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Looks or personality?

For single people, attraction is important and it can be the driving force to how we interact with each other.  Personality is what keeps us interested. When you consider them both, which do you believe is really more important?

I ask this question because I believe so many of us are drawn to what appeals to us physically first (obviously), but we would overlook a person’s awful personality.  If personality is so important to us, why is it that so often we let their looks influence our interest?

Do you believe that a person’s personality can make them more physically attractive over time?  I have heard some women say that the more they got to know a guy, the less attractive he became.  This makes me wonder where do we really place the most value, in looks or personality.

Have you ever met someone and felt no attraction to initially? Did they become more attractive to you over time?  What do you think that says about us?  How does that impact our dating behavior?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

278 comments Add your comment

cba

May 16th, 2013
1:18 pm

Button- I’m hooked on Publix’s mardi gra wings…..especially if they are alittle over baked.

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
1:18 pm

I think I could date someone with a physical impairment. I guess it all just depends on what it is. I haven’t been faced with that yet, but I sure wouldn’t knock a man out of the running just for a handicap. He could be the “one.”

Exiled

May 16th, 2013
1:19 pm

Button?
‘Bedroom a too’

That’s very honest of U!
Because beroom action is front and center after the bills are paid and we got bills,a/c,gas,lights and food!

MissMoni

May 16th, 2013
1:22 pm

-MsAtl I was trying to look without him realize that I was looking, to investigate what was going on with his eye. Then he asked me if I was single! I was thinking please don’t ask me out, LOL!!!

Leggs

May 16th, 2013
1:22 pm

Ex ~ I didn’t remind him re condoms because he never leaves home w/o them, but I did advise him to keep his clothes on. I should have been more specific and said his trunks. He’s seeking a tropical gal and whichever one can activate his radar gear, it’s a go!!!

MissMoni

May 16th, 2013
1:24 pm

-Bluzgirl Even if he was in a wheelchair?

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
1:24 pm

My turn for lunch…be back in a little bit

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
1:24 pm

MissMoni – I don’t know…I’d like to think I wouldn’t hold that against him.

Button

May 16th, 2013
1:25 pm

cba – hunty hunty Publix deli is the debil! LOL

Exile – you better reckonize! @ bedroom activiites. he better know how to use the tongue, finger, toe shoot we don’t always have to insert, there are many ways to get an O.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
1:32 pm

*The best way to get along with your manager is to do your work, not feel they “owe” you anything or EXPECT anything more than your pay. You agree to work in exchange for pay…and that’s all. Not being the manager’s best bud, friends and friendship, to be liked, to keep dibs on your neighbors, etc etc etc. If you’re expecting more than work in exchange for pay, you got some growing to do. They don’t owe it to you to “understand” anything going on with you, outside of work. While we’re all human and having that component (an understanding mgr) is all good, they’re NOT obligated. All you should want, IMO, is respect. Respect me and what I do.

Do your work, mind your business, get your stuff and go home after you’ve put your time in.*

i love this Celisea!

MsAtl

May 16th, 2013
1:45 pm

Moni- Your 1:22 had me dying!

Leggs

May 16th, 2013
1:47 pm

MsAtl

May 16th, 2013
2:02 pm

Leggs- Really? Lol. Now those two should not be drinking!

Button

May 16th, 2013
2:08 pm

Leggs- I read about that lol his fart musta be hellava stank.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:11 pm

did you guys see the gas station Jay Leno flix?

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:12 pm

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
2:16 pm

I know this may not be the place for this, but several of you are God loving people. I need to ask you to pray for a friend of mine. She gave birth this morning in London and had a major brain bleed. She is in grave condition in intensive care. Her brother passed away 5 years ago and her mother is with her right now. These people are like family to me. I’m freaking out about it and praying really hard. Please send up prayers…

Thank you.

MissMoni

May 16th, 2013
2:23 pm

-Bluzgirl I will definitely say a prayer for your friend. I’m never too busy to pray. :-)

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
2:25 pm

Thanks MissMoni!

disco

May 16th, 2013
2:31 pm

moni – I’m not doing physical impairments. I know a couple of chicks who married amputees.

bluz – considering all of your disabled pets I can’t see that a disabled man is much of a jump. lol.

speaking of court chasing Fiji women, blog ladies (hypothetically) if you were choosing a vacation destination purely for the possibility of screwing a local, where would you go?

disco

May 16th, 2013
2:34 pm

B – it’s not always about trying to be friends with your boss. sometimes you are hired directly by your boss. sometimes you are hired by someone else and get put with a boss. sometimes it’s nothing more than clashing personalities. sometimes you really do work for a jerk. either way, these issues are often about more than just the work or the job or seeking understanding.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:35 pm

Bluz… i’m sorry to read about your friend and i know it’s tough cause you’re not with her. i’m praying for you also.

cba

May 16th, 2013
2:37 pm

Beautiful- those two are good, they definitely seem in tune with each other. I get the feeling they’ll probably grow old and grey together….. :-)

kimmie

May 16th, 2013
2:42 pm

Bluz – Just put a prayer for your friend and her family, which includes you!

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:42 pm

disco… my situation is how management is just cold hearted. the way they treat ppl was disgusting. it interrupted my work, health, and relationship with them. when she picked the last fight with me i was done. a week later i was terminated because i no longer did the phoney smile, good morning, good nite, joke around, kiss butt. when you’re done, you’re done!

reading Celisea’s post is just a reminder that yes, they don’t owe you nothing. do your job and go home! i should have never let my feelings go to work with me.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:46 pm

cba… i love their chemistry. my eyes teared up a little. you can tell they have so much fun together

Button

May 16th, 2013
2:49 pm

Your job is your bread and butter and when you have a boss who’s not so gentle to work under is a stress which makes going to work or doing your job a less priorty. Sure you can say find another job or do your job and go home but that’s not the answer…easier said than done. Some people have not had the pleasure of working for the boss from hell and it’s not pretty. moral is low and on top of that who actually can be innovative and excel with a boss who is so mean and unfair? Some ppl should not be in management period. But the systme is broke so it is what it is i guess.

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
2:51 pm

Thank you Beautiful…all of us in this circle need prayers. I’m glad I’m at work today to keep my mind occupied…

disco

May 16th, 2013
2:52 pm

button – I’ve never had a boss from hell but knowing me I’d probably be up out that piece quick fast and in a hurry. I’ve had some hellish co-workers but I’ve dealt with those issues. mostly ignore them, maybe mean mug them every now and again. lol. a boss though? a direct superior? no way in hell I’d put myself through that day in and day out.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:53 pm

Button… i must co-sign! you’re right. it’s not easy.

Bluzgirl

May 16th, 2013
2:54 pm

Thanks kimmie!!!

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
2:56 pm

disco… i’ll take horrible co-workers anyday. but a mgr with no compassion for others… i had to go. no questions. done!

cba

May 16th, 2013
2:56 pm

Unfortunately, alot of companies promote people who are very good at what they do. But being very good and having no people skills is the problem. Sometimes it takes upper management a long time to figure out these people can’t manage their own lives.

Button

May 16th, 2013
2:57 pm

disc/beautiful – with the economy bosses are taking full advantage of abusing their authority. They know you just won’t up and quit like that. so having a lala attitude saying do your job and go home is hogwash! You’re dealing with people who think they are holding your balls(or nips) in their hands. twisting and twisting and mentally abusing you as they see fit.

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2:58 pm

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kimmie

May 16th, 2013
2:59 pm

Button – I agree, everyone is not in a position to pick up and go. In fact, it seems like those are the ones the bosses-from-H prey upon. They know you aren’t going anywhere any time soon.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
3:01 pm

*head noddin’* yup!

Leggs

May 16th, 2013
3:03 pm

Beautiful ~ I saw that yesterday. Some are saying it’s staged. Apparently, it’s her second time on that gas station monitor wearing the exact same pants 2 years ago. I guess people do this, but I haven’t seen someone pull up to a gas station and having to pull the gas nozzle over the hood because they didn’t pull up on the side the gas tank is on. Sure it happens, I just haven’t seen it in years. They say it wasn’t staged, but same gas station, same pump twice in 2 years.

Celisea

May 16th, 2013
3:06 pm

Button, I beg to differ that it’s easier said than done. A few years ago I got pulled in some mess with my then manager and a coworker she had beef with. That chick hadn’t been trained, was behind, was brushed off by, so forth and so on. Well, I’d accepted a role as a lead person on that team and sat across from her. I guess (and no, no bragging), from listening to me she started to realize just how far behind she had fallen behind the entire group. She was sort of an “outcast” in that group, but she and I clicked really well. Anyway she started asking me to help her get up to speed and “learn” the job. That manager was the pettiest crappiest I’d EVER seen in all my years of working….to date! Well, so what…that’s neither here nor there with me. Because of how shallow she’d always operated and petty, she took it personal when I started showing this chick not only the job, but how to hold her responsible as her manager for her learning and growth, how to document meetings and calls and conversations and requests. Well everyone knew this manager was known for going after folks that “crossed” her. Annnnd???? What does that have to do with me and my job??? Didn’t see me shaking…lol Anyhoo, we get a new “big” manager, and she start the tricks. The first week of that manager being there, she hit that chick from the left, called a meeting w/the big mgr. And gave her a verbal saying she caused conflict. When the girl asked for proof…right, mums the word. Well, I’m all shocked and in disbelief and think nothing more about it. She calls me in and tries the same thing…hit me from the left. And I was like I DON’T THINK SO. Like I said, rarely do I even talk at work. I asked for proof and she couldn’t provide. I went further though. I told her WHILE SHE SAT THERE that I had no clue what she was talking about and that it was her being vendictive cause she wasn’t feeling the other chick, about all the crass stuff that went on, how she instigated amongst the workers and keep other team members at odds, how she cusses on the floor, etc etc etc etc etc…I told it all. The “big” manager asked, “are you saying she’s lying on you” and I responded, “I’m saying she’s lair.” I went back to my desk and wrote an email to the big manager that I was not staying and said a bunch of other stuff. She came to my desk the next day and took me in an empty office and asked me to stay, and that I would be “tickled pink” at what she was about to do. Two weeks later, I had a new manager and not only a new manager, won the medallion, the top award that can be given an associate in any department. That other mgr got placed on projects.

My point being, if you do your job, that in and of itself is the support you need. All that other mess is hogwash….AND GOD! That’s what I mean by you ain’t gotta be scared of the devil. Let him do what he does, and when he jumps, sic God on him….

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
3:06 pm

i had so much stress from her/them that my boobs hurt. every female in my family has had breast cancer/some sort of cancer . so with me being next in line to be diagnosed i thought that was a sign. after two mammos within six months and both being negative… come to find out it was stress!!! that really makes me mad

kimmie

May 16th, 2013
3:07 pm

I guess people do this, but I haven’t seen someone pull up to a gas station and having to pull the gas nozzle over the hood because they didn’t pull up on the side the gas tank is on.

Leggs – I actually see this quite a bit when Costco or QT is crowded. They go to the first empty pump they can get to.

SlimNu

May 16th, 2013
3:07 pm

cough…looooooong azzzzzzz post…cough

hehehehehehe

Celisea

May 16th, 2013
3:08 pm

And when the ballplayer came at me, I sent a letter to the CEO. I didn’t think twice to do it. Why, cause I do what I’m suppose to do. My manager’s manager is an exec…and that’s the first thing he said to me. Anybody that’s willing to take it to the top has nothing to hide. He said that was the first sign (and I’m paraphrasing) that I knew there was credibility on your part.

Back to working and lurking

Celisea

May 16th, 2013
3:08 pm

My baaaad, for the long post

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
3:08 pm

Leggs… when i saw him go to the other side of the car i thought hmmmmm… odd.

Beautiful

May 16th, 2013
3:10 pm

okay, now lemme go read Celisea

cba

May 16th, 2013
3:10 pm

Dang Leggs, I paused for a moment and said hmmmmm……now you are confirming my hmmmmm.
What they say, if it looks are sound too good……. Oh well

kimmie

May 16th, 2013
3:12 pm

Beautiful – I ran into some health issues early in my career due to job stress. I learned then I really have to watch it. I’m high risk for cancer too.

Celisea

May 16th, 2013
3:13 pm

So sorry, Diva…for the long post, please forgive me :)

MissMoni

May 16th, 2013
3:16 pm

Alright ya’ll, I’m cutting out early today. Have a GREAT remainder of your day! :-)