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Dating tip: Less conversation?

My friend Brian had a first date recently and he told me what many men often say about first dates: “She talked way too much,” which is apparently a huge turn off.  I always thought the first couple of dates are supposed to be “getting to know you” dates, so shouldn’t talking be required?  Well, it depends.  If you talk too much about the wrong thing, it can be a bad thing.

For instance, you talk too much about yourself, your exes, or reality television.  Brian said he would have preferred that she talked less if her conversation was going to consistently be, and I’m quoting here, “wack conversation,” end quote.  If you have to talk less to impress  someone, I think it is a bad sign.  What do you think?

Do you ever wish that your date talked less?  If you take conversation out of the equation, what else should you do on the first couple of dates?

My buddy Brian said that his best dates are conversation “light” and heavy on activity that lets you show your personality.  He likes going to Dave and Busters, sporting events, or bowling.  He likes to see a woman interact with other people and in different settings to get a good sense of how she carries herself.  His belief is that it is easy to be fake and phony when you are sitting at dinner talking, talking and talking some more. What do you think?

I know a lot of guys who hate talking on the phone, but it seems that men are more and more anti-conversation.  Is it just the guys I know?

Unlike Brian, I love conversation, so please weigh in!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

377 comments Add your comment

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
4:50 pm

I’m slipping, swiss, didn’t even see that one coming!

Durty Burd (Disc is not getting it)

April 10th, 2013
4:50 pm

Disco former playa from the Himalayas, you must be in a servere drought all your stories are from the 1990’s…

The Ray-J Kim-k sex tape was genius, making millions out of nothing but public adoration of stupidity. Kim-K will be the next diet queen endorser.

disco

April 10th, 2013
4:51 pm

durty – all the good ones are. lol.

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
4:53 pm

Damn it’s almost summer but one of the client employees today is dressed …ahem …Damn man!!

I almost needed a ventilator walking behind her..her skirt barely covering the under buttocks!

Just Damn!!!!

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 10th, 2013
4:53 pm

Ok….. Needed some documents for a thing I am working on and my co-worker said they were on her desk….. She says ” In my office in the file right by my computer”… I go in her office look on her desk and pick up the file.. Look down at the stand next to her desk and her purse is open…….. Silver bullet is sitting just inside…. took everything I had not to reach down and pick it up………..

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
4:53 pm

WHOA BUDDY, that’s intense. I don’t think I would have gotten past obstable, let’s say 6.

disco

April 10th, 2013
4:54 pm

durty – I don’t know if that means I’m not as wild as I used to be or if it means the guys I know now don’t bring the heat like the guys I used to know.

umm – durty. what’s up with the moniker? lol.

Dushawn

April 10th, 2013
4:54 pm

disco – That leaving the man whip in the long term parking was just plain wrong…..lol. Even though he was mad, he had to laugh at that one.

SlimNu

April 10th, 2013
4:54 pm

Dreams – Dayum that’s just crazy of him to do that. I suppose he feels he has to right to grab a chicks booty because of who he is. I don’t care who you are but that gives you no open range to do whatever the hell you want just because you have a lot more zeros in your bank account.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
4:55 pm

Ex, just in case you missed my 2:51, please go read it…

disco

April 10th, 2013
4:56 pm

D – in all the years since I’ve wished a man would do me wrong so I could take his car to the airport. lol.

Bluzgirl

April 10th, 2013
4:56 pm

I’m outta here for the evening…have a good one!!!

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
4:58 pm

@Court: She had a Coors Light in her purse? At work??? For shame…… :lol: :lol:

Dushawn

April 10th, 2013
4:58 pm

Let me hit it. I will give you that opportunity……….j/k ……….unless yo gone do it. I’m about to continue my life celebration. be blessed.

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
5:00 pm

Night, Bluz!

@disco: That is a good one. (ITL filing it away for future use…..)

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 10th, 2013
5:00 pm

ITL…yup….I could almost taste it……. LOLOLOLOL :D

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
5:00 pm

If it seems like things are getting more difficult, remember, when the intensity heats up, that means you are closer to your victory. It always seems darkest just before the dawn appears. – Taken from a book on daily affirmation.

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
5:00 pm

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
5:01 pm

@Court – you nasty, man…..

Durty Burd (Disco is not getting any luving)

April 10th, 2013
5:06 pm

Men and Women this is why you should always tell your children who their father or mother is.

http://www.11alive.com/rss/article/257671/166/Ohio-woman-unknowingly-married-her-father?

Durty Burd ()

April 10th, 2013
5:12 pm

Disco your personal is so cool, I know I can throw something at you and it does not register.

Slim_Nu has mentioned the Ray-J tape on the blog a few times, I think she wants to ride the Ray-J train like Kim beef cakes did. :)

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 10th, 2013
5:13 pm

ITL….. sometimes, we all are….. :D

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
5:17 pm

Reading that story hurt my heart….

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
5:18 pm

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
5:19 pm

@Court: Not sweet, innocent me….. nope. never me. :wink:

daddy swiss

April 10th, 2013
5:22 pm

Leggs — You’ll tend to slip if you don’t see it coming. Gotta watch where you step.

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
5:27 pm