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Text message cheating?

A reader wrote in to ask whether or not inappropriate texts can be considered cheating.  She found her live-in boyfriend’s text messages to another woman.  (Ok, when I say found, I actually mean snooped!) He insisted that they have never hooked up but admitted to a few dirty text messages.

Do you think that sending texts to people who are not your significant other automatically classifies as cheating?  What if the nature of the text messages is harmless and simple flirting?

Would it bother you if you discovered that the person you are dating had a habit of sending texts to women from his past?  Would you ask them to stop or dump them?

What is the appeal of sending dirty texts to people you aren’t even dating?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

448 comments Add your comment

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
12:58 pm

Disco- When your mom tells you not to wear her shoes, you do NOT wear them any way. She was asking for it, lol. She got snatched in addition to being forced to wear slippers. And she was grown!

Leggs- I can visualize the smell of the vanilla candle wax and the tar in my skelly tops. I loved that game!

Durty- I may have missed all of my dating years because I married young, but I have my ideas with respect to what is/is not acceptable. Disrespect will not be tolerated. Other things will warrant conversation because I know that not everyone thinks the same. Needless to say, we went dutch.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
12:59 pm

disco ~ I agree with your 12:44. Exactyly czB!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:01 pm

I think archive trolling should be banned…

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:02 pm

Ms. Atl ~ I hear you loudly and clearly!

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
1:02 pm

This is a blog rule violation:

Alright folks, by blogging is done for now @ 12;51. Then we get Beautiful – Cause I dang wanna and cause I can at 12:54PM.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:04 pm

Soooo, we just had to evacuate the building due to a fire alarm caused by some adult BURNING popcorn!!! WHY is it that people just can’t follow the simple instructions on the bag. Better yet, just buy some popcorn from the vending machine, LOL!!!

-Disco/Brat That’s one of my rules as well. Along with, I don’t babysit disrespectful kids. I don’t allow my own children to disrespect me and I won’t allow it from someone else’s child either.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:05 pm

Better to say “bye” here repeatedly than with a dude and going nowhere…

OH NO SHE DIDN’T!!!

Oh yes you did. Shouldn’t laugh, but it was set up for you!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:05 pm

:mrgreen: I shouldn’t be laughing so hard

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:06 pm

if i was rude, i apologize. but i had to ask since no one else did

Beautiful ~ we don’t ask cuz we already know why (lol). You’re new again. You know like, a born again virgin. You’ll get the hang of the new bloggers (lololol).

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:09 pm

Leggs/ Brat- Y’all tell me where I can find a handball court in ATL & i will bring the Spalding balls.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:09 pm

MsAtl, awww, the tar. It was an art scrapping the bottle top off using the street grate. That’s what we did. Glass worked far better than the other tops! So smooth knocking the opponent out of it’s box and you glide just enough in the box, sometimes touching the line of the box but remaining in bounds. Skill.

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:10 pm

i ain’t that new new LOL. i understand the addiction. i know first hand that when you think you’re posting your last post, it really is not your last. you gotta come back to read any comments left for you or simply get your fix to logging back on.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:12 pm

What’s “archive” trolling? If you mean only coming on and blogging about things said back then, I agree. If that’s not it, pls. enlighten me.

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:16 pm

Along with, I don’t babysit disrespectful kids.

I am laughing so hard over here because just last night I told my child she may be asked to watch 3 bad boys over a weekend next month. I told her I would pay her to say “no” simply because I know I won’t be in the mood to handle them, and I can’t put my hands on them.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:16 pm

Leggs – I was wondering the same thing… :-)

I thought today would be crazy after being out of the office for two business days, but it’s not so bad. Wish it was busier because I’m sooooooo sleepy!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:18 pm

Durty… you mean Celisea LOL! not me.

czBrat… i take away stuff and make them do chores. it benefits me :) ) hitting them hurts me emotionally. wish big mommas back in the day felt the same way LOL

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:18 pm

Just finished my weekly dose of publlix chicken tenders, I swear they season that mess with crack! lol

MissMoni- nothing like burnt popcorn- the gross smell!

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:22 pm

-Button Agreed. You are with the Publix Chicken Tenders how I am with the Tropicana Peach Orchard Punch. I declare that it’s spiked with a form of crack, LOL!!!

czBrat ♀ island bound!!

May 29th, 2013
1:24 pm

leggs, you’re just about small enough to fit so c’mon!!!

sooooo, what’s archive trolling?

hopscotch, hoola hoops, jacks and skip-it were more faves.

msAtl, them spaldings are the best if you wanna get in a good corner killer.

button, have you tried their mardi gras or asian wings dipped in their jalapeno hummus? just damn!

Durty Burd

May 29th, 2013
1:24 pm

MissMoni the person was probably receiving a text and go so engaged into the texting, she set the microwave for the wrong time….This has happened 3 times in the building where I work at!

@Leggs … dude is not putting on Celisea right because she is still posting crazy since last year. hehehehe….. Good Luving will calm u azz down…. lol

Single and Happy

May 29th, 2013
1:25 pm

hitting them hurts me emotionally. :-O this is going hurt you more than it hurts me (LOL)

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:25 pm

-Leggs That’s nothing but the truth. You have to know what you can handle especially when it comes to babysitting someone’s kids. I don’t get how people raise these lil bad butts and then don’t understand why people DON’T want to babysit them. My theory, if they won’t listen to me then they can’t stay with me.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

I gotta try these Publix chicken tenders…never have…

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

Leggs- I was scared of glass. I used a glass bottle top for hop scotch one time & received a nasty cut to the palm when I went for a reach.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

-Durty I wouldn’t doubt it. Those text messages tend to make some people go crazy!!!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:27 pm

Yeah, I don’t deal with bad behind kids either. Or babysit for parents that are funny and particular acting about their little brats. Yall don’t live in Buckingham Palace and yo kid aint a prince/princess!

Sorry if you didn’t get the Dating 101 handbook or flunked the class. I’m not dealing with you.

MissMoni

May 29th, 2013
1:28 pm

Hola Bluzgirl! You’ve been quiet today. . .

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:29 pm

Damn I wish this woman sitting in the cubicle behind me would SHUT UP THAT SINGING!!! And it’s depressing gospel stuff at that!!!

Beautiful

May 29th, 2013
1:29 pm

Single… i have a fb friend who post sad faces every time he spanks his son. it’s so cute. he be so emotionally bent

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:32 pm

this is going hurt you more than it hurts me (LOL)

Single – You right LOL, cause my mama never said that ish!! Yo butt was getting beat and it was not gonna hurt her one bit!!!LOLO!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:32 pm

Durty – You shole is (yes is) worried about me and my smashing?? Don’t worry boo, I’m guuuuuud

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:34 pm

I love Publix Mardi Gras wings. The tenders are just okay, not enough seasoning for me.

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:34 pm

Kimmie – I LOVE gospel music. That’s what I listen to most of the time :) :)

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:36 pm

MsAtl ~ I’m going to look for one. That would be comical if we were out there playing handball. I’ll make sure to pack icy hot and some ben gay (cracking up).

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:36 pm

Kimmie- She’s not singing the “Ol” Negro spirituals, is she???

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

Cel – I like it too when it’s done by my church choir or professionals and not the real depressing numbers. This chick here moans and squeaks and will make you lose your religion!LOL!!!

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

czBrat- I haven’t although it does sound tasty.

MsAtl

May 29th, 2013
1:37 pm

Enter your comments hereLeggs- My doctor told me to stop playing handball when I was pregnant with my daughter, lol. I really miss it! I wonder if there is one in Piedmont Park?

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:38 pm

Kimmie – Maybe she’s having her break through

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:38 pm

Atl – Yes mame, she’s killing me!! Lord, we have already overcome!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

May 29th, 2013
1:39 pm

And it’s depressing gospel stuff at that!!!

Kimmie…you heathen :lol:

I know that kind of gospel music you’re talking about. Sometimes it can be comforting but most times for me it makes me sad…somehow it evokes memories of my granny and I have to change the station.

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:39 pm

Cel – Well then her break through has been going on for the last 6 1/2 years then, cause every now and then she cranks up!

kimmie

May 29th, 2013
1:40 pm

Sassy – You know what I’m talkin bout!!LOL!!!

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:40 pm

Kimmie – Stooop, you’re a supervisor right? Just pull her in and tell her to chill or get ear plugs and hum within :)

Button

May 29th, 2013
1:41 pm

speaking on bad azz kids I like watching the super nanny show with Deb Tillman. She is one tough cookie.

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:42 pm

Hi MissMoni!!! Haven’t had too much to add today. Still recovering from a quick trip this weekend…seems like it takes me a little longer to recover each time I travel! LOL

Celisea

May 29th, 2013
1:43 pm

I sure do miss Lady blogging

Bluzgirl

May 29th, 2013
1:43 pm

kimmie – my boss likes to go around and sing, but she has a HORRIBLE voice and usually only knows one word or sentance of the song and sings it over and over. It’s agonizing!!!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:44 pm

Beautiful ~ I know you’re not that “new new” but you’re new enough. Doesn’t matter because we’re interpreting the posts differently…no sweat…all’s good!

:lol: :lol: @czB – btw, loved jacks too.

MsAtl ~ to get that bottle ring top off w/o breaking the glass was pure skill. We all were proud of our work. Smooth out the edges, pack it with tar or dirt, and slide that bad boy onto the street board. Awww, the memories (lol).

Durty ~ hush re: Celisea. Don’t start none, won’t be none!

Leggs

May 29th, 2013
1:45 pm

She’s not singing the “Ol” Negro spirituals, is she???

I could listen to those all day.