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Dating out of pity?

I was having dinner with my friend Ellen recently and we got on the topic of dating without guilt.  Ellen has this bad habit on taking on  head cases or “projects” when it comes to dating.  I think she qualifies for saint status, at this point.  She does not know when to cut her losses and move on.  The red flags are there, yet she decides to give it time.

While Ellen has a big heart and enormous patience, I would say that most of her dating is done out of pity.   I see a lot of single people that do this.  It sort of becomes this savior complex because the relationship is about sympathy.  Not chemistry, not sex, not even money.  When a person is dating someone out of pity, they have an overwhelming sense of guilt about dumping them.

I admit that I have done this before and it did not end well.  I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.  I tried to ignore the lack of chemistry or connection.  The reality is, though, you do both of you a disservice if you date out of pity.

Have you ever dated someone because you felt sorry for them?  Do you ever feel guilty about letting someone down?  Does it ever help to remain friends with them?

Do you ever suspect that you are a pity date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

282 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
7:43 am

Hey all

Do you ever suspect that you are a pity date? as long as it includes pity sex, I’m good (LOL)

Have you ever dated someone because you felt sorry for them? Naw

Ellen has this bad habit on taking on head cases or “projects” when it comes to dating. Hmm sounds like Ellen is the head case!

MissMoni

April 15th, 2013
8:07 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!!

Have you ever dated someone because you felt sorry for them? Nope, not my cup of tea. Either I really like you or I don’t. I don’t believe in wasting my time dating someone simply out of pity.

Do you ever feel guilty about letting someone down? No, there’s no reason for me to feel guilty if things are not working out. Way too many people hold on to people for the wrong reasons, again wasting valuable time that you could be spending doing something constructive.

Does it ever help to remain friends with them? This depends on the person and the circumstances. Most times it’s just better to cut it all the way off. Some people don’t know how to define “just friends” after dating someone.

Bottom line: Know when to say when.

Coach

April 15th, 2013
8:30 am

Good Good Morning Tho.

A pity date well I certaintly hope not, but you never really know now do you? I have never dated anyone out of pity nor do I intend to start.

Do I ever feel guilty about letting someone down? Not really because people sure as Sugar Honey Ice Tea dont feel bad when they let me down. I consider it a favor, lets me know you not the one for the I and I dont have to waste any more time trying to “figure” it out.

Remaining friends? Thats rich

Button

April 15th, 2013
8:49 am

Good morning, pity dating? I’ve heard that term before, never understand why would a person think they are doing another person a favor by dating them. It seems as if the person doing the pity dating is just plain pitiful themselves. Ellen seems to be the pitiful one.

Do you ever feel guilty about letting someone down? Nope. because I wouldn’t string them along.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
9:14 am

I have a big heart and a certain level of patience, but what I’m not going to do is date someone because I feel sorry for them. Where’s the fun in that? No time to take on “projects.” If you’re still a “project” over the age of 35, you will probably forever be a project because I surmise you don’t have the desire to elevate yourself but looking for someone to do the elevation for you. No can do….

Good morning.

MsAtl

April 15th, 2013
9:21 am

Morning All!

I have never dated out of pity. I think that would be doing a disservice to the datee and myself. If I have no interest whatsoever in a man, it is only fair to let him know that so as to not waste his time or give him false hope.
As for “projects,” I have said on here before that I do not do Build-A-Bears.
I do not believe that I have ever been a pity date.

Single- Pity sex? You are funny.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
9:25 am

Morning Gang!

Agreeing with everyone thus far. And yeah, sounds like Ellen is the one with the problem.

Hurt feelings? If you can’t handle rejection, you can’t handle dating, or life for that matter.

Either I’m feeling you or I’m not, period point blank. I’ve been criticized by others that “feel sorry” for dudes I’ve cut off or did not “give a chance”. Fine, you date him. I’m not doing anyone any favors by staying in a situation I find unbearable.

I don’t think I’ve ever been anyone’s pity date. No dude ever had an problem cutting me off if they were not interested.

Hope errbody had a good weekend!!!

Reio

April 15th, 2013
9:27 am

Never dated out of pity. Frankly, even as a younger man, my ultimate goal was matrimony, believe it or not. Heck, I never even dated just for fun. I went into each one focused on the relationship and determining whether we would be a good fit or not. This probably cost me , over time, cause I was quite quick to cut them loose, if I suspected that it wouldn’t work out. Felt bad on several occasions. Nice, inteligent, capable young women, who were basically looking for the same things, but, for various reasons, I had to cut them loose. I knew I was a one woman man, so I needed to find out as soon as I could, whether it would work or not, so I could move on. Never desired to date more than one at a time. Never did.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
9:32 am

I have a friend that had that savior/project mentality. Every dude she got involved with was a project in some kind of way. She would always get frustrated. I would ask her why she did that to herself and she would say she would want someone to give her a chance if she had a problem. I told her I doubt any dude would put up from her the stuff she was putting up with off of them. Finally, I just stopped talking about it. One day you’ll get tired of that mess, I told her. It’s one thing if someone develops a problem after you guys are married, it’s a whole nother ballgame when you’re just dating and early in the dating process at that. Or, she would “clean up” a dude – for the next woman.

She finally got tired of it. Had heard any complaints since.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
9:33 am

I don’t think I was ever a pity date myself. How would one know? Although, I must admit, as I have on several occasions here, I’ve never been dumped. I was the one doing the dumping. Not bragging or anything. It just never happened. Perhaps had I stayed in a relationship long enough, I would have been dumped, at least once, I don’t know.

disco

April 15th, 2013
9:40 am

good morning.

coach – I love that you said “how would one really know”. that’s some truth right there. guess we all hope that we’ve never been pity dates.

atl – pity sex is real. lol.

does it count as a pity date if you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself midway through the date? lol.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
9:44 am

does it count as a pity date if you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself midway through the date? lol.

Hey Disco!!! – That’s a good question!LOL! I guess it depends, are you the pitier or the pitee?LOL!!

I’ve haven’t felt sorry for myself, just thought “can’t wait till this ish is over, so I never have to see him again”!!LOL!!

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
9:44 am

How was your movie outing, disco?

Button

April 15th, 2013
9:45 am

I don’t know if I was ever a pity date. Hmmmm, at this age if I were to find out I would laugh it off. It just sounds silly to me.
I know some ppl may have the saviour mentality but who are they really saving other than themselves. They’re using the saviour theory because deep down inside they know no one else will put up with their mess.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
9:46 am

I’m not one with a lot of patience…..period I’m that person that will cut loose quick…lol Nothing irks me more than a dude hanging on or affection from someone where I’m not feeling them. By this alone, you can see I don’t do “pity.” Why prolong the inevitable? Also I don’t think anyone I’ve dated did so out of pity. Call it being hard, but I have too much pride to hang on. Again, not that I’ve been in that sort of scene…IJS

I have pressed a dude that wasn’t coming clean. That was to prove he was a liar, that I wasn’t slow and to walk, being sure it was the right thing to do.

I had a great weekend. We ended with a huge gang of folks and dinner out. My boo has adjusted well with the fam :mrgreen:

MsAtl

April 15th, 2013
9:46 am

Disco- Well damn! If it’s pity sex, I sure hope it is at least the bomb! Lol. Wow! Are you feeling sorry for yourself because you have no legit way to cut the date short without faking a medical emergency?

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
9:47 am

how would one really know

I do know I’m just not that great of an actress. If I don’t want to be there, he’d know. And like I said, dudes never had a problem showing me they were “just not that into me”.

disco

April 15th, 2013
9:48 am

leggs – if we were real life friends that conversation would start with a “whew girl”. smdh. the movie was okay though. I remember being upset when it ended. not because it ended abruptly but because I would have enjoyed more of the story.

Mike P

April 15th, 2013
9:48 am

I have given a few pity dates. I was clearly not interested in these women in that way but they were fun to be around and we shared activity interests. They’d believe in their heads that we’d be good together or their friends believed so, but as a Man, the pursuer, didn’t think so, but then they’d make the case, “you’re going to xyz place anyway or you’re about to do this and that, so let’s go together,” they’d say.

I am fairly certain that a few of the ladies I dated were only going-out with me out of pity as well, especially before college.

morning MIA

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
9:50 am

Nothing irks me more than a dude hanging on or affection from someone where I’m not feeling them.

Cel – Amen on this one!! And to put icing on the cake, have others around me asking “why won’t you give that nice guy a chance?” Almost makes my flesh crawl just thinking about it!!!

disco

April 15th, 2013
9:52 am

atl – I’ve never personally doled out pity sex. I’m much too selfish for that. lol. I have heard others say they went through it for whatever lame reason which usually translated to “I felt sorry for them so I gave them some”. to each his own.

atl – re pitying myself midway through a date. that was kind of a joke but kind of real at the same time.

does it count as a pity date when you accept an invitation only because you don’t have anything better to do or anyone better to hang out with?

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
10:01 am

Kimmie – My “old gang” of booghie girls lived by that mess of giving folks a chance, who also, BTW, were the dumbest set of chicks I’ve seen…lol I never saw so many repeatedly heartbroken women over mess like this. And down to the “real” of things, those “loose” gfs were the ones that would cut dudes and with the quickness. NONE of that pity stuff. lol

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
10:03 am

Them being the ones that were pitied. I distinctly remember one of my gfs that dated one of the Falcon players (and thought there were gonna get married…riiiight…buddy pulled out of that while she was making wedding plans), saying to me “give (insert kid’s dad) another chance.” Ummm, NOT!

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
10:04 am

OOOPS, I hit submit in error….

as I was saying (from my 10:03)….

Why go a lifetime in the “feeling sorry” mode for a dude where you already know, nothing is going to come of it. Smart folks cut their losses.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
10:06 am

“I was clearly not interested in these women in that way but they were fun to be around and we shared activity interests.” If you’re out with someone you’re enjoying their company and have like interests how is that pity. Sure, they may not be the one you want to marry, or sex, but you’re out on a fun date with a friend.

disco

April 15th, 2013
10:07 am

celisea – I’m cracking up on the “give him a chance” tales. guess we’ve all got some of those. then, to take it up a notch, how about the “give him a second chance” tales. boy oh boy.

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 15th, 2013
10:07 am

OK…Not scared to admit it, I have been the person that WAS the pity date…… A few years ago, I was up for a promotion at work… Not only did I get passed over but was removed from consideration for a like position that was pending. We had this ‘All Star” vendor that was pretty cool with most of the folks at our company and when she saw how bummed I was at all that had happened, she asked me out…

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
10:09 am

MsATL Disco, pity sex can be great sex when you have several giving it to you :-D

disco

April 15th, 2013
10:09 am

court – I’ll give that a pass. not so much a pity date as taking a friend out to cheer them up.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
10:12 am

does it count as a pity date when you accept an invitation only because you don’t have anything better to do or anyone better to hang out with? yes but for who, you or them??

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
10:12 am

Cel – With some of these friends, these dudes they were telling me to give a chance to, they would not have anything to do with them themselves!

With one, the only thing that shut her up was when I started dated my husband. He was light-years different from some of those tired jokers she used to whine to me about giving a chance. I mean, she would almost get mad at me when I would lie and tell some of them I was already seeing someone just to get them off my back. And yeah, none of them she would have herself, “not her type” she would say. But I’m not allowed to have a “type”???

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
10:12 am

Well maybe not out on a date with a friend, but more an acquaintance.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
10:12 am

The only thing that I can think of that may be construed as a pity date happened many, many years ago, bout six weeks before the wheel was invented; Attended a barbeque, had a fairly lenghty conversation with Veronica. Seemingly nice, well groomed, thoughtful, person. I was impressed. Bout three weeks later she calls. This is how the conversation went: Me-Hello. She-Yes, may I speak to Reio?, Me-This is he, She-Hi Reio, this is Veronica, Me-This is who?, She-Veronica, you know, from the picnic.Me-Veronica, from the picnic?, She-Yes, we talked a lot about politics, and helping third world nations. Me-Oh yea, now I remember, how did you get my number? She-You gave it to me. Me-I did? She-Yes, you did, Me-I don’t remember doing that, She-Well you did, don’t tell me you forgot. Me-I guess I did, although, this would be the first time I gave someone my number and forgot that I did. Anyway, what’s up? She-You said you would call me, Me-I did? She-Yes you did. Me-How can I call you, if I don’t have your number. She-I gave it to you. Me-Well, I don’t remember that either.
Long story short, we met at a gym where we both had memberships, had a bit to eat and talked. Nothing after that. She lied about my having given her my number, by the way, no way I’d forget that, and no way I’d forget that she gave me her’s. Met her at the gym cause she said she could be there on the day that I went. Pity? Perhaps. I figured, if she went to that much trouble to contact me, maybe I should at least meet her at the gym. Didn’t like the lies though. Never asked her about how she got my number again. Never called anybody from the picnic that knew both of us either. Still a mystery.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
10:15 am

Disco – But would you really consider that a “date” though?LOL!!

disco

April 15th, 2013
10:17 am

S/H – when pity is involved does it really matter on which end? lol. I don’t deny I’ve had my share of what I call “me parties”. (prefer that term to pity party). still in the case of not having anything better to do, the owner of the pity depends. if I’m feeling bad about not having anything to do, the pity is on me. if I’m cool just chilling but opt to accept the invite, the pity is on him. lol.

kimmie – I felt your angst in that post. lol.

kimmie – re considering it at date. did you mean court’s post? if so, then no. that’s why I said just taking a friend out to cheer them up. if that’s not what you meant, help me out.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
10:22 am

disco – I can say it now cause I’m in a diffent place in time as it relates to the old “booghie” gang….I use to wonder where in the heck did these chicks come from :shock: It would always be beyond me how they’d be hanging on and never saw it as such, gettng dogged and what not, YET by the same stroke, advising me on being too hard. WTHeck??? Yeah, okay….you do you and I’ll do me.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
10:24 am

Disco – You have no idea how that chick used to irritate me when we went out. I think a big part of it was jealousy, because alot of times I would get more play. I think she did not understand it, because I dress more conservative than she did. I believe in tasteful sexy, but she lets it all hang out, and it’s a lot to hang out, honestly. She would ride me all the time about my clothes, but I wear what I want, and get the kind of attention I want as a result. She would say the dudes I rejected were not her type, but I think she would have appreciated my castoffs as opposed to nothing!

The considering it a date thing was just me being funny with you!LOL!!

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
10:25 am

I have gone on pity dates. I have been with some hood rats that really needed help. The ones that sparked my interest typically had two things; a fat azz and ambition. Once I got to know them I discovered, in most cases, their minimal success in life was the result of poor decisions early not a lack of intellect. Oftentimes, an encouraging word or just a reminder that “it’s never too late to be what you could’ve been” could be the impetus to changing their situation. I remember this one chick; she had three kids and a GED. Hustling, section 8, EBT and SSI were her career. I gave her some life game; I told her she could be a CNA in 1 year, an LPN two years after that, then a RN in the next two years. That’s a five year plan. While educating yourself, rebuild your credit score. In five years, you could have the life you dream about. Did she do it?……………..Hell if I know, I bust a nut, gave her a couple of dollars and never called her again.

disco

April 15th, 2013
10:30 am

kimmie – re your friend. like I said, you can feel the emotion in the post. y’all still cool or she done fell off?

dushawn – well at least you broke her off. with money I mean. lol.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
10:31 am

DuShawn – I’m on the floor! My goodness!

MissMoni

April 15th, 2013
10:33 am

-DuShawn You do get props for dropping some knowledge on her.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
10:36 am

Kimmie – With some of these friends, these dudes they were telling me to give a chance to, they would not have anything to do with them themselves!

I can soooo relate….true story, NO LIE

This same set of girls had a “friend” that use to come by their (sisters) home, doing odd jobs for them. He was sort of like a brother to them, they said. Anyhoo, I was out of the thing with the kid’s dad, in and out with the dude that wanted to use my restroom…you know, the one 10 years my senior that I never really as feeling. Well, they (and a couple of girls) wanted me to go out with him. Soooo, reluctantly, I agreed. Post date, they wanted to know how it went. I said no go. Dude didn’t seem to have enough going on with him. YES, after one date, I decided that, he wasn’t “my type”, and a few other things I told them about, that I didn’t like. How bout, during the course of that conversation, it sort of came out that buddy had killed somoene :shock: Noooooooooooo lie! I was SOOOOOOO hot with them. I pretty much said the same thing, “oh so y’all want me to go out with him, but not of y’all did.” Naturally it was, he’s like a brother, blah blah blah. Whew buddy, I was too done with them.

After that, it was no holds barred. If anything came up, I let them have it. I’m talking going in hard on them. Brutal honesty. Guess it got to be too much eventually. One of the sisters called me to cry on my shoulder and I gave it to her. She was on and off with some dude that rode the bench for the Falcons. I all but called her a dumb-bot. I told her I didn’t want to hear another word about him, how he’d dogged her for the last 13 years, now had 3 kids by two different women, all during those 13 years, yada yada yada. I gave it to her…for old and new. Actually that convo was cause they were planning a wedding and buddy called to say he thought he owed it to his kids to give their mama a shot. I told her, he should have done that, cause she’d let him get away with so much over the years. That was about 15 years ago. Haven’t spoken with her since :)

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
10:38 am

disco – Yeah, we’re still cool. Ironically she grew up in my old neighborhood, we went to same elementary, high school and a year of college. Our lives took different turns, but we go thru spurts where we keep in touch regularly then fall off awhile. Ironically, we live near each other again. She came to my Super Bowl party.

She’s one of those folks I can only take in small doses. But we’ll always be friends, been there for each other when needed.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
10:40 am

I’m not sure if all the different scenarios will fall under “pity” but if you’re enjoying someone’s company or what not and call yourself in a relationship, why continue to waste their time if you know that you do not want what they want??? Yet you say all the right things to give them the impression that the two are working towards a common goal….

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 15th, 2013
10:49 am

“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l51THuA3vJI&list=PLB138D6134385BFEE”

In honor of my pending vacation……Just a couple of weeks!!! :D

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:01 am

Someone mentioned pity sex earlier. One of my co-workers(Vonn, a guy), gets on my nerves. Cause he’s constantly stopping by my office suggesting that I hook up with so&so cause, “She needs a good hit”, “Been a while for her”. Says that he “can tell who hasn’t been hit in a while”, and steps in to fill the bill. Didn’t believe him at first, until a couple of years ago, I was passing the break room, and saw him rubbing another co-worker’s butt as they both were at the sink with their backs to the entrance. Mentioned it to him, he responded, “See, I told you. I got Four or five of ‘em round here”, “Better git in on it”. It’s funny to me. Even so, everybody’s an adult here. Not much I can say. To each his/her own. Never gave it much thought. However, I must say,Gloria and Tam are packing sho nuff!! And That’s no lie. Hehehe..

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
11:03 am

10:25 DuShawn..been there done exact same play.

…..

Hwdee MIA!

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:05 am

That dude sounds more like the company’s ho and looking for opportunities. Those are the dudes that you RUUUUN FORREST RUUUUN from. Seriously. The company’s ho usually end up with a bigger rep than the chicks he’s hitting and eventually treated like he’s got bubonic plague….lol Most times, those cats are snickered and pointed at eventually and every new associate is school to KEEP AWAY…lolol At least that’s how it’s been here.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:05 am

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:15 am

Celisea- Well, he’s not the only one. There are several. The women seem ok with it. Not aware of any fights or anything like that. Not much turnover here. So, fresh meat is relatively rare. One of them even goes to another department, three floors below ours to do his “pity” deeds as well. I have no proof, but one of the women he mentioned, I saw him with, at JCPenny, once, a while back. He is married and has been ever since he started working here. So I’m convinced it’s happening, just as they say it is.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
11:16 am

Reio, if he’s pushing up on them because he THINKS they need it, who is the one getting the pity sex??

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:19 am

“See, I told you. I got Four or five of ‘em round here”, “Better git in on it”.

Reio – I don’t doubt it happening. Trust me, I’ve seen it. It’s just the outcome is usually not as pretty and the fallout is much bigger than the risk. Dude ain’t a bigger player as he’s seeing himself right now. Not only is this dangerous but dumb. Women talk….eventually

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:19 am

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:19 am

Single and Happy – I suppose he would say “they are”. Don’t know.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:20 am

Whoa, where have I been? I’m on a call and apparently the ballplayer is having another baby….IN 3 WEEKS!! Goes to show how much I give a hoot about him…lolololol

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
11:23 am

Reio from your story sounds like he’s the one that’s being pitied (LOL)

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
11:25 am

“…saw him rubbing another co-worker’s butt as they both were at the sink with their backs to the entrance.” – Who does that, meaning who would take a chance with their backs to entrance. That’s bold and stupid. Hell, a lot of men don’t like to have their backs to the door of a restaurant but will have their backs to the entrance at work rubbing someone’s butt?

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:25 am

Celisea – Well, that’s just it. This has been going on for years. Cause he’s been talking about it for years. That’s why I say he gets on my nerves. Talks about it a lot. Never thought to ask him if each one knows about the others. Think I’ll as him that next time. See what he say’s. I’ll bet ya, they do. Just don’t care.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
11:26 am

“That dude sounds more like the company’s ho” – Exactly, then soliciting Reio to join in his exploits throwing caution to the wind. Reedonkalis!!

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:27 am

This dude sounds dumb and wreckless. RUUUUUN, from a wreckless dude. He ain’t got the good sense God gave him…lol Anybody screwing around with one associate is risky enough, but several? Naw, that ain’t cute…lol He’s dumb. Sorry don’t mean to sound harsh, but buddy is whack and dumb. Some things you aren’t ethical. I don’t care how inviting. Then he’s worst than a woman, cause he round there telling folks annnd telling how many annnnnd recommeding someone else get in on that dumb behavior. He’s an explosion waiting to happen. I don’t think I would even stand at the water cooler with him. Nuuuuh uh.

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:28 am

s/h – I’m with you. sounds like these chicks pity him. lol. I’d be curious as to how much he’s paying out. lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:29 am

Think I’ll as him that next time. See what he say’s. I’ll bet ya, they do. Just don’t care

Then they’re all dumb..lol Where’s the company handbook when you need it. I hate companies that don’t regulate behaviors.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:30 am

Leggs – Yes. If I remember correctly, this was a Friday, before a Monday holiday a few years ago. Somewhat of a ghost town round here that day. But yes, I saw that. He did it. She didn’t seem to mind either. He had his right hand full stuff. In plain sight.

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:30 am

it might be a big old set up. let it go on for years and years and then start talking about they felt pressured and trapped and all that. one and it’s your word against hers. several and all the backpedaling in the world might not save him.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
11:30 am

Disco, not much, he was spotted at JC Penny’s not Neiman Marcus

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:31 am

Reio – You ever tell him to keep that mess away from you? That one day that mess is gonna backfire? I’m just curious if he thinks it’s cute cause someone listens.

abc

April 15th, 2013
11:32 am

If you stay with someone out of guilt, you don’t make it better for them, you make it worse, and only because you’re a coward. It’s far more kind to break it off, and right now. Give the poor suckers a break, do they not deserve someone who actually cares for them?

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:33 am

As I said earlier, he’s not the only one. There are others. And he’s not a friend of mine. Just a co-worker. Don’t have his number. Never been to his home.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:36 am

Wonder if it was Penny’s outlet?? He sounds more like a JC Penny’s Outlet type

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2013
11:36 am

Got my tickets to see the President speak at commencement next month. Yes!

Morning everyone. Will comment on the topic in a few.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:37 am

Celisea – No, I’ve never told him to keep it to himself. Eventhough I’d rather not here about it, I’ve yet to be so irritated, as to tell him to keep it to himself, or shut up.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:39 am

Reio – Oh, okay.

Mike P

April 15th, 2013
11:39 am

It was a pity date, because they wanted it to be a date what was going some where, whereas, in my mind, it was really just a hang-out with no real future. It was an ego booster / “egosaver” for these women, so yes, it was a pity date to me.

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:40 am

s/h – for some jc penney is come up. we don’t know what they working with. lol. and hey – I shop at penneys way more than I shop at neimans. in fact, I don’t shop at neimans. try not to even go in there to look because I don’t like playing with my own emotions.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
11:40 am

Reio ~ then he’s a fool, she’s an idiot, and the other women he’s dealing with are hard up clowns!

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
11:40 am

And what du u make of the woman so d starved she don’t mind being finger f^c-ked in a Common breakroom.

How cobwebed can an adult woman get to be so plainly fingered? :lol:

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:41 am

celisea – jc penney has an outlet?

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:44 am

disco – Yeah, at least they use to. Not sure if it’s closed. There was one located in Forest Park, GA. My mama took me there a couple of times when I would earn money during my hs years. I’ve been a couple of times for my kid…when she was smaller. I thought it wasn’t bad for household items, stuff like tshirts and underwear for kids, sometimes coats. I wasn’t too keen on the clothing. But other stuff, not so bad

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:44 am

Nothing wrong with JCPenny’s. Used to have good stuff. Prices were kinda high, I thought, though.
Couldn’t been too bad, cause I was in there too, when I saw them. Hehehe…

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:46 am

There use to be a Penny’s in Perimeter. They carried Jones of NY.

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:47 am

ex – you never fail to take things to a whole new level.

C – I actually like the Worthington brand at penney’s. they are one of my go-to brands for pants that fit my butt without having all that extra space in the waist. willi smith is another. some of you ladies may know exactly what I’m talking about.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:50 am

Exiled – Don’t know. But I know what I saw, and he confirmed it when confronted by me. She seemed unfazed. Didn’t confront him then, just a week or so later. He’s not slowing down either. Or, THEY are not slowing down. Since,as I said, he’s not the only one.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:51 am

disco – Never tried Wortington. I still like places like Penny’s (wherever still opened) and Sears. Just not so much for clothing. I purchased my flatscreen from Sears.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
11:55 am

Saw a report on CNN this weekend that said that SEARS, JCPENNY, and OFFICE DEPOT, will not survive their bankruptcies and will shut down by the end of 2013. What a shame.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:55 am

I’ve seen a few of Will Smith’s line in TJMaxx, but never purchased.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
11:56 am

JCPenny outlet still open. There’s some nice suits at reasonable prices.

disco

April 15th, 2013
11:59 am

reio – I don’t do sears or office depot at all. used to shop at penney’s more before the new guy changed things up but I still go in from time to time. for office supply type stuff I’m die hard staples. probably because they are close to me and I love their easy rebate. lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
11:59 am

I remember taking my kid out there when she was like 4ish. I bought laced top socks, tshirts, underwear, pjs…. I can’t complained. I was pretty pleased ANNNND it was pretty cheap. When my mama would take me, I would buy clothes. It was stuff I bought with money I earned. I got all sorts of compliments at school. I worked my 10th grade year at Life of Georgia and threw paper during the summer the others years after that. Mama took me there to get a bang for my buck :mrgreen:

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
12:01 pm

I went a couple of times for my kid, but I also lived near Jonesboro at the time. After I moved, I haven’t been back. Too far, if anything.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
12:09 pm

Let me clarify, I worked about 3 hours a day at Life of Georgia, during the second part of the school day. I was a pretty good student so, I would go by my last couple of classes and collect the assgiments. I got B’s in those classes even though I was gone to work. Yeah, I had the hook up. As long as I “came by” to get the work they marked me “present” Yep, I had a full school schedule and still worked. I brought home 63.00 a week. Boy, I was doing he dang thing…lololol I remember it too. The building I worked in sits right behind the building I’m in now. My job was typing information on carbon copy invoices. I was on the 23rd floor.

I didn’t work though during my junior or senior years. I wasn’t gonna miss out on the fun…lol I made my money the summer :mrgreen:

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:13 pm

Disco…I ain’t taking none to new levels

I am just observing at the same level

Isn’t that what Reio said they were doing….him holding her bootey in his hands?

whilst she upped her behind against the kitchen cupboards for his better feel?

Laugh! :lol:

Disco? :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 15th, 2013
12:14 pm

@Dreams, holla at cha boy! on FB message. I need to know how that happened!

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:16 pm

Guess I’ll ease off to lunch. Just after 11am here in Birmingham. Didn’t bring anything today. Don’t really feel like going anywhere either. Hell, might just get a honey bun from the machine. lol. Sheet in them machines cost too much. Don’t want to encourage the vendor too much. $1.05 for a damn Baby Ruth? Sheet naw! Not Me. Hehehe….

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:16 pm

ex – big difference between hand on butt and getting fingered. ijs. whole new level.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:20 pm

Disco..ohh comeo Disco!!

U expected Reio to wait there till the dude’s fingers were right inside.

It was a slow day,few folks in the office and so the coady was clear

U think that woman was good with just a bare butt rub? :lol:

Puuuuleease!!!!! :lol:

Didn’t he say to Reio that he was getting it in?

and if u wanna give chic a break because she u think wasn’t fingered …go head! :lol:

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:21 pm

Exiled – Well, I didn’t say all that. Just that his right hand was full. Fingers spread open wide. She was/is packin sho nuff though!! A whole lot back there. And that’s for damn sho!! Hehehe…

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:21 pm

ex – you off man.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:21 pm

Coast was clear

u think she wasn’t fingered

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:23 pm

Disco..12:21

Her behind was going in and out! :lol:

Why u defending This woman Disco? :lol:

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:24 pm

ex – you make it sound like that’s what you would do if given the opportunity. fess up. is that how you would have played it? what’s the most “unusual” place where you gave someone the finger? lol.

by the way, not defending her. just calling you out for “exaggerating”.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:26 pm

Exiled – One could get lost in all that. My goodness. I imagine he slipped a finger or two inward during that particular session in question. I know i would, if I were inclined to do that, in that setting, which I am not. Hehehe…

abc

April 15th, 2013
12:27 pm

Both Penny’s and Staples are expected to go out of business this year.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
12:28 pm

Reio – Didn’t realize you were in B’ham…my dad and a few cousins lived there for yearsss.. My dad still has a house there that he rents out and is currently in the process of evicting his tenant for non-payment

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:30 pm

True,I have tried it or rather tempted while in a parking lot during brad daylight on a Saturday afternoon.

Almost…almost got a blow j but decided against it.

I have given a co worker some attn in the past but not at the company premises.

My small head is Not that persuasive against my job and better judgement. :lol:

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:31 pm

slim – eviction? now that is a pity.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
12:38 pm

disco ~ why are you even bothering to call him out…Ex likes that scenario (lol).

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:40 pm

SlimNu – Yes. Born and raised. Home of two of the original Temptations(Eddie Kendricks, and Paul Williams: got statues of them downtown), Civil Rights ground zero….Ain’t got sheet else though. Not a bad place. Major changes for the better, Socially and economically. Still the center of things in the state though. Funny, we are bordered by four states, Florida, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Georgia. All have lotteries, except us. “Too many hillbillies runnin thangs”, if ya asked me. lol. What can ya say? Maybe one day we’ll progress into the 21st century. Got my fingers crossed.

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:40 pm

leggs – I wish I knew how to type out that sound you make when you are saying “I don’t know” but are kind of humming it. lol.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
12:40 pm

“I imagine he slipped a finger or two inward during that particular session in question” – good grief, you too got caught up in Ex’s imagination. I’d surely hope one isn’t fingering in the break room with their backs to the entrance…not even homey the clown would be that careless.

Durty Burd ( )

April 15th, 2013
12:40 pm

Good Afternoon MissMoni!

Man Law 3005 ———- Celesia is ban from reblogging spelling corrections and posting 3 over paragraphs when commenting on a topic.

Usually when someone is trying to create their version of perfection, they have a mental problem. Those folks have not come to the conclusion on GOD can create we just have to find out do they have the morals, personality, ethics, drive and love for us.

Du- that is a master piece, you are like one of m boy’s, My boy and his cousin are running threesome’s on many a hoodrat… That ish was too funny.

Durty does not do pity sex, I need exciting put a whole lot of effort and prepared to get that puddy pounded into submission. You will know for Durty has been there. hehehehe!

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
12:42 pm

:lol: :lol: disco ~ I got the sound you’re trying to make.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
12:43 pm

disco – If you can’t pay, you can’t stay….no hard feelings, just business. knowwhatimean lol His last tentant was like a nasty hoarder. He sent me pics of the house and how nasty it was…dog sh yt everywhere, dirty clothes, food…the tub looked like an old toilet…just pure d nasty. And he said you would never know that about the woman that lived there. She was always dressed to the nine’s in designer gear, went to church regularly etc (which is why he allowed her to rent from him)

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
12:45 pm

Reio – Oh wow! I haven’t been there in years but used to frequent there more often when my family was still living there. My cousin, is now in Houston, but is getting married and plans to move back in August since her fiance is there.

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:45 pm

leggs – I figured you did.

slim – I get it. thing is tenants get it too. some renters are more up on their landlord/tenant law than the poor little landlords who rent to them. lol. they be straight chilling, rent-free, waiting on the court date to roll around. judgment? who cares? lol.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:45 pm

Leggs – I saw what I saw. A couple of fingers inward wouldn’t have shocked me, as full as his right hand was. Hehehe…

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:45 pm

Disco…so what’s up with the DC plans…u still going?

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:46 pm

ex – I don’t have plans. I have options. lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
12:47 pm

Know what? I’m not even against grown folks doing what grown folks do…be it coworkers or not. It’s just crass though to be getting felt up and groped all out in the open WHILE AT WORK. Have some class and be discrete and get a room…or something…IJS

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
12:48 pm

Durty, boo….please spell my moniker right :)

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:50 pm

Slim…so def her cootie stank…seeing she was bathing(Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr …had a chill typing that) in that nasty bathroom.

Man-Law7653 code 3 par 8:

From now on,Belly Button Test is Mandatary on ALL Women!!

Signed___________________High Command_April 14,2013.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:50 pm

SlimNu – Well, the suburds, south and north of the city is where the growth is. I live just south of town. The city itself is changing and moving forward, slowly, however. I’m a UAB grad myself.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
12:51 pm

Reio ~ not saying you didn’t see what you saw, just saying you’re now caught up in the hype of Ex saying he may be fingering her. You saw his hand on her butt. If you even saw the gyrating of her butt, you should never even want to be around that tacky, loose end co-worker. You haven’t gotten caught up in his web, doesn’t mean you won’t get snared.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
12:51 pm

And that’s all I’m saying Celisea (12:47).

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:52 pm

Disco..Put me on the Premium option coz I’m in DC already…

Scouting..

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
12:54 pm

Leggs – Exactly. If you’re an adult, be grownup about how you’re getting down. I agree also on not wanting to be around that kind of behavior. I would tell buddy how lame that behavior is and to move on away from me with that convo.

Class, either you have it or you don’t.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
12:55 pm

Leggs…when a man opens his hands and rubs against a woman’s butt…flexing his middle finger…

Watch out or get outta the room. U will be snared.

Reio did good by rushing out!

:lol: :lol:

disco

April 15th, 2013
12:57 pm

ex – premium option? you got jokes. that’s all I’ll say on that one. lol.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
12:58 pm

Leggs – Have no fear my dear. There doesn’t exist a trap crafty enough to ensnarl me. No can do. Been around too long. Seen and done too much. Know too much. Don’t worry. Not Me. No way. Hell naw. Sheet naw. F^^k naw…..

Reio

April 15th, 2013
1:12 pm

Let me go get something to eat. I’ve typed up an appetite for something beyond a honey bun now. I’ll decide as I’m walking out the door.
SlimNu – I have a daughter out there in Cobb County; Wherever that is. Visited Georgia numerous times. Usually just going from point A to B. Not much else. Seems like a nice place. Better than this landfill we call Alabama, where they think the Crimson Tide could beat the US Marines if they fought them. Hehehe… Often cross the state line to get lottery tickets when the jackpot gets really high, turn around and head back. Just sayin. Hehehe…

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
1:15 pm

Shet Up, Ex. You have no idea what the hell you’re talking about!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
1:16 pm

Ex – I’m not sure where she took a bath at but it didn’t look like that tub had seen water in months!!!! The bath tub needed a bath :shock:

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
1:24 pm

Reio – My folks are in Montgomery and my mom gets me to pickup lotto tickets for her all the time.

daddy swiss

April 15th, 2013
1:35 pm

Afternoon, folks. No idea if you’re still on topic, but I’m going to have to call BS on the notion of “pity” dates. I doubt pity has much to do with one’s motivation for dating someone deemed to be beneath one’s standards. For a woman, I’d say it’s more likely she’s been unable to find someone who lives up to her expectations out-of-the-box but thinks she can change him into something more closely resembling what she wants. For a guy, I’d say it’s more likely that he thinks he can get easy sex from his grateful “pity” date.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
1:58 pm

Why does the radio station I’m listening to continue to pronouce LaQuinta incorrectly? Isn’t it pronounced “La kinta” rather than “La Quinn ta?” Each time they do that, I cringe and wanna call in a say, that’s not okay….lol Danggit, I would pull my ad.

Booboos while blogging is so much more okay than advertising to an audience that stretches from here to yon. IJS

Or, am I wrong? Let me google it

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
1:59 pm

booboos are not is….Did it again Durty

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
2:00 pm

“thinks he can get easy sex from his grateful “pity” date” I absolutely agree. Implicit in the term “pity date” is an elitist, arrogant, self proclaimed sense of superiority. Even in the scenario I described earlier, I had no pity or empathy for that woman. My intentions were far less noble.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
2:09 pm

DuShawn…given that apt,in the hour(2pm) definition we could say Wise Diva’s friend is incredible Generous if she is in the habit of offering ‘pity s e x’,Not just pity dates.

I am sure she has a waiting List!

Dudes don’t run away from such,I know.. :lol:

I am couning her Mother Ellen… !!!

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
2:12 pm

I can’t help but wonder if a woman ever dated me out of “Pity”. Personally, I wouldn’t give a dayum what her motivation was, as long as she let me tap that. I’m just trying to get it in. If Pity works, I’ll be the most pitiful muffugga you ever met.

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:16 pm

dushawn – just gotta love your “by any means necessary” mentality. lol.

Durty Burd ( )

April 15th, 2013
2:20 pm

Celisea don’t let me catch you in dem streets it going to be on and poppin… lol

Disco what old dude 60 plus and up did you pimp this weekend? lol

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
2:23 pm

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:24 pm

durty – no pimping this weekend. I went easy on him. lol. messed up part is I went easy on him because he ticked me off. (showed up late. I hate being late). after that I was just like whatever. I’ve come to realize that the more of his money that I spend the better he gets to feel about himself. lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
2:26 pm

Durty – Don’t know why, but I laughed at that.

Celisea wants Durty to feel good about himself so she’s running (in place…lol), so he don’t catch her in dem streets.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
2:27 pm

oh and special effects…..Celisea is looking back while she runs (in place), from Durty…lolololol

Call me crazy but I’m laughing as I type this…lololol

MsML5

April 15th, 2013
2:29 pm

happy monday everyone!! dating out of pity….no, life is too short and my time is valuable!

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:29 pm

celisea – sounds like you really don’t want it to be on and popping OR you could just be play running. looking over your shoulder to see if he’s gaining on you. y’all are too old to be playing catch a girl, kiss a girl. lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
2:29 pm

I dedicate this to you blog playas knocking off pitiful chicks, but with no pity.

Turn down the lights, turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me, tell me no lies
Just hold me close, don’t patronize – don’t patronize me

Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t
You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
‘Cause I can’t make you love me, if you don’t

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
2:31 pm

disco – you could just be play running. looking over your shoulder to see if he’s gaining on you.

LOLOLOL…I just caracked up at your post. I was humoring Durty cause that’s how his post read to me….”bet’not catch you in dem streets”
I was adding to the dramatics….lol Naw, Celisea ain’t gon be “on and popping” with noblogbody…lol

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:46 pm

Durty Burd ( )

April 15th, 2013
2:49 pm

Disco- Pimpin how are you going to get mad at money man?

Celisea you will not even see it coming….Here comes Durty… lol

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
2:49 pm

polo….how about i’m single again….got told that he knows I want to get married and have at least one kid, and at this point he doesn’t feel those are things he wants so doesn’t want to waste my time. (I guess all the time before now doesn’t count huh?) But that I could try to wait it out if I wanted to, which doesn’t mean that he’ll ever change his mind…. :shock:

Durty Burd ( )

April 15th, 2013
2:51 pm

Disco.. I am not sure what old dude has done to Celisea because she cannot calm her little hotself down. See ladies what happens when you are getting it on the regular happens… Now who wants this summer? lol I kid, I kid, Toodles,

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:52 pm

durty – I stay mad at him. it’s how I do.

slim – what??? for real??? who is she? what’s her name?

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:53 pm

slim – he’s known what you wanted all along right?

Ed

April 15th, 2013
2:53 pm

I don’t care about others, I haven’t cared about others since a jury of my peers let a woman get away with a hit and run when I was out jogging 6 years ago.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
2:53 pm

Sorry Durty, but Celisea stays watching…annnnd she ducked.

And at your 2:51….lololololololololol…..is all I can do. Boy stop! Plus ain’t MissMoni the object of your blog affection? I can’t even joke, cause folks might take it left. So, I’on play with blog flirting no more….nuh uh

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
2:56 pm

disco – dayum right he’s known all this time, which I brought up to him. I guess he said he thought he may feel differently but I imagine he was beginning to feel the pressure to decide soon. (not from me but mainly from his family or friends) Of course, the claim is that there isn’t anyone else but who knows. He said he was cool with us but when it got to the marriage thing, he just isn’t there yet.

disco

April 15th, 2013
2:59 pm

slim – I’ll ask questions galore so before I start I’ll ask is it okay to pepper you with questions? i don’t want to turn you into the topic without permission. lol.

Durty Burd ( )

April 15th, 2013
3:00 pm

Celisea yes you can joke, it not that serious. Besides you are too old for me…lol

Yes MissMoni is the object of my blog affection….I need a solid strategy because this sista is the real deal.

Slim-Nu….Did you have any indication this was coming? Do you guys live together? You mentioned once he wanted to buy a house first before getting married that usually does not work… IJS

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:01 pm

SlimNu ~ reminds me of my friend who’s bf wrote her a letter saying she wanted marriage but he didn’t. She could stay if she wants and he may change her mind. She moved out, but her own apartment, he let the house go in foreclosure and not he moved in with her because she still loves him and don’t want to see him on the street. Two words = BUNK THAT!

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:02 pm

he may change his mind.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:03 pm

SlimNu ~ sorry you’re going through this pain.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:03 pm

Durty – You and MissMoni need to meet up then. Do the dang thing :) Whatcha waiting on??? We like men that make their move, take charge.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:05 pm

leggs – I can’t speak for slim but I think pain comes later. first she was probably shocked and now she’s probably mad as heck. of course I don’t know that but I’m pissed and I don’t have anything to do with it.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:07 pm

disco – You can ask, and I’ll try to answer as best I can…I didn’t prepare for the pop quiz…sweating bullets now lol

Dirty – We were not officially living together but you may as well had called it that. And he was still looking at houses…heyal, we just went to check out a house week before last. But it’s not like he didn’t already have a house, was just looking for something bigger since the market is good now as far as finding deals. So I asked him about that too and he was like, well, it’s just me so no need to move now unless I find a REALLY good deal.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:09 pm

slim – you been together how long? so when did he bring this change of heart up? when did he decide that he didn’t want what he previously claimed to want (or at least went along with wanting)? out of the blue or he claims he’s been thinking about it for awhile? by offering to let you wait it out was he supposed to be throwing you a bone (I typed that one with attitude and my face scrunched up)? do you think that question was game? you know that “I told you from the gitgo” game?

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:09 pm

disco – It was so random that I didn’t even know what to do with myself. I went outside, sat on the front step drinking cranberry juice clueless….then i left the house to go get my toes done. So it was shock, it was a big fat HUH?, then it was hurt and a bit of anger….now I’m feeling anger and sadness because it doesn’t seem right or real. Still too fresh to really feel much of anything…then Sunday he found out his mom went to urgent care and was later sent to the ER due to pain. Come to find out she had a heart attack…she’s still at the hospital this today so of course his mind is on that right now. She’s all the way in Miami

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:14 pm

slim – so did he hit you with a “we need to talk”? where did it come from?

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:16 pm

disco ~ she’s been in pain for sometime.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:16 pm

disco – It’ll be 3 years this year…he just brought it up Saturday morning which was weird because we were acting silly all morning (he was a bit hungover) so we were chillin on the couch and somehow got started talking about relationships…i think something came on tv or something. Anyway he was like relationships are work and basically I want to break up. :shock: I thought he was joking because we weren’t even having a serious convo. He claimed that even though he’s telling me this now, he’s been feeling this way for a while…I think he pinpointed it to his bday (NOVEMBER of last year!!!!) I remember him telling me how so many folks asked him when he was going to marry me during that time. The part of I can wait it out was insulting…then to add well, if you do stick it out because I’m cool with how things are, I still cannot predict the future if i’ll change my mind later or how long it’ll take..So do not want to waste anymore of your time. :roll:

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
3:18 pm

Celisea..u right on that observation…bout MsMoni and Durty….man we need this thing closed or else I am gon give Court a shot @ MsMoni.

Whatchuall think?

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:18 pm

disco – Nope, didn’t say we need to talk…he’d just asked me what was on that day’s agenda…then like I said, something came on tv and initiated his comment about relationships are a lot of work. I guess that was his perfect lead in to, speaking of relationships I don’t want one

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
3:20 pm

He’ll no Slim!

:shock:

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:21 pm

MMeello – I was being funny. I don’t really watch for anything too much anymore on this blog. I’m just here passing the time. I say folks do what they want, gots nothing to do with me and mine :)

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:22 pm

slim – wow. that was random and out of the blue. since November huh? can’t even say it took 5 months to build up the courage to go there since it just popped out. dag. and it’s the classic “it’s not you, it’s me” line. smdh.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:24 pm

Wow disco, so much heart felt empathy. Usually it’s “blue” for you. Turning over a new leaf?

Reio

April 15th, 2013
3:26 pm

SlimNu – Sounds like a you care great deal about him and your relationship, but, in my opinion, a dirty dog is he. If a person is paying attention, one can tell within a year if the fit is right. And should have all of their questions satisfactorily answered within that timeframe. Doesn’t take three years.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:28 pm

celisea – I’m not even pink or blue on this one. I’m calling BS on the method. apparently at some point he was onboard with everything she wanted. then when he decides he’s not onboard rather than own it and deal with it he harbors it and just drops the bomb on a humbug. I’d feel the same way if she had done the same to him. you see my very first question was who is she? what’s her name? maybe he’s being straight up but I’m not buying it (yet).

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:29 pm

correction: onboard or at least pretending to be.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
3:29 pm

Slim, so sorry, that is jacked up. Sometimes you wish there was one big event, one straw that broke the camel’s back, so you can cuss them out and be mad and move on right then and there.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:29 pm

Reio ~ nice post (3:26). YEP!

“…when he decides he’s not onboard rather than own it and deal with it he harbors it and just drops the bomb on a humbug” YEP!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 15th, 2013
3:32 pm

Hey yo, sorry about that Slim

MissMoni

April 15th, 2013
3:33 pm

LOL at Celisea trying to move things along!!!

-Ex So you’re still into the matchmaking business huh? LOL!!!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:34 pm

Reio – That’s what I’ve heard but I wasn’t in a hurry to run to the alter. I just wanted to know that we were headed in the same direction. When I asked him about it a few months ago he said that he was just not ready now but that didn’t mean NEVER. I thought he was really waiting to see about getting a bigger house, which we were actively seeking. Even the last house he put a bid on, he got out bid. He calls me up and say Slim, sorry but we didn’t get our dream house this time…..so why say sh yt like that if you don’t mean it. I brought that up too, and he said he meant it…I called bs on that because if that was your intention what is the deal now. I think he felt like we’d just live together and not be married. Going forward I definitely don’t plan to give anyone else that much time. I’ll be 35 this year and I do not want to be a super old mother

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:35 pm

I’m sure there’s some great dude just waiting to make things right and better. There’s always a silver lining in there somewhere. I’m just gonna do the upswing and predict Slim will have great news in a couple of months :)

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:35 pm

and folks wonder why a chick like me carries a brick around in my trunk. lol. every now and again a brother doesn’t something that warrants the tossing of a brick (be it at his windshield or at the back of his head). lol.

celisea – was that post more like the disco you know? lol.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:36 pm

disco – With your newfound empathy (refreshing by the way), I’ll predict it’s a sign of good news on the horizon….and soon!!!

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2013
3:38 pm

So what’s the topic now good folks?

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:39 pm

kimmie – Yeah but at least he finally came out and said it….FINALLY as opposed to trying to argue me down that that wasn’t the case. We want different things and as far as him harboring it this long, really doesn’t make sense to me. It isn’t fair but I cannot change it. When I thought he was joking he was like, man go on and take your shower. And I said not until you tell me if you’re for real or not. He says, Why? So you can take your shower, get your things together and leave…you don’t have to go anywhere, you can stay here and chill. As far as us, I’m good…I just know you want marriage and now at this point in time, I don’t. Could change but i cannot speak for tomorrow….that’s how it went down.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:39 pm

And disco, you post was on point re: brick throwing.

Reio

April 15th, 2013
3:40 pm

SlimNu – Wonder if there was something prior to last November that he either said or didn’t say, do or didn’t do, that caused you to pause and say to yourself, hmmmmm? maybe you can recall something. Ain’t nothin but a two legged, stankin, worthless, flea infested, mutated, diseased Hyena/Pig hybrid.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:42 pm

C – don’t get carried away. this definitely is not newfound empathy. really at it’s base it’s just “hen party speak”. I can talk about a no good brother with the best of them. lol.

slim – by no means am I calling him no good. just saying I think he went about it all wrong. he went buster on us.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:42 pm

Celisea – Um, was your hope that disco would kick me while I’m down? (Hence all the ‘newfound empathy) Expected her to tell me to suck it or something to that effect??

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:43 pm

disco – Gotcha. Just wondering, just every now and again you surprise me. Either too blue or as in today, too pink. Nothing wrong. Carry on..lol

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:45 pm

slim – I don’t think celisea’s posts are taking that angle. she, like tons of other people, just want to see a softer side of disco. frankly, I don’t see this as softer side. I see this as I’m riding or dying with you on this one. that’s all.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:45 pm

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:46 pm

Anytime we get softness from disco, never consider it too pink.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:47 pm

disco – He went buster…I agree with you on that but all i can say now is I know where he stands. There’s the positive lining thing you mentioned lolol

Reio – Nope, can’t recall anything around that time other than him telling me, You’ll be surprised how many folks asked me when i’m marrying you…I mean is that all there is? That’s all that rings a bell…

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:48 pm

Slim – When it comes to this blog, “hope” is too strong of a word. I’m just here turning pages. Nothing is that deep with me, anymore. I’m convinced that anything that didn’t happens is to a person’s betterment. You’ve always read like a snapback girl. Even if we can’t see it….yet…..I’m sure love is on the horizon for you. :mgreen:

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
3:49 pm

Slim – I forgot my :)

I’m sure….I put one there mentally

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
3:52 pm

Fa shizzle ;-) Thanks Now i’m going to be a bitter biya I learn from disco daily…I might have to start paying for her services.

MissMoni

April 15th, 2013
3:53 pm

Well, it’s about that time for me. Ya’ll have a GREAT day!!! :-)

daddy swiss

April 15th, 2013
3:53 pm

Sorry to hear that, Slim. I know it sucks, but don’t sweat it. You’re a cool chick and some lucky dude will be along shortly, I’m sure. Hell, if I were single I’d be swirling all over that CT of yours. (I’m not that good with non-vulgar compliments, in case you hadn’t noticed. But I mean that as a good thing…) ;-) :lol:

Reio

April 15th, 2013
3:54 pm

SlimNu – disco ain’t calling him “no good”, but I am. Any man that waits this long and throws something that devastating at a woman out of the clear blue is beyond no good. Lousy, good for nuthin,sadistic, filthy, unclean, low down, dirty, plague carryin, sick, rat. And his mama too.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:54 pm

slim – what you learn from me? how to be bitter or to keep a brick in your car? lol.

disco

April 15th, 2013
3:56 pm

reio – I’d say dang but you name call so frequently. did you go to high school with slim’s ex? lol.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
3:57 pm

Reio, Reio, Reio :lol: :lol: :lol:

I concur…

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2013
3:57 pm

Hey Slim. Sorry to hear about you and ol’ boy. You seem like a standup chick. This is just freeing you for something better to come into your life.

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
3:57 pm

Afternoon, all.

@Slim: I sure am sorry to hear about your breakup. You have my email if you need a shoulder to cry on (or somebody to hold the wheel while you get a good grip on the brick). :)

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
3:58 pm

Slim you will be okay, now that journey is over time to start on the next one.

Now if he told her in a “buster, no good low down dirty way” what is a good way to say it? Because been there done that!

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2013
4:00 pm

how to be bitter or to keep a brick in your car?
disco You mean they don’t go hand-in-hand? lol

Reio

April 15th, 2013
4:01 pm

disco – No,I didn’t go to high school with him, I just call it like I see it. Damn the consequences. It’s plain to see that he is worth less than the dirt on the bottom of my shoes. And I don’t mind sayin so. His mama needs to hear it as well. If I throw a bomb, everybody gets hit.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:02 pm

celisea – here I go with team blue. lol. just for arguments sake. maybe it’s not that he’s “no good”. maybe he really didn’t know how to tell her. maybe he really didn’t want to hurt her feelings. maybe he’s been doing passive aggressive things for months hoping that she would break up with him first. maybe, maybe, maybe. his method for breaking up was wrong. heck, he really didn’t even go into it to break up. he brought it up. she broke up with him. he was hoping to just “re-adjust” the relationship. that, in itself, doesn’t make him “no good”. ijs.

dreams – believe it or not, they do not go hand in hand.

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
4:02 pm

(note to self: don’t ever make Reio mad) :lol:

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
4:02 pm

you will be okay, now that journey is over time to start on the next one.

Precisely!! Like I said, I’m sure and more than positive that Slim will bounce back, and probably won’t take long. I’m sure we’ll be getting new that’s she’s newly booed :mrgreen:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 15th, 2013
4:04 pm

Now hold the fugg on

I’ll not hear (read) of any destruction of property. That’s childish and a class C felony (cause, well, the blog is public, and premeditation is biat ch).

So mind your manners folks.

Lastly, Slim, as Dreams said, you’re a stand up chick. A dude that pulls that kinda move that far into *something* isn’t really worth your time (see above), energy, or headspace.

It’s a loss no doubt, mourn it, and move on with the knowledge that this dude wasn’t ready to share the responsibilities that await you in life. For that, you should be grateful to him; for allowing you to find a partner that is ready and for not having him tie you down.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:04 pm

reio – ummmm. okay. and I got the bitter title? lol.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
4:05 pm

Slim – I believe in making a clean break of things. I can’t stand the “my mind could change” mess. “Let’s be friends” is kinda that same thing to me – you dangling a carrot! Keep it!!

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:06 pm

U know…

First Slim..sorry to gear that!

But Disco….reading thru All the comments..I burst out laughing at your carrying the brick comment! :lol:

Man that was funny! :lol:

My co workers were like,’whatchu reading on google?’ after my burst of laughter. :lol:

Oh boy! :lol:

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:09 pm

Dswiss – I wouldn’t expect anything less from you. Matter of fact, that was pretty PG even for you :lol:

Reio – I suppose so, you thought of some things I hadn’t even pondered on yet. It was cowardly to let this feeling fester and act like you were all in,when in the back of his mind he was actually looking for a good spot to jump overboard. However, I won’t go so far as to call his mama dirty too. She is rather nice and was looking forward to me coming to see her in Miami next month. I hope she recovers fast from her heart attack…so she doesn’t know what’s happened with us yet. No need to add to her current stress. His sister told me his mom always would tell him to make sure he didnt take me for granted and it’s rare to find a person to care about you genuinely. So maybe what she’s been telling him sunk in and he decided to stop playing games.

disco – I’m learning how to prepare my brick, how to not give a damn, hot to laugh at these jokas…so much so much so much. Maybe i’ll wear a blue shirt tomorrow in dedication to you lol

Dreams – Thanks buddy…

Single – The next one? I think it’s a bit soon to be thinking about the next one..

Reio

April 15th, 2013
4:09 pm

disco – Just don’t appreciate cold blooded foolishness. In between commercials on TV, he pulls this out of his azz crack and throws it at her. I was being kind in my description of him. Held back a little, considering the fact that she had/has genuine feelings for the fella.

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
4:11 pm

Disco – I thought you said everybody was responsible for their own feelings. Yeah, in my book doing things to make someone break up with you is no good, but that’s me(and Reio).

Dan – The voice of reason.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:11 pm

ex – I have a rep after all.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:11 pm

Got this email from him just now: I did what I thought was right. I didnt want to be wasting your time waiting on me to make up my mind. I’m cool with how we were but thats being selfish given the fact that you wasn’t. And I wasnt willing to make that kinda sacrifice especially on things like that if I truely felt that I’m not ready or want those things in my life . So uyou see it all came down to doing what’s right even if it was/is hard to do.

There ya have it folks…

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:11 pm

Slim the next JOURNEY, not the next man! let life take you where you’re supposed to be, not where you want to go.

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
4:12 pm

Reio – We gonna have limit you to three adjectives per sentence…dayum!
SlimNu – Dude was foul for that. I will be the first to admit…..Men ain’t shid. You need to be with someone that will respect and protect your heart. Someone that knows what you’re going thru………Because she’s been hurt too;)

Reio

April 15th, 2013
4:13 pm

SlimNu – “The next one? I think it’s a bit soon to be thinking about the next one..”

You never know, the next one might be thinking about YOU. Just sayin.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:15 pm

kimmie – I do believe that (re feelings) but not everyone does. besides, that was just my hypothetical for team blue as I’m sure you know.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:15 pm

Yall have me cracking up at the brick and bitter comments..oh and Reio with, When he throws a bomb everybody gets hit :lol:

Yall shole do hold me down…definitely needed the comic relief today.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:17 pm

DuS – You sound like my good guy buddy. He called foul on the situation too…he was, i used to be that dude :lol:

kimmie

April 15th, 2013
4:17 pm

Disco – I know, I was (kinda) messing with you again.

Eff him!! I had a dude to do sort of the same thing, in the same way, except mine was 2 years. Piece a ish!!! Get mad just thinking about it!!!

Okay, calm down kimmie!!

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:19 pm

i used to be that dude (trying to look innocent over here) :-D

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
4:19 pm

SlimNu ~ that email is BS to the tenth degree! He knew this all along, last year, this wasn’t just sprung on him. He can act all brand new in his bed by himself wondering wth did he do wrong and why you’re not going along with him being truthful and telling you he doesn’t want the same thing you want at the moment, but things might change. Why can’t you sit around and wait to see if they do change. He’s been looking for a flunky and I’m glad you’re not it!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:20 pm

kimmie :lol: So now he’s playing hero like he did what’s right….but was cool with the way things were

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
4:20 pm

You need to leave these trifling men alone and get you a beautiful chick that will appreciate you. I could introduce to some friends of mine that could ease your transition.

Leggs

April 15th, 2013
4:22 pm

That run-on sentence is as hot as the lava pouring down the side of Mt Helenski (sp?) Pure d BS!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:22 pm

Leggs – Yup, trying to waste any more time than I have already….He really played it up. I guess he’ll be on to the next one.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:23 pm

slim – I think he’s already on to the next one. she’s just still in the cut right now.

dushawn – I’m not sure if that’s funny or nasty.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:23 pm

Kimmie, why don’t you and Reio tell us what you really thing (LOL)

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:24 pm

Breaking up with a chic is always hard for a dude…I don’t care what other men on here say.

It is hard to verbalize it..mouth it.

The most cruel thing that this dude did,as far as I am concerned was to drag thus to three(3) whole years! That’s very unfeeling.

Not fair.

Slim represented dude on here like he was upstanding dude. Personally I thought this thing was heading to wedded bliss!

That sucks….

I sure hope this won’t change ur good heart Slim

Good luck!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:27 pm

Dus – Is that for me???? Um…not into chicks. Sorry, that went away with college experimentation. :lol:

Okay so I responded to his email to say that he had AMPLE time to say something…this fool says: But thats just it….today it won’t happen…but tommorow it may….when that tomorrow is, i can’t tell you……I just know that it would be wrong to continue stringing you along with you thinking that it may or may not come soon….because honestly I don’t know.

Yall menfolk are something else….

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
4:27 pm

disco – I call foul on someone doing something “the wrong way”, but I don’t call foul on a dude being “a way” for three years. So no, I’m not name calling or beating up on him.

Here’s my take…..

Aside for apparent deal breakers such as cheating, I’m not quick to call foul or lay blame to any one side of a relationship. (Reio, a bit much, eh). Not getting the direct answers you need, is on you. You have to take the reigns on what you want and move/work to that effect. You cannot live in hope or in hope of another.

- Six months in, have the talk of things you desire and where you see things heading, while in said relationship and how they’ll fit between the two of you. Six months is not a mark to panic.
- A year into? No clarity? Get clarity. Can’t get clarity? Bounce.
- Two years? The mark for knowing where we’re heading. If we cannot agree, lay it out there or move. But never ever, should you until someone decides for you.

I’m a true believer that nothing just pops out. Maybe out of their mouth, but certainly not one’s actions or behavior.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:27 pm

Slim..but in ur next relationship Slim maybe u just ration the pork servings :lol:

U think that trench coat stunt when u picked dude from the airport (September) may have made him look at u differently? :lol:

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:29 pm

disco – You could be right but I didn’t really get that feeling. However, it’s not like I can look in his phone or emails or anything like that to confirm. So i’ll never know the answer to that.

Ex – That is my same sentiment…why string it on so long, playing the look for a house game and all that jazz

Leggs – Run-on sentence…hahahahahha

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
4:29 pm

It’s not that I don’t have empathy or can’t wish the best for a person as I only wish for anyone down, their comeuppance, but as with everything in life, even down to “boos”, you cannot lose sight on what yo want out of the thing or what you want out of life. It’s on you to keep your desires on the forefront, alongside, not behind your SO’s. What you want and desire shouldn’t have to take a backseat to someone deciding. You can’t decide? Then move the heck over and I’ll decide for my dang self.

Celisea

April 15th, 2013
4:30 pm

Night folks!

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:31 pm

I think if I were a chic I wld just have a dating rule..for my boyfriends:

No blow job before marriage

Period!

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:32 pm

ex – you poor disenchanted man. you got it backwards. they stop after marriage. lol.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:33 pm

anyone reading about the boston marathon?

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
4:33 pm

SlimNu- I’m just being silly, but on realla, take comfort in the fact that the most high knows exactly what he’s doing. Sometimes he will cause you a little pain to save you from a lot.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:33 pm

Yall menfolk are something else… du, she’s almost in the SHE Woman Man Haters Club, time to turn her out

Slim when did you guys have the marriage talk?

Reio

April 15th, 2013
4:34 pm

Exiled – “Breaking up with a chic is always hard for a dude…” Oh, I don’t know that. I did it a number of times. Only I did it early, not years later, like this stupid, foolish, toilet bowl full of vomit, did.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:35 pm

Ex – I was going to give you props for not turning this sexual but you just had to go and prove me right…dayum shame.

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:36 pm

you poor disenchanted man. you got it backwards. they stop after marriage. lol WRONG
They say I’m saving that for my husband, then you get one!! and start to say I got to kiss our children with this mouth!!

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:38 pm

Dus – I look at it as i’m getting pruned back to grow much better…at least that’s what i’m telling myself. ;-)

cba

April 15th, 2013
4:39 pm

Slim~ really, really sorry to read of your situation. Having read your posts over the last couple of years or so, you came across as down to earth, sense of humor and intelligent young lady; as my grandma would say, she’s not “stuck up” :-) I only post on here from time to time, just read for entertainment purposes only. However, I must admit, I saw this “train” coming awhile ago. You made it known on here what you wanted and I just didn’t see it happening with the particular man. It just doesn’t take that long. It’s doesn’t make him a bad guy, it’s just not what he wants. As Dreams always say, you got to pick your product to who’s buying.
Since I have a daughter a little younger than you, I wish you well. There’s a guy somewhere doesn’t know he’s about to get a gem :-)

Durty Burd

April 15th, 2013
4:41 pm

Slim-Nu don’t let this linger, always keep it moving forward. You will survive and thrive.

The Brick in the car is too funny…

Disco the dudes you date are so old the you don’t need to throw a brick they are already using walker. The reason he was late this weekend it takes a 80yr a little time to get dress.

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
4:42 pm

@Slim: Call it pruning, call it a door closing so a window could open, or whatever. But allow yourself to feel the pain and anger that comes with it, and don’t feel like you have to be on anyone else’s timetable. If you want to grieve, then grieve. Do what you need to to help yourself. And we’ll be here to cheer you on. :)

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:43 pm

Disco…I think competition makes chics do it but trust me…why give out candy before the celebrations?

Sleep with him if need be but Def no Platinum type treatment! :lol:

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:43 pm

Single when I first starting talking to him, he knew that marriage and a kid was what I wanted. And I definitely brought that up to him…his response was I spoke in ‘general terms’..I didn’t say I wanted to marry HIM.. .But who says that in the very beginning because we were still getting to know you. That was a cop out…and of course along the way as we got more serious, the topic came up. I never want to twist some dudes arm into putting a ring on it…not my style.

disco

April 15th, 2013
4:45 pm

durty – you continue to have jokes.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:46 pm

I think I bounce back pretty quickly once I come to terms with it all…so that’s what i’ll try to do, just enjoy some peace & quiet and peace of mind. Thanks yall bunches :oops:

DuShawn

April 15th, 2013
4:46 pm

“I look at it as i’m getting pruned back to grow much better….” _SlimNu-Let me know if you need someone to bend your limbs and spray you……I just want to help you grow.

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:46 pm

So who wants to take Slim out for a drank? :lol: kidding…drinking while stressed is not a good idea. Causes you to probably overdo it

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:49 pm

DuS – Bend me back and spray me….hmmmm Sounds enticing but I’ll see if I can fix the short in my bullet first. ;-)

Bluzgirl

April 15th, 2013
4:51 pm

Afternoon all! Been busy today, so haven’t been able to read everything.

Slim – I’m so sorry to hear about what happened. Just be glad you didn’t waste any more of your time. With my ex, he said all along that he didn’t want to get married, but then would dangle that carrot and say “I can’t predict the future.” I kept thinking that one day, he would change his mind. Turned out, he just didn’t want to marry me (engaged to the next girl after me). He should have told you sooner, but at least he told you. You’re too good to “wait around” to see if he changes his mind. It’s a darn shame it turned out like this. Keep your head held high and keep moving forward! :-)

MsAtl

April 15th, 2013
4:51 pm

Hey All!

Been out of pocket all day so I don’t know what I missed. Judging from the 6 pages, I suspect it was a lot. What’s the quick n dirty?

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:52 pm

Slim…serious question?

U think u be going to church more frequently henceforth..

U loved this dude I know that

We need a meet and greet for Slim sake…

Anyone?

I know Leggs be there …

Single and Happy

April 15th, 2013
4:54 pm

Slim that’s always my que to run.

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
4:54 pm

MsAtl u and Slim both on the market..that’s the quick and derty

Disco still playing menfolk

Bluz must be with magnum …missing this Monday

Durty not closed on MsMoni yet

Court circling around MsMoni

Bout it

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
4:57 pm

Ex – I had already been going to church….just haven’t found a place I want to make my ‘church home”…Used to go to New Birth but after all that stuff went down, I just didn’t feel right going anymore.

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
4:59 pm

Did somebody say meet and greet??? That sounds like fun……

MsAtl

April 15th, 2013
4:59 pm

Exiled- And that’s 6 pages? I need to call you the next time I go over my page limitations in court…

Slim- Sorry to hear that. Hope everything works out for you.

Not bragging, but today is my Friday. I am on vacation until next week, but will pop in on you guys periodically.

Bluzgirl

April 15th, 2013
5:00 pm

Ex – did you not see my previous post?!?!

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
5:00 pm

I’m craving a pickle. Wonder what that means…. Maybe my sodium is low???

Bluzgirl

April 15th, 2013
5:03 pm

ITL – You’re not craving it with ice cream are you? :-) Just want to make sure you’re not preggers…

SlimNu

April 15th, 2013
5:05 pm

Folks always associate pickles with pregnancy…i like pickles either way. ;-)

On that note, peace out peeps. Thanks for showing some love and upliftment today (if that’s even a word)

Exiled

April 15th, 2013
5:06 pm

Pickle?

ITL…uall chics are so good at message camouflage! :lol:

MsAtl

April 15th, 2013
5:06 pm

Slim- It can be a word today. :)

ITL- Claussen is a good brand. So is the pickle in the pouch. Yum.

Bluzgirl

April 15th, 2013
5:06 pm

Have a good one Slim!

I’m out also…hope to have more time tomorrow to blog…

Into the Light

April 15th, 2013
5:08 pm

LOL@Bluz. I can assure you I am not preggers. :) But ice cream does sound good. :lol:

@MsATL: I love Claussen pickles. YUM!

Penelope

April 15th, 2013
5:12 pm

Howdy, Peepsykins,

I’m late. Sorry about your loss, SlimNu.