Dating: What about your friends?
I don’t know if you were aware, but apparently the acceptable number of male friends a woman is allowed to have is 4. After that, you start to look a little to suspicious. This is according to one man, of course. A male reader wrote an email saying that his new love interest has at least 7 close guy friends. This is 3 too many!
I don’t know how this particular number was deemed the safe number of opposite sex friendships allowed, but I think it is a little nonsensical. I know everyone does not believe that men and women can be platonic friends. However, just because a woman has close male friends does not necessarily mean it is cause for concern.
When a woman has male friends, do guys who pursue her consider it a red flag? What if a man had a lot of women friends? Why do some folks become so suspicious of this?
What do you think it means when a woman has few or no close women friends? If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
March 14th, 2013
11:55 am
leggs – I pressure washed house (and patio) last year. hence why I won’t hire anyone to do just the patio. I may have to break down and do it myself since I do have a pressure washer. I just hate manual labor. lol.
s/h – how much should what cost?
court – pressure washing isn’t difficult but you won’t get me up a ladder trying to pressure wash the house. no sirree.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:57 am
Courtside ~ I’ve never tried pressure washing myself, but if you don’t use the right amount of water pressure can’t you blow the shingles off the house or even blow the gutters down. I D K, just asking. It doesn’t look easy. A co-worker does my house for $100. I’d rather him sweat.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:59 am
Leggs – He’ll be fine. He’s just one that’s not quick to let on his ego has taken a hit…
From what I hear, formal dining (the whole nine) on the deck. We’ll see how fun this is gonna be. I looking forward to it. He’s got a pretty cool circle, so that’s half the battle
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:01 pm
Gotcha, Celisea. Sounds good. I may just do that once I get my yard looking right again. Formal dining on the deck. Wait, I don’t have a deck (lol).
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
12:02 pm
@Leggs deck dining is bougie for formal dining on the big deck…
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:02 pm
-Courtside Ditto what Leggs said in her 11:57 in reference to pressure washing.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:03 pm
I’ve pressured washed my house about 3 times. I borrowed from my neighbor. He came over to help, but I told him “I got it.”
He stayed though and went around the house with me until I finished. This is the same dude, when I first moved in, would watch for me if I got home after dark. Once I pulled in, his lights would go out. He was a super super cool dude. He looked out for all the women on the street. Not like THAT!!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:03 pm
C – are there many that are willing to let on their egos took a hit? lol.
leggs – I rarely (almost never) go out back. I went out last weekend and laughed because everything was just as my mother left it from last summer. she went outside to smoke and her little setup was still set up. lol.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:04 pm
Deck Dining. . . I’ve been doing that since I became a homeowner in 2008, just didn’t know there was an official name for it, LOL!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:04 pm
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Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
That’s real cool, Celisea. Everyone needs a good neighbor. I’m the one most of my neighbors come to for whatever….
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
disco – I know. He just wanted me to make sure I kept a straight face.
He wasn’t suppose to tell me…
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:06 pm
are there many that are willing to let on their egos took a hit? lol. – I was thinking the same thing, disco!
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:07 pm
I just hate he rented that house. He was definitely the epitome of “good neighbor.”
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:07 pm
Disco, all this handy man work, if $99 is to much to put up a ceiling fan?
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:08 pm
Celisea ~ just paid attention to your moniker. It makes me think of the cover girl commercials (lol).
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:09 pm
S/H – as far as I’m concerned the going rate for installing a ceiling fan should be a plate of food and a couple of beers.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:10 pm
Leggs – That’s how I’m feeling 2013. It’s been a great year…so far and I’m hoping, Lord willing, I make it all the way through on this beat….light, breezy and easy. Work is good, home is good, love is grrreat (lolol)! So, I’m looking to sail all the way though
Alright, gotta prepare and make sure my notes are good. Gotta to present 3 times on our All Hands call at 1:00
BBL
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:10 pm
-disco I was thinking the SAME thing, LOL!!!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
Snatching my card back from Disco, (LOL) I’ll tell Wells Fargo and Ga Power that next time they want to know why I haven’t paid them (LOL)
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
s/h – when small stuff like that comes up is when I miss not living at home. at home I had a built in supply of free labor, whatever I needed. movers, workers, drivers, landscapers, you name it.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:11 pm
Single and Happy LMBO at snatching your card back!!!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:12 pm
Snatching it back from MsMoni too (LOL)
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:12 pm
I’m sitting here wondering why my shoulders and armpit area is hurting so much. I just remembered I joined up for the Fitness Challenge here at work and had to do crunches and push ups for 1.5 mins (lol). I know that’s not a long time, but damn I’m sore just above my chest to the shoulders…just that area!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
S/H – as far as I’m concerned the going rate for installing a ceiling fan should be a plate of food and a couple of beers. – that’s how I pay as well. YEP!
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
Disco, my close friends get to use the friend card a maximum of 3 times, then you got to pay
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
12:13 pm
@Disco it has to be more than 2 egg sandmiches and a glass of kool-aid….:)
@MissMoni. I would do it free for you…
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:14 pm
s/h – really I don’t think $99 is too much. thing is, I can’t speak for most people but me in particular, I would like to go in and swap out each and every light fixture in the house at one time. at $99/fixture that’s not likely. home depot won’t cut a sister a break like a handyman will. some of these fellas hustling will gladly take the plate, those beers and you can throw them off $20 or $30 and be good.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:14 pm
I didn’t get a card so I’m good (lol).
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:15 pm
Leggs, well I don’t drink beer, and I can cook. so not enough payment for me (LOL)
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:15 pm
durty – for real work, hard work, a man putting in work – it would be like thanksgiving up in that camp and I’d give him food to go. what???
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:16 pm
Pizza and beer, Durty, Pizza and beer (maybe chicken wings).
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:18 pm
Disco the only difference is if one of those guys crosses up a wire and your house burns down. Just hope the insurance company doesn’t investigate and find out that’s what it was, because they’re not going to pay since you didn’t use a licensed contractor. I know people do it all the time an nothing happens, but there are time when things go wrong. You would come out better doing it yourself.
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:18 pm
leggs – pizza and beer for light fixtures. a dude lay down some wood floors or some tile and he gets a full fledged Sunday dinner with some pound cake.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:19 pm
-Hey Durty!!! *Pulls out Home Improvement list.*
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
Well, call me silly cause I paid my electrician $75 to put up my ceiling fan. That was a couple of years ago.
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
s/h – yeah yeah yeah. I get all that and that’s why here (away from folks I trust) I do pay “the man” to get stuff done. doesn’t mean I can’t complain about the man’s jacked up prices. folks clown me because I still take my car to the dealership for service. at home I’d use a shade tree mechanic. here? I don’t know these folks like that.
Durty Burd (What happen to Amazon Red?)
March 14th, 2013
12:20 pm
@Leggs you will have to cook one of those southerner Sunday dinners for me…. Mac @ cheese, ham, turkey, collar greens etc…. When do you need me to start?
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
12:21 pm
Well since you guys pay in food and beer, and these people pay in $ I guess I better get back to work (LOL)
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:22 pm
And, of course, I’ll ask if they can work with that type of payment. All depends on the job at hand. Naturally, I don’t think pressuring washing my house calls for a plate of food. I remember helping a girlfriend move. We called up some male friends and paid them with beer and weed (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:23 pm
I feel you disco. Laying down a floor definitely deserves Sunday dinner minus the red KoolAid!
disco
March 14th, 2013
12:25 pm
leggs – re the weed payment. don’t judge me but I paid many a babysitter that way in my day. lol.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:27 pm
I love to cook, Durty, that’s not a problem for me. Unfortunately, you’re a day late and a dollar short. Bluz found me my handyman. I don’t plan on letting him go. He’s too handy (lolololol). But I do have to pay him with money and a couple of beers.
Ummm, when my pockets are tight, I’ll call you because I always have food (lolol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
12:29 pm
Good one, Single!
That was great payment back then, disco (lol). I remember when “gold” and “black” was premium. I have no idea what’s out there now (lolol).
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
12:31 pm
-Leggs I’m hollering over here at the weed payments!!!
Durty Bird (Hey page1908)
March 14th, 2013
12:54 pm
Man times have changed back in the day you use to get paid in food and puddy, now weed is all you need….
@Leggs for a Catholic girl you are very street savvy.. Don’t let that catholic skirt fool you…
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
12:54 pm
Leggs – after you’ve gotten to know the handyman better and use him a lot, he’ll do some light work for beer and food! He charged me only half the price I would have had to pay someone to replace my porch roof. I’m lucky to know two handymans. Mags is also a handyman and I was excited about that cause I could have probably paid him with a BJ! LOL! Too bad…
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
1:11 pm
wow, back just in time, now I like bluz payment plan better
but even that gets old (LOL)
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
1:14 pm
leggs in a catholic school girl outfit Hmmmmmm
Exiled
March 14th, 2013
1:21 pm
I think I have one real friend from high school,college..I think he is the one guy I’m realest with on the friends side.
My friends are my brothers and cousins..grown folks male stuff? These are the folk I pick and choose to ping depending on our mutual interests.
I took after my dad. He has aquantances and business associates but Not friends outside of his family. Very guarded!
I have tried the male friend thing a Lil bit after getting married. Folks that u get to know when u are both(or all) adults always come with wrinkles that you may not vibe with. And it takes being burnt to realize that it was a mistake to call them ‘friends’
I will stick with family,but have acquaintances.
Like tissue(dhudhu paper), u use acquaintances only when warranted then Flush!
Hey MIA!