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Vacation dating?

Before you board that flight to jet off to some sexy location, you should consider your intent to date on vacation. I have heard so many people whine about the dating prospects in Atlanta who  manage to easily meet other people in other cities. Sometimes in other countries!

Dating on vacation is something to think about.  The likelihood of a long distance relationship is higher.  Would you be willing to contend with distance if you met so someone wonderful while vacationing?

Why do you think we meet and mingle with more success in other cities?  I can remember having a serious dry spell for such a long time. Literally en route to the airport, all kinds of male attention. Was I suddenly more approachable since I was relaxed  and happy to be on vacation? It is possible that I was!

I have met and exchanged numbers with people while I was vacationing in New York, South Africa, and even Jamaica. Vacation dating has its perks! Have you ever tried it?

Some people even turn their vacation fling into a full fledge relationship.  I think the lesson here is be open to the possibilities! What do you have to lose. Oh, one tip though: Make sure they are truly single.  You don’t want to have an awkward conversation with someone’s angry spouse.  It is quite unpleasant. Trust me.

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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June 3rd, 2013
7:43 am

Vacation dating has it’s perks..he he he Brazil I’m coming!!
Whatever happens on vegaction stays in vegaction. :lol:

Sure,get ur dry spell oiled up! :lol:
But longterm prospects, I think NO!

Morning MIA.

MissMoni

June 3rd, 2013
8:06 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Vacation dating, yeah about that. . . Possibilities are endless, but on vacation you can be or pretend to be ANYBODY you want, which is why I think people are more open to it. Most folks know they probably won’t see the person again so they throw all caution to the wind. Hey, if that works for you go for it. Just remember while on vacation to not make permanent decisions with temporary people.

Button

June 3rd, 2013
8:31 am

Good morning! Vacation dating, well I’ve never been on vacation alone so I wouldn’t have a clue. I know it’s possible, read stories of folks meeting while on vacation and some even got married. Never underestitmate the power of love! Some things are destined.

Hazel

June 3rd, 2013
8:54 am

This is not for me. For the single folks, I can see the potential of something good coming out of this though.

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June 3rd, 2013
9:08 am

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Leggs

June 3rd, 2013
9:18 am

Good morning!

disco

June 3rd, 2013
9:40 am

good morning y’all. is everyone on vacation today? what’s the deal? I’m all for vacation dating. you gotta pick fruit where it grows. if it grows on vacation then have at it.

SlimNu

June 3rd, 2013
9:46 am

Morning gang bangers ;-)

Bluzgirl

June 3rd, 2013
9:49 am

Morning everyone!!!

I’m not interested in long distance relationships…been there, done that. If I want to hook up while on vacation, then it will be a one time thing. I think it’s easier to get some while on vacation because you’re more relaxed.

disco

June 3rd, 2013
9:49 am

hey slim – I think the gangbangers are all on vacation. nobody here but us busters today. lol.

MissMoni

June 3rd, 2013
9:49 am

It seems as if the blog crew has a hangover. . .

-Leggs/Disco/Slim/Button How was your weekend? Any exciting dating adventures???

Bluzgirl

June 3rd, 2013
9:53 am

I feel as though I’m still trying to recover from a wild Saturday night!!! I feel old…LOL

abc

June 3rd, 2013
9:53 am

What do you have to lose? I dunno… dignity? Self-respect? A dating agenda for a vacation seems a non-vacation to me. I’m into down time — that’s what vacations are for.

disco

June 3rd, 2013
9:54 am

hey bluz – I don’t think it’s easier because you are more relaxed. I think it’s easier because you are incognito. lol.

moni – you got jokes on a Monday morning. dating adventures? exciting? child you must not know bout me. lol.

MissMoni

June 3rd, 2013
9:56 am

-Bluzgirl I’m definitely with you on being ANTI long distance relationships.

MissMoni

June 3rd, 2013
9:58 am

-Disco I am in a joking mood this morning. So just for you, who got cussed out this weekend???

Button

June 3rd, 2013
9:59 am

MissMoni – nothing exciting to report about the weekend or yesterday. Just a regular o’day with food, laughter and a lot of zzzzz.

Leggs

June 3rd, 2013
10:01 am

disco ~ I understand the concept of “where the fruit grows, go for it.”

I long realized my issue of not dating much rests solely upon my morals and ethics. Nothing wrong with picking fruit simply for the hell of picking fruit if you’re in that frame of mine. Many are, go for it.

Weekend was good in the fact that I missed all that mess Saturday on the roads. Went to Ru Sans Saturday evening and traffic was practically gone (thank goodness). My child wanted to go there, I tried it, not for me!

Dating adventures? I’m laughing because this guy is showing some kind of interest in me, but he’s either shy or obviously slow in his approach because all I get from him are one word texts (good morning)..oops, that’s 2 words and when he calls (seldom), it’s “heeeey.” I’ll said “hello, what’s going on” and he says nothing, then crickets….I wait…then I will say “what’s on your mind” and he said “nothing.” I said ok, well thanks for calling and telling me hello. He says “you’re welcome, I’ll talk with you later.”

Whew…ok!

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:03 am

Just a few things my mommie taught me that’s not failed me yet:

Ride with arm and hands in the window
Fasten you seatbelt
Walk on the inside of the sidewalk
Don’t hitchhike
Don’t pick up hitchhikers
Keep .10 to use the pay phone
Skirt down, panties up
Cross/close your legs
Don’t talk to strangers
No kissing on the first date
Don’t sit in cars with boys

and I’ll add

Don’t vacay, smash, loan money, pick up, take home, go home with….STRANGERS

I vacay with folks I know. That’s my boo, my girls or my fam. I’on know you like that!! I’m not feeling “overly” anything to sleep with someone I don’t know. We can tell what happened in Vegas cause there won’t be nothing to tell….lololol

Button

June 3rd, 2013
10:04 am

I’ve always wonder what it would be like for me to vacation alone. I just can’t see myself ever taking a vacation alone. let alone meeting someone while there. What are the chances? what’s so fun about it? However if need be, I’ll go with a vacation club, or tour group.

disco

June 3rd, 2013
10:06 am

moni – I didn’t even cuss anyone out this weekend. could be because I didn’t talk to many people. lol.

leggs – I’ll say he’s slow because I don’t believe in grown folks being shy.

Bluzgirl

June 3rd, 2013
10:07 am

disco – True…I guess that you can be whoever you want to be while on vacation and no one knows you, so no judgement if you pick someone up for a one nighter!

disco

June 3rd, 2013
10:09 am

C – your post made me think of drew Barrymore in riding in cars with boys.

button – I’ve embraced solo vacations. they never fail me. when I take trips with others it seems like my nerves always take a hit.

Bluzgirl

June 3rd, 2013
10:11 am

disco – I just watched that movie last weekend!

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:13 am

I have no qualms about meeting strangers while on vacay. Just long enough to exchange a few pleasantries, if their from a different culture, to learn a bit about it, being among different ethnicities, but that’s as far as it’s going. When the pleasantries are over, I’m heading to my bungalow/suite/hotel/condo and whomever is getting the heck on.

Shoot, they not might be well as in disease laden or psycho…IJS Too many tragedies of folks tryna do stuff sans judgment and loose and free, only to end up at the bottom of some ole nasty creek or body parts found, one piece at a time, a mile here and there. And you’re killer on to the next vacay victim.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:14 am

disco – Funny, that’s one movie I’ve yet to see. I did watch The Hobbit though, this weekend. LOVED it. Now I gotta watch The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

Button

June 3rd, 2013
10:14 am

disco- it’s just men but, I find is suspect that a person would go on vacation alone. I’m a scary cat, I used to freak out when I had to go out of town for business. I used to be extra cautious.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:14 am

they’re not their

daddy swiss

June 3rd, 2013
10:15 am

I believe the correct term is “vacation booty call.”

Howdy, folks!

Leggs

June 3rd, 2013
10:15 am

I with you, disco.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:16 am

My kid says “mama you just talk with ANYBODY!” Yep, I shole do, but I watching you the entire time…lololol

disco

June 3rd, 2013
10:16 am

C – in all fairness, the same could happen with any guy you meet, local or on vacation.

button – dang. why we gotta be suspect for vacationing alone? lol. usually i get the pity look or some folks will tell me how brave I am to travel alone. I’ve yet to get the “she’s shady” look but I’ll be on the look out for it. lol.

SlimNu

June 3rd, 2013
10:19 am

disco – Just the busters huh? lol I guess that makes me one too since i’m here rocking with ya’ll.

MissMoni – I ended up having a hangover Saturday….I knew I should’ve stayed away from the patron.

Only other exciting news I have is Friday when I went to go pay for my tag/ad valorem tag tax…I thought it was going to be well over $200. However, to my surprise I only ended up having to pay $20!!!! I was dancing a jig all in the car when I left the tag office. :-D

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:19 am

disco – True. That’s why I stay guarded…lol I will say though, on vacay, waaaay out in the middle of some nowhere, it just seems more tragic. You out there chillin and end up on ice for real…IJS

Button

June 3rd, 2013
10:22 am

disco – lol —-yep I give the pity look and the wtf look when someone say they’re going on or have been on vacation alone. I just smh. I look at vacation as an experience and time to relax and play. I don’t like playing solo or with strangers.

disco

June 3rd, 2013
10:24 am

last year on a cruise I met this lady. she had just got out of an abusive marriage and met a guy on the trip that literally had her all bubbly and smiley-faced and whatnot. I didn’t keep in touch with her and so I don’t know if she kept in touch with him but even if it (whatever it was) only lasted for the duration of the trip I’m sure she has to have fond memories of it.

MissMoni

June 3rd, 2013
10:25 am

-Slim I can see you dancing a jig, LOL! Sorry about the overdue on the Patron, you have to know when to say when with that, LOL!

-Celisea I’m the people person who will pretty much talk to anybody, but likewise I’m watching.

Bluzgirl

June 3rd, 2013
10:26 am

I went on my first solo vacation about 5 years ago and spent a week at Myrtle Beach. It was fabulous! I was a little nervous at first and wasn’t sure I would stay the entire week, but I had a blast! And…I was on a mission and had a one nighter with a cute marine…

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:27 am

I think if I were the type to vacation alone, I could hang out a bit with someone, but by nature I’m going to be guarded. I won’t invite them to my suite nor would hang out in theirs (I know me). I would though, sit at the bar and chat or do touristy type things. That’s about it though. They can call the room to ask if I’m ready but for everything we would do it would be “meet me there”, unless it’s with or in a crowd.

abc

June 3rd, 2013
10:27 am

Used to work on cruise ships. Every cruise had plenty of ho’s that came just to break it off with whoever. I’d hardly call that dating though. That’s just being a ho.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:29 am

I’d hardly call that dating though. That’s just being a ho.

I don’t think they’d call it dating either. Probably a “hookup?”

MM – yep

SlimNu

June 3rd, 2013
10:29 am

Keep .10 to use the pay phone

Celisea – I see you haven’t had to use a pay phone in quite some time. lol We were talking about that in my office last week. When is the last time you’ve actually seen a working pay phone? lol I told the story of when I was trying to get in contact with the ex. He was not answering my calls so I drove around looking for a pay phone so I could call him from another number. His azz shole answered the phone then and sounded dumbfounded when he heard it was me.

kimmie

June 3rd, 2013
10:30 am

Morning All!!

On topic – It depends on the situation! I know a couple that met on a cruise. The lady was traveling with some friends and the guy with a family reunion. They met, spent the entire cruise together and are now married with 3 adorable kids. My family used to go to a state convention with my dad every June on Hilton Head Island. All the folks you met connected with the convention were from GA, so if you started a relationship, it would not be too long distance if at all. And these are medical professionals you’re meeting too! I’ve actually known a fair share of folks that met at professional conventions & soro/frat conventions. Great way to meet!

You just never know where you might meet the one, so be open to the possibilities. Just be very careful! You want to take precautions and use common sense if you are at some exotic resort on the other side of the Earth, just like you would at home meeting a strangers.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:31 am

Slim – I almost typed in the equivalent for today’s time, being keep cell phone on and charged at all times…lol I kept it to exactly what mama said :)

disco

June 3rd, 2013
10:31 am

it’s okay button. whenever my friends or family go on and on about how they can’t roll solo I just tell them they’re scared. lol.

bluz – good for you.

Reio

June 3rd, 2013
10:33 am

Mornin all

Can’t really say much here. After leaving the Navy, as a single man, didn’t vacation much. I had seen most of everything in the east(Japan, China, Philippines, Thialand, Korea, The vast Pacific Ocean….), so, traveling was not a priority. Don’t see what meeting someone away from home could have done for me. Long distance makes no sense to me. What can you do to grow the relationship? And even if you hit it off, whose going to move? Somebody has to. And under what circumstances would one move? After matrimony for sure, but, short of that, what will it take to cause one to move. Too many concerns, decisions, choices… It has happened, I know, but on the face of it, it would appear that the odds are against it. Not for me.

Single & Happy

June 3rd, 2013
10:34 am

Hey All

Vacationing alone is the bomb, no stress no fuss, go when you want to, go where you want to, and do what you want to. Love have no boundaries, while most here seem to have a problem with going alone. there is so much in life that people miss because they don’t want to go alone. Lose your dignity, self respect? umm yea! Isn’t it funny how someone else is always the one to tell you about SELF RESPECT?

Yep found love on vacation and enjoyed it, will do it again.

Button, I see more women traveling alone than I see men, and from the responses I get in most countries they see more women than men, especially black american men.

Celisea

June 3rd, 2013
10:34 am

I haven’t traveled for the job in a minute (well I was supposed to but my guy in NC has been tied up the last couple of months..back to back seminars, meetings, etc. I figured I’d keep my mouth shut until he brings it back up :) ), but I’m always dumbfounded at how folks get down when you have to come back and work with them. I can see if it’s a REAL relation that’s gotten off the ground, but folks you’ve been eyeing, just BAM…smashed…and back to normal, like nothing ever happened.

I think I’m a prude…lolololol

Button

June 3rd, 2013
10:35 am

Solo tourist stand out more, believe me you’re being watched. That’s the scariest part. People are out there scanning for solo tourists, preying on their next victim.