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Dating tip: Less conversation?

My friend Brian had a first date recently and he told me what many men often say about first dates: “She talked way too much,” which is apparently a huge turn off.  I always thought the first couple of dates are supposed to be “getting to know you” dates, so shouldn’t talking be required?  Well, it depends.  If you talk too much about the wrong thing, it can be a bad thing.

For instance, you talk too much about yourself, your exes, or reality television.  Brian said he would have preferred that she talked less if her conversation was going to consistently be, and I’m quoting here, “wack conversation,” end quote.  If you have to talk less to impress  someone, I think it is a bad sign.  What do you think?

Do you ever wish that your date talked less?  If you take conversation out of the equation, what else should you do on the first couple of dates?

My buddy Brian said that his best dates are conversation “light” and heavy on activity that lets you show your personality.  He likes going to Dave and Busters, sporting events, or bowling.  He likes to see a woman interact with other people and in different settings to get a good sense of how she carries herself.  His belief is that it is easy to be fake and phony when you are sitting at dinner talking, talking and talking some more. What do you think?

I know a lot of guys who hate talking on the phone, but it seems that men are more and more anti-conversation.  Is it just the guys I know?

Unlike Brian, I love conversation, so please weigh in!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

377 comments Add your comment

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
1:26 pm

MsAtl ~ I’m in the club. Will be munching later as I do almost everyday. BTW, would that white bean turkey chili be an Apron’s receipe from Publix?

MsAtl

April 10th, 2013
1:37 pm

Leggs- Nope, homemade. I cook my lunch for the week on Sundays unless I am having salad some days.

daddy swiss

April 10th, 2013
1:53 pm

abc — Doubt you’re going to find what you want on the radio. Try Spotify or Pandora.

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:06 pm

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:06 pm

Hey Daddy!

How is young Swissete?

SlimNu

April 10th, 2013
2:08 pm

What’s happening folks? Is there a Blog Cliff notes for the previous 3 pages laying around anywhere?

daddy swiss

April 10th, 2013
2:09 pm

Howdy, Me.lo. Little Swiss Mochette is doing very well, thanks. She’s the cutest, smartest, strongest little baby ever. And I’m not biased at all… lol

Dushawn

April 10th, 2013
2:09 pm

swiss- They have everything firewalled at my office(i.e. you tube, all radio stations, all mix tape sites etc.), but I just discovered that pandora is not blocked! Never tried it from here before. Pleasantly surprised.

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:09 pm

MsAtl?

when was rhe last time u saw live,a pair if those sexxy boxers?

I ain’t talking bout u checking a mannequin…I mean Live? :lol:

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:10 pm

Celisea

April 10th, 2013
2:11 pm

Hahahaha….

I had a nice salad for lunch, with a little grilled chicken added. I don’t like all that junk in my salad. Sunflower seeds, raisins, pickles and a sprinkle of cheese…

I’m having refreshments in a few minutes. Somebody is leaving. I’m excited about cake, craving something sweet :mrgreen:

My guy in NC is soooooooo supercool. We talk nearly everyday, not as much as my lily white dude here. He’s mostly on the golf course. I mentioned because the lily white dude is smooooth, when it comes to business. The NC dude is too, but he’s ALWAYS asking me how he compares to the lily white dude. he just asked me to compare his client visits to the lily white. Also, he’s conformed to doing all his stuff the way we do here in Atlanta with our portofolio. It was just funny when he came back and asked me to how does he stack against the dude here. He don’t know it but he’s soooooooooo much more cooler and laid back. Easy to talk to and more down to earth.

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:16 pm

Which brings me to the question: do chics really check out/windowshop mannequins in sexxy boxers when they’re in a boyfriend drought? :lol:

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:17 pm

I had chicken marsala and green beans. I love it when the caterers bring extra! LOL

Heeeeeey, daddy Swiss. Long time, no read.

Celisea

April 10th, 2013
2:18 pm

Dern, where’s my cake post…..

cake cake cake cake cake cake cake

Eat the cake, Anna Mae!!! Dang, Ike drove her to Buddism. She should have put one in him.

Cake in 12 minutes!!!

Just a random…..

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:19 pm

Random: Is it OCD of me to make sure the logo on the sleeve on my Starbucks cup lines up perfectly with the logo on the cup?

MsAtl

April 10th, 2013
2:20 pm

Ex- if seeing them in the store doesn’t count, then it’s been a coupla months.

Daddy- Hey. Glad lil Swiss is doing well.

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:21 pm

Thanks a lot, Celisea. Now I want POC cake. Hmph! :evil:

Dushawn

April 10th, 2013
2:21 pm

Not OCD…just boredom. What’s the next topic?

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:21 pm

ex – I have experienced my share of dry spells. I have never checked out a mannequin. most mannequins are too skinny anyway. lol.

celisea – would you like a piece of cake?

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:21 pm

Slim…breaking news is that Leggs was spotted in a club somewhere in Norcross

Hmmmmm

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:23 pm

LOL@Du. I like the way you think, Aries Man. :)

Next topic is why in bloody he!! does my co-worker have to sneak up on me all the time? Scares the bejeezus out of me everytime. Creeper.

MsAtl

April 10th, 2013
2:23 pm

Ex- Ummm, no. What can a mannequin do for a chick?

ITL- Seems like I have found a kindred soul, lol. It may be OCD’ish but I do it also.

I don’t know when’s the next birthday around here…

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:25 pm

@MsATL: Yay for CDO!!!! (notice how I alphabetized it, like it should be).

Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )

April 10th, 2013
2:26 pm

ITL….CDO?!?!?!

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:27 pm

Coupl of months?

MsAtl? 2012 is barely over…so u tell me dudes are still doing the hit and run that quick.

U re a lawyer…next time make the sign a commit agreement before they hit it! :lol:

Celisea

April 10th, 2013
2:27 pm

ITL – Sorry :(

disco – Shet it up!! LOL

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:27 pm

@Court: CDO=OCD alphabetized. :lol:

Exiled

April 10th, 2013
2:28 pm

make them

Got go..,,too many mistakes coz I’m rushing

I’m busy! Lol

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:29 pm

court – I thought it was a combination of OCD and dyslexia. imagine how frustrating that could be. lol.

SlimNu

April 10th, 2013
2:29 pm

Ex – Oh really? Hmmmm……interesting (said as I stroke my one long chin herrrrr)

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:32 pm

random – I’ve got way too many words inside of me that are dying to come out. I need to get to the end of the workday and the comfort of my car and my headset. lol.

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:32 pm

LOL@disco.

@Slim: Please don’t encourage him. He’s been so, so, so……forthright lately.

daddy swiss

April 10th, 2013
2:33 pm

Howdy, ITL & MsATL — Yeah, you pal swiss has been busy as heyaaaaal lately. Not much time for tomfoolery during the day anymore, sadly.

MsAtl

April 10th, 2013
2:35 pm

Exiled- See, you’re making mistakes because you’re clowning, lol. There is no hit n run over this way!

ITL- Lol @ CDO. My kids used to tease and say that I ate in alphabetical order.

Slim- Laughing at you stroking your chin hair. Thinking of the masters in the kung fu movies when they stroke their beard & fling it over their shoulder.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
2:37 pm

Why is that breaking news, Ex? Was she misbehaving?

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:37 pm

Yay, tomfoolery! :lol:

Swissykins, are you going to Depeche Mode?

Dushawn

April 10th, 2013
2:39 pm

Since its quiet, I will share. Remember the childhood sweetheart chick I mentioned a while back? We reconnected and I ate a few meals at her crib. I may have mentioned that she sent a Christmas card to my home during the holidays. Wifey was not pleased. Anyway, I refuse to have any communications with her since then (Actually, Wifey kinda decided that for me), but she has been relentless in her pursuit. Even contacted my sister via linked in. She sent me a happy birthday text along with a paragraph of “why won’t you call me” drivel. If a man hasn’t responded in four months, shouldn’t the message be clear?

Into the Light

April 10th, 2013
2:39 pm

Random: Was just whistling, and realized it was “Because I Got High”. :oops: How in the world did THAT song get in my head?

Quick, Court – give me another song to hum….

daddy swiss

April 10th, 2013
2:41 pm

ITL — No, I don’t think so. I was tempted, but I’ve seen them so many times & Mrs. Swiss is not as big a fan as I am. I do dig the new album, though.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
2:42 pm

If a man hasn’t responded in four months, shouldn’t the message be clear?

If a man hasn’t responded in 1.5 weeks, the message is clear. That’s what’s wrong with a lot of women beating themselves up worrying about why? Hell, silence is an answer, start listening to it.

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:44 pm

ITL – thanks. I could have cheated and I could have passed but then I got high. lol.

dushawn – old girl is on a mission. you might want to tighten up on your “do right” before you find yourself hemmed up.

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:45 pm

dushawn – have you never heard of “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again.” lol.

kimmie

April 10th, 2013
2:45 pm

Du – See, you never should have opened that Pandora’s box! So basically, she’s stalking you.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
2:46 pm

Speaking of Karaoke, that’s the song Bluz sang (lol).

Bluzgirl

April 10th, 2013
2:46 pm

ITL – LOL!!! You know, that’s my karaoke song…

MsAtl

April 10th, 2013
2:47 pm

Dushawn- The message should have been clear! I’m with you Leggs, she should have gotten it months ago.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
2:47 pm

Tell Wifey about it and don’t respond and tell your sister to stay clear of her too (lol).

Bluzgirl

April 10th, 2013
2:47 pm

Du – just keep ignoring. Hopefully, she’ll go away eventually…girl is hung up on you for sure!

disco

April 10th, 2013
2:48 pm

dushawn – do you have a trac phone (yet)? lol. whew I’m cracking myself up over here.

Leggs

April 10th, 2013
2:48 pm