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Why do datezillas get asked out?

I was sitting at the bar minding my own business (sort of) when I noticed a couple at a nearby booth.   The lady had a look of disgust and annoyance on her face while the guy sat there patiently.  From the few minutes I observed was being nosy, I realized what an awful personality this woman had.

She was rude to the servers, had her cell phone out and sent text messages, and I don’t remember seeing her smile.  Now the guy she was with was extremely good looking.  That is what caught my attention, at first.  It wasn’t long before I actually felt bad that he had to endure this date.

Then I thought about it and figured he was there because he wanted to be.  If he didn’t know he was asking out a datezilla, then he definitely knew at the end of the night.  The question is, would he ask datezilla out again?

Do you ever notice how some people with the worst personalities and  awful manners manage to have a fan club?  Women who have the charm of a house plant can still have a lot of suitors pursuing her.  Why do you think that is?

Why do the difficult and challenging women get so much attention from men?  Do some men simply prefer this type?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

398 comments Add your comment

Exiled

May 2nd, 2013
6:56 am

The real thrill is unprintable :;$&¥*>%#!?}%! But it comes at the end.

:lol:

And some of these women are terrible to Other women….but good to some men where it counts…for the moments…. moment that matters..she sponsors,she lays,she crawls,succulent lips…has great great libido!
A Woman’s Personality is great but a her Generosity is a Man’s friend! :lol:

Lee

May 2nd, 2013
7:13 am

I have nothing to add, since i have no clue myself. Will read everyone later. Have a great day!

Lee T.

May 2nd, 2013
7:25 am

A bit judgmental, Miss Diva? On the outside looking in is the worse place to be positioned. Why don’t we talk about this? Let’s assume he’d recently cheated and she was not over it, or they’d had an earlier argument and he is not the type to argue….. Shall I go on??

You women are the cattiest. We men know what it is that attracts us. Most of time it won’t be what you women assume, and reasons why you can’t get it right

Wise Diva, did I read you to say you were dining alone?

MissMoni

May 2nd, 2013
7:35 am

GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!! *It’s Friday Eve* :-)

People like what and who they like. Apparently some people are simply attracted to certain types of attitudes. Who knows, there may have been an underlying issue prior to them arriving at the bar. She may have been just having a bad night, that was a blog topic not too long ago. Either way, he was being patient and still sitting there through it all, so my vote is that he wanted to be just where he was with who he wanted to be with.

Penelope

May 2nd, 2013
7:39 am

Good rainy morning, peepsykins!!

What does this type of women means? I agree with Exiled and Lee T, that it is probably something about her he sees and know, that you won’t recognize, while assuming and making snap judgments. He likes what he likes :)

I hope I’ll have an opportunity to read you guys later.

Y’all be sweet now, ya hear?

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
8:28 am

Morning All!

Wating on a roof guy, then heading to work, so I’ll be tuning in later!

While you MIGHT say Diva is making a snap judgement, this ish happens WAY too much for it to be just a “oh she was probably having a bad day” every-now-and-then occurrence. Bottom line, dudes get with chicks like this all the time for the…wait for it…. FIYA BOOTEY that many say comes with crazy!! Lets just be real. And that’s fine, yes, people like what they like. But miss me later with the complaints that ALL women are crazy and you wish she would shut up and give you a moments peace. You bought it, you got it.

SMH…

See you guys later after I get to work!

Lee T

May 2nd, 2013
8:34 am

Wow, so much angst. Can we agree the gentleman was not hog tied and not made to go?

Lee T

May 2nd, 2013
8:40 am

Where did the all women are crazy come from? Not sure how that’s relevant. I’ll reread.

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
8:47 am

Lee T – Absolutely, he was where he wanted to be!! I’m going on what’s often said LATER by guys in general and all the time on this blog!! No angst at all, just calling it like I see it on here ALL THE TIME!!

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
8:47 am

Good morning, all.

I agree that we don’t know the situation or what occurred before the “date”, but I’m with Kimmie. You see this WAY too often for it to just a bad day. I think some men like a challenging woman because their hunter/warrior instincts kick in and they want to see if they can “win”.

It’s a lovely day in blogsville, folks. :)

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
8:47 am

Morning blog bangers….at this very moment, I don’t believe I have much to add. I’ll sit back and see what pops up that I can jump into. ;-)

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
8:49 am

@kimmie: David Pollock says the chances are reeeeaallllly good that Game Day for the first game will be at Clemscum for the UGA/Clemscum game.

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
8:55 am

Light – Cool!! Are you going? It has been so long since I have been to a game. So hard to get tickets, and I want to take hubs and the kids!

As for the topic, girl this mess is hilarious to me! I don’t care one way or the other, but just don’t come complaining later about something YOU chose. She may be a “zilla” but she didn’t put a gun to your head!

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
8:58 am

I hate to be fighting or not getting along but out on a date….just makes for a very awkward time. Imma lover not a fighter.

Oh and RIP Chris Kelly of Kriss Kross. :cry:

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:01 am

Datezillas? Ouch!

Well, I’ll start off by saying to each his or her own. Live and let live. It’s a person’s perogative to do, date, smash whomever they want. I personally, don’t try and look into what others folks or doing or the reasoning behind, but I understand the dynamics that come into why someone may like a person, that you just don’t or may not get.

When it comes to men, (and I ain’t no man), I often believe and have been told that the measuring stick for a man versus a woman are vastly different and on different ends of the spectrum. Like I said a few days ago, I’ve outgrown “tryna see what he sees in her”, apparently something.

I will call foul on you Diva, for looking over in those folks booth and like someone said earlier, making a snap judgement. How do you know she had an awful personality…from waaaay across the room and having never met her??? Maybe she had a tummy ache, the reason for the facial expression, how do you know the text messages weren’t replies to the kids or babysitter, an emergency, maybe? And really, what does him being extremely good looking have to do with anything…since we’re talking personalities???

Alrighty then…anyhoo, that’s just my lil ole .02 cents, this beautiful blog day :mrgreen:

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
9:03 am

Slim – I agree, just take me home cause a date is supposed to be fun.

I’m so sad about Chris Kelly!! They attended my old elementary school. I love Jump Jump. My son has a habit of putting stuff on backwards or inside-out by accident and every now and then I call him Kriss Kross!

MissMoni

May 2nd, 2013
9:03 am

-SlimNu When I woke up that was the 1st thing I saw on the news. Praying for his family.

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:03 am

What’s up with this chilly weather? I know April showers bring May flowers, but it’s cold outside…brrrrgh

LeeH1

May 2nd, 2013
9:04 am

Don’t be silly. Women date bad men all the time. Men date bad women all the time. Both men and women then usually end up with the kind of spouse they deserve.

Some people wise up and divorce later. Others suffer for life. A few, but only a few smart men and women date bad people, and then learn from their mistakes.

Everyone has had the date from Hell. Smart people don’t have a second date with the same demon.

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
9:07 am

@kimmie: Probably not going to the game at Clemson, but we’ll be at all the home games. GO DAWGS!

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
9:08 am

LeeH1 – I agree with your post.

What’s with all the different “Lee’s” today??

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

May 2nd, 2013
9:09 am

An attractive woman will get asked out on a first date; however, when they ackt like this, there’s usually no second date.

Remember, most folks will try anything once.

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
9:12 am

….twice if they like it. :)

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
9:13 am

And really, what does him being extremely good looking have to do with anything…since we’re talking personalities???

Cel – Diva said that’s what initially caught her attention. She was checking dude out and then noticed his date’s demeanor.

Durty Burd

May 2nd, 2013
9:14 am

Good Morning folks!

Her behavior is unexcuseable, dude should have checked her for her rudeness to the waitress who has absolutely knowing to do with her day, what he did too her.

If she had a tummy ache take your azz home.

Fiya Bootey or not public rudeness is not to be tolerated under no circumstances.

Now Celisea we need to get to the bottom of who is stalking you.

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:14 am

Kimmie – Ohhhh, I see, I see

What’s with all the different “Lee’s” today??

Nothing unusual, just another normal day in blogsville. Or maybe it’s like folks in the country…MaryJo, MarySue, MaryAnne, MaryJean, MaryLou…

Who knows…. :)

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
9:17 am

kimmie/MissMoni – They used to live in my exes old neighborhood…and I liked listening to their music as well. When I was taking drama classes, we all had to do a music video. So my partner and I dressed up like them but we made ourselves look overweight. And the song we did was “Warm it up Kris”…so we had props of food and I acted like I was heating the food up to eat it. So it was more of a spoof video. lolol So now yall see i’ve been silly/crazy for YEARS now :lol:

Durty Burd

May 2nd, 2013
9:18 am

In defense of Wisa Diva she is conducting a blog on dating so she is observing people on the dating scene to come up with more topics so you catty women will not continue to state we discussed this topic before.

Durty Burd

May 2nd, 2013
9:18 am

Celisea I want to luv you! :smile:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

May 2nd, 2013
9:24 am

Shiooot, the D would have excused himself to the restroom and left.

kimmie

May 2nd, 2013
9:25 am

Durty – Agree and thanks especially for your 9:18. Just a way to come up with topics!

disco

May 2nd, 2013
9:28 am

good morning. datezilla? da hell? lol. it doesn’t help that I keep reading and it almost sounds like me. lol. not that I’m dating all that much but I am kind of hard on some guys and they just can’t seem to get enough of me. of course, I personally attribute it to the male’s desire to conquer.

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
9:29 am

In honor of the fallen Chris, i’m wearing my panties and bra backwards today. ;-)

MsAtl

May 2nd, 2013
9:36 am

Morning All!

I agree that we do not know the circumstances of Diva’s observations. If I am in a bad mood that I simply cannot get rid of, then I would not go out. However, if I have a date, then I can generally shift my mood and focus to the present time. Whatever type of mood I am in, there is no cause to be rude, especially to the staff. Just because “something bad” happened that day does not mean you have to have a “bad day.”

I do not know what makes men ask “zilla” for a date; could be physical appearance or like Exiled said, they sponsor men or whatever. Whatever floats their boat. If they didn’t enjoy the date, they are free not to ask her out again.

Slim- That’s funny.

Leggs

May 2nd, 2013
9:41 am

I don’t know the answer to the question as to why they get asked out, but perhaps they have a strong “come hither” fragrance that oozes from their body and their skills are off the chain is why they keep getting asked out.

A good night’s sleep and few punches does wonders for a person (lol)….Good morning.

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
9:44 am

@Leggs: Glad today is a better day! :)

Mike P

May 2nd, 2013
9:44 am

Good Morning,

MOST men will initially sense a woman’s sexual attractiveness first, and then we go from there. We learn about your personality through the time we actually spend together. So how’s it our fault that MOST women (but not all) have way too much crazy for us?

Until the man reaches a certain age or stage in his life, Sex is and will be paramount, and for many men, its the only reason we’d deal with a woman on a significant level in the first place. So why is it so hard to understand? Void of that, what’s in it for us? No man will work for, work with, or put up with “crazy” without sex, period.

real talk.

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
9:44 am

Whatever type of mood I am in, there is no cause to be rude, especially to the staff.

MsAtl – Plus, I don’t know about you but I like to have my food spit free :shock:

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:46 am

She was texting the kids and frowned cause they were giving the babysitter a hard time and wouldn’t finish their homework assignments :)

Leggs

May 2nd, 2013
9:49 am

RIP Chris Kelly of Kriss Kross??? What happened?

MsAtl

May 2nd, 2013
9:49 am

Slim- Lolol! True! I want my food revenge-free.

MsAtl

May 2nd, 2013
9:50 am

Leggs- He was found unresponsive in his home yesterday, taken to Atlanta Medical, and pronounced dead. They do not know the cause of death but will do an autopsy.

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
9:51 am

I’m no rocket scientist, but maybe…just maybe…ole girl was not in a rachet mood the first time he asked her out. Afterall, Diva only got a snap shot of the whole picture.

SlimNu

May 2nd, 2013
9:56 am

Oh and since we are on the topic of zilla’s, I think there is going to be a show about couples that were on the show Bridezilla’s. I think it’s suppose to be about their 1st year of marriage. I often wondered how those marriages turned out after seeing how they acted on that show. I couldn’t see myself wanting to marry a person that acted like they do. So it’ll be interesting to see what their issues are.

Leggs

May 2nd, 2013
9:57 am

That’s sad, MsAtl. Thanks for the update.

SlimNu ~ I got you beat, I mistakenly put on my panties inside out. Just corrected. Okay, TMI.

DreamsMaterialize

May 2nd, 2013
9:58 am

Morning
People like what they like. What Diva saw is may actually be a very narrow view of that woman’s personality. It could be that the woman has other qualities that the guy considers to outweigh the ones being displayed in the restaurant. I’ve been in that guy’s shoes. Being with someone like that for whatever amount of time was MY choice. When I’d had enough, I was out. That’s the bottom line.

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:58 am

“It appears it may have been a possible drug overdose,” said Cpl. Kay Lester, a spokeswoman for the Fulton County police.

Let’s hope not

Celisea.....love not hate, peace not war

May 2nd, 2013
9:59 am

Chris Kelly had been using a combination of cocaine and heroin the night before his death, this according to the police report obtained by TMZ.

According to the report, cops responded to Kelly’s home Wednesday afternoon and found the 34-year-old lying on the living room couch. Both paramedics who arrived to the scene said Kelly was unresponsive and had “no life signs.” They attempted to revive Kelly, to no avail. Cops then spoke with Kelly’s friend, Donna, who told officers … the night before Kelly’s medical emergency, he had taken a mixture of heroin and cocaine. The friend also told police that Kelly had done this “several times in the past.”

Well, there it is….so so sad

Into the Light

May 2nd, 2013
10:02 am

What Diva saw is may actually be a very narrow view of that woman’s personality

True, but people who are rude to those in the service industry get no respect from me. It’s indicative of other personality flaws IN MY OPINION.

MissMoni

May 2nd, 2013
10:02 am

-SlimNu In reference to wearing your undies backwards, that has got to be uncomfortable, LOL!