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Men don’t play hard to get

After trying to decipher a guy’s behavior, Dawn was just given the reality check she needed: Men don’t usually play hard to get. If you have to do any kind of guessing, you probably should let him go. My guy friends have said the same to me, attraction drives the man’s behavior. It is not complicated because men are simple in that way.

Women often want to figure the men out and determine if they have a real interest in us. The actions should tell us all we need to know. Is he putting effort in? Is it to get to know us or get to know what we can do for him. There is a difference, right?

When it comes to pursuing what they want, men don’t play hard to get. What happens when a man wants to figure out if his attraction to a woman is something he wants to pursue? Should a woman give him time to figure it out if she think he is worthy of waiting?

How do you handle keeping your ego in check so things can progress?

BY Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Exiled

March 4th, 2013
7:29 am

He is just dealing with a stronger competing interest. Or finishing up some other business…

You have not told us if she has been stood up,he doesn’t call etc.

Not much to go by.

Hello sexxy MIA ladies!!

Cold in da Atl?

MissMoni

March 4th, 2013
8:39 am

GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!!

-Ex It’s COLD almost everywhere this morning!!!

Should a woman give him time to figure it out if she think he is worthy of waiting?
If she is really interested in him, then most likely she’ll wait a lil while. However, a person’s definition of waiting varies and the length of time definitely varies from person to person. How long does a man need to figure out whether or not he wants to date me? I believe that it does NOT take 6 months, heck it doesn’t even take 3 months. The same way you instantly know that you’re not interested, the same is true for being interested. Some people are just drawn to the drama of the situation. . .

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
9:05 am

Rare, but I would think some men in fact do play hard to get. All that matters is if you’re interested in him and his actions dictate he’s interested in you, there’s a playing field. If weeks or even months are going by and you’re still wondering if he’s interested, the answer is probably that he isn’t.

Good, good morning.

disco

March 4th, 2013
9:19 am

good morning.

leggs – thanks for going there. I, too, was thinking that some men do indeed play hard to get. it’s a little game they play. some of them do it to feed their own egos. it makes them feel more desirable or (ahem) more “playa playa”. the feel like they can then brag about someone sweating them or what have you.

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
9:33 am

Good morning,

I don’t think i have much to contribute to this topic other than, I don’t think it takes a man a super long time to know if he’s interested in you or not. If he does, maybe he doesn’t have that much going on, yet he likes the attention and he has to figure out if he even wants to try going down that road with you. (He may not be THAT into her for whatever reason) Could be he thinks ole girl could be trouble later, a class 5 clinger, not that cute, etc…

Single & Happy it was hard to get back to the cold reality

March 4th, 2013
9:37 am

When men want something they aren’t going to play hard to get. The one’s that do it to feed their ego, still don’t won’t the one that’s feeding it.

Hey MIA

Hello Disco :-D

Single & Happy it was hard to get back to the cold reality

March 4th, 2013
9:38 am

Hey leggs and slim :-D

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
9:48 am

Heyyyy Single ;-)

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
9:49 am

After trying to decipher a guy’s behavior, Dawn was just given the reality check she needed: Men don’t usually play hard to get. If you have to do any kind of guessing, you probably should let him go. My guy friends have said the same to me, attraction drives the man’s behavior. It is not complicated because men are simple in that way.

Cosign…..

Why do you need a reality check on a dude that ain’t being responsive?? It it don’t add up, well you already know.

Men play games, but hard to get ain’t often one I’ve seen played. If a man is playing hard to get, it’s cause some woman has given him that one up on her. I agree, men are simple and think different from women, still and even so, it’s not often you find one playing hard to get…playing games maybe but evasiveness for getting gotten, naaaaaah not likely. I’m feeling that rubber brick with Diva’s gf, in this regard….lol

Every woman knows if a man shows the slightest hint of interest, it’s sooo easy to dangle the carrot. Again, he’s gotta be interested now…lol Otherwise, if he’s not acting interested, nothing to figure out, he’s likely not. K.I.M., if that’s the case. Don’t be going around sweating someone that’s not reciprocating…IJS There are many ways to ego stroke your man, if that’s your thing, riding, begging, hoping, wishing, to name a few ain’t the way to go though….of course IMO

And the way to reeeeally know if a man is interested? Words and actions. Not shenanigans, not going through the motions long enough to get in, but words and actions. I agree there are ways that we’ll never figure about men and vice versa, but for both genders showing your interest will be evident, not rocket science, not a maze, not hopping through hoops.

abc

March 4th, 2013
9:59 am

Personally, I don’t play hard to get, I AM hard to get. Long gone are the days when any old chick will get my attention just because she tends to make my nostrils flare. It’s really a rather rare woman that gets any real attention or notice out of me.

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:00 am

disco (9:19) – thank you. My exact sentiments. Stroking their own egos by having the woman show their level of interest. We all do it, men and women alike, but women do have the corner market.

Morning, Single.

Exiled

March 4th, 2013
10:02 am

Riding and begging sounds scrumptious, hey real delicious … Celisea!! :lol:

Did u say that? :lol:

Girl ur weekend was fantab ha?

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:05 am

Only you MMeello…lol My weekend was fantab! Most definitely :mrgreen: I didn’t do much but it was great none the less.

I had a new count, an all time high of the naughty emails….66 total from Friday to yesterday. Still, each one (except a couple in between) right on the hour…7:01, 9:01, 11:01, so forth and so on. Think they think I’m playng hard to get?? lol

Button

March 4th, 2013
10:08 am

Good morning! I agree with Leggs, disco & Celisea’s last paragrah.

Men, better yet people are not hard to figure out when it comes to romance. If you’re in you will know it by actions. Yeah some men are cleaver in their doings but some are not. When a man loves/want/desire a woman better believe you will no, no questions or guessing needed.

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:09 am

I think someone is trying to be funny, frankly…lol

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:13 am

Celisea ~ I don’t think they think you’re playing hard to get (lololol), but they know you’re aren’t blocking the emails so they’re going to keep on coming.

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:14 am

you aren’t…

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:14 am

Leggs – As I mentioned last week, the emails are coming from ghost addys. The person doing is apparently good with IT. Too, in this round, there were three blog names mentioned. Sooo, I just wait until enough are accumulated and empty the trash…lol

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:16 am

In other words, I can’t block them. But I didn’t try cause I discovered some months back, they were coming from ghost addys.

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:18 am

Ut oh, I’m talking too much. They’re probably gonna trashy to a new level now….lol

Alright, it’s a new month and I have meetings this week, as well as a couple of forums my manager placed me on. That means, I need to prep and do stuff and work…

BBL…..

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:19 am

I hear ya, Celisea.

disco

March 4th, 2013
10:19 am

hey s/h. welcome back to the cold reality.

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:20 am

Ghost emails, can’t block, gotcha.

Robert

March 4th, 2013
10:20 am

“Should a woman give him time to figure it out if she think he is worthy of waiting?”

Ladies, I can only speak for myself. As a Man I know from the moment I see your “brick house body” (36-24-36) and my eyes meet your’s. I know what I want.

As a Woman you should take advantage of this mutual attraction. The best things in life require sacrifice and patience. Does he has what it takes to win your heart regardless of how much time it takes (30,60,90 days, etc.)? Never settle for less.

Exiled

March 4th, 2013
10:23 am

Cel…it must be your company IT folks if they coming on company mail.

But I would report it if it was company related.

It may actually be more serious and pose a risk to your company than it being personal as you think.

Report it.
If it’s one of your co worker IT guy doing that,how Lame can one get?

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:26 am

MMeello – It’s not, it’s my yahoo addy

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
10:27 am

Celisea – You don’t think you’re getting regular hacket type naughty emails? I get them all the time in my spam folder and they look like they are coming from different places and some even look like replies to an email I sent, which is not the case.

Button

March 4th, 2013
10:28 am

Celisea if you’re using outlook you can block the emails or send them directly to junk email. I think all email have a format where you can trash unwanted emails.

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:28 am

Not when the names SassyMe, Lily (remember Lily and someone accused me of being Lily) and another name are mentioned.

Exiled

March 4th, 2013
10:28 am

Cel..why u always have shadow chasers? U think u hard to get?

Lol

Maybe u are tantalizing but dudes are scared of u..no wonder they resort to cyber warfare?

Whatchu think?

Either way tho,those boys are Lil punks.. :lol:

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:29 am

Button – Trust me, if I could, I would.

disco

March 4th, 2013
10:29 am

re men playing hard to get, they play the same games women play. waiting X amount of time to call. not answering calls so as to not seem too available. I’ve even known folks (male and female) to pretend to have other stuff going on so that they can seem like a hot commodity. lol.

speaking of pretending, one friend (female) told me that once she created an entire imaginary boyfriend to make a guy jealous. she gave dude a fake name, background, the whole 9. when the dude she wanted called her she’d be like “I’m busy. me and “fake man” are going out tonight”. I laughed so hard when she told me that. she apparently kept the ruse up for quite some time but dude (real dude) eventually upped his game.

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:31 am

Mmello – It ain’t all in my head…trrrrust me on that. That’s just some bitter bobby…lolol It ain’t many either, it’s just one. You think it’s a coincident that someone (all the various names on here), takes beef with me? IJS

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:33 am

It ain’t who folks think it is either.

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:33 am

“Ladies, I can only speak for myself. As a Man I know from the moment I see your “brick house body” (36-24-36) and my eyes meet your’s. I know what I want.”

And, it doesn’t sound like you want a relationship…take your horny self to the corner, but don’t bother Blackfoote. He’s been in deep hibernation.

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:35 am

<em?from the moment I see your “brick house body” (36-24-36) and my eyes meet your’s. I know what I want.”

LOLOLOLOL….Lawd, pimp of the year…later folks!

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:36 am

Again,

from the moment I see your “brick house body” (36-24-36) and my eyes meet your’s. I know what I want.”

Rob get’s pimp of the year award…I just cracked up

Ok, off to work for real now

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:37 am

Never mind, Blackfoote is under the stairs.

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
10:39 am

Celisea – Well who from the blog did you p!ss off?? Let’s drum up a list and have our first blog Clue game :lol:

disco

March 4th, 2013
10:41 am

robert – I’m glad you know what you want. knowing is half the battle. lol. just because you see something you want doesn’t mean you have what it takes to get it. btw – that’s not directed at you personally, just a general statement.

slim – an anti-celisea list? do you really wanna go there this early on a Monday morning? lol. no offense C but you have ruffled more than a few feathers and I’m not even a long-timer.

Exiled

March 4th, 2013
10:42 am

I thought Robert was a ‘real’ church dude..

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:45 am

Slim – Why do or would I care? That’s the difference in me and you :mrgreen:

Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2013
10:46 am

Morning all!

Not much on the topic except this: if a man is playing hard to get, then that just means he just not that into you…

Hope everyone had a great weekend! I had a nice, relaxing one. Slept a LOT! This illness I had all last week really took it out of me this weekend…

Celisea

March 4th, 2013
10:46 am

disco – That’s funny. I’m still on the fence with you being a chick…lol You sure you ain’t that disgruntled dude masquerading?? lololol

Alright, I gotta run….y’all have yourselves a good one now :)

Leggs

March 4th, 2013
10:47 am

Ex, Robert is an undercover sexual defiant much like yourself. You’re on top with yours, he’s basically open with his, but also puts women down a lot.

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
10:49 am

Celisea – Actually i don’t care but we are all here discussing it so I figured why not make a game/joke out of it :roll:

disco

March 4th, 2013
10:54 am

slim – celisea might be gone although she forgot to say “toodles”. lol.

Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2013
10:55 am

One can only hope…

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
10:57 am

disco – It’s all good. I’m sure she’ll pop in a few more times before she actually leaves…toodles or not :lol:

SlimNu

March 4th, 2013
10:57 am

Bluz :lol: :lol: You alright chica?