Dating: What about your friends?
I don’t know if you were aware, but apparently the acceptable number of male friends a woman is allowed to have is 4. After that, you start to look a little to suspicious. This is according to one man, of course. A male reader wrote an email saying that his new love interest has at least 7 close guy friends. This is 3 too many!
I don’t know how this particular number was deemed the safe number of opposite sex friendships allowed, but I think it is a little nonsensical. I know everyone does not believe that men and women can be platonic friends. However, just because a woman has close male friends does not necessarily mean it is cause for concern.
When a woman has male friends, do guys who pursue her consider it a red flag? What if a man had a lot of women friends? Why do some folks become so suspicious of this?
What do you think it means when a woman has few or no close women friends? If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:31 am
Damn…To do the heavy lifting??? Move patio furniture??? Y’all sound like a couple of my friends!!! I have one friend that even roped me into putting down hardwood floors in her house!!!
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:31 am
kimmie – I wasn’t really hurt about not being invited to the shower…it was that I didn’t even know she was expecting. She had me in her wedding about 2 years ago…
MsAtl
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
Speaking of which, I need 3 or 4 male volunteers from the blog to move a treadmill. I’’s very heavy. Single? Courtside? DuShawn? Anyone?
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
MissMoni, Disco, let me give you my card “Rent a Husband” we’ll handle all the tough jobs for you (LOL)
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:32 am
Here’s one for you to MsAtl
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:33 am
MissMoni ~ I did just that the beginning of 2013. Let loose those that I felt were bringing me down, too negative, just a mental drain on my psyche. I think about them every so often, but I don’t miss them (lol).
Button
March 14th, 2013
10:34 am
A friend in need is a friend in deed.
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:34 am
court – now that’s the kind of man-friend I need right there. a brother who can lay floors. lol. give me a plumber, a painter and a mechanic and I’m in like Flynn. lol.
disco
March 14th, 2013
10:37 am
court – I was recently getting estimates to have my stairs and hallway done. mentioned it to a friend of mine back home. he was like those prices are crazy. I can do that for you. I was like pack your tools and come visit me.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
10:40 am
“A friend in need is a friend in deed.” just exactly what does this mean?
kimmie
March 14th, 2013
10:40 am
Bluz – I guess that would hurt a little if I was in your wedding just 2 years prior and you didn’t even tell me you were preggers…….
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
10:41 am
Thanks to Bluz, I found a really good and quite reasonable handyman.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:47 am
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:51 am
disco, we went to the class at Home Depot and learned how… turns out that it was not that hard… She tried to help but ended up getting in he way more than anything else……
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
10:52 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ug4bV013KEk
1st throwback song of the day…..
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
10:53 am
O/T – Today is a day that I really can’t wait to go to the doctor!!! I’ve been having some issues with fluid in my ear since yesterday morning and it’s driving me CRAZY!!!! I just want to jab a pen into it! LOL! Just gotta wait until 3:30 and hopefully, the doctor can fix it…
Robert
March 14th, 2013
11:00 am
“If a man has mostly women in his life who he considers his close friends, is it a good sign or a bad one?”
I can only speak for myself. This is a common situation. I have mostly female friends and most of them I have known for a long time. This caused a lot of problems with my current woman. She told me she was not comforatble with me having soo many female friends who call just to say “hello” and reach out to me whenever they have a problem (family, kids, etc.). I am glad my woman is mature enough to understand and not overreact. I guess “if the shoe was on the other foot” I would be mad as hell but I know she had a life before me and I respect her judgement.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:01 am
court – when I lived in the dc area I would get up on Saturday morning to hit home depot. boy oh boy, the men were out in full force. lol. recently I pondered hitting a home depot class but I have to target a store in the right neighborhood for the best prospects. last time I met a guy at home depot he was off his game. his girl called me before I could even get home from the store.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:13 am
“…This caused a lot of problems with my current woman. She told me she was not comforatble with me having soo many female friends who call just to say “hello” and reach out to me whenever they have a problem (family, kids, etc.). I am glad my woman is mature enough to understand and not overreact.”
Sounds like you nose-dived with your last sentence. Glad she’s mature and doesn’t overreact yet it has caused lots of problems with your current. Yeah, ok!
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:16 am
leggs – you silly.
so, any of you ever been involved with a person who had a friend (or family member) that you absolutely could not stand?
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:17 am
disco ~ I will admit I’ve been overly silly today. I already had a girlfriend email and tell me so (lol).
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:19 am
I have, my then husband and his trifling mother! But since I’m not involved with either anymore, I will not speak ill of her. Just thankful I’m not part of the family.
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:21 am
disco, you run your game like a dude and i am feeling that!!! LOLOLOL… Home Depot is a great place to meet women as well…. and you can make some pretty safe assumptions about them when you do!
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:22 am
A little “Blue eyed soul” !!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=65EoK4OelZU
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:26 am
Here’s one for you Courtside / disco:
The last time I met a guy at home depot, I contracted with him to install my ceiling fans. His subtle remarks soon became outright sexual remarks. In the middle of installing the first ceiling fan, I had to ask him to leave. It would be me to find a perverted horny a$$ man who couldn’t keep his eyes on the job at hand.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:26 am
court – run game? me? never that. lol.
leggs – silly just means you are in a good mood. nothing wrong with that.
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:28 am
leggs – was he just some random joe blow at home depot or was he a home depot contractor? one time when I was buying storm/screen doors some guy offered to put them on for me. I thanked him for the offer and went and paid the overpriced home depot guy to do it.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:29 am
I can’t think of the dance we used to do off LowDown, but it was a line dance much like the Electric Slide.
Anybody been paying attention to the new commercial advertising for a bank, I think? There theme song is “What is Hip.” One of my favorite songs in the early 70’s.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:34 am
A random joe blow I was talking to him the middle of the ceiling fan aisle. We exchanged numbers. I bought the fans but couldn’t find anyone to put them up for me. My ex said he didn’t know how and I thought he did. Come think about it, he may still have been mad at me at that time over the divorce because he has since fixed other things at the house. Anyway, I called this dude up about a week later and asked him if he could install them for me. Big mistake and my last mistake in that department.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:37 am
Their….
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:38 am
leggs – you know home depot and lowes have the nerve to charge $99 for installation. highway robbery. lol. still I think I’m going to bite the bullet and pay it and be done with it. I need to make a spring home improvement list. I went out back recently (I hardly ever go out back) and my patio desperately needs pressure washing. generally I pay to have that done when I get the house pressure washed but I’m thinking I might have to pull out my little pressure washer. times like this I miss the offspring. lol.
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:39 am
Single & Happy I will gladly take that card and use it!!!
-Leggs In reference to your 10:33 you just know when enough is enough and you are lighter when you just let go.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:40 am
Ironically, Sheryl Lee Ralph is on the radio and speaking on the topic of friendship amongst women and not tearing each other apart… She also gave her definition of DIVA
Intersting indeed
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:41 am
-disco If you happen to find someone who will pressure wash the deck, please let me know. I already have a Home Improvement list but I’m not the one to be knocking down walls, LOL!
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
11:41 am
I’m having my handyman friend come install a new front door for me next week because I refuse to pay Home Depot an outrageous amount for installation. When my parents had their front door installed, I think it was a couple hundred dollars to do it!!!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:42 am
Yes ma’am, MissMoni!!!
disco
March 14th, 2013
11:42 am
leggs – I need new light fixtures/ceiling fans. I need to pressure wash my patio. I need new patio furniture. and I need a flunky, I mean male friend, to come take a recliner upstairs. I also need to swap out winter drapes.
C – I like Sheryl lee Ralph. I do get tired of all of the talk about us tearing one another down though. personally I don’t feel like another woman can tear me down. she can not like me, she can talk about me, she can do whatever but she can’t tear me down. ijs.
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:44 am
disco ~ a friend mine left her new earrings in my car last week. She asked if I could meet her at the station and give them to her. I told her I could definitely drive by, rolled the window down and throw them at her because I had places to be this evening. We both laughed because she knows it’s something I would do.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:46 am
you just know when enough is enough and you are lighter when you just let go.
Amen sister, amen. I think it’s healthy for every individual, male or female to cleanse. It’s just good for the soul. Sometimes a person may not be a good fit for your life, but that’s not to say they won’t be a good fit for someone else’s. For me, the sooner I learned this kind of stuff, the lighter and easier my walk.
Bluzgirl
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
disco – too bad you don’t live in Atlanta cause I’d hook you up with my friend!
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
disco ~ just got my termite infested door frame removed and a new one put on front and back door. Pressure washed house last year so don’t need doing that yet. I need a high, chocolate, beautiful looking kitchen table with 4 chairs. That’s all I need right about now. Wait, I need to clean out the other side of my garage. Not looking forward to that.
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:47 am
On something mentioned yesterday:
I was tickled coincidentally, at my boo last night mentioning a situation with one of his boy….stepping back to an old flame. Funny, like mentioned yesterday, ole girl had moved on…IN…THE…WIND! We both laughed cause his boy thought had or would always be positioned to just step back to ole girl like nothing. Boy, was he disappointed. Of course he shared that in private. When I see his boy this weekend (weather permitting, we’re participating in “deck dining”), I’m suppose to keep a straight face and pretend I’on know his ego was marred a bit.
Single and Happy
March 14th, 2013
11:48 am
So disco, how much should that cost?
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:49 am
disco – I like Sheryl lee Ralph. I do get tired of all of the talk about us tearing one another down though. personally I don’t feel like another woman can tear me down. she can not like me, she can talk about me, she can do whatever but she can’t tear me down
Most definitely…I agree Honey, I’m the “stick and stones, baby…sticks and stones” chick. Imma lose sleep over someone’s attempt to tear me down? Naaaah, not likely
Courtside Seats (With no PSL's added on!!!! )
March 14th, 2013
11:49 am
You ladies are paying folks to do pressure washing???? That might be the easiest thing in the world to do……
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:51 am
Bluz ~ I was thinking the same thing!
MissMoni
March 14th, 2013
11:51 am
-Celisea EXACTLY!!!
Durty Burd (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 14th, 2013
11:52 am
Good Afternoon!
I have a lot of acquaintances and special group of female and male friends who I hang-out and keep in regular contact thru out the course of the year. Also some of my relatives are my partners as well.
I think dude problem maybe the definition of what his current SO considers a friend. Your definition and her definition of a friend maybe totally different. If she hops everytime he calls then he is hitting it!
For all the ladies who need a handyman, I must warn if you allow durty in your house to lift, paint and repair, Durty will get be getting into those panties…..Natural sexual attraction will take place….
Celisea....light, breezy and easy 2013 :)
March 14th, 2013
11:53 am
I enjoyed listening to Sheryl Lee Ralph. Actually, I like listening to music while I work…it’s soothing
She’s promoting her book, “Redefining Diva”, I think she said is the title….
Oooh, she just quoted we are “perfectly imperfect”…I likey
Leggs
March 14th, 2013
11:53 am
Celisea ~ that shouldn’t be hard to. Everyone’s ego has been marred a bit in life.
What’s deck dining. You guys are jumping from deck to deck in the subdivision. You say you’re participating in deck dining like it’s a new sport (lololol).