Do you need background info?
One of my friends had an awkward first date recently. The guy was a “referral” from her co-worker, so he was basically a blind date set up. The fact that he knew a boatload of personal information about her on their first date bothered her, though.
She is extremely private at work, so the co-worker was not privy to some of the things her date knew. It turns out that the guy went on a little fact minding mission before he met her. The co-worker only gave him her first and last name and what school she went to.
One quick (too quick?) Facebook search and he spotted a connection. Someone he went to school with was related to my friend. I don’t know which is creepier, the effort he put into get some background information – or the fact that he told her how much he “already discovered” about her.
Listen, I am sure this guy has a perfectly good explanation for going through great lengths to screen my friend. Perhaps he has a psycho ex. Maybe he has had his pet rabbit boiled in a revenge plot. I get it. He doesn’t want to be hurt again! I have to ask, though, do you think he went too far?
Would you consider it a red-flag if someone you just met knew waaaaay too much information about you? Would you go out with this person again if that was the only thing that turned you off?
Have you ever used Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. to “get a better sense” of someone’s personality? Did it make you rethink dating them?
I swear, Facebook is a blessing and curse for dating..at the same time.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled
March 21st, 2013
7:05 am
His Only problem to me was lack of tact or class…..u don’t have to tell what u know or don’t know. That info u discover is for u to Act on,not brag or talk about.
Discovery is good but be seemingly psycho is Bad!
It’s good that we have Facebook and these other public databases. In fact,given the history of serial killers,scammers,lying folks etc,going full press background check on someone before a date is mandatory! It’s just like ur HIV test before the smash.
Actually,u may never come to do the pre-s
pre-smash, HIV test because u will be rotting under the leaves and tires in an abandoned house somewhere in North Georgia! Dead.
So do the background test. Some American men are just that crazy!
Hello MIA!
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
7:06 am
being seemingly psycho,I meant.
Lee
March 21st, 2013
7:28 am
I agree with Exiled- that guy lacked tact, and came off creeppyyyy… Lots of people misrepresent them selves on-line. So i would take that with a grain of salt, and use that information when asking questions to see if things matched. You never know if someone is truly a nut job, look at all those people that were married years and then out of the blue one kills the other. Its a crazy world and everything you do you are taking chances.
glad its Thursday. Friday is coming fast, Thank God!
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
7:41 am
Nothing wrong with the guy looking, to me the problem is she put all that information out there for anyone to see!! And yea it’s easy to blame “Facebook” but it only supplies the information that the user supplies it. Would never use any social media to check on anyone, and if someone used it to check on me, they really wouldn’t find out anything.
Would I consider it a red flag?? Naw, a semaphore message, YES!! leave cra cra where they seat. DATE OVER
Hello All
LeeH1
March 21st, 2013
8:27 am
In today’s world, it is a good idea to check out new acquaintances. And there is a lot of infomration available on the Internet, although not all of it can be relied on.
But like anyone else, you need to keep what you know nad don’t know in perspective. If you let the person know what you know, you are also exposing your hand. Check to see if the person is alright and not out on bail or a refugee from child support. But otherwise, checking online is not really all that different from checking with friends. And anyone who tries to hide facts in order to be private will get a surprise when they see how much of what they think is hidden is really known.
Button
March 21st, 2013
8:36 am
Good morning, I don’t think the guy is creepy, he’s just doing what some of us have done in finding out information about a date. I’ve done it. However, I didn’t do what he did and let the date know. I kept that info to myself to see if what the person said on social media lines up with what is said face to face.
Just like Single said, people only know what you put out there. If you’re putting all your business out there all carte blanche then you can’t call foul when someone use it against you.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
8:55 am
Wow, I agree with Ex again. What is the world coming to? lol I totally agree that buddy didn’t have to tell ole girl how he went through all her trashcans, snooped in her storage unit, interviewed all her neighbors etc….those were things he just should’ve made a mental note about. Therefore, when a particular subject were to come up, he could see if what she actually told him matched up with things he found out. DUH! That’s like background checking 101 I felt a little weird knowing the beau did a background check on me but I have nothing to hide so it’s all good.
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
9:16 am
So dating is not about getting to know anyone anymore, it’s about seeing if they are lying to you??
If I ever find out anyone did a background check on me, it’s over from that point. What happened to trust?
And how would you catch a serial killer or scammer by doing a back ground check??
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
9:18 am
Oh Slim since you agree with ex, you think only American men are crazy (LOL)
Hazel
March 21st, 2013
9:24 am
lol.. I would have done the same thing and not tell her. Shoo. I don’t have time to waste. I gotta know somethings before I met up with you. That’s what internet is there for. To search whatever that is you want.
@Single and button – I disagree on “ppl finding what you put out there”. You will be amazed that what you can find.. where someone works, worked and where the live. This info is easily available online. no joke. my hubby’s ex-flame called him as she found his cell# online. I looked and sure enough it was there with the house address.. scary, i know
Button
March 21st, 2013
9:25 am
Single – So dating is not about getting to know anyone anymore, it’s about seeing if they are lying to you?? yes
What happened to trust? trust no one
And how would you catch a serial killer or scammer by doing a back ground check?? dontdatehim.com
Button
March 21st, 2013
9:28 am
Hazel – I was referring to social media like facebook and such, I’m aware of the other engines out there that provide addresses and phone/land lines.
disco
March 21st, 2013
9:29 am
good morning. ex – I agree with your original post. not mad at him for getting the scoop. he didn’t necessarily have to play his hand right out the gate though. still, getting hooked up by a co-worker gave them both leverage. old girl is probably just perturbed she didn’t do her due diligence on him as well. lol. I could just see me when old boy told me A, B and C about me. I would have just been like well what about your X, Y and Z. lol. we can go back and forth all day. what you got?
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
9:33 am
GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!!
For the second day in a row, I’m agreeing with Ex!!!
The guy definitely lacked tact but as Single & Happy stated, she made the info PUBLIC in the first place. There are security settings on Facebook where if you are not friends then the person can NOT see your info. For future reference, I suggest she uses those privacy features.
-Button DontDateHim.com has revealed quite a few things for a many of people, LOL!!!
Button
March 21st, 2013
9:34 am
It’s only natural to want to find out sometihng about the person you are beginning to date esp with today’s technology. Back in the day I would find out from family/friends or people in the community, I wanted to know more than just a name and or where he worked, I needed a little more than that. Living here in Atlanta I don’t have the advantage of hearing from others perspective whether that person is a good person or not whose known that person’s track record.
Button
March 21st, 2013
9:36 am
meant: …from people who knows that person’s track record.
Button
March 21st, 2013
9:37 am
MissMoni – LOL @dontdatehim.com I used that site religiously.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
9:38 am
Single – Of course not…the one’s NOT from America are probably worse…no offense Ex
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
9:52 am
Morning All!
In general, I find no problem with doing a quick search online prior to going out with someone. I think, however, that it is more crucial for women due to safety issues. A full on background check is a different story, kind of creepy. If he felt the need to do it, he should not have told her all of that. Hmmm, dontdatehim.com, huh?
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
9:53 am
I can say I’ve never used FB, Twitter or LinkedIn to find out about a date. I’ve snooped on FB though…just to be nosey…lol Ummm, I’m sort of in the middle on this one. I don’t think what he did was so awful because I too will try and pull up a few things to “see what I can find” on a person, I’m potentially dating. I’m not going to camp outside of his house, go through his trash, ask folks about him though. IMO, “digging” like that is an extreme and I would wonder, whatcha digging for?
For me, my efforts to check on someone is solely for the purpose of making sure you’re AOK to hang out with….as in no sister wives laying around somewhere, no bodies buried in the backyard and no body parts in your freezer. I’m not tryna see how much dirt I can get, such as how many folks you’ve slept with, if you’re practicing religion, etc etc etc. I just want to be comfy knowing I can go and return in one piece. And while some may not agree with this, I’m not checking for your credit and all that other stuff eihter. It’s a date….that’s all. You need to be clean, have money and in a good mood. Anything more that’s gonna happen with us will dictate “need to know” stuff. I don’t need to know your entire history just to break bread for one evening….and I’d hope you feel the same about me.
Now, if we move into coupledom, then yeah there are more things I need to know, but for me that’s sort of take it/learn it/know it as it comes.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
9:56 am
And if I found out a dude went all out, digging on me for one blind date…prior to the date, oh it’s off. If I find out post date, lose my number. We ain’t tryna getting married….
Hazel
March 21st, 2013
9:58 am
@button – oh ok.. cleared the confusion there
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
9:58 am
Hazel, you mean these things that you can find out by just asking, and if you know before I tell you, can you say STALKER TENDENCIES!! What’s so scary about finding out someones address online, if it’s in the phone book, it’s online. and as far as the cell phone number, it’s there because he put it on some site. If you know my name you can find any of that information.
Slim, they are worse, because in a lot of other countries, they can get away with it!!
Even asking family and friends is a no no for me, if you want to know something just ask.
If you keep your eyes open and your mouth shut, everything will come clear in time!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
9:59 am
And as much as I chat on here, I NEVER tell folks stuff at work….EVER!! For one thing, you don’t see them telling theirs. Too, for what I post on here, IMO it’s nothing. A car, a house, naming a venue is nothing…IMO You won’t hear me telling too much about my boo either…it’s nunya…lol I can talk about the kid’s dad or Silky or the Stockbroker, that’s all past, closed chapter, paged turned, you live and you learn type stuff. Current stuff is private
disco
March 21st, 2013
10:00 am
just so I’m clear…..so in a blind date / hook up type situation it’s okay for the blind date to “interrogate” the person providing the hookup but it’s not okay for the blind date to “confirm” any information from outside sources? I think it’s natural for the blind date to say “tell me about him or her” and to then ask follow up questions. sure they could take that person at their word but let’s face it, some people have ulterior motives for hooking someone up. one of which is not wanting to be bothered with a person and trying to put that person off on someone else.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:01 am
And really, what you need to know about a person will be revealed in time. I still say nothing beats listening, paying attention and watching. It may not produce the names of his sister wives, but that’s not important. Just knowing he’s got a gang of chicks/wives laying up someone is all you need to know to run!!!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:02 am
some people have ulterior motives for hooking someone up
Everybody’s got ulterior motives. Whether it’s getting some, whether it’s finding a husband, whether it’s tryna see if what you heard is true, etc etc etc
disco
March 21st, 2013
10:07 am
C – not necessarily. some folks are of the mindset that folks have to be coupled up to be happy and they (in their own minds) want to do their part to help make someone else happy. I’d consider that more in line with just being “helpful”. other folks have adult siblings living with them and figure if they hook him up with a lonely female co-worker then maybe they’ll hit it off and he’ll move out of her house and in with the other chick. that’s ulterior motive. lol. that’s a real life scenario right there. I told the chick when she told me about the hookup that the sister was just trying to get her brother out of her house. lol.
Button
March 21st, 2013
10:10 am
Single – I’m not with the ” it will be revealed in time ” line. You can be with a person for years without knowing they had another family right down the street for all you know by thinking that way.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:11 am
disco – LOL…that’s funny and I agree. Okay, I’ll say this, if a person knows you’re single and they have a friend where they think the two of you would hit it off, I can’t say either have ulterior motives. Not even the person hooking them up. But c’mon 99.9 percent of the time, there’s a motive in there somewhere. Not all the time bad, cause somebody could just be puttng in so s/he can snag a mate for life and sometimes not. Sometimes folks “heard” about and wanna hit. Sometimes folks fell you’re too high and wanna bring you down a notch, etc etc etc….all motives…lololol
Button
March 21st, 2013
10:11 am
disco – lol, I know exactly what you’re talking about.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:12 am
feel not fell
disco
March 21st, 2013
10:16 am
button – it’s real ain’t it? lol. one woman once went on and on about why I should date her son. mind you I was involved with her through a volunteer agency. I would drive her for errands and whatnot. all I could think was that if your son was worth anything I wouldn’t have to be taking you to the grocery store and the pharmacy. lol.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
10:19 am
That would bother me. He went about it the wrong way. He shouldn’t have probe for information from another. What ever happened to having a conversation during the date and learning things about each other. I agree with you EX, he should have kept information in his memory bank. Don’t go on a fact finding mission before meeting me, because this will be FACT, our one and only date!
Morning.
Button
March 21st, 2013
10:27 am
disco – lol, she knows her son is a lazy peice of crap so she wanted to unload him on you so you can drive her and him around.
I had a co worker who tried to get me and her son together, she was well to do lady, she gave me all kinds of expensive things as if she was trying to buy me. I was kind of considering her son thinking if I got all this now just imagine what’s instore going forward. So I started asking her more about her son to see if I would be interested in at least going on a date with him, when she told me how spoiled and lazy he was I declined and told her I wasn’t interested b/c of that she said “oh no, he just needs a good woman like you in his life to whip him into shape” I told her I wasn’t interested in raising a grown man.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:30 am
Off topic:
Whoa…I just won “speedster” on Ruzzle. Find 30 words in 30 seconds
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:30 am
And a first!!! 79 words in one game.
My bad….back to what y’all were saying
disco
March 21st, 2013
10:31 am
button – we crazy. talking about people’s sons. lol. old girl’s son even still had a curl. I think this was maybe about 5 or 6 years ago. lol.
button – once upon a time my cousins used to always be like “hook me up with your girl”. puh-leeze!!! they are my family and I love them but I would be no kind of friend setting one of my girls up like that. my cousins have long since stopped asking me to hook them up.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
10:33 am
he just needs a good woman like you in his life to whip him into shape”
I would’ve looked at her and said,”What about yoU”, cause if his momma can’t/won’t make him do right then why should another woman raise a grown azz man..I can’t go for that, no can do…
Button
March 21st, 2013
10:41 am
disco – some sons need to be put on blast! lol
Sassy – that’s why I turned down even entertaining her idea of me meeting her son. At least she knows he’s lazy and spoiled. She created that monster.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
10:46 am
Sassy, Button & disco- Why is this becoming so popular, for Mama’s to try to hook up their lazy sons??? If he’s too lazy to get his own date, then he needs to be single, LOL!!!
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
10:48 am
“why I should date her son…..” You ever noticed how you never her about fathers soliciting dates for the daughters.
disco
March 21st, 2013
10:49 am
button – the sons don’t need to be blasted. the momma’s do. lol.
okay here’s a random relationship topic I’m stealing from the radio. apparently tiger and his new woman are all over the news. from what I understand he attending his daughter’s sporting event with the ex and had the new girlfriend sit in the car the whole time. yep. lol. the radio show was taking calls asking if tiger was wrong for asking her to stay in the car or if she was simply devoted to him and the relationship by staying in the car. personally, in my mind, she was all different kinds of fools but a lot of folks actually leaned the other way. what do you all think? I can’t imagine being banished to the car.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
10:54 am
Sassy- Now you have me singing that song, lol. I call that a Build-A-Bear, when you have to finish raising a man or help him get it together. Now I will support and assist someone with their dreams within reason, but the only bear I am building is a stuffed one for my grandson.
Disco- No, I would not take well to being banished to the car.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
10:55 am
-disco I wouldn’t do well in the car. If he didn’t want her to come, then he should have just left her at home.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
10:56 am
I’ll just say this and I’m off to work….
My kid’s dad’s grandmother was weirdly fond of him. Eeeeeeverybody knew she was ubber stupid about him. Well, they’d all prewarned me that I was gonna catch hell cause I “knocked” her and the white chick he dated prior to me off the box…lol
Anyhoo, we’d stayed out all night hanging out and she couldn’t find him. We ended up crashing at his cousin’s about cause it was nearly the next day and we’d been drinking. Plus we were in Conyers, Timbuktu from our apartment. Anyhoo, she was calling around to her kinfolks, looking for him 
Well, she called this cousin and bingo, FOUND US! She had the audacity to ask to speak to me. Umm, you ain’t my grandma annnnd we’re grown. She started with “controlling my man”, so forth and so on. Now, I know bout respecting my elders and didn’t do all the cussing and swearing and talking trash I would have done (I’m much much much better now…lol). I went in on granny though. To sum it up, I told her you raised him. He’s buck wild? Yo fault? I said more but that was the gist of it. The cousin and kids were like oooooh, you said that her??? I was like “yeah, annnnnd.”
Granny did NOT like me. She was an evil old woman. She denied my kid being his kid for YEARS. That was funny to me cause her dad looks like he spit her out. Plus, I vowed never to go in her house again. Well, when she passed, I went to the house there and to my surprise, there was the biggest picture I’d ever seen of my kid right on the wall as you walked in the door. She’d had it enlarged.
Mmm hmmm, she was just mad I had her boo hooked…lololololol
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:01 am
celisea – it sounds like he was bobby boucher (sp?) and you were the devil. lol. remember in waterboy how she kept saying “that girl is the devil”? lol.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
11:05 am
disco – Never saw the movie, but I get it and yeah, that’s about right. I always wanted to ask granny if she’d every gotten a peek and was hooked cause I must admit, he packed a mean
wangpunchAlright, that was bad of me. disco – I laughed out loud on that. Okay, I gotta work, 2:15 will be here soon enough
Button
March 21st, 2013
11:10 am
disco – I read about Tiger and new girlfriend the other day. I’m liking her support and all and not getting in the way but, to stay in the car for an hour while he attended his daughter’s game is a little bit too much. She should’ve stayed at home until it was over. I wonder did he even leave the window down or the ac running the whole time.
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:12 am
button – one of the callers asked what old girl was going to do when the kid visits? hide in the bathroom until she leaves? lol.
Button
March 21st, 2013
11:19 am
I think she’s staying in her lane, maybe she’s not ready to meet the kids. To stay in the car is a bit much but we don’t know all the facts so I’ll say this: she knows her place in his life when it comes to the kid.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
11:19 am
Now I will support and assist someone with their dreams within reason, but the only bear I am building is a stuffed one for my grandson.
I know that’s right MsATL!!…raising a grown azz man….ain’t nobody got time for that
Why is this becoming so popular, for Mama’s to try to hook up their lazy sons???
MissMoni I’m guessing mama’s tired of his sorry azz,too and she needs to find someone else to carry that sorry load of a son…
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:19 am
“I would’ve looked at her and said,”What about yoU”, cause… his momma – Gotta love it
disco ~ Tiger is training her early. She was foolish to sit in the car. Why not stay home and get picked up later?
Celisea ~ your story reminds me of the time I somewhat cussed out my ex’s mother, then hung up the phone on her. You would have thought I slapped the woman. Everyone was calling asking if I really hung up on that foolish woman. She too denied my child as her son’s for a good many of years. Just a foolish, bitter woman!
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
11:26 am
-Celisea & Leggs I don’t do ANYBODY denying my children or any other such foolishness. I agree, some people including Grandmas and Mama’s just have to be told 1 good time!!! Some people don’t understand until you put your foot down!!!
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
11:28 am
Some people don’t understand until you put your foot down!!!
When you try to avoid it,they continue to run over you with disrespect…then when your “Inner Ike” comes out they’re looking like
Harpo…who dis woman?…
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
11:31 am
Disco…Tiger likes white bimbos who take golden showers…I don’t think staying in the car one hour is really bad or that worse.
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:32 am
button – I’m all for her staying in her lane but staying in the car? naw that was foolish right there. I could even go on a limb and say she was insecure. in her mind at least from the car she could see tiger and the ex. lol. naw. I’m with leggs. go do what you gotta do and get with me later.
re kids and their grandmothers I was the self-proclaimed baby momma from hell. kid’s grandmother used to ride slow down the street like she was going to do a drive by just to lay eyes on the kid. I’d simply tell him to go play in the back. lol.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
11:32 am
-Sassy YES, EXACTLY. . . LOL!!!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
11:33 am
Leggs – Yep, yep yep I sooo know. Honestly I hated to “go there” with that old bat, but no way you gonna chastise me about the behavior of the grandson you raised. You can’t re-raise grown folks. When I say matriach, she was that. EVERYBODY jumped when she said jump, everybody but me…lol Most times, I tried to keep respectful due to her age, but sometime that filthy mouthed bat would take me there and I happily obliged…lol With us, it was ALWAYS ALWAYS about him. Chile please, get on away from me with that mess.
MissMoni – That old bat was a ham. I don’t really believe in speaking ill of the aged or the dead, but YES I had to put my foot down! I remember once she said…IN FRONT OF ME…”that gul can back a dump truck up your nose, yousa fool” When she was be mad she would studder something awful.
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:33 am
ex – the question isn’t is staying in the car bad. the question is would you do it if someone asked you too.
Durty Burd ( MissMoni-Yes I can)
March 21st, 2013
11:40 am
Good Morning!
A blind date is a blind date, I will ask the questions I need to have answered when I see that person. Why waste time going on the date, if you are going to question what you have found out off FB? Dude lacks so much its hard to know where to begin. It is a blind date.
Lindsey Vonn did the right thing to stay in the care,she is only he girlfriend not his wife. Some of you ladies are writing like you have instant rights as the girlfriend.
Button
March 21st, 2013
11:41 am
disco- although it does look bad to be banished to the car but we really don’t know all the dynamics surrounding her being in the car in the first place. For all we know Tiger forgot about the game while they were out and about which lead her to be left in the car. There are so many ways to look at it.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
11:41 am
Disco-If the car is a huge limo with flat screens, satellite TV and a bar. I would rather be there than watching my significant other and her Ex have a family moment while I stood awkwardly by her side. Add in the press taking pictures of my every move and facial expression; banish me to the car all day.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:42 am
MissMoni ~ Grandma had the nerve to come to ATL and take my child on a shopping spree (a guilt shopping spree is how I looked at it). Of course, I went along. She got a lot of toys, a lot. Don’t you know when we got back to the house this woman wanted her to open every toy and turned to me and said “she’s opening all these toys because I don’t want you to wrap them up for Christmas and pretend they came from you!” Yep, that witch said that to me. I looked at her and said “this is my child, and this is my house. You can take the toys with you because she’s not opening all of them up…there’s no need! We put them in the closet, unopened!!! You don’t come in MY house and make nare demand!
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
11:43 am
What’s so wrong with staying in the car one hour,what’s so extraordinary bout it,especially if u listening to music and or reading a book etc
What? and the car ain’t ur average hupdee?
Button
March 21st, 2013
11:43 am
disco- it’s about the kid not her, maybe she didn’t want to take away from the kid. I think she did the appropriate thing.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:43 am
SassyMe ~ you’re cracking me up this morning!
Durty Burd ( March Madness is about to start)
March 21st, 2013
11:44 am
Notable quotes:
MsButton states: I want to be needed and want he to need me. Um we only need food, water and air. hehehehe
If you see MsButton you may want to run, there is something serious going on with the one
MsMoni…..I would never leave you in the car, I would want to make sure everyone around see what a fine woman I have with me.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
11:44 am
He may have wanted her to join him, but she chose to chill.
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
11:45 am
Disco…there is nothing there ..she was respectful
I think u just need a change of topic
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:45 am
durty – nope. maybe if he was going to pick up his kid and asked me to sit in the car while he ran in and got her, I could get with that. sit in the car while he sits through a game. not the kid. lol. dude would have had to give me the keys and a credit card and I’ll be back in an hour (or so).
button – I know we don’t know all the details. just operating on what we do know – she sat in the car. besides, see my post to durty. tiger would have left the keys and I would have rolled out and picked him back up. just me though. a lot of callers said they understood or wouldn’t have minded waiting in the car.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:46 am
Durty ~ it has nada to do with “instant” rights. It’s demeaning to have to sit in a car during a sports event. Minimum an hour. Hell, drop me off at the mall w/ur black AMEX so my legs don’t crap.
disco
March 21st, 2013
11:47 am
ex – change the topic. I just put that one out there because I was interested in all the different viewpoints it provided. stay in the car, don’t stay in the car. to each his own. disco will not be staying in the car.
leggs – we tracking. lol.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:48 am
disco ~ I see you said credit card too…lol.
Button
March 21st, 2013
11:50 am
Durty – why something have to be wrong with me? btw- not every man ran away! a couple did stay and agreed he need me just as much as I need him. go figure!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:50 am
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
11:51 am
-Leggs I totally feel you on that!!! My house, my child, my rules.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
11:52 am
you’re cracking me up this morning!
Why thanks,chica
I have an old miserable grandmother that acts like my sperm donor(her son) belongs to HER and her ALONE. The whole family jumps when she says so…but not my mom and siblings nor I do that. Once my parents got divorced you would’ve thought she moved in with him…the chick lives NEXT DOOR. So just imagine that growing up…a husband/sperm donor who let HIS household lack but took care of his mom like nobody’s business…
But I’ve told them both off SEVERAL times and honensly it felt good…don’t judge me…
Durty Burd ( March Madness is about to start)
March 21st, 2013
11:53 am
If have to been mighty dumb if a man has another family and it takes you years to find out!
MissMoni…I am on don’tdatehim.com, Everything this is listed on that website about me is not true. The woman is just bitter because I dumped her… hehehehehe
Notable quotes:
Button said she checks out everything to get the dish on you. Run if you come accross Button she will go to dinner first then dump you….
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
11:54 am
Disco…u need a man first before he can ask u to stay in the car.
And if he roughnecks U?
Ditto!
u be going, ‘Yes daddy!’
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
11:55 am
-Sassy I’m not judging because in that type of situation, they needed to be told off!!! Tripping because she lived NEXT DOOR. . . Creepy!!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:55 am
Button ~ nothing wrong with you. Men want to be “needed” just as much as we women want to be needed. I’ve had a few tell me they simply wanted to be “needed.” Now, if it’s an unwritten man rule that it’s not cool for a man to say he wants to be needed, then many are walking around with revoked badges.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 21st, 2013
11:56 am
Y’all have a good rest of the day!!
I’z out of here!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
11:58 am
Durty ~ I know of one man from this blog that’s on dontdatehim.com. Are you him (LOLOLOL)?
Button
March 21st, 2013
12:02 pm
Leggs- we all want to be needed at some point in any relationship.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
12:03 pm
-Durty Say it ain’t so, LOL!!!
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:06 pm
button – not me. I’m not a nurturing type. feeling needed might have me feeling smothered. whew. I can’t breathe. I need some space. lol.
Button
March 21st, 2013
12:07 pm
Doing a back ground check on Durty…
Durty Burd ( March Madness is about to start)
March 21st, 2013
12:08 pm
Leggs don’t you bring up W8’s name in here.That is blasphemy…Sassy might start hyperventilating…Nope I have not made the list yet..
It was not a sporting event for Tiger, it was an event for their children and the parents. It would have been ackward for Lindsey.
Does Wisa Diva who has so men friends, keep her from finding Mr. Right? hummmmmm
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
12:14 pm
You’re right, Button!
disco ~ stop being a hard a$$. You were needed many times whether you wanted to be needed or not (lol).
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
12:16 pm
O/T: I have a new screensaver of a waterfall with lots of foilage. Why does a part of the foliage look like a sniper in the bush. I can clearly make out a head, his back and even arm pointing a rifle. Yeah, yeah, I’m one of those that used to look at cracks in the ceiling or on the floor and form images.
Durty Burd ( March Madness is about to start)
March 21st, 2013
12:18 pm
Button why not just wanted….Now your kids need you. But a grown man does not need you! Why not substitute wanted instead of needed. Stating someone needs you,kinda speaks to an irrational, unrealistic,fantasy island type thinking IMO.
Review of the week…
Disco luvs the Thug Life…. 50 cents and the rest of the rappers want your e-mail addy..
BluzGirl does not like to wallow…..We musician got to have it..
Hazel wants to put a beatdown on a neighbor.
Durty is going to eventually take MissMoni out to dinner and its going to be on an poppin this summer.
More to come!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
12:20 pm
Durty, yousa fool. I didn’t bring up anyone’s name!!!!
We know it was a sporting event for the child. Awkward is sitting in the car waiting. Why go? You think she had binoculars in there (lol).
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:20 pm
leggs – I just don’t like the word when applied to relationships etc. want I can get with. need bothers me. i think of leeann rimes’ song (I think it’s her). I need you like water, like breath, like rain. what? you need dude like all that? that can’t be healthy.
durty – we both obviously take the word “need” literally. lol.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
12:22 pm
-Durty Well let me clear my schedule for the upcoming Summer months then, LOL & SMH!!!
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:23 pm
leggs – now that makes for fun speculation. what did she do in the car for an hour? I think dushawn mentioned a plush ride with tvs and a bar and all that but I’m operating on the assumption it was a regular car. with tiger maybe just a buick. lol. she was probably on the phone telling her friends that she was at the game with tiger. she just left out the part about sitting in the car. lol.
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:24 pm
leggs – or maybe she was playing angry birds. lol.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
12:24 pm
-disco I agree. Maybe she had the laptop and was conducting some ONLINE ordering!!!
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:25 pm
moni – maybe she took her nail file out of her purse and spent an hour poking holes in the upholstery.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
12:28 pm
I love that song by LeAnne (lol). She sings it so beautifully. But, I get your drift.
Cracking up at it being a Buick. Is that your way of saying “he’s cheap?” Sitting in a car for long periods of time just might have someone rummage through items. I’m pretty positive I will never find out.
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
12:31 pm
MissMoni says,’Durty,let me clear my summer schedule LOL (so u can SMH) Smash My Honey.
disco
March 21st, 2013
12:34 pm
leggs – not calling him cheap. just joking. didn’t he used to do ads for buick?
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
12:34 pm
-Exiled Now you know that’s NOT what I meant, LOL!!! Isn’t it fun to change the meaning of well known acronyms???
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
12:40 pm
Ya’ll got me cracking up on what she was possibly doing in the car for an hour. I would’ve preferred to ride somewhere else until he was done unless I was hungover and needed to grab a few zzzz’s until he was ready.
Bluzgirl
March 21st, 2013
12:44 pm
Crazy busy today! Haven’t even had a chance to read through everything.
I don’t even know if ya’ll are still on topic, but I find nothing wrong with Googling someone to see what you can find. You just don’t tell them you did that. Heck…the other day, I Googled my close friend’s psycho ex and found a few mugshots. I think I’d like to know if there are recent mugshots of a man before I date him!!!
Don’t know if I’ll get a chance to check in later…if not, then I hope ya’ll have a nice afternoon
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
12:44 pm
She should’ve got that shammy out and wiped the whip down and put some amor all on the tires. That’s how you show your man your value.
Button
March 21st, 2013
12:55 pm
disco -Durty – I need you, you need me, we’re all apart of……
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
12:57 pm
SlimNu…how u gonna prefer ride someone’s else while you are in boyfriend’s car?
Girl that’s durtey!!
Durty Burd ( March Madness is about to start)
March 21st, 2013
12:58 pm
Damm,Damm,Damm SMH does not mean smash my honey…
Ex- With MissMoni, I would take my time to get to know this beautifule lady. No smashing unless given the signal or asked. That’s how I do it…Nice and slow..
Lindsey Vonn was on looking for some background information on Tiger while she was in the car. She went on dontdatehim.com and found out he was a freak and she was like that is my kinda man.
I agree with DU she should wiped down the Buick with some amor all, then order him some lunch and have it delivered on her dime. Now she can come to the mansion and play with the Driver.
MissMoni
March 21st, 2013
1:04 pm
-Durty If I didn’t know any better, I’d say you are virtually flirting with me. . .
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
1:06 pm
The only problem with Tiger’s girl conduct is just the aspect of being juggled…which men do to women All the damn time.
That is the only problem I see with staying in the car for an hour.
I have stayed with a woman in a car for an hour…smashing then smash again
and I have driven to her folks place because she had some business there..stated outside in the xar while she went in to see her folks,then drove her to the crib…smash
Like I said…there was no inconvenience there…and she likes dude…
When a woman does not have a man she’s gon say stuff…bottom-line
When a woman is cleaning the dome nightly…she’s gon go the extra mile…
Its FACT!
Button
March 21st, 2013
1:08 pm
Ex – yous so nasty!
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
1:13 pm
Ex – Only because I’m bored, am I even responding. I only meant if that were me in her position, nutt!!! And I did help put some armor all on the beau’s tires last week when we washed our cars
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
1:21 pm
I have waited over an hour, in the car, for a woman before and I didn’t have a problem with it at all…..when she returned, she said she was not pregnant anymore………and we drove out the clinic parking lot.
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
1:23 pm
SlimNu…1:13pm Ofcourse!!
because beau does a good job oiling ur behind!
if he didn’t do it properly or his arrow was broke u wld dismiss him ‘I ain’t got non to do witchu!!’
Button
March 21st, 2013
1:28 pm
Dushawn – wtf!! TMI
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
1:29 pm
I’m just saying…..Men wait in cars too…lol
abc
March 21st, 2013
1:37 pm
I don’t know if I’d do it before a blind date (not so blind, as the case may be), but I’d do it sooner or later. Part of my profession is computer and network forensics. Checking facebook is pretty minimal, really — the stuff I’d run is much, much more invasive, and often has nothing to do with what one may publicly post. Here’s what it is: people hide a lot more from others than you could possibly imagine. It’s pretty rare to encounter people who are truly what they convey themselves to be.
But, the social networking universe exists to satisfy 2 basic human traits: exhibitionism and voyeurism. Kind of difficult to condone someone embracing one while condemning the other.
Button
March 21st, 2013
1:43 pm
This is just crazy!!!!! I can’t even tell a story on this blog about someone else??? wow But others can tell stories from what they’ve heard from a radio??? DISCRIMINATION!!!!!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
1:43 pm
I have waited over an hour, in the car, for a woman before and I didn’t have a problem with it at all…..when she returned, she said she was not pregnant anymore………and we drove out the clinic parking lot.
I just spit some of my fish onto the keyboard. Man, that was funny!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
1:46 pm
Button, what have I missed? You’re being blasted for telling a story? What story? Fill me in, pls.
Button
March 21st, 2013
1:46 pm
LOL for me being monitored! WOW I didn’t know it was that serious, it’s not as if I’m getting paid!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
1:52 pm
Gotcha
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:04 pm
Button – is WD monitoring you or sending you warning emails or something? I’m a little lost here…
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:15 pm
slim / leggs / button – I’m lost too. what’s really going on?
Button
March 21st, 2013
2:21 pm
SlimNu- I’m just as lost as you are, all I know is I can’t tell a story not dealing with me without it being rejected. maybe I should say I heard it on the radio. lol
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
2:23 pm
Seems like there is a lesbian thing going on…
@Button?
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
2:28 pm
Seriously though, whenever there is a blended family, there are always awkward moments when everyone gets together. Even when everyone is cool with each other’s situation, there is always that underlying tension. Example, while in Orlando this weekend, one of the bruz was having a birthday party for his little girl and invited Wifey and I to stop by. They did it big in his back yard, clowns, face painting, two big bounce houses, kids in the pool, Grills smoking, dj jamming, it was nice. My dog introduced me to his daughter and her mother (his ex), but he was also accompanied by his current lady. He introduced me to her shortly thereafter. Both women were very respectful of each other, but you could sense the tension between the two. The dynamic between them was entertaining for me. I observed as periodically each one would try to out due the other vying for his attention and time. He escaped them both by hanging with us and vibin with his daughter.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:28 pm
Hmmm, there must be a way around it. This place needs a pick-me-up…..too much time left in the day to have one post every 20 minutes. Such a waste of a refresh lol
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:30 pm
dushawn – if those chicks were vying for his time and attention that situation hasn’t grown to where it needs to be. either he and the ex are still getting it in or the new chick suspects that they are. maybe the new chick is the one that he left the ex for and that’s the source of the animosity. all that bday drama isn’t the result of a blended family. to me it sounds like the results of a sloppy man.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:30 pm
Ex – You sure you aren’t the person the letter was about on this morning’s radio show? The wife wrote in saying how her hubby used to be a drug addict but now his focus is sex, sex, sex & p0rn all the time????
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:32 pm
DuS – Folks are just plain territorial….often times more so women than men. (it seems anyway)
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
2:32 pm
I understand Du…its like my situation..if u want to see a frown on Queen’s face just mention my baby mama.
and she has Never met her!
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:35 pm
disco – I think it’s rare to find a situation where the current and the ex actually get a long and all is cool without the underline tension. RARE….
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:35 pm
Ex – are you paying her? the baby momma? that’s enough to put a frown on anybody’s face. lol.
slim – territorial? sure but I figure you’ve either moved on or you haven’t. if you have, why you sweating it. if you haven’t I understand why you are sweating it. as for the new chick, if she’s sweating it she’s not secure in her position yet.
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
2:39 pm
SlimNu….coulda have been me but for the drug addict part.
The closest addiction to drugs I have is coffee..
Disco..no payment goung to her……do I look or sound like a sucker?
Durty Burd ( You gotta love Mai)
March 21st, 2013
2:40 pm
MissMoni I am virtually flirting with you
This is called A Summer with MissMoni
MissMoni rest assurred I will not require nor perform a background check, see I want to experience getting to know in personal. As we get to know each I hopefully will become your type. There will not be any reason to discuss the magic number or when you are ready, I will look at you as a new fresh bloom rose and or chemistry, plus medical papers will tell us when you are ready, this will help eliminate this condom nonsense. Yes, MissMoni I wait with great anticipation for summer with you..So come let me wine and dine you and put a smile on your mind, soul and body. You got me saying my, my, my, my, my u sure look good tonight!
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:42 pm
slim – I agree it is rare. just saying I don’t necessarily get it. I, for one, don’t try to put time in with folks I ain’t feeling. I’m dating a dude and don’t like his baby momma then I’ll just stay away from his baby momma. chick ain’t got nothing to do with me.
ex – is that a trick question?
moni – what you do to durty?
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:44 pm
disco – You’re right but i’m sure there could be some other reasons in there. Just never know and thank goodness I haven’t really had to deal with baby mama’s.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
2:45 pm
Disco – I didn’t notice any animosity or drama. Nor do I think bruh is messy with his affairs. It was real grown up to have everyone there and all behaved. I noticed the interaction between the two chicks because was I intentionally observing their behavior. It was not that obvious to others. I thought both handled themselves with class, although they were making their littler private power moves, unbeknownst to most.
Durty Burd ( You gotta love Mai)
March 21st, 2013
2:47 pm
Disco women tend to have those emotional moments. They may state they can handle a situation but let the ex start having flashbacks like I use to be the queen in this camp, then the competing starts. I have seen it many times. If you cannot control your emotions you will get a scene like Du just described.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
2:48 pm
dushawn – if those chicks were vying for his time and attention that situation hasn’t grown to where it needs to be. – Exactly, disco. Why is the ex even trying to vye for his attention?
Women kill me trying to mentally strong arm the current woman trying tolet them know they have clout simply because they’re the mother of his child. Be the parent and go sit your arse down or go get your face painted because you’re already looking like a clown.
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:48 pm
D – if they were making power moves there is animosity even if it’s low key, subtle animosity. trust. lol.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
2:48 pm
Slim- You want a pick-me-up? This will tie into DuShawn’s post. My ex (while we were in the middle of divorce) showed up unannounced at his mistress’ husband’s house (while the mistress was still married, no divorce pending) for the mistress’ and her husband’s child’s birthday party. The mistress was pregnant by my ex at the time and was the doctor of the mistress and her husband. How’s that for excitement? lol
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
2:50 pm
SlimNu ~ I caught the tailend of the letter this morning. If that woman believes she’s being raped and he’s such a glutton for the sex, she needs to leave. How can you complain so vehemently and stay! Shut up and deal with it or speak up and get out!
disco
March 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
ms atl – that’s not excitement, that’s a soap opera. lol.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
DAYUM, Durty, your behind is SPRUNG!!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
2:56 pm
Now, that is a hot freaking mess, MsAtl.
Why would your ex even want to show up? Showing up unannouced at their child’s bday party and knowingly walking into trouble, in another man’s house, get’s foot in your behind and a deserved butt whupping! He must have fallen and bumped his head, had amnesia and only remembered that one house. Had to be.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
2:58 pm
MsATL – Daaaaayyyyyyyum Gina!!! Sounds like an episode of Desperate Housewives or something
Leggs – That was my same thought to use a word so strong as “rape” to discribe the sexual interaction with your husband is crazy….She needs to have BEEN gone, and not still pondering on “Almost fed up”
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
3:00 pm
The only time a woman ex is non detached and not emotionally invested is if she was benched and dude and new chic are worse off….
If dude is glowing and new chic is glowing and showing out,trust ex is frowning and hating
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:01 pm
Disco- Lol.
Leggs- He showed up to rub it in that he “stole” his client’s wife and got her pregnant. He had the nerve to get in the pool and swim! He would have been swimming with a damn toaster, lol. I found out because he took my son with him.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:05 pm
She must’ve had some THY-Yaw to make him want to do alllllll that…crashing a little kids party, Really!!
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:08 pm
He would have been swimming with a damn toaster, lol.
Cosign…the nerve of him. If he’d done that with the right person, the lil chirrens party would’ve gone left really badly, really quickly.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:09 pm
sassy – speaking of little kid parties going left – why is chuck e cheese the new jump off spot? apparently there was a fight involving up to 18 adults at a chuck e cheese. I’m all for having to do what you gotta do where you gotta do it but dang.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:10 pm
Slim- I think he was like the women y’all were talking about. He wanted to rub it in but also didn’t want her around her husband without him. The husband told me that my ex would sit outside in the car for an hour or whatever while she was with him visiting their kids (he has custody).
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:12 pm
Disco- OMG! I just had a conversation about that last week. I took my grandson to Chuck-E-Cheese’s and there were mini skirts and leggings galore. They also sell alcohol now. I have read about several fights jumping off there.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:15 pm
disco- I read about that. When I think on it, there have been several altcercations/fights break out at Chuck E. I will honestly say that I’ve been to the one here in Fayetville 2 or 3 times and that place is always FULL of people…all types of people. With as hood as it was I expected to see a mini bar somewhere in the back or something…
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:16 pm
Ummm, ummm, WOW. Your ex is a piece of work. How did he get so far as to be able to swim. Seem like the husband is a punk for even standing by for that foolishness. I dont know of one man that would have allowed him to remain on the premises intact! IJS…
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:16 pm
They also sell alcohol now. I have read about several fights jumping off there.
Well damn…
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:17 pm
Oh wow, I hadn’t heard about the chuck e cheese fight but what they hell do you get that mad about at CEC to make a brawl bust out???
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:18 pm
I dont know of one man that would have allowed him to remain on the premises intact!
Okay?!
I’m still wondering how he got in the yard at all…dude got lucky.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:19 pm
guess chuck e cheese is that new go out spot where you can kill two birds with one stone. no babysitter? no problem. just bring your babies on out to club chuck e cheese. we got two for one drink specials, two for one on the skee ball machines and chaps get in free before 10. lol.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:21 pm
Leggs & Sassy- I asked the husband how he got in there and he said he didn’t want to ruin the child’s party. IMO- it was ruined when old boy stepped his tail in there! I don’t know of anyone else that would have allowed that. He would have gotten a Brooklyn beat down if it was anyone else.
Slim- The fight I read about started because one kid was taking too long on a game.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:26 pm
speaking of fights – this wasn’t quite a fight but they said it got real for a minute. anyone read about the teenager who got arrested for shouting bingo in a crowded bingo hall? it sounds like a joke. you want to laugh. they said those little old bingo ladies were hot. hot enough to have old boy arrested for disorderly conduct. lol.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:30 pm
He would have gotten a Brooklyn beat down if it was anyone else.
Yep within an inch of his life…
The fight I read about started because one kid was taking too long on a game.
I was thinking along those lines..those places are super packed. The one I went to was off the chains. You know how some places like skating rinks have “kiddie time” during the day and then “grown folk time” during the evening and night?…well Chuck E. was jumping so hard I thought that would’ve happened…and now they’re selling likka. It’s a recipe for disaster…next time you’ll hear about a shooting or something.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:33 pm
SassyMe ~ I’m wondering how he got his clothes off to swim. Dude should have jumped in and drowned his behind. He probaby was doing so in his mind. No need for a real jail sentence.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 21st, 2013
3:34 pm
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Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 21st, 2013
3:35 pm
Whats good folks???
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:35 pm
Leggs- I am cracking up at your post! Jumped in and drowned him? That is so funny! The bad part is that he said friends and family members were asking him “yo, isn’t that y’all doctor with your wife?” That right there is some fraggernackle bull!
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:38 pm
Sassy- A shooting? You asked for it…
http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/2013-03-20/news/fl-chuck-e-cheese-folo-20130320_1_boynton-beach-police-child-neglect-face-drug-related-charges
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:39 pm
good day, good people. what’s goin on witchas?
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
MsAtl that’s just sad…
No need for a real jail sentence.
Leggs you’re right but dude would’ve/should’ve got some kind of retribution for that blatant disrespect. He for sho should’ve hemmed him up if he ever saw him again…a good chin check right quick or something…
But oh well cooler heads prevailed..
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
Said like you just came into Cheers – HEY CZB!!!!
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:45 pm
i didn’t have to read no further than “boynton beach” to know what happens next. smh
They also sell alcohol now
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
I’m with you, SassyMe, homebody should have been checked. You’re going to blatantly disrespect me in my own home in front of my guests and children. Oh hell no, you’re getting punched just on principle….
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
hello, beautiful! warm weather’s coming (soon. i hope.) time to start planning a fish fry!!!! lol
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:47 pm
homebody??? Meant homeboy!!!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:49 pm
Yes ma’am. We definitely will have the fish fry again. Did I tell you the rabbit chewed through my little gazebo.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:50 pm
Hey czBrat! I am having a fish fry this weekend.
Sassy, Leggs- He just married the chick a couple of months ago after having another child with her so the (now ex)husband has to see him for the nex umpteen years.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:50 pm
Fishy, fishyyyyyyyyy
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:55 pm
Are you bragging or are you inviting, MsAtl? I kid I kid, no I’m not (lol).
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:56 pm
ms atl – how old are her other kids? with first hubs? just trying to determine why first hubs has to see second hubs? if it were me, I wouldn’t have to see a daggone thang. she’d raise her family and I’d raise mine. lol.
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:58 pm
lmao @ slim. now i can’t get micky-d outta my head.
ms atl kickin off spring with the quickness.
leggs, that was so uncalled for. did he not realize the gazebo wasn’t locked? lol
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
MsAtl ~ that story tops anything I’ve heard in a long time.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:01 pm
Exactly czB, how the heck he missed that opening.
That was funny!!!
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:04 pm
Leggs- I guess I’m bragging (hanging my head in shame). You don’t know the half of it! a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive.
Disco- The child is only 6. He has custody and she has visitation & the ex goes with her. (insecure much?) There is another younger whose paternity is questionable (might be my ex’s or her ex-husband’s).
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:06 pm
“…a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive.” – WHAT!
TSK, TSK, TSK!!!!!
BTW, nothing wrong with bragging…we all do it! Enjoy yourself.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
4:07 pm
a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive………You promised to keep that between us.
disco
March 21st, 2013
4:08 pm
ms atl – and the plot thickens. I was hoping the kid(s) was older. at least old enough for hubs 1 to dip. yeah. we’d be doing walmart parking lot swaps. I’d pop the trunk, kid would grab his bag, hop into mom’s car, I’ll blow the horn and I’m out.
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:10 pm
ok. how far back to i have to go to read up on this story ya’ll are following from ms atl?
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:13 pm
DuShawn- Lol. Do you have that in writing???
Disco- No such luck! She gets supervised visitation…
Leggs- Exactly! He said it was “salacious” and would garner attention. A reporter contacted me also. WTH?
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:13 pm
CZb ~ go to post at 2:48.
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
4:14 pm
MsATL, does the ex supervise?
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:14 pm
Dang, MsAtl. I not really a nosey person, but you definitely have me intriqued. Even a reporter contacted you. whatcha talking about Willis???
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:16 pm
I’m not….
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:17 pm
meant czB
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:18 pm
Single- Whic ex? Mine or hers? Hers does sometimes.
Leggs- Right! I was embarrassed until I realized I didn’t do anything and had nothing to be embarrassed about.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:21 pm
Ok, MsAtl, stop dangling the carrot.
Unfortunate that occurred. Carry on!
Durty Burd (Dang MsAtl)
March 21st, 2013
4:22 pm
I have to take a break from March Madness to read this ish… So MsAtl you have mentioned you have a grandchild is the ex the father of that child? Did dude go thru a mid-life crisis?
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:25 pm
whew. i was better off in the dark on that one. never been a fan of soaps and not about to start. smh
yes. do carry on!
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:27 pm
What? No ex isn’t the father of our grandchild! That’s some Jerry Springer stuff. Yes he went through a midlife crisis.
What’s our next topic? I still have half an hour left.
Exiled
March 21st, 2013
4:31 pm
MsAtl…there is no 3some anyway in your story..??
That should top it!!
Your ex is top class of debauchery shenanigans
does he call that heifer his wife? U can’t sleep with All eyes closed when u are a half in that pair!
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:35 pm
disco
March 21st, 2013
4:35 pm
ms atl – wish I had something to discuss but I’ve got nothing.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:38 pm
Exiled- Laughing at you! No there is no threesome that I know of. I can sleep and that’s my only concern.
off O/T- Is there a fresh fish market somewhere in Atl?
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
4:39 pm
we’d be doing walmart parking lot swaps. I’d pop the trunk, kid would grab his bag, hop into mom’s car
disco – In a perfect world….get this, I rode with my cousin to do a kid exhange in a public parking lot. She usually met the dad at their usual spot but the dad’s wife was starting to have issues with their communication. Anyway, I ride with her and don’t you know those two and eventually me, ended up in a scuffle out in broad daylight. I’m like, this is crazy and this ain’t even my issue but I couldn’t sit back and just watch it happen.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
4:42 pm
Back to the original topic – you crazy kids and your electronic social networks. Back in my day, if you wanted to run a background check on a broad you would ask your potnahs did they know her and had any of them hit that. If she cleared those hurdles, she was good. I remember I started feeling this one chick, and I ran that background check. One of my homies said he knew her. He told me ” DuShawn, you know she used to dance.” I was like dayum. then he said, “but I never seen her” I was like ,”Shiiid, she still good to go then.” I figured, I don’t mind if other men had seen the puddy, just not yall muffuggas.
Durty Burd
March 21st, 2013
4:44 pm
I meant is he the father of your son or daughter who had your grandchild?
Slim-Nu you are too funny, getting into fights with your itty bitty self….
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:44 pm
now slim got me picturing the lil girl on the news a while back. got hot oil (or something like that) poured on her for “helping” her bff deal with some unruliness in a public parking lot.
ms atl, we’re quite happy with the fresh seafood at the buford hwy farmers market.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:45 pm
Slim- Wow! That’s crazy!
DuShawn- that might work if it’s an around the way girl, not if she lives elsewhere.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:47 pm
Durty- Yes he is the father. I misunderstood.
czBrat- Thanks. I will try there.
disco
March 21st, 2013
4:48 pm
slim – yep. it’s messed up. I always said that it wouldn’t do for me to have a custody issue. I’d be in contempt from the gate, before I even left the courtroom I’d have to tell the judge I’m in contempt. “yo honor. that ain’t gone work for me. do what you gotta do”.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
4:50 pm
Yeah it was pretty crazy and the kid was just standing there screaming stop lololol That was the last time I went to ride with her to do the pick-up! Not trying to go back to jail for someone else’s issues
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:52 pm
Disco- That is funny! You’re gonna just put yourself in contempt.
Slim- That reminds me of the Halle Berry custody hand-off a couple of months ago.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:53 pm
Too much quiet time can be a hindrance as well as a jewel.
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
4:55 pm
Can’t we be cordial for the kids?? I had to straighten my son’s mothers out about this, I didn’t give a rat’s a$$ about what they did, but I was going to see my kids with no drama.
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:56 pm
having children changes everything
lol
ciao!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:57 pm
I’m cracking up at you SlimNu picturing you getting in a schuffle over someone else’s busines…you were the ride and die chick that day for your friend.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
4:58 pm
Yall have a goooood chilly nite PEACE
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
5:00 pm
Single- I’m saying! You don’t have to like the person, but be cordial.
Night All!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
5:04 pm
Nite!