Dating: What is your type?
When it comes to attraction in dating, is it about “I like what I like” or is there something else involved? I ask because I wonder how we figure out what our type is and how do we know who is not our type? Is it after trial and error, dating different people and trying them on to see how they “fit”?
What is the appeal of those you feel are your type? When you get past looks, how do you decide who is compatible to you and your personality?
When one of my guy friends broke up with his long-term girlfriend, he went through his video vixen phase. Suddenly his type became women who were “light” on personality, but heavy on booty, body, and brass. His ex was nothing like this, so he clearly wanted a change in type to help get over her. I am waiting to see if he returns to what he is most comfortable with or if his future Miss Right will be the vixen type. Not really judging, just wondering, what do guys like about the type of women they pursue?
How do we figure out what our type is and when do we definitely know who is not our type?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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kimmie
March 19th, 2013
3:04 pm
Glad all is well Light, and good to read you!!
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:04 pm
And what’s a PSL anyway????? (Courtside Seats’ moniker tagline) Whew….that is too much to type.
Court, if you’re reading, I’d change your moniker to something simple, man.
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:05 pm
Awwww, thanks, Kimmie.
Durty Burd (Pope Durty the 1st)
March 19th, 2013
3:05 pm
Kimmie…I agree with you, that comment is weak with no class. Kimmie it seems some of your past SO’s had something against you. I see they did not know how to appreciate the type of women you were back then. Sounds like you dated very immature men because you did not line up the way the wanted they sought to harm you verbally.
Here is another stupid one of those dumbazz statementsng….. Do as I say, not as I do!
disco
March 19th, 2013
3:08 pm
durty – why did your post read like you were trying to push up on kimmie? “girl, he don’t love you like I love you. he can’t appreciate you like I can appreciate you”. lol.
Hazel
March 19th, 2013
3:09 pm
@Disco – OMG at ure 11:48 am. lol.. no thanks. I married my type = the nerd and I am happy!!
Exiled
March 19th, 2013
3:11 pm
I didn’t find u attractive at first….
Reminds me of way back when..
I get into the club..it was in a basement and one of the hottest joints in town..,and Im looking cool myself,’fishibg’..
So at some point,I get in on the dance floor and 2 lovely birds,friends are dancing there as well in their 2-some. I am eyeing them from a distance.
I quickly hon on one ..she’s tall,a Lil lanky(slim) and she brown and has a face built I like. And her lips are just damn.beautiful mouf..I wasn’t on the oral tip at this point. I was just imagining myself locked in a juicy.smooch.
The other friend is kinda shorter than the friend,a Lil chunky..nice built,not obese but def Not my type!
Anyway,I have conjured up enough courage and stamina and feel I can extricate the one I want if I make a move..
I do and I step literally in their direction and mouth and introductory speech
But the one I want doesn’t bite…she kinda retreats..does not talk and the one Unwanted actually makes the move to come to me….as if I meant to extricate her!
Well ….a hunter will skin that which he got so it went down!
Years go by and we made merry with the one I didn’t want then went our separate ways.
I met the one I wanted earlier..she was now working as a fast food restaurant manager and spotted her behind the counter on another late nite fishing trip!
I just told her the real story of that nite years back and that it was she I wanted then and Not her friend.
By then,she was oldish and gone…her lips not as juicy anymore.
Ohhh well..,
Single and Happy
March 19th, 2013
3:13 pm
Disco, “no one’s going to love you the way I do, no doubt aaabbboooouuutttt it, I can love you better” A La L. S.O.S. band (LOL)
disco
March 19th, 2013
3:13 pm
hazel – I’m sure. that’s why I asked so many questions trying to understand the root of your dislike. i mean you wanted the woman beat up for no apparent reason. lol.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 19th, 2013
3:16 pm
I shole am happily stuffed
Lunch was deeeeelish!!
Don’t be crass. You already know before it jumps out of your mouth, whether or not it’s something you should say….or not. If it won’t go over well, being on the receiving end, then don’t give/dish it. I’m sorry, I’ve not grown “big enough” yet to just “let” folks relationally take jabs and let it sliiiide. Other areas yeah, sometime you just gootta igg ignorance. But if we’re in a relationship and “relating”, naw you don’t get a pass.
kimmie
March 19th, 2013
3:17 pm
LOL!!! Court you are a mess!! Yes, you are right in a lot of ways. Some just cannot deal with a woman that is sure of herself. I have always been comfortable in my skin. Dudes had to either take me as I was or not. And yes, some tried to tear me down in the only way they could, verbally.
I am an easy person to know and get along with – some of my friends on this very blog will confirm that. It’s just no need to hit below the belt.
Hazel – I married my type too – cute & nerdy, and I am happy as well!!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 19th, 2013
3:19 pm
That was Durty….
YW
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:26 pm
Where is daddy Swiss? I thought the Pink Floyd would bring him out of hiding……
cba
March 19th, 2013
3:27 pm
ITL, I think court is referring to what Arthur will be requiring to purchase a season ticket at his new temple. PSL (personal seat license). What a scam!!
kimmie
March 19th, 2013
3:28 pm
Cel – What did you have for lunch?
Yes, don’t be crass, especially if you are suppossed to be my man. You can’t just talk to me any kind of way like you would somebody in the street. And miss me with the “straight-shooter” mess too. You can be honest with me without being STANK.
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:30 pm
Oooooooh. Thanks for the clarification, cba.
You have to buy a license to buy season tickets????? Mercy. Glad I’ll be sitting in Sanford instead of Chez Blanc (Blank).
Durty Burd (Pope Durty the 1st)
March 19th, 2013
3:31 pm
Disco you are too funny! I am just calling like I see it…
Durty does not push up on married women, Now, I will push-up on MissMoni and MsAtl…
:Wink:
Slim_Nu please foregive if I left you out, you already know you are one on my blog favorites..
disco
March 19th, 2013
3:34 pm
durty – just saying that’s how your post read to me. I’m sure you would never (knowingly) push up on a married woman. you are, after all, a blog gent and well, we know how y’all do. lol.
cba
March 19th, 2013
3:35 pm
you got it ITL, I have definitely posted my comments on this scam whenever I see a topic
When you have that type money and power, you do as you please.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 19th, 2013
3:36 pm
Kimmie – Stoney River. There’s a location about 10 minutes from me.
We decided on that yesterday, to make it convenient for me 
He’s such a sweetie
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:39 pm
AA women on the blog: How hard/easy is it to go from a “short” cut to an afro-type style? I ask because a woman i work with had short hair on Thursday, and today it’s styled like an afro. Is it just a matter of “lengthening/relaxing” the curl???
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2013
3:41 pm
Hey Everyone
I’m sure the topic has changed a million times, but anyway…
Physically, my “type” has gone through phases, but two things have always been constant. She has to be smart, and she has to be easy to get along with.
How’s everyone doing?
Leggs
March 19th, 2013
3:42 pm
“I wasn’t on the oral tip…” You still ain’t (cracking up).
“By then,she was oldish and gone…her lips not as juicy anymore.” – And you think you were still in your prime. I’m literally cracking up. The women change, but the men think they still can pull with the same veracity used in yesteryear. Always wanting a dime when they’re a penny!
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:43 pm
Always wanting a dime when they’re a penny!
cba
March 19th, 2013
3:43 pm
WIG
disco
March 19th, 2013
3:44 pm
ITL – that’s funny. I say that because my hair is natural and depending on whether it is stretched or not the appearance of it’s length can vary greatly. one lady in particular always asks me if I got my hair cut when it’s in it’s “shrunken” state. having said that, it could go either way. it’s hard to say not knowing what you mean by “short cut” and afro. (sorry but non-black folks don’t always know how to describe our hair. heck, black folks don’t always know how to describe our hair. lol).
hey dreams.
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:44 pm
LOL@cba. I didn’t even think about that! And here I was all jealous that she had such versatile hair!
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:46 pm
@disco: thanks, anyway.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 19th, 2013
3:50 pm
What’s up Dreams… I hope to have an update for you soon!
Alrighty I’m out for real. It’s been a slow day work wise so Imma hop on off and get on with the rest of my day
kimmie
March 19th, 2013
3:51 pm
Hey Dreams!
SlimNu
March 19th, 2013
3:54 pm
please foregive if I left you out, you already know you are one on my blog favorites..
Durty – Whew! Noow I can feel justified lol
disco
March 19th, 2013
3:55 pm
ITL – you know (or can probably detect) that I have a bit of “mean spirited” in me. once this lady was complimenting my hair and how I can wear all these different styles and because I was within earshot of a chick I don’t like I went on and on about how it must be so awful to have to wear your hair the same way each and every day, day in and day out, year after year after year. lol.
Leggs
March 19th, 2013
3:57 pm
Hey there, ITL and DreamsM. Two guppies just came up for air (lol).
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
3:59 pm
@Slim’s 3:54: Now I feel left out.
@disco: You are one of a kind!!
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:00 pm
LOL@Leggs. Too funny.
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:01 pm
Hey
DreamyDreams.DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2013
4:04 pm
Disco Wassup! You still cuttin’ em down?
Celly Cel Keep me posted.
kimmie How’s it going? Any new culinary adventures? I may end up at the Highland Bakery this weekend for breakfast…been craving their “Rustic Italian”.
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2013
4:06 pm
Leggs Yeah it’s been extra busy around these parts, but in a good way. How have you been?
ITL Don’t be inflating my ego.
What’s the word with you?
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:08 pm
@Dreams:
Just living the dream one day at a time. You?
SlimNu
March 19th, 2013
4:16 pm
ITL – For some folks, if they wash their hair and do not dry it, it could potentially have an ‘afro’ look to it. I for one will look like a chia pet
Even though my mother is bi-racial, I did not get the silky, naturally curly stuff passed down to me.
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:19 pm
@Slim: Maybe afro is not the right term. It was very full, but still curly. I’m not sure what to call the style…..
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:29 pm
Well look at that! Hair talk shut down the blog!
I kid, I kid…..
DuShawn
March 19th, 2013
4:29 pm
“It was very full, but still curly………….” I’m trying to recall the name for that type of hair…………oh yeah, now I remember. It’s called Pubic.
disco
March 19th, 2013
4:33 pm
ITL – you didn’t know? folks can be sensitive about their hair. lol. brothers get to feeling some kind of way when they ain’t edged up good (and that’s just the ones who still have hair to keep edged up – lol). sisters get to feeling some kind of way when they need a touch up. it’s always something.
Exiled
March 19th, 2013
4:35 pm
Uall don’t shave?
@Ladies?
Look at ITL and her bushy self..talk bout hair..
MsAtl
March 19th, 2013
4:40 pm
DuShawn- You can go straight to time out for your 4:29.
SlimNu- Cracking yp at Chia pet.
cba- You could be right. It could be a wig or it could just be washed and not flatironed.
ITL- Now if you said it was short on Monday & shoulder-length on Tuesday, that would have been easier to guess.
Exiled
March 19th, 2013
4:42 pm
Ull get cut trying to quickly navigate thru that busy!
Leggs
March 19th, 2013
4:46 pm
Look at you getting all excited, Ex you can’t type!
Into the Light
March 19th, 2013
4:47 pm
@MsAtl: a weave (or extensions), right????
Exiled
March 19th, 2013
4:51 pm
My iPhone can’t