Is dating making you broke?
Cody has been only been seeing Sabrina for a couple of weeks now and he already has to adjust his budget. Why? Apparently, Sabrina likes the finer things in life. Cody likes the fine Sabrina. Now he is doing way too much to pursue her. He feels that she is worth it. I don’t think any man should go to these kind of lengths to get a woman.
Eventually, she will find out he is strapped for cash. If this is the kind of thing that would be a deal breaker, he needs to know it sooner than later. Why would anyone want to go broke trying to date someone? I understand wanting to impress a person. I even get that men want to show that they can be a provider. Where do you draw the line, though?
Cody felt that Sabrina was out of his league from the moment he met her. Instead of letting her see him for who he is, he took the impress her with shiny things route. What happens if (when?) she gets distracted by the next man offering her more? Is he going to regret the money he invested in pursuing her?
I have met men like this before after they have been used by women who like to date men for sponsorship. They end up questioning the motives of every woman they meet after that. They also suddenly become a lot more selective about spending money on women to impress them.
What happens when you spend too much money dating? What kind of impact does that have? What is the most money you have spent on one date?
Do you think it is possible to date someone without blowing a lot of cash and still manage to impress them?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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182 comments Add your comment
kimmie
March 1st, 2013
2:35 pm
I never liked that saying
Button – I have always hated it too!!
Like they say when you graduate – you get all the “rights, priviledges therefore ascertained”!
So-called “pieces of paper”:
Diploma
College degrees
Licenses
Titles
Deeds
Certificates
Stocks
Bonds
Legal Tender(money)
Now you tell me all of those things don’t have major weight behind them other than being on a “piece of paper”?
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
2:38 pm
Pretty much, kimmie, but we’re on the outside looking in…it’s hard to walk away from someone you love. She may not be ready for another year or two.
Durty Bird (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 1st, 2013
2:42 pm
Dude must be paying all the bills, (he should dump her and get with button). She needs to keep it moving and find someone who can satisfy her financial and sexual wants.
@MisMoni.. What do you like to do for fun? I have some funds allocated for our dating this summer.
kimmie
March 1st, 2013
2:43 pm
Leggs – It’s one of the hardest things ever, especially as more time passes. I just don’t want her to miss out on the opportunity to have children easily and safely.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
2:47 pm
On point, kimmie.
SlimNu
March 1st, 2013
2:49 pm
Leggs – Not sure of a nice Asian spot ….what are his secondary tastes? lol
Robert
March 1st, 2013
2:56 pm
“Do you think it is possible to date someone without blowing a lot of cash and still manage to impress them? ”
From my experience women love to be treated with respect. For example I love when I take my woman out for dinner, drinks and dancing. She feels so confident that she does not have to worry about money. She usually leaves her pocket book at home. On Sunday’s, she will cook a good meal to show me her appreciation while we watch the game or a movie together.
Ladies I hope your man gives you confidence to know that he has your “back” regardless of how much money he has to spend.
Button
March 1st, 2013
2:56 pm
Durty – lol heck I don’t want him. He’s too infrequent for me. Plus he sounds like he eat canned goods.
Button
March 1st, 2013
2:58 pm
I’ll take Robert for 500 please! lol
kimmie
March 1st, 2013
3:03 pm
Plus he sounds like he eat canned goods.
LOL!!!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
3:06 pm
I’m checking SlimNu.
Durty Bird (Hawk's fans rise-up)
March 1st, 2013
3:14 pm
Future blog dates
Button and Robert
MsAtl and Courtside
MsMoni and Durty
There you go Button I am setting you up with Robert. Get out your dancing shoes.
Button
March 1st, 2013
3:17 pm
Durty – Robert seems to have it going on with his date. I like that. A man who is not hindered by a woman’s confidence and she returns the appreciation rightly so.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
3:22 pm
Thai food or Asian.
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
3:26 pm
Durty – there you go leaving me out again!
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
3:31 pm
Leggs – there’s a great Thai restaurant over here in Norcross, but that’s probably out of the way!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
3:32 pm
Leggs,
If he is feeling the Asian thing, Try AJA… Nice place moderate cost, really cool vibe….
http://atlanta.metromix.com/restaurants/asian/aja-restaurant-and-bar-atlanta/751748/content
One of my favorite places….
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
3:40 pm
“he sounds like he eat canned goods.”
I am sure this means something, But I have no fuggin’ idea what…….
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
3:41 pm
Thank you, Courtside. Appreciate it.
Button
March 1st, 2013
3:50 pm
Courtside – nothing good comes out of a can.
Gerald
March 1st, 2013
3:57 pm
You got to admit for men, it is cheaper to stay single, women are expensive these days. I’d rather spoil myself and people call me selfish with my life, dating kind of looks like prostitution with no guarantee of getting some in my opinion. I know there are good ladies out there but too many bad ones spoil it for the good ones, fact.
Button
March 1st, 2013
4:03 pm
Gerald – have a several seats __/
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
4:36 pm
Did everyone freeze over? I hear it’s very cold.
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
4:46 pm
I got really busy all of a sudden the last hour and a half! Only 15 more minutes to go!!!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
4:52 pm
Well, Bluz, it’s you and I. BTW, I left a msg for the electrician…thanks
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
4:55 pm
Awesome! I’ll text him also and tell him to take care of you!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
4:57 pm
Thanks.
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
4:57 pm
I guess I’m gonna sneak out of here a few minutes early. Have a great weekend, Leggs!!!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
4:59 pm
Well, I will be meeting up with my Friday might boyfriend this evening. We only see each other on Fridays and we’re both fine with that and have been fine for quite some time. However, I find myself getting somewhat tired of the arrangement and am working toward altering some things!
All things must change.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
4:59 pm
You too Bluz
Nite!!
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
5:02 pm
Freakin cold here in DC….wld have been nice if i had a lil thang snuggling with me… at the hotel
Good wkend evebody on MIA!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
5:03 pm
It’s not as cold here, but it’s freakin cold here too.