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Are you opposed to Dutch?

Earlier this week, we talked about how cheap dates have their place.  I then received an email asking about my opinion on “going Dutch” or paying half of the date.  So here it is: I don’t like having Dutch sprung on me.  If we are paying our own way, I prefer to have this information beforehand.

I think the people who oppose Dutch usually don’t like being asked out then being forced to pay their own way.  If we agree to do this ahead of time, it is different then going out and expecting someone to pay for you.

My opinion of a guy would change if he asks me out then expects me to pay my own way.  It’s hard to explain but I believe that if a guy does not want to take me out and pay my way, he does not think of me romantically.  I don’t mind paying my own way in a relationship, but I am old school when it comes to paying my way as part of dating.

What do you think? Are you against going Dutch?  Do you think a guy who asks a woman to pay her half of the bill sees her as a platonic friend?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

274 comments Add your comment

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
3:52 pm

ITL…That’s completely up to you…….. :D

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
3:54 pm

I’m Birthdayed the f&*ck out. I have been partying every night since Monday. I’m tired, I don’t want to celebrate anymore, it’s over.
My potnah just called me talkin bout”Wuzzup Birthday Boy! it’s the Weekend Let’s get it poppin!” Man, I need a dayum nap.

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
3:55 pm

ITL – I hear that!!! By the way…think I’m staying in tonight with the nasty weather coming in. Sometimes, I wish I lived up that way!!!

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
3:58 pm

@Court: Mmmmm hmmmm. :wink:

@Du: Why thank you for the lovely birthday wishes. :lol:

@Bluz: I understand. I’m hoping if we go to Ds afterward there will be a good crowd. My soul needs some blues music!!!

Durty Burd

April 11th, 2013
3:59 pm

Durty always pay on a first date, heck sometimes I treat the my female co-workers. Can’t do that too often that start thinking you like them and they want to invite you over for some loving.

Let me translate Disco’s outing in DC with the meeting the married dude. Threesome all day long… Disco is a playa but she will get busy with the best of them..

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
3:59 pm

This Con Funk Shun Radio on Pandora is so so raw.. they have been getting it in all day.

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:01 pm

ITL – I’m sure it will be…even the storms won’t keep the people who live close away!!! I hate missing it. Dang weather!!!

kimmie

April 11th, 2013
4:01 pm

Go on with yo bad self Light! Rock that birthday girl!!

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
4:03 pm

ITL – can I get you a gift?

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:03 pm

@Bluz: I’m hoping L and L will be there tonight. Or some familiar faces, anyway. Wish Mudcat was going to be there. Now that would be a celebration!!!!

kimmie

April 11th, 2013
4:03 pm

Dang, and no Scandal tonight either! :(

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:04 pm

Thanks, Kimmie!

@Du: Is that a trick question?

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
4:06 pm

“Dang, and no Scandal tonight either!”

It will be plenty of Scandal going on if I should happen to get caught up in a thunderstorm with an ITL that’s had a couple of drinks!!! :D

Leggs

April 11th, 2013
4:07 pm

Must admit, daddy swiss, the 3rd eye comment was innocent. I was simply thinking of a parent’s radar and their antenna going up.

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
4:07 pm

No.. What would like? Is today the actual day?

disco

April 11th, 2013
4:08 pm

durty – what married dude did I meet? i met a dude that’s “seeing someone” (his words). i’m still working on that. lol.

kimmie – scandal still on? lol. I’ve fallen way off. don’t remember the last episode I saw. it’s been a minute.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:09 pm

@Du: Awwww, your thought is gift enough. The actual day is Saturday.

@Court: Just…..dayum…..man…..just….dayum.

kimmie

April 11th, 2013
4:10 pm

Court – Just make sure you don’t make ITL go Dutch, you know it being her birthday and all!!!LOL!! And don’t take her to CiCi’s Pizza either. Don’t be cheap!!

LIght – Girl, make him PAY, break the BANK!!LOL!!!

Leggs

April 11th, 2013
4:10 pm

Ummm, something is attacking my face. I just suddently broke out in a bunch of tiny, itchy welps on my face. WTH…..

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:13 pm

ITL – I’m sure they’ll be there, although I don’t get along with one of them anymore…I’ll fill you in on that later…

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:14 pm

Today is my Friday and it’s moving way too slow!!!

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
4:15 pm

Come on kimmie…. on the real, I never do anything less than Little Caesars for pizza, and since its her birthday, she can go all out and get the three meat special AND the crazy bread……

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:15 pm

Leggs – maybe it’s allergies due to this pollen?

disco

April 11th, 2013
4:15 pm

bluz – well that’s what you get for bragging. lol.

daddy swiss

April 11th, 2013
4:15 pm

“and their antenna going up.”

“Ummm, something is attacking my face. I just suddently broke out in a bunch of tiny, itchy welps on my face.”

Leggs — Totally innocent. Yeeeeeeeeeeeeah. That’s the ticket… :lol:

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:16 pm

:lol: @ kimmie. I need to sign up for Kimmie Coaching.

@Bluz: My Friday, too! Yippee!!!

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:17 pm

disco

April 11th, 2013
4:17 pm

court – your restaurant splurges got me thinking about my cousin. I talked to her the other day at lunchtime and she was on her way to the corner restaurant where she planned to get a fish plate for $5. she said for $5 she would get a plate full of whiting, some cole slaw, some French fries and not one, but two, slices of white bread. her excitement about it is what set it off. lol.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:18 pm

since its her birthday, she can go all out and get the three meat special AND the crazy bread……

Can we get a 2 Liter of Dr. Pepper, too???? If I say pretty please?

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
4:19 pm

Court-Don’t be cheap bruh. Get her a couple of bags of the free Little Ceasars cookies too. They only give them to you if you ask for them.

Leggs

April 11th, 2013
4:20 pm

daddy swiss ~ I read over the antenna comment and said “oh boy.” I have a lot on my mind, but those comments were innocent while I was typing them. Take on a different meaning when you re post (lol).

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:22 pm

Little Ceasars has cookies?!?!??!???!? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:22 pm

Little Ceasars has cookies?!?! I so did not know that!!!

Dang…now, I’m craving pizza…

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:22 pm

TMI, but, I so shouldn’t have started my new healthier eating when I’m PMS’ing!!!

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:24 pm

@disco: Fish sounds pretty good, but that two slices of white bread iced the cake! :)

Dushawn

April 11th, 2013
4:25 pm

Speaking of Food, I went to “This Is It” on Panola the other day and got some Ox Tails, greens, rice, mac & cheese and a large lemonade. That shid was $18.00! They done bump they head in there. If i wasn’t so hungry, I would’ve told them to keep that.

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
4:27 pm

ITL…Get the cookies if you like……while we are at it..we might want to get a second pizza…You know, just in case you get a taste for sausage in the middle of the night……

Leggs

April 11th, 2013
4:27 pm

I still have my This Is It $25 gift card. Always thought I could get a meal for two with it, guess not.

Yes, ITL, I still have it (lol).

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:30 pm

Mmmmmmm…sausage….

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
4:32 pm

disco, if you ever make to these parts, I will take you over to PinUps for lunch…You can get the T bone steak an baked potato and a salad for $3.95…. That has always been the best deal on the east side…..

daddy swiss

April 11th, 2013
4:32 pm

“Mmmmmmm…sausage….”

Alright, that’s it! I’m being punk’d aren’t I???? lol

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 11th, 2013
4:33 pm

Bluz, I guess you can have sausage too…. :D

Bluzgirl

April 11th, 2013
4:35 pm

daddy swiss

April 11th, 2013
4:35 pm

“You can get the T bone steak an baked potato and a salad for $3.95…”

And for an extra $50, you can get your salad tossed in the champagne room.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:36 pm

Say what!?!?!?!? :shock:

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:36 pm

Oh Swissykins. I knew you couldn’t hold out. :(

Leggs

April 11th, 2013
4:37 pm

daddy swiss

April 11th, 2013
4:37 pm

I fought it, ITL. I fought it with all my might. But I am only a man. lol

Into the Light

April 11th, 2013
4:38 pm

It’s okay, Swissy. Let it all out…. c’mere and hug it out.

disco

April 11th, 2013
4:39 pm

leggs – an inconsequential line from temptation (and I’m paraphrasing). her: I’m sick of going to the $1.95 buffet. him: I’ll take you to the $5.95 buffet.