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Text message cheating?

A reader wrote in to ask whether or not inappropriate texts can be considered cheating.  She found her live-in boyfriend’s text messages to another woman.  (Ok, when I say found, I actually mean snooped!) He insisted that they have never hooked up but admitted to a few dirty text messages.

Do you think that sending texts to people who are not your significant other automatically classifies as cheating?  What if the nature of the text messages is harmless and simple flirting?

Would it bother you if you discovered that the person you are dating had a habit of sending texts to women from his past?  Would you ask them to stop or dump them?

What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

448 comments Add your comment

Exiled

May 29th, 2013
6:41 am

Well….

Good morning MIA!

Lee

May 29th, 2013
7:16 am

Time for her to move on, since he already has. End of story

I already went though that with some guy not going to go though that again. i will leave so fast i will be nothing but a blur
Hate wasting time, one question why do people do that if you want other people just say so and move on. Games should only be played at the kitchen table with a game board.

Time to make the donuts…. good day all

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
7:41 am

GOOD Wednesday Morning MIA!!! *My friend Chef Judy was on Chopped last night on Food Network!* :-)

Text message cheating: If you’re texting something that you know you don’t want your S/O to read then maybe you shouldn’t be texting it (unless you’re planning a surprise party)! If they live together and he’s sending these “dirty” texts then who knows what he’s doing when she’s not around. Absolutely NO respect and she needs to keep it moving.

I’ve been there, done that with the inappropriate texts and it’s just outright disrespectful, plain and simple. If a person still feels the need to constantly communicate with their ex or some other person with dirty inappropriate texts then obviously they aren’t ready to move on with you.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
7:56 am

Text message cheating Um yea. If you look in my phone and we’re just dating or in a relationship, we won’t be anymore! If you look in my phone and we’re married, we have some serious issues and we need to do something about them. It’s not about anything to hide, it’s about respect, and privacy!

Alberta

May 29th, 2013
8:03 am

I would suggest that any woman who feels the need to check her boyfriend’s text messages, or emails, or cell calls – regardless of what information they contain – is already in a bad relationship.

Button

May 29th, 2013
8:12 am

Top of the morning to you!
Do you think that sending texts to people who are not your significant other automatically classifies as cheating? YES
What if the nature of the text messages is harmless and simple flirting? Still cheating in my book.
Would it bother you if you discovered that the person you are dating had a habit of sending texts to women from his past. It depends on the nature of the text. If it’s not platonic then I would have a problem.
Would you ask them to stop or dump them? I would ask him to stop it if he doesn’t then I would leave the relationship.
What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating? Not sure.

Hazel

May 29th, 2013
8:18 am

I don’t consider it cheating but it exactly isn’t healthy either. I will agree with what MissMoni said at the end. “then obviously they aren’t ready to move on with you.” The person isn’t ready and so you shouldn’t waste your time.
I personally would NOT want my partner to text anyone from his past.. or even be friends with someone he had a romantic relationship with in the past.

Exiled

May 29th, 2013
8:36 am

Hello Alberta!

Button

May 29th, 2013
8:39 am

I’m not an advocate for snooping but sometimes you have to snoop to see what is really going on. How else will you know if everything is on the up and up. I crack the code on my ex’s cell phone, listened to his voicemail and found out he was up to no good. I already had a gut feeling and the vm confirmed it.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
8:46 am

Button, if you think you have to snoop, why not just move on!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
8:58 am

For me, it’s founded on disrespecting what we have together. It is extremely inappropriate to send flirty/dirty/wishful/hoping/just playing/trying to see if the water is warm/smart alecky sexual texts to another. It’s just wrong!!! While you’re texting these messages your brain is working on the “possibility” leaving you smiling and anticipating. Cheating starts with “anticipation” before anything actually happens. Why even bother? Is it worth it? If you just want to exchange some harmless flirty texts with a woman or man, role play and send them to your SO. Act like strangers and get your juices flowing. Good grief, too many want to step out just for the sake of stepping out on the pretense it’s all so innocent. BULLISHT!

Hello Alberta.

Good morning, everyone!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:01 am

“I’m not an advocate for snooping but sometimes you have to snoop to see what is really going on.” – No, you don’t. If you too have problems communicating and his eyes are going all over the room while you’re asking questions, he’s trying to flip the script, or even dodging your questions telling you you’re insecure, delusional or crazy, you already have your answers. No need to snoop.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
9:11 am

Good Morning Leggs! You hit the nail on the head in your posts!!! Some things are simply self-explanatory.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
9:16 am

Morning All!
Do you think that sending texts to people who are not your significant other automatically classifies as cheating? Not automatically; it depends on the texts.
What if the nature of the text messages is harmless and simple flirting? Harmless???
Would it bother you if you discovered that the person you are dating had a habit of sending texts to women from his past. It depends. By women, do you mean ex-girlfriends?
Would you ask them to stop or dump them? If he had a habit of flirting or inappropriate behavior via text, then I have no use for him.
What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating? None, unless you are trying to date them.

Moni & Leggs (8:58)- I agree with you two. If it is something you would not want your S/O to know about or to do, then you shouldn’t be doing it either.

Button- I have snooped before. I thought the same thing, that I “had” to snoop to know what was going on. My ex would lie about the weather, so real discussion was not an option. If I questioned him, he would hide behind patient confidentiality. Eventually, I did snoop and found out he was sleeping with patients. I got rid of him! Would I snoop now? No; if I have a strong reason to believe you are stepping out, then I am just going to go with my gut and hit the road. I don’t have time for that. If I wanted to be a private detective, I’d get a license and make money at it. I need to have trust, honesty and reliability in a relationship.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
9:17 am

Didn’t realize my post was that long. I’ll take my blog ticket and go sit in the corner for five minutes…

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:23 am

good morning y’all. I don’t care what a text message says at the end of the day it’s just words on a screen. in my book words on a screen don’t equal cheating.

Alberta – some folks are just nosey and are always going to pry and snoop. doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad relationship. just means the other person oughtta know they got with a nosey person. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

May 29th, 2013
9:27 am

Morning
What’s the difference between texting something inappropriate and actually saying it. If it would be inappropriate to say it, then it would be inappropriate to text it. Also, if a woman snoops through my stuff, then it’s splitsville.

Robert

May 29th, 2013
9:28 am

“Text message cheating” – REAL MEN DO NOT SEND TEXT MESSAGES

Texting was made for a Woman and is not for a Man. Only little boys who were raised by their mother send text messages. I will not send you silly little text messages all day. I will pick-up the phone and call you. Communication challenged men who thinks texting is “cool” are immature and child like.

I have heard lots of women tell stories about men who text them all the time but can not hold a decent conversation. Ladies, if you man is addicted to his phone and text’s all the time find yourself a real Grown Man. I hate to see couples sitting together and both of them are playing with their phones instead of talking to each other. if you are on a date with me please leave your phone at home. I can find plenty of things to talk about.

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:29 am

leggs – I’ve heard that argument before. the it starts in your head. yep. I get it but are we going to hold folks accountable for having fantasies? if that’s the case a whole lot of folks are cheating because folks tend to fantasize about what they can’t have, don’t have, wish they had. I, for one, don’t spend a whole lot of time fantasizing about what I do have.

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:32 am

robert – no comment (though I really have a whole bunch of comments). lol.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
9:36 am

-Disco What if it’s words on a screen about what they did last night and what they’re planning to do tomorrow??? Those types of text messages are the set up for the MAIN EVENT! Let’s get ready to RUMBLE, LOL!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:39 am

Good morning, MissMoni.

Button ~ if you have to “crack” the code on his phone, that speaks volumes to me. Not that it matters, but if you have such a high level of distrust why not get out of the relationship. I realize some stay in the relationship just to prove they’re right before walking away by snooping, but hell, you already knew. Why stoop to stalking, holding hostage his phone?

Gotta love the self-imposed penalties (lol).

“good morning y’all. I don’t care what a text message says at the end of the day it’s just words on a screen” – You’re absolutely right, disco. Just words on a screen. Words on a sheet of paper, words in an email, words left on windshield all asking for a rendeveous. Just words asking if she knows how to blow his whistle, just words with him asking can he part her jewel case, just words asking to meet up. Yep, those words have powerful intent, whether it’s embarked upon or not. Words are powerful and should not be diminished feeling they’re insignificant and meaningless.

I get what you’re saying and, of course, you’re entitled to it. I just disagree that they’re mere words on a screen.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:40 am

DreamsM ~ I certainly agree with your 9:27.

Robert

May 29th, 2013
9:40 am

“(Ok, when I say found, I actually mean snooped!)”

Women always talk about “trust” and “respect” but will do whatever they feel is neccessary to find out the “truth” including snooping around their Man’s phone, pants pockets, wallet, etc.. Let me be very clear on this subject…If you feel you have to “snoop” on me just to prove your point I will do both of us a favor and will not see you ever again. You will trust and respect me if we are in a committed relationship. That is a fact. I do not play.

Button

May 29th, 2013
9:41 am

Single/Leggs/MsAtl – now you know some people are GOOD at deception! Those are the folks I’m talking about. I have a huge problem with fully trusing a person and I haven’t snooped in years. now I’m not saying I will never snoop again but right now I’m not, not bc I don’t have a reason but I just haven’t. I had the itchy finger several times to get my S?O cell phone and snoop while he’s not in the room but I always decline. Also it has nothing to do with poor communication, we know some people who will talk your ear off and still be up to no good.

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:47 am

moni – yeah. I get it. folks play games though. chicks send stuff hoping the other chick will find it. it’s no different than the old leave behind an earring ploy. lol. men send stuff to prove to themselves they can still pull if they have to plus if they get a nude pic back it’s like a trophy. now I’m not saying it’s always innocent, all I’m saying is that texting isn’t cheating. cheating is cheating. of course, what constitutes cheating varies. some folks get caught up in emotional cheating and all that. me? cheating is the act itself. nothing else really matters.

Button

May 29th, 2013
9:47 am

So far everyone in here is saying they’ve NEVER snooped except for me and MsAtl?

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
9:47 am

Robert- So you’ve said on many occassions. I respectfully disagree with you about “real men” not sending text messages and little boys raised by their mothers sending text messages. I, for one, find it a pleasant surprise to pick up my phone and see a sweet text message. No one is asking for texts all day long. You say you would just pick up the phone and call, but I wouldn’t want you calling me all day long either. It is not always convenient to call, yet you are thinking about that person and want them to know. I agree with you on putting the phone away while on a date. If you are on a date, your attention should be to the person in front of you, not your phone.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:49 am

disco ~ nothing wrong with having fantasies in your head. The problem occurs when you let them seep out into the real world and talk to real people about them instead of your SO. Sure, still a fantasy since it didn’t materialize, but you still shouldn’t be talking about them with folk you’re hoping to make it happen and they’re not who you are married to, living with, or dating. Once it leaves your head and it’s voiced with your lips….Houston, we have a problem!

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:51 am

leggs – yep I get it with all the different words. at the end of the day though, it boils down to “don’t talk about it, be about it”. all the inviting love notes or raunchy text messages in the world don’t add up to cheating IF there is no actual cheating involved.

button – I snoop but not the going through the pockets or checking the phone or rifling through drawers snooping. I’m the cyber snoop. I check property records, dmv records, vital statistics, etc. I also admit to glancing at the contents in the car console but I only look at what’s in plain sight. I don’t go through people’s stuff. not my thing.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
9:51 am

So you have a woman or man that’s a situation away from stepping out on you, translation: inappropriately texting another. This is not rocket science, yeah it’s wrong and a definite dealbreaker, no if ans or buts about it. I’m not even going into the speech of shoe on the other foot to know it’s wrong or if it’s something in reverse, that you’d have a problem with, blah blah blah. Folks already know. Just like a little kid that checks to see if mommie is coming before stealing a cookie, it’s their conscious. Folks play dumb, but trust me, that’s a bullcrap. Don’t even waste your time…K.I.M.

I’m a proponent of good will never be overcome of evil…period. And that’s with everything in life. Having said that, you don’t have to snoop, anything done in the dark (i.e. sending sexy texts when you mate or spouse ain’t or can’t look), will be brought to the light. Eyes opened, ears to the ground and it will reveal itself.

Lastly…..later for those cats talking “well, if we ain’t married” or “we just sleeping together” or “nothing was ever made official” blah blah blah. I call those dudes the low down and the dirty. You know dang well if we’re interacting and “call ourselves seeing one another”, it ain’t cool texting, sexting, venting, etc etc etc with another. Yeah, if you’re doing anything indecent, whether it’s sly subtle or overt and up in your face, it’s a dealbreaker. I don’t do the whole “we didn’t have a conversaton about being exclusive” crap. It’s disrespectful and indecent.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:52 am

Button ~ I’ve never snooped. Never checked a wallet, pockets, picked up cellular device when it was ringing, or looking at text when the texting chime beeped, never followed him, never been in the other room with a glass to the wall trying to hear what he’s saying, never spied, etc.

Not my cup of tea.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
9:54 am

now you know some people are GOOD at deception! and some folks are just more gullible than others

REAL MEN DO NOT SEND TEXT MESSAGES roflmao

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 29th, 2013
9:55 am

Morning family….. Why would anyone ever give up plausible deniability but putting your bizness in a text message???? Don’t they understand that once you hit send, it’s out there FOREVER!?!?!?!?

disco

May 29th, 2013
9:56 am

C – I laughed at “we didn’t have the conversation”. boy that’s a get out of jail free card right there. LOL!!!

leggs – re spying. for some reason your post made me think of a dude who once told me I would interrogate someone to death. lol. naw. I won’t snoop but I’ll question you up both sides and down the middle.

Button

May 29th, 2013
9:58 am

snooping is snooping whether it’s cell, pocket, closet, drawer, the cabinet in the bathroom, scaning the whole room for that matter, driving records, property records, etc etc etc.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
9:59 am

“…all the inviting love notes or raunchy text messages in the world don’t add up to cheating IF there is no actual cheating involved.”

So, are you saing “actual cheating involved” rests upon sexual contact? There are so many levels of cheating. I do realize how you feel about certain things by your posts, but are you saying a person can say anything, hint at anything, ask for anything, but it matters not if the deal isn’t closed?

What about respecting the union you have with another and not sexually playing “games” with another with or w/o the act being consummated.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:01 am

“…we know some people who will talk your ear off and still be up to no good.”

Button ~ they’re usually guilty too. You don’t need all that talking to convince me you’re innocent. The more you talk, the more you’re suspect (lol). Damned if you do, damned if you don’t (lololol).

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:01 am

disco – You know how those dudes are that play games and do the cake and icreaming…nuh uh When it’s time to get it, the getting is good, but when it’s time to take responsibility, they trrrry and default to ummm, errr, aaaah I didn’t know we were dating :shock: Get on away from me with that. lolol

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:02 am

Real men certainly text. Heck, many want to carry on an entire convo via text instead of holding a phone to their ear.

Button

May 29th, 2013
10:04 am

REAL MEN DO NOT SEND TEXT MESSAGES huh?

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:04 am

Cheating is cheating is cheating….whether it’s a situation “about” to happen or “ut oh, we done did it now.” I would leave a dude standing there still talking. I’on even wanna hear it!!! lololol Like I said, the first sign of seeing anything, Imma ask. You say you cheated, I’m out. If utter and butter and stutter, I’m out. You take the fifth, I’m out.

Sometimes you have to let folks know, you can pull that on Qi-Qi or Boomshakalaka, but ummmm I don’t think so!

Okay, I’m not reaaally feeling as militant as I might sound :)

DreamsMaterialize

May 29th, 2013
10:05 am

Texting was made for a Woman and is not for a Man.
Actually, I think the military was the first to use texting by radiotelegraphy around 1900. No women in the military back then.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
10:08 am

-Dreams Good point! :-D

disco

May 29th, 2013
10:09 am

leggs – I know re so many levels of cheating. of course, to me, none of those other levels matter to me. shrugs. heck, if that were the case I’d be standing up accusing men of cheating on me because they spend too much time with their kids. lol. am I saying that a guy can say/do anything? not in the least. just saying I’m not going to get myself all worked up behind a text message.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:11 am

“I won’t snoop but I’ll question you up both sides and down the middle.” – I’m right there. The cop/lawyer/forensic speacliast genes in my family’s genes will be front and center (lolol). Only thing missing is that big arse white light in the ceiling beaming down on you!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:11 am

I will not send you silly little text messages all day. I will pick-up the phone and call you. Communication challenged men who thinks texting is “cool” are immature and child like.

I actually get what Rob is saying. I agree. Really, I like his entire 9:28. It’s a bit antiquated, but I get the point he’s making. My boo ain’t really into all that texting either. Honestly no dude I’ve dated (as in for real, like a for real relationship), was into that. I like the old fashion beating on the chest attitude. I can’t lie, I’m suspect of a dude that only or mostly communicate via text. I instantly think you’re tryna hide something or work me in rotation…lololol IJS

Robert

May 29th, 2013
10:11 am

MsAtl -” I respectfully disagree with you about “real men” not sending text messages”

We come from 2 different generations so it’s OK to agree to disagree. My generation (35-45) are less incline to use technology. When I was a young man my Father would restrict how long you could talk on the phone, and those attitudes are a part of me. Men who grow-up with other Men as a role model will not act like their Mother. You wonder why some Man act like Real Men and other don’t? Because a Real Man taught them what is appropriate and not appropriate behavior for a Man. There are too many Men who grow-up without a Fatherly figure to give them advice and show them how to be a Man. The first rule of life is self protection and your self image is very important. Excessive texting, lewd pictures and other digital content can expose yourself to subjective situations without clearly defining what is the objective. I take no pictures or send text’s. Your generation will feel the affect of too much exposure with little or no benefits. That is a fact.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:12 am

“I’d be standing up accusing men of cheating on me because they spend too much time with their kids…”

Alrighty then, In that case you’ll probably deserve standing there by yourself…ijs. You went left, but I get what you’re saying..I guess (lol).

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:14 am

Nice post, Robert!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:15 am

When I was a young man my Father would restrict how long you could talk on the phone, and those attitudes are a part of me

It was not limited to men, or rather boys at that time. In my household, it was the law…for everybody. You had curfews….dating, phone conversations (how long and not past a certain time), and company curfew. By 10:00 they needed to be heading to the busstop or their car, but they better not be still sitting in the living room…or any other room for that matter. Oh, and company was resricted to the living room ONLY!!

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
10:18 am

We come from 2 different generations so it’s OK to agree to disagree. My generation (35-45) Hmm no wonder we seem to be left behind, I’m 51 all into technology, part of my job and the way of the world, and I grew up with a father in the house and know how to be a real man, not act like one.

No one can speak for anyone else, only for you.

Button

May 29th, 2013
10:19 am

Back in the day any man who spent time talking on the phone outside of business were labled as a sissy, bc talking on the phone was ladies stuff. Now we’ve fastfoward to texting as ladies stuff, who knew?

Button

May 29th, 2013
10:22 am

give the man a bullhorn to communicate or better yet a pigeon to carry the note/letter.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
10:23 am

Robert- We come from the same generation. I also do not send pictures of myself and would not want to open a text and see anyone else’s private parts. I also was restricted to how long I could talk on the phone and my mother would clamp down on the disconnect button in a heartbeat if you did not hang up when you were supposed to.
Still, I see nothing wrong or feminine about sending the occasional text message and it has not a thing to do with whether or not you grew up with a fatherly figure. I also would not put anything in a text message that I would not want to see on the internet somewhere. I am amazed at the level of stupidity I see on FaceBook and Twitter where folks think anything and everything should be posted with no thought to the fact that it is permanent.

disco

May 29th, 2013
10:24 am

leggs – why did I hear old boy going “you know you done effed up right?” – lol.

robert – really? just really? texting is not a male/female thing. it’s also not hereditary at least not yet. lol. I can just see someone conducting a study telling us that some of us are born with a texting gene.

leggs – I know. I go left sometimes. still, the whole concept of cheating is personal. time/money spent with a mistress, time/money spent with kids, whatever. it’s time/money not spent on me. lol.

single – my main man. lol.

Robert

May 29th, 2013
10:25 am

@DreamsMaterialize – The Military created lots of things we find useful today which include radiotelegraphy, the internet and GPS. Some may argue that today Women are 10 times more likely to use the internet (shopping, banking, etc.) and find their way to a shopping mall via GPS.

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
10:25 am

So according to Robert, texting is for chics or little boys, but spending all day on a blog is for Real Grown Men?

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
10:27 am

Swiss why you say what we all thought (LOL)

disco

May 29th, 2013
10:29 am

single – because swiss is a real man. lol.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:31 am

Careful…not all of us thought that, nor believe in brow beating folks that don’t agree.

Y’all leave Rob alone, he’s entitled to speak his thoughts. Y’all kills me. Whether I agree or not, I see no difference in what he’s saying versus the other gang of folks that all agree. It’s just that y’all don’t agree….lol He’s entitled though to say what he feels.

Let’s not go back to the not so long ago days of tryna make folks all speak along the same lines and say the same thing. Debates? Cool. He’s entitled, to speak just like everyone else does. Oodles and snoodles and all snugs, hugs, in a rug…. Oh, or folks can’t post cause one post is too long…too funny. Well, we had several “lengthy” posts today. Hope that won’t block folks from posting.

Coffee gone, hashbrowns (with onions :) ) are done, getting to work.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:32 am

Celisea ~ in my household it was the law…15 min. Sometimes, heck a lot of times, Mama would take the phone with her to work. Yep! And, when she didn’t, she would put a cylinder lock preventing us from dailing. I tell you, child abuse back in the day was no joke (lololol).

“…still, the whole concept of cheating is personal. time/money spent with a mistress, time/money spent with kids, whatever. it’s time/money not spent on me.” – When you put it like that, disco, I can only agree. It definitely is personal. What constitutes cheating isn’t viewed the same by everyone. Thanks for put your foot on my back stopping my roll down hill….

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:32 am

I forgot…

BBL…. :mrgreen:

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:33 am

Hey Leggs, And if all else failed, you had a hole torn out of your frame…and kept on living :)

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:34 am

Better yet, how about participating and tossing in your thoughts…ON THE TOPIC!! NOT sitting on the sidelines for an opportunity to jump in and cause trouble. IJS

K…now I’m gone to work :)

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
10:34 am

No one’s brow beating, C. Just pointing out the disconnect between stated views and actual actions, which, I believe we’re all entitled to do, as well. ;-)

SlimNu

May 29th, 2013
10:35 am

I recall I used to try to act like I was sleep and not still on the phone, whenever my mom would come in the room. “I KNOW you aren’t still on that phone?!!!”"” No ma’am…lol

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
10:36 am

Celisea- Yes, he is entitled to his opinions and entitled to disagree. However, I feel a ping when the “statistics” roll out as in “women are 10 times more likely” or that a man who texts is not a real man. I know plenty of real men who text. I also know men who don’t text that are far from what I would classify as a real man. Good conversation though…

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:36 am

Or, on the phone in my room, at 3:00 a.m. and my daddy is coming down the hall… :shock: (you gonna get it now)…lol How about I hit mute and put the phone under me and pretended to be sleep! Talk about scared….lololol Ahhhh yes, the memories

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
10:37 am

Ahem ROBERT said he speaks for a whole generation, not anyone else, so they are not just his thoughts and views!

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
10:38 am

Celisea- You try that in my childhood home and the twisted phone cord would be a dead giveaway. Lol

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:38 am

MsAtl – My post wasn’t aimed at you. I thought you post was insightful and a nice throwback at Rob’s. That’s not what I’m talking about. What you posting is how and what makes the blog flow.

Robert

May 29th, 2013
10:38 am

@daddy swiss – “but spending all day on a blog is for Real Grown Men?”

I really enjoy sharing my points of views on this blog. I usually try atleast twice a week especially when I am traveling and have time between flights to check-in. Today I am traveling from NYC to ATL.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:38 am

MsAtl – I don’t know HOW I didn’t get caught but I was sweating bullets. That was a “one time” thing…lolol

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:41 am

So according to Robert, texting is for chics or little boys, but spending all day on a blog is for Real Grown Men?

DAYMUM, I should have thought of that with my snarkiness (lol). Good one, swiss, real good one!

SlimNu

May 29th, 2013
10:41 am

Celisea – When I got in high school, I had the privilege to have my own line and my own answering machine. If I was on punishment, ma dukes would take my whole phone system out. Little did she know, I had a spare under my bed ;-)

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
10:43 am

Slim – Having your own line still came with house rules…lolol I didn’t have one but I had a couple of cousins that did. Funny, how the rules back then were sort of “universal.” And yes, taking the phone back then can be considered equivalent to taking our kid’s cells (their only lifeline…they say), or taking their car keys.

Not the spare phone….lololol

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:44 am

Yep, my frame got tore up a lot.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:45 am

Ummm, that doesn’t sound right, but my 10:43 goes with Celisea’s 10:33. Typed words can be so misleading!

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
10:47 am

Leggs — I was about to say… Do tell… do tell…. lol

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
10:50 am

Morning Gang!

Hey Daddy Swiss!!! Good to read ya!

On topic- Sigh…shrugs… Text, phone call, email, letter, carrier pigeon, it’s all a form of communication. A way to facilitate what you want to do. No it does not prove anything actually happened, but best believe if you’re trying to prove something in a court of law, phone records, emails, text records can be supenoed.

Some folks like to keep ish up and make the other jealous, keep games going and they get off on that type of stuff. Have at it. I’m a grown A woman married to a grown A man, but if you two like that mess I love it for ya!

My thing is – why be stupid? If you’re not up to anything, why have stuff out there that could cause a person to think otherwise unless that’s what you want, for the other person to find out so they will break it off with you? Oh well, I guess I just don’t get it. But I cannot STAND a STUPID man!

I never have had the time or inclination to snoop thru a dude’s things. If I ever got the feeling something was up, I just KIM, really. I never even asked or had a conversation with a guy about it, I just left. Did I ever make a mistake and think a dude did something when really he didn’t? Perhaps, but I highly doubt it. If I did, it’s still okay I left. Remember I can’t stand stupid, so if anything, I left him for being so.

I am SO GLAD I don’t have to deal with such ish in my relationship.

disco

May 29th, 2013
10:53 am

hey kimmie!!!!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
10:54 am

“But I cannot STAND a STUPID man!”

-Hi Kimmie, that’s the jackpot phrase for today!!! :-)

-Slim/Leggs/Celisea Growing up the phone was my lifeline! My mom teases me now that I should have a phone growing out of my ear for the amount of time I spent on it as a teenager. I too had curfews and also my Mama would pick up and LISTEN in at random and you better not be saying something you’re not supposed to. I wasn’t allowed to talk to boys on the phone til I was 15, but of course I would sneak and get on 3-way with the boy and a girl and he knew that if my Mama picked up that he needed to instantly be quiet! LOL, good times!!! :-D

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:54 am

Celisea/SlimNu ~ you guys were living large having your own phone line (lol). Heck, we didn’t even have a tv in our room let alone a phone. I can see that yellow phone hanging on the kitchen wall to this day with the lock on it and the empty spot on Mama’s nightstand where the phone should be but noooooooo, it’s in her purse at work. I tell ya, trauma for a kid!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:56 am

Hi daddy swiss. How are things going. Little growing nicely, pinching your heart each second of the day? Then she’s doing an excellent job w/o even knowing it.(lol).

disco

May 29th, 2013
10:56 am

leggs – trauma???? I was trying to keep quiet and not put my “poverty” on blast but how bout at least y’all had a phone. lol. we probably only had one 50% of the time. lol.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
10:57 am

-Leggs Your Mama had the best idea ever!!! Glad my Mama didn’t think of that 1, LOL!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
10:58 am

carrier pigeon – dayum, I forgot that line of communication…good one, kimmie (lol). No need to go back to The Pony Express because anyone horny back them would have gotten over it by time the recepient got the message.

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
10:58 am

Afternoon, all.

Heeeeey, Swiss!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:00 am

I can see that yellow phone hanging on the kitchen wall to this day with the lock on it and the empty spot on Mama’s nightstand where the phone should be but noooooooo, it’s in her purse at work. I tell ya, trauma for a kid

This is hi larious to me….lol She took the phone to work with her…lolol Well, with eight kids in the house 5 or 6 might have been down with sneaking to go against the rules, but you can believe the others would be bumping their gums as soon as mama hit the door…lolol

Leggs – I had a couple of cousins that had their on phones in their room around the age of 16, one of these cousins also got her first car (spanking brand new honda prelude) at 16 as well. I must say, she was a good kid though. Shoot, there were 8 kids and 2 adults, we didn’t have it like that. Mama and daddy had a floor modeled tv in their room and the kids had a black and white (with pliers) 13 inch in the den….lolol

I love the fact that we all lived along the same lines as it relates to rules and growing up, yet live in different parts of the country. Those old folks back then didn’t play that. Nuh uh!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:01 am

Annnnnd, I’m out…for awhile :mrgreen:

BBL…..for real this time…lololol

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
11:02 am

“But I cannot STAND a STUPID man!”

Yo guys must have been looking at the pops today (LOL)

DreamsMaterialize

May 29th, 2013
11:02 am

Women are 10 times more likely to use the internet (shopping, banking, etc.) and find their way to a shopping mall via GPS.
Robert Your initial post didn’t speak to how the technology was used, but to what it was “made” for. You said, “texting was made for women…” Man, you had me thinking you were on the original Wireless Texting Objectives and Planning Committee. lol

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
11:05 am

Howdy, kimmie. A big GO DAWGS!!! to you!

Leggs — All’s well with the Swiss Family [Robinson]. Just busy as heyal w/ work & the little munchkin. And yes, little Swiss Mochette had daddy wrapped around her little finger. She’s the cutest little baby in the history of babies. (Not that I’m biased or anything)

ITL– Hate to break it to you, but it’s not afternoon yet. It only feels that way. Hang in there, boo. (And GO DAWGS!!!! to you, too!)

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
11:06 am

** has — not had.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:08 am

Just heard on the radio “Condolences to Andre 3000″…

The DJ will speak on it after break…wonder what that’s about.

Durty Burd ( Texting is for women)

May 29th, 2013
11:09 am

Good Morning!

I agree with Robert unless texting is a part of your work function that constant hourly form of communication is for women. Dudes who use texting as a form of personal communication and is constantly texting hourly is lacking some verbal communication skills.

Snooping what does the confirmation do for you when u are already know the person is lyin? KIM

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
11:11 am

but of course I would sneak and get on 3-way with the boy and a girl and he knew that if my Mama picked up that he needed to instantly be quiet! LOL, good times!! – Yes indeed.

We had a lot of party lines and listened in on many sordid convos.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
11:13 am

Celisea- I heard that his mother was found dead in her home.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:13 am

Light/Swiss – Sic em, Woof Woof!!! LOL!!!

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
11:14 am

“but of course I would sneak and get on 3-way with the boy and a girl”

How did I miss this? Man, I’m really off my game…

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:14 am

MsAtl – Thanks. So sad.

disco

May 29th, 2013
11:15 am

text messaging stays up on the chopping block. me? I don’t text. I have them blocked on my phone simply because they annoy me. guess I just got one “send to everybody in your contact list” greeting too many. countless times I’ve met new guys, given them my number, don’t hear from them, run into them again and they tell me they sent me a text. I just shake my head and tell myself it wasn’t meant to be. I’m also not on facebook. one of my little cousins had a baby and I requested a pic. that child told me to go on facebook to see the baby. puh-leeze. I told her I’d see the baby when the baby was big enough to come see me. lol. she emailed me some pics.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
11:15 am

and the kids had a black and white (with pliers) 13 inch in the den… :lol: :lol: :lol: That’s what I’m talking about. Don’ forget about the foil on the tip of the rabbit ears.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:16 am

I too was able to receive calls starting at the age of 15. My mama made no quams nor hid the fact that she just might pick up from another phone in the house and listen. I’d already prewarned…lol

Also, we got the brakes beat off of us if we called (as in initiated a phone call) a boy. Noooooo, that was a no no in my house. HE had to call YOU, or y’all didn’t talk.

Of course, I think my mama did a dang great job instilling in us principles and a back bone and low tolerance…lol Naturally, I had to learn a bit later in life how to relax some of what she instilled. But much of it, I still hold and keep with. It’s what made me the woman I am today :mrgreen:

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:16 am

Andre’s mom was in her early sixties.

SlimNu

May 29th, 2013
11:17 am

you guys were living large having your own phone line

Leggs – I lucked out because the house we moved into already had that extra line in the room that ended up being mine. It took my mom a while to be okay to even have the line turned on in my room. lol

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:18 am

I’m feeling all nostalgic now…

I remember fighting over watching The Flinstones (love love love Hanna Barbera cartoons) versus The Monsters and The Addams Family….lololol I was the baby so I tended to loose…unless my mama was there to intervene…lol

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
11:21 am

Hello MissMoni! :)

Recap ….Ms Button shows signs of insecurity…U should be getting to a stage in your life where you trust GOD and the wisdom/intuition that GOD gave you in order for you to make a decision.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
11:22 am

I love the fact that we all lived along the same lines as it relates to rules and growing up, yet live in different parts of the country. Those old folks back then didn’t play that. Nuh uh!!

EXACTLY. And all that we experienced growing up helped to mold us into who we are today.

Celisea ~ I was the baby too, but I grew up being bossy and got my way A LOT! Heck with my brothers and sister wanted something they knew Mama would say absolutely no too, I was sent in as the negotiator. Many times I did shift her mind and others I was threatened if I didn’t leave her room (lol).

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
11:23 am

-Daddy Swiss I was much too young at the time for that kind of 3-way. You know I was speaking of good ole Southern Bell, LOL!!!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:23 am

Wow, you guys got me thinking back to those days! Funny how some “house rules” are almost universal!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
11:24 am

Hi Durty! Do you want to talk on 3-way???

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
11:24 am

Dudes who use texting as a form of personal communication and is constantly texting hourly is lacking some verbal communication skills. Man or woman thats talking or texting hourly may need to get a life IMO

there’s nothing wrong with texting talking, or what ever you chose to do, just like everything else in life you have to learn how to balance things,

Yea Disco, you didn’t miss out anything with those guys.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
11:24 am

love your 7:56 Single & Happy! the one time i snooped, one time, my life turns upside down. never again! i have no desire at all to look at another man’s cellphone etc. to date, i have not once looked at either of my son’s phones. why? because i know 100% i will see or read something i don’t like. so why do it?

and the man i’m dating or married to better text me throughout the day LOL! i love attention. yes, Beautiful is a attention’whore LOL! but for the record, i never have a problem with my man not texting or calling or not giving enough attention. texting is fun. i enjoy it, especially from someone i truly want to hear from.

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
11:25 am

MissMoni — From my experience, those good ole Southern Belles are often the most likely to go in on a 3-way.

Ahh, that’s more like it. Getting back in mid-season form… lol

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:25 am

And all that we experienced growing up helped to mold us into who we are today.

Bears repeating And we’re happy about how we turned out.

Leggs – Me too…I was bossy. My brother (right over me in age) and my sister that passes are the two I’d be home with afterschool. Man, if I got my way say a time mama was home, I paid dearly for it later…lol I got beat up by them and often…lol Not anything brutal, sibling rivalry.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
11:26 am

-Daddy Swiss Well you know what the Southern Belles say, it isn’t polite to kiss and tell, LOL!!!

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 29th, 2013
11:27 am

Does anyone else here think that the dating rule book has gotten waaaaaaaaay to complicated….. So many effin’ “rules” ! All of the lines in the sand, all of the absolute dealbreakers…… Its no wonder folks can’t / don’t stay together……

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
11:27 am

What MissMoni in a 3-way….Well she was in the army,where they tend to be all they can be or is that the marines… :wink: Army strong

The AJC has some great stories of quite a few young ladies losing a lot of weight. Those are great stories.

disco

May 29th, 2013
11:28 am

speaking of nostalgia. I was in the store yesterday looking at the overpriced bottles of lotion when I saw a giant bottle of queen helene’s cocoa butter lotion for like $3. now that brought back memories. if the bottle wasn’t so big I would have bought it on GP. lol.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
11:28 am

Hi everyone! Long time, no chat! :-) I just got back in the office after being out since Friday. Nice, long weekend with a trip up to Marquette, MI.

I haven’t had a chance yet to read everyone’s responses. Texting may not quite be cheating, but it sure is close and can lead to it. I had the situation with the Ex where he was texting one girl and facebook messaging another one. The Facebook one was pretty bad. I definitely did snoop with him because I didn’t trust him. Don’t ask me why I stayed with him when I didn’t trust him. He proved me right, although I never found that he actually did cheat. He may have and I just don’t know about it. I sure was suspicious. I’m afraid that I’ll feel the need to snoop with a future mate just because of the hell I was put through with the last one. I hope I’ll be able to get over the trust issue.

Back to trying to catch up…

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:29 am

Kids these days need those old rules we lived by growing up. I know mine will!!

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
11:31 am

Swiss….You are going to have to go ease on the sexual talk, some of the ladies are practicing absinence so we need to engage them in thought provoking conversation.

Uh Yes MissMoni I want to engage in 3-way! :) Oops!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:34 am

Does anyone else here think that the dating rule book has gotten waaaaaaaaay to complicated

Court – It’s only complicated if you make it that way. Just conform and you won’t have any problems!!!!LOL

I am kind of kidding. Really I’ve found it only gets complicated when you try to decieve and play games. If you’re straight up about what you want and show others respect, it is not complicated or hard to figure out at all.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:35 am

Does anyone else here think that the dating rule book has gotten waaaaaaaaay to complicated

Nope, you better have rules…that or the okie doke. If folks were more stand-up and honest, then yeah relax the rules. Folks headed to their sunset years still tryna have rotation…IJS

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
11:35 am

Kimmie my sister once asked me if I didn’t want my kids to have it better than I did, I replied NO, I don’t think I had it that bad, and the the things I went through then make me the person I am today, and I’m doing damn good. So I could only wish the same for them!

disco

May 29th, 2013
11:38 am

hey bluz!!!

kimmie – since we still on parenting and you brought up rules, which are your die-hards and which do you not sweat? me? I had zero tolerance for picky eaters but my son never ever had a set bed time or a general daily curfew. didn’t need it. I knew kids that would sit up all night if you let them but mine wasn’t one of them. I had a friend who had a strict 8pm bedtime for her kids. I was like “IT’S SUMMER. the sun is still shining”. she didn’t care. she said by 8 she needed the break. lol.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
11:38 am

Court it’s not that complicate, remember everyone is NOT looking for the same thing in a relationship. It’s all about what you’re looking for.

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
11:40 am

“some of the ladies are practicing absinence”

Durty — And some of them really need the practice… (cue the rim shot)

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
11:40 am

co-sign Kimmie, Celisea and Single!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:42 am

Single – I feel I had the very best!! And I too turned out damn good!LOL!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
11:42 am

Bears repeating And we’re happy about how we turned out. Our life lessons ways back when were hard to swallow, but for the most part, I’m thankful I went through what I went through. Not only that, we have some damn good fun back in the day, from tag to dodge ball, double dutch, play house, green light, punch ball (loved, loved, loved punch ball), stick ball, etc. Even out of that short list, kids today probably may only know “play house!”

Hush, swiss, not the best game ever made (lol).

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
11:43 am

Speaking of sexting,

http://www.ajc.com/news/news/local/former-cobb-football-coach-arrested-for-allegedly-/nX5tM/

Another adult in age and a teenager in the mind is caught sexting a teenager.

A public service announcement: Attention all adults who are thinking about messing with a teenager u will be caught. Your life will be ruin forever… That is all!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:44 am

Our life lessons ways back when were hard to swallow, but for the most part, I’m thankful I went through what I went through. Not only that, we have some damn good fun back in the day, from tag to dodge ball, double dutch, play house, green light, punch ball (loved, loved, loved punch ball), stick ball, etc. Even out of that short list, kids today probably may only know “play house!”

Me too…and I don’t regret one minute of what mama and daddy did for me. Not one single regret either with how life has carried me! :mrgreen:

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 29th, 2013
11:46 am

Single, Celisea, kimmie, We have spent at least some portion of today’s blog discussing the viability of text messaging!!! In fact most of the topics we have here at least on some level come back to some rule for him or for her….. This is a deal breaker or that is a deal breaker… What ever happened to being able to deal with each other and work thru issues without all of the absolutes???

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
11:49 am

Leggs we had to use our imagination back then, didn’t have all this stuff to entertain us. bored wasn’t in our vocabulary. and if it was you only used it once to you parents, cause they would find you something (work) to do (LOL)

Button

May 29th, 2013
11:49 am

Durty – if you say so—-also whose to say I don’t put my trust in the Most High?

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
11:51 am

-Durty I still don’t get how adults don’t think they will get caught. Seriously, there is a mental illness going on to desire to have sex with a teenager.

-Daddy Swiss & Durty I’m successfully abstaining. . . Over a year and counting!!! :-D

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:52 am

Courtside – My thing is this…. I’m cool and open to hearing and working through stuff. I’m not right all the time and neither is he. I understand this. And this is really doable as long as both are adults and willing to bend for the relationship….legitimate stuff. But, if it’s a matter of a dude, my dude sending text messages to another, there’s nothing to work through. You violated the trust we supposedly had and you violated the bond between us. I can see a dude that catches my eye, but if I’m with you (SO,boo,spouse,mate), then it’s hands off. This I already know, before even going there.

That’s what I take a hardline against. Not personal differences and coming together…not that kind of stuff. That’s a part of being in relationships.

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
11:53 am

Swiss… I mean they are foresaking the human physical pleasure and one is partaking of the electrical pleasure.

@Celisea u are always mentioning when folks get older/sunset years they need to stop worrying or having sex. Are u planning to stop having sex when u reach say 52yrs? lol

Kimmie we need to ask someone if you turn out o.k.? miss straight no chaser lol

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
11:55 am

Durty – My reference to sunset years today was solely about playing games. After awhile, you should settle into what you have with whom you’re with.

Am I planning to stop having sex by 52? Can’t say. I’m a ways off from 52 :mrgreen: I just know I don’t want to be some foolish old woman. I want to move with the tide and time. Make sense?

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
11:57 am

disco – Well, the kids have a strict bedtime on school nights. Anything later than 9 and they just can’t get up. Other than that, I don’t sweat it. Baby girl is gonna fall asleep early anyway, she just can’t hang though she tries to! The boy would stay up playing video games as long as he can sit up and hold his eyes open, but its all good as long as it’s not a school night or we have to get up early for something like catch a plane.

I never had a curfew growing up. Mom said she raised us so be home at a reasonable time. If you’re gonna be out later than say 2am, we had to call her so she would not be up worrying. That did not happen too often. Anyway, that was how it was unless you abused it. None of us did, so things were cool there. I’ll probably do the same with mine.

Mom did not tolerate the picky eater thing, you ate what was on your plate. We learned to just finish up what we didn’t like first and get it out of the way. There were a few things Mom recognized we just did not like period, so she did not sweat those few things. But she did not play the stank attitude and the turning up your nose at things, especially out. You just calmly say you don’t care for something or no thank you. That would safely get you out of eating it.

A stank, snarky attitude would get you slapped. We lived in fear of Mom’s slaps. I don’t hit the kids, but I don’t tolerate it either. They get an almost cussing out and privileges taken away and they hear my mouth. I’ve moved baby girl to tears at times, but she knows where I stand on it. It kind of bothers hubs cause he’s not the disciplinarian I am, but he recognizes it’s necessary. THat’s all I need!

SlimNu

May 29th, 2013
11:59 am

it only gets complicated when you try to decieve and play games. If you’re straight up about what you want and show others respect, it is not complicated or hard to figure out at all.

Aaaamen!!!

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
12:00 pm

Do you think that sending texts to people who are not your significant other automatically classifies as cheating? yes

What if the nature of the text messages is harmless and simple flirting?
“harmless”? huh???

Would it bother you if you discovered that the person you are dating had a habit of sending texts to women from his past? yes
Would you ask them to stop or dump them?
depends how much i’m into him. probably first ask, then end up leaving anyway.

What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating?
immaturity.

good noon, good people.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:01 pm

I got beat up by them and often…lol Not anything brutal – in my house, it was brual sibling rivalry.

“Does anyone else here think that the dating rule book has gotten waaaaaaaaay to complicated….. So many effin’ “rules” ! All of the lines in the sand, all of the absolute dealbreakers…… Its no wonder folks can’t / don’t stay together……”

Courtside – I don’t think it’s complicated if you know what you’re looking for and what you won’t tolerate. Staying true to what you’re looking for certainly will have you laughing at the BS in your rearview!!!!
Kids these days need those old rules we lived by growing up. I know mine will!! = Absolutely!!

“some of the ladies are practicing absinence” – What’s sad about this statement is the women are practicing because there aren’t coming into contact with men who deserves their honey pots OR they’re actually looking for something with substance and not just the substance oozing out. And, those that are practicing, Durty bet they have more will power than some of you men. Sexual convo won’t need them needing a wet one to clean up the mess they made under their desk like some of you men.

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:03 pm

re sexting teens – hate to play devil’s advocate but are we talking 13, 14 or are we talking 17, 18, 19?

brat – island bound? disco taking a deep breath and releasing a deep sigh. ahhhhhhh.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:08 pm

re: bored :lol: :lol: You’re right. We found out with the quickness to never again say that word. One slip was enough. Main thing wrong with many children, they don’t use their imaginations. From one extreme of creating and selling Tumblr to sitting in their rooms making bombs to blow up their schools.

Mom did not tolerate the picky eater thing, you ate what was on your plate. – Mama tried with m, but wasn’t successful I don’t know how many times I got hit in the head w/a newspaper. Well, yeah I do (3x). Still picky, but better!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:08 pm

*What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating?
immaturity.* i agree.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
12:08 pm

Durty – I’m all that and a big ole bag of chips!! LOL!!!

Court – Only thing I can say is I lack patience for games. When I think of “working thru things” I’m thinking real adult stuff like how the bills are gonna get paid if you decide to quit your job and pursue your PhD, or how we gon help our sick grandmama that lives far away or do I need to go to rehab for my addition to perscription drugs, etc. Not some ish about a damn text. That’s high school ish.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
12:12 pm

Leggs/Single – I would not trade my upbringing for anything in the world, the good, not-so-good, bad, all of it! And yes, I had a damn good time!!!!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:12 pm

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
12:15 pm

“daddy swiss” … awwww! is there now a pretty little princess in your castle?

the most complex part of dating (for me) was keeping my own pace. folks just wanna rush you into seeing how the two of you “fit”. wtf!?! if i prefer to talk and laugh and chill with you for months on end before getting serious, that’s my right. can’t let the new dating norms take that away from me.

yes, ma’am, disco. off to cayman this weekend. and not a moment too soon.

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
12:18 pm

O.K. I meant Abstinence, Leggs u could have added the t for me….hehehe..

@Disco hey if you are a teacher and the person is still in high school it is a crime even if the person is18 yrs.

It is big time down here in the south, the jails are starting to fill up.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:18 pm

Beautiful – I couldn’t see/hear how the kid ended. What did he say?

We were taught to recite the old and new testatement books around that same age.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:18 pm

A stank, snarky attitude would get you slapped. We lived in fear of Mom’s slaps. I don’t hit the kids, but I don’t tolerate it either. – Dang flashback. My attitude wasn’t stank, but it was snarky, even though it was the truth. A child needed to say in their lane, and I was known to veer off course many a time. Some of you may recall I said my last slap by Mama was at the age of 25. Yep! Unfortunately.

The song “Papa was a rolling stone,” by the Temptations I think yielded my hardest slap. Mama was hosting something and a few of her friends had a arrived early, along with the kuncklehead she was seeing. When the song got to the part “papa had 3 outside children and another wife and that’ ain’t right,” I somewhat sang it at the top of my young lungs. Well, I walked out of that room with my tail between my legs. Whew, my fact stung for quite some time. But you see, those kind of slaps were “you may be speaking the truth chile, but mind you place and get the hell on!”

good noon, czB!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
12:19 pm

-czBrat ENJOY your trip!!! :-)

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:19 pm

czBrat… we’re totally opposite but i’m trying to get where you are. i tend to move fast. i figure why wait? but i like your way better

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
12:21 pm

-Leggs LOL, because you knew exactly what you were saying, you wanted to get your point across. Clearly you did, based on your Mom’s reaction. Was it a lesson learned???

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:23 pm

Celisea… he ended with singing all he ex’s live in TX LOL!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:24 pm

i tend to move fast. i figure why wait? – Cuz it cuts down on the amount of hurt you will suffer by moving to quickly w/someone you don’t know. take time, chile, tak time….it’s all good when you do (lol).

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:24 pm

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:25 pm

Awwwww, I bet that was sweet/cute!! Kids are sooo cute.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:27 pm

MissMoni ~ lesson learned…stay out of grown folk business ESP when their friends are around.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:27 pm

and learning the books makes no sense to me. the babies at my church learn verses. one child knows 101 psalms by heart. no joke!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:29 pm

kimmie ~ because I grew up with slaps, I vowed never to slap my child if I were to have any. I’ve succeeded. I want her to not flinch with I’m simply raising my arms to give her a hug. That was what I kept front and center all these years.

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:29 pm

leggs – re last slap by momma. one of my friends was grown and pregnant with her first child. she said she was getting fly about something and said her mother straight pimp slapped her. she said as if getting slapped wasn’t bad enough, after the slap her mother went and fixed her a plate and made her sit down and eat.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:30 pm

Let me retype that:

I DONT want her to flinch when I’m simply raising my arms to give her a hug.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
12:31 pm

-Disco LOL, you have some of the best stories ever, that is hilarious!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:31 pm

oops, I see I did use the word “not”

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:32 pm

leggs – my son and brothers all still have a tendency to flinch just from me walking past them sometimes. I don’t deny that I still impulsively reach out and pop them across the back of the head every now and again. I swear I don’t even mean to. my hand just shoots out and slap. lol.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:33 pm

disco ~ that’s funny. Her mama was old school and you will always hush and stay in your place no matter your age. Now stop those contractions and sit down and eat!

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
12:33 pm

Leggs- I am cracking up over your singing that song.

As far as dating, I guess I need to get the hang of it, having been married for so long. There are certain things that I expect and certain things that just don’t sound right. my friends and I talk and sometimes we are just stumped. One friend told me about a first date last week that went south when the guy started talking about sex. I was invited on a date recently and the man said he expected me to pay. I’m like huh? Now, as y’all know, I don’t mind paying for some outings if we are dating, but if you ask me, don’t tell me at the time of the date that you thought I was paying. Not to mention, yes I do expect a man to get the door.

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
12:34 pm

lmao @ beautiful! at least you know yourself. i’ve always been that way. virgin til i was 20 with a ring on my finger. it was odd in the 80’s; practically unheard of these days.

and thanks for the well wishes. i expect it’s gonna be fab!

hi ya, leggs. luv, luv, LUV the rundown on all those street games. red rover, freeze tag, skelly, handball. i happened to drive past a handball court in a brookhaven neighborhood last week and almost jumped out the car while it was still rolling. lol

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:34 pm

I swear I don’t even mean to. my hand just shoots out and slap. lol.

I’m cracking up…you stoopid. l like your hand is a magnant to their heads. Getting popped just for being there. I get the picture very well.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:35 pm

you have to be careful these days with hitting your kids. take all their toys away instead. i promise you it hurts more

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:37 pm

MsAtl ~ I didn’t like him, he wasn’t slick in my eyes, and Mama was simply foolish taking his word over mine many times. He knew I didn’t care for him and I didnt care! I was a firecracker long with being a spitfire growing up.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:38 pm

MsAtl ~ I have many MIA. It’s crazy out there. I believe I have one trying to gauge what lane he can put me in. It’s interesting watching, because he too is not slick.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:38 pm

Learning anything about the bible makes every sense. For us, rather than filling up with garbage and trash (like kids today), it was a way to keep up preoccupied in VBS or SS. We not only learned the books of the bible, but as we studied and got older, we moved on to how to break downs the parts (gotta know the books in order to do this)…..

Old – History, law and history, psalms, major prophets, minor prophets
New – Four gospels, Acts, Paul’s epistles, Revelations

By the age of 12, we all knew (by way of games and contests and prizes), Psalms 1, 15, 23, 24, 100, 117, 121. There is power in the word of God. And it does a work and a wonder when embedded and rooted down in you. As a kid, no you don’t know or see the benefit. We just learned and studied to get a gold star, or a prize, so forth and so on. As an adult we can to understand the spiritual meaning and how it benefits one’s soul and keep the uglies/devil/evil at bay. So yes, for me and how I was raised, there’s a benefit to learning anything about the word of God. You can’t follow Christ and his walk unless you understand what was done, predicted, prophisied and pointed to…which was him.

I’ll stop there…don’t want to get too churchy on ya! Too, over and above my mama’s teaching, it’s the biggest BS buster I know :mrgreen:

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:39 pm

moni – this is one of my childhood friends. you know we still talk about that every now and again. this same friend is very fair skinned. her mom and most of her siblings are very bright. once when I was younger I went to visit and her father said I was the blackest child he had ever seen. lol. we still laugh about that one too.

leggs – re my friend’s old school momma. when we were in high school we went to an 18 and up club. granted we weren’t 18 but whatever. my friend’s mom showed up in the spot in robe/slippers/rollers to drag my friend out. to this day she still puts that up there as one of the most embarrassing moments of her life.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:40 pm

You can’t follow Christ and his walk unless you understand what was done, predicted, prophisied and pointed to…which was him

Unless you first follow the old testament…

Now I’m done….chuuuuuch

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:44 pm

B – I’m not big on taking stuff away. you practically have to punish yourself to enforce grounding. I don’t have time for that. I’m going to bust that azz to solve whatever issue we have. all that you’re grounded, no tv, no phone, no video games for a week stuff needs too much follow up for me.

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
12:45 pm

take all their toys away instead. i promise you it hurts more
then you ain’t hittin ‘em right.
:lol:

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
12:48 pm

disco, my sister used to have to take all the power cords off of tv’s, game, computers, everything and carry them around in her purse in order to “monitor” those punishments. hilarious!! and i have a niece that has never let me watch her kids because she doesn’t believe in spanking.

me? i’m a swinger. the old school type.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
12:48 pm

Leggs- I am finding that out (your 12:38) and I don’t think I like it. I am not one for games or sharing. I am comfortable being single, but it would be nice to have some platonic friends I could sub in when I need a dress up for an event or some help with heavy lifting, lol.

Disco- I am wondering if I know your friend’s momma, lol. My friend’s mom went in the club onto the dance floor and snatched my friend because she had told my friend not to wear her shoes. Well, she wore her mom’s shoes anyway & ended up on the dance floor in the rattiest slippers her mom could find. And yes, her mom wore rollers to the club.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:48 pm

being familiar with the books and where they are located… okay. but the actual verses are our daily bread. those should be written on your heart and used in the time of battle. eventually you’ll know the books as you go along.

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
12:50 pm

Dang it I luv with that woman,when I read those words they have me feeling some kinda way… Oops!

Some of the dudes are out have simply lost their dang mind, how do u invite someone out and then ask them to pay for it. Chivalry is slowing becoming a lost art, when I am out I seldom see men opening the car doors, pulling out chairs or opening for the ladies. But they still ask for the goods…

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:51 pm

Beautiful – Please read my 12:38…the reasoning and the explanation and the latter understanding. I’m not gonna retype that again…lol And of course every is different and have to do what works for them.

Alright folks, by blogging is done…for now

disco

May 29th, 2013
12:52 pm

brat – I’m with you. knock their little behinds out. I have a babysitting rule. If I can’t hit your kid, I can’t watch your kid.

atl – hold up. she came to the club and made old girl swap shoes??? now that is funny. lol.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:53 pm

czB ~ I don’t know many who have played skelly…loved that game!

I saying this with a tear in my eye. Wish I was small enuf to sneak in your suitcase. :cry: I already know you’re going to have a blast.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:53 pm

Celisea… why do you say bye like 10 times a day? LOL

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:54 pm

Beautiful – Cause I dang wanna and cause I can :mrgreen:

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:54 pm

and almost jumped out the car while it was still rolling. lol

girl, I know the feeling. We need to find one and see how silly we now look playing that game. I would love to ace a ball….

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:55 pm

And if you can follow, Beautiful, I believe I said…”for now” that means I could pop back in the next minute :mrgreen: I don’t think that violates any blog rules. Better to say “bye” here repeatedly than with a dude and going nowhere…

OH NO SHE DIDN’T!!!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:55 pm

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:57 pm

There’s always gonna be THAT old ornery person, trolling along, popping in at certain times, never discuss, just attack…so forth and so on…I get it. It’s what happens here….lolol

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:57 pm

this day she still puts that up there as one of the most embarrassing moments of her life. – it would also have been one of the funniest in my life if I was the friend watching.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
12:58 pm

if i was rude, i apologize. but i had to ask since no one else did

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
12:58 pm

Where is Mmello??

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
12:58 pm

Disco- When your mom tells you not to wear her shoes, you do NOT wear them any way. She was asking for it, lol. She got snatched in addition to being forced to wear slippers. And she was grown!

Leggs- I can visualize the smell of the vanilla candle wax and the tar in my skelly tops. I loved that game!

Durty- I may have missed all of my dating years because I married young, but I have my ideas with respect to what is/is not acceptable. Disrespect will not be tolerated. Other things will warrant conversation because I know that not everyone thinks the same. Needless to say, we went dutch.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:59 pm

disco ~ I agree with your 12:44. Exactyly czB!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:01 pm

I think archive trolling should be banned…

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:02 pm

Ms. Atl ~ I hear you loudly and clearly!

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
1:02 pm

This is a blog rule violation:

Alright folks, by blogging is done for now @ 12;51. Then we get Beautiful – Cause I dang wanna and cause I can at 12:54PM.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:04 pm

Soooo, we just had to evacuate the building due to a fire alarm caused by some adult BURNING popcorn!!! WHY is it that people just can’t follow the simple instructions on the bag. Better yet, just buy some popcorn from the vending machine, LOL!!!

-Disco/Brat That’s one of my rules as well. Along with, I don’t babysit disrespectful kids. I don’t allow my own children to disrespect me and I won’t allow it from someone else’s child either.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:05 pm

Better to say “bye” here repeatedly than with a dude and going nowhere…

OH NO SHE DIDN’T!!!

Oh yes you did. Shouldn’t laugh, but it was set up for you!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:05 pm

:mrgreen: I shouldn’t be laughing so hard

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:06 pm

if i was rude, i apologize. but i had to ask since no one else did

Beautiful ~ we don’t ask cuz we already know why (lol). You’re new again. You know like, a born again virgin. You’ll get the hang of the new bloggers (lololol).

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:09 pm

Leggs/ Brat- Y’all tell me where I can find a handball court in ATL & i will bring the Spalding balls.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:09 pm

MsAtl, awww, the tar. It was an art scrapping the bottle top off using the street grate. That’s what we did. Glass worked far better than the other tops! So smooth knocking the opponent out of it’s box and you glide just enough in the box, sometimes touching the line of the box but remaining in bounds. Skill.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:10 pm

i ain’t that new new LOL. i understand the addiction. i know first hand that when you think you’re posting your last post, it really is not your last. you gotta come back to read any comments left for you or simply get your fix to logging back on.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:12 pm

What’s “archive” trolling? If you mean only coming on and blogging about things said back then, I agree. If that’s not it, pls. enlighten me.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:16 pm

Along with, I don’t babysit disrespectful kids.

I am laughing so hard over here because just last night I told my child she may be asked to watch 3 bad boys over a weekend next month. I told her I would pay her to say “no” simply because I know I won’t be in the mood to handle them, and I can’t put my hands on them.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:16 pm

Leggs – I was wondering the same thing… :-)

I thought today would be crazy after being out of the office for two business days, but it’s not so bad. Wish it was busier because I’m sooooooo sleepy!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:18 pm

Durty… you mean Celisea LOL! not me.

czBrat… i take away stuff and make them do chores. it benefits me :) ) hitting them hurts me emotionally. wish big mommas back in the day felt the same way LOL

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:18 pm

Just finished my weekly dose of publlix chicken tenders, I swear they season that mess with crack! lol

MissMoni- nothing like burnt popcorn- the gross smell!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:22 pm

-Button Agreed. You are with the Publix Chicken Tenders how I am with the Tropicana Peach Orchard Punch. I declare that it’s spiked with a form of crack, LOL!!!

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
1:24 pm

leggs, you’re just about small enough to fit so c’mon!!!

sooooo, what’s archive trolling?

hopscotch, hoola hoops, jacks and skip-it were more faves.

msAtl, them spaldings are the best if you wanna get in a good corner killer.

button, have you tried their mardi gras or asian wings dipped in their jalapeno hummus? just damn!

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
1:24 pm

MissMoni the person was probably receiving a text and go so engaged into the texting, she set the microwave for the wrong time….This has happened 3 times in the building where I work at!

@Leggs … dude is not putting on Celisea right because she is still posting crazy since last year. hehehehe….. Good Luving will calm u azz down…. lol

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
1:25 pm

hitting them hurts me emotionally. :-O this is going hurt you more than it hurts me (LOL)

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:25 pm

-Leggs That’s nothing but the truth. You have to know what you can handle especially when it comes to babysitting someone’s kids. I don’t get how people raise these lil bad butts and then don’t understand why people DON’T want to babysit them. My theory, if they won’t listen to me then they can’t stay with me.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

I gotta try these Publix chicken tenders…never have…

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

Leggs- I was scared of glass. I used a glass bottle top for hop scotch one time & received a nasty cut to the palm when I went for a reach.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

-Durty I wouldn’t doubt it. Those text messages tend to make some people go crazy!!!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

Yeah, I don’t deal with bad behind kids either. Or babysit for parents that are funny and particular acting about their little brats. Yall don’t live in Buckingham Palace and yo kid aint a prince/princess!

Sorry if you didn’t get the Dating 101 handbook or flunked the class. I’m not dealing with you.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:28 pm

Hola Bluzgirl! You’ve been quiet today. . .

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:29 pm

Damn I wish this woman sitting in the cubicle behind me would SHUT UP THAT SINGING!!! And it’s depressing gospel stuff at that!!!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:29 pm

Single… i have a fb friend who post sad faces every time he spanks his son. it’s so cute. he be so emotionally bent

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:32 pm

this is going hurt you more than it hurts me (LOL)

Single – You right LOL, cause my mama never said that ish!! Yo butt was getting beat and it was not gonna hurt her one bit!!!LOLO!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:32 pm

Durty – You shole is (yes is) worried about me and my smashing?? Don’t worry boo, I’m guuuuuud

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:34 pm

I love Publix Mardi Gras wings. The tenders are just okay, not enough seasoning for me.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:34 pm

Kimmie – I LOVE gospel music. That’s what I listen to most of the time :) :)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:36 pm

MsAtl ~ I’m going to look for one. That would be comical if we were out there playing handball. I’ll make sure to pack icy hot and some ben gay (cracking up).

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:36 pm

Kimmie- She’s not singing the “Ol” Negro spirituals, is she???

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

Cel – I like it too when it’s done by my church choir or professionals and not the real depressing numbers. This chick here moans and squeaks and will make you lose your religion!LOL!!!

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

czBrat- I haven’t although it does sound tasty.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

Enter your comments hereLeggs- My doctor told me to stop playing handball when I was pregnant with my daughter, lol. I really miss it! I wonder if there is one in Piedmont Park?

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:38 pm

Kimmie – Maybe she’s having her break through

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:38 pm

Atl – Yes mame, she’s killing me!! Lord, we have already overcome!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
1:39 pm

And it’s depressing gospel stuff at that!!!

Kimmie…you heathen :lol:

I know that kind of gospel music you’re talking about. Sometimes it can be comforting but most times for me it makes me sad…somehow it evokes memories of my granny and I have to change the station.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:39 pm

Cel – Well then her break through has been going on for the last 6 1/2 years then, cause every now and then she cranks up!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:40 pm

Sassy – You know what I’m talkin bout!!LOL!!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:40 pm

Kimmie – Stooop, you’re a supervisor right? Just pull her in and tell her to chill or get ear plugs and hum within :)

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:41 pm

speaking on bad azz kids I like watching the super nanny show with Deb Tillman. She is one tough cookie.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:42 pm

Hi MissMoni!!! Haven’t had too much to add today. Still recovering from a quick trip this weekend…seems like it takes me a little longer to recover each time I travel! LOL

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:43 pm

I sure do miss Lady blogging

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:43 pm

kimmie – my boss likes to go around and sing, but she has a HORRIBLE voice and usually only knows one word or sentance of the song and sings it over and over. It’s agonizing!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:44 pm

Beautiful ~ I know you’re not that “new new” but you’re new enough. Doesn’t matter because we’re interpreting the posts differently…no sweat…all’s good!

:lol: :lol: @czB – btw, loved jacks too.

MsAtl ~ to get that bottle ring top off w/o breaking the glass was pure skill. We all were proud of our work. Smooth out the edges, pack it with tar or dirt, and slide that bad boy onto the street board. Awww, the memories (lol).

Durty ~ hush re: Celisea. Don’t start none, won’t be none!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:45 pm

She’s not singing the “Ol” Negro spirituals, is she???

I could listen to those all day.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
1:46 pm

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:46 pm

It’s road tirp time!!!!
Much as I love the panhandle – Destin, fort walton, orange beach and any other beach inbetween, I hate driving there! all those back country roads with no gas station along the way and gps keep getting kick off, and losing phone signal.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:46 pm

Cel – I’ve spoken to her before. But I’m not her manager and we are friends. And she’s doing the singing with the earplugs IN so alot of times she does not realize she’s getting loud.

She’s piped down now, for awhile anyway!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:47 pm

MsAtl ~ I’m in tears laughing at your crazy behind. Your doctor had to give you a directive on not playing…tihat was too funny! Yousa diehard. I like…we need to play. I can already see myself splattered on the pavement running to make a killer shot, rubbing my hands and knees as I get up ready for me….game on!!!!

Wow, I actually pictured saw myself playingng handball behind P.S. 82.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:48 pm

Kimmie – Gotcha.

Shoot, sometimes I break out humming. One day, my coworkers were trying to get my attention, but I was jamming so, that I couldn’t hear any of them calling. Of course they all laughed. No one was irritated :)

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
1:50 pm

Celisea.....Let my peeeeople goooooo!!

May 29th, 2013
1:53 pm

I ca-rack myself up sometimes…whew buddy

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:53 pm

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:54 pm

Leggs- Don’t play! I was a diehard handball player growing up. We played on the side of Katz Pharmacy on Marcy Avenue, lol. He sure did have to tell me to stop. I was out there belly and all, slamming that ball.
I am putting handball on my list for this year. Matter of fact, I think we bloggers need to have an old school day with handball, jacks, double dutch, hula hoops, etc. We may be sore for a few days after, but it will be worth it.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:55 pm

“On the drive to the hotel Monday morning, he punched his wife in the face during an argument in which he accused her of cheating on him, police told the newspaper.” – And, there are many people who go through with the wedding only to beat the person up shortly after getting married. How one can hide all that venom for another and not be picked up is skills too. The entire thing is shameful. But, I did picture Anna (Annie) Mae Bullock while reading the story.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:56 pm

Did anyone watch the Haves and the Have nots?

Also, I watched Oprah’s special with Rhianna. I was impressed. She interviewed a lot more sound than I thought she would.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:56 pm

Cel – I have this stuffed Bulldog that one of my coworkers gave me for Christmas. When you press it’s stomach, it play the UGA fight song! Err now and then I shake things up in here with it!! Folks just roll their eyes at my diehardness!!LOL!!

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:56 pm

Single- But did you catch what set him off? The DJ made moves on a bridesmaid. O_o Hmmm, what was his interest in the bridesmaid? Time to get that puppy annuled.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:57 pm

Cel – I dvrd it.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:57 pm

Kimmie – Sometimes a spontaneous move will make folks day!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:57 pm

MsAtl ~ not bragging or anything, but I won’t be sore. I would love an old school day of childhood fun now down by grownups (lol). Man, someone needs to video it so we can be put on AFV and win $10,000.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:57 pm

Kimmie – Okay, after you watch I want to know what you thought about it.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
1:58 pm

Leggs MsATL that’s just crazy, then he had the nerve to accuse her of cheating smdh

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:59 pm

Leggs- I’m all for it.

The story is by no means funny, but did they have to put this in?

While assaulting his wife, Stevens “ultimately pulled out all of her (hair) extensions,” which officers later found on the floor and on a night stand, police said.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:59 pm

And, there are many people who go through with the wedding only to beat the person up shortly after getting married

Leggs – I know of 2 cases of this thru foks close to me. One groom started acting a azz at the reception, the other waited until the honeymoon. :(

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:59 pm

-Celisea I DVR’d it, will watch tonight. My friend Chef Judy was on Chopped last night, so that took priority. :-)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:00 pm

Celisea ~ I forgot about that show. I was so hurt when she said in front of her mother that her mother was dead (reminded me of Imiation of Life). I laughed when he told her to get out the next morning and she really thought she was going to plot to be by his side thinking he wanted her…dumb cluck.

Not surprised the ball is not in her court and she’s gonna bleed him dry and make his life hell. Nevertheless, his wife, played like she’s Kathy Bates, isn’t dumb. She’s watching. Now, is that the dude from Dukes of Hazzard???

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:00 pm

Okay…after everyone watches, we can dish what we thought about it. I’ll keep my feedback for now.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:00 pm

Msatl, no it aint, but (roflmao)

So everybody that’s married aint happy, just like everybody that’s single aint sad :-)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:02 pm

Ms. Atl ~ I caught that and wondered why he got so bummed over the bridesmaid being hit on…isn’t that what usually occurs at weddings? Was this a “highly favored” bridesmaid, did the bridesmaid ask him to intervene, or was the bridesmaid his sister???

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:03 pm

Never mind, Leggs just told it…lololol

Leggs – I could have smacked her little fast tail!! The son is a dweeb. The black neighbor is a trip (the jury still out on her). Candace ain’t gonna go easily though. She’s gonna cause trouble. The daddy, old skeezer deserves though what he’s getting for cheating…

More to come…..

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:04 pm

Single – An everybody that’s married ain’t sad, just like everybody that’s single ain’t happy!!LOL!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:04 pm

oops, didn’t read beyond Celisea’s question. Hope I didn’t spoil anything?

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:05 pm

I think they’ll still have the same reaction (whatever that is) once they watch. I will say, the show is not bad, but needs a bit of strength. I think that will come over time. I hope so.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:05 pm

Never mind, Leggs just told it…lololol

I’m so sorry!!!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:06 pm

Leggs/Cel – It doesn’t matter cause I don’t know who you guys are talking about anyway!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:06 pm

It was a short recap. I don’t think it will kill anything since they’ve not watch at all nor know the characters yet.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:08 pm

Kimmie, but how often do you hear single people asking married people, Why aren’t you single? (LOL) or telling you you need to try being single again (LOL)

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:08 pm

I’m hungry…haven’t had lunch

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:09 pm

-Leggs No worries, I’m still hyped about watching it myself, LOL! :-)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:10 pm

Yeah, the show isn’t bad. I hope the snooty neighbor (black woman) relaxes a bit…she’s too stauch and needs to remember where she came from (lol) cuz she wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth. If she had been she wouldn’t have worn that hideous red blouse or that ugly chatreaus (sp) dinner gown!!

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:12 pm

leggs – re 1:16, why can’t you put your hands on them?

B – re it hurting you emotionally to hit your kids. don’t worry. you’ll get over it. go home today and pop one of your kids upside the head for something they did that you don’t know about.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
2:13 pm

the new gospel that’s out today is jammin’. they gotta be careful tho with the beats. make a sista wanna drop it likes it hot. LOL!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:15 pm

Lawd, this blog is hi larious! Nooo kidding…lolololol I love it when I read something unexpected and it makes me burst out laughing

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:15 pm

Disco, re – something that you don’t know about, sounds like my dads whipping me for old and new (LOL) but I could have swore to god that the had already taking care of the old (LOL)

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:17 pm

Single – I THINK it all the time, but I would never be up in anyone’s business like that. By the way, I’ve never in my life asked anyone why they were still SINGLE or why are they not married. I always thought it was a stupid question and still do. There are many factors as to why a person is single or married and it’s a very personal decision. Same with having children. Very personal reasons why some folks choose not to.

But some folks think they have a right to ask such classless questions. I thank my fabulous upbringing for not being one of them! :)

Button

May 29th, 2013
2:18 pm

disco – you are a mess @ pop up side the head.
Bueatiful – don’t do it. lol

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
2:19 pm

disco… see! you tryna start somethin’ LOL! i had a rule in my house when they were younger. no hitting each other! and i meant it. that is the 2nd reason for me not physically punishing them. they’re good boys. one is a straight A student. i did good!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:19 pm

Yes, glad I kept it short (lol). But most say this, that dang house is too short.

Celisea, when she said she wanted to go to bathroom alone and try on dresses, I told my child why. I was right.

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:19 pm

C – I’ll be lurking. I have no intention of watching that show.

single – raising my hand. I’ve told a few folks that they are caught up in some janky azz relationships and need to try to find their way out. yep. sure have.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:19 pm

Ooops upside the head, I saida ooops upside the head

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:20 pm

“Go home today and pop one of your kids upside the head for something they did that you don’t know about.”

-Disco I can’t with you today, LMBO!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:21 pm

disco ~ the mother has said on more than one occasion she is the only one who can beat her children. I remember asking if I could pick them up and shake them and she said no! I can’t have bad children in my home and I can only chastise them with a stern look or a time out. So not me. I will pay my child to say no and give her the $$ I THINK she may have gotten from watching them (lol).

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:22 pm

disco – C’moooon, at least give it a shot and then say yea or nay

Leggs – Mmm hmmm, that jumped out at me as well

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:22 pm

-Single and Happy My Mama used that same line in your 2:15 with me all the time, LOL!!!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:24 pm

-Beautiful I don’t allow my daughters to hit each other either. The rule for them is to keep their hands and feet to themselves.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:24 pm

the new gospel that’s out today is jammin’. they gotta be careful tho with the beats. make a sista wanna drop it likes it hot. LOL!

WTH??? NOT! I remember when I heard Kurt Franklin’s single in a club. I must admit I was appalled. Not taken aback, appalled that people were dirty dancing off a gospel song. Blasphemy.

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:25 pm

B – to each his own but I told a friend who didn’t allow her kids to fight each other that fighting each other was practice for fighting in the “real world”. growing up we took turns fighting/wrestling each other. first one to the ground went back up on the porch and the next one hit the yard. and besides all that, you’re the parent, you can always resort to “do as I say, not as I do” when they ask why it’s okay for you to hit but not them. lol.

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
2:26 pm

button, try the 20W to montgomery then 65S route to the FWB area. quicker coz it’s all highway. until you get just north of crestview.

leggs, me & my sis used to talk about putting together a game day at piedmont. just to show our kids and grands how we got out and played w/o the benefit of expensive props and gadgets.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:28 pm

Disco, I don’t say it in those words, I just say you need to make up your mind and do what’s best for you, but all this b**ching and moaning about it aint going to do anything.

Kimmie, I get it all the time when people find out I’ve never been married and enjoying life, by traveling and having hobbies. Like it’s just not natural.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
2:29 pm

Leggs… i 2nd that! that’s why i say they need to hold back a little.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:30 pm

Disco – I don’t go that “do as I say” route with mine. I tell them I’m the parent and I’m grown and do what I want. I tell them when they move out into their own place, they can do whatever they want too.LOL!!

My parents didn’t really mind us roughhousing, and my older brothers taught my younger ones how to fight. But they did not allow us to hit each other out of anger, because some had a tendency to take it too far.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:32 pm

czB ~ when lil leggs was in elementary school, I partnered with The Heart Association and had 2 days of double dutch in the gym. It was sad during one field day there no one knew how to jump double dutch.

Button

May 29th, 2013
2:33 pm

czBrat- thanks, I’ll jot down your direction and keep it for futher reference.

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:34 pm

It was sad during one field day there no one knew how to jump double dutch and we wonder why these kids are obese.

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:35 pm

kimmie – I don’t say it either. I was just giving her an out. lol. we play fought and we real fought. my mother used to always tell me to be nice to my brother because one day he’d be bigger and stronger than me. our first fight where I realized he was bigger and stronger than me I hit him in the face with a chair and chipped his tooth. that was our last physical fight. now I just beat him with words. lol.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:40 pm

“I hit him in the face with a chair and chipped his tooth. that was our last physical fight….” How big was this chair??? Dang!, that’s gangsta!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:41 pm

Single – I’m sure you do get it, but somehow I think single women get it worse. I married rather “late” according to society standards. Folks started wondering all kinds of things – was I crazy, did I have a disease, bat for the other team, you name it.

I never got much flak from my immediate family. My mom especially stressed the importance of chosing the right person, someone you can get along with, shares your values and someone you truly LIKE. F– a damn wedding! She didn’t want me or my siblings caught up in a bad situation. She would have rather we stay single than do that. Only you know what you can and cannot deal with.

I thank God I found the right person, that makes me happy. We get along so great. He is so easy-going and so not intense and not for BS. If I had not met someone like him, I definitely could have dealt with remaining single. I just have a very low tolerance for mess and misery.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:42 pm

My last fight with my sister, she kicked me in the stomach and threw my clothes in the alley. She got in a lot of trouble and I was happy!

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:43 pm

leggs – it was just a little kitchen dinette chair. we had reached the point where he was strong enough to scoop me up. I wasn’t having that.

kimmie – I told y’all about the time my grandfather’s sister called me an old maid and I mentioned it to my grandmother and she went off. talked about my auntie like a dog. lol.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:44 pm

I just have a very low tolerance for mess and misery.

I think I used to have a low tolerance. Now, no tolerance.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:45 pm

Disco – One of my brothers pushed chair at me when we were fussing at each other. It did not hurt me at all, but I milked it for all it was worth. I screamed “Brother threw a chair at me!” loud so my mother would hear me. He got in trouuuble!!LOLO!!!

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:45 pm

leggs – not that you said and you were happy. shoot, that might have been cause for a sneak attack later. consequences be damned. lol.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:46 pm

I just have a very low tolerance for mess and misery.

Mee too. I don’t go for the grill no more, I just lean over so it can pass. Too much of “up in my face”, I can’t let slide. But getting older, it’s just soo not worth it. And be prepared for it when you don’t cut corners with folks.

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:46 pm

kimmie – see my post to leggs re the sneak attack later. lol.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:47 pm

She got in a lot of trouble and I was happy

:lol:

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:49 pm

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:49 pm

-Leggs I too have that ZERO tolerance policy for mess, misery & foolishness.

-Disco It was just a little kitchen dinette chair. . . Um yeah, so that’s why his tooth got chipped, LOL! Ya’ll had some real live WWE going on in the house. ;-)

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
2:49 pm

Kimmie, maybe so maybe not, cause I get that bat for the other team and everything, I think what really gets folks is I just say, Okay and?? , My family has never said anything to me about being single. It’s the outside folks that want to get all up in yo bizness

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:50 pm

Disco – My aunt went off on one of my cousins that came at me with that old maid mess!!

disco

May 29th, 2013
2:51 pm

as the oldest child I feel like being the oldest practically grants you absolute power over younger siblings. you are the king/queen and they better recognize. lol.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
2:51 pm

she kicked me in the stomach and threw my clothes in the alley.

:shock:

My mom NEVER allowed us to even argue let alone fight…hell we didn’t even “play fight/horse play” around her. Her words were, “Y’all stop that horsing around before it gets serious…God forbid y’all ever fight in front of me cause it’s on…Imma whip errbody’s a$$”

And that’s how it’s been. Even if we disagreed with something it’s never come to blows….don’t seem right.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
2:53 pm

-Disco I too am the oldest, but my sister is 10 years younger than me. So it was like both of us were the only child, LOL! However, she does view me as “Big Sister Gorgeous One”, I practically raised her.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:53 pm

I get that bat for the other team

Single – Dang I guess so!

Folks just need to mind their own business! Now what would they be saying if you yeild to pressure and get caught up in some mess and it doesn’t work out and you end up on the 6 o’clock news? Then what?? :shock:

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
2:53 pm

Imma whip errbody’s a$$”

Now this was my mama. We had our squabbles and passing licks but that was the extent of it. Or a “punch” when mama wasn’t looking. But if it was all out war like throwing chairs and stuff, she was not going to ask questions. Just take a switch and line everybody up.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:55 pm

disco ~ there was a sneak attacky. I jumped on her back while she was watching TV. She tried to flip me off, but I was like a venus flytrap. I was holding on for dear life. Felt like I was riding a human bull. My sister is big and tall (then).

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
2:56 pm

My parents have given me a little flak for not being married and having children, but then I remind them of the men I’ve been with and they are happy I didn’t marry or have their babies!!! They’ve calmed down some because they are realizing that I’m waiting for the right one. When I do get married, I plan for it to last forever. If I’d married the previous men, I’d be divorced or widowed now…

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
2:56 pm

Y’all stop that horsing around before it gets serious…

Sassy – Yep, and a few times it did, that’s why she didn’t allow us to take out the anger on each other.

Button

May 29th, 2013
2:57 pm

Sassy – same thin in my parents house, no fighting allowed better yet, no yelling/fussing/loud talking allow even cuss words.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
2:59 pm

MissMoni ~ back in the day, many dinette sets had chrome legs.

don’t seem right. – Sassy, I had a friend who just said the same thing about having a fight with her best friend(s). She couldn’t imagine best friends brawling with each other. I never fought a friend.

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
2:59 pm

leggs, i was never much good at double dutch. always flubbed on the jump-in. :(
but i was hell on the hoola!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:00 pm

better yet, no yelling/fussing/loud talking allow even cuss words.

Now, we did yell and disagree. IMO and looking back, and in our household that was healthy. I think the rustling you get from sibling rivalry can be healthy. You learn to love each down to the core, your learn there’s no love like that kind of love and you’ll be front and center if anything pops off with you sibs. Well, at least my brothers were…

Now cussing? That was a no no. Mama nor daddy cussed.

Button

May 29th, 2013
3:01 pm

Bluzgirl – widowed? by you killing him??

I don’t think ladies or men for that matter that kill their spouse should be allowed to be called a widow(er)
or collect insurance or any benefits from the decease spouse.

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
3:01 pm

Hi brat, if you’re still here. Yup, the little munchkin just turned 5 months last week, and she definitely rules the roost. She’s also waaaaaaaaaaaaay too cute (and she looks like daddy). :)

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:03 pm

naturally we weren’t allowed to fight each other. we just did. what’s the consequence? a whooping? whatever. lol. I remember one time in grade school I got two whoopings in one day behind not fighting and fighting. yep. talk about your mixed messages. the next day when I fought again I was praised. lol.

leggs – lol. funny you said that. this chair had chrome legs and blue seats. lol.

Button

May 29th, 2013
3:04 pm

Celisea – I didn’t have any brothers, maybe it wouldv’e been different. it was all girls in my family. We learned to talk out our problems and moved on from it.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:05 pm

-Leggs Exactly, those are the dinette chairs that I remember, LOL!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:06 pm

awww, caB ~ loved double dutch, orange dutch, bu I excelled at dodge ball!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:08 pm

Button – We had minor spats, but my mama would have torn a hole in our frames for rumbles…lololol Yeah, my brothers were the best. They didn’t let not one thing come close to any of us girls. That was elementary and hs. They didn’t play that. And folks knew not to mess with us. But it wasn’t just them, males cousins too. They all sort of kept a hedge around us.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:10 pm

I will also say, we couldn’t go around instigating or picking fights. They’d warn you to shut-up. If not, you were on your own….lol But as long as we were being “good girls”, they had our backs all day, everyday

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:11 pm

kimmie/Button y’all know the deal…even if something was amiss..we had to squash it..as children AND adults. If she catches wind of any kind of discord(which doesn’t happen often) she will have us make amends…

I never fought a friend.

Me either..and if I’ve wanted to fight you I don’t consider you a friend.

Mama nor daddy cussed.

Mine either but that didn’t stop anything. My granny and her sisters cussed like sailors on pay day when they were ready, so by the time I was in the 4th/5th grade I was a pro…just couldn’t let Mommy find out cause that would’ve been my a**.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:11 pm

And I guess it didn’t help that one of my brothers was crazy, as in crazy…for real. Sometimes I was scared of him (as a little kid).

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:11 pm

none of my friends and I have ever even had a falling out much less a fight. good thing too. I think I got some squabble with me but my friends do too. boy it wouldn’t be nothing nice. lol.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:13 pm

so by the time I was in the 4th/5th grade I was a pro…just couldn’t let Mommy find out cause that would’ve been my a**.

This is funny, cause we didn’t cuss either…in front of mama ‘nem. But eeeevery now and then, you’d slip :shock: My mama would smack you and say that came out cause you’ve been doing it…lolol I’m laughing as I recall that. That only happened a couple of times.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:13 pm

-Sassy I didn’t hear cussing from my Mama or my grandparents growing up. They would make me leave the room if they wanted to say something inappropriate. However, my Grandma had a cousin who was a loose cannon. That lady would let it rip & then say “I’m sorry baby, Monique get on out this room!” To this day, I’m NOT a cusser, just never been my thing.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:13 pm

~Disco..that 3:03 was the best laugh I’ve had today…talk about mixed messages. :lol:

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:15 pm

I laughed too, at that 3:03…that was funny

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:16 pm

It’s bad to be a kid in that position…danged if you do, danged if you don’t…

EIGHT PAGES!!!

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:17 pm

dag – y’all make me feel like I was raised up in the back room of the jook joint. there was cussing, drinking, smoking, fighting, gambling, partying. you name it. lol. I had one grandmother who wouldn’t let us play cards or board games that had dice but yet and still grandma stayed in vegas. as a child I didn’t understand the significance of vegas. another grandmother would throw a cloth on the dining room table and break out a deck of cards with the quickness. great grandmother carried a bottle of Canadian club in her purse.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:18 pm

Mama nor daddy cussed.

Mama cussed like a sailor. The little I’ve seen of my father doesn’t seem like he cussed, but I don’t know. Me, I cuss, not as bad as Mama cuz I don’t use the big MF word and I basically use the same 3 words = isht, a$$, and damn.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
3:18 pm

Button – possibly by me killing him. :-)

Actually, I was talking about my ex who passed away last year. I wanted to marry him and if I had, I would be a widow now.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:19 pm

let us play cards

Clutching ma pearls…that was NOT allowed…lol And for all that wasn’t, my brothers, the true players they were had chicked hemmed up when mama was gone.

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:20 pm

sassy – it’s no lie. I’ll never forget it. second grade. a cousin was in first grade. on the way home from school a fourth grader pushed my cousin down and I did nothing. cousin went home and told. my mother whooped my behind. meanwhile I fought my cousin for telling on me and naturally she told again. lol. my mother whooped my behind again.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:21 pm

That lady would let it rip & then say “I’m sorry baby, Monique get on out this room!”

Not my Granny and her two sisters…what’s more is they fed off each other. All we needed was for one to start and the other two would join in…and lawd please don’t let something happen to one of the grand children..fire was a’coming. They’d make up curse words…now that stuff is funny, hell back then it was funny,too…

m NOT a cusser, just never been my thing.

Everything has it’s place…there are just some times and certain situations where nothing else will have that bite/sting like a good old cuss word. Maybe it’s just me ;-)

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:22 pm

I mention mama a lot cause she was the emotional, you better duck cause she’s swinging, 200 plus pounds coming at you disciplinarian. My daddy? Gentle Ben. Quiet, laid back, mild mannered, but could definitely handle mama :)

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:23 pm

-Leggs Growing up when I heard my Grandma say “hell” I knew something was about to go down, LOL!!! I’m sure my Mama cussed, she just didn’t do it in front of me.

-Disco My family played cards and music at the cookouts & the kids weren’t allowed to play, but they could watch and go bring the adults beers from the cooler, LOL!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:23 pm

disco ~ I learned how to play bid watching and listening to Mama and em. People could buy aa “set.” I think it was 2 glasses, small bucket of ice and a pint.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:26 pm

there are just some times and certain situations where nothing else will have that bite/sting like a good old cuss word. Maybe it’s just me – I defnitely follow.

I’ve heard many say if you need to cuss you lack the ability to articulate your thoughts properly. I call a flag on the play because although many of us can cuss a person out w/o ever using a cuss word, sometimes the sting of using the word is all that matters at the time.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:26 pm

-Sassy Funny you mention that certain situations call for cussing. There are some people who ONLY understand English when you cuss at them. I suppose that’s all they respond to. . . Sad but true.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:27 pm

school a fourth grader pushed my cousin down and I did nothing.

:shock:

Oh yeah that was grounds for a whipping in my house but that was an understood rule. If any of the cousins was being bullied or picked on we had bETTER knuckle up if it came down to it. We were never allowed to start a fight….only finish them. Daddy had a rule, “If we start a fight we better win or else that’ll be two a$$ whoopins you get…one in the street and the other one when you get home”…

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:27 pm

leggs – your post just put a grin on my face. here’s a card game memory. my son was between 2 and 3 years old. grandmother and some folks were playing spades at the table. it was a loud, trash talking game and they were drinking and whatnot. my grandma’s team was trying to keep the other team from making board. how come at some point my son hollered out “book ‘em grandma! book ‘em”. we bout fell out. my grandmother was like “you want me to book ‘em baby” and she slammed her card on the table for that 10th book and my son clapped and cheered. we bout fell out.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:28 pm

My parents tried not to cuss in front of us, but when they did, we knew they had reached their limit, especially mom. Now dad liked a dirty joke so most of the time when we did hear him say something, it was in jest.

We LOVED to do it out of their earshot though!LOL!!!

I’m not much of one. I might say damn or ish from time to time out of frustration. NEVER have cared for MF.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:29 pm

-Leggs/Sassy I failed to mention that my Grandma didn’t need to cuss because EVERYBODY knew that she had GUNS and wasn’t afraid to use them, LOL!!! :-D

Button

May 29th, 2013
3:29 pm

Bluzgirl – oh I didn’t know, sorry :(

I don’t know where I got the tongue to cuss lol, whew talk about cussing like a drunken sailor after leaving home. talk about rebellion.

When I was little I used to look up cuss words in the dictionary/encyclopedia lol

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:30 pm

the kids weren’t allowed to play, but they could watch and go bring the adults beers from the cooler, LOL!!!

Aaaahhh the good ole days :mrgreen:

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:32 pm

When I was little I used to look up cuss words in the dictionary/encyclopedia lol

Button – LOL!! I thought I was the only one that did that!!LOLO!!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:34 pm

-Sassy YES, had my 1st swig of beer (Budweiser) at the age of 6. NEVER took another swig of that. Didn’t understand why the grown-ups had to have that beer, LOL!!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:35 pm

MissMoni…I come from a loooong line of fiesty women…hell I remember when I was younger my Granny shot her boyfriend in the a$$ AND rode to the hospital with him…

One her sister chased her husband out of the house with a shotgun and for about two-three days whenever he tried to come home you’d hear gun shots and cussin..

I’ve heard stories about my great-Granny fightin guys with bats n knives n such…I guess I get my “Inner Ike” honestly..

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:37 pm

Moni – My parents had a bar in our basement, with one of those little fridges behind in. My dad would keep those little squat bottles of Miller beer (the Champagne of Beers, lol) in that fridge, full of it. I would sneak one of those beers every now and then. For some reason, I loved that stuff!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:38 pm

Well, back in the day I cussed…like a sailor. Don’t cuss now, don’t really miss and don’t struggle not to. Eeeeevery now and then though, I wanna go there. I think only in the last year (compared to all the years I stopped), have someone reeeeeallly taken me there. Nothing will get me going though quicker than a dude tryna bamboozle me. And like I said, I’on even waste time with jokers, but just eeeeevery blue moon somebody will tap into it.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:39 pm

-Sassy LOL!!! My Grandma was the strong silent type. . . When it came to romantic relationships I never saw her argue with my Granddaddy. Now she would speak her peace about how she felt about situations and that would be that. No biting her tongue, but it was all done without cussing & fussing. Honestly, I can’t do all that fussing & fighting, it’s not good for my nerves.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:40 pm

had my 1st swig of beer (Budweiser) at the age of 6

Swig?…growing up I had two aunts who’d get their friends and play spades and drink beer ALL day on Saturdays…that’s where I learned to pour a beer. They’d always say, “Hold the cup sideways so you don’t make all that suds in my beer”…I thought I was doing some Big Willy isht then…

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:40 pm

moni – as a kid I drank beer. don’t touch the stuff now. my father used to have a zillion (lol) beer cans out back. mostly jax. do they even still make that? as a kid I also used to steal sips of my grandma’s CC. unfortunately I can’t say that turned me off whiskey. lol.

sassy – that’s like two of my grandma’s sisters ran a speakeasy with their husbands in Mississippi back in the 30s/40s whenever. apparently some trouble brewed in the spot and one of the sisters cut a man clear to appetite (lol). they then loaded him into their car and drove him to a hospital in the next county (the one where they were didn’t treat black folks).

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:40 pm

-Kimmie LOL, not the little squat bottles!!! I thought beer was the nastiest stuff on earth outside of Castor Oil when I was little. Did your Dad ever figure it out???

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:40 pm

That is funny, disco! Watching our parents/grand parents play card was a hoot and hollering night of loud fun and trash talk. I learned how to count books watching them.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:42 pm

Ok, please tell me that in addition to Spades & Tunk that I wasn’t the only one who was taught to play Pokeno??? My Mama said it would help me with math, LOL!!! *True Story* :-D

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:42 pm

When I cohabitated with the kid’s dad, his cousin had a baby (less than a year), where they’d put beer in his bottle and he’d get buzzed or tipsy (whatever you want to call it). That broke my heart soooo badly. I would leave cause I couldn’t stand to be around it. They all thought it was funny.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
3:43 pm

Re: cussing…sometimes, it just makes you feel better to cuss! I can cuss like a sailor when need be. LOL! I actually cuss worse when I’m driving…that was the first time I said the “F” word in front of my mother…

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:43 pm

my Granny shot her boyfriend in the a$$ AND rode to the hospital with him…

disco ~ I think you have kinfolk in Blogsville (lol).

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:43 pm

I can’t do all that fussing & fighting, it’s not good for my nerves.

It’s not really conducive to alot. I’m not the kind to quit or back down so that’s why I try to stay away from the fray. I’m attached to my emotions more than I need to be sometimes…I’m a work in progress.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:44 pm

-Sassy I feel you, and we all are, nobody’s perfect. ;-)

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
3:45 pm

Well, Beautiful and Durty, time for Cel to roll out. I think this will be my final time today :mrgreen:

That okay with y’all??? I hope so, if not too baaaad!!!

Toodles!!! Later folks

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:46 pm

one of the sisters cut a man clear to appetite (lol). they then loaded him into their car and drove him to a hospital in the next county

Well at least they made sure he didn’t croak…with my folks I ‘on know..

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:46 pm

-Leggs I was thinking along the same lines about Disco & Sassy being related, LOL!!!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:47 pm

Moni – If he did, he didn’t say anything!LOL!! Knowing him though, he probably would have thought it was a hoot!LOL!! I stole 2 bottles of champagne/cold duck that had been in our extra fridge we had in the garage for months. I drank it senior prom night with my friends.

As long as you didn’t get sloppy drunk and go out and drive or do any drugs, dad was cool. Mom was not uptight about it either. She wanted to take away that “forbidden” aura of alcohol, so we would not go crazy once we went away to college. It worked.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
3:47 pm

Speaking of beer, when I was in MI this weekend, I found out that they don’t know anything about Yuengling up there. The benefit I was at was at a brewery and I told the bartender that’s what I like to drink and was trying to find something similar and she gave me a strange look. I asked my friends if they had ever heard of it and they looked at me funny and asked if it is a Chinese beer.

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:48 pm

leggs – when folks call me crazy I tell them I come from a long line of crazy. when my elders are going on talking about how we “young folks” today don’t have any sense I remind them that kids don’t take after strangers. we been cutting up and acting the fool since way back.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:48 pm

-Disco What is Jax??? LOL at you liking whiskey. I tried that in college (drinking game) and that was the last time I touched that stuff too, LOL!!! I could feel it going all the way through my body and it burned!!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
3:48 pm

~MissMoni I have my days trust me…luckily they’re faaar and few in between..

disco

May 29th, 2013
3:50 pm

kimmie – not the cold duck. lol.

moni – right up until she died my great grandma got a kick out of telling folks how I was sleeping over one night and finally blurted out “dang, I wish the phone would ring”. that’s when she figured out I was stealing sips when she went to answer the phone. lol.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:50 pm

Yuengling

Bluz – My hubs loves that!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
3:50 pm

Alright, it’s that time. Have a great one and I’ll blog with ya’ll in the morning!!! :-)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:51 pm

MissMoni ~ I still have my original Pokeno game set from when I was a teenager, red chips and all! It’s held closed with a rubberband, but I have it. I loved Pokeno and how 4 corners would always fill up.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:52 pm

Meaning, each game with put a nickel in the 4 cups (1) Center, (2) 4 Corners, (3) 4 of a kind and (5) POKENO!!!

Button

May 29th, 2013
3:52 pm

Kimmie- LOL

@ drinking alcohol – my granny used to give us alcohol to prevent worms bc we ate a lot sweet. must’ve been an old wves tale. It wasn’t a bottle or anything like that more like a large spoon.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:55 pm

Bluz ~ Yuengling is a very good beer.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
3:57 pm

It’s been real, Gang! A lot of fun talking about the good days!!!

Be easy!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
3:59 pm

“…that’s when she figured out I was stealing sips when she went to answer the phone. lol.” – Now, that IS FUNNY!!!!

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
3:59 pm

See ya kimmie! Have a good night!

Leggs – Yuengling is my favorite! I may have to go get a 6 pack after work!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:01 pm

Ciao, kimmie!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:02 pm

Not sure if I said this already, but those drinking Bud Light Lime-A-Rita, must admit they’re rather good.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:04 pm

Leggs – those are good! I first tried those the night Mags and I went to a concert and got tore up! LOL! I’ve been told the strawberry ones are really good too…they’re just a little pricey

Button

May 29th, 2013
4:08 pm

Leggs/Bluzgirl – did someone say lim-a-rita!? I love em. you can get the small can for 1 buck at kroger. I only need two. still deciding to try the straw-a rita.

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
4:11 pm

swiss!! that’s the sweetness! i bet she’s a.maze.ing. much blessings to you. all of you!

leggs, dodge ball was my game! i got serious trying to knock kids off their feet with those balls. luved me some tetherball too. always trying to catch the other person unaware so the ball would knock em upside the head.

my mama’s thing was “let em fight. one will kill the other, then they’ll stop”. smdh

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:12 pm

Man…I’m thirsty for some alcohol now! LOL

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
4:14 pm

you can get the small can for 1 buck at kroger
now why is this ^ cracking me up. :lol: :lol:

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:15 pm

Button, the lime-a-rita is something to drink from my usual, bu if I drink more than one tall can of those, I’d may get sick to my stomach. Wine coolers/Smirnoff Ice, and things along those lines don’t usually sit well on my stomach.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:16 pm

Button ~ I saw where Kroger had them 10 for $10. I bought 4 of the little cans

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:17 pm

leggs, dodge ball was my game! i got serious trying to knock kids off their feet with those balls.

EXACTLY. We played dodged ball with a basketball. If you weren’t swift, you got some bruises. I had a ball.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
4:19 pm

I bought 4 of the little cans

I got some on Saturday…have two left. I like to put mine in the freezer and let it get a lil icy..

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:20 pm

SassyMe ~ you’ve ever been to a “bucket party?” Love the bucket. You putting it in the freezer to get a little icy reminded me of the the Bucket.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:27 pm

What is a bucket party?

I may need to stop at Kroger on my way home! I need to do some cleaning around my house and it would be nice to have a buzz going…

disco

May 29th, 2013
4:31 pm

bluz – nothing like getting your sip on and playing some music to get your housecleaning on.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
4:31 pm

Leggs I haven’t been to one…sounds interesting. I don’t usually drink out of cans but when I do I like it kinda slushy-like. Yeah I might get a lil somethin’ from the likka sto…since there’s no basketball on tonight..

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
4:33 pm

We played dodged ball with a basketball.
you know i first read “baseball” and was like :shock: !!!!!!!!!!
lol

ciao, all! get home safely.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:36 pm

Baseboards are fast, but they HURT! Basketball for the right crowd and beach ball for a different, more wussy crowd.

Button

May 29th, 2013
4:38 pm

disco/Bluzgirl – 5^ on buzz cleaning lol I actully get more done-who knew! lol

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
4:39 pm

ciao, all! get home safely.

You too, chica.

I’m out y’all…have a good evening everybody :mrgreen:

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:39 pm

You can get the original “Bucket” from Sams. Its a bucket filled with margarita mix. You pour in tequila and place in freezer overnight. You’ll have slusy margarita’s the next day. I used them when I’m having a bid whist party. They are very, very good.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:40 pm

Not baseboards, meant baseballs…

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
4:41 pm

Leggs — You’ve already started drinking, haven’t you? ;-)

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
4:45 pm

Dang. Check back in and y’all gots a bucket party going. I’m in!!! :)

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:46 pm

Leggs – I was wondering… :-)

Don’t see in Kroger’s ads where the Lime-a-ritas are on sale…wonder if they still are…

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:46 pm

daddy swiss ~ the way I’ve been typing you would think (lol).

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:47 pm

They probably are..back of store in box with other 10 for 10 items.

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
4:47 pm

It’s not a sale item, Bluz, it’s an all-time thing. Like those aluminum bottles of beer – they’re 10 for 10 all the time. ;)

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:49 pm

Nice!!! 10 for 10 is actually a good deal on those. I think an 8 pack is about $12ish…

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:50 pm

I drank one of the little cans while I was making baked beans the other day. Nice little sip when you want something, but not a full on strong drink.

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
4:50 pm

I think it’s the smaller cans, though, not the big gulps. Tee hee. I said big gulp.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:51 pm

I’ve only seen them in a 4-pack for $7.39

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
4:52 pm

^ just trying to save you the trouble of having to comment, Swissykins. :)

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:53 pm

ITL – I think they are all the little cans…not sure, though. The night I drank about 6 (at least) of the little cans, I was GONE!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:54 pm

This has been a mighty fine blogging day. Started off with some very nice commentary on topic only to find ourselves sitting in the corner drinking lime-a-ritas!

Gottal love it.

PEACE!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
4:56 pm

10 for 10 are the little cans…very little cans. A little bigger than a can of Contadina Tomato Paste!

Button

May 29th, 2013
4:56 pm

it’s a lil can with a big punch!

Into the Light

May 29th, 2013
4:57 pm

Night, y’all. :)

daddy swiss

May 29th, 2013
4:57 pm

ITL — Why whatever do you mean? What comment would I possibly make on your small cans and big gulps? ;-)

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
4:58 pm

I gotta run also…good night! Hopefully, I can get on here again tomorrow!

Penelope

May 29th, 2013
5:00 pm

Hello, peepsykins!

I have been truly business. Hope all is well with everyone!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
5:01 pm

Not a big punch, but a decent jab.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
5:01 pm

Seems like Penelope just threw her can behind the stairwell….

Penelope

May 29th, 2013
5:03 pm

Hiccup….ooopsy!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
5:07 pm