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Ex files: Date blocking

One of our Misadventures in Atlanta readers has a bit of a dating dilemma.  He recently found out that one of his exes has been blocking on him with other women.  This particular ex-girlfriend is still friends with him. Well, maybe frenemies is more like it?  She is friendly to his face but when he is not around, she is not really president of his fan club.

Her plan was actually working until one of the women admitted that she stop taking his calls because of his ex-girlfriend.  The ex had done a little embellishing about a couple of situations to make the situation appear worse then they really were.

If you remain friends with one of your exes, is it a good idea that they know about who you are dating now?

Do you think that an ex who is actively blocking your potential romances still harbors feelings for you?

What would you do if you found out your reputation was getting ruined because of someone you used to date?  How would you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

278 comments Add your comment

Lee T.

May 3rd, 2013
7:17 am

don’t remain friends with an ex

Lee

May 3rd, 2013
7:24 am

1# Why is he telling her whom he is seeing?
Oh I didn’t want you, but look @ my new chik isn’t she wonderful!? I mean who goes to their ex and tells all, its kind of a slap in the face for the other person unless its been so many years past the break up that the other would not care and you run in the same circles.

Do you think that an ex who is actively blocking your potential romances still harbors feelings for you? Yes i do think that if an ex is blocking your potential romances they still have feeling for you.
It happened to me twice, one guy went around telling everyone we were still together. How did i handle it? When someone came to ask me if i still was i said, no. There is not much you can do about it.
The other guy was my ex hub and he went around to tell what a terrible person i was. It didn’t work out for him.
This guy needs to stop communication with this troubled chick, and don’t go to the same places she does. Good Luck!

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
7:32 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!!

If you choose to remain friends with your ex for whatever reason, keep them OUT of your love life. It’s NONE of their business who you are dating.

If an ex is using that much energy to smear your name around town then clearly they are still harboring some type of feelings towards you. So when you find out, DISTANCE yourself and continue to live & enjoy your life without them.

Single and Happy

May 3rd, 2013
7:32 am

Dang diva you eating post for breakfast (LOL)

Lee T.

May 3rd, 2013
7:40 am

what about those people (not even an ex) that try to openly taint your image? run from crazy, it’s real (lol)

Exiled

May 3rd, 2013
8:42 am

If the ex knows you got a new one but she still harbors feelings for you…he he he….that’s an opening fellas.

The three(3) some you always wished for but never knee how to brooch the subject. Now you can introduce ex to new and let her handle the cajoling! :lol:

Some of these earthly women issues need creativity,fellas.

Solved Diva!

TGIF MIA!

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
8:53 am

Goooood morning, or at least I hope

LeeH1

May 3rd, 2013
8:54 am

Don’t whine and don’t put up with bizarre behavior. Call a lawyer and threaten to sue for slander, and then do it if it continues. Sounds like a good case about stalking, too.

Get some compensation, and make the exe pay for being weird. And now you know why they are an “exe”.

Leggs

May 3rd, 2013
8:57 am

Leggs

May 3rd, 2013
8:57 am

3 posts and nothing is showing up

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
9:00 am

I was friends with my ex because we were friends before our relationship. Things got a big weird after it came out that he was dating an old friend/co-worker of his. This was a person he began to work with after we were together so it made me wonder if they messed around during the course of our courtship. It’s not like the chick and i never hung out, like I never invited her to shindigs we had or what have you. When it came out, he claimed the chick was crying and all upset because she didn’t want me to think she was trifling or did anything behind my back when he and I were together. :roll:

Leggs

May 3rd, 2013
9:01 am

Let’s try this shortened version:

Why report anything back to an ex?

If they’re harboring feelings, they’re probably ones filled with venom and are front and center in your life simply to exact revenge.

I would immediately issue cease and desist orders! Get to stepping…

Good morning.

Button

May 3rd, 2013
9:05 am

Good Friday morning! If you remain friends with one of your exes, is it a good idea that they know about who you are dating now? Only if he tries to make a comeback. Other than that, I wouldn’t tell my ex anything about who I’m dating. I get it that some people are cool with their ex’s and that’s a good thing if it works out that way. I dated a guy who was cool with his ex wife, heck still to this day they go vacation together, with the kids. They are all up into each other’s life. She’s picked him up from the airport with her boyfriend in tow. At one time they lived together until his place was complete for him to move into. to me that was weird and I wanted no part of it but stuff like that does happen.

Button

May 3rd, 2013
9:07 am

I have to play catch up with you guys, I’ve been swamp all week and the few times I was able to post, my comments were eaten up by the blog monster. Which is a relief coz I thought a sistah was banned :lol:

Hi Wise!

DuShawn

May 3rd, 2013
9:08 am

I think you should always remain friends with your ex……………until she stops letting you tap that.

Button

May 3rd, 2013
9:10 am

Leggs that’s what was happening to me..lol that’s why I thought maybe I was banned, hoot, never happened before until this week.

Lee T some people just love to bragg!

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
9:12 am

As to the topic, I can’t see how sabatoging an exes present relationship is going to make him/her want you back.

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
9:13 am

-Leggs My afternoon comments were getting eaten yesterday. Hopefully it will clear up.

Button

May 3rd, 2013
9:17 am

SlimNu, it’s funny how the mind can make one think like that.

Exiled

May 3rd, 2013
9:17 am

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
9:22 am

Button – Maybe it’s just the mentality of the break-up hurting them, so they do not want to see the ex happy with someone else. Break-ups do take a toll on the heart….I think I heard a song that said, Heartbreak don’t break even.

disco

May 3rd, 2013
9:25 am

good morning y’all. personally, I don’t think the sabotaging ex is the real problem. I think the bigger problem is the current girlfriend who fed into what the ex was saying without bringing it up and having the conversation. ex says leave dude alone because of this or that and current stops talking calls. current is the dingbat.

disco

May 3rd, 2013
9:27 am

slim – hearts don’t break even but glass shatters pretty consistently. oops. is it too early for all that? my bad. sorry.

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
9:28 am

Hey Disco!!! :-) When you’re ready, I’m ready to hear about what happened yesterday with your fam. . .

MsAtl

May 3rd, 2013
9:28 am

My posts are being eaten…

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
9:30 am

disco – It’s never too early for pretty consistently breaking glass. Speaking of which, do you have some I can throw? :lol:

disco

May 3rd, 2013
9:31 am

moni – I was wondering who would be the first to bring it up. typical mess. one cousin got into it with someone. aunt goes outside to diffuse situation. cat calls aunt out of her name. he must not know auntie – lol. she goes off and then the phone calls start. aunt calls her son, son calls his nephew, cousin calls other cousins and next thing you know the block is hot. lol.

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

May 3rd, 2013
9:31 am

Morning peeps…..LOL… @MissAtl & Leggs…. Your post are not being eaten…Its your ex’s salting the blog against them!!! :)

MsAtl

May 3rd, 2013
9:33 am

kimmie

May 3rd, 2013
9:33 am

Morning All!!

Disco – Cosign that! I wouldn’t listen to anything some ex-girlfriend had to say. In fact, she better not contact me in any way at all.

Just another reason why I’m not big on staying chummy with exes. And no, he does not have ish to do with who I’m seeing once we are done and I could care less who he’s effing now!

Thank you Lord it’s Friday!!!

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 3rd, 2013
9:34 am

Thankfully, my exes were class acts, gentleman. We didn’t all always see eye to eye, but what the heck does that have to do with your behavior and badmouthing someone?? It ain’t always easy breaking up, but move the heck on, please! And that goes for me as well as you, the bf. Leave it alone. Let sleeping dogs lie.

I’m a true true believer that what you dish (hide it, lie, toss shade, defame, throw rocks and hide your hands, etc etc etc) is what comes back for you. So, let folks do what they do….it won’t stop mister or missus wonderful…believe that :mrgreen:

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 3rd, 2013
9:35 am

And I’m always suspicious of folks that need to “warn” you of an ex. Naw, I like my own experiences.

Leggs

May 3rd, 2013
9:35 am

“…the bigger problem is the current girlfriend who fed into what the ex was saying without bringing it up and having the conversation….current is the dingbat.” Most admit there’s a lot of truth in this!

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
9:35 am

-Disco See, I told you I had a feeling that your fam joined forces. LOL at “the block is hot”, that song brings back memories. :-)

Exiled

May 3rd, 2013
9:36 am

I think going to the po po just because ex wants u back is crazy….unless he is breaking into ur home.

Or threatening violence or is violent Period.

He/she may genuinely want u back and thinks they got a better shot because u two are familiar to each other.

Leggs

May 3rd, 2013
9:37 am

kimmie, kimmie, kimmie ~ guess we will have to wait until later in the day (lol).

disco ~ the block of hot…wish I was sitting on the stoop somewhere watching all that go down.

kimmie

May 3rd, 2013
9:41 am

He/she may genuinely want u back and thinks they got a better shot because u two are familiar to each other.

Exiled – There you go, taking up for foolishness!LOL!! But you would not be Exiled if you didn’t, would you?

Don’t you think there is a better way to go about trying to win someone’s heart back? As for breaking into the house, that happens much more often than you think. One of my best friend’s ex tried to get in thru her 2nd story window. An ex of mine was banging on my bedroom window. You don’t want the po-po called, don’t act the fool. I’m not playing with yo behind!!

Single and Happy

May 3rd, 2013
9:42 am

Disco, yoru 9:25 is somewhat of what I tried to post, but diva ate it for breakfast (LOL)

kimmie

May 3rd, 2013
9:43 am

Leggs – Yeah girl, I’m dying to talk to someone about it!!!

disco

May 3rd, 2013
9:43 am

leggs – you wanna hear the real killer killer part of the story? the surprise ending twist? you’ll never guess.

s/h – well, you know how we do.

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
9:44 am

-Kimmie I had a friend of mine who had this guy she knew (they never even dated) he was singing outside of her bedroom window at like 9pm and she straight called the cops on him. Nope, didn’t try to talk him down first or nothing. If you’re bold enough to stalk somebody AFTER they’ve told you they’re not interested, then be prepared to meet Mr. Officer.

MissMoni

May 3rd, 2013
9:45 am

-Disco I wanna know too!!!

MsAtl

May 3rd, 2013
9:47 am

I have no need to discuss my dating life with an ex.

It could be that the ex still has feelings for you, doesn’t want you happy with anyone else, or wants revenge.

I would speak with the person and tell him to cease and desist. I actually had to do this with my ex-husband. He started spreading lies after I refused to take him back and was telling family that it was me, not him, who had the affair and that he did it in retaliation. Well, after folks counted back his girlfriend’s pregnancy & after I went in on him, he came clean.

Single and Happy

May 3rd, 2013
9:47 am

MissMoni, now in ancient times serenading was considered romantic, now it’s stalking (Oh how times have changed) (LOL)

MsAtl

May 3rd, 2013
9:49 am

I don’t have the patience for this blog today. My posts keep getting eaten. I may visit you guys later on…

SlimNu

May 3rd, 2013
9:50 am

One of my best friend’s ex tried to get in thru her 2nd story window. An ex of mine was banging on my bedroom window. You don’t want the po-po called, don’t act the fool

kimmie – My ex did drive-bys, and pop-ups to the crib a few times. lol

disco

May 3rd, 2013
9:50 am

moni – you funny. all this went down around lunch time yesterday. how come by dinner time the same auntie who was outside being bout it was selling those same neighborhood do-nothings, who were still outside doing nothing, $5 plates out of her kitchen. I couldn’t do nothing but laugh but I ain’t even knocking her hustle.

kimmie

May 3rd, 2013
9:50 am

Disco, quit playing!!!!

Into the Light

May 3rd, 2013
9:51 am

Morning, all!

I don’t and wouldn’t put a lot of stock in what an ex said about a current. After all, they are an ex for a reason. Truth be told, I wouldn’t be talking to an ex anyway. :lol: :lol:

kimmie

May 3rd, 2013
9:51 am

Disco, yall sound like one of those Madea movies!!LOL!!!