ll get sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
2:59 pm

swiss ~ it took everything in power not to answer what Jira was. Ex, I’ve think I’ve retrained myself (lol).

SlimNu

July 2nd, 2013
3:00 pm

Kirketta OMG :lol: :lol:

cba

July 2nd, 2013
3:02 pm

Ex I was thinking the same about the 6:00 news.

daddy swiss

July 2nd, 2013
3:03 pm

Ah, look at you, Leggs! Do you have some nerd in you?

(Side note: You know how badly I want to follow that up with, “Would you like some?”) lol

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:03 pm

and one of her eyes is hanging out and she said she fell off the sofa and don’t arrest tyrone?

cba..:lol: :lol:

guys..u are so much fun today! :lol:

disco

July 2nd, 2013
3:04 pm

leggs – not saying dude didn’t have a weapon somewhere but he didn’t have anything in his hands other than her. he was a little dude too. she had more than a few pounds on him.

ex – I won’t. at least not about this. it didn’t happen today but it came up in conversation today.

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:06 pm

Leggs
Oh I started to admit how I found out where the Jira (suffix) stems from…but it had nothing to do with IT. An old friend of mine schooled me on it. Of course it’s missing a couple of letters, so its not the full spelling. But hey…I’ll leave that one alone. :-)

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:07 pm

imagine if we got paid Radio money to blog!?

this is fun…doing this FULLTIME for a living…

where are our venture capitalists_entrepeneurs at?..lets do this thing…..

ok..they sign me up first for the season $1,000,000 chwck..uall after me… :lol:

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:10 pm

Cracking up at Ex having fun (lol)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:10 pm

swiss ~ just a little, I dabble in nerdom.

disco ~ I realize you have to assess a situation with the quickness. Won’t always make the right choice.

Ex ~ when we climb through the windows and under fences to get to the blog, it’s usually a good time. Things are so much better when you’re not supposed to be doing them. Reason why “affairs” are so popular.

How that popped in my head, I don’t know. Now the song by John Cougar Mellancamp is in my head…come on baby make it hurt so good, sometimes love doesn’t feel like it should, unless it hurts so good (something like that). Ok, I went completely left.

MsAtl

July 2nd, 2013
3:12 pm

Exiled- Wait! What do I have to do with your hands itching? Unless they are itching because you are coming into some cash in which case, you can think of me while you make out a money order.

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:12 pm

@Jira….u know u can have ur 169, 187 and the Swiss version whilst in MaChira? (the plural version of Jira)

the MacChira can be satin too… :lol: thats not tech….but whilst inside Machira,..spanish can be spoken. :lol: …and some moanful groans for good measure.

2CPTG©

July 2nd, 2013
3:12 pm

Leggs, you need to get some!!!!

cba

July 2nd, 2013
3:14 pm

It’s definitely a break from all the PaulaD stories/blogs……she just uttered the N word…..yeah right

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:16 pm

Leggs, you need to get some!!!!

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

MissMoni

July 2nd, 2013
3:16 pm

-Slim I also wanted to vent about Tracy’s Christmas Tree air fresheners for her vehicle. My thoughts: If you can afford to let someone borrow $50,000, then you can afford to get some better air fresheners for your car. PLEASE leave them old Christmas Tree air fresheners alone!!! I was too done with her for that one, SMH!!!

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:17 pm

u remeber u guys when i was talking to Jake on the blog about buying my son a hoop..some 6 or so months back, towards christams?

thats one of the best investments i have ever made in my life…EVER! (for under $400)…

feel so proud about it…that boy and that hoop are like butt crack and dudu. :lol:

disco

July 2nd, 2013
3:19 pm

random: just read an advice column where the dilemma was whether or not to send a wedding invitation to a family member that was locked up. lol.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:19 pm

Where did you find your hoop, Ex? I’m looking for one by the end of this month.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:20 pm

Huh? Where’s dilemma. Are they trying to make him or her go “rabbit.” Just send an announcement and be done!

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:20 pm

Walmart!

@Leggs

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:21 pm

LOL You wrong for that…but you also might be right.
Sorry Leggs…but you are stirring the pot. You know EX practically gets high on the subject alone.

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:22 pm

MsAtl..itching hands in Shona culture …superstition,interpreted as money coming ur way…

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:25 pm

Wait, what hoop did you get from Walmart.

Jira, what pot am I stirring?

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:28 pm

Leggs
All that singing about chexx. :-)
But that’s practically EX’s signature bird call. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:29 pm

Oh, the singing. Gotcha.

Is a hoop, not a hooptie as in a car???

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:30 pm

Jira ~ we could be talking about baby poop and it would be Ex’s signature to turn that into something sexual.

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:31 pm

Very true. Ha!

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:32 pm

I always heard hooptie as slang for cars.

Jira

July 2nd, 2013
3:33 pm

I think he means basketball hoop.

Durty Burd

July 2nd, 2013
3:36 pm

If Precious Joy paid the ladies of the blog mortgage for 6 months, I bet they would start saying Precious you bring me Joy….all day long!

If Precious was bringing the O’s you would hear Oh Precious what a joyous occasion!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2013
3:37 pm

A basketball hoop. When he said Walmart, I knew we were on two different pages (lol). He literally meant a hoop!

Thanks, Jira. Honestly, I’m thinking how safe is a $400 car on the road anyway.

Exiled

July 2nd, 2013
3:42 pm

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SlimNu

July 2nd, 2013
3:44 pm

Who has some really good Jamaican/Carribbean food?