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Where do men like to date?

My friend Eric was asked out on a date recently, which kind of excited him a bit. The young lady kind of added to the excitement telling him that the details of the date was a surprise. Oh, he was surprised, alright.

The surprise date was at an art studio where they had to sketch and paint each other. I thought it was a cute date idea! Eric just could not understand how she thought he would enjoy something like that. I told him maybe he was being tested to see how open minded he could me. Men say they are open to new things, some mean open to new sexual things.

It can be tricky planning a date for a man.  I don’t know how guys do it all the time for us picky – sometimes hard to please people. Where do men go on dates to have fun?

Guys, how open are you to date activities that are a little unorthodox? Would you mind trying a new experience? Do you like it when the women you date introduce you to new things?

By Wise Diva

259 comments Add your comment

Lee

May 20th, 2013
7:00 am

Eric it seems has issues : next time he can sit his azz home and stay alone.

Exiled

May 20th, 2013
7:01 am

I am listening!

Good morning!

MissMoni

May 20th, 2013
7:10 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!! :-)

I too am listening!

Button

May 20th, 2013
8:56 am

Good morning, Good question Wise.

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
9:15 am

Sooooo Eric didn’t have fun???? I mean, goodness gracious, I would not want to date someone so closed minded. I’ve never done that for a date but just thinking about it, I could imagine having so much fun with it, no matter how artistically challenged we may be. Off the rip, he’s taking away ole girls brownie points. At least she asked his azz out and tried to put forth effort….blah blah blah….GTFOH!

Oh, did I fail to say good morning?? I usually eat a Greek yogurt with fresh blueberries for breakfast….so i pack the blueberries, pack my lunch but left the dayum yogurt at home. :???:

disco

May 20th, 2013
9:20 am

good morning.

slim – are you feeling some kind of way this morning?

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
9:23 am

are you feeling some kind of way this morning?

disco – Yeah……Hungry :lol: I feel like the folks on those Snickers commercials…lol I think I may have a muscle milk here at work. So there maybe hope yet for me. ;-)

disco

May 20th, 2013
9:25 am

as for the topic and fun, i’m known to say that once you pass a certain age you really don’t have fun anymore. when you are younger everything is “man that was so much fun”. when you get older you tend to say “i/we had such a nice time”. sort of like my grandmother describing the “sanging” at the church. lol.

MissMoni

May 20th, 2013
9:25 am

-Disco I was going to ask the same question.

-Slim Quick, please get something to eat. :-)

MsAtl

May 20th, 2013
9:26 am

Morning All!

Lee- I had to laugh at your response.

While waiting for the men to chime in on where they like to go on dates, I will respond. I have planned dates in a variety of arenas- ziplining; Nascar; beach; bowling; go karts; park/picnic; music festivals. I have not had a complaint yet and has received compliments on my choices. I had actually planned a sip and paint but did not go through with it and was notified that the guy thought it would be fun. I am open to trying new things and would hope others would be also. If you don’t enjoy it, then you know not to try again, but at least make the effort.

MissMoni

May 20th, 2013
9:30 am

-MsAtl You seem to be adventurous like myself. I like to do a variety of things and I’ll make the best out of any situation. Fun means different things to different people and some people are simply content with doing what the always do, even if that’s sitting on the couch watching reruns, LOL! Like I always say, do what works best for you & your mate.

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
9:31 am

Imma just munch on the blueberries for now. Thanks ya’ll lol

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
9:33 am

If you don’t enjoy it, then you know not to try again, but at least make the effort

MsAtl – SHAZAM! Had I had my yogurt this morning, i’m sure that’s how my post would’ve came out. :lol: Don’t knock it till you try it.

disco

May 20th, 2013
9:34 am

come on now slim. you know those blueberries ain’t about to be hitting on nothing. lol.

fashion police alert: I swear I will not be surprised if I come to work one day and see sign up sheets for a wet tshirt contest or a twerk competition or something. boy oh boy, it is real up in here.

Button

May 20th, 2013
9:37 am

disco – really?? at a certian age?? I still have fun! I had fun last night :wink:

When it comes to planning dates for guys or anyone for that matter, it’s best to find out his likes and dislikes. Eric prob was not into art/painting. It was not his thing and there’s nothing wrong with that. You just have to plan accordingly. My guy is not into picnics so I know never to plan a picnic date for us bc I know he wouldn’t enjoy it.

MissMoni

May 20th, 2013
9:40 am

-Disco So your co-workers are wearing leftover weekend outfits to work??? LOL!!!

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
9:40 am

disco – You are absolutely right because they are already gone and I’m feeling unfulfilled lol I’m eyeballing these two kit-kats sitting on my desk but it’s too dayum early for that kind of chocolate. :oops:

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
9:48 am

I think her outing was quite creative. He shouldn’t complain. She thought outside the box and she gets 10 brownie points.

Good, good morning!

disco

May 20th, 2013
9:48 am

button – yep. just pay attention to conversations . can’t speak for everyone’s circle but I generally hear the older set proclaim to have had fun and the older set proclaim to have had a good time.

button – you are talking about planning a date for someone you already know. sometimes you just met. sure you can try to gather info from conversation but maybe you already had tickets to an event or whatever.

slim – eat the kit kat. eat both of them.

Button

May 20th, 2013
9:55 am

diso- hmm maybe I should pay more attention to the much older crowd but even the much older crowd I am around still use the word fun when describing an event they’ve attended.

as for planning dates, whether it’s the first or the continuing, you should at least find out the persons likes and dislikes esp when it comes to going places/activities. jmo

disco

May 20th, 2013
9:58 am

random – what are brownie points and cool points worth these days? where can you redeem them? lol.

button – there are often times when I already have event tickets or living social coupons or whatever. my goal is to not let the tickets go to waste, not to make sure the person I invite is a fan of the event. I’m like “yogurt-free slim” this morning. they oughtta be happy they got invited in the first place. lol.

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
10:00 am

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:01 am

disco ~ what are you saying? Your job has the best boobs? I’m cracking up.

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:04 am

SlimNu ~ put that dang kit kat down. Too early for candy. Don’t listen to disco (lol).

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:05 am

Brownie points are redeemed in bed or at the jewelry store! Truth.com

MsAtl

May 20th, 2013
10:07 am

Moni- Yes, I am adventurous and I like to try different things.

MissMoni

May 20th, 2013
10:09 am

LOL at Leggs 10:04! Truth is, it’s never too early to eat chocolate for a Chocoholic!!! ;-)

Durty Burd (Yes I can)

May 20th, 2013
10:10 am

Good Morning!

Dude has a lack appreciation for her efforts. Sketching and painting each other could have made for a very erotic evening…hehehehe

Ms.Atl I like the list, I went to a Nascar event and had a lot of fun. I am open to just about everything, if my date puts in the time to plan an outing then I will fully enjoy the time because I appreciate her taking out the time to plan.

Camping, horseback riding, salsa dancing, local plays, etc.

Disco quit acting old, you are never to old to have fun.

Button

May 20th, 2013
10:11 am

disco – I don’t get your concept. So you say you’ll take a date to a place they don’t care for just so your ticket or coupon won’t go to waste? Why take/invite someone to a place/event they don’t like knowing that it will be a miserable time? Shouldn’t your goal be to have a “good time” with that person while there making fond memories?

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:13 am

Dude has a lack appreciation for her efforts. Sketching and painting each other could have made for a very erotic evening…hehehehe

Durty, must be honest, I was thinking the same thing, but quickly remembered it was a first date!

Button

May 20th, 2013
10:15 am

WOW has anybody been on a date that thay didn’t like? even though a person puts forth the effort doesn’t mean that you should have to suffer through it just to appease to them. They are getting their rocks off enjoying it and having a fun time while you sit there suffering. lol and not say anything? where’s the honesty? where’s being real, I’d rather be told that he didn’t like the date than to fake it.

Durty Burd (Yes I can)

May 20th, 2013
10:16 am

Ladies breakfast is important, only eating yogurt in the morning is simply not enough. U got to balance your meals, that helps balance your day. Advice for Doctor Durty…

DreamsMaterialize

May 20th, 2013
10:17 am

Morning
A person isn’t obligated to like an event of activity, especially if they didn’t haven any input (i.e. a surprise). They should, however, be appreciative of the effort, expense, feelings of the person who planned the activities. No need to be rude and inconsiderate because you didn’t get what you wanted. With that said, I actually do like trying new things, so I’m usually cool with surprises. So come on blog ladies…surprise me! ;-)

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
10:18 am

Leggs – I’m already thinking about what I want for dinner tonight lol

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:18 am

Advice FOR Doctor Durty or FROM Doctor Durty (lol).

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:20 am

SlimNu ~ my dinner is already cooked. Made a big batch of homemade spaghetti sauce with onions, peppers, mushrooms, Johnsville Italian sausage, ground beef, ground turkey. So so good.

disco

May 20th, 2013
10:21 am

button – yep. should the inviter take the other person’s desires into consideration? sure. should the invitee be appreciative of whatever is presented to them? yep. it goes both ways. I don’t like sports yet I’ve been to sporting events. sometimes you take one for the team and leave your selfish at home. besides that, often people don’t go all into planning surprise dates. sometimes they just say “hey do you wanna do such and such”. if you don’t want to do it, say so.

Button

May 20th, 2013
10:21 am

it’s my surprise, so surprise me with things I like to do.

SlimNu

May 20th, 2013
10:21 am

Button – I have never been on a date I didn’t enjoy. I’m one of those folks that try to bring my own fun or make the best out of every situation. I guess I do not see the big deal with the painting date, maybe because I’m a chick. But it’s not like she took him to a musical or opera or something. But different strokes for different folks. Now I have taken a dude on an outing that he was really uncomfortable going to. So I basically came up with an excuse for us to leave and we dipped to do something else.

DreamsMaterialize

May 20th, 2013
10:22 am

I swear I will not be surprised if I come to work one day and see sign up sheets for a wet tshirt contest or a twerk competition or something.
Ladies, just take your date to disco’s job. Disco, you can charge a cover. lol

Durty Burd (Yes I can)

May 20th, 2013
10:23 am

Button its all in your mindset, if you are the type of person who thinks of you first, then you will not enjoy the date. If you are of the mindset, I going make the best of the situation, enjoy my time with my date then you will have a good time.

Disco what tickets do you have so I can and we can use those tickets!

Leggs… the young lady was excited about the planning the whole event and dude simply enjoy the outing… Selfishness is the friend of the devil

Button

May 20th, 2013
10:25 am

disco – that’s where the problem begins. You can’t go in pretending from the rip. You have to be honest. Say what you like and don’t like. It will make getting along so much easier. We are to sensetive when it comes to dating. It’s it about getting to know the other person, not getting to know the person you want them to be aka MR/MISS Go Along.

disco

May 20th, 2013
10:26 am

a friend invited me to a basketball game once. I was down and said sure. get downtown to meet said friend and turns out they had football tickets. I was super ticked off. I was dressed for inside, not outside and while I can tolerate basketball I really despise football. boy was I mad at that friend.

dreams – okay but no refunds. lol.

Durty Burd (Yes I can)

May 20th, 2013
10:30 am

The Doctor Durty loves homemade spaghetti, so I am eating at Leggs house tonight. Ms. Leggs what type of wine shall I bring? :)

O.K. I am missing too many words in my sentences, I will stop blogging right now..

DuShawn

May 20th, 2013
10:31 am

I can’t imagine any man not being flattered by a woman’s effort to plan a date especially for him, even if it was something he didn’t necessarily enjoy. The mere fact the she thought enough of him to try is worthy of appreciation and gratitude.

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:32 am

I like white wine, but can tolerate white merlot!

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:33 am

100% agree, DuShawn!

Leggs

May 20th, 2013
10:34 am

O/T: Look at homey’s lips. Looks like those red balloon lips you see at the store!

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/residents-fight-back-would-be-home-invader-article-1.1348535

disco

May 20th, 2013
10:34 am

button – we’ll just accept that you and i aren’t tracking (where’s single? – lol). by going along, do you mean my attending sporting events? if so, I don’t generally care much for the game BUT I do enjoy food, drinks and people so I can make it do what it do. going to a game is not being untrue to myself or pretending for someone else. trust me, folks know I’m not a sports fan.

Button

May 20th, 2013
10:34 am

disco – did you share your feelings with your friend? I am a believer that when you are honest with your feelings people respect you so much more.

Durty – it has nothing to do with being selfish, instead being real. We are our own individual, you can’t go in expecting the other person to conform to your ways.