Dating: What about your friends?
I don’t know if you were aware, but apparently the acceptable number of male friends a woman is allowed to have is 4. After that, you start to look a little to suspicious. This is according to one man, of course. A male reader wrote an email saying that his new love interest has at least 7 close guy friends. This is 3 too many!
I don’t know how this particular number was deemed the safe number of opposite sex friendships allowed, but I think it is a little nonsensical. I know everyone does not believe that men and women can be platonic friends. However, just because a woman has close male friends does not necessarily mean it is cause for concern.
When a woman has male friends, do guys who pursue her consider it a red flag? What if a man had a lot of women friends? Why do some folks become so suspicious of this?
What do you think it means when a woman has few or no close women friends? If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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daddy swiss
March 14th, 2013
3:57 pm
disco — Just start ordering some adult toys online and wait for the magic to be delivered right to your door. lol
disco
March 14th, 2013
3:58 pm
leggs – what? the old coot never showed? did he even call? maybe his “old-timers” kicked in. lol. that’s too funny. old boy at the bar said old man’s loss is his gain. good luck.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:00 pm
what? the old coot never showed? did he even call? maybe his “old-timers” kicked in. lol. that’s too funny.
Now THAT’S janky behavior…standing folks up.
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
swiss – magic? you crazy.
C – that’s serendipity. lol. had the old coot showed up leggs would have been stuck talking to him and pretending to be engaged in conversation. as it turns out, he stood her up and she met somebody more her speed.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
Standing a person up is total disrespect….It doesn’t cost you a lot to send a quick call or text to say you cannot make it. (Unless of course you got arrested or something..because you surely do not want to waste your 1 call to cancel a lunch date)
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:03 pm
O(y’alls)/topic: I’m wondering if the cute white dude’s wife is stepping out. She’s a housewife with 4 kids, this is her 2nd “girls” trip since October….WITHOUT HIM!! She’s in Europe right now, on his dime. Anybody heading to Europe, it’s gon be me, SO and kids…all in tow. So he’s doing client visits while his sons hang out up here…
If I swore, I’d say “I swear she’s cheating”, but I don’t…lol So I’ll just say, I declare that woman is stepping out on him.
Y’all resume. I just wanted to put that out there in the airwaves cause I’m just so dang shocked that he’s going along with that. I know they had problems ALLLLLL last summer. Hmmmmm
Night folks!
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
4:04 pm
Disco – I was thinking the same thing – things worked out just like they should have. Eff his old behind!!!LOL!!!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:04 pm
disco – Indeed, the old silver lining
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:05 pm
slim – I told you his “old timers” kicked in. lol. he didn’t forget the date he just hasn’t remembered it yet. he’ll show up one day and be sitting there wondering where leggs is at.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
4:06 pm
Lawd I’m glad I’m off the market. I know that sounds teenager-ish, but who wanna deal with BS. Just hope everyone can find what I have
Okay…night for real
Durty Burd (Slim-Nu let him go he will return)
March 14th, 2013
4:08 pm
Slim-Nu since this is a friend dude should be able to go…Unless you are married your rights are very limited. Besides the brotha has been strapping it up for 4 yrs now, he deserves a break! lol
Disco already has all the toys….She looking for new inventions!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:10 pm
kimmie ~ that was an understatement on Fitzgerald’s Man, the memories. One time I parked in the wrong place. Didn’t know it was a gated parking lot. Went for my car and it was the only one behind the locked gate.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:12 pm
Yeah, I thought it janky too. I get to work yesterday and there’s an email from him asking if I had a great weekend. I responded, “I sure did.”
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:13 pm
DB – even not being married I’d see old boy’s request as his cue to leave. like I said before – don’t play.
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:13 pm
Ok Leggs, maybe that’s a good omen. Similar to Mrs SC first encounter, now look where she IS…..happily married!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:15 pm
You guys are funny. I sat there wondering if he did show up what would I do. Since it was long past dinner hour, I would have continued talking to my new friend. If he came up to me at the bar I would have introduced the two, if he grabbed a seat and watched me, I’m off the hook (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:17 pm
cba ~ yeah I know Mrs. SC encounter. Sounds good, except me no want to marry again!
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:22 pm
please remind me to ask Mrs SC what her encounter was
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:23 pm
SlimNu..he didn’t call proly because he had no more minutes on his buzzer!
Prepaid!
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:25 pm
Ok Leggs, time will tell…..time will tell, you got the trappings
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:26 pm
Disco..u nosey!
@4:22
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:31 pm
ex – yep.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:33 pm
School was stood up but snagged another.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:38 pm
disco ~ I don’t think she would mind me recounting it. She was at Applebee’s waiting on her date when a gentlemen at the bar caught her eye and his eye caught her. She was honest with him and told him she was waiting on her date. Normally, she wouldn’t have spoken to another while out waiting for her date to appear but something about him intrigued her. They exchanged business cards. I don’t recall if her date stood her up or not or that she was no longer feeling him once he arrived. She met her future husband when they exchanged business cards.
cba ~ I keep duct tape in my car now. I’m coming over and duct tape your fingers to your sides…no typing for you (said like Soup Nazi).
Durty Burd (Slim-Nu let him go he will return)
March 14th, 2013
4:38 pm
@Disco ..Once again limited rights as a dating couple… If Slim-Nu says no and he goes anyway,then Slim_Nu has put herself in an emotional bad state of mind…In which durty will find her old e-mail address and provide ear to listen and shoulder to lean on… jk not really…
My point is why fight something if you don’t trust what your SO is doing? If you lack trust it is time to prepare for your next move…Don’t let anyone waste your time it is valuable…. K.I.M.
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:41 pm
disco – Now that is funny…buddy hasn’t remembered it yet
Durty – HUSH lol
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:41 pm
Disco…the moral of that Leggs story:
It’s good to have a wandering eye!
SlimNu
March 14th, 2013
4:42 pm
Durty – Go alright but no need to call me when you get back. Naw, playa…not happening.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:43 pm
you forgot some words, Ex = “while single!”
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:43 pm
DB – I get the limited rights as a dating couple. I’m the one that always says you are either married or you’re not. I don’t care if you’ve been living together for 20 years, if you aren’t married you aren’t married. having said that. if a man of mine tried a stunt like that I’d have no problem releasing him. that’s all I’m saying. I’m most certainly not trying to take away his rights. he’s a grown azz man. he knows what’s what.
disco
March 14th, 2013
4:45 pm
ex – I thought the moral was to date old dudes with failing memories.
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
4:53 pm
Disco…u wanna be careful with the failing memory folks..they might even forget the location of ur huney..u don’t want that.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:55 pm
EOD has nothing to do with anything we’ve discussed today, I just thought it funny.
Due to sanitary reasons we will not and cannot accept any money that comes out of bras. ~ Management
My weekend starts in 30 mins.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
4:56 pm
They can’t get to the honey if they forget to meet up with you.
cba
March 14th, 2013
4:58 pm
Dam Ex….probably as long as he doesn’t misplace his glasses…..he’ll be alright
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
5:01 pm
Wait, do people who wear glasses make love with their glasses on??? Much like keeping your socks on (lol).
disco
March 14th, 2013
5:02 pm
leggs – funny question. guess you are still in your silly place. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
5:03 pm
Yep (lol).