Dating: What about your friends?
I don’t know if you were aware, but apparently the acceptable number of male friends a woman is allowed to have is 4. After that, you start to look a little to suspicious. This is according to one man, of course. A male reader wrote an email saying that his new love interest has at least 7 close guy friends. This is 3 too many!
I don’t know how this particular number was deemed the safe number of opposite sex friendships allowed, but I think it is a little nonsensical. I know everyone does not believe that men and women can be platonic friends. However, just because a woman has close male friends does not necessarily mean it is cause for concern.
When a woman has male friends, do guys who pursue her consider it a red flag? What if a man had a lot of women friends? Why do some folks become so suspicious of this?
What do you think it means when a woman has few or no close women friends? If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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238 comments Add your comment
Ms J~
March 14th, 2013
7:03 am
Good Topic WD!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
7:05 am
Hello all
Man some people really need to get a life!!
Lee
March 14th, 2013
7:09 am
I don’t see why that would be a problem unless she was on the phone with these guy friends when she was with him, then that would be rude and lead any male/female to question what kind of relationship they really had. A friend doesn’t mind if you don’t answer the phone and wait until later or whatever to call back.
No one likes playing second fiddle.
I dont think it means anything if a woman has lots of male friends- i was a tomboy when i was younger and 95% of my friends were male. I still have many guys that though the years we still keep in touch — their wives/g/f’s are more important and should be, so i don’t get mad if they don’t call back or whatever, we are just friends.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
8:00 am
GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!!
What do you think it means when a woman has few or no close women friends? I think it means that she has been hurt by some women in her life and decided to completely cut them off as a defense mechanism to keep from getting hurt again. Of course, there may be other reasons but this is the one I’m sticking with for now.
Interested to hear the guys responses on this topic!
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
8:31 am
Morning folks!!!
I have a few close male friends, but the three people that are the closest happen to be women…I have also made the choice to have women as my Dr, my banker, my accountant, and my legal rep……. In my case, in addition to trusting women more than I do men, I like their view point and the way that they make the room smell……
MsAtl
March 14th, 2013
8:34 am
Morning All!
I don’t think it means anything in and of itself, that a man or woman has close friends of the opposite sex. You have to look at their interactions and whether they put the opposite sex friends above their partner. I have had several women tell me that they prefer male friends because their female friends were too catty and they got more honesty and less jealousy from the male friends. I personally think they had the wrong female friends, but whatever. I don’t have an issue having friends of either sex; I know how to be friends and nothing more.
Button
March 14th, 2013
8:57 am
Good morning! The male reader sounds a tab bit insecure. To say a woman should only have 4 male friends is medieval. I have more male friends/associates than I do females. No real reason to it other than just who I click with the most which happens to be males. The ones who are married, their wives/gf know about me, I respect their SO. I think there would be a problem when your friend of the opposit sex takes precedent over your SO.
Big Al
March 14th, 2013
9:00 am
Does the 4 close friends include gays or just straight guys?
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
9:09 am
Let’s see if I can say what I’m thinking and be brief…lol
It’s cool to have friends of the opposite sex. You can’t be naieve though. I think keeping top of mind, all the folks and situationships where we eventually they made the dreaded “what had happened was” speech….lol Your SO should be respectful that you have a life outside of them and you should be respectful of the life you’re building with your SO.
I for one, don’t have many women friends…don’t want them. I don’t feel like being politically correct and I don’t do going along just to get along. I have small circle of tried and true diehad women bffs. They know my ups and downs, my ins and outs, so forth and so on. And as much as I talk on here, the half ain’t never been told. This is where my bffs are situated
On the flip side of that I have more men friends. Different dynamics. Super super cool, down like fo flat tires, no judging, no crossing the line, can talk about anything, give it to me from a man’s perspective don’t lean in favor if I’m wrong, help steer if they think to the slighest I’m losing my way or losing myself
The difference in men bffs and women bffs? When my women friends have been burned in an area or situation, it’s a guarantee they’re advice is going to be skewed and jaded. lolol For this reason along, you need balance.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
9:11 am
Excuse my typos…I was removing and adding..trying to keep it brief.
That should be “where we eventually heard the dreaded…..”
disco
March 14th, 2013
9:12 am
good morning. interesting topic in the sense that I’m sure there will be tons of varying opinions on this one. without even going into the whole “define friend” thing I’ll say that anyone who is worried about how many friends someone else has (male or female) needs to get some business. they must be the person that has no friends. lol.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
9:15 am
I’m sort of old school, while I believe it’s not only healthy but good to have opposite sex friendships for both parties in a relationship, at the same time both parties should just “pay attention.” I didn’t say stalk, or watch like a hawk. It’s just smart to NEVER close both your eyes to anything.
disco
March 14th, 2013
9:15 am
lee – re friends not calling back or making time. we discussed this recently with the whole cleave topic. I have some friends that I’ll give a pass because I know if they are up to something it’s legit. I have other friends that are just janky like that. the type chick who will break an engagement to hang out with a guy she met on the way to the engagement. lol. no lie. those friends I will dog and talk about and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I’ll call old girl and she’ll be like I’m chilling with my friend. I’m like which one? the one you met Monday or the one you met Tuesday? lol.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
9:24 am
LOLOL….I think disco is the only person I ever hear say “janky”… I like that word
disco
March 14th, 2013
9:25 am
ms moni – re women who don’t have close female friends. I don’t necessarily think it’s about having been hurt. I think it’s more likely she just doesn’t have the personality or patience to deal with many women. let’s face it. women can get on your daggone nerves. I think that’s why most women have a circle of friends that go way back. folks who are already “broken in”. you reach an age where you just don’t want to be bothered with trying to break in new friends. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
9:27 am
“I like their view point and the way that they make the room smell……” – Thank you!
My best friend is a woman and my second in command is a man. That magic #4 trips me out. No one should have the right to tell another how many friends they can have.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
9:34 am
Courtside ~ I have one friend from Tennessee that uses the word “janky” and I laugh each time. I too have never heard that word and then here comes disco.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
9:35 am
Disco, why you talking about me (LOL) I don’t have any friends that I hang around with on the regular, but I don’t care how many friends my S/O has or what sex they are, as long as they don’t interfere with us, and we don’t have to make plans around them.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
9:37 am
-disco I understand what you’re saying, but typically that personality or lack of patience has been formed due to an event or experience that happened. Think about it, in order to first have a circle that goes way back that means at some point the woman did have the personality and patience to have female friends. Some people are just friendly regardless of their age or life experiences. Others that tend to be more guarded are that way for a reason. . .
disco
March 14th, 2013
9:38 am
leggs / court – I love janky. I use it all the time. I like the way it sounds and it can mean so many different things.
single – I’m cool with a person being the solitary type but I will say it’s a red flag when someone doesn’t have any friends. lol. can you say “serial killer”. lol.
Roberta
March 14th, 2013
9:38 am
I think it does come down to insecurity. Folks who are insecure may have a problem with their significant other’s friends, while those who are not insecure won’t.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
9:41 am
At the end of the day, do what works best for you! If you’re OK with not having any friends then so be it. Likewise if you’re OK with having 25 people over your house every weekend then party on! Just be sure to evaluate your stance on this when getting into a relationship. It could be a problem if your S/O does not share your same view on socializing with your friends. Some people balance each other out, others just get irritated and annoyed by having “friends” around all of the time.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
9:44 am
MsMoni/disco ~ I agree with both you, mostly with disco’s stance simply because some women just can’t stand the cattiness of other women. And, if you’re a strong B….., no one wants to be her friend either.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
9:45 am
Dang, why you had to use stance. I thought I was being smart (I kid, I kid). Just being my usual silly self.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
9:45 am
I’mma see if I can get MissMoni to be my blog BFF….That way i can have someone to lean on when disco calls me janky…..
disco
March 14th, 2013
9:45 am
ms moni – maybe. me personally, my circle goes back to childhood with the exception of one friend I met in my 20s. I know I hadn’t been shafted yet in junior high. lol. by the way, being friendly and accepting applications for new friends are two different things. I just don’t think many people that are older are checking for new friends. they are comfortable with the ones they have.
ms moni – good point in your last post. I’ve got friends but I don’t run an “open house”. all that drop in and visit stuff isn’t my style. I couldn’t date (well I could date but probably not marry) the person who had a houseful of people all the time. that would so not work for me.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
9:48 am
I was always taught that if you want a friend, show yourself friendly. Of course, you live and learn that not everyone has your best interest at heart, but don’t become so bitter and stand-offish that you are just unapproachable and rude.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
9:49 am
Disco, I have a better term, “got a life” don’t need others to fulfill it (LOL)
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
9:53 am
-disco Now I definitely agree with not marrying someone who had a houseful fo people all of the time. I have 1 friend from middle school and 2 from high school that I’m still tight with. My circle didn’t really become a circle until undergrad. I agree on not checking for new friends, but I did make a couple when I moved to a new city. I just think in terms of people grow and change and you never know when you’re going to make a new friend.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
9:57 am
Morning All!!
I have 4 tried and true, already broken-in female friends. I don’t know what I would do without them or what we would do without each other. They are the perfect friends for me because they are not catty or gossipy or jealous. We all have our own lives, always have. I value them like they are blood sisters.
I have 2 great male friends that have survived the test of time. They are not gay and too have their own lives. They are like play brothers and we have never intruded in each other’s lives or relationships.
I have had other male friends in the past and yes at one point had more male than female. The gay ones were great, but just lasted for a few seasons. We didn’t fall out or anything, just kind of fell off and lost touch. The straight ones girlfriends/wives could not deal with it, so those fell off as well. No harm done and I was fine with that. Just part of life.
What worries me more is when a man has no men friends, not even one. These are usually the clingy, possesive types I’ve observed. No I would not want a dude that has not grown up and has to hang out like a frat boy every night, but a loner that wanted to stay up under me all the time and didn’t like me to have friends as well – totally unacceptable.
Button
March 14th, 2013
9:57 am
Friends are an intregal part of our lives. What if your SO has never introduced you to his/her friends?
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
9:58 am
MissMoni, I like your 9:48. I was taught the same aaaand that saying is in the book of Proverbs. And at the same time, I have come to see and experience and sift out those folks that “act” friendly. Those are the BIGGEST posers, the welcome wagon girl, Little Miss Sunshine, loved by all….mmm hmmm…I see you…lolol
Folks can be VERY deceitful and really, it’s not all the time a person is Queen B!tch, sometimes they just ain’t got it for folks that fake the funk. What I have found is that “like” personalities works better for me.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
9:59 am
-kimmie Excellent points!!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:02 am
ms moni / kimmie – I have “local friends” that I’ve been cool with for years but I also know that if I move away these friendships will fall off. my “real friends” all live in different states than I do but those are the ones for life. I tell people that if my real friends died and there was no one to take and raise their children I would do it. I can’t say that for my “local friends”. I’d just have to hug their kids at the funeral and wish them the best.
re gay male friends. I’ve never really had one. currently I have one but his sister is one of my childhood friends and so he was like my brother since back before he even came to terms with being gay. he’s my ace though.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:03 am
Morning MIA!
My take is that it depends on what type of friends they are and if they respect the relationship. The Ex had a really close female friend who he was once in love with and she disrespected me. I had a real issue with her. A previous ex had a female best friend who I became close with. I was jealous at first until I realized she wasn’t a threat. That ex and I remained very close friends until he passed last year (Saturday is the one year anniversary). I guess I’ll just stick with “it depends.”
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:03 am
kimmie ~ I have 4 friends that I consider more my sisters than my own sister. Two I came to Georgia with and the other 2 I’ve known for over 25 years. I know for a fact we would give the shirt off our back to the other if need be. As a matter of fact going to Legal Seafoods with one just to pat each other on the back for how far we’ve come in life.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
10:04 am
-Celisea Like I said before, you live and learn and become more selective of your friends. I’ve found that like traits work better for me. It’s good to have common denominators but we don’t need to be exactly the same. I like different and I also like balance, definitely don’t do “posers” and the “1 uper’s”.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
10:05 am
MissMoni – Igg zackly
Alright, I’m out for a while..duty calls
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:10 am
no one mentioned the obvious – women need men friends to do the heavy lifting. lol.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
10:14 am
Great point disco, LOL!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
10:16 am
MissMoni – Thanks. I’m just in a very comfortable state in my life when it comes to people. I accept everyone for what they are and what they bring or don’t bring to my life. I’m not trying to make someone “fit” that doesn’t. My mom taught me early how to recognize true friends from “acquaintances”.
We use the term “friend” kinda loosely, but really alot of folks fall into the acquaintance category. I had folks I didn’t mind hanging out with sometimes, but if I needed someone to come pick me up when my car died, I knew I could not call them. And that’s okay.
MsAtl
March 14th, 2013
10:16 am
Disco- Right you are!
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:18 am
disco – That’s very true! I have a couple of guy friends who are handymen and I call on them to help me out with stuff!
My closest, best friend is a gay man. You wouldn’t know at all when you meet him. We clicked immediately when he moved into my apartment building years ago and have been super close ever since. As much as I miss seeing him all the time, it’s nice that he lives in Charleston so I have a reason to go there!!!
I have some friends from school that we talk maybe once or twice a year. Not close friends, but still would consider them friends and would do anything for them. Recently, I found out via Facebook that one of them was having a baby shower. I didn’t even know she was pregnant. She even lives in Atlanta. I guess it showed me that we weren’t as good of friends as I thought we were…
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:18 am
moni – spring is coming. I want to clear up some space. I have a recliner that I want to take upstairs. been pondering for days which poor, unfortunate friend will be recruited for the task. I know it won’t be a female friend. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:21 am
I’m with you, kimmie. Most people are mere acquaintances than anything.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
10:21 am
disco – You and I are so alike with the “local” versus “true friends”!! Though I am grateful 2 of my 4 main girls have moved to the ATL recently.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
10:24 am
-kimmie Exactly, it’s important to know & understand the role that people have in your life. I posted the following earlier this morning on FB: Stop holding on to people & things (that you shouldn’t have gotten attached to in the first place) just because they are comfortable & familiar. Don’t be afraid to move forward.
Sometimes people get so stuck in routine and comfort that they are paralyzed from allowing someone new to become a part of their lives.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
10:25 am
-disco I totally understand. I too have recruited a male friend a time or two to move heavy items, LOL! You know what they say, men like to feel needed.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
10:25 am
Bluz – The 4 main buddies I mentioned? Those are the only ones I would be a little hurt by if they had some major event they didn’t tell me about or invite me to. Ditto for a “few” family members and of course my kids. Everyone else, I seriously would not be hurt or really care if they didn’t invite me to something.
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:28 am
I also need new patio furniture this year. I’m going to have to recruit a male friend with a truck. lol.
moni – of all my “real” friends there is only one that I probably wouldn’t befriend if we met today. I won’t cut her loose though.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:31 am
Damn…To do the heavy lifting??? Move patio furniture??? Y’all sound like a couple of my friends!!! I have one friend that even roped me into putting down hardwood floors in her house!!!
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:31 am
kimmie – I wasn’t really hurt about not being invited to the shower…it was that I didn’t even know she was expecting. She had me in her wedding about 2 years ago…
MsAtl
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
Speaking of which, I need 3 or 4 male volunteers from the blog to move a treadmill. I’’s very heavy. Single? Courtside? DuShawn? Anyone?
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
MissMoni, Disco, let me give you my card “Rent a Husband” we’ll handle all the tough jobs for you (LOL)
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
Here’s one for you to MsAtl
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:33 am
MissMoni ~ I did just that the beginning of 2013. Let loose those that I felt were bringing me down, too negative, just a mental drain on my psyche. I think about them every so often, but I don’t miss them (lol).
Button
March 14th, 2013
10:34 am
A friend in need is a friend in deed.
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:34 am
court – now that’s the kind of man-friend I need right there. a brother who can lay floors. lol. give me a plumber, a painter and a mechanic and I’m in like Flynn. lol.
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:37 am
court – I was recently getting estimates to have my stairs and hallway done. mentioned it to a friend of mine back home. he was like those prices are crazy. I can do that for you. I was like pack your tools and come visit me.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:40 am
“A friend in need is a friend in deed.” just exactly what does this mean?
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
10:40 am
Bluz – I guess that would hurt a little if I was in your wedding just 2 years prior and you didn’t even tell me you were preggers…….
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:41 am
Thanks to Bluz, I found a really good and quite reasonable handyman.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:47 am
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:51 am
disco, we went to the class at Home Depot and learned how… turns out that it was not that hard… She tried to help but ended up getting in he way more than anything else……
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:52 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ug4bV013KEk
1st throwback song of the day…..
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:53 am
O/T – Today is a day that I really can’t wait to go to the doctor!!! I’ve been having some issues with fluid in my ear since yesterday morning and it’s driving me CRAZY!!!! I just want to jab a pen into it! LOL! Just gotta wait until 3:30 and hopefully, the doctor can fix it…
Robert
March 14th, 2013
11:00 am
“If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?”
I can only speak for myself. This is a common situation. I have mostly female friends and most of them I have known for a long time. This caused a lot of problems with my current woman. She told me she was not comforatble with me having soo many female friends who call just to say “hello” and reach out to me whenever they have a problem (family, kids, etc.). I am glad my woman is mature enough to understand and not overreact. I guess “if the shoe was on the other foot” I would be mad as hell but I know she had a life before me and I respect her judgement.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:01 am
court – when I lived in the dc area I would get up on Saturday morning to hit home depot. boy oh boy, the men were out in full force. lol. recently I pondered hitting a home depot class but I have to target a store in the right neighborhood for the best prospects. last time I met a guy at home depot he was off his game. his girl called me before I could even get home from the store.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:13 am
“…This caused a lot of problems with my current woman. She told me she was not comforatble with me having soo many female friends who call just to say “hello” and reach out to me whenever they have a problem (family, kids, etc.). I am glad my woman is mature enough to understand and not overreact.”
Sounds like you nose-dived with your last sentence. Glad she’s mature and doesn’t overreact yet it has caused lots of problems with your current. Yeah, ok!
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:16 am
leggs – you silly.
so, any of you ever been involved with a person who had a friend (or family member) that you absolutely could not stand?
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:17 am
disco ~ I will admit I’ve been overly silly today. I already had a girlfriend email and tell me so (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:19 am
I have, my then husband and his trifling mother! But since I’m not involved with either anymore, I will not speak ill of her. Just thankful I’m not part of the family.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:21 am
disco, you run your game like a dude and i am feeling that!!! LOLOLOL… Home Depot is a great place to meet women as well…. and you can make some pretty safe assumptions about them when you do!
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:22 am
A little “Blue eyed soul” !!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=65EoK4OelZU
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:26 am
Here’s one for you Courtside / disco:
The last time I met a guy at home depot, I contracted with him to install my ceiling fans. His subtle remarks soon became outright sexual remarks. In the middle of installing the first ceiling fan, I had to ask him to leave. It would be me to find a perverted horny a$$ man who couldn’t keep his eyes on the job at hand.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:26 am
court – run game? me? never that. lol.
leggs – silly just means you are in a good mood. nothing wrong with that.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:28 am
leggs – was he just some random joe blow at home depot or was he a home depot contractor? one time when I was buying storm/screen doors some guy offered to put them on for me. I thanked him for the offer and went and paid the overpriced home depot guy to do it.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:29 am
I can’t think of the dance we used to do off LowDown, but it was a line dance much like the Electric Slide.
Anybody been paying attention to the new commercial advertising for a bank, I think? There theme song is “What is Hip.” One of my favorite songs in the early 70’s.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:34 am
A random joe blow I was talking to him the middle of the ceiling fan aisle. We exchanged numbers. I bought the fans but couldn’t find anyone to put them up for me. My ex said he didn’t know how and I thought he did. Come think about it, he may still have been mad at me at that time over the divorce because he has since fixed other things at the house. Anyway, I called this dude up about a week later and asked him if he could install them for me. Big mistake and my last mistake in that department.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:37 am
Their….
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:38 am
leggs – you know home depot and lowes have the nerve to charge $99 for installation. highway robbery. lol. still I think I’m going to bite the bullet and pay it and be done with it. I need to make a spring home improvement list. I went out back recently (I hardly ever go out back) and my patio desperately needs pressure washing. generally I pay to have that done when I get the house pressure washed but I’m thinking I might have to pull out my little pressure washer. times like this I miss the offspring. lol.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:39 am
Single & Happy I will gladly take that card and use it!!!
-Leggs In reference to your 10:33 you just know when enough is enough and you are lighter when you just let go.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:40 am
Ironically, Sheryl Lee Ralph is on the radio and speaking on the topic of friendship amongst women and not tearing each other apart… She also gave her definition of DIVA
Intersting indeed
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:41 am
-disco If you happen to find someone who will pressure wash the deck, please let me know. I already have a Home Improvement list but I’m not the one to be knocking down walls, LOL!
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
11:41 am
I’m having my handyman friend come install a new front door for me next week because I refuse to pay Home Depot an outrageous amount for installation. When my parents had their front door installed, I think it was a couple hundred dollars to do it!!!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:42 am
Yes ma’am, MissMoni!!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:42 am
leggs – I need new light fixtures/ceiling fans. I need to pressure wash my patio. I need new patio furniture. and I need a flunky, I mean male friend, to come take a recliner upstairs. I also need to swap out winter drapes.
C – I like Sheryl lee Ralph. I do get tired of all of the talk about us tearing one another down though. personally I don’t feel like another woman can tear me down. she can not like me, she can talk about me, she can do whatever but she can’t tear me down. ijs.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:44 am
disco ~ a friend mine left her new earrings in my car last week. She asked if I could meet her at the station and give them to her. I told her I could definitely drive by, rolled the window down and throw them at her because I had places to be this evening. We both laughed because she knows it’s something I would do.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:46 am
you just know when enough is enough and you are lighter when you just let go.
Amen sister, amen. I think it’s healthy for every individual, male or female to cleanse. It’s just good for the soul. Sometimes a person may not be a good fit for your life, but that’s not to say they won’t be a good fit for someone else’s. For me, the sooner I learned this kind of stuff, the lighter and easier my walk.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
disco – too bad you don’t live in Atlanta cause I’d hook you up with my friend!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
disco ~ just got my termite infested door frame removed and a new one put on front and back door. Pressure washed house last year so don’t need doing that yet. I need a high, chocolate, beautiful looking kitchen table with 4 chairs. That’s all I need right about now. Wait, I need to clean out the other side of my garage. Not looking forward to that.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
On something mentioned yesterday:
I was tickled coincidentally, at my boo last night mentioning a situation with one of his boy….stepping back to an old flame. Funny, like mentioned yesterday, ole girl had moved on…IN…THE…WIND! We both laughed cause his boy thought had or would always be positioned to just step back to ole girl like nothing. Boy, was he disappointed. Of course he shared that in private. When I see his boy this weekend (weather permitting, we’re participating in “deck dining”), I’m suppose to keep a straight face and pretend I’on know his ego was marred a bit.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
11:48 am
So disco, how much should that cost?
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:49 am
disco – I like Sheryl lee Ralph. I do get tired of all of the talk about us tearing one another down though. personally I don’t feel like another woman can tear me down. she can not like me, she can talk about me, she can do whatever but she can’t tear me down
Most definitely…I agree Honey, I’m the “stick and stones, baby…sticks and stones” chick. Imma lose sleep over someone’s attempt to tear me down? Naaaah, not likely
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:49 am
You ladies are paying folks to do pressure washing???? That might be the easiest thing in the world to do……
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:51 am
Bluz ~ I was thinking the same thing!
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:51 am
-Celisea EXACTLY!!!
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
11:52 am
Good Afternoon!
I have a lot of acquaintances and special group of female and male friends who I hang-out and keep in regular contact thru out the course of the year. Also some of my relatives are my partners as well.
I think dude problem maybe the definition of what his current SO considers a friend. Your definition and her definition of a friend maybe totally different. If she hops everytime he calls then he is hitting it!
For all the ladies who need a handyman, I must warn if you allow durty in your house to lift, paint and repair, Durty will get be getting into those panties…..Natural sexual attraction will take place….
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:53 am
I enjoyed listening to Sheryl Lee Ralph. Actually, I like listening to music while I work…it’s soothing
She’s promoting her book, “Redefining Diva”, I think she said is the title….
Oooh, she just quoted we are “perfectly imperfect”…I likey
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:53 am
Celisea ~ that shouldn’t be hard to. Everyone’s ego has been marred a bit in life.
What’s deck dining. You guys are jumping from deck to deck in the subdivision. You say you’re participating in deck dining like it’s a new sport (lololol).
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:55 am
leggs – I pressure washed house (and patio) last year. hence why I won’t hire anyone to do just the patio. I may have to break down and do it myself since I do have a pressure washer. I just hate manual labor. lol.
s/h – how much should what cost?
court – pressure washing isn’t difficult but you won’t get me up a ladder trying to pressure wash the house. no sirree.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:57 am
Courtside ~ I’ve never tried pressure washing myself, but if you don’t use the right amount of water pressure can’t you blow the shingles off the house or even blow the gutters down. I D K, just asking. It doesn’t look easy. A co-worker does my house for $100. I’d rather him sweat.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:59 am
Leggs – He’ll be fine. He’s just one that’s not quick to let on his ego has taken a hit…
From what I hear, formal dining (the whole nine) on the deck. We’ll see how fun this is gonna be. I looking forward to it. He’s got a pretty cool circle, so that’s half the battle
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:01 pm
Gotcha, Celisea. Sounds good. I may just do that once I get my yard looking right again. Formal dining on the deck. Wait, I don’t have a deck (lol).
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
12:02 pm
@Leggs deck dining is bougie for formal dining on the big deck…
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:02 pm
-Courtside Ditto what Leggs said in her 11:57 in reference to pressure washing.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:03 pm
I’ve pressured washed my house about 3 times. I borrowed from my neighbor. He came over to help, but I told him “I got it.”
He stayed though and went around the house with me until I finished. This is the same dude, when I first moved in, would watch for me if I got home after dark. Once I pulled in, his lights would go out. He was a super super cool dude. He looked out for all the women on the street. Not like THAT!!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:03 pm
C – are there many that are willing to let on their egos took a hit? lol.
leggs – I rarely (almost never) go out back. I went out last weekend and laughed because everything was just as my mother left it from last summer. she went outside to smoke and her little setup was still set up. lol.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:04 pm
Deck Dining. . . I’ve been doing that since I became a homeowner in 2008, just didn’t know there was an official name for it, LOL!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:04 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
That’s real cool, Celisea. Everyone needs a good neighbor. I’m the one most of my neighbors come to for whatever….
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
disco – I know. He just wanted me to make sure I kept a straight face.
He wasn’t suppose to tell me…
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
are there many that are willing to let on their egos took a hit? lol. – I was thinking the same thing, disco!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:07 pm
I just hate he rented that house. He was definitely the epitome of “good neighbor.”
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:07 pm
Disco, all this handy man work, if $99 is to much to put up a ceiling fan?
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:08 pm
Celisea ~ just paid attention to your moniker. It makes me think of the cover girl commercials (lol).
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:09 pm
S/H – as far as I’m concerned the going rate for installing a ceiling fan should be a plate of food and a couple of beers.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:10 pm
Leggs – That’s how I’m feeling 2013. It’s been a great year…so far and I’m hoping, Lord willing, I make it all the way through on this beat….light, breezy and easy. Work is good, home is good, love is grrreat (lolol)! So, I’m looking to sail all the way though
Alright, gotta prepare and make sure my notes are good. Gotta to present 3 times on our All Hands call at 1:00
BBL
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:10 pm
-disco I was thinking the SAME thing, LOL!!!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
Snatching my card back from Disco, (LOL) I’ll tell Wells Fargo and Ga Power that next time they want to know why I haven’t paid them (LOL)
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
s/h – when small stuff like that comes up is when I miss not living at home. at home I had a built in supply of free labor, whatever I needed. movers, workers, drivers, landscapers, you name it.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
Single and Happy LMBO at snatching your card back!!!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:12 pm
Snatching it back from MsMoni too (LOL)
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:12 pm
I’m sitting here wondering why my shoulders and armpit area is hurting so much. I just remembered I joined up for the Fitness Challenge here at work and had to do crunches and push ups for 1.5 mins (lol). I know that’s not a long time, but damn I’m sore just above my chest to the shoulders…just that area!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
S/H – as far as I’m concerned the going rate for installing a ceiling fan should be a plate of food and a couple of beers. – that’s how I pay as well. YEP!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
Disco, my close friends get to use the friend card a maximum of 3 times, then you got to pay
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
@Disco it has to be more than 2 egg sandmiches and a glass of kool-aid….:)
@MissMoni. I would do it free for you…
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:14 pm
s/h – really I don’t think $99 is too much. thing is, I can’t speak for most people but me in particular, I would like to go in and swap out each and every light fixture in the house at one time. at $99/fixture that’s not likely. home depot won’t cut a sister a break like a handyman will. some of these fellas hustling will gladly take the plate, those beers and you can throw them off $20 or $30 and be good.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:14 pm
I didn’t get a card so I’m good (lol).
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:15 pm
Leggs, well I don’t drink beer, and I can cook. so not enough payment for me (LOL)
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:15 pm
durty – for real work, hard work, a man putting in work – it would be like thanksgiving up in that camp and I’d give him food to go. what???
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:16 pm
Pizza and beer, Durty, Pizza and beer (maybe chicken wings).
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:18 pm
Disco the only difference is if one of those guys crosses up a wire and your house burns down. Just hope the insurance company doesn’t investigate and find out that’s what it was, because they’re not going to pay since you didn’t use a licensed contractor. I know people do it all the time an nothing happens, but there are time when things go wrong. You would come out better doing it yourself.
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:18 pm
leggs – pizza and beer for light fixtures. a dude lay down some wood floors or some tile and he gets a full fledged Sunday dinner with some pound cake.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:19 pm
-Hey Durty!!! *Pulls out Home Improvement list.*
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
Well, call me silly cause I paid my electrician $75 to put up my ceiling fan. That was a couple of years ago.
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
s/h – yeah yeah yeah. I get all that and that’s why here (away from folks I trust) I do pay “the man” to get stuff done. doesn’t mean I can’t complain about the man’s jacked up prices. folks clown me because I still take my car to the dealership for service. at home I’d use a shade tree mechanic. here? I don’t know these folks like that.
Durty Burd (What happen to Amazon Red?)
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
@Leggs you will have to cook one of those southerner Sunday dinners for me…. Mac @ cheese, ham, turkey, collar greens etc…. When do you need me to start?
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:21 pm
Well since you guys pay in food and beer, and these people pay in $ I guess I better get back to work (LOL)
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:22 pm
And, of course, I’ll ask if they can work with that type of payment. All depends on the job at hand. Naturally, I don’t think pressuring washing my house calls for a plate of food. I remember helping a girlfriend move. We called up some male friends and paid them with beer and weed (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:23 pm
I feel you disco. Laying down a floor definitely deserves Sunday dinner minus the red KoolAid!
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:25 pm
leggs – re the weed payment. don’t judge me but I paid many a babysitter that way in my day. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:27 pm
I love to cook, Durty, that’s not a problem for me. Unfortunately, you’re a day late and a dollar short. Bluz found me my handyman. I don’t plan on letting him go. He’s too handy (lolololol). But I do have to pay him with money and a couple of beers.
Ummm, when my pockets are tight, I’ll call you because I always have food (lolol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:29 pm
Good one, Single!
That was great payment back then, disco (lol). I remember when “gold” and “black” was premium. I have no idea what’s out there now (lolol).
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:31 pm
-Leggs I’m hollering over here at the weed payments!!!
Durty Bird (Hey page1908)
March 14th, 2013
12:54 pm
Man times have changed back in the day you use to get paid in food and puddy, now weed is all you need….
@Leggs for a Catholic girl you are very street savvy.. Don’t let that catholic skirt fool you…
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
12:54 pm
Leggs – after you’ve gotten to know the handyman better and use him a lot, he’ll do some light work for beer and food! He charged me only half the price I would have had to pay someone to replace my porch roof. I’m lucky to know two handymans. Mags is also a handyman and I was excited about that cause I could have probably paid him with a BJ! LOL! Too bad…
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
1:11 pm
wow, back just in time, now I like bluz payment plan better
but even that gets old (LOL)
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
1:14 pm
leggs in a catholic school girl outfit Hmmmmmm
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
1:21 pm
I think I have one real friend from high school,college..I think he is the one guy I’m realest with on the friends side.
My friends are my brothers and cousins..grown folks male stuff? These are the folk I pick and choose to ping depending on our mutual interests.
I took after my dad. He has aquantances and business associates but Not friends outside of his family. Very guarded!
I have tried the male friend thing a Lil bit after getting married. Folks that u get to know when u are both(or all) adults always come with wrinkles that you may not vibe with. And it takes being burnt to realize that it was a mistake to call them ‘friends’
I will stick with family,but have acquaintances.
Like tissue(dhudhu paper), u use acquaintances only when warranted then Flush!
Hey MIA!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
1:47 pm
Exiled – How do you feel about Queen having friends, female and male, outside of family?
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:11 pm
marco……
ex – family is all good but I still give a side eye to the person that doesn’t have any friends. I remember growing up we couldn’t invite outside people to our birthday parties or events. it was all cousins, all the time.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
2:15 pm
polo,
Disco, for me to much family isn’t any good either, still not enough time for me.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
2:23 pm
Just because someone is “blood” or family does not mean they can automatically be trusted or considered a friend. They do get somewhat of a pass in the beginning since you can’t choose blood like you do your friends. But once they deem themselves untrustworthy, well you know what you gotta do……..
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:24 pm
s/h – family has it’s pros and cons. still, you don’t get to choose your family and they don’t get to choose you. this is why I say no friends is a red flag. sure a person can argue they don’t want or need friends but I still find it suspect. lol.
abc
March 14th, 2013
2:24 pm
Sweetie and me are intolerant of the other having close friends of the opposite sex. Neither of us will have any of that.
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:26 pm
with all our home improvement talk this a.m. I have decided that I am going to go cruise the aisles of home depot today. I have about an hour to kill after work.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
2:27 pm
disco – It’s suspect to me too. I don’t think it’s healthy. You don’t have even one person in this world you can call and shoot the breeze with every blue moon, nobody you can call if you get in a spot?
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:29 pm
kimmie – nobody who likes you? nobody who trusts you? nobody who (outside of your family) gives a dang about what happens to you? yep. suspect.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
2:32 pm
What’s up good peeps? Um…..looks like a bunch of nothing lol
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
2:34 pm
Disco, to much family for me is someone who always doing something with their family, all our plans have to be made around their family, too much family for me.
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:42 pm
slim – a bunch of nothing? you got that right.
s/h – I’m with you. I don’t want to be bothered with my family so why would I sign on to be bothered with someone else’s?
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
2:44 pm
Durty ~ born in The Bronx, you better be street savvy!
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
2:44 pm
Queen has female friends and All of them go waay back with her.growing up within same neighborhood and schools etc. She has had some friends as an adult but like me,a lot of them have fallen off because of similar type issues…and with u ladies,it can be even worse because of either side gossiping or not being a true friend but an ulterior motive friend..u know that type thing.
As for male friends,she had business associates or same business/career interests type male
associates. These are people she wld typically call if she has some career type questions or stuff to ask or discuss.
Beyond that,I don’t see the need for those male friends unless we are All friends as a family.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
2:44 pm
Have a good afternoon ya’ll. I’m about to head to the doctor. I’ll probably check in from the waiting room to see what ya’ll are talking about!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
2:44 pm
Thought you guys would have said more…took a 2 hr. 15 min. lunch
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
2:46 pm
Single – Too much of anything is not healthy. There has to be balance. I don’t want family or friends up under me every second. Gotta spread all that out. But I value the place they all have in my life.
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:48 pm
ex – friends as a family puts me in mind of us having to be friends with the children of our parents’ friends when growing up. those kids were the exception to our cousin only birthday parties. lol. most of those relationships never really stuck though I am still friends today with one whose mother and my mother were friends when they were children.
leggs – (this is instigating disco talking) – what you was doing for 2 hours and 15 minutes? lol.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
2:48 pm
Disco…I know people but I don’t wanna use the word ‘friend’ unless it is a loose definition.
I wld invite a few people to a partyy and say in their face,’friend’s’ but to be honest,they’re acquaintances.
I ummm,withdraw the tongue at calling folks ‘friend’s’ because like I said,a friend is a ride or die and a lot of these u might call friends will balk when the rubber hits the iron.
I ain’t gon call them friends then.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
2:49 pm
nobody you can call if you get in a spot?
You better have somebody, at least ONE somebody. Family will take the insurance money to bury you and get the heck on, leaving you atop ground, and having the state perform a pauper’s burial
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
2:51 pm
Disco..or when my money gets long they start just saying stuff bout me…
He boogie,he this he that…
See..
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:52 pm
C – right!! I have some family members that I am friends with and I have some family members that would make me want to cross the street, turn around, walk the other way and pretend I didn’t see them.
cba
March 14th, 2013
2:52 pm
Talked to a female friend yesterday for 3hrs 25mins……was that excessive?? LOL Talked 1hr 20min on her cell then switched to her home phone for an additional 2hr 5mins….damn!! My wife came home, went to the park, went to publix, came home and I’m still talking. Now I know why she sorta rolled her eyes at me. My friend husband was at home because she asked him a question. We go way back to jr high school and I guess we should check in more often than every couple of years.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
2:55 pm
disco – Okay!
Yeah, you can get all lovey dovey and exclude folks out of your world if you want and all in the name of love….hope you ain’t leaning on family seeing about you for burial or retirement home type issues. And I hope you ain’t relying on your boo…per se. Better get some stuff in place, “legally” and make sure stuff is ironclad so if folks do “take the money and run”, they can’t get around cashing the check
disco
March 14th, 2013
2:55 pm
ex – my friends and I call each other names all the time. if the shoe fits, then it fits. in particular one of my friends is a little close to the street. I referred to her as ghetto fabulous once and my brother chimed in that she wasn’t ghetto fabulous, she was “ghetto fantastic”. I thought that was hilarious and had to share it with her. now when she makes hood moves I call her fantastic.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
3:01 pm
cba..I will take that friendship….it’s waaay back and deep.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
3:05 pm
disco ~
I had a lunch date that went very well. Easy convo, lots of laughter, Had a 15 min wait and we just took our time learning about each other. Sat at table a little longer than necessary still talking. They had a gin fizz on the drink menu. I so wanted to order one, but had to come back to work. Wonder what they taste like now. Used to love slow gin fizz back in the day.
For some reason, I feel you waiting for my answer with bated breath…(lol)
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:07 pm
leggs – thanks for sharing. I was really just being funny talking about what took you so long. lunch date? mmmppph. check you out. lol. since you said learning about each other I take it this fellow is new. care to share? if not, that’s cool but you know we love “how we met” stories and all that.
I probably haven’t had a sloe gin fizz in 20 years.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
3:09 pm
Disco..because u know each other like that..the relationship is organic.
People I was organic with like that were folks I went to high school and college with. A lot have passed or live in other foreign countries and we lost touch.
Re establishing similar type friendships as adults with new folks is hit or miss.
I ain’t got time for that.
I have one Haitian former associate.. Cool man..we vibe in some areas.
But he is very str8,a Christian!
So I ain’t going to go in with him coz I ain’t ready for Jesus like that!
Sad but It’s true. I got some derty Satanic wrinkles myself. Makes life a li spicy!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:14 pm
Re establishing similar type friendships as adults with new folks is hit or miss.
Exiled – I agree.
Leggs/Disco – I have not had a sloe gin fizz in years either! Probably cause the last one I had was after work with some friends from my first real job after college. It was at the old Fitzgeralds’s bar downtown. I had ONE, got sick and had the worst hangover when I got home!!
I remember them being good though!
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
3:18 pm
I do have a question related to the topic…how do you all feel about an SO going to visit a person of the opposite sex, say if they live in another state??? (without you of course)
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:21 pm
Slim – Not acceptable. Just not a good look, whatever way you try to slice it. Not respectable at all, unless maybe that person is incapacitated in the hospital.
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:24 pm
slim – now that one gets very tricky. there’s definitely going to be some variables at play. I won’t just give an automatic no because I wouldn’t accept an automatic no from someone. for instance is the trip just to see that person or was the trip about something else and that person just happened to live in the area? is this a person I’ve met and know reasonably well or some person he just all of a sudden knows but he forgot to tell me about her? lol.
cba
March 14th, 2013
3:27 pm
Yep Ex, the friendship is pretty solid. Have a handful like that, male and female.
They are the ones after you finish talking, you feel better than before the conversation.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
3:27 pm
disco ~ yes, he’s new. Met him last Friday and we hit it off. He called me Tuesday for a lunch, dinner or meet for drinks date. I opted for lunch. He’s very nice and chivalrous. We have quite a bit in common. He did ask me out again to see Argo with him. I accepted.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:28 pm
disco – You are right, there could be many variables, but as Slim originally presented it, no.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:29 pm
They are the ones after you finish talking, you feel better than before the conversation.
cba – That’s the best kind!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:30 pm
leggs – well awww sookie sookie now.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
3:31 pm
disco – The trip being about they never have been to this place before…the person just moved there not too long ago….no other business in the state and has never met the significant other.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
3:32 pm
kimmie ~ you used to go to Fitzgerald’s. I did too. Two for one drinks on Wednesdays. Those Long Island Ice Teas will have you doing the wobble for real and it’s not a pretty dance.
Loved, loved Fitzgerald’s!!!
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
3:34 pm
3:18 Hello!
@SlimNu…please?!!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:39 pm
Slim – Bull ish. Not even up for discussion.
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
3:39 pm
Leggs – That place was the bomb!!
cba
March 14th, 2013
3:41 pm
Leggs~ I tried to resist typing this but you have a good sense of humor.
You are off to a good start, at least you didn’t mentioned he needed to catch a ride
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:42 pm
slim – well with the new set of circumstances I have to second kimmie. wish a ninja would. better yet, I don’t wish it because if it even came up I’d tell him to go and will have locks changed and all of his stuff moved out when he gets back. don’t play with the kid. at that point if you ask and don’t get you’ll just not ask the next time.
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:43 pm
leggs – so when is the next date? and where exactly did you meet him? humor me. I’m living vicariously through you. I’ve seen one brother in the last few days or so and that was the UPS guy.
daddy swiss
March 14th, 2013
3:49 pm
“I’ve seen one brother in the last few days or so and that was the UPS guy”
disco — That sounds like the plot to every p0rno ever made.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
3:50 pm
kimmie/disco – My thoughts exactly
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:54 pm
swiss – well that’s most def not where I was going. lol. my friends are always saying that they can’t believe I never meet people and I’m always explaining that my regular day to day activities do not usually include seeing any (black) men. there are none in my neighborhood (well one married man that I don’t see often), I rarely see any on my drive to work, there are none at my job. as far as I can tell there are a few in the building but I don’t always see them everyday. I go to the gym fairly regular but it’s hit or miss there as well. right now the UPS guy is all I got. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
3:54 pm
cba ~ boy stop! That was funny.
disco ~ I met him at the Mexican Restaurant. Remember I was going their for karaoke and was going to sit and have dinner with the 65 year old man. He never showed. I sat at the bar with two men on my left and a woman came in and sat to my right. The 4 of us connected and had a blast that evening. We exchanged numbers. Next date is to the movies, date not set. He said he’ll call me in a day or two knowing I’m driving to pick my child up for Spring Break and spend a little time w/her before she discards me for the rest of the week to hang with her friends.
daddy swiss
March 14th, 2013
3:57 pm
disco — Just start ordering some adult toys online and wait for the magic to be delivered right to your door. lol
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:58 pm
leggs – what? the old coot never showed? did he even call? maybe his “old-timers” kicked in. lol. that’s too funny. old boy at the bar said old man’s loss is his gain. good luck.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:00 pm
what? the old coot never showed? did he even call? maybe his “old-timers” kicked in. lol. that’s too funny.
Now THAT’S janky behavior…standing folks up.
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
swiss – magic? you crazy.
C – that’s serendipity. lol. had the old coot showed up leggs would have been stuck talking to him and pretending to be engaged in conversation. as it turns out, he stood her up and she met somebody more her speed.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
Standing a person up is total disrespect….It doesn’t cost you a lot to send a quick call or text to say you cannot make it. (Unless of course you got arrested or something..because you surely do not want to waste your 1 call to cancel a lunch date)
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
O(y’alls)/topic: I’m wondering if the cute white dude’s wife is stepping out. She’s a housewife with 4 kids, this is her 2nd “girls” trip since October….WITHOUT HIM!! She’s in Europe right now, on his dime. Anybody heading to Europe, it’s gon be me, SO and kids…all in tow. So he’s doing client visits while his sons hang out up here…
If I swore, I’d say “I swear she’s cheating”, but I don’t…lol So I’ll just say, I declare that woman is stepping out on him.
Y’all resume. I just wanted to put that out there in the airwaves cause I’m just so dang shocked that he’s going along with that. I know they had problems ALLLLLL last summer. Hmmmmm
Night folks!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
4:04 pm
Disco – I was thinking the same thing – things worked out just like they should have. Eff his old behind!!!LOL!!!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:04 pm
disco – Indeed, the old silver lining
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:05 pm
slim – I told you his “old timers” kicked in. lol. he didn’t forget the date he just hasn’t remembered it yet. he’ll show up one day and be sitting there wondering where leggs is at.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:06 pm
Lawd I’m glad I’m off the market. I know that sounds teenager-ish, but who wanna deal with BS. Just hope everyone can find what I have
Okay…night for real
Durty Burd (Slim-Nu let him go he will return)
March 14th, 2013
4:08 pm
Slim-Nu since this is a friend dude should be able to go…Unless you are married your rights are very limited. Besides the brotha has been strapping it up for 4 yrs now, he deserves a break! lol
Disco already has all the toys….She looking for new inventions!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:10 pm
kimmie ~ that was an understatement on Fitzgerald’s Man, the memories. One time I parked in the wrong place. Didn’t know it was a gated parking lot. Went for my car and it was the only one behind the locked gate.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:12 pm
Yeah, I thought it janky too. I get to work yesterday and there’s an email from him asking if I had a great weekend. I responded, “I sure did.”
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:13 pm
DB – even not being married I’d see old boy’s request as his cue to leave. like I said before – don’t play.
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:13 pm
Ok Leggs, maybe that’s a good omen. Similar to Mrs SC first encounter, now look where she IS…..happily married!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:15 pm
You guys are funny. I sat there wondering if he did show up what would I do. Since it was long past dinner hour, I would have continued talking to my new friend. If he came up to me at the bar I would have introduced the two, if he grabbed a seat and watched me, I’m off the hook (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:17 pm
cba ~ yeah I know Mrs. SC encounter. Sounds good, except me no want to marry again!
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:22 pm
please remind me to ask Mrs SC what her encounter was
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:23 pm
SlimNu..he didn’t call proly because he had no more minutes on his buzzer!
Prepaid!
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:25 pm
Ok Leggs, time will tell…..time will tell, you got the trappings
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:26 pm
Disco..u nosey!
@4:22
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:31 pm
ex – yep.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:33 pm
School was stood up but snagged another.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:38 pm
disco ~ I don’t think she would mind me recounting it. She was at Applebee’s waiting on her date when a gentlemen at the bar caught her eye and his eye caught her. She was honest with him and told him she was waiting on her date. Normally, she wouldn’t have spoken to another while out waiting for her date to appear but something about him intrigued her. They exchanged business cards. I don’t recall if her date stood her up or not or that she was no longer feeling him once he arrived. She met her future husband when they exchanged business cards.
cba ~ I keep duct tape in my car now. I’m coming over and duct tape your fingers to your sides…no typing for you (said like Soup Nazi).
Durty Burd (Slim-Nu let him go he will return)
March 14th, 2013
4:38 pm
@Disco ..Once again limited rights as a dating couple… If Slim-Nu says no and he goes anyway,then Slim_Nu has put herself in an emotional bad state of mind…In which durty will find her old e-mail address and provide ear to listen and shoulder to lean on… jk not really…
My point is why fight something if you don’t trust what your SO is doing? If you lack trust it is time to prepare for your next move…Don’t let anyone waste your time it is valuable…. K.I.M.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:41 pm
disco – Now that is funny…buddy hasn’t remembered it yet
Durty – HUSH lol
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:41 pm
Disco…the moral of that Leggs story:
It’s good to have a wandering eye!
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:42 pm
Durty – Go alright but no need to call me when you get back. Naw, playa…not happening.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:43 pm
you forgot some words, Ex = “while single!”
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:43 pm
DB – I get the limited rights as a dating couple. I’m the one that always says you are either married or you’re not. I don’t care if you’ve been living together for 20 years, if you aren’t married you aren’t married. having said that. if a man of mine tried a stunt like that I’d have no problem releasing him. that’s all I’m saying. I’m most certainly not trying to take away his rights. he’s a grown azz man. he knows what’s what.
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:45 pm
ex – I thought the moral was to date old dudes with failing memories.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:53 pm
Disco…u wanna be careful with the failing memory folks..they might even forget the location of ur huney..u don’t want that.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:55 pm
EOD has nothing to do with anything we’ve discussed today, I just thought it funny.
Due to sanitary reasons we will not and cannot accept any money that comes out of bras. ~ Management
My weekend starts in 30 mins.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:56 pm
They can’t get to the honey if they forget to meet up with you.
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:58 pm
Dam Ex….probably as long as he doesn’t misplace his glasses…..he’ll be alright
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
5:01 pm
Wait, do people who wear glasses make love with their glasses on??? Much like keeping your socks on (lol).
disco
March 14th, 2013
5:02 pm
leggs – funny question. guess you are still in your silly place. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
5:03 pm
Yep (lol).