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Cheap dates have their place

There is something to be said about simplicity.  Really extravagant dates have their place but sometimes all you need is a really great chemistry and time.  This is why I constantly tell my guy friends to find a balance in selecting things to do for women.  Many women can appreciate a well-rounded guy.  We don’t like “gimmicks” guy who needs flashy cars, sycophant hype men, or obnoxious gestures of romance.   Those gestures that only prove you have a handy American Express card and little imagination to go with it.

When you only have personality and charm to present to your object of desire, will they still be just as smitten with you?  It is an important question because few people behave the same way they did when they first met and pursued their mate.  The thing that draws them in can’t or shouldn’t just be the money that is spent to impress them.  Just like sex is not enough to sustain a good relationship, money won’t  keep the happy around either.

Have you ever gone on a really romantic and simple date that was cheap and fun? I think it is always fun to do a “cheap date challenge” where you take turns planning and executing a low cost date for each other.   You pick a small and reasonable amount of money that is the spending limit. You compete to come up with the most creative and cheap date for one another.   It is win-win, obviously, but it could show your personality to one another.  Try it, trust me. It is big fun and leads to really healthy competition and trash talking sessions.  If you’re into that sort of thing.

What kind of cheap date idea would you come up with to win the cheap date challenge with a $30.00 limit?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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MissMoni

April 8th, 2013
7:55 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!! *I’m fighting with the pollen & even with Zyrtec, I’m so not winning!!!*

What kind of cheap date idea would you come up with to win the cheap date challenge with a $30.00 limit? FREE Concerts are always FUN to a music lover such as myself. The $30 could be very well spent at ColdStone on some Chocolate Devotion and whatever he likes!!! :-)

Hazel

April 8th, 2013
8:15 am

What kind of cheap date idea would you come up with to win the cheap date challenge with a $30.00 limit?
A picnic at the park with even a bottle of wine and some deli sandwich’s could be done under $30.
In Atlanta, the possibilities are endless. One just has to have an open mind.

disco

April 8th, 2013
9:08 am

good morning. geez where is everybody? cheap date challenge, huh? actually I think something like that could actually be pretty fun especially for a frugal type like myself. spring/summer bring lots of outdoor opportunities. the free concerts, street festivals, outdoor movies. zoos, botanical gardens and stuff like that are usually inexpensive, often 2 for 1 and generally have discounts for AAA, AARP (yikes!) and the like. alternative papers generally have a section of free events every week. why not just take a highlighter, circle a few things and have at it?

MsAtl

April 8th, 2013
9:24 am

Morning All!

There are several cheap things to do in and around the Atlanta area. I would look for free concerts and put the $30 into a really great meal with wine. If we went to a street festival or museum instead, then the $30 could be spent on dinner afterward. Several restaurants have 2 for $20 deals. My plan would depend on what season it is.

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
9:41 am

Morning All!

I actually think the majority of dates should be of the cheaper variety when you are seeing someone regularly and getting to know each other. Save the extravagent stuff for special occasions and every now and then. Then they will truly be “special”. I don’t care what your income level. It should be about spending time with someone and getting to know them, not trying to break the bank. If that’s all you have going for you, you’re truly sad.

Spring/summer is a great time to have fun on the cheap.. Everyone’s suggestions are what come to mind. Pull out that Creative Loafing and go for it.

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
9:41 am

Good morning folks,

Did you all forget to turn the OPEN sign on or something. It’s a ghost town in here.

disco

April 8th, 2013
9:44 am

in the spirit of generosity I would forego the date and treat a co-worker to a pedicure with my $30. this chick done broke out the sandals but forgot her feet. they look like they hurt. like flour and shards of glass. it’s real bad.

hey kimmie, atl, slim.

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
9:48 am

morning all

What Kimmie said.

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
9:48 am

Hey Disco!

Dang, if sista can’t afford a pedi, she could at least attempt one at home!!!

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
9:50 am

Slim – For a lot of school systems, it’s spring break this week. It’s a ghost town up here at my job too. I had no trouble getting to work this morning either.

disco

April 8th, 2013
9:53 am

single – what’s up man? I thought of you this weekend when I was calling a bunch of oversized menfolk a bunch of punks. lol. I spoke to 3 individual guy friends over the weekend. all over 6’2” and all over 240 pounds. each and every one of them is afraid to fly, afraid to cruise, afraid to leave the country. they’ve all been at their jobs 15 and 20+ years but don’t want to take time off. I was just like “ugghh”. I did get two invites though. two guys invited me to visit the cities they live in. I just laughed.

kimmie – her feet are beyond a soak and scrub. she needs a razor blade. lol.

Leggs

April 8th, 2013
9:54 am

Good morning!

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
9:57 am

Disco – Looks like she needs to hit Shanaynay’s Sho Nuff and let her hit her with that chain saw!LOL!!

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
9:59 am

disco, now that’s odd, was talking to a co-worker who was criticizing a woman for going to Vegas by herself. Tell your wimpy friends to grow up (LOL) What are they afraid of??

Hope you had a good weekend.

Reio

April 8th, 2013
10:02 am

Go to the zoo, if you can. Have a picnic lunch……talk a lot, ask questions, answer questions…find out as much as you can about this other person, be honest…This, of course would apply to new couples. Couples that have been at it a while can do the same thing, but the conversation will be much different.

Leggs

April 8th, 2013
10:03 am

“…like flour and shards of glass.” – I’ve seen that look and am amazed that people don’t give a darn coming out in public looking like that. I’ve seen men feet look just as crutty.

A picnic in Piedmont Park, wine, fruit, sandwiches and people watching. May even be adventurous and toss a frisbee.

disco

April 8th, 2013
10:03 am

kimmie – you crazy.

s/h – trust. I talked about them like dogs but they know that’s just how I do. lol. they all have their reasons (because you know they won’t claim fear) but I ain’t trying to hear it.

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
10:07 am

Disco, for people like that, I just say I’ll see you when I get back (LOL) so why did that make you think about me, because I’m the opposite (LOL)

disco

April 8th, 2013
10:10 am

leggs – and got the nerve to have nail polish on the toes. just dang.

s/h – I thought of you because you do get your travel on and because all of these guys got some size on them and it just tickles me that they are so fearful (again, none of them claimed fear but i know the deal).

LeeH1

April 8th, 2013
10:11 am

Uh, to really get to know a woman, the best dates are to go with her to a museum. The way she sees and appreciates art, history or science (or doesn’t) will tell you a lot more about her mind than any number of structured dates will. Is she open to new ideas? Does she have an interesting way of expressing her views on the exhibits? Does she try out the show ‘n tell exhibits? Does she have a sense of humor, and a willingness to share? These will tell you more about the woman’s mind than anything else you can do.

And it supports the area’s museums!

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
10:11 am

Heeeyyy disco – In true to form this morning I see re: the messed up toes lolol

kimmie – Oh yeah, i guess you have a point there. Spring Break..

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

April 8th, 2013
10:12 am

A picnic in Piedmont Park, wine, fruit, sandwiches and people watching

Yep that’s a nice date…cheap or not. Piedmont Park is a nice venue.

Speaking of crunchy feet…there’s a lady right outside my office who’s heels look like she was walking in flour. They look all dry and cracked and for the life of me, I don’t understand how they really don’t notice their feet are that jacked up. Then to top that, the chick here, with the long hobbit feet has on sandals…I know she can write with her toes…I’d bet on it.

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
10:21 am

disco – I was just complaining about my toes this morning. I just got them done last week and already the tips of my french pedicure are jacked up. I will NOT be going back to that place. I could’ve done them myself to reach the same effect and not spend damn near $30. :roll: So i’m sitting at my desk with my white out trying to fill it in until I get them redone :lol:

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
10:22 am

disco, is there a short jab in there somewhere (LMAO)

Reio

April 8th, 2013
10:22 am

LeeH1 – I’m not sure how visiting a museum can tell one a lot about the other person, beyond the fact that they may or may not be well versed on art, or art history. I can appreciate your post, though.

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
10:23 am

Disco – Dudes like you mentioned irritate the mess out of me. When would see dudes like that that just close themselves off from doing anything , I would run. That’s a snapshot of how your life would be if you took up with one of them — all you would be doing is cooking and parked in front of the tv.

Reio

April 8th, 2013
10:23 am

Never had my toes or nails done. Never will.

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
10:25 am

Sassy – We call those “finger-toes” and I have them too :lol:

MsAtl

April 8th, 2013
10:26 am

Disco & Sassy- You two have me rolling with your talk of those feet. Sassy, I won’t even ask what Hobbit feet are. If she can write with them, that’s a good skill to have should she ever get kidnapped & duct taped. #lookingonthebrightside

disco

April 8th, 2013
10:29 am

s/h – if anything I’m giving props to the short man with heart. I hope it’s a choice I never have to make. short with heart or big and scary? lol.

kimmie – and you know they get off on telling you all their “been there, done that” stories. I went to such and such when I was in the service. I’m like you were in the service 30 years ago. stuff done changed. to each his own though.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

April 8th, 2013
10:31 am

I won’t even ask what Hobbit feet are.

If you’ve seen The Lord of the Ring, you’d know cause that’s what they look like. Plus she’s kinda short and her feet are long so it sticks out(no pun intended).

Dang SlimNu….not “finger toes” :lol:

Hers shole look like they’ve got lil knuckles,too…

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
10:33 am

Disco, short with heart wins every time, the only problem is when your short with heart, it’s interpreted as the Napoleon complex (roflmao)

Reio

April 8th, 2013
10:36 am

On a scale of 1 – 10, my feet would, more than likely, rate a (-43), but I don’t care. Never did.

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
10:38 am

Disco – As if having been in the service means you never need to travel or do anything again. So what if you’ve been there, done that – I may have not and want to!!! And yeah, things have definitely changed!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

April 8th, 2013
10:40 am

Good for you and your feet :mrgreen:

Say it loud n proud..

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
10:45 am

Sassy – I can pick stuff up with these fanga-toes….and according to the beau I have 10 fingers lolol

Leggs

April 8th, 2013
10:46 am

SlimNu ~ thanks for the laugh. I needed it. Cracking up at you using white-out, but I do understand. I did my feet and toes yesterday afternoon.

disco

April 8th, 2013
10:53 am

we still on feet? a girlfriend called me Saturday morning and told me about a little spat she and her man had the night before. during the exchange of words he told her that she had ugly feet. I immediately started laughing and ultimately asked her if her feet were ugly. she said yeah, she had a few issues with her feet. some friend I am because by then I was rolling. lol.

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

April 8th, 2013
10:53 am

:lol: @ you SlimNu!!

Too funny!

kimmie

April 8th, 2013
10:58 am

Disco, I would have been rolling too, I won’t lie!LOL!!!

SlimNu

April 8th, 2013
10:58 am

Leggs – I have to get my $27 worth and I didn’t want my feet covered today. So did what a sistah had to do. lol Glad I could get a laugh outta ya!

Saw my 4yr old niece play in her fist soccer game over the weekend and mayne those kids are funny! One kid was just so excited to be kicking the ball that he didn’t care what goal the ball went in. The coach kept having to remind them of what goal they were to use.

disco

April 8th, 2013
11:00 am

sassy – so what’s got you feeling new? anything in particular or are you just feeling like “springtime”?

disco

April 8th, 2013
11:01 am

kimmie – yeah. she was trying to explain something about eczema and discolorations and whatnot and I was just laughing and laughing. shoot, she even had to laugh with me.

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
11:02 am

Kimmie , disco, I can understand the been there done that attitude if you didn’t like it. but using “when I was in the military”, (which was probably about 3 or for years), you didn’t go that many places.

Dushawn

April 8th, 2013
11:03 am

I was the master of the cheap date. First of all, don’t take her to dinner, it’s too common and you have no control over what she may order. Plan to meet her around 9:30 or 10:00, she most likely would’ve eaten by then. Grab that half of fifth of cognac and a bottle of wine from the house (free), pick up some cheese and fresh fruit. Put the drinks in a back pack and keep it with you. First stop, the Marriot on Biscayne, go to the bar, order a glass of wine and some yak, take her to the outside patio, find some secluded lounge chairs overlooking the bay, with the skyline back drop and yachts docked at the pier. You both will be enjoying an expensive ambiance for free, plus you got free refills on your drinks. Once you got a good buzz going, and she’s laughing at your jokes and yall vibin, it’s time for the next stop. Take her to The Hungry Sailor in Coconut grove. No cover, live reggae, get your whine on, split one order of the jerk wing appetizer. If yall want another drink, the bar is always open in the car. After she done danced up a sweat, take her to Hollywood beach to the life guard booth. It’s illegal, but it’s exciting. Once inside open the front panel and listen the ocean and watch moon glisten off the water. That’s when you break out the fruit and cheese, and kill the rest of the wine and yak. By now it’s about 3:00 am. Ideally her car should be at your house. When you get there, bring it up that it’s late, she’s been drinking and that she is more than welcome to spend the night……..in the guess room of course. Tell her you make a mean breakfast. Then let her choose.

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
11:03 am

She has ugly feet, man he went way below the belt (LOL)

Sassy Me...Feeling like new ;-)

April 8th, 2013
11:07 am

anything in particular or are you just feeling like “springtime”?

Yep, feeling like “springtime”!!

Leggs

April 8th, 2013
11:07 am

Single ~ I’m sitting here thinking that was a low blow. Who argues and talk about one’s feet (lol).

DuShawn ~ what you’re going to do for your bday, or did you celebrate it this weekend?

Leggs

April 8th, 2013
11:08 am

Heck, you’re talking about open toe shoes, I still have my stockings on!

Single & Happy

April 8th, 2013
11:10 am

in the guess room of course Is that guess which room well be shagging in (LOL)