Do you need background info?
One of my friends had an awkward first date recently. The guy was a “referral” from her co-worker, so he was basically a blind date set up. The fact that he knew a boatload of personal information about her on their first date bothered her, though.
She is extremely private at work, so the co-worker was not privy to some of the things her date knew. It turns out that the guy went on a little fact minding mission before he met her. The co-worker only gave him her first and last name and what school she went to.
One quick (too quick?) Facebook search and he spotted a connection. Someone he went to school with was related to my friend. I don’t know which is creepier, the effort he put into get some background information – or the fact that he told her how much he “already discovered” about her.
Listen, I am sure this guy has a perfectly good explanation for going through great lengths to screen my friend. Perhaps he has a psycho ex. Maybe he has had his pet rabbit boiled in a revenge plot. I get it. He doesn’t want to be hurt again! I have to ask, though, do you think he went too far?
Would you consider it a red-flag if someone you just met knew waaaaay too much information about you? Would you go out with this person again if that was the only thing that turned you off?
Have you ever used Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. to “get a better sense” of someone’s personality? Did it make you rethink dating them?
I swear, Facebook is a blessing and curse for dating..at the same time.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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221 comments Add your comment
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:01 pm
Disco- Lol.
Leggs- He showed up to rub it in that he “stole” his client’s wife and got her pregnant. He had the nerve to get in the pool and swim! He would have been swimming with a damn toaster, lol. I found out because he took my son with him.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:05 pm
She must’ve had some THY-Yaw to make him want to do alllllll that…crashing a little kids party, Really!!
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:08 pm
He would have been swimming with a damn toaster, lol.
Cosign…the nerve of him. If he’d done that with the right person, the lil chirrens party would’ve gone left really badly, really quickly.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:09 pm
sassy – speaking of little kid parties going left – why is chuck e cheese the new jump off spot? apparently there was a fight involving up to 18 adults at a chuck e cheese. I’m all for having to do what you gotta do where you gotta do it but dang.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:10 pm
Slim- I think he was like the women y’all were talking about. He wanted to rub it in but also didn’t want her around her husband without him. The husband told me that my ex would sit outside in the car for an hour or whatever while she was with him visiting their kids (he has custody).
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:12 pm
Disco- OMG! I just had a conversation about that last week. I took my grandson to Chuck-E-Cheese’s and there were mini skirts and leggings galore. They also sell alcohol now. I have read about several fights jumping off there.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:15 pm
disco- I read about that. When I think on it, there have been several altcercations/fights break out at Chuck E. I will honestly say that I’ve been to the one here in Fayetville 2 or 3 times and that place is always FULL of people…all types of people. With as hood as it was I expected to see a mini bar somewhere in the back or something…
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:16 pm
Ummm, ummm, WOW. Your ex is a piece of work. How did he get so far as to be able to swim. Seem like the husband is a punk for even standing by for that foolishness. I dont know of one man that would have allowed him to remain on the premises intact! IJS…
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:16 pm
They also sell alcohol now. I have read about several fights jumping off there.
Well damn…
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:17 pm
Oh wow, I hadn’t heard about the chuck e cheese fight but what they hell do you get that mad about at CEC to make a brawl bust out???
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:18 pm
I dont know of one man that would have allowed him to remain on the premises intact!
Okay?!
I’m still wondering how he got in the yard at all…dude got lucky.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:19 pm
guess chuck e cheese is that new go out spot where you can kill two birds with one stone. no babysitter? no problem. just bring your babies on out to club chuck e cheese. we got two for one drink specials, two for one on the skee ball machines and chaps get in free before 10. lol.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:21 pm
Leggs & Sassy- I asked the husband how he got in there and he said he didn’t want to ruin the child’s party. IMO- it was ruined when old boy stepped his tail in there! I don’t know of anyone else that would have allowed that. He would have gotten a Brooklyn beat down if it was anyone else.
Slim- The fight I read about started because one kid was taking too long on a game.
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:26 pm
speaking of fights – this wasn’t quite a fight but they said it got real for a minute. anyone read about the teenager who got arrested for shouting bingo in a crowded bingo hall? it sounds like a joke. you want to laugh. they said those little old bingo ladies were hot. hot enough to have old boy arrested for disorderly conduct. lol.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:30 pm
He would have gotten a Brooklyn beat down if it was anyone else.
Yep within an inch of his life…
The fight I read about started because one kid was taking too long on a game.
I was thinking along those lines..those places are super packed. The one I went to was off the chains. You know how some places like skating rinks have “kiddie time” during the day and then “grown folk time” during the evening and night?…well Chuck E. was jumping so hard I thought that would’ve happened…and now they’re selling likka. It’s a recipe for disaster…next time you’ll hear about a shooting or something.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:33 pm
SassyMe ~ I’m wondering how he got his clothes off to swim. Dude should have jumped in and drowned his behind. He probaby was doing so in his mind. No need for a real jail sentence.
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March 21st, 2013
3:34 pm
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March 21st, 2013
3:35 pm
Whats good folks???
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:35 pm
Leggs- I am cracking up at your post! Jumped in and drowned him? That is so funny! The bad part is that he said friends and family members were asking him “yo, isn’t that y’all doctor with your wife?” That right there is some fraggernackle bull!
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:38 pm
Sassy- A shooting? You asked for it…
http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/2013-03-20/news/fl-chuck-e-cheese-folo-20130320_1_boynton-beach-police-child-neglect-face-drug-related-charges
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:39 pm
good day, good people. what’s goin on witchas?
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
March 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
MsAtl that’s just sad…
No need for a real jail sentence.
Leggs you’re right but dude would’ve/should’ve got some kind of retribution for that blatant disrespect. He for sho should’ve hemmed him up if he ever saw him again…a good chin check right quick or something…
But oh well cooler heads prevailed..
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
Said like you just came into Cheers – HEY CZB!!!!
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:45 pm
i didn’t have to read no further than “boynton beach” to know what happens next. smh
They also sell alcohol now
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
I’m with you, SassyMe, homebody should have been checked. You’re going to blatantly disrespect me in my own home in front of my guests and children. Oh hell no, you’re getting punched just on principle….
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
hello, beautiful! warm weather’s coming (soon. i hope.) time to start planning a fish fry!!!! lol
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:47 pm
homebody??? Meant homeboy!!!!
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:49 pm
Yes ma’am. We definitely will have the fish fry again. Did I tell you the rabbit chewed through my little gazebo.
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
3:50 pm
Hey czBrat! I am having a fish fry this weekend.
Sassy, Leggs- He just married the chick a couple of months ago after having another child with her so the (now ex)husband has to see him for the nex umpteen years.
SlimNu
March 21st, 2013
3:50 pm
Fishy, fishyyyyyyyyy
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
3:55 pm
Are you bragging or are you inviting, MsAtl? I kid I kid, no I’m not (lol).
disco
March 21st, 2013
3:56 pm
ms atl – how old are her other kids? with first hubs? just trying to determine why first hubs has to see second hubs? if it were me, I wouldn’t have to see a daggone thang. she’d raise her family and I’d raise mine. lol.
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
3:58 pm
lmao @ slim. now i can’t get micky-d outta my head.
ms atl kickin off spring with the quickness.
leggs, that was so uncalled for. did he not realize the gazebo wasn’t locked? lol
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
MsAtl ~ that story tops anything I’ve heard in a long time.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:01 pm
Exactly czB, how the heck he missed that opening.
That was funny!!!
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:04 pm
Leggs- I guess I’m bragging (hanging my head in shame). You don’t know the half of it! a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive.
Disco- The child is only 6. He has custody and she has visitation & the ex goes with her. (insecure much?) There is another younger whose paternity is questionable (might be my ex’s or her ex-husband’s).
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:06 pm
“…a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive.” – WHAT!
TSK, TSK, TSK!!!!!
BTW, nothing wrong with bragging…we all do it! Enjoy yourself.
DuShawn
March 21st, 2013
4:07 pm
a blogger tracked me down and was calling my job trying to get an exclusive………You promised to keep that between us.
disco
March 21st, 2013
4:08 pm
ms atl – and the plot thickens. I was hoping the kid(s) was older. at least old enough for hubs 1 to dip. yeah. we’d be doing walmart parking lot swaps. I’d pop the trunk, kid would grab his bag, hop into mom’s car, I’ll blow the horn and I’m out.
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:10 pm
ok. how far back to i have to go to read up on this story ya’ll are following from ms atl?
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:13 pm
DuShawn- Lol. Do you have that in writing???
Disco- No such luck! She gets supervised visitation…
Leggs- Exactly! He said it was “salacious” and would garner attention. A reporter contacted me also. WTH?
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:13 pm
CZb ~ go to post at 2:48.
Single & Happy
March 21st, 2013
4:14 pm
MsATL, does the ex supervise?
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:14 pm
Dang, MsAtl. I not really a nosey person, but you definitely have me intriqued. Even a reporter contacted you. whatcha talking about Willis???
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:16 pm
I’m not….
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:17 pm
meant czB
MsAtl
March 21st, 2013
4:18 pm
Single- Whic ex? Mine or hers? Hers does sometimes.
Leggs- Right! I was embarrassed until I realized I didn’t do anything and had nothing to be embarrassed about.
Leggs
March 21st, 2013
4:21 pm
Ok, MsAtl, stop dangling the carrot.
Unfortunate that occurred. Carry on!
Durty Burd (Dang MsAtl)
March 21st, 2013
4:22 pm
I have to take a break from March Madness to read this ish… So MsAtl you have mentioned you have a grandchild is the ex the father of that child? Did dude go thru a mid-life crisis?
czBrat ♀
March 21st, 2013
4:25 pm
whew. i was better off in the dark on that one. never been a fan of soaps and not about to start. smh
yes. do carry on!