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Relationships: Don’t go changing!

Yes, I referenced a Billy Joel song.   It’s a classic.  It also highlights what a lot of men think about the women they pick.  Whatever quirky, wonderful quality a man falls for in a woman, he doesn’t want to see it go away.  A lot of men prefer that  the woman they meet is the truest representation of her.  If or when she flips the script, things get complicated.  Men don’t like complicated.

I know a friend who has a real fear of marrying one person and then she changes into someone he “used to know.”  I don’t think any woman can  guarantee that she won’t grow or change, though.  Do you think that change and growth can be viewed as a threat to a long- lasting relationship?

Have you ever dated someone who changed a lot over the course of your relationship?  Did the change bring you closer together or was it a challenge?

How much change are you willing to handle in a relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

258 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

May 13th, 2013
2:27 pm

disco – buket nekkid blog Monday….i’m already taking my stuff off….Who has the vaseline?

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:27 pm

ex – Compton water? is that what they use to make pimp juice? lol.

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:27 pm

-Disco LOL, I’m not surprised by you wanting a “Free For All”. So, anything interesting happen with your fam this weekend? ;-)

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 13th, 2013
2:27 pm

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:29 pm

slim – you’se a nut. not that you bout to get greased up. lol.

moni – don’t know. haven’t talked to any of them. well, talked to the offspring but he don’t know nothing.

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:30 pm

-ITL OK then, I’ll start with an oversized glass of Moscato!

Leggs

May 13th, 2013
2:30 pm

ITL ~ it was a decent day.

You’re right, ITL, never too early for dranks.

DreamsMaterialize

May 13th, 2013
2:31 pm

buket nekkid blog Monday….i’m already taking my stuff off…
Dang no one told me about this. I don’t even have any singles. Du, Court, Ex Any of ya’ll got change for a 4 dollar bill? lol

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:32 pm

-SlimNu Put that vaseline away and get to the bar, LOL!!!

-Disco Sorry to hear that. :-(

Leggs

May 13th, 2013
2:33 pm

“…buket nekkid blog Monday….i’m already taking my stuff off….Who has the vaseline?”

Heck you need to be asking for bandaids to cover up the areola. If that’s bitten, it can be quite painful when in a fight!

Beautiful

May 13th, 2013
2:34 pm

alcoholic – find any and every reason to drink! lmbo

Leggs

May 13th, 2013
2:35 pm

Ok, you guys have officially gone left.

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:35 pm

moni – sorry I have no tales to tell or sorry my child don’t know nothing? lol.

slim – don’t listen to moni. grease up, braid your hair, go to the bar and order something that will be served to you in a bottle – just in case. lol.

ex – don’t judge slim for sitting at the bar drinking a 40 oz of Schlitz malt liquor.

Celisea

May 13th, 2013
2:35 pm

Vaseline?? Lawd, over someone being called a troll?? R E L A X, Slim, breeeath, I don’t you need vaseline to ward off the supposed trolls :)

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
2:36 pm

@Beautiful: I’m NOT an alcoholic. they have to go to meetings. I’m just a drinker. LOLOLOLOL

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:37 pm

-Disco All of the above. Why was I thinking of Ex as I cracked open a Corona on Friday? So what did I do. . . Pour it in a wine glass, LMBO!!! *True Story* :-D

Exiled

May 13th, 2013
2:38 pm

Vaseline?

Is Vaseline used a a lubricant?

that’s a sign that ur naturally excreting glands are gone but u still wanna be in the game ! :lol:

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 13th, 2013
2:38 pm

Dreams, sorry buddy, holding on to my singles…….(just in case), but I do have a roll of nickels I can slip to Leggs if it gets a little rough in the clinches…….

Celisea

May 13th, 2013
2:40 pm

that’s a sign that ur naturally excreting glands are gone but u still wanna be in the game

I feel bad for folks needing “assistance”….lololol

Exiled

May 13th, 2013
2:41 pm

Thinking of EX…and…. crack open?

send me a pic MsMoni! (salivating)
…holy shmockes!! :lol:

We need to get together MsMoni,forget the lame Durty!! :lol:

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:41 pm

moni – that’s funny. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of anyone drinking beer out of a wine glass.

court – you talking about rolls of nickels. I knew a lady one time who even had the judge laughing when she was in court. why? her weapon was a lock and a rock in a sock. as moni just said “true story:” lol.

SlimNu

May 13th, 2013
2:42 pm

disco – All I could find was my cocoa butter stick. I don’t think that’ll be much help :lol: And I appreciate the tip on the bottle ;-)

Dreams – Change for a dollar bill, wow. You could’ve at least said change for a $5. :roll:

Celisea

May 13th, 2013
2:42 pm

FTR, this blog NEVER stays on topic. Let’s see….so far today, I don’t think deets on TV shows, dranking, links of videos, links of shoes, stapping up to fight, lubricants, “mouf fulls” speaks anything to Relationships and Don’t Go Changing…IJS

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 13th, 2013
2:44 pm

Damn disco!!! all she needed was a phone book chest protector and a plastic shank and she would have been an extra on season 4 of “The Wire”!!!

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:45 pm

-Ex Somehow I knew that you would twist the wording, LOL!!!

-Disco I guess the lady was using what was easily accessible, LOL!!!

Beautiful

May 13th, 2013
2:46 pm

Celisea… everyone and everything changes but God. true story!

SlimNu

May 13th, 2013
2:47 pm

MissMoni – Beer in a wine glass :lol: That’s funny that he made you switch it up.

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:47 pm

court – this was way back in the day. she was the mother of a friend of mine. you should have heard us howling when she was running back her day in court. she got probation.

SlimNu

May 13th, 2013
2:48 pm

Leggs – You’re right about the bandaids….maybe I should bandage up my whole chest with an ace bandage. The vaseline will not keep the regular band-aids on

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:49 pm

where’s itl? I said we could play guess disco baby daddy on a slow day. lol.

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
2:50 pm

LOL@disco. You always have the best stories. And I know they’re true – that makes it even funnier.

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:50 pm

-SlimNu It’s even scarier that Ex is in my subconscious.

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
2:51 pm

Ooooh, guess disco baby daddy day.

Give me a hint – is he bigger than a smart car?

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 13th, 2013
2:53 pm

lol….In my best “Jangle Leg” voice…”I be that baby pappy”….. LOLOLOLOL

Celisea

May 13th, 2013
2:54 pm

Beautiful – I know that God never changes. He’s the same today, yesterday and he changes not!! Heck that’s all that matters anyway :mrgreen:

I can’t speak too much on people. In the context used this morning, the couple of minutes on topic, I still say folks don’t too much change. As far as folks flipping the script on you in a hot second, umm yeah brace yaself, cause it’s likely to happen. If it ain’t, it will. That’s why you shouldn’t get wrapped too tight.

Leggs

May 13th, 2013
2:54 pm

It’s not he’s in your subconscious. More like “people say the darndest things” that’s in your subconscious (lol).

DreamsMaterialize

May 13th, 2013
2:55 pm

but I do have a roll of nickels I can slip to Leggs if it gets a little rough in the clinches… It’s all good bruh. I’ll make it do what it do.

Change for a dollar bill, wow. You could’ve at least said change for a $5
Slim Hey I’m not tryna make it rain up in this joint. I’ll leave that to the big ballers. Shoot I’m not even tryna make it drizzle…more like make it misty/foggy. lol

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:56 pm

-Leggs Thanks for wording that correctly!!! :-D

disco

May 13th, 2013
2:57 pm

court – ahh naw you didn’t go there with jangle – leg. lol. bokeem woodbine is my cat. he doesn’t get enough credit in Hollywood but he’s a bad boy.

ITL – I almost changed baby daddy but I’ll stick with the original one. 1) he’s bigger than a smart car 2) he’s an actor 3) barrel chested type 4) chocolate

cue jeopardy music here. lol.

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
2:57 pm

LOL@Dreams. For a dollar, you’re not even getting a stray cloud. LOL :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
2:58 pm

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
2:59 pm

-Disco Is it Idris Elba???

Beautiful

May 13th, 2013
3:02 pm

Celisea… the one or two things that have changed with me regarding dating is my wisdom and knowledge on the subject. much better from when i first started dating. when i started blogging with y’all i didn’t know how to date. i never dated. a man would come into my life, next thing i know he’s my man. *shrugs* oh! and now i protect my heart. i shall not be moved by all these knuckle heads out here. all they do is lie. but i stay hopeful

disco

May 13th, 2013
3:03 pm

no and no. next clue is sitcom actor.

MissMoni

May 13th, 2013
3:05 pm

-Disco James Amos from Good Times, LMBO!!! *Ok, I couldn’t help myself*

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
3:06 pm

John Amos!!! Oh wait. He’s mine. :oops:

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 13th, 2013
3:06 pm

Disco, Is it Charles S Dutton??? LOLOLOLOLOL

SlimNu

May 13th, 2013
3:07 pm

Celisea – I was just getting prepared for the blog free for all. Is there going to be a mud wrestling portion to this event? :lol:

Into the Light

May 13th, 2013
3:07 pm

Jinx, MissMoni!!! :lol: :lo:

disco

May 13th, 2013
3:09 pm

moni – I knew ving and james were going to be at the top.

court – you crazy. Charles Dutton – yuck.

next clue: initials for his government name are R.B.