One of my friends had an awkward first date recently. The guy was a “referral” from her co-worker, so he was basically a blind date set up. The fact that he knew a boatload of personal information about her on their first date bothered her, though.
She is extremely private at work, so the co-worker was not privy to some of the things her date knew. It turns out that the guy went on a little fact minding mission before he met her. The co-worker only gave him her first and last name and what school she went to.
One quick (too quick?) Facebook search and he spotted a connection. Someone he went to school with was related to my friend. I don’t know which is creepier, the effort he put into get some background information – or the fact that he told her how much he “already discovered” about her.
Listen, I am sure this guy has a perfectly good explanation for going through great lengths to screen my friend. Perhaps he has a psycho ex. Maybe he has had his pet rabbit boiled in a revenge plot. I get it. He doesn’t want to be hurt again! I have to ask, though, do you think he went too far?
Would you consider it a red-flag if someone you just met knew waaaaay too much information about you? Would you go out with this person again if that was the only thing that turned you off?
Have you ever used Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. to “get a better sense” of someone’s personality? Did it make you rethink dating them?
I swear, Facebook is a blessing and curse for dating..at the same time.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog