My friend Brian had a first date recently and he told me what many men often say about first dates: “She talked way too much,” which is apparently a huge turn off. I always thought the first couple of dates are supposed to be “getting to know you” dates, so shouldn’t talking be required? Well, it depends. If you talk too much about the wrong thing, it can be a bad thing.
For instance, you talk too much about yourself, your exes, or reality television. Brian said he would have preferred that she talked less if her conversation was going to consistently be, and I’m quoting here, “wack conversation,” end quote. If you have to talk less to impress someone, I think it is a bad sign. What do you think?
Do you ever wish that your date talked less? If you take conversation out of the equation, what else should you do on the first couple of dates?
My buddy Brian said that his best dates are conversation “light” and heavy on activity that lets you show your personality. He likes going to Dave and Busters, sporting events, or bowling. He likes to see a woman interact with other people and in different settings to get a good sense of how she carries herself. His belief is that it is easy to be fake and phony when you are sitting at dinner talking, talking and talking some more. What do you think?
I know a lot of guys who hate talking on the phone, but it seems that men are more and more anti-conversation. Is it just the guys I know?
Unlike Brian, I love conversation, so please weigh in!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog