I tell my guy friends all the time that when they meet someone that excites them, it is important to be consistent with them. I don’t know how many times women have complained about guys who make are flaky, unreliable, and inconsistent. When men take the “half effort” approach, it is hard to for women to take men seriously.
One of our readers emailed about a particular guy who she recently met. He started off in hot pursuit of her. Called, sent her regular texts, and asked her out. They seemed to have a great connection and a lot of chemistry. Then he started to withdraw a little. She realized that he hadn’t asked her what she loved to hear “When can I see you again?”
It is highly likely that he has met someone else that sparks his interest more. This is quite common on the dating scene, though. When there is not a relationship to end, a lot of people don’t feel obligated to tell you that they have moved on. Is it the right thing to do? Yes, it is considerate and kind, even if it would be awkward to do so. Unfortunately, not every person will be considerate of your feelings.
This is why having a healthy dose of ego and humor is essential in dating! You have to be resilient about this kind of thing or else you become the Mayor of Bitterville. It’s not fun living there, people.
Why do you think it is so hard for people to be consistent when they are dating?
Would you let someone know that they have been put into the friend zone?
Do you believe that when you move on to the next, people are entitled to know that outright?
FYI, when a man asks When can I see you again, it makes women swoon. True story.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog