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Virgin Terrority: When are you ready?

Color me shocked: The decision to have sex for the very first time is  being delayed, even longer by young women in  Atlanta!  According to a recent survey, Atlanta females thought that 19 years old is the ideal time for a woman to lose her virginity. This was higher than the national average of age 17.

When you think about all the things young people are exposed to these days, I suppose this is a pleasant surprise!  It’s interesting to note the top reasons that were cited for holding on to virginity until age 19:

Connectivity (Online Dating, Social Networking, etc.) - Between online dating, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., young people are wired in and probably distracted from trying to get into each others pants every other minute.  I bet those smartphones are great gifts for teens after all!

Waiting until Marriage – I am a preacher’s daughter so this pretty much was burned in my memory from birth. Despite our divorce rates, many still believe in the institution of marriage.  Waiting to make the wedding night special really is important to a lot of people.

Personal Beliefs (Religion) – Again, preacher’s daughter, so I have heard all sermons and lectures about chastity and purity.  No really, all of them.  It actually worked on me as a young girl, though.  So thanks Dad!

Upbringing (Culture)  – Parents have to shield their kids from so much in pop culture.  There are families who are traditional and hold their values and beliefs dear to them.

Are you surprised that Atlanta women trended higher to age 19?  When do you know you are ready?  Do you believe people are waiting longer to lose their virginity?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Why do you think people are retaining their virginity longer?

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Lee

March 15th, 2013
6:56 am

Really!! I thought they were getting younger, too many young girls having several kinds before 19 years old.

Exiled

March 15th, 2013
7:05 am

They are losing virginity early these days….

Virginity of the the mouf! :lol:

Yea,theyre learning how to slob while still in High school…

Blame it on Ray J and Kim video and them other s l u t s ……

But I bet these kids will be much more proficient at tongueing it when they become adults,much better than some of u spring chicken who are still struggling with the craft!

Happy Friday!

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
7:48 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!!

Are you surprised that Atlanta women trended higher to age 19? No

When do you know you are ready? When your mental emotions can handle your physical actions in a mature manner.

Do you believe people are waiting longer to lose their virginity? Honestly, I don’t know. Some people are choosing to wait until marriage, which is awesome. However, others are engaging in oral sex at an early age as Ex stated and that is still sex, so it just depends on the person.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
8:39 am

Just because folks take a survey to say when they THINK is a good age to lose virginity, does not mean they are actually waiting until then.

Good morning folks!

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
8:46 am

Ex – You’re giving Ray J and Kim K too much credit…kids have been having lip stick parties, 7 minutes in heaven and hide – go get long before those two came along. lol

disco

March 15th, 2013
8:58 am

good morning.

wow. what a topic. lol. we’re talking about virginity when most of us are decades past that. hmmm. I’m not sure what to say. I know I was brought up in the school of “old enough to bleed, old enough to breed”. all these age restrictions are people and society, not nature.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:14 am

“old enough to bleed, old enough to breed :shock:

DuShawn

March 15th, 2013
9:14 am

If there’s grass on the field…….Play ball!

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:19 am

-SlimNu your reaction was the same as mine on disco’s 8:58, LOL!!!

disco

March 15th, 2013
9:21 am

slim / moni – y’all never heard that?

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:21 am

DuS – You may want to tweek that 9:14…kids are developing a lot ealier in age. So just because there is grass on the field, doesn’t mean there isn’t baby’s breath and a jail sentence in the stands :lol:

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:26 am

-disco No I have not. Honestly, this is a NEW one for me, LOL!!!

Button

March 15th, 2013
9:27 am

Good morning! TGIF! I haven’t been one in a long time! Wise you’re making me dig deep into my dirty dirty bag lol
As for the survey and when should one do the deed. I believe you should wait until marriage, although I didn’t I wish I had, but that was eon’s ago.

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:28 am

-DuShawn These days, 9 and 10 year olds have grass on the field. . .

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:28 am

disco – I may have heard that a looooooooooooooong time ago. I guess I just wasn’t prepared to read that this morning. Just sound so animalistic i suppose lol

DuShawn

March 15th, 2013
9:28 am

My daughters will be 12 and 11 next month. I think all little girls should wait until they’re 30 before having sex.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:30 am

These days, 9 and 10 year olds have grass on the field.

MM – my thoughts exactly lol Some of these girls have more t!ts & arse than all my aunts put together.

disco

March 15th, 2013
9:31 am

moni – oh. well I have been hearing that one since back before I even understood it.

moni – 9 and 10 year olds are also already having periods and waking up with woodies.

dushawn – 30? ha ha. thanks for sharing what you think but how do you think it’s really going to go down. lol. it’s early so I won’t take bets. lol.

Button

March 15th, 2013
9:35 am

Isn’t there a show called preacher’s daughter or kid? lol

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:39 am

-DuShawn I have two daughters as well ages 10 and 6 and I’m teaching them to wait until marriage. Plus I over educate them about STD’s complete with pics as discouragement. Hey, that worked for me for a long time, LOL!

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:40 am

DuS – You’re funny. How are you going to say if there is grass on the field, then it’s cool to play, then turnaround and say 30 is a good age. LOLOL By the age of 30, that grass ain’t as green as it used to be. :lol:

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:41 am

MM – I saw a really nasty pic of someone having a herpes outbreak all around their genitalia and mouth and i almost threw up. :shock:

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:41 am

-SlimNu I agree, clearly these new hormones in foods creates BIGGER body parts.

-disco I know about the early ages, I was 11 and according to the pediatrician my 10 year old can start any day now!!!

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:42 am

-SlimNu I’m telling you those pics can really turn you OFF!

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:46 am

Button – Yeah I think so. I believe Leggs said she watched it but i haven’t seen it yet. The previews made it look like one of those girls are totally boy crazed.

Button

March 15th, 2013
9:47 am

SlimNu – herpes are cold sores on the mouth, I’ve been seeing those things all my life.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
9:53 am

Button – I’m not talking about the run of the mill ‘cold sores’…

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
9:54 am

-Button There are 2 different types, simplex I & II.

Button

March 15th, 2013
9:55 am

MissMoni – my daughter is HUGE. I had to put a lot of these grown men in check letting them know she’s 13 and to watch their eyes before they catch a case! I tell you some men act as if they’ve never seen boobs before.

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
9:56 am

Morning All!

We are celebrating St Pats today in the office since the actual day is on Sunday. I have on my shamrock t-shirt and my green “Pebbles” pigtails headband!LOL!!

I am like Slim in that just because some folks responded to a survey a certain way doesn’t mean they are actually behaving that way. These kids are fast and getting in early, in different forms. The only thing you can do is try to bring your own kids up with a strong sense of self and a realistic view of what can happen if you rush things and make bad decisions. My daughter(10) is seeing first hand how her much older half sister is struggling with 2 babies at 22. We are also showing her the options available to her if she waits(college of her choice, world travel, fun with her friends, freedom from major responsibilities, a cute car, future earning potential, a wider selection of top-shelf men). She’s really liking the alternative options and I hope she (and her 12yr old brother) stay that way.

And just the thought of some little nasty preteens and teens, that don’t even know how to wash their behinds good, getting mouth action is disgusting to me. I’ll be glad when the topic changes!!

Button

March 15th, 2013
9:56 am

MissMoni – yes there are two different types, genital and face/mouth.
SlimNu – it’s still herpes, just that most people don’t feel threatened by it, but they should though, since it can be transmitted to gential if one should go down south when they have an out break.

disco

March 15th, 2013
10:02 am

hey kimmie. I was feeling you until you said a higher selection of top shelf men. lol. I can just hear her 20 years from now talking about “momma never said it would be like this”.

button – I have a neighbor who is plus sized and she has a teenaged daughter who is built just like her. I remember when they first moved in. the little girl was probably 8 and at 8 years old she was bigger than I am. I was just like whoa.

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
10:05 am

Button – I developed early and got most of my chest when I was in 6th grade. My neice was the same way. My mom and hers were good at “camoflauge dressing”. Everything was not super-baggy, but nothing tight or fitted. As a result, we didn’t look as large as we were in our clothes and cut down on the unwanted attention. Those looks from old perverts can really make a young girl feel bad.

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
10:07 am

Button – Hey, I just want her to have choices!

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
10:08 am

Sorry Button, that 10:07 was meant for Disco!

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
10:10 am

some men act as if they’ve never seen boobs before.

Button – I asked the beau what it big deal was about boobs and he couldn’t even tell me. lol

Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)

March 15th, 2013
10:12 am

I know I was brought up in the school of “old enough to bleed, old enough to breed”.

:shock:

Damn…I’m glad I wasn’t raised with that school of thought. My mom wanted me to wait and focus on education first and foremost. That being said, she was also a young mother at 17 and wasn’t having the pattern repeated so she put me one the pill as well.

The only thing you can do is try to bring your own kids up with a strong sense of self and a realistic view of what can happen if you rush things and make bad decisions

Excellent point kimmie…

DuShawn

March 15th, 2013
10:14 am

I’m hyped about this weekend. It starts tonight. We got a party at the FOX at 9:00, I have to leave at 11:30, hop on this party bus that leaves at midnight. Arrive in Orlando at 8:30 am, catch a cab to the airport, rent a car and drive to Miami. Should get there around noon, just in time for the bruhs day party and brunch. From there make my way to the Jazz in the Gardens venue. Got a nice suite on the beach. Imma go swimming in the ocean early Sunday morning and then back to the show for day two.

disco

March 15th, 2013
10:15 am

sassy – the fact that your mom BCd you up means she lived by that school of thought. there are some parents that think providing contraception is giving permission.

disco

March 15th, 2013
10:17 am

dushawn – michael baisden has been hyping that thing up for a minute now.

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
10:19 am

Du – Sounds like fun!!

Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)

March 15th, 2013
10:21 am

the fact that your mom BCd you up means she lived by that school of thought.

dicso my mom was a YOUNG mother who didn’t have anyone to tell her better…not even HER mother. She struggled un-neccessarily and had to drop out of college and it altered her life FOREVER. She didn’t want me to suffer like she did so she “BCd” me up.

Bluzgirl

March 15th, 2013
10:25 am

Happy Friday! Beware the Ides of March….

I take disco’s saying as teaching young girls that they can get pregnant once they start bleeding, not that it’s ok to have sex then…

I am kind of surprised that the age is higher for women losing their virginity. I assumed that they were starting younger and younger. I was 17 and really do wish I had waited for someone better…

MissMoni

March 15th, 2013
10:27 am

-kimmie Camoflauge dressing is key. It irritates me when parents ALLOW & PURCHASE grown women clothes for their young daughters, SMH!!! As for me and my house we will dress age appropriate!

Sunny Bunny

March 15th, 2013
10:28 am

@Disco: Old enough to bleed, thus breed IS being precautionary. It’s not promoting promiscuity , rather it’s being cognizant.

disco

March 15th, 2013
10:30 am

bluz – that’s exactly what it means. recognizing that once they start, their bodies are ready whether they are or not. folks often recount the first time they had sex but ask folks when was the first time they felt a little stirring. shoot some were probably young enough that they didn’t recognize that stirring for what it was. I can’t speak for y’all but I know we played grown games. innocent little house and doctor and post office weren’t always all that innocent and they escalated to hide and go get it and catch a girl, kiss a girl. it is what it is.

kimmie

March 15th, 2013
10:32 am

Sassy – My daughter is going to Australia as a student ambassador this summer. She is beyond excited. I’ve been telling her opportunities like that and more are in store for her as long as she continues to do well in school and hold off on things like having babies. She said she understood but really didn’t get it until a few times I left her alone for about 20 to 30 minutes when we were babysitting for her older sister. I was close by, but wanted to see how she handled that one yr old. Poor thing, she was beyond frustrated. When I came and rescued her I told her this is why I wanted her to wait until she’s done with college and had a chance to travel and do some things before she gets married and has a baby. At least she’ll have someone around to help her like her dad was able to with her mom when she & her brother were born. She finally got it I think. She used to beg me to have a baby, but not any more.

She’s so smart and outgoing. The thought that all she has waiting for her could be derailed by an ill-timed pregnancy is heartbreaking.

Her older sister broke up with her fiance’. When it’s not her weekend with her kids or she can get a babysitter, she is just now going out and partying with her friends and taking road trips and doing the things she should have been able to do awhile back, but could not.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
10:32 am

Sassy – My mom also had me right when she turned 17. So when I turned 16, she ‘bc’d’ me up too. I was not even active at the time but she simply said, “I cannot be with you 24/7 so this is a precaution. Being a young mother is very hard work”.

Sunny Bunny

March 15th, 2013
10:33 am

I don’t have any children yet, but I try to keep my teenage cousins in the know.

SlimNu

March 15th, 2013
10:33 am

DuS – Did your pops give you a box of condoms or anything like that?