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Bad dates

Bad dates happen to good people.  In fact, sometimes there is really no one to blame for a bad date.  Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there.  Sometimes you just don’t connect in a meaningful way.  I have a rule about bad dates.  I have to schedule another date within two weeks.  Sort of like a palate cleansing tactic.  You never want one bad date to drive you back to your sofa and the solitude you have come to love!
 
My friend Johnny likes to give multiple chances to make sure there really is not a connection.  Even after a bad date, he will keep an open mind.  He always tells me that everyone has an off day.  Would you be open to a second or third date if the first was less than pleasing?
 
How long does it usually take for you to decide that you want to pursue someone

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Exiled

June 14th, 2013
6:57 am

‘I have to schedule another date within two weeks’

…..u make me laugh Diva. :lol: and u must be ha ha hot!

Most of these single women here cannot get one date…how u think they got to this point.

It’s ok to give somebody a chance in case they had an off day somehow although u also don’t want to look desperate. And there is a difference between being desperate and looking desperate.
If u look Thirsty my friends :lol: some folks really wanna drank! :lol: I’ll get ur parched throat lubricated.

Be careful out there.

Good morning and happy Friday.
(it’s payday and I’m so broke)

Exiled

June 14th, 2013
6:58 am

U will not I’ll

MissMoni

June 14th, 2013
7:32 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Bad dates. . . Well, if the 1st date is bad as in he’s rude and or disrespectful then there is NO 2nd date! If someone is having an off day then they need to reschedule and it’s still no excuse for being rude or disrespectful. Do what you like, but I don’t have time to continue to put myself in a position to be on a date with someone that I don’t like. Move on!!!

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June 14th, 2013
7:52 am

Lee

June 14th, 2013
8:06 am

Only had one bad date and there wasn’t another date after that.

MissMoni said it best!

Happy Weekend Everyone! Enjoy

Button

June 14th, 2013
8:08 am

Good Friday Morning! Yay it’s payday, unlike Exiled I’m not broke :)

As for second date, do it buttttt if she/he’s rude and repulsive then noway jose.

How long does it usually take for you to decide that you want to pursue someone? It depended on a lot of factors, chemistry and lifestyle for starters. oh and if he smokes, admit he smoke weed and a heavy drinker. Those stuff right there always shut me down.

MissMoni

June 14th, 2013
8:33 am

-Button I agree with your shut down factors. I would like to add, if I find out that he sells drugs then it’s OVER!!!

MissMoni

June 14th, 2013
8:36 am

-Lee Thanks for the well weekend wishes! Do you have big plans?

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
8:39 am

Morning,

So far have not had any bad dates….I hope to keep it that way.

Button

June 14th, 2013
8:40 am

MissMoni – that’s for dayum sure.

Once what I thought was a bad date the guy thought it was good. I just couldn’t figure that one out. I was very very complicated. LOL

Button

June 14th, 2013
8:44 am

MissMoni – the reason a date with a man that smokes is bad bc of the scent that comes with the date. It reeks so bad. just a complete turn-off. and to think dude want a kiss. no thank you! This one guy lite up a cig right infront of me and blew all that smoke in my face and then had the nerve to act like it was nothing to it. I’m waving my hand trying to clear the smoke from my face and he stood there talking thru all that smoke.

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
8:44 am

“Would you be open to a second or third date if the first was less than pleasing?” – Yes, all depending on how bad the bad date actually turned out to be.

Morning.

MissMoni

June 14th, 2013
8:46 am

-Button I feel you on that. I have asthma, so a smoker of any kind is totally out of the question, LOL!!!

MissMoni

June 14th, 2013
8:48 am

BBL, gotta meeting at 9am. . .

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
8:53 am

Working half day today…WHUP WHUP!!!

Reio

June 14th, 2013
8:54 am

Morning everyone!

Well, the only way that I would reschedule a first bad date, is if she, at the end of it, or some point during it, acknowledged that she wasn’t a very good date and apologizes, and asked to see me again. That way I would know that she realized that things didn’t go so well, and the next date would be much better. Absent that, no way I would go out with her again. Just move on. Easy. Simple.
I have had a bad date or two, but it had more to do with my probing questions than anything she did or didn’t do,said or didn’t say.

Exiled

June 14th, 2013
9:01 am

@Slim…so far, whatchu mean so far?

How many have u had since mr officer went left?

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
9:11 am

Ex – I’m just speaking of in the time frame of me dating period in life…not just since Mr. Officer. And so far I have not gone out on any dates. I know like the next day an old neighbor of mine asked me out (not even sure how he knew but he texted me out of the blue) I didn’t go out with him. I asked for a rain check, just wasn’t feeling it.

disco

June 14th, 2013
9:24 am

good morning.

ex – re chicks that can’t get one date. well, in my case (lol) it’s because I don’t call them dates. the necessary level of anticipation isn’t there. for me it’s usually just hanging out, grabbing a bite, seeing a movie with whoever but it’s not a date. tomorrow night I’m going on a dinner cruise but it’s not a date. lol.

Button

June 14th, 2013
9:24 am

SlimNu – how long were you and Mr Officer together?

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
9:29 am

Button – About 3yrs

disco – A dinner cruise sounds nice…where is this?

daddy swiss

June 14th, 2013
9:31 am

“Most of these single women here cannot get one date…how u think they got to this point”

That was cold, Me.lo. Funny as hell (and probably true), but cold… lol

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
9:31 am

What I consider “bad dates” would be behavior that popped off under the “non-negotiable” category. So, no I don’t do “do-overs” for what I consider bad dates. For me that would be crass, foul mouthed, disrespectful, rude, end up in the ER, etc etc etc. A bit extreme but yeah, that’s what I consider.

Now, if it’s a matter of no chemistry or just didn’t click, boring…umm I wouldn’t necessarily say that’s a bad date, sometimes everybody is not for you. And even if the date feel along the line of not getting off the ground or to a good start, sure I’d consider another shot :)

I can’t be playing today, messed around and left my small carrier which holds my license, credit/debit cards, money. I drove alllll the way home with no license!!! Around 7:00 ish, I reached for it to get my lipgloss and nothing…still sitting on my desk.

I’m gone to get coffee and do some work :)

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
9:33 am

fell not feel

Mmeello, I bet you just ca-rack yourself up…lololol

Button

June 14th, 2013
9:33 am

first bad date:
when he talks forever and a day about his ex.
when he eats like a pig
when he gropes me at the table
when he talk about schex
when he talks about himself in the 3rd person
when he talks religion and tell me I’m living wrong I need his jesus

disco

June 14th, 2013
9:34 am

slim – I’m not sure. it sounds nice but you know I’m concerned that there’s no escape route. I’ll be a captive audience for the duration. lol.

swiss – hush. don’t encourage him.

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
9:34 am

Oh…and dudes that need prayer…hahahahahahaha

Later folks!!

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
9:36 am

I tell you, some mornings are just cuckoo for cocoa puffs. There are just some folks I wouldn’t wanna be. Mad all the time, sad all the time, resentful, all the time, angry all the time

All you can do if pray for them….

BBL when the wind changes. Yesterday was a guud, fun day. I guess once in a blue moon is guuuuud!!

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
9:39 am

“…at the end of it, or some point during it, acknowledged that she wasn’t a very good date and apologizes, and asked to see me again.”

Great point, Reio! Acknowledgment is key. If this is your usual, then there’s a problem for the next guy (lol).

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
9:41 am

Yes, please do not encourage him, daddy swiss. I thought it cold too.

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
9:42 am

Celisea ~ we have many fun days here…why you think we keep coming back (lol).

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
9:44 am

Leggs/swiss – Yeah I was like OUCH when I read his post but it didn’t apply to me so I kept it moving. lol

swiss – How’s the little bambino? Have you started painting your man cave pink yet?

disco

June 14th, 2013
9:52 am

celisea – I’m also a tad bit leery of folks who are happy all the time.

speaking of pink man caves. is there a term for men who are “whipped” by their daughters?

Single and Happy

June 14th, 2013
9:54 am

Hello all

Disco, why is that?

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
9:55 am

Pawns, puppets, pansies etc lolol Naw, I don’t think there are any that I know of.

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
9:56 am

O/T: Meet and greet next Friday, 6/21 at Marlow’s off LaVista Road @6:00. Marlow’s is in the Doubletree Hotel. Whoever cares to join me and a few others already saying yes, would love to see you there. We will likely be there a few hours so come when you can. Will give a reminder mid-week.

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
9:59 am

Leggs – Yep, I guess there are several fun days.

disco – I’m leery of folks with bitter souls. Give me happy all the time, over that, any day…lol

At some point, you pity them and pray for release that they too, can laugh (like we did yesterday) and join in :mrgreen:

Mmmm, scrambled egg w/cheese, slice of wheat toast and coffee…yuuum!!

disco

June 14th, 2013
10:02 am

single – why what? leery of folks that are happy all the time? because that mess isn’t realistic. even given that some people have generally happy dispositions, putting on a happy face all the time is just that. putting on a happy face. I don’t believe anyone is happy all the time and they don’t have to be. not too mention the whole “bubbly” thing just irks me. can you be happy without bouncing around like tigger from Winnie the pooh?

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
10:05 am

Ummmmmmmm, why did I walk out of the restroom behind a chick wearly nearly a “back out??”

Dress code???

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
10:05 am

Celisea

June 14th, 2013
10:06 am

Leggs – Next time, if possible, can you guys plan a Saturday? I’m usually “busy” on Fridays

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
10:06 am

O/T: I was chatting it up with a chick I know and she was saying how her man is not really freaky or whatever. She would like him to step it up or not be so ’same ole same ole’ in the bedroom and she feels like she is losing her freakiness. Do ya’ll think that’s possible? If you don’t use it you lose it?

MsAtl

June 14th, 2013
10:07 am

Morning All! Finally came up for air (from work).

It would depend on what kind of bad date it was. If it was rudeness, disrespect, or some other type of jack @$$ery, then no, I would not give a second date.

MissMoni- You said it!

Button- cracking up about the smoker. Yuck!

Single and Happy

June 14th, 2013
10:07 am

disco, that’s how I am about folks that’s unhappy and never satisfied (LOL)

Single and Happy

June 14th, 2013
10:09 am

Slim, wouldn’t think you would lose it, just get a little rusty cause you don’t get to use it.

disco

June 14th, 2013
10:18 am

single – uh huh. I get it. just tossing the happy people in with the rest. I don’t really want to be around anybody who has one mood all the time. it would be like kicking it with the “anyone? anyone?” dude. lol.

slim – I have an ex that I’m cool with. umpteen years ago I told him that he did it like an old man. fast forward and recently we were talking and I told him that back then I said it to be funny as I had no point of reference but now that we’ve aged (and I’ve been with an old man) I figure I was right. needless to say, I thought it was funny. he did not. lol.

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
10:19 am

I’m going to lunch with my boss so I only ate a banana. Now he comes and tells me will be leaving the office at 1:30 and returning somewhere around 6. Last year, we returned at 7. This should be interesting.

Celisea ~ most definitely. Would love to do a Saturday.

SlimNu

June 14th, 2013
10:20 am

Single – Ok I gotcha…Just gotta get someone to knock the webs & dust off of it

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
10:21 am

‘Do ya’ll think that’s possible? If you don’t use it you lose it?” – I don’t think it’s something you can lose. What will probably happen is when you get with someone who likes that freaky part of you, you’ve become even freakier cause you held it in for so long.

Leggs

June 14th, 2013
10:22 am

Meaning, I’m going to need to eat something else light before 1:30.