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Atlanta is the Nerdiest City?

We may have a lot of strip clubs and Waffle House restaurants but that’s not what got us named the nerdiest city in America! According to Movoto Real Estate,  Atlanta offers a virtual Nerdvana to those who are into gaming, tech, sci-fi conventions, etc.

Obviously, my first thought was how this impacts our dating scene.  Sidebar: I have been on a hot nerd hunt since I moved here and sometimes they can be oblivious to shameless flirting.  The question is, though, are nerds having a hard time getting dates?

If anything, I believe that a lot of people feel compelled to downplay their nerd quotient so they can appear “cooler” or more hip.  I am proud to be a nerd with a love of science and tech, but some ladies don’t highlight their intelligence.  Is it because girl nerds aren’t attractive or desirable?

Have you ever downplayed your intelligence to appear cooler?  Do you  think that showing your full nerd personality is too risky?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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MyThoughtsAreMyOwn

April 12th, 2013
5:39 am

Girl Nerd checking in! I allow my full nerd to show up and show out. Not sure how being myself would be risky. There is someone for everyone ~ right?

Have a great day MIA!

Penelope

April 12th, 2013
5:41 am

Hello peepsykins,

Be yourself. You should not downplay anything about your wonderful self. There is someone for the person that you are.

Y’all be sweet and enjoy you weekend!!

Penelope

April 12th, 2013
5:42 am

Oh my, we’re synched in thoughts!

Lumpkin

April 12th, 2013
6:09 am

I am a nerd and proud of it.

Exiled

April 12th, 2013
6:49 am

Thank Freaking Mighty God It Is FraiDay!!!!!!!!! HEIYA (Fist PUmP!)

Nerdy does Not necessarily Equate to Intelligent ……to warrant Anybody Overthinking that They maybe Intimidating Anybody!

Nerdy..in Diva’s meaning just means u like being on Facebook,Instagram(whatever?),Tumblr(whatever),blogs(blah) etc. YOU did not Invent Nothing!!!

That Don’t make U No NerDy!!!! U just an Application OverUser!!!!! Stuck on a gadget!

Hmmmmpffff!

TGIF AgaIN!!

At least I can watch golf this weekend!

Am so ready!

Good morning good folks! :lol:

Lee

April 12th, 2013
7:15 am

I am a nerd. I love me some sci-fi / games, just don’t have time to play like i want to. Right now im watching Justice League unlimited. That show rocks..tgif

MissMoni

April 12th, 2013
7:33 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!! *TGIF* :-D

Have you ever downplayed your intelligence to appear cooler? Absolutely NOT!

Do you think that showing your full nerd personality is too risky? Not at all. Be exactly WHO you are and if anyone doesn’t like it, they can kick rocks with flip flops on!

Be YOU!!! :-D

Hazel

April 12th, 2013
8:14 am

Happy Friday.
Is it because girl nerds aren’t attractive or desirable? I am not a nerd but I married one. I thought it was attractive of him not to try to fit in and dress like everyone, act like everyone etc etc. It has always been the brain that has attracted me. I would think however that guys would like women who are inner nerds as they are more visual. I may be wrong.

Have you ever downplayed your intelligence to appear cooler? Yes, guilty of this. Sad but true.
Do you think that showing your full nerd personality is too risky? You should be who you are, and not change for anyone. Nerd, so be it. Its a good thing to be different.

Hazel

April 12th, 2013
8:21 am

I think the word “nerd” may mean something different to different folks. I think of “nerd” being smart, and not very outgoing. Not all about beint stylish but rather reading the news, politics all day. I don’t think its a bad thing at all though.

Nerds Rock

April 12th, 2013
8:33 am

THEY ARE THE ONES THAT LAND ON THEIR FEET REALLY WELL

Button

April 12th, 2013
8:40 am

TGIF, I’m not really sure what being a nerd actually means, I remember calling a few kids in school nerds because of the way they dressed, acted and how they did awkward things oh and wore those ugly glasses. Now I can’t say that I equate being intelligent/smart as only to the nerds. I’m quite sure there are some brainless nerds out there too. I can say though that my honey boo is kind of nerdy. He does somethings that make me shake my head and say nerd under my breath lol.

Is Atlanta the nerdiest city? I say opposit, that Atlanta is the most glossy flossy city.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

April 12th, 2013
8:49 am

Good Morning:

Since I’m still at work (well I’m leaving now) I’ll put this out here I love nerdyness, History Channel, Nat Geo, Science Channel. I’ve told y’all I could bore you into submission………LOL I’m not hip or trendy and don’t care to be but I’m cool. After I get a few hours of sleep I’ll start my weekend and hope you folks enjoy yours as well. Hello to all my compadres, will read you soon.

Leggs

April 12th, 2013
9:33 am

I bet nerds aren’t having any problem dating (lol).

Lots of WLB’s here love nerds.

Good morning, TGIF, SERIOUSLY!!!!

Button

April 12th, 2013
9:34 am

Is it because girl nerds aren’t attractive or desirable? LOL right now I’m thinking about Sue Sue Heck character on the Middle, she’s a classic girl nerd!

kimmie

April 12th, 2013
9:36 am

Morning All and Happy End of the Week and the last day!!

I heard about that survey of Atlanta being ranked Nerdiest City!!! I LOVE IT!!!! And no, sorry Exiled, I don’t know about you but I have never met a dumb nerd. Sure they probably exist, but I bet you would have to look extremely hard to find one. And yes, they are normally able to land on their feet quite well! Every nerd I know of is doing quite well!

I have always been a nerd. Even though it did not translate into dates in high school, I have never downplayed my intelligence for anyone. Now I was never obnoxious with it and unlike “some” nerds, I’ve never been socially challenged. When I go to a party, I want to party, not discuss the latest nuclear discovery. I’m bookish, but I put the books away sometimes. That’s why I like silly movies where I don’t have to think much. I give my brain a rest now and then. I know how to dress fashionable, so no problem there. I wear glasses but I have stylish frames.

I absolutely love nerd men, married one!!! They are smart and most seem to be undercover freaks in a good way!!LOL!!!

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
9:45 am

You know….I’ve never given this one iota of thought. Seriously. Once I hit adulthood, I just saw all people as adults. Some a bit more gamed than others, but that’s about the extent of it. Usually childhood nerds (clumsy, doofus, got off on collecting bugs and stuff, etc) find their footings and evolve into beautiful swans/peacocks. Now brainy, IMO won’t doesn’t necessarily mean “nerd”…IMO I know plenty brainy folks that are sharp as razors, from lingo to style, to rhythm, etc. Seriously though, I can’t remember the last time I saw an “adult” nerds. I can only recall seeing nerds during my school years.

I think it just depends on what we consider “nerds.”

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
9:48 am

What is an adult nerd anyway? Take the character in 40 Year Old Virgin, he was definitely a nerd, but how many folks you see walking around like that?

Leggs

April 12th, 2013
9:50 am

REVENGE OF THE NERDS!

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
9:50 am

Morning All!

The meaning of nerd has changed so much, I am not sure what it is anymore. Either way, I don’t consider myself a nerd, but I do not judge nerds one way or the other.
Do I “dumb down” for anyone? Absolutely not! I have had to change my language though, when someone didn’t get what I was saying. But I consider that using simpler words, not dumbing down.

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
9:51 am

And I’ll add this, I took advanced courses in school. While those classes were a select few, there were more boys than girls in all of them. Not a one was a nerd. Matter of fact, they were all fine and the dudes that taunted, groped, hemmed up girls on the hallways…lol

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
9:52 am

I’ve never dumbed down either, but I don’t look at folks like they’ve grown two heads or embarass or correct folks. IMO, it’s more of a reflection on you in not being able to adjust to every level.

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
9:57 am

Celisea- I have seldon corrected people. It depends on the circumstances. I will correct my son, but not publicly. I know what I know; there is no need to show it off or try to down other folks. I agree with your statement about it being a reflection on the person who tries to embarrass others.

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:02 am

MsAtl – I wasn’t responding to your post. I was just talking, sort of spinned because I agreed with your post. My childhood SS teacher taught us that. She was not educated, but she was a smart woman. She didn’t use correct grammar but she ran her finances to a “T”….she died with everything in order and everything handled. She would ALWAYS tell us how someone on her job always saw fit to “correct” her. She would say I would always think how stupid he was, because as long as he understood her it took more stupidity from him trying to belittle or show her up.

That’s where my mind went, after reading your post.

Hazel

April 12th, 2013
10:04 am

@ Kimmie- I think nerds are the best. @ Button – Sue is a nerd for sure. My fav character on that show

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
10:07 am

Celisea- I didn’t think you were talking about me. I responded because I saw a survey on FB which asked if it was rude to correct people. I responded that it depended on the circumstances, but several other people responded that it was not rude to “correct ignorant people.” Wow!
I have to admit, there were times when I thought I would break out in hives from hearing certain words, lol. (a special education teacher said “keepdeded”)

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:07 am

for him not from him

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:08 am

MsAtl – Gotcha…not break out in hives…lolololol

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:09 am

Well, it irks me when someone corrects and all out in the open. If you pretty much understood, what’s the point in doing that?

Anyhoo….back to topic

Well, we know most nerds don’t get that….being corrected :)

disco

April 12th, 2013
10:13 am

good morning. I’m with celisea. adult nerds??? just not on my radar. not saying they aren’t out there but I can’t recall the last time I called someone a nerd or even thought of someone as being a nerd. heck, do kids even use the word nerd anymore? I do agree with the team that says nerd doesn’t equal smart. I think that’s a nerd stereotype. like the whole nerd outfit: highwaters, glasses, pocket protectors, allergies/asthma. lol.

Leggs

April 12th, 2013
10:18 am

disco ~ asking if people even use the word “nerd” anymore had me thinking of the word “brainiac.” I don’t hear that word much anymore.

kimmie

April 12th, 2013
10:24 am

MsAtl/Cel – My daughter (10) is very smart and outgoing. I would not necessarily say it’s “correcting” but she’s always playing Gotcha! So if one of us slips on even the simplest thing, she’s on it. Or she will scowl her little face and say “what do you mean hand instead of ham?” as if she did not understand what you were trying to say. Sometimes my brain moves faster than my mouth can form the words. I’ve been checking her little behind on that mess!!! I tell her first of all she understands exactly what I’m trying to say. People think it’s kinda cute when you are 5 or 6 trying to show everyone how smart you think you are, but as you get older people find it not so cute and insulting. I told her while I may not speak exactly perfect all the time around the house, she best believe I am not at work or other places sounding like I don’t know what I’m talking about, that I can turn it on and off at the drop of a dime and she hasn’t learned to do that yet. I got 2 degrees and don’t have anyting to prove to her little behind that still has a long way to go!! I told her I will not tiptoe and watch everything I say in my own home and be corrected constantly by a 10 year old! She looked crazy, but cut it out.. It’s been awhile, but she slipped the other day and I checked her again!!

abc

April 12th, 2013
10:26 am

I’m a nerd, but gaming is a stupid waste of time, and contemporary sci-fi blows. Asimov it ain’t. If that’s the criteria used to designate Atlanta as nerdiest, I question their definition of nerd.

disco

April 12th, 2013
10:26 am

kimmie – you’ve mentioned that before. it’s funny. personality traits are a mug. I was kind of the same way as a child. the difference (lol), my mother and her circle were not educated people and my little “thought I was smart because I got straight A’s” behind thought I could correct them. long story short, I thought wrong. lol.

disco

April 12th, 2013
10:28 am

kimmie – to this day I still say some words that are dead wrong. got them from my grandparents, the way they used to speak. while I thought I was bad enough to correct my momma and ‘nem (lol) even as a child I knew my grandparents were off limits.

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
10:28 am

Kimmie- Yes, it is best to get her out of that habit now. She should be glad you are checking her instead of someone out in the street.
My friends and I have clowned each other about speech before. I got clowned for saying “nah.” My girlfriend said, what did you just say? When I repeated it, she said that is not the way YOU speak, like I am not entitled to say “nah.” I found it funny. I told her sometimes the situation just calls for it!

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:31 am

Kimmie – Yeah, some things are cute from 4 or 5 year olds but do that same thing at 10 and it reads as “little snot” or “brat.” I think teaching them to be aware of that kind of stuff is equally important along with manners (well that is having manners), and etiquette, and dos and donts

MissMoni

April 12th, 2013
10:32 am

-kimmie My oldest daughter (age 10) is very similar to your daughter. I quickly gave her the same speech and ended with it’s not cute being a “No It All” ALL the time, LOL!

-disco Your Mom got you together quick didn’t she? :-)

Celisea

April 12th, 2013
10:33 am

MissMoni

April 12th, 2013
10:33 am

*Know It All

Button

April 12th, 2013
10:33 am

Some may not say nerd but will say weird. I may not know too many nerds but I do know some weird acting folks.

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 12th, 2013
10:33 am

OK…I USED to be a nerd…And regardless of what everyone says, Being a nerd was not cool and I got NO PLAY!!!! But sometime around my Jr. year in college, it dawned on me that it was possible to be true to who I had always been and still make myself attractive to women…. I always kept my glasses (contacts are the worse) found my own sense of style and became a lot more self aware, and realized that even the “cool” kids had quirks. Since then, I have never had an issue dating.

disco

April 12th, 2013
10:34 am

moni – quick fast and in a hurry. lol.

MissMoni

April 12th, 2013
10:36 am

Awww Court, GOOD for you!!! :-)

kimmie

April 12th, 2013
10:36 am

Disco – Kids do still say nerd, cause I hear mine say it sometimes. I don’t take the term so serious and I don’t think they do. Some of the more positive media images have actually made it cool to be a nerd or at least smart. We watch Jeopardy every day around dinner and they saw how much money the kids that won the Teen Jeopardy tournament got. I explain to them folks like Steve Jobs and Bill Gates and Zuckerberg might seem nerdy-looking but their smarts got them major bank. They know the Prez and 1st Lady are smart. Their dad and I are positive role models. I just don’t ever want them to fall in that trap of thinking they have to downplay their smarts because of peer pressure or that absolutely stupid notion that if you use correct English or make good grades you are acting “white”. Everytime I hear something like that it makes me cringe!!

I watch Melissa Harris Perry on MSNBC and she calls her fans Nerdland. I love her show, always very informative.

abc

April 12th, 2013
10:36 am

I’d say it’s worthwhile to speak correctly, clearly and concisely ALL the time. The purpose is to convey specific meaning; if colloquialisms do that, then fine, but I’d present them in a way that clearly indicates I’m purposely doing so. American accents and dialects muddy communications enough; throw in everyone else in the world, especially if English is a 2nd language, and it get especially difficult.

That’s what I taught my kids, anyway. Along the same lines with cuss words: someone just decided somewhere along the line that they’d use those words to hurt people with, which is why they’re now deemed inappropriate. So, don’t say them at church, at school, or in front of your mom; but otherwise, as long as you’re not intending harm, WTF.

DreamsMaterialize

April 12th, 2013
10:42 am

Hey Everyone

The question is, though, are nerds having a hard time getting dates?
No.

I believe that a lot of people feel compelled to downplay their nerd quotient so they can appear “cooler” or more hip.
I don’t know about this, but there are things that I do generally refrain from discussing simply because they don’t usually fit-in in general conversation. No matter how hard you try, you’ll probably seem awkward trying to make casual conversation out of quantum vacuum fluctuations, relevance of the Higgs boson particle, and 10 dimensional quantum strings as a complete unification theory.

Is it because girl nerds aren’t attractive or desirable?
What!?! Shoot, I love super smart girls.

Do you think that showing your full nerd personality is too risky?
I’ll show you mine if you show me yours. ;-)

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
10:42 am

Kimmie- UGH! That gets my goat also. I speak the way I speak. I am offended when someone says “talking White” because you are insinuating that no Blacks know to speak properly and that all Whites do. Now, you can say “speaking properly” and I won’t have an issue with that, but don’t pay me a backhanded compliment by saying I “speak well” bwecause what is left unsaid is “for a Black woman” but I hear it loud and clear.
Okay, I am putting the soap box back in the corner.

MsAtl

April 12th, 2013
10:44 am

Uh, yeah- “because” not bwecause. Just a Porky Pig moment, lol.

kimmie

April 12th, 2013
10:45 am

Disco/MissMoni/Cel – You know the thing about my daughter is I don’t even think she’ll go around other folks with that stank know-it-all mess, just me! We are very close, but she seems to find it funny messing with me. I even told her I didn’t think she had it in her to pull that mess on someone in the streets. But I told her just try it one day and see the reaction she gets. She looked crazy!!

MissMoni

April 12th, 2013
10:47 am

-kimmie/MsAtl Ditto on the “talking White” comment. What’s so difficult for some people to understand that it’s totally OK to speak correctly???